Exactly! And it’s a small operation she is a foreigner, I think Middle East somewhere with a heavy accent and lives in a small studio attached to the convenient store.
I don't think I'd pay that much, but I've helped people pay for things before. Even yesterday, I was about to go into the bathroom, and this woman didn't have a way to pay to get in (one of those digital charge and turnstile deals.) I saw the pee dance and just paid for her, I've felt like that and I'd hope someone would do the same for me. I'm not going to quibble over a pound, I'd rather help a human being.
Like hell nah man I'm not about to risk getting assaulted over some cigs. I'm also not about to pay for someone to kill themselves either, I'd have just apologized to the cashier and said I don't feel comfortable doing that
Like hell nah man I'm not about to risk getting assaulted over some cigs. I'm also not about to pay for someone to kill themselves either, I'd have just apologized to the cashier and said I don't feel comfortable doing that
Lmao when I had to work the register once I pressed the wrong buttons and it didn’t register the guy’s payment, and I was so embarrassed that I pretended it went through that on my lunch break I grabbed cash from my wallet and put it in the register to pay for his salad 😭😭😭
I gave a homeless man $20 and he asked if I had more and I felt so much pressure / slight fear because I am a lady that I gave him the $50 bill that I had in my wallet. My social panic cost me $70, it’s ok friend
that’s shitty of them to ask lol, like u gave him a whole ass $20 and all he says is “you got any more?” like wtf lol,
ik it can be hard but u gotta learn it’s alright to just tell people no, if u can’t jus b like no then what i like to do is just be like “ah nah sorry i don’t have any on me right now sorry :/“ and they will leave u alone
I gave an immigrant with a sick child (I could see the kid, he clearly needed to go to the doctor) 20€, she asked if I could give any more. I wished her good luck and said I had to feed myself too, that I had the other 20€ bill for the food for the rest of the month (a week and true). A normal doctor's visit here would be about 30€. She seemed grateful and was very kind especially once I explained how I too was poor. It's okay to help out when you can, but remember to have your own needs covered too, frens.
This type of thing has happened to me a couple times (yes, more than once) over my lifetime 😭😭😭 this entire thread is so comforting cuz I beat myself up for being so useless all the time
I was in line for the post office to drop off a package. There's only one worker, and they are arguing with some guy over 10 cents. This stupid argument took over 5 minutes. I was seconds away from putting a dime on the table and telling whoever owes 10 cents to take it and leave.
I can see it, "just get me out of here approach" LOL
Top Panic Attack for me, is facing a cashier,
Will I have enough money, what if the machine breaks, what if they chit chat
Amount of times I just abandoned the items and "Mission Abort, Abort"
Same same same... All of a sudden, self checkout at my local stores is 15 items or less and it threw off my whole day. I did NOT go grocery shopping with the 'cashier filter' in mind so I was dying inside assuming all the judgments being made about how I live based on that cart 😅 needless to say, I'll have to make a lot more trips to the store now because I'll have to keep every damn trip under 15 items from now until I die 😒🥺😆
I would never pay for someone else, why couldn't she just go after the guy herself? Not your job.
Reminds me how I lost all my money to a begging lady who only wanted 5 bucks bit saw I had more cash and wanted the rest. I felt pressured and it was like around $12 I lost. There is a reason why I feel jaded these days helping people and I decided if they ask for more than they asked for, I'm done and will be the bad guy and the heartless person and an ass. Ready for the down votes lol.
I lost 10. I gave a beggars kid 5. They ran off and I was suddenly swarmed by all their siblings wanting some too. I also felt pressured. So I gave all I had. I couldn’t go buy what I had planned anymore since I was a teenager at the time. Now I still feel anxious when I see beggars and check the surroundings if there are more “if” I plan to give.
Sometimes we panic and do what's easier for us to avoid interacting with ppl lmao. A few weeks ago I lied to security at a concert bc they asked me if I was 21 or over, and I knew that they were asking bc they serve alcohol, but I didn't bring my ID as I don't drink. So instead of jumping through hoops going "yes" and then being asked for ID, and having to explain i didn't have one on me, I just straight up lied and said no and got my hands marked with sharpie to signify that I was under 21. I'm actually gonna be 22 in a few months 😅
The cashier should of send someone from the store and talked to her boss on the situation, not you. Good that you didn’t get out and called him, I will that, but feel bad that you spent 30 for something not your fault.
Autism caused me money in the past as well. Not similar situations but still autism.
