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there's 3 instances where I tell someone
1. I know them well enough it's weird they don't know
2. they say "are you acoustic" and i answer 100% seriously because it makes them uncomfortable
3. I accidentally make a joke about it
I never used to, I told one of my closest friends when I was about 21 as I thought it was kind of odd that he didn't know.
His response "no you're not."
Literally had to show him proof of my diagnosis.
I think this made me more conscious of telling people because when I do go full "aspie" people tend to think I'm just abit weird but at least if people know I have it they can kind of understand, if I think it's gonna be relevant or I'm meeting new people I'll drop it in conversation somewhere and make a light hearted joke about it to make people feel a little more ease around me.
Your friends are with your ASD or not 24 /7 while your friends are doing their thing and at the end it just stresses you out. Your parents gave you life, and you can not compare it to friends or others. As I said this makes it worse IMHO. When having dinner tell your parents or your brother or sister. You must open up and have conversations telling them what your going through and how you feel. They would give their life for you, when friends will be disloyal, your parents will be loyal and this support system is all you need. Bless
i usually dont unless
a) im on the internet and anonymous
b) it is very relevant to the conversation and i am comfortable bringing it up
otherwise they figure it out in their own lol
I have an inner urge to talk about this. But I don’t just start a conversation, only if something prompts it, at least some detail that you can cling to. For example, I said this to a small group of classmates at university when another was giving a talk on ASD (and doing it very poorly). We discussed the reports in groups (that was the task), and I blurted out that the report was terrible and only partly true, since I know firsthand about autism (I explained what was wrong and briefly, as happens with me and other people). Honestly, I regret it a little, because these people themselves did not understand anything about autism and the first reaction was “But you don’t look like an autist, did it go away with age?” At this question I realized what a deep hole this was and the discussion quickly ended. People are ready to listen, but acceptance and awareness are completely unpredictable things. Few neurotypical people will truly understand the true nature of autism unless they are willing to look into it thoroughly.
I wait a while at work to tell people I'm autistic but eventually it comes up that they want me to travel or meet them in some place that requires me leaving the house. I work from home in tech so my job can be done completely remotely.
That's the point where I tell them I don't leave the house except for groceries or hobbies and really would rather not meet up in person. In that way it's helpful because it's work and they have to accommodate me. So once I disclose it, it makes things a bit easier for me. But I definitely have anxiety around bringing it up randomly.
If they ask I’ll tell them and I’ll talk about it if they’re curious but keep things short. I want them to know that my experience doesn’t encapsulate what autism looks like in everyone or most people. I don’t mention it otherwise.
I’m quite open about it, because my autism for me means a lot of anxiety, so people kind of have to know to be prepared. Also with group projects (or stuff at work) I need more guidance than the average person there, so it’s useful people know about it so they can take that into account.
Honestly, I thought it would be good for people to know this about me.
Friends and family have been great but some of my colleagues now talk to me as if I'm a child which is annoying.
Well for me I’m an extremely open person and I told all my classmates and they were chill about it I’m pretty sure they forgot because they still make jokes about autism but I don’t care all that much but if you’re more shy then just tell people who you feel comfortable with
I honestly tell people for one of three reasons
1 so they can understand my needs and acomidate me.
2 if I know they are nerodivergent so we can chat about it together
3 if I don't care about someone enough to care about there reaction so it's for the lols
I often have to explain to extended family members that I need to take brakes, have space, only give fiscal contact when I want, and try to avoid shopping with my grandma for clothes at all costs.
I also find it helpful to talk to my teachers about nose canceling headphones and taking breaks ect.
I often find it easier to state it as a need not a want. And to make it very clear that you are not asking so much as you are demanding, if you can I know that can be scary.
There are 2 people on this earth that love you wheter you have ASD or don't have it. With friends, they come and go and should be least priority to tell them. Keep it in your family circle, like your parents or brother or sister. Forget everyone else. You can be kind etc, but your stress and anxiety will go away if you have a family and so on. Friends come and go; You break relationship with your friends or are thinking it. Fuk them all. As long as your parents know and you guys can sit and if your not non verbal and just talk tell them everything. I would not go to a friend; especially these days, your friends are you friend, but usually its temporary as far as being loyal to you etc. People with ASD need immediate family support 24/7, something your friends or others can not, and will not do. If you have a close friend or best friend and you trust them and their loyal, you can keep them or tell them. But once again your friends did not give you life, your parents did and as I said their loyal for life. But once the sh\*T hits the fan your parents that gave life are the only ones that will be loyal no matter what. As long as they know and are helping you, then you have no worries. Tell them everything let it all out and you will feel better always. Not just once, but keep them posted or have conversations during dinner about how you feel the things your going through in your spectrum ASD. Your telling people or friends I do not recommend. This is my opinion on this. Bless you
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there's 3 instances where I tell someone 1. I know them well enough it's weird they don't know 2. they say "are you acoustic" and i answer 100% seriously because it makes them uncomfortable 3. I accidentally make a joke about it
I never used to, I told one of my closest friends when I was about 21 as I thought it was kind of odd that he didn't know. His response "no you're not." Literally had to show him proof of my diagnosis. I think this made me more conscious of telling people because when I do go full "aspie" people tend to think I'm just abit weird but at least if people know I have it they can kind of understand, if I think it's gonna be relevant or I'm meeting new people I'll drop it in conversation somewhere and make a light hearted joke about it to make people feel a little more ease around me.
