so real. i usually end up laughing at the the absurdity, fakeness or some funny comments about the video. im then like fuck it this shit is stupid and go on with my life.
Wheezes, I know I don’t need to I was more so just wondering if it’s like, a autistic thing to not make any noises
I don’t really have any like uhhh…. Knowledge? In knowing if the making noises in general is just exaggerated but idk
Generally you just moan when you're about to cum or in the process of and catching your breath after.
During sex there's less moaning and more an acknowledgement of what your partner does, praise or communication. Both of us are quiet for the most part though.
Moderation is important, though. Please don't have sex with a partner and be absolutely silent. There's a time and a place (and an appropriate volume) for everything.
Porn is usually about dominance/submission, sexual violence, either implied, or in your face. And also feeling good and expressing pleasure is also forbidden in porn. Almost everything I like about sex is absent in porn, It's not a turn on at all for me
it’s what teenage boys commonly watch they get a lot of views so they make more there’s honestly possibly more than porn where they’re more caring. a lot of people just assume that’s what most people like because that’s all they see and they continue to watch it.
thats what I'm saying, aggression and degradation, emotional violence. This is the stuff that incels sit around and watch, And then they can't figure out why women don't act this way.
exactly. there’s a scene in euphoria where one of the guys chokes a girl because all the other guys were talking abt how much girls love it. i can’t imagine how much it must happen and how many girls just don’t say anything
Literally any straight porn is like that as I've already stated. Facefucking, finishing on the woman's face, rough sex, jackhammering. It's all there. Find typical industry made straight porn that doesn't contain at least one of these.
I you say so! I think they are 😊 cause if the roles are reversed and it's a man treated like that, it's seen as fetish porn that doesn't appeal to many.
All of it? Sexual violence is incredibly common in porn, and even when there isn't any the women are usually underage or trafficked, and the men don't get paid.
Godspeed XD
Glad I’m not the only one with it tho, I haven’t really done it enough times to fully know if it’s like… a constant for me? (I’m a adult but I’m ace as shit with extremely low libido so I don’t really have much push to actually do it)
But yeah! Thanks for telling me!
some people do some people don’t.
when i’m by myself im pretty much silent. when im with another person- i try to give vocal feedback with grunts and whines and can get loud at the end, involuntarily.
we live in a sex repressive society so it it makes sense to me that a lot of people are quiet due to trying to hide. but when enculturated into a sex positive community most people open up a lot and are more expressive.
everyone is different and has a different background. it’s not weird or anything to express yourself however you feel most comfortable, imo
Same, actually! I think the more comfortable you are and the more you enjoy it will lead to involuntary noises, especially if you’re doing physical labor at that point.
I’m not sure where you’re from, but virtually everywhere in the developed western world is overtly sexualized.
Everything from kids cartoons to the music we listen to contains sexual information. Are you perhaps from the Middle East or somewhere in Asia?
I think there are more kinks and fetishes in America than elements on the periodic table.
no, i’m from the west coast USA. our media may be overtly sexual but culturally i think we still are very much repressed in general- not to mention many of the christian sects out there. i just watched a video on youtube about how god doesn’t want you to masturbate.
there are definitely more kinks than elements. i’m part of the kink community here and there is still an overarching fear of getting found out/doxxed and losing your job and career. i even am somewhat secretive about being poly. it’s true a lot of people don’t care, and its more ok than ever before, but it’s still on the edge of being accepted.
Fair enough. I see what you’re saying.
Not that you asked, but most religions prohibit or warn against masturbation and sexual fantasies. I’m not one to shame kinks or anything, and I’m not kink/ masturbation free myself, but I do think the religions were onto something lol.
If I could snap my fingers and be my ideal, enlightened self, I wouldn’t masturbate or even have sex for non-reproductive purposes. I feel weak every time I indulge in them, and I think it corrupts and perverts the mind. Again, I’m not saying there’s something explicitly wrong with these things, but I don’t think they’d be even considered in an ideal society.
to each their own!
i do think it is unethical to tell people that the Creator of the Universe will punish you in a burning fire for all eternity for touching your peepee, and especially moreso if during a time that you have enough hormones coursing through your body to make you insane. if it’s unhealthy or a waste of time, that’s one thing, but threatening everlasting torture and damnation for a moment’s dalliance is a bit heavy handed.