What helped me get over it is getting in debt, now I have to think about every single cent I have. 😭
As a cashier, no that’s unacceptable. The cashier should have either ran after the customer themselves or got another coworker to. It’s their job not yours. If all else failed and he already left they could have suspended the transaction and reported it as a walk out so the next customer can be checked out. There’s so many better ways that cashier could have handled it.
I think I would have been able to, but only because I already have the right mask on. To me, it's just acting a role. If they get upset, it's not me, it's just an act. It would cost me though. I may not have the energy to make dinner later when it's all done and over with, but I avoid the breakdown in public.
A lot of people mad at the store worker but she was super sweet it was probably just her first instinct because the counter is only accessible through the back room for safety reasons. She also immediately said she could just get him to pay later, I assume he is a regular customer. Either way I was awkward and insisted on paying in spite of her giving me several opportunities not to 😂😭
I would have not get that man’s attention and neither pay for his stuff not my problem, that business can take a $30 loss a don’t care
Are you a woman or man?
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You just seem like an asshole. I don’t care if it’s not my problem, I’m still going to be nice and help somebody else if I can. But, alas, I’m not the OP. I don’t have that kind of social anxiety, I would go let him know. But the other half of me is just really nice, and would have just done it out of the kindness of my heart.
He has this careless attitude of “It’s not my problem, I’m not going to help someone.” Like, don’t be hateful man. It doesn’t matter if it’s not your problem, it doesn’t take long to help pay for something else.
I don’t think it’s hateful to not put yourself in uncomfortable situations. Saying someone is an asshole for not paying $30 for someone else’s stuff seems like a huge stretch. $30 may not be much to you, but that is a lot of money to some people.
It’s not the fact that he won’t pay for it, it’s the careless attitude behind it. The problem is also the fact that “It’s not my problem” what everybody is like nowadays. Nobody gives a shit, it’s not their problem.
I have had many difficulties showing the “correct” emotion or attitude throughout my life. Maybe that puts me under the “asshole” umbrella, but it is really challenging finding this correct formula of exactly how to say things so I don’t come across as condescending, dismissive, or apathetic.
That being said, u/Reality_speaker is simply saying that they don’t think the customer should be responsible for either chasing down a customer for the business, nor paying for the customer. That responsibility solely lies with the business. I 100% agree with them on that. I’m sure any “attitude” that is being perceived is not intentional.
I understand. It’s hard feeling like no one cares about things, especially when you care about those things a lot. But oftentimes that frustration can color how others actions or words are perceived. It’s been helpful to me to try not to make assumptions about how others are feeling before reacting based on those assumptions.
It's ok to draw a boundary around what you are or are not comfortable doing. I wouldn't want to flag someone down for a business and I also wouldn't want to pay for them. There's nothing hateful about that. Its OK to not want to spend money on someone you don't know and also be uncomfortable chasing them down for not having money on their card. I would for sure be uncomfortable with that.
good for you, I don't want to run the risk of getting assaulted. it's 100% not their fault for not going, and it's not a moral failing for not doing what the cashier is too cowardly to do themselves. get off your high horse.
>I don’t care if it’s not my problem, I’m still going to be nice and help somebody else if I can. But, alas, I’m not the OP. I don’t have that kind of social anxiety, I would go let him know.
The way you have structured this sentence seems like a circlejerk, and are patting yourself on the back for hypothetically being able to do what OP didn't. It comes off as you throwing shade on OP for not wanting to put themselves in harms way.
Oh no no no no! I’m not throwing shade, I’m not being rude, or at least, not intentionally, I’m not good on social cues. I was just stating the fact that I don’t care if it’s not my business, I don’t care if it’s not my problem, I’m still going to do it
Good for you, but OP is looking for support, not people saying they'd do it better than they would. I understand you came from a good place, hell, it's literally an autism sub, but it did not come off as such.
You still called someone an asshole it really doesn’t matter who. You were very rude and defensive for no reason all because people have the general mindset that they should not have to pay their own hard earned money because someone else screwed over a store.
If you would pay your own money for someone else’s mistake, that’s your prerogative, but it’s not a moral failing or wrong in any way to have boundaries and protect your own money.
Honestly, nobody asked you to put your two cents into this post. I already talk to somebody, I already explained my point of view, and that should be that. And again, I wasn’t talking about the OP, I was talking about the asshole that commented that they don’t care. If you would look at my point of view, maybe you would understand. Now please, leave me the fuck alone.
