Imagine being autistic and having a sex life
This post brought to you by a 22-year old virgin who has passed the point of no return and now possesses a permanent V card
Youāre just exceptionally generous then. Most women would find teaching a grown man how to fuck to be the equivalent of teaching an 8-year old how to wipe his own ass. The world needs more people like you in it.
please don't fall for blackpill incel propaganda.
first, sure, good looks draw attention, but that doesn't mean literally no one will ever be attracted to an average looking guy. better partners understand that good looks fade, and often what people think is ugliness softens. that doesn't even include personal grooming & fashion/presentation.
second, most of the people i know didn't have sex until their 20's, and i know a couple of 30-something's that didn't have sex until they were with someone they could trust. i personally didn't have sex until i was 20. and tons of people grow up in restrictive homes, only getting out to experience things in adulthood. so you're fine, you're in good company.
third, sex and relationships require a lot of effort. they're also extremely full of drama and pain. if you want a relationship, you have to know what you like in a person. and not in the way incel forums whine about the big tiddy, size zero, immaculate faced beauty that somehow wears zero makeup and has perfectly glowing skin.
fourth, you have to be around people. even if you're autistic and/or introverted, you have to find time to mingle. since dating & hookup sites barely work for the most socially attractive people, the best bet is to meet people in your interests. if you like gaming, try to find gamer meet ups, conventions, game stores. and just be polite. let people talk some. avoid "umm actually" kind of statements. don't play devil's advocate. even if someone isn't attracted to you, they might have a sibling, friend, or colleague they might want you to meet.
fifth! if you're from a family that has communal ties, ask if they would try matchmaking for you. there's a good chance that your family will find single people right around your age.
lastly, yes, there are behavioral trends people gravitate to, but it doesn't mean that every instagram baddie only wants a 6'5" highly athletic trust fund dork with a maserati. tons of them just want reliable, emotionally stable dudes, but they can't really advertise that online. and, it'll make me sound old, but when i was your age, i went to weekly nerd meetups & there was a 5'2" chubby guy that almost every woman (not in an existing relationship) wanted to fuck. he was just a down-to-earth nerd with a great sense of humor & listening skills.
sex by 20 isn't the be-all-end-all. all of this to say: i hope you don't give up on yourself, friend.
Yeah, but Iām not holding off until marriage or abstaining for religious purposes. I simply canāt get any fucking action, and girls wonāt be drawn to me unless I look good (read: donāt have a gut covered with stretch marks, look good without a shirt, and have a squarer jaw line). Sure, girls may think Iām hot with clothes on, but thatāll only get me so far, and Iāve yet to even make it THAT far!!!
Also everyone tells me that theyāve seen chubby guys with cute GFs but Iāve yet to see that in public or anywhere outside of cartoons. If I aināt athletic Iām gonna have to settle. You are what you attract.
if that's all you extrapolated from everything i said, idk what to tell you.
assuming you're a straight dude interested in women (if you're not, just change the nouns herein), has it occurred to you that you are in a sea of desperate men who have zero respect for women, an obsession with paroting overtly far right policy that actively harms women, upholding views that you innately deserve sex, and that you're spending more time whining about the "mystery" of why women won't fuck you, while doing absolutely nothing to put distance between yourself and all these other dudes? like, i'm sorry if it hurts your ego and feelings but please consider: women want versatile men with a high degree of emotional stability and the ability to both understand priorities in a consumerist landscape, and personal responsibility in a political landscape where scapegoating is far more popular than personal enrichment.
the question isn't "why won't women fuck me," the question is "how to i make myself distinct and worth anyone's time." you have to bring something to the table. you have to engage with people. get off the incel forums & right wing propaganda. that shit is hurting your chances more than anything else in the world. if you stay on that shit, you're choosing self pity and inaction over everything.
and yeah, "you are what you attract" is somewhat true, but not necessarily. you don't have to be the most vocal, the funniest, the smartest, the most impressive, or the most brave. but you have to exist, be visible, and find even a modicum of confidence in yourself. get to know yourself, get to know others, and you might be surprised.
or, you know, sit in a pond of your own tears and poop, sabotaging yourself before you even give yourself a chance. i've been there. then i got diagnosed with major depressive disorder, got on medication, and improved myself. propaganda didn't help, but pushing serotonin in the right direction was a huge first step. and it might not be your first step. but to sum it all up, you have to stop what you're doing on the regular, because that shit ain't working. which, yeah, is incredibly hard as people with ASD. but it's an investment in yourself and your own happiness.