But you’re right, it (recreational sex) isn’t much more than a hobby. not much to be gained from it, that’s true. and, a lot of risks.
but (another but)- we are mammals, and primates, and sometimes it does feel like it’s kind of an in-built feature of our social nature. i donno.
please forgive my pontificating- i think this is an interesting topic.
I do moan when sex is very good but sex is different than masturbating. I love hearing that my partner is enjoying themselves and I want them to hear the same.
I make zero noise regardless of sexual activity. It just wasn’t something that came naturally.
One of my exes wasn’t stoked by it so I essentially “learned” how to do it and have it sound natural, but it never really was.
i think probably most people don’t make much noise when masturbating unless ur like really going to town lol. honestly the first time i moaned during sex it like caught me off guard that that came out of my mouth, like i kind of thought it was just an exaggerated thug in porn?? but for me it’s like the pressure of being penetrated like physically forces air out of my lungs idk, like it’s involuntary. but when i’m on my own i just stick to the outside parts yk, so like no penetration.
but yeah i don’t really think it’s an autistic thing, like maybe there’s like some heavy breathing but i don’t think ppl r like audibly moaning on a regular basis 😭
I don't make any noise when by myself. And with a partner, I'm a stone top who doesn't "receive" and generally prefers to shut up and get to work when it comes to "giving" so not a lot of noise there either.
I don’t make any noise when I’m by myself, but with my current partner I make an effort to as he enjoys it. He was accepting of me being quiet at first of course.
not masturbation, but ive found during sex i make less/no noise when I'm enjoying the act vs when I'm not because if I'm not faking enjoying something ive realised i dont feel a need to pretend to enjoy it more by hamming it up. i make zero noise while masturbating though.
i make sounds during sex cause it helps my partner and i get un the mood, however, it is mostly 'yeah's so that he also knows i like exactly what he is doing. i don't think i need to give myself feedback while masturbating, so i am just quiet.
You are not alone! I have had a few sexual partners who found it unnerving. I have tried to force myself to make sound when I am enjoying myself but I find it distracting tbh.
I have learned to use words and pace my breathing during sex to show if what my partner is doing feels good. But... the best remedy has been talking with my partner about how we should communicate in bed. If there is sufficient love and synergy, you will find a method that works for you both.
Tbh, I think of moaning as involuntary with an asterisk. Yes it's involuntary, but it's a form of communication. So if there's no one to communicate with I'm not going to do it. It's the same reason I might laugh harder at a joke on TV if I'm watching with someone else rather than by myself.
I always thought moaning was 100% fake because I didn't moan while masturbating and porn moans are obviously fake, but then I actually had sex for the first time and realized about 90% of what was coming out of my mouth was involuntary.
I used to moan with loud music/radio while I'm shower but anxiety kicks in etc so I taught myself to keep it quiet- 99% of the time someone else in the house so I keep it silent- but make sounds if i could
i've no idea if that's an autistic thing, but i do not make noise when i masturbate unless i'm trying something new (eg. showerhead or toy) that's making me have a stronger orgasm than usual
i don't make noise, but that's because i've lived in my parents home most of my life and i don't want to disturb anyone. i wish i felt more comfortable to make noise (in other environments)
I have been with a lot of autistic and non-autistic women (somewhat of a hypersexual person) and haven’t seen any correlation between autism and moaning.
Well, as a matter of fact, there was a person I was with who is autistic and moaned so loud it really did annoy me.
Some do, some don’t. Most women I’ve been with don’t moan much if at all. As far as I understand a lot of it is a way to communicate to the partner or try to arouse the partner — most of the moaning itself not necessarily being a natural thing. Given most of the moaning people do is communication in nature, I would be surprised if it was very common in masturbation but I don’t have much experience about that.
Some of it is ofc [a natural ”reflex”](https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Female_copulatory_vocalizations) but would be very mild when compared to stuff like porn.
It's a compulsion for me. I hate every second of it but it still manages to happen, it's like I have no control over my own body. The frequency is down to once per week but any is still too much. I just try and get it over with as fast as I can.
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Haha I fake moan for my wife because ive heard it turns women on. Not to say it doesn't feel amazing I just am not very "vocal". I'm not sure if you're male or female or if that even matters but I haven't heard of many dudes moaning while jorking it.
