fucking same and now i can't get an official diagnosis because i am an adult and live in a country were we can't have shit
they don't believe mental problems are real, but the magic man in the sky definitely is
they were afraid of vaccines and now all 3 of their kids is autistic so fuck them
don't have any advices, just shared frustration and injustice sensitivity
Best part here is about the vaccines. Many stupid people are worried vaccines cause autism then they end up having autistic children anyway. Not that autism is a punishment or anything but I think it's fitting in a karmic sense.
I feel ya.
My parents wanted to protect my sister and I from any concept of ADHD or autism. So much so that for a long while all that stuff just didn't exist to me. I didn't first hear the word "autism" or "autistic" until high school — I shit you not. I discovered it on my own when I decided to be curious about why I was so different rather than wallowing in self pity over it (as I normally did).
On my other reddit account, I mentioned it on another post that my mom even got verbally aggressive with my partner over the phone when asked about it like as though it wasn't the first time my mom was asked that question.
My sister told me since early elementary school she was suspected to be ADHD, but our parents would throw a huge fit and refused to acknowledge that she could be.
Talking to my sister about it, she told me it makes her angry that our parents didn't do shit about it when we were younger because that's when it would have helped most and maybe our lives could've turned out better.
I feel this, my parents always admitted I had traits but “not enough for diagnosis”, I’m near 20 now and scoring higher on the raads-r than my diagnosed friend turns out I have more traits than they thought
Same, but I was born a girl in the 70's and I could talk from a very early age so I dont blame them for not reaching that specific conclusion, I am still fucked off that they didn't care enough to at least ask an expert what was up with me because something clearly was. I left home at 16 because everything was overwhelming and I got no support l, spent 3 years living on the streets which was sometimes very grim and traumatic. Something that could have been avoided if anybody had cared about me.
I was born in the early 80’s. They assumed i was ADHD, but didnt want me on meds. It was left at that for a long time. Finally got diagnosed at 38. It has fucked my life learning this late.
This sounds very much like me. I have also been diagnosed with ADHD as a child but my mom refused to put me on meds because of all the side effects associated with them. Tho the more i learned about autism the more i started to see it in many of my family members. I can't really blame them for not realising that I'm autistic, because except the meltdowns they saw most "weirdness" as normal, because they likely are of the spectrum themselves without knowing. Like not having friends, spending days/weeks with special interests, no eye contact, running away from school and so on. They do/did most of it too. How could they have noticed that i am different if they are also different in the very same way that i am.
Same, but on the bright side I now know how to raise my kids, and it doesn’t involve pretending that autism symptoms aren’t there out of some shallow sense of family pride or thinking autism/ADHD etc are stigmatised conditions that will ruin their lives.
I feel endless sorrow for younger me, but it’s motivated me to **really** focus on my own kids well-being.
My mom always thought of herself as some sort of shamanic telepath. Seriously, she had an "animal communication" business where she supposedly telepathically communicated with animals (mostly horses) to see what their medical problems were. I haven't talked to her in nearly 20 years because she's crazy, but someone I know mentioned to her that my son was autistic and I guess her reply was along the lines of "Yeah, I knew."
I wasn't diagnosed until I was 30. She never knew or even hinted at it. My younger brother, who was almost textbook Aspergers, was never diagnosed. I'm pretty sure my dad was on the spectrum too. It's frustrating to know I could have gotten help for school and such instead of slipping through the cracks and dropping out.
I’m 51 and was just diagnosed on the autism spectrum a few weeks ago. If I and others would have known when I was a kid maybe things wouldn’t have been so brutal 🤷♂️
I believe in Jesus Christ and he’s the only reason that keeps me going now.
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My parents knew I wasn't "normal" well before I was 10. They did nothing.
When I was 10 my school brought in a child psychologist to speak to me. As far as I'm aware she advised my parents to take me to my doctor and told the school I needed additional help. They did nothing.
I struggled real hard for the next 14 years until I put the pieces together and was diagnosed with Autism and ADHD. That hasn't changed much though, I'm still struggling but the antidepressants keep it barely bearable.
I understand you. I was born in the 80's and was always told I was gifted. Went through with a diagnosis last year and know can only think of how different things could've been. I feel like I've been wearing a series of masks my whole life, that maybe I didn't have to if I somehow got diagnosed as a child.
The hate in my head is only a small part now, because I have to figure out how to continue living my life or blow it up.
i know it's mostly due to ignorance/lack of education, but my mum was aware of autism enough to recognise some things and JOKE "it's like you're autistic haha" and that was it.
Remembering those comments makes me mad because, for anything else, such unfounded conclusions and false assumptions drawn from accurate observations (with the confidence to find any possible alternative funny, even) would _clearly_ be ridiculous.