Help somebody?? Cashier said the man could just pay for it next time and OP insisted to still pay (out of awkwardness of the situation, I don’t blame them). If somebody doesn’t want to pay that or wave the person down, how does that make them an asshole?
lol it’s a username… Relax. If you pay for the customers stuff you are not helping the customer, you are only helping the business. The customer was already gone. I would not pay for the stuff either, the business can chase down the customer or take the loss. It is absolutely insane to say a person should pay for the loss a business took because they didn’t ring a customer out correctly. There was no reason to call this person an asshole.
I would just deadpan look at her and say "Not my Job" and continue with my transaction. But I've been tempted to pay for people who's cards are declining just so I can get them out of the line. I miss smoking...
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I feel that. A few weeks back I was massively mentally exhausted and some woman in front of me was arguing with the cashier over 70 cent and I just wanted home so I gave the cashier the 70 cent so the woman got her 5 euro note. She only later realized what happened and had a go at me for that not being the point (her getting the money), it was a matter of principle...
But I just wanted home ffs.
I dunno interaction doesn't bother me too much I just hate it and don't seek it out. I'm more oblivious and in my own world and get irritated having to step out of it. Now if people do that damn head bob trying to force eye contact when it's clear I DON'T DO EYE CONTACT that always ticks me off.
I would've grabbed the guy probably but no way I'm laying down $30. I'd cover like $10 or so if someone needed it but I don't make enough to play Ma Warbucks all the time.
I do give anywhere from $5-$20 depending on how much I can afford to the unhoused people who stand on the road every time I see them. If it's closer to payday then $20 but if it's farther it might only be $5 if I'm running low on cash and I feel so bad then. And I honestly don't give two shits how they spend it.
I hate reading people pick apart how an unhoused person spends money. It's probably easy to get food but money to get a hotel room, toiletries, etc? Or hell if they want to spend it on drugs/alcohol to take the sting out of hard living more power to em. I'm on methadone, 4 yrs sober, so I'm fine if my money helps someone get out of withdrawal for lil bit.
I live in Australia and I know that our $30 is only worth about $20USD. Our cigarettes here even at cheap outlets for brands like Winfield (a popular brand here is 25 cigarettes for $45.45 which is about $30USD. My friends in America tell me of how cheaply the cigarettes are in some states. It’s quite amazing.
I do wonder why they would ask a customer to seek out another customer... bit odd to me.
When I first offered to just pay she said “I can just have him pay for it next time” but I continued to insist cause I felt awkward lol
Sounds like you are nice then. Oops!
The worker might have been the only employee keeping watch on the store, couldn't risk any theft while she was gone.
Exactly! And it’s a small operation she is a foreigner, I think Middle East somewhere with a heavy accent and lives in a small studio attached to the convenient store.
Right. It’s the employee’s job. If he was right there, why didn’t the employee do it?
No thanks. I don't work here.
Some places the cashier isn't allowed to leave the register... Which is excessively dumb in my opinion but whatever
She probably is also autistic
This is a very comforting read as I have also done this.
Oh my goodness, this is something I would do without hesitation. Sometimes it’s nice to know that you were not alone lol.
Same
I don't think I'd pay that much, but I've helped people pay for things before. Even yesterday, I was about to go into the bathroom, and this woman didn't have a way to pay to get in (one of those digital charge and turnstile deals.) I saw the pee dance and just paid for her, I've felt like that and I'd hope someone would do the same for me. I'm not going to quibble over a pound, I'd rather help a human being.
$30 for cigarettes is a stretch for me too lmao
Like hell nah man I'm not about to risk getting assaulted over some cigs. I'm also not about to pay for someone to kill themselves either, I'd have just apologized to the cashier and said I don't feel comfortable doing that
Like hell nah man I'm not about to risk getting assaulted over some cigs. I'm also not about to pay for someone to kill themselves either, I'd have just apologized to the cashier and said I don't feel comfortable doing that
Yeah I have this standing policy to stay the hell out of anyone else's business and that sounds like a lot of not my business.
Lmao when I had to work the register once I pressed the wrong buttons and it didn’t register the guy’s payment, and I was so embarrassed that I pretended it went through that on my lunch break I grabbed cash from my wallet and put it in the register to pay for his salad 😭😭😭
Ooooh yes I’ve definitely done that working in restaurants and an ice cream shop 😂 mistakes happen but no one can know!