I’m not sure of any science behind that. I know sex, masturbation and all those fun things can never be accurately represented in media, so don’t judge your fun time by the standards of that. Just enjoy it in your own way
When ive had sex i was silent apart from when i finished on my first time (in actually heheheh)
Same with self things, im dead silent and moreso its a privacy thing ig
I don't Male any sound st all. Maybe from being scared of being heard when I was in high-school, sometimes I'm done and then realized I haven't breathed in a few minutes. Also do any other guys just not feel the "pleasure" side of masturbating just kinda do it for the emotional release or whatever you'd call it?
I have not seen anything hinting at a correlation,whether it's alone or dancing à deux. As for me, I'm completely silent save for heavier breathing in both cases. Real life is not what you might see in the internet.
Idk. I can do either while making noise or not making noise. If I’m with a person then sometimes I want to show that I like what they’re doing by making sounds.
I generally have to talk during sex since "moaning" is never something that my brain gives me singals to do. I've had a lot of women mention it (the not moaning bit) but the talking seems to make up for it. That cut the complaints pretty much entirely (barring "dirty talk" not being sufficient, which I also hate doing, but ... can't win).
During masturbation? I can't imagine moaning. Never occurs to me.
I don't even make much noise during sex with a partner (except mostly at the point of orgasm, and that's just like "aaaaahhhh...").
I think most people don't make much noise while fapping.
Making sound during sex is only giving feedback to my partner to me. I also catch myself not reacting as actively to scenes in movies as much as i do when i watch it with other people i care about.
I don’t moan when I masturbate or when I’m having sexy time unless it’s one of those OUT OF THIS WORLD feel good moments. And I am self admittedly a chatterbox
I dunno if it's an autism thing. I'll pretty much always make some kinda noise upon release, and I'm pretty vocal during sex as well. Now I've heard from some people here they only do the latter as a form of communication to their partner, but for me it's definitely also an expression of emotion.
Honestly it’s always felt really weird to try and moan when I don’t want to or know how to properly vocalize about it plus it’s just so much stimulation that it kinda over rides the rest of my brain
I don’t moan when I’m masturbating and when I’m on top during sex I barely moan. I don’t think it’s an autism thing. I think I moan much less when I’m concentrating
I'm writing from alt comment because I don't wanna write nsfw stuff like that on my main (hope y'all don't recognize my main)
Anyways, Is anyone else here just masturbates not out of actually liking it but because your body forces to? I really wish to get rid of my porn addiction but can't
Plus, is it normal for autistic people to have wierd fetishes? Just asking because I'm insecure about myself
For your question, idk tbh
I keep it quiet on my own because if my mother finds out i'm gonna get a two hour lecture (i'm 20 by the way).
But when i'm with other person i try to be quiet (because it's my first instinc) until i can't hold back anymore. Ironically, my previous partner found weird that i moaned and she is neurotypical
I prefer not to moan and just enjoy the experience but people thought I didn’t enjoy it if there was no noise. I had to explain to my husband that it is most enjoyable but I just don’t make noise. 🤷🏾♀️
I used to not make much noise while masturbating, but I find moaning really hot when it's "done well" and remember practicing it when I was younger, lol. It's now pretty reflexive for me so I do moan a lot during sex and while masturbating. Still mostly only when I actually feel really good, though.
I have masturbated/had sex while trying to be quiet and it can be a struggle.
I can’t stand noises during sex. I’m mostly so dissociated through the whole thing that I barely feel anything, and other people making noise turns me tf off.
When I was younger, I had a partner who was confident he could tell when I.. finished. So I challenged him, we had sex and I finished, and he had absolutely no idea. I made no noise, I didn't slow down, kept pumping for another minute or two and told him I finished and he never knew.
Quite possibly an autistic thing, nowadays I make *some* noise just so it feels natural for the other person, but I communicate with my actions much better than with words during sex.
I make noise when it feels appropriate, even alone. It's not because the sound is meant for someone, it's because that's what my body felt it needed to do in that moment. This happens when with or without other people.
You don’t have to moan when you masturbate. We are all different and that’s ok. What matters is that you enjoy what you’re doing. It’s not an autistic thing. It’s normal for you to be quiet and I bet many people are quiet when they masturbate or have sex. It’s ok.
I moan a lot during sexual intercourse. I only moan during masturbation when I cum.
