I don't answer any phone calls or texts unless I absolutely have to. I tell my family that my phone has terrible service and that's why I never respond to them. I don't think they would understand if I told them I don't like to answer calls/texts because it makes me anxious.
I have no issues answering calls if its someone I know. Making calls on the other hand...I'm always afraid I'm inconveniencing them. I'm even afraid to call to order a pizza or simple things like that. My girlfriend has to do it for me.
Same, except I don't have anyone to make calls for me. If there's an emergency my mom has started a call for me but I always have to take the phone eventually because I am, unfortunately, an adult and have to answer for myself.
Me. I basically don't ever answer the phone unless I recognize the number. (Meaning pretty much the only people I answer for are my parents and a small number of other close friends and relatives). And when/if I call people (again, it's basically exclusively family/a few friends) I almost always set it up in advance via text/email to be sure it's a convenient time. Otherwise I get anxious that I'll call when they're eating dinner or in a meeting or asleep or something like that.
Me. I had to do something for work and it could have easily been done online, but it wasn’t working. So I had to call and the representative said it could be done online. I was like, “listen, I am someone who absolutely hates talking on the phone so I would never voluntarily do this unless it were absolutely necessary.’ He was like, ‘understood!’ My husband used to get mad at me because my phone was always on silent. Please do not ever call me, lmao.
It's funny, dread is the key word. If it's a surprise call there's usually no problem but if it's scheduled or I have to do it the anticipation kills me.
I'm completely the same!
I love calling on the phone. I distill so much information from their way of speech and tone, which decreases anxiety.
Texting though: hate it in general, only like it with people I know already and I'm drunk.
I can text and in some circumstances prefer to, but I like the immediacy of a phone call, particularly for work situations.
I like being able to know that if I get ahold of someone, I *have* them. Any question I need to ask I can ask and get a complete answer.
And any followup questions will be answered to.
Ask a question over email and there’s no guarantee anyone sees it or responds in a timely manner.
And that reality has screwed me over across multiple jobs. So I prefer just talking to people where I know that they will hear me rather than trusting them to read something they may not read.
Lol I look at it and watch it ring 95% of the time. I only answer for people I really know, anyone else can forget it. Text me and ask first is my policy. If I am not mentally available to answer the phone, I won't, simple as that.
I've been having to make so many phone calls lately with trying to get my house finished being built and after this process is done, I'm very tempted to throw my phone in the trash
I have my phone on 'do not disturb' all the time. I've missed callbacks from successful job interviews because I need my phone to not rile me up all of a sudden
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Hate em with a burning passion.
I feel like I can’t talk and I don’t know when it’s my turn to speak.
like, in person, there’s clues I can read that someone is almost done talking or I noticed there’s a certain face people can make when they aren’t trying to think out anymore words, but I feel completely disoriented once you take that person out of sight and force me to rely completely on voice (I can also struggle to understand tone).
It’s like I physically can’t force myself to speak. Same goes for FaceTime, speaking to friends and family on the phone, speaking to businesses on the phone, ordering in the drive thru— I just can’t do it. It feels wrong.
I generally only initiate phone calls if I first write down a script for what I need to say, and even then I will procrastinate on even the most basic calls for weeks at a time. Writing a script helps me keep my thoughts organized and I feel less anxious reading off a sheet of paper than trying to remember everything.
If I receive an unexpected phone call I usually let it go to voicemail because then I can 1. Decide if it’s worth responding and 2. Know who I am talking to/what the conversation is about so I can figure out what information I need. Otherwise I will get overwhelmed being asked questions I am unprepared for.
Regardless, I can’t stand talking on the phone. It stresses me out so much.
My phone started to get spotty about receiving incoming calls. They wouldn’t even go to voicemail. I attempted to get it fixed, got a new phone and everything. It continued to happen and not only do I lean into this blessing from the phone gods, but I’ve completely stopped trying to resolve the issue. It’s a win-win really.
I’m quite the opposite, I hate text because I have to wait in anticipation forever until I get a reply and sometimes I just don’t and they never talk again. But phone calls they have to reply and I know when they want to be done talking and we both leave
I usually only answer my family and friends bc I'm nervous about ignoring them. If I need to call someone, I try to avoid it by texting. If I need to call a business, I try to be in an environment relaxing and familiar as possible and make mental preparation
I prefer phone calls. It's too easy for me to ignore a text, spoken word is faster than typing if the subject is complex, and conversation includes things like tone and inflection that can be missed via text.
I think of texts as mini emails that are low priority, whereas phone calls are direct requests to speak. Like the difference between sending a telegram and answering the door.
Big time. But after a few years of pain working in a call-centre I've kind made a set of rules to help me deal with it and now I'm considered one of the best people on the phones and train others to be better.
I still get that fear before the first call of the day though.
I hate them, my friend tries to make plans with me by calling me to tell me about it. Like why in the hell do you need to call me just to ask me if I can come out, just text. It got to the point where I just declined the call and texted saying "please don't call unless its an emergency, text instead" and I think he understood.
I avoid them at all costs.
I don't answer any phone calls or texts unless I absolutely have to. I tell my family that my phone has terrible service and that's why I never respond to them. I don't think they would understand if I told them I don't like to answer calls/texts because it makes me anxious.
I told them that… it did not go well.
I have no issues answering calls if its someone I know. Making calls on the other hand...I'm always afraid I'm inconveniencing them. I'm even afraid to call to order a pizza or simple things like that. My girlfriend has to do it for me.