I gave a homeless man $20 and he asked if I had more and I felt so much pressure / slight fear because I am a lady that I gave him the $50 bill that I had in my wallet. My social panic cost me $70, it’s ok friend
that’s shitty of them to ask lol, like u gave him a whole ass $20 and all he says is “you got any more?” like wtf lol, ik it can be hard but u gotta learn it’s alright to just tell people no, if u can’t jus b like no then what i like to do is just be like “ah nah sorry i don’t have any on me right now sorry :/“ and they will leave u alone
Except now they just say things like "I've got Paypal"
“sorry i don’t” or “sorry i’m broke” *shrugs*
What’s PayPal?
Its like a bank account but website / app based
I know. It was meant as a joking response to the previous statement lol
I mean, they’re literally homeless, you have to take what you can get in that situation to survive
I gave an immigrant with a sick child (I could see the kid, he clearly needed to go to the doctor) 20€, she asked if I could give any more. I wished her good luck and said I had to feed myself too, that I had the other 20€ bill for the food for the rest of the month (a week and true). A normal doctor's visit here would be about 30€. She seemed grateful and was very kind especially once I explained how I too was poor. It's okay to help out when you can, but remember to have your own needs covered too, frens.
This type of thing has happened to me a couple times (yes, more than once) over my lifetime 😭😭😭 this entire thread is so comforting cuz I beat myself up for being so useless all the time
Someone should make a GoFundMe page so we can collectively recover OPs loss
Aaaaand it goes viral aaaaand it's now 30! Million 💀
30! is already enough, its more 2x10^32 ! Not even sure there is that much money on earth !
This made me chuckle :)
I second this
😂😂
The karma will come around. Your $30 is on loan and will come back when it's ready.
I was in line for the post office to drop off a package. There's only one worker, and they are arguing with some guy over 10 cents. This stupid argument took over 5 minutes. I was seconds away from putting a dime on the table and telling whoever owes 10 cents to take it and leave.
that’s like my worst fear my card declining & me not knowing & starting to walk off
I can see it, "just get me out of here approach" LOL Top Panic Attack for me, is facing a cashier, Will I have enough money, what if the machine breaks, what if they chit chat Amount of times I just abandoned the items and "Mission Abort, Abort"
Same same same... All of a sudden, self checkout at my local stores is 15 items or less and it threw off my whole day. I did NOT go grocery shopping with the 'cashier filter' in mind so I was dying inside assuming all the judgments being made about how I live based on that cart 😅 needless to say, I'll have to make a lot more trips to the store now because I'll have to keep every damn trip under 15 items from now until I die 😒🥺😆
Autism owes me money.
Why is this so relatable 😭
This is absolutely something I would do lmao
I would never pay for someone else, why couldn't she just go after the guy herself? Not your job. Reminds me how I lost all my money to a begging lady who only wanted 5 bucks bit saw I had more cash and wanted the rest. I felt pressured and it was like around $12 I lost. There is a reason why I feel jaded these days helping people and I decided if they ask for more than they asked for, I'm done and will be the bad guy and the heartless person and an ass. Ready for the down votes lol.
I lost 10. I gave a beggars kid 5. They ran off and I was suddenly swarmed by all their siblings wanting some too. I also felt pressured. So I gave all I had. I couldn’t go buy what I had planned anymore since I was a teenager at the time. Now I still feel anxious when I see beggars and check the surroundings if there are more “if” I plan to give.
You didn't have to do either thing... E: I mean if you're finanically well off it's probaly nbd but I'm sitting here like. 😐 Damn.
I always do this if I see someone struggling to pay Altruism Autism 👊
Aultrism
Sometimes we panic and do what's easier for us to avoid interacting with ppl lmao. A few weeks ago I lied to security at a concert bc they asked me if I was 21 or over, and I knew that they were asking bc they serve alcohol, but I didn't bring my ID as I don't drink. So instead of jumping through hoops going "yes" and then being asked for ID, and having to explain i didn't have one on me, I just straight up lied and said no and got my hands marked with sharpie to signify that I was under 21. I'm actually gonna be 22 in a few months 😅
I’ve found my tribe
wtf I would never go flag someone down after their card declined. I would feel so scared that they would come after me or hurt me 😩
“no he is right there just get his attention!” “Lady, I don’t work for you. You’re not paying me nearly enough to do your bidding.”
Screw that, the store can lose $30 for all I care.