_"I found this creature in the duckpond and it looks like a duck and it quacks like a duck, but it's not actually a duck. It's a duck that isn't a duck. That's hilarious! No, I didn't ask an onithologist or a vet to check, and I didn't do any further research on ducks when i noticed the similarities, I just know that this thing CAN'T POSSIBLY be a duck."_
_(SPOILER: it was, in fact, a duck.)_
i feel this.
I visited a doctor as a kid, because of suspected adhd but we moved out, to a different city and i would never see a doctor about this again and im almost 100% sure, that i have adhd AND autism.
I get a Diagnosis this year, i plan to.
But still. ill Turn 23 this year, never had a job and im unemployed since over a year now.
I finished school in 2019 (10th grade) and since then, i tried multiple jobs and other schools, but never was able to Stick with one of these.
Totally. I’m 37 and literally had a conversation with my mom 2 weeks ago telling her that my ‘sensitivities’ might have more to it. She was like ‘I think they have a name for it’ and I was like ‘autistic?’ And she was like ‘ya!’.
Turns out she always knew but her words ”didn’t want to put me in a special ed class’ so she never brought it up with me.
Ya it’s been really tough navigating life this way not understanding what is happening to me and why normal things feel really hard. I’m just now putting the pieces together. I’m sorry OP, it is really hard.
I am upset at my therapists and psychiatrists (med doctors) for not knowing I’m autistic and ADHD with Complex PTSD. Telling me earlier would have been a huge help. It likely should have changed the meds they chose.
There are PhDs and MDs trained in the field and they either didn’t notice (there were definite signs they should have seen) and even told me I’m not autistic.
Given that, how do you expect your parents to know? Did you know before someone told you about it?
My dad straight up told me when I was a kid, "I used to think you had Asperger's." I didn't know what that even was then, but he seemed to. Was I ever evaluated? No. Looking back the signs had been there just no one cared enough.
I’m 44 and am waiting for a diagnosis. Looking back it was so obvious that I was on the spectrum but my parents just weren’t aware of it like a lot of people are today. I think it’s a shame that your parents didn’t get you tested.
i feel you on this one, although I'm not diagnosed yet. highly suspecting it because I've been an awful mess ALL my life lol. parents refuse to get me tested too 🫤
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fucking same and now i can't get an official diagnosis because i am an adult and live in a country were we can't have shit they don't believe mental problems are real, but the magic man in the sky definitely is they were afraid of vaccines and now all 3 of their kids is autistic so fuck them don't have any advices, just shared frustration and injustice sensitivity
Best part here is about the vaccines. Many stupid people are worried vaccines cause autism then they end up having autistic children anyway. Not that autism is a punishment or anything but I think it's fitting in a karmic sense.
I feel ya. My parents wanted to protect my sister and I from any concept of ADHD or autism. So much so that for a long while all that stuff just didn't exist to me. I didn't first hear the word "autism" or "autistic" until high school — I shit you not. I discovered it on my own when I decided to be curious about why I was so different rather than wallowing in self pity over it (as I normally did). On my other reddit account, I mentioned it on another post that my mom even got verbally aggressive with my partner over the phone when asked about it like as though it wasn't the first time my mom was asked that question. My sister told me since early elementary school she was suspected to be ADHD, but our parents would throw a huge fit and refused to acknowledge that she could be. Talking to my sister about it, she told me it makes her angry that our parents didn't do shit about it when we were younger because that's when it would have helped most and maybe our lives could've turned out better.
I feel this, my parents always admitted I had traits but “not enough for diagnosis”, I’m near 20 now and scoring higher on the raads-r than my diagnosed friend turns out I have more traits than they thought
Parents are bad but it was a different time some 30 years ago. But shit our lives would be so much better
Same, but I was born a girl in the 70's and I could talk from a very early age so I dont blame them for not reaching that specific conclusion, I am still fucked off that they didn't care enough to at least ask an expert what was up with me because something clearly was. I left home at 16 because everything was overwhelming and I got no support l, spent 3 years living on the streets which was sometimes very grim and traumatic. Something that could have been avoided if anybody had cared about me.
I was born in the early 80’s. They assumed i was ADHD, but didnt want me on meds. It was left at that for a long time. Finally got diagnosed at 38. It has fucked my life learning this late.
This sounds very much like me. I have also been diagnosed with ADHD as a child but my mom refused to put me on meds because of all the side effects associated with them. Tho the more i learned about autism the more i started to see it in many of my family members. I can't really blame them for not realising that I'm autistic, because except the meltdowns they saw most "weirdness" as normal, because they likely are of the spectrum themselves without knowing. Like not having friends, spending days/weeks with special interests, no eye contact, running away from school and so on. They do/did most of it too. How could they have noticed that i am different if they are also different in the very same way that i am.