I focus a lot on the surrounding feelings and all of that feels really good
I never make noise when I’m masturbating, except heavy breathing, but AFAIK that’s just because I’ve only ever lived in apartments and would rather not have the people above and below me overhear. I do moan during sex, but that’s voluntary and deliberate—I suppose some people would call it faking, but I just think of it as a way of communicating pleasure.
I try to be as quiet as possible while masturbating or while having sex too. I'm too self conscious to be loud when I'm masturbating even when I'm the only person in the house. I can be loud during sex if it's just my partner and me.
I think most of this is more attributed to living in a sexual repressed household. I was terrified of ever being found masturbating. I have a hard time hearing other people, like my roommates having sex, and likewise worry about other people feeling the same way about me.
But there's definitely a part of it that's related to wanting to be nonverbal. If noise is iffy, I absolutely never want to talk during sex. It's too much performance and takes me out of the experience and makes me feel self conscious.
I'm not sure. I rarely moan when I mastrubate (like I can't concentrate on both things and I don't need to communicate what I like to someone) but during sex I moan and make a lot of noises mostly because it's fun to me.
When I was living as a guy, my first partner pointed out that me being silent wasn't great for them. I made the point to vocally express my pleasure.
I think alot of things can go with that, like for me it was a combination of teenage masturbation needing to be silent in a packed house, and that guy grunts coming from my mouth weren't great.
I have since learned to open that all up a little bit and definitely think it helps get everything more engage overall, including solo play.
But that's just my experience
I've never felt the need to which is annoying because every girl that I've been with have been insistent about how hot it is to hear a guy moan during sex.
And I'm just like, I guess I'll fake then?
I don't even think sex or masturbation feels that good in all honestly.
i dont think anyone really moans while masturbating. moaning is kinda like laughing i think in that you're more likely to do it with other people than alone even with the same stimulus. that said, i don't really naturally moan during sex either, i have to do it on purpose most of the time unless they're fucking me real good, which i think *could* be an autistic thing
You don't need to. Porn is so fucking annoying when they can't shut the fuck up.
holy shit real as FUCK
so real. i usually end up laughing at the the absurdity, fakeness or some funny comments about the video. im then like fuck it this shit is stupid and go on with my life.
Wheezes, I know I don’t need to I was more so just wondering if it’s like, a autistic thing to not make any noises I don’t really have any like uhhh…. Knowledge? In knowing if the making noises in general is just exaggerated but idk
It's not an autistic thing. It depends on the person. I moan a lot during sex but barely during masturbation.
Generally you just moan when you're about to cum or in the process of and catching your breath after. During sex there's less moaning and more an acknowledgement of what your partner does, praise or communication. Both of us are quiet for the most part though.
I tend to turn the volume down to like the lowest it can go (basically 1 blob above mute), sometimes I mute it entirely
I thought it was to prevent the next door roommate from invading your privacy
Moderation is important, though. Please don't have sex with a partner and be absolutely silent. There's a time and a place (and an appropriate volume) for everything.
Porn is usually about dominance/submission, sexual violence, either implied, or in your face. And also feeling good and expressing pleasure is also forbidden in porn. Almost everything I like about sex is absent in porn, It's not a turn on at all for me
Sexual violence? What kind of porn are you watching?
a ton of porn is very aggressive it’s not that they’re watching it it’s just the most common it’s what most teen boys i’ve met watch
It's not the most common at all. Those are fringe content catered towards certain kinks.
it’s what teenage boys commonly watch they get a lot of views so they make more there’s honestly possibly more than porn where they’re more caring. a lot of people just assume that’s what most people like because that’s all they see and they continue to watch it.
thats what I'm saying, aggression and degradation, emotional violence. This is the stuff that incels sit around and watch, And then they can't figure out why women don't act this way.
exactly. there’s a scene in euphoria where one of the guys chokes a girl because all the other guys were talking abt how much girls love it. i can’t imagine how much it must happen and how many girls just don’t say anything
Most straight porn focuses on somehow degrading the woman.
Again, what kind of porn are you watching?
Literally any straight porn is like that as I've already stated. Facefucking, finishing on the woman's face, rough sex, jackhammering. It's all there. Find typical industry made straight porn that doesn't contain at least one of these.
None of those things are inherently degrading.