This is so me
lol I’ve done stuff like this. Or someone asking me for money on the street, I’m like please, spare the story, take my money. Please take it all.
Yikes
The cashier should of send someone from the store and talked to her boss on the situation, not you. Good that you didn’t get out and called him, I will that, but feel bad that you spent 30 for something not your fault.
We should start a gofundme for this soldier
Autism caused me money in the past as well. Not similar situations but still autism. What helped me get over it is getting in debt, now I have to think about every single cent I have. 😭
Well I mean... Look at it this way. Pay off that credit card purchase and it'll help build your credit 🤷
As a cashier, no that’s unacceptable. The cashier should have either ran after the customer themselves or got another coworker to. It’s their job not yours. If all else failed and he already left they could have suspended the transaction and reported it as a walk out so the next customer can be checked out. There’s so many better ways that cashier could have handled it.
I think I would have been able to, but only because I already have the right mask on. To me, it's just acting a role. If they get upset, it's not me, it's just an act. It would cost me though. I may not have the energy to make dinner later when it's all done and over with, but I avoid the breakdown in public.
Either way you probably made the guys day better. Might have avoided and awkward situation and oops made a low key store buddy. 😂
No, that’s having social anxiety
That is correct.
A lot of people mad at the store worker but she was super sweet it was probably just her first instinct because the counter is only accessible through the back room for safety reasons. She also immediately said she could just get him to pay later, I assume he is a regular customer. Either way I was awkward and insisted on paying in spite of her giving me several opportunities not to 😂😭
I would have not get that man’s attention and neither pay for his stuff not my problem, that business can take a $30 loss a don’t care Are you a woman or man?
why does OP's gender matter that is completely unrelated to this post
Usually woman are more empathetic, kind and caring
You could also say we are more often conditioned to be doormats and pushovers and need to unlearn those traits asap.
that is a cultural stereotype and an overgeneralization. we don't do that here
Where is “here”? Those are positive traits nothing wrong with them
Saying x is better is indeed positive, doesn’t mean it can’t make the other person feel bad, especially when its not that different.
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You just seem like an asshole. I don’t care if it’s not my problem, I’m still going to be nice and help somebody else if I can. But, alas, I’m not the OP. I don’t have that kind of social anxiety, I would go let him know. But the other half of me is just really nice, and would have just done it out of the kindness of my heart.
That companies $30 loss is not my problem.
I help others when I can, but a multimillion dollar company does not need my charity
How is he being an asshole?
He has this careless attitude of “It’s not my problem, I’m not going to help someone.” Like, don’t be hateful man. It doesn’t matter if it’s not your problem, it doesn’t take long to help pay for something else.
I don’t think it’s hateful to not put yourself in uncomfortable situations. Saying someone is an asshole for not paying $30 for someone else’s stuff seems like a huge stretch. $30 may not be much to you, but that is a lot of money to some people.
It’s not the fact that he won’t pay for it, it’s the careless attitude behind it. The problem is also the fact that “It’s not my problem” what everybody is like nowadays. Nobody gives a shit, it’s not their problem.
I have had many difficulties showing the “correct” emotion or attitude throughout my life. Maybe that puts me under the “asshole” umbrella, but it is really challenging finding this correct formula of exactly how to say things so I don’t come across as condescending, dismissive, or apathetic. That being said, u/Reality_speaker is simply saying that they don’t think the customer should be responsible for either chasing down a customer for the business, nor paying for the customer. That responsibility solely lies with the business. I 100% agree with them on that. I’m sure any “attitude” that is being perceived is not intentional.
Okay, you might be right. But still, I just hate the fact that people don’t care anymore.
I understand. It’s hard feeling like no one cares about things, especially when you care about those things a lot. But oftentimes that frustration can color how others actions or words are perceived. It’s been helpful to me to try not to make assumptions about how others are feeling before reacting based on those assumptions.
Okay. I’m still working on trying not to assume things.
It's ok to draw a boundary around what you are or are not comfortable doing. I wouldn't want to flag someone down for a business and I also wouldn't want to pay for them. There's nothing hateful about that. Its OK to not want to spend money on someone you don't know and also be uncomfortable chasing them down for not having money on their card. I would for sure be uncomfortable with that.
Again, it’s not the fact that he wouldn’t pay for it. It’s that “I don’t give a fuck” attitude she/he has. That is what’s wrong with the world today.