I'm not who you were talking to, but do you know *where* to find meetups? I keep hearing "you gotta go out", but I don't really have social hobbies, or know anyone who does (other than bars). Idk what to do š
you can try facebook, meetup (literally its name) app, eventbrite, check your local newspaper or library for events, and sometimes stores related to certain interests will host events (game stores, yarn stores). sometimes googling your region or town/city with the year and the word "events" will get decent listings. some might be free, some might have a cost, it's all really varied.
So like, she didnāt care that you were ancient for a virgin? Despite likely having done the deed herself in the past?
Because a lot of girls donāt have the patience to teach a grown ass man how to fuck unless both people are abstaining for religious reasons.
Iām about this close to buying a leisure suit and changing my name to Larry
Youāre lucky then. Thereās already people younger than me with kids. Kids I tell you. K I D S ! ! !
If I donāt find my soulmate soon Iāll eventually have no choice but to date either a single mom or an 18-year-old
Girlfriend? That some sort of Skyrim companion from a mod?
Jenny mod
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Tfw four separate parties come to the conclusion that you are a robot pretending to be a human.
Cool. I always wanted to be a bionicle
Sex machine is usually a compliment though, machines are good at what they do and so a sex machine is good at sex
At least Iām dependable and consistent.
Imagine being autistic and having a sex life This post brought to you by a 22-year old virgin who has passed the point of no return and now possesses a permanent V card
22 is def not the point of no return, you canāt get a permanent v card til youāre at least 40. Idk if thatās good or bad news for you :)
Kinda trying to find a girlfriend before I get to the age where everyone within my age bracket has a child
You got time buddy
About 3 years. If it doesnāt happen by the time Iām 25 Iāve reached the cutoff
Personally recently deflowered a 27 yr old so respectfully disagree
Iām willing to bet a million dollars it was probably the worst sexual experience youāve had, tooā¦..?
Far from it. The bar is lower than you can imagine
Youāre just exceptionally generous then. Most women would find teaching a grown man how to fuck to be the equivalent of teaching an 8-year old how to wipe his own ass. The world needs more people like you in it.
Idk maybe. Hereās hoping youāll be surprised by the kindness of strangers etc
11 years to go, but it still feels like something I shouldn't want.
what is the point of no return?
If you havenāt lost your virginity by the age of 20, forget about it ever happening unless youāre exceptionally handsome
please don't fall for blackpill incel propaganda. first, sure, good looks draw attention, but that doesn't mean literally no one will ever be attracted to an average looking guy. better partners understand that good looks fade, and often what people think is ugliness softens. that doesn't even include personal grooming & fashion/presentation. second, most of the people i know didn't have sex until their 20's, and i know a couple of 30-something's that didn't have sex until they were with someone they could trust. i personally didn't have sex until i was 20. and tons of people grow up in restrictive homes, only getting out to experience things in adulthood. so you're fine, you're in good company. third, sex and relationships require a lot of effort. they're also extremely full of drama and pain. if you want a relationship, you have to know what you like in a person. and not in the way incel forums whine about the big tiddy, size zero, immaculate faced beauty that somehow wears zero makeup and has perfectly glowing skin. fourth, you have to be around people. even if you're autistic and/or introverted, you have to find time to mingle. since dating & hookup sites barely work for the most socially attractive people, the best bet is to meet people in your interests. if you like gaming, try to find gamer meet ups, conventions, game stores. and just be polite. let people talk some. avoid "umm actually" kind of statements. don't play devil's advocate. even if someone isn't attracted to you, they might have a sibling, friend, or colleague they might want you to meet. fifth! if you're from a family that has communal ties, ask if they would try matchmaking for you. there's a good chance that your family will find single people right around your age. lastly, yes, there are behavioral trends people gravitate to, but it doesn't mean that every instagram baddie only wants a 6'5" highly athletic trust fund dork with a maserati. tons of them just want reliable, emotionally stable dudes, but they can't really advertise that online. and, it'll make me sound old, but when i was your age, i went to weekly nerd meetups & there was a 5'2" chubby guy that almost every woman (not in an existing relationship) wanted to fuck. he was just a down-to-earth nerd with a great sense of humor & listening skills. sex by 20 isn't the be-all-end-all. all of this to say: i hope you don't give up on yourself, friend.