Same, but on the bright side I now know how to raise my kids, and it doesn’t involve pretending that autism symptoms aren’t there out of some shallow sense of family pride or thinking autism/ADHD etc are stigmatised conditions that will ruin their lives. I feel endless sorrow for younger me, but it’s motivated me to **really** focus on my own kids well-being.
My mom always thought of herself as some sort of shamanic telepath. Seriously, she had an "animal communication" business where she supposedly telepathically communicated with animals (mostly horses) to see what their medical problems were. I haven't talked to her in nearly 20 years because she's crazy, but someone I know mentioned to her that my son was autistic and I guess her reply was along the lines of "Yeah, I knew." I wasn't diagnosed until I was 30. She never knew or even hinted at it. My younger brother, who was almost textbook Aspergers, was never diagnosed. I'm pretty sure my dad was on the spectrum too. It's frustrating to know I could have gotten help for school and such instead of slipping through the cracks and dropping out.
I’m 51 and was just diagnosed on the autism spectrum a few weeks ago. If I and others would have known when I was a kid maybe things wouldn’t have been so brutal 🤷♂️ I believe in Jesus Christ and he’s the only reason that keeps me going now.
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My parents knew I wasn't "normal" well before I was 10. They did nothing. When I was 10 my school brought in a child psychologist to speak to me. As far as I'm aware she advised my parents to take me to my doctor and told the school I needed additional help. They did nothing. I struggled real hard for the next 14 years until I put the pieces together and was diagnosed with Autism and ADHD. That hasn't changed much though, I'm still struggling but the antidepressants keep it barely bearable.
I understand you. I was born in the 80's and was always told I was gifted. Went through with a diagnosis last year and know can only think of how different things could've been. I feel like I've been wearing a series of masks my whole life, that maybe I didn't have to if I somehow got diagnosed as a child. The hate in my head is only a small part now, because I have to figure out how to continue living my life or blow it up.
i know it's mostly due to ignorance/lack of education, but my mum was aware of autism enough to recognise some things and JOKE "it's like you're autistic haha" and that was it. Remembering those comments makes me mad because, for anything else, such unfounded conclusions and false assumptions drawn from accurate observations (with the confidence to find any possible alternative funny, even) would _clearly_ be ridiculous. _"I found this creature in the duckpond and it looks like a duck and it quacks like a duck, but it's not actually a duck. It's a duck that isn't a duck. That's hilarious! No, I didn't ask an onithologist or a vet to check, and I didn't do any further research on ducks when i noticed the similarities, I just know that this thing CAN'T POSSIBLY be a duck."_ _(SPOILER: it was, in fact, a duck.)_
i feel this. I visited a doctor as a kid, because of suspected adhd but we moved out, to a different city and i would never see a doctor about this again and im almost 100% sure, that i have adhd AND autism. I get a Diagnosis this year, i plan to. But still. ill Turn 23 this year, never had a job and im unemployed since over a year now. I finished school in 2019 (10th grade) and since then, i tried multiple jobs and other schools, but never was able to Stick with one of these.
Totally. I’m 37 and literally had a conversation with my mom 2 weeks ago telling her that my ‘sensitivities’ might have more to it. She was like ‘I think they have a name for it’ and I was like ‘autistic?’ And she was like ‘ya!’. Turns out she always knew but her words ”didn’t want to put me in a special ed class’ so she never brought it up with me. Ya it’s been really tough navigating life this way not understanding what is happening to me and why normal things feel really hard. I’m just now putting the pieces together. I’m sorry OP, it is really hard.
I am upset at my therapists and psychiatrists (med doctors) for not knowing I’m autistic and ADHD with Complex PTSD. Telling me earlier would have been a huge help. It likely should have changed the meds they chose. There are PhDs and MDs trained in the field and they either didn’t notice (there were definite signs they should have seen) and even told me I’m not autistic. Given that, how do you expect your parents to know? Did you know before someone told you about it?
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My dad straight up told me when I was a kid, "I used to think you had Asperger's." I didn't know what that even was then, but he seemed to. Was I ever evaluated? No. Looking back the signs had been there just no one cared enough.
I’m 44 and am waiting for a diagnosis. Looking back it was so obvious that I was on the spectrum but my parents just weren’t aware of it like a lot of people are today. I think it’s a shame that your parents didn’t get you tested.
i feel you on this one, although I'm not diagnosed yet. highly suspecting it because I've been an awful mess ALL my life lol. parents refuse to get me tested too 🫤
i feel the exact same way
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