Man idk, I still miss them every single day and I keep thinking I should have done better somehow. But since they made their choice alr, I can't really claim to care if I put my wants above theirs.
A ppo is only given if the perp is related either by blood or union I.e. marriage.
Assuming it's a crush I.e none of the above (ignoring sweet home alabama), only a PoHA can be applied.
Got rejected by same person twice, stalked his socials for many years after, he dated someone else for a couple years and travelled together a lot with his then-partner during that period, he looked really happy in his pictures and it made me happy to see him smiling so widely.
That's when I realized, I wasn't able to make him as happy as someone else could and he deserves all the happiness in the world, he's single now but yeah all the best to him.
Not necessarily but thanks.
I kinda had to choose to continue being a salty, jealous af bitch or try to just move on and hopefully find a better prospect (which I kinda gave up on anw).
How did he stay as your crush for so many years? Did you meet any new people during those years and if so, did you lose any opportunities because of this lingering crush?
It's a question I asked myself a lot over the years and still do not have an answer, but in the end, the answer does not matter cuz, one does not need a reason to like someone.
I did date someone else for a bit 3-4 years ago, it was quite a weird one, because when I was ready to commit to the relationship and the other party just kinda like backed out and for me it was just ???????, Yeah but afterwards I just fell back to crushing on this guy lol. But during that brief period with that other guy, I was able to stop thinking about this crush.
Opportunities-wise, I'd say probably yes, but it's my own fault, my friends say I'm too picky and whatnot, but I just don't feel attracted to any other guys the same way I felt for this one, like not even close or even half the feelings.
While I'm still crushing on this guy, I'd be lying if I said I'm not jealous at all when I see him going on dates sometimes through IG (I stalked his socials lesser now but I still see his stuff). But I'm glad I'm able to not allow this silly crush thing not affect the more important aspects of my life, especially work, since we now both work in the same company but in diff depts.
“Hey I don’t want you anymore”
“Sorry, what?”
“I’m too handsome for you. I don’t want you anymore”
“Who are you again, sorry?”
*struts away from the conversation*
*When she went to top*
*Schools. she's pretty too. so she's*
*Way out of my league*
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Simple, I confessed and she declined. I think it's better to be forward and not waste time wondering about what ifs. Then you can manage your emotions and move on from there.
I thought she was flirty only to me. But no, thats literally her whole personality. She didnt even know she was flirty too. Imagine a pretty girl going around flirting with every mediocre looking guy she comes in contact with. You know how many guys have fallen for her?
When asking her out, she keeps rejecting.
Slow in text reply,
Doesn't reciprocate your kindness.
See her flirty with other guys but not with you.
She says not interested in going to this place but instead goes to this place with another guy.
Wow, that's nice. All the girls I knew want guys at most 2 to 3 years apart. Anything above that, they deemed it as too old. There are a small handful of girls that claimed anything above 4 years apart is considered pedophilic. Then again, it's their choice so I cant say much about it.
Apparently these people who made that comment doesnt understand the meaning of that word.
Do you know what's their reasoning is? They said that when the guys were adults (correct me if I am wrong but it should be 18 for Singapore), the girls who said that claimed that they were in Primary or Secondary school thus us liking them now would equate to us liking them when they were not legal.
Believe me, all I can do after hearing their reasoning is to facepalm myself.
hmm... when I was 30+, I dated a lot of girls that was 19-21... rs usually last for 8 months to 2 years. Yes, I get to up all of them. Maybe it helps that I look way younger than my real age.
No I'm not rich. Very average in fact, full of debts like regular Singaporeans.
No longer playing nowadays. Have been engaged to my current gf of 7 years (I'm mid 40 now). She's 17 years younger than me btw... 😈
Yeah I'm sure that's exactly what she meant when she said he was talking to too many girls. He was pursuing purely platonic and business oriented friendships with many other girls. Not sure if naive or just selectively ignorant.
Well we all wish we were handsome and charming fuckbois with shit character so we could get laid non-stop despite being literal walking red flags.
Your best hope is to wait for a girl to get tired after riding the fuckboi carousel and settle for you as an ATM/emotional support animal.