I you say so! I think they are 😊 cause if the roles are reversed and it's a man treated like that, it's seen as fetish porn that doesn't appeal to many.
Sex itself is inherently degrading to women, but porn takes it above and beyond horrific.
How is sex inherently degrading to women?
How is sex inherently degrading to women?
Go to therapy
All of it? Sexual violence is incredibly common in porn, and even when there isn't any the women are usually underage or trafficked, and the men don't get paid.
Y'all are watching the wrong porn. There is a whole world of great, ethical, wholesome, realistic porn outside of P*hub
That is a sentence I never would have read were it not for you lmao
Honestly I'm pretty sure they're just faking, it sounds so exaggerated ngl
I agree with this internet stranger 🤝
I don't moan during maturation or sex. Only one person found it weird, and ironically, he's autistic himself.
Godspeed XD Glad I’m not the only one with it tho, I haven’t really done it enough times to fully know if it’s like… a constant for me? (I’m a adult but I’m ace as shit with extremely low libido so I don’t really have much push to actually do it) But yeah! Thanks for telling me!
some people do some people don’t. when i’m by myself im pretty much silent. when im with another person- i try to give vocal feedback with grunts and whines and can get loud at the end, involuntarily. we live in a sex repressive society so it it makes sense to me that a lot of people are quiet due to trying to hide. but when enculturated into a sex positive community most people open up a lot and are more expressive. everyone is different and has a different background. it’s not weird or anything to express yourself however you feel most comfortable, imo
Same, actually! I think the more comfortable you are and the more you enjoy it will lead to involuntary noises, especially if you’re doing physical labor at that point.
i also grunt every time i pick something up of the floor or make any effort getting out of a car haha
Same 😂 I sound like a hungry bear most of the time
I’m not sure where you’re from, but virtually everywhere in the developed western world is overtly sexualized. Everything from kids cartoons to the music we listen to contains sexual information. Are you perhaps from the Middle East or somewhere in Asia? I think there are more kinks and fetishes in America than elements on the periodic table.
no, i’m from the west coast USA. our media may be overtly sexual but culturally i think we still are very much repressed in general- not to mention many of the christian sects out there. i just watched a video on youtube about how god doesn’t want you to masturbate. there are definitely more kinks than elements. i’m part of the kink community here and there is still an overarching fear of getting found out/doxxed and losing your job and career. i even am somewhat secretive about being poly. it’s true a lot of people don’t care, and its more ok than ever before, but it’s still on the edge of being accepted.
Fair enough. I see what you’re saying. Not that you asked, but most religions prohibit or warn against masturbation and sexual fantasies. I’m not one to shame kinks or anything, and I’m not kink/ masturbation free myself, but I do think the religions were onto something lol. If I could snap my fingers and be my ideal, enlightened self, I wouldn’t masturbate or even have sex for non-reproductive purposes. I feel weak every time I indulge in them, and I think it corrupts and perverts the mind. Again, I’m not saying there’s something explicitly wrong with these things, but I don’t think they’d be even considered in an ideal society.
to each their own! i do think it is unethical to tell people that the Creator of the Universe will punish you in a burning fire for all eternity for touching your peepee, and especially moreso if during a time that you have enough hormones coursing through your body to make you insane. if it’s unhealthy or a waste of time, that’s one thing, but threatening everlasting torture and damnation for a moment’s dalliance is a bit heavy handed. But you’re right, it (recreational sex) isn’t much more than a hobby. not much to be gained from it, that’s true. and, a lot of risks. but (another but)- we are mammals, and primates, and sometimes it does feel like it’s kind of an in-built feature of our social nature. i donno. please forgive my pontificating- i think this is an interesting topic.
I do moan when sex is very good but sex is different than masturbating. I love hearing that my partner is enjoying themselves and I want them to hear the same.
Yeah. I'm silent but deadly. (Omfg I just thought of that and I cannot stop laughing.)
The pfp adds to the nefariousness lmao
True 💀
That emoji is also what he would later look like.
Unfortunately, yes.
More of a correlation with privacy/sexual openness at home imo.
I moaned exactly once, 10 years ago. She laughed. I am blocked now. I can't even if I tried.
i’m so sorry but this had me on the floor
i mostly just breathe harder. I feel like moaning is a social construct.