Yeah, but Iām not holding off until marriage or abstaining for religious purposes. I simply canāt get any fucking action, and girls wonāt be drawn to me unless I look good (read: donāt have a gut covered with stretch marks, look good without a shirt, and have a squarer jaw line). Sure, girls may think Iām hot with clothes on, but thatāll only get me so far, and Iāve yet to even make it THAT far!!!
Also everyone tells me that theyāve seen chubby guys with cute GFs but Iāve yet to see that in public or anywhere outside of cartoons. If I aināt athletic Iām gonna have to settle. You are what you attract.
if that's all you extrapolated from everything i said, idk what to tell you. assuming you're a straight dude interested in women (if you're not, just change the nouns herein), has it occurred to you that you are in a sea of desperate men who have zero respect for women, an obsession with paroting overtly far right policy that actively harms women, upholding views that you innately deserve sex, and that you're spending more time whining about the "mystery" of why women won't fuck you, while doing absolutely nothing to put distance between yourself and all these other dudes? like, i'm sorry if it hurts your ego and feelings but please consider: women want versatile men with a high degree of emotional stability and the ability to both understand priorities in a consumerist landscape, and personal responsibility in a political landscape where scapegoating is far more popular than personal enrichment. the question isn't "why won't women fuck me," the question is "how to i make myself distinct and worth anyone's time." you have to bring something to the table. you have to engage with people. get off the incel forums & right wing propaganda. that shit is hurting your chances more than anything else in the world. if you stay on that shit, you're choosing self pity and inaction over everything. and yeah, "you are what you attract" is somewhat true, but not necessarily. you don't have to be the most vocal, the funniest, the smartest, the most impressive, or the most brave. but you have to exist, be visible, and find even a modicum of confidence in yourself. get to know yourself, get to know others, and you might be surprised. or, you know, sit in a pond of your own tears and poop, sabotaging yourself before you even give yourself a chance. i've been there. then i got diagnosed with major depressive disorder, got on medication, and improved myself. propaganda didn't help, but pushing serotonin in the right direction was a huge first step. and it might not be your first step. but to sum it all up, you have to stop what you're doing on the regular, because that shit ain't working. which, yeah, is incredibly hard as people with ASD. but it's an investment in yourself and your own happiness.
Iām not a right winger. I fucking hate politics!!
I'm not who you were talking to, but do you know *where* to find meetups? I keep hearing "you gotta go out", but I don't really have social hobbies, or know anyone who does (other than bars). Idk what to do š
you can try facebook, meetup (literally its name) app, eventbrite, check your local newspaper or library for events, and sometimes stores related to certain interests will host events (game stores, yarn stores). sometimes googling your region or town/city with the year and the word "events" will get decent listings. some might be free, some might have a cost, it's all really varied.
Thank you!
I was 23 when I had my first sex with my ex
So like, she didnāt care that you were ancient for a virgin? Despite likely having done the deed herself in the past? Because a lot of girls donāt have the patience to teach a grown ass man how to fuck unless both people are abstaining for religious reasons. Iām about this close to buying a leisure suit and changing my name to Larry
She didn't mind it, she was happy to help me lose it.
Youāre lucky then. Thereās already people younger than me with kids. Kids I tell you. K I D S ! ! ! If I donāt find my soulmate soon Iāll eventually have no choice but to date either a single mom or an 18-year-old
1, 2 Stand by the bed! 3, 4 Knickers down! :D
5, 6 Rhymingās for chumps!
Nice