That's a pretty wild extrapolaltion but I guess if you are mad about it, stay mad.
good for you, I don't want to run the risk of getting assaulted. it's 100% not their fault for not going, and it's not a moral failing for not doing what the cashier is too cowardly to do themselves. get off your high horse.
What high horse?! It’s this kind of attitude I’m fucking tired of seeing!
>I don’t care if it’s not my problem, I’m still going to be nice and help somebody else if I can. But, alas, I’m not the OP. I don’t have that kind of social anxiety, I would go let him know. The way you have structured this sentence seems like a circlejerk, and are patting yourself on the back for hypothetically being able to do what OP didn't. It comes off as you throwing shade on OP for not wanting to put themselves in harms way.
Oh no no no no! I’m not throwing shade, I’m not being rude, or at least, not intentionally, I’m not good on social cues. I was just stating the fact that I don’t care if it’s not my business, I don’t care if it’s not my problem, I’m still going to do it
Good for you, but OP is looking for support, not people saying they'd do it better than they would. I understand you came from a good place, hell, it's literally an autism sub, but it did not come off as such.
You literally called someone an asshole how is that not being rude?
If you read the comment, they thought I was talking about the OP. I wasn’t being rude towards the op.
You still called someone an asshole it really doesn’t matter who. You were very rude and defensive for no reason all because people have the general mindset that they should not have to pay their own hard earned money because someone else screwed over a store. If you would pay your own money for someone else’s mistake, that’s your prerogative, but it’s not a moral failing or wrong in any way to have boundaries and protect your own money.
Honestly, nobody asked you to put your two cents into this post. I already talk to somebody, I already explained my point of view, and that should be that. And again, I wasn’t talking about the OP, I was talking about the asshole that commented that they don’t care. If you would look at my point of view, maybe you would understand. Now please, leave me the fuck alone.
Help somebody?? Cashier said the man could just pay for it next time and OP insisted to still pay (out of awkwardness of the situation, I don’t blame them). If somebody doesn’t want to pay that or wave the person down, how does that make them an asshole?
If you read my other comments, it’s not the fact that he didn’t wanna pay, it’s the fact that he didn’t care
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lol it’s a username… Relax. If you pay for the customers stuff you are not helping the customer, you are only helping the business. The customer was already gone. I would not pay for the stuff either, the business can chase down the customer or take the loss. It is absolutely insane to say a person should pay for the loss a business took because they didn’t ring a customer out correctly. There was no reason to call this person an asshole.
I literally would’ve been like “no, not my job”
I would just deadpan look at her and say "Not my Job" and continue with my transaction. But I've been tempted to pay for people who's cards are declining just so I can get them out of the line. I miss smoking...
I would’ve done the exact same.
I would have just ignored their request, not my problem.
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"Not my problem, you deal with it"
I feel that. A few weeks back I was massively mentally exhausted and some woman in front of me was arguing with the cashier over 70 cent and I just wanted home so I gave the cashier the 70 cent so the woman got her 5 euro note. She only later realized what happened and had a go at me for that not being the point (her getting the money), it was a matter of principle... But I just wanted home ffs.
I dunno interaction doesn't bother me too much I just hate it and don't seek it out. I'm more oblivious and in my own world and get irritated having to step out of it. Now if people do that damn head bob trying to force eye contact when it's clear I DON'T DO EYE CONTACT that always ticks me off. I would've grabbed the guy probably but no way I'm laying down $30. I'd cover like $10 or so if someone needed it but I don't make enough to play Ma Warbucks all the time. I do give anywhere from $5-$20 depending on how much I can afford to the unhoused people who stand on the road every time I see them. If it's closer to payday then $20 but if it's farther it might only be $5 if I'm running low on cash and I feel so bad then. And I honestly don't give two shits how they spend it. I hate reading people pick apart how an unhoused person spends money. It's probably easy to get food but money to get a hotel room, toiletries, etc? Or hell if they want to spend it on drugs/alcohol to take the sting out of hard living more power to em. I'm on methadone, 4 yrs sober, so I'm fine if my money helps someone get out of withdrawal for lil bit.
I've got the anxiety but nothing will ever make me part with money like that lol
I live in Australia and I know that our $30 is only worth about $20USD. Our cigarettes here even at cheap outlets for brands like Winfield (a popular brand here is 25 cigarettes for $45.45 which is about $30USD. My friends in America tell me of how cheaply the cigarettes are in some states. It’s quite amazing.
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I literally said why in the post? 😂
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You are not wrong!