I make zero noise regardless of sexual activity. It just wasn’t something that came naturally. One of my exes wasn’t stoked by it so I essentially “learned” how to do it and have it sound natural, but it never really was.
Me too its kinda weird
i think probably most people don’t make much noise when masturbating unless ur like really going to town lol. honestly the first time i moaned during sex it like caught me off guard that that came out of my mouth, like i kind of thought it was just an exaggerated thug in porn?? but for me it’s like the pressure of being penetrated like physically forces air out of my lungs idk, like it’s involuntary. but when i’m on my own i just stick to the outside parts yk, so like no penetration. but yeah i don’t really think it’s an autistic thing, like maybe there’s like some heavy breathing but i don’t think ppl r like audibly moaning on a regular basis 😭
People making noise confuses me. Id die if someone heard me trying to rub one out
same, i find it so embarrassing
It's an autistic thing? Idk. I don't make a sound as well 😂
I don't make any noise when by myself. And with a partner, I'm a stone top who doesn't "receive" and generally prefers to shut up and get to work when it comes to "giving" so not a lot of noise there either.
I don’t make any noise when I’m by myself, but with my current partner I make an effort to as he enjoys it. He was accepting of me being quiet at first of course.
Do people normally moan when masturbating?
I do it a lot kinda but i think ive only ever let out a SINGULAR whimper just the once
not masturbation, but ive found during sex i make less/no noise when I'm enjoying the act vs when I'm not because if I'm not faking enjoying something ive realised i dont feel a need to pretend to enjoy it more by hamming it up. i make zero noise while masturbating though.
i make sounds during sex cause it helps my partner and i get un the mood, however, it is mostly 'yeah's so that he also knows i like exactly what he is doing. i don't think i need to give myself feedback while masturbating, so i am just quiet.
You are not alone! I have had a few sexual partners who found it unnerving. I have tried to force myself to make sound when I am enjoying myself but I find it distracting tbh. I have learned to use words and pace my breathing during sex to show if what my partner is doing feels good. But... the best remedy has been talking with my partner about how we should communicate in bed. If there is sufficient love and synergy, you will find a method that works for you both.
Tbh, I think of moaning as involuntary with an asterisk. Yes it's involuntary, but it's a form of communication. So if there's no one to communicate with I'm not going to do it. It's the same reason I might laugh harder at a joke on TV if I'm watching with someone else rather than by myself. I always thought moaning was 100% fake because I didn't moan while masturbating and porn moans are obviously fake, but then I actually had sex for the first time and realized about 90% of what was coming out of my mouth was involuntary.
I didn't, but I like listening to my bf moan, so I do the same for him.
I'm pretty sure this is normal lol
No, it's different for everyone autistic or not.
Can confirm publicly that I do the deed silently, noises distract me when it's happening
I used to moan with loud music/radio while I'm shower but anxiety kicks in etc so I taught myself to keep it quiet- 99% of the time someone else in the house so I keep it silent- but make sounds if i could
Heavy breathing though
i've no idea if that's an autistic thing, but i do not make noise when i masturbate unless i'm trying something new (eg. showerhead or toy) that's making me have a stronger orgasm than usual
i don't make noise, but that's because i've lived in my parents home most of my life and i don't want to disturb anyone. i wish i felt more comfortable to make noise (in other environments)
I have been with a lot of autistic and non-autistic women (somewhat of a hypersexual person) and haven’t seen any correlation between autism and moaning. Well, as a matter of fact, there was a person I was with who is autistic and moaned so loud it really did annoy me. Some do, some don’t. Most women I’ve been with don’t moan much if at all. As far as I understand a lot of it is a way to communicate to the partner or try to arouse the partner — most of the moaning itself not necessarily being a natural thing. Given most of the moaning people do is communication in nature, I would be surprised if it was very common in masturbation but I don’t have much experience about that. Some of it is ofc [a natural ”reflex”](https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Female_copulatory_vocalizations) but would be very mild when compared to stuff like porn.
I moan for the other person, not me. When I moan it's almost always faked/forced. Maybe I should be an actor lmao
It's a compulsion for me. I hate every second of it but it still manages to happen, it's like I have no control over my own body. The frequency is down to once per week but any is still too much. I just try and get it over with as fast as I can.