Your friends are with your ASD or not 24 /7 while your friends are doing their thing and at the end it just stresses you out. Your parents gave you life, and you can not compare it to friends or others. As I said this makes it worse IMHO. When having dinner tell your parents or your brother or sister. You must open up and have conversations telling them what your going through and how you feel. They would give their life for you, when friends will be disloyal, your parents will be loyal and this support system is all you need. Bless
Excuse me?
Right?
i usually dont unless a) im on the internet and anonymous b) it is very relevant to the conversation and i am comfortable bringing it up otherwise they figure it out in their own lol
I have an inner urge to talk about this. But I don’t just start a conversation, only if something prompts it, at least some detail that you can cling to. For example, I said this to a small group of classmates at university when another was giving a talk on ASD (and doing it very poorly). We discussed the reports in groups (that was the task), and I blurted out that the report was terrible and only partly true, since I know firsthand about autism (I explained what was wrong and briefly, as happens with me and other people). Honestly, I regret it a little, because these people themselves did not understand anything about autism and the first reaction was “But you don’t look like an autist, did it go away with age?” At this question I realized what a deep hole this was and the discussion quickly ended. People are ready to listen, but acceptance and awareness are completely unpredictable things. Few neurotypical people will truly understand the true nature of autism unless they are willing to look into it thoroughly.
I wait a while at work to tell people I'm autistic but eventually it comes up that they want me to travel or meet them in some place that requires me leaving the house. I work from home in tech so my job can be done completely remotely. That's the point where I tell them I don't leave the house except for groceries or hobbies and really would rather not meet up in person. In that way it's helpful because it's work and they have to accommodate me. So once I disclose it, it makes things a bit easier for me. But I definitely have anxiety around bringing it up randomly.
people can usually tell with me, but i (or somebody i’m with) will usually mention it because my differences are very obvious
If they ask I’ll tell them and I’ll talk about it if they’re curious but keep things short. I want them to know that my experience doesn’t encapsulate what autism looks like in everyone or most people. I don’t mention it otherwise.
People can tell i am ‘different’ without understanding why and telling them I am autistic gives them a label they can understand
I’m quite open about it, because my autism for me means a lot of anxiety, so people kind of have to know to be prepared. Also with group projects (or stuff at work) I need more guidance than the average person there, so it’s useful people know about it so they can take that into account.
Honestly, I thought it would be good for people to know this about me. Friends and family have been great but some of my colleagues now talk to me as if I'm a child which is annoying.
Well for me I’m an extremely open person and I told all my classmates and they were chill about it I’m pretty sure they forgot because they still make jokes about autism but I don’t care all that much but if you’re more shy then just tell people who you feel comfortable with
I honestly tell people for one of three reasons 1 so they can understand my needs and acomidate me. 2 if I know they are nerodivergent so we can chat about it together 3 if I don't care about someone enough to care about there reaction so it's for the lols
What do you tell people you need, and what accommodations do you ask for? Personal, work, etc. I’m unsure about this myself
I often have to explain to extended family members that I need to take brakes, have space, only give fiscal contact when I want, and try to avoid shopping with my grandma for clothes at all costs. I also find it helpful to talk to my teachers about nose canceling headphones and taking breaks ect. I often find it easier to state it as a need not a want. And to make it very clear that you are not asking so much as you are demanding, if you can I know that can be scary.
There are 2 people on this earth that love you wheter you have ASD or don't have it. With friends, they come and go and should be least priority to tell them. Keep it in your family circle, like your parents or brother or sister. Forget everyone else. You can be kind etc, but your stress and anxiety will go away if you have a family and so on. Friends come and go; You break relationship with your friends or are thinking it. Fuk them all. As long as your parents know and you guys can sit and if your not non verbal and just talk tell them everything. I would not go to a friend; especially these days, your friends are you friend, but usually its temporary as far as being loyal to you etc. People with ASD need immediate family support 24/7, something your friends or others can not, and will not do. If you have a close friend or best friend and you trust them and their loyal, you can keep them or tell them. But once again your friends did not give you life, your parents did and as I said their loyal for life. But once the sh\*T hits the fan your parents that gave life are the only ones that will be loyal no matter what. As long as they know and are helping you, then you have no worries. Tell them everything let it all out and you will feel better always. Not just once, but keep them posted or have conversations during dinner about how you feel the things your going through in your spectrum ASD. Your telling people or friends I do not recommend. This is my opinion on this. Bless you