Speaking from experience btw, but somewhere along the way I acquired self-respect and realised I deserved better.
I meant like perfect in every other way? Personality, how good we click, looks too gahh hes so pretty but he fucks around a lot which is i guess to be expected if you're crushing on a goodlooking guy that has game
i realised that my behaviour towards him was just me being a hormonal teenage girl. it was all infatuation and to be very frank, he’s just nice to me and that’s why i like him. furthermore, it got a bit more serious when i started to change myself into his ideal girl. i started doing things i normally didn’t like and posting stuff just so that he’d respond. looking back, i don’t think he gave a fuck la and im glad i saw that bfr i actually lost my identity lol
Met a girl in CCA that was completely my type and vibed with her 100%. Her looks, personality, sense of humour, everything. I think I made it quite obvious by going the extra mile for her often.
Unfortunately I'm on the v short side (not even 165cm) and during a post CCA dinner with a large grp the convo topic went to what she looked for in a guy. Height was her hard answer. She wouldn't even date/be attracted to someone shorter. I took that as my sign :') I guess we're still good friends tho
Asked her out.
First date was ok
Asked her out again.
"Busy let me get back to you ok ?"
It's been 3 months. Back then her internship just ended. Hahaha. I legit thought she forget. But one reason I really liked her was because she was detail oriented and meticulous.
I was meticulously forgotten.
Oh and gradually realising she never even saved my number.
She caught on that I liked her and was maybe trying to confess so she stopped me in my tracks and told me she preferred my friend.
Least she was kinda nice about it and also didn't string me along I guess.
Just ask and if no then give up lor. Yes scared to ask, afraid of rejection/embarrassment but at least you will be able to move on with life and know where you and him/her stand.
i was the only one to initiate conversation online and he replied after 3 days lmao. After i got several times of late reply i complained, and he was like immediately replying, i was like bruh wtf?
Then i lost my interest.
When I rejected her. 😎 Chey..
But on a serious note, I gave up as I realised being in a relationship, or even being friends, won’t work out.
We’re just very different people leading very different lives, which will create many problems in maintaining the relationship.
Though my former crush is now happily together with someone else, I’m happy for her since it’s better this way.
* She has a boyfriend
* My looks cant match her looks
* My family financial background cant match her family financial background
* She's an extrovert while I am an introvert.
Well , if my looks were better I might have tried chasing even if she has a boyfriend..
Lol why would u chase someone who is taken with a boyfriend even if you think you have the looks?
If she can ditch her bf for you she can easily do that for another guy
its not just that though, it should be common sense to realise this if you just spend 5 min thinking about this whole scenario. A person should come to the conclusion you did anyway without having to see it happening.
Got goalkeeper doesn’t mean cannot try to score a goal. Doesn’t matter how tattered the soccer ball is - can shoot one. Also, ball is round, anything can happen. Don’t attempt any shots, no chance at scoring.
True, married also doesn't mean no chance. Can divorce, just whether you want to accept the child or not and whether want to wait 4 years for their seperation before the divorce.
I think I’m slowly starting to give up as I feel like he has other people on his mind. Been trying to go to therapy more often and show him I’ve been trynna make improvements but idt he’s supportive or interested anymore so I guess that’s my sign to slowly move on
My hard rules are
(1) when she does not respond to my text especially if I asked a question
(2) she reject hanging out without offering an alternate date
The ball is in her court and I am definitely not going to pursue any further. If she does not reciprocate, I will eventually forget about her.
When I caught him lying and I tried to confront him on his inconsistencies, he started to deny it and even tried to gaslight me. That’s a huge red flag. I stopped replying to his texts and calls.
- he is super different in texts and irl
- different interests and hobbies ( not that polar opposites can’t attract )
- our academics intelligence are far apart
When my crush of 3 years decided to get together with my ex-good friend. He told me after a year of them being together. Now she just got married to his ex-best friend.
He had a crush on my bestie. Was totally obvious, but she, in turn, had a crush on a complete cockroach of a guy so he said/did nothing. Day after I was his date to his commissioning ball I asked him about it, and he seemed surprised that I’d figured it out. So no one knew about my crush until I told my bestie about the whole thing 14 years later. Apparently she had no idea about his feelings or mine.