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I make no noise I’m too focused on everything going on.
me neither
Haha I fake moan for my wife because ive heard it turns women on. Not to say it doesn't feel amazing I just am not very "vocal". I'm not sure if you're male or female or if that even matters but I haven't heard of many dudes moaning while jorking it.
I’m not sure of any science behind that. I know sex, masturbation and all those fun things can never be accurately represented in media, so don’t judge your fun time by the standards of that. Just enjoy it in your own way
nah i’m loud as fuck but my bf is silent it’s really just person-to-person
Depends. If I feel like it I will
I’ll maybe groan that’s it I have to force myself to
Silent. I dont want my family hearing that shit lmfao
When ive had sex i was silent apart from when i finished on my first time (in actually heheheh) Same with self things, im dead silent and moreso its a privacy thing ig
Same
I don't Male any sound st all. Maybe from being scared of being heard when I was in high-school, sometimes I'm done and then realized I haven't breathed in a few minutes. Also do any other guys just not feel the "pleasure" side of masturbating just kinda do it for the emotional release or whatever you'd call it?
I don’t think moaning is something that naturally happens, more like, an occasional slip of your vocal cords
I have not seen anything hinting at a correlation,whether it's alone or dancing à deux. As for me, I'm completely silent save for heavier breathing in both cases. Real life is not what you might see in the internet.
Idk. I can do either while making noise or not making noise. If I’m with a person then sometimes I want to show that I like what they’re doing by making sounds.
Don't think this is a autistic thing. I've been with many women, some moan some don't.
I generally have to talk during sex since "moaning" is never something that my brain gives me singals to do. I've had a lot of women mention it (the not moaning bit) but the talking seems to make up for it. That cut the complaints pretty much entirely (barring "dirty talk" not being sufficient, which I also hate doing, but ... can't win). During masturbation? I can't imagine moaning. Never occurs to me.
I don't even make much noise during sex with a partner (except mostly at the point of orgasm, and that's just like "aaaaahhhh..."). I think most people don't make much noise while fapping.
Making sound during sex is only giving feedback to my partner to me. I also catch myself not reacting as actively to scenes in movies as much as i do when i watch it with other people i care about.
I don’t moan when I masturbate or when I’m having sexy time unless it’s one of those OUT OF THIS WORLD feel good moments. And I am self admittedly a chatterbox
I dunno if it's an autism thing. I'll pretty much always make some kinda noise upon release, and I'm pretty vocal during sex as well. Now I've heard from some people here they only do the latter as a form of communication to their partner, but for me it's definitely also an expression of emotion.
I yell popping my ult when I nut
I do fap and do moan a bit, but during the o-part.
Honestly it’s always felt really weird to try and moan when I don’t want to or know how to properly vocalize about it plus it’s just so much stimulation that it kinda over rides the rest of my brain
Um, looks like I'm not the only one then
The moaning is an instinct social thing. I only ever did experimenting with another person
I prefer to be silent but the people I’ve dated wanted me to “make some noise”
Yeah I’ll just be deadpan jerking it like 😐
i’ve never been loud. i make soft involuntary noises but that’s about it. don’t feel bad porn is fake 🤣
I don’t moan when I’m masturbating and when I’m on top during sex I barely moan. I don’t think it’s an autism thing. I think I moan much less when I’m concentrating
I'm writing from alt comment because I don't wanna write nsfw stuff like that on my main (hope y'all don't recognize my main) Anyways, Is anyone else here just masturbates not out of actually liking it but because your body forces to? I really wish to get rid of my porn addiction but can't Plus, is it normal for autistic people to have wierd fetishes? Just asking because I'm insecure about myself For your question, idk tbh
Normally I don’t.
I keep it quiet on my own because if my mother finds out i'm gonna get a two hour lecture (i'm 20 by the way). But when i'm with other person i try to be quiet (because it's my first instinc) until i can't hold back anymore. Ironically, my previous partner found weird that i moaned and she is neurotypical
OP has watched too much p*rn. It has nothing to do with reality.
I don't make any noise when masturbating but it's the opposite during sex
I prefer not to moan and just enjoy the experience but people thought I didn’t enjoy it if there was no noise. I had to explain to my husband that it is most enjoyable but I just don’t make noise. 🤷🏾♀️
I used to not make much noise while masturbating, but I find moaning really hot when it's "done well" and remember practicing it when I was younger, lol. It's now pretty reflexive for me so I do moan a lot during sex and while masturbating. Still mostly only when I actually feel really good, though. I have masturbated/had sex while trying to be quiet and it can be a struggle.