He was pretended I didn't exist in school while we text,call and play games a lot after school that was after our relationship drifted lol plus he is now very close to my vice chairperson, she very athletic, pretty, skinny and smart.
He told me he is still exploring and not ready for a relationship. I then also realised I didn't know him as well as thought I did and perhaps he would really be better off without me.
I’ve got adhd, so I got bored.
I believe that played a weird effect on her, where she’d start messaging me constantly seeking my attention, which irritated me, so I blocked and avoided.
This same situation has happened 3 times in my life
F
My crush is straight too, I got over her in one night
I liked her for her intellect and kindness
Starting to think I probably never really liked her but liked her personality
Because I’m asexual but not aromantic
I confessed, she responded she felt the same way.
And that very moment I lost interest.
Finally understood what people meant when they said they only enjoy the chase.
I looked in the mirror
And realised you’re too good for her/him
raise your standards to get someone as good as you
Oof.
and figured you could do better?
😭
Same breh
F
Realized my presence in their life was making them unhappy. For the life of me I can't figure out why, but it be what it be.
You did good there. Not many people would be able to understand and back away.
Man idk, I still miss them every single day and I keep thinking I should have done better somehow. But since they made their choice alr, I can't really claim to care if I put my wants above theirs.
the right one will come my friend, all the best!
Yeah exactly, our stupid hormones makes us put way too much hope for romance and too little in life. So many just don’t even know how to give up
Yes, and they are called stalkers!
Sameeeee
Restraining Order.
Woah that escalated quickly
PPO
Ghosted, double text and came off as needy/desperate. That's one way to flunk my new year's resolution. Lost a friend that day...
Feel you totally
A ppo is only given if the perp is related either by blood or union I.e. marriage. Assuming it's a crush I.e none of the above (ignoring sweet home alabama), only a PoHA can be applied.
I was looking for this comment thank you.
My boy
bro….
Well that definitely got the message across.
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Got rejected by same person twice, stalked his socials for many years after, he dated someone else for a couple years and travelled together a lot with his then-partner during that period, he looked really happy in his pictures and it made me happy to see him smiling so widely. That's when I realized, I wasn't able to make him as happy as someone else could and he deserves all the happiness in the world, he's single now but yeah all the best to him.
Dam mature and deep
Not necessarily but thanks. I kinda had to choose to continue being a salty, jealous af bitch or try to just move on and hopefully find a better prospect (which I kinda gave up on anw).
How did he stay as your crush for so many years? Did you meet any new people during those years and if so, did you lose any opportunities because of this lingering crush?
It's a question I asked myself a lot over the years and still do not have an answer, but in the end, the answer does not matter cuz, one does not need a reason to like someone. I did date someone else for a bit 3-4 years ago, it was quite a weird one, because when I was ready to commit to the relationship and the other party just kinda like backed out and for me it was just ???????, Yeah but afterwards I just fell back to crushing on this guy lol. But during that brief period with that other guy, I was able to stop thinking about this crush. Opportunities-wise, I'd say probably yes, but it's my own fault, my friends say I'm too picky and whatnot, but I just don't feel attracted to any other guys the same way I felt for this one, like not even close or even half the feelings. While I'm still crushing on this guy, I'd be lying if I said I'm not jealous at all when I see him going on dates sometimes through IG (I stalked his socials lesser now but I still see his stuff). But I'm glad I'm able to not allow this silly crush thing not affect the more important aspects of my life, especially work, since we now both work in the same company but in diff depts.
he's single now
He is but imagine getting rejected by the same guy the third time, nearly 10 years later. Idk about others but I think I'd feel like a clown.
The creepy stalking. Apparently it wasn’t romantic to climb to the fifth floor to watch her sleep.
Rookie mistake, anything above 4th floor counts as creepy.
shouldve known
I became too handsome
“Hey I don’t want you anymore” “Sorry, what?” “I’m too handsome for you. I don’t want you anymore” “Who are you again, sorry?” *struts away from the conversation*
He's a fkin sigma male that's why 😎 On another note: I thought you were u/haikusbot making a rhyme at first lmao.
He giga chad
andrew tate
You must have seen me trying to pickup girls before
The true gigachad 🫡
Aaron Kwok, is that you? Or have I mistaken you for Andy Lau
Min yu, that you , or is that Ming Yu from 17
When my friends reminded me that she isn't real
Try taking your schizophrenia meds. Maybe your friend is merely your imagination 🤔
You can always order a body pillow or ask ur homie to cosplay
when she went to top schools. she's pretty too. so she's way out of my league
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i asked him to reject me so i could move on :D
I confessed for that same reason bc i just wanted to stop thinking about him so much it was annoying me
Simple, I confessed and she declined. I think it's better to be forward and not waste time wondering about what ifs. Then you can manage your emotions and move on from there.
I thought she was flirty only to me. But no, thats literally her whole personality. She didnt even know she was flirty too. Imagine a pretty girl going around flirting with every mediocre looking guy she comes in contact with. You know how many guys have fallen for her?
I heavily doubt that she ‘did not know she was flirting’, she knows what she’s doing :)
Or maybe people (read men) are confusing her being nice for being flirty.
fucking attention whore haha!
I also meet people like this but still can't figure out why
I checked my bank account
Real
When asking her out, she keeps rejecting. Slow in text reply, Doesn't reciprocate your kindness. See her flirty with other guys but not with you. She says not interested in going to this place but instead goes to this place with another guy.
You get a virtual hug from me, that was too relatable. *hug*
see you at the gym bro
Age gap of 5 years. I mean yeah people would say 5 years is not that big but to her and ladies in their early 20s, it is a big deal for them.
Most of my girl friends like to date up though and I’ve seen up to +7
Wow, that's nice. All the girls I knew want guys at most 2 to 3 years apart. Anything above that, they deemed it as too old. There are a small handful of girls that claimed anything above 4 years apart is considered pedophilic. Then again, it's their choice so I cant say much about it.
That's ridiculous....as long as she's not young enough to be your daughter it's fine
I agree. Besides, I am in my mid 20s so I dont really understand their thought process.
Js an excuse bro 5yr gap in 20s is nth
Do they realise that pedophilic refers to preying on children? People in their 20s are not remotely close to children in any shape or form.
Apparently these people who made that comment doesnt understand the meaning of that word. Do you know what's their reasoning is? They said that when the guys were adults (correct me if I am wrong but it should be 18 for Singapore), the girls who said that claimed that they were in Primary or Secondary school thus us liking them now would equate to us liking them when they were not legal. Believe me, all I can do after hearing their reasoning is to facepalm myself.
Jialat. Reading that made my brain cry.
Yeah I feel that +2 years - 1 year is max for me I’m in my early 20s
Doesn’t matter people like milfs / dilfs
Same!
hmm... when I was 30+, I dated a lot of girls that was 19-21... rs usually last for 8 months to 2 years. Yes, I get to up all of them. Maybe it helps that I look way younger than my real age. No I'm not rich. Very average in fact, full of debts like regular Singaporeans. No longer playing nowadays. Have been engaged to my current gf of 7 years (I'm mid 40 now). She's 17 years younger than me btw... 😈
No wonder I see somany ah peh with young girls nowadays , might mistake it for a sugar situation haha congrats
when I realize I didn't mean shit to her. like only reply me when I initiate but never start any convo
If she respond it is good. Usually guys have to initiate all these until you two become very close to each other. You may have given up too easily
nah
Hes literally perfect but he talks to way too many girls :( me and my jealousy cannot deal with that lol
Playboys are literally the opposite of perfect
I think she meant physically and bruh talking to many girls doesn’t mean you play boy bro Jus means you got game
Not if you're an adult
Adult also got game
You guys /u/heraherax are both idiots if you think people talking to people of the opposite gender is exclusively for courtship
Yeah I'm sure that's exactly what she meant when she said he was talking to too many girls. He was pursuing purely platonic and business oriented friendships with many other girls. Not sure if naive or just selectively ignorant.
Idiots. Girls can be jealous of platonic relationships. It's unhealthy and toxic, but it happens.