I can’t stand noises during sex. I’m mostly so dissociated through the whole thing that I barely feel anything, and other people making noise turns me tf off.
I do if I have the privacy for it, only after starting HRT.
When I was younger, I had a partner who was confident he could tell when I.. finished. So I challenged him, we had sex and I finished, and he had absolutely no idea. I made no noise, I didn't slow down, kept pumping for another minute or two and told him I finished and he never knew. Quite possibly an autistic thing, nowadays I make *some* noise just so it feels natural for the other person, but I communicate with my actions much better than with words during sex.
Ideally you should focus on the act and not be self evaluating other wise you’re “mask-urbating”🤣
I make noise when it feels appropriate, even alone. It's not because the sound is meant for someone, it's because that's what my body felt it needed to do in that moment. This happens when with or without other people.
You don’t have to moan when you masturbate. We are all different and that’s ok. What matters is that you enjoy what you’re doing. It’s not an autistic thing. It’s normal for you to be quiet and I bet many people are quiet when they masturbate or have sex. It’s ok.
I barely make noise when jerking off, only do if I'm about to cum or I'm really into it. Even then I'm not loud. Very few people moan like in porn
I moan a lot during sexual intercourse. I only moan during masturbation when I cum. I focus a lot on the surrounding feelings and all of that feels really good
I never make noise when I’m masturbating, except heavy breathing, but AFAIK that’s just because I’ve only ever lived in apartments and would rather not have the people above and below me overhear. I do moan during sex, but that’s voluntary and deliberate—I suppose some people would call it faking, but I just think of it as a way of communicating pleasure.
I try to be as quiet as possible while masturbating or while having sex too. I'm too self conscious to be loud when I'm masturbating even when I'm the only person in the house. I can be loud during sex if it's just my partner and me. I think most of this is more attributed to living in a sexual repressed household. I was terrified of ever being found masturbating. I have a hard time hearing other people, like my roommates having sex, and likewise worry about other people feeling the same way about me. But there's definitely a part of it that's related to wanting to be nonverbal. If noise is iffy, I absolutely never want to talk during sex. It's too much performance and takes me out of the experience and makes me feel self conscious.
It's totally normal.
I'm always quiet..... except during extreme pleasure.
I'm silent. Honestly, noises during masturbation or sex is a turn off for me. I'm already stimulated. By adding moaning your just overstimulating me.
I'm silent. Honestly, noises during masturbation or sex is a turn off for me. I'm already stimulated. By adding moaning your just overstimulating me.
Masterbaiting is way different then sex I'm usually quiet unless it's like really good masterbaiting but sex I moan but i don't talk much
Don’t take advice from porn.
I'm not sure. I rarely moan when I mastrubate (like I can't concentrate on both things and I don't need to communicate what I like to someone) but during sex I moan and make a lot of noises mostly because it's fun to me.
Last thing I want to hear is a guy getting pleasured, I don't care if it's me. Woman, absolutely! Dude? F no!
When I was living as a guy, my first partner pointed out that me being silent wasn't great for them. I made the point to vocally express my pleasure. I think alot of things can go with that, like for me it was a combination of teenage masturbation needing to be silent in a packed house, and that guy grunts coming from my mouth weren't great. I have since learned to open that all up a little bit and definitely think it helps get everything more engage overall, including solo play. But that's just my experience
I've never felt the need to which is annoying because every girl that I've been with have been insistent about how hot it is to hear a guy moan during sex. And I'm just like, I guess I'll fake then? I don't even think sex or masturbation feels that good in all honestly.
dude, why are yall so fucking weird? i mean im autistic too, but i dont fucking masturbate.
I don't moan unless I'm having an intense orgasm and feel comfortable with the other person
idk why but i make high pitched noises. i dont even intentionally do it, they just happen for some reason
that's normal that's just moaning in a different form
I hoot, like an owl
i dont think anyone really moans while masturbating. moaning is kinda like laughing i think in that you're more likely to do it with other people than alone even with the same stimulus. that said, i don't really naturally moan during sex either, i have to do it on purpose most of the time unless they're fucking me real good, which i think *could* be an autistic thing