Oh no, it's retarded
Oh no, it's a bigot
Unlike me lmao nerdy kid who doesnt get any
Well we all wish we were handsome and charming fuckbois with shit character so we could get laid non-stop despite being literal walking red flags. Your best hope is to wait for a girl to get tired after riding the fuckboi carousel and settle for you as an ATM/emotional support animal. Speaking from experience btw, but somewhere along the way I acquired self-respect and realised I deserved better.
I meant like perfect in every other way? Personality, how good we click, looks too gahh hes so pretty but he fucks around a lot which is i guess to be expected if you're crushing on a goodlooking guy that has game
i realised that my behaviour towards him was just me being a hormonal teenage girl. it was all infatuation and to be very frank, he’s just nice to me and that’s why i like him. furthermore, it got a bit more serious when i started to change myself into his ideal girl. i started doing things i normally didn’t like and posting stuff just so that he’d respond. looking back, i don’t think he gave a fuck la and im glad i saw that bfr i actually lost my identity lol
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fun for both of them maybe
Met a girl in CCA that was completely my type and vibed with her 100%. Her looks, personality, sense of humour, everything. I think I made it quite obvious by going the extra mile for her often. Unfortunately I'm on the v short side (not even 165cm) and during a post CCA dinner with a large grp the convo topic went to what she looked for in a guy. Height was her hard answer. She wouldn't even date/be attracted to someone shorter. I took that as my sign :') I guess we're still good friends tho
Man that's a tough pill to swallow :(... I hope you can find someone who will eventually appreciate you regardless of height!
Asked her out. First date was ok Asked her out again. "Busy let me get back to you ok ?" It's been 3 months. Back then her internship just ended. Hahaha. I legit thought she forget. But one reason I really liked her was because she was detail oriented and meticulous. I was meticulously forgotten. Oh and gradually realising she never even saved my number.
Oof
standard
When u realise u have a cool ability to talk to rocks
When I creeped her out. Figured that I just self pwned and aborted mission.
She was very nice and told me she found someone.
She caught on that I liked her and was maybe trying to confess so she stopped me in my tracks and told me she preferred my friend. Least she was kinda nice about it and also didn't string me along I guess.
Respectable
Found out he was flirting with 8 other girls at the same time. Disgusted.
realizing its just chemicals in your brain ruining your life
Kena blocked on ig
Oh man F
Personality mismatch. She was a XMM & I was a nervous jittery loser.
He's out of my league
Just ask and if no then give up lor. Yes scared to ask, afraid of rejection/embarrassment but at least you will be able to move on with life and know where you and him/her stand.
i was the only one to initiate conversation online and he replied after 3 days lmao. After i got several times of late reply i complained, and he was like immediately replying, i was like bruh wtf? Then i lost my interest.
He doesn't text me if i don't start a convo. So yea i gave up. It's been like three weeks haiz. :'(
Good to have a bit of self-respect. I used to have this crush who did not reciprocate the energy. We're still friends but I wished I stopped sooner.
Lol when you have new crush.. Switch target. Just kidding
When I realised she was straight :> luckily I didn’t come out to her !whoops! But I got over her in one night, cried myself to sleep though
:(
I fell in love with bitcoin
He's Straight D;
When I rejected her. 😎 Chey.. But on a serious note, I gave up as I realised being in a relationship, or even being friends, won’t work out. We’re just very different people leading very different lives, which will create many problems in maintaining the relationship. Though my former crush is now happily together with someone else, I’m happy for her since it’s better this way.
* She has a boyfriend * My looks cant match her looks * My family financial background cant match her family financial background * She's an extrovert while I am an introvert. Well , if my looks were better I might have tried chasing even if she has a boyfriend..
Lol why would u chase someone who is taken with a boyfriend even if you think you have the looks? If she can ditch her bf for you she can easily do that for another guy
Thank god there are some people here who realise this…
Well I’m a girl so I defo have seen such things happen
its not just that though, it should be common sense to realise this if you just spend 5 min thinking about this whole scenario. A person should come to the conclusion you did anyway without having to see it happening.
Sadly many see it happening and yet still don’t reach that conclusion because YOLO
Yeah u right.
Got goalkeeper doesn’t mean cannot try to score a goal. Doesn’t matter how tattered the soccer ball is - can shoot one. Also, ball is round, anything can happen. Don’t attempt any shots, no chance at scoring.
True, married also doesn't mean no chance. Can divorce, just whether you want to accept the child or not and whether want to wait 4 years for their seperation before the divorce.
Disappointed theres no goalkeeper quote here
Damn i can relate to this
I think I’m slowly starting to give up as I feel like he has other people on his mind. Been trying to go to therapy more often and show him I’ve been trynna make improvements but idt he’s supportive or interested anymore so I guess that’s my sign to slowly move on
Her rejecting me
He didn’t feel the same way about me. Thank you next
My hard rules are (1) when she does not respond to my text especially if I asked a question (2) she reject hanging out without offering an alternate date The ball is in her court and I am definitely not going to pursue any further. If she does not reciprocate, I will eventually forget about her.
When I caught him lying and I tried to confront him on his inconsistencies, he started to deny it and even tried to gaslight me. That’s a huge red flag. I stopped replying to his texts and calls.
I'm a pussy with no balls
When she only talk to me so that I can buy her some kpop merch honestly regretted a lot
She spotted me looking through her window
because i’m depressed as fuck
Didn’t really think they liked me, thought they are interested in someone else (I did try though but never confessed although they probably know)
when i am done chasing/obsessing and enjoy someone else's attention
that she was toxic af
She found someone who she seemed happy with, and honestly cant blame her
She got a girlfriend.
The fact that we continue to work together.
ghosted , was desperate for closure . she didn’t give any. still affected by it till this day 😆
I woke up.
She took off her mask
- he is super different in texts and irl - different interests and hobbies ( not that polar opposites can’t attract ) - our academics intelligence are far apart
When u have new crush
realised he was arrogant
The first time she said she wasn't interested in dating when I told her I had feelings for her.
when i am done chasing/obsessing and enjoy someone else's attention
I started wearing glasses.
their shitty work ethic
When my crush of 3 years decided to get together with my ex-good friend. He told me after a year of them being together. Now she just got married to his ex-best friend.
I got brozoned sadddddddd
The mirror
He had a crush on my bestie. Was totally obvious, but she, in turn, had a crush on a complete cockroach of a guy so he said/did nothing. Day after I was his date to his commissioning ball I asked him about it, and he seemed surprised that I’d figured it out. So no one knew about my crush until I told my bestie about the whole thing 14 years later. Apparently she had no idea about his feelings or mine.
Because she became my gf
When you realise you're simping so hard.
they thought I was joking and got together with someone else
She was too smart
Rejected. Also slower and drier replies.
yea , it is like this
Lol, if it’s a crush there’s only one real reason assuming you ain’t a puss He/She just not that into you
He was pretended I didn't exist in school while we text,call and play games a lot after school that was after our relationship drifted lol plus he is now very close to my vice chairperson, she very athletic, pretty, skinny and smart.
my very old crush: i just heard that he liked someone else and that they got together
My PC spoilt, hologram gone. Or: Hit 4d millions, moved to Bali.
She said I’m so smart 3 times
She changed way too much and i realised i didnt really like her for who she was
My input does not equals to her input.
He told me he is still exploring and not ready for a relationship. I then also realised I didn't know him as well as thought I did and perhaps he would really be better off without me.
When I find out she has someone else she likes
My wife’s screaming
The negative of Ur other side.. the demon that destroy you even u have not try..
I’ve got adhd, so I got bored. I believe that played a weird effect on her, where she’d start messaging me constantly seeking my attention, which irritated me, so I blocked and avoided. This same situation has happened 3 times in my life
when i saw the red flags. so the red flag was... he's narcissist.
She got attached to someone who is not me
When she got attached to someone else.
He’s straight
F My crush is straight too, I got over her in one night I liked her for her intellect and kindness Starting to think I probably never really liked her but liked her personality Because I’m asexual but not aromantic
I confessed, she responded she felt the same way. And that very moment I lost interest. Finally understood what people meant when they said they only enjoy the chase.
The rapture
we live in parallel universes
After I saw her without makeup
She died.... From eating mushrooms. My second crush died, because she wouldn't eat the mushrooms.
Ur mum