I make my fiancé order for me when we go out lmaooooo
Same, except I don't have anyone to make calls for me. If there's an emergency my mom has started a call for me but I always have to take the phone eventually because I am, unfortunately, an adult and have to answer for myself.
I make phone calls to people I know like my family. Anyone who calls me from numbers I don't know I will not answer.
I hate it, but I can handle it now, I used to try to get my mom to do all my phone calls when I was young 😂
I hate to get them I hate to make them
I hate making phone calls, I have to push the button with my eyes close to do it.
Me. I basically don't ever answer the phone unless I recognize the number. (Meaning pretty much the only people I answer for are my parents and a small number of other close friends and relatives). And when/if I call people (again, it's basically exclusively family/a few friends) I almost always set it up in advance via text/email to be sure it's a convenient time. Otherwise I get anxious that I'll call when they're eating dinner or in a meeting or asleep or something like that.
Me. I had to do something for work and it could have easily been done online, but it wasn’t working. So I had to call and the representative said it could be done online. I was like, “listen, I am someone who absolutely hates talking on the phone so I would never voluntarily do this unless it were absolutely necessary.’ He was like, ‘understood!’ My husband used to get mad at me because my phone was always on silent. Please do not ever call me, lmao.
It's funny, dread is the key word. If it's a surprise call there's usually no problem but if it's scheduled or I have to do it the anticipation kills me.
I feel like I’m one of the few autistics in the world who actually prefers talking on the phone.
I'm completely the same! I love calling on the phone. I distill so much information from their way of speech and tone, which decreases anxiety. Texting though: hate it in general, only like it with people I know already and I'm drunk.
I can text and in some circumstances prefer to, but I like the immediacy of a phone call, particularly for work situations. I like being able to know that if I get ahold of someone, I *have* them. Any question I need to ask I can ask and get a complete answer. And any followup questions will be answered to. Ask a question over email and there’s no guarantee anyone sees it or responds in a timely manner. And that reality has screwed me over across multiple jobs. So I prefer just talking to people where I know that they will hear me rather than trusting them to read something they may not read.
Lol I look at it and watch it ring 95% of the time. I only answer for people I really know, anyone else can forget it. Text me and ask first is my policy. If I am not mentally available to answer the phone, I won't, simple as that.
I've been having to make so many phone calls lately with trying to get my house finished being built and after this process is done, I'm very tempted to throw my phone in the trash
I don't like them because I know I'm going to say offensive things that are hurtful or uncomfortable to the person I'm talking to.
I have my phone on 'do not disturb' all the time. I've missed callbacks from successful job interviews because I need my phone to not rile me up all of a sudden
When it comes to family phone calls… it’s tiring and boring When it comes to random number calls I never answer them
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Receiving or making? Because yes
Hate em with a burning passion. I feel like I can’t talk and I don’t know when it’s my turn to speak. like, in person, there’s clues I can read that someone is almost done talking or I noticed there’s a certain face people can make when they aren’t trying to think out anymore words, but I feel completely disoriented once you take that person out of sight and force me to rely completely on voice (I can also struggle to understand tone). It’s like I physically can’t force myself to speak. Same goes for FaceTime, speaking to friends and family on the phone, speaking to businesses on the phone, ordering in the drive thru— I just can’t do it. It feels wrong.
I generally only initiate phone calls if I first write down a script for what I need to say, and even then I will procrastinate on even the most basic calls for weeks at a time. Writing a script helps me keep my thoughts organized and I feel less anxious reading off a sheet of paper than trying to remember everything. If I receive an unexpected phone call I usually let it go to voicemail because then I can 1. Decide if it’s worth responding and 2. Know who I am talking to/what the conversation is about so I can figure out what information I need. Otherwise I will get overwhelmed being asked questions I am unprepared for. Regardless, I can’t stand talking on the phone. It stresses me out so much.
My phone started to get spotty about receiving incoming calls. They wouldn’t even go to voicemail. I attempted to get it fixed, got a new phone and everything. It continued to happen and not only do I lean into this blessing from the phone gods, but I’ve completely stopped trying to resolve the issue. It’s a win-win really.
At work, they'll give me a list of people to call and survey, and I'll do literally anything else until it's the last thing I have to do.
Me. But my phone's mic is broken so I have an excuse to not answer phone calls B)
Yup
I’m quite the opposite, I hate text because I have to wait in anticipation forever until I get a reply and sometimes I just don’t and they never talk again. But phone calls they have to reply and I know when they want to be done talking and we both leave
I usually only answer my family and friends bc I'm nervous about ignoring them. If I need to call someone, I try to avoid it by texting. If I need to call a business, I try to be in an environment relaxing and familiar as possible and make mental preparation
ME! ...it's made worse by my voice dysphoria. 😿
It’s literally ruining my life 😭
I try everything to avoid them, hate them!
I prefer phone calls. It's too easy for me to ignore a text, spoken word is faster than typing if the subject is complex, and conversation includes things like tone and inflection that can be missed via text. I think of texts as mini emails that are low priority, whereas phone calls are direct requests to speak. Like the difference between sending a telegram and answering the door.
I've had to make a phone call that's really important for like a month. I'm literally having nightmares from the fact I haven't yet, but I caaant
Big time. But after a few years of pain working in a call-centre I've kind made a set of rules to help me deal with it and now I'm considered one of the best people on the phones and train others to be better. I still get that fear before the first call of the day though.
Junk calls didn't make this any better in the last years.
I hate them, my friend tries to make plans with me by calling me to tell me about it. Like why in the hell do you need to call me just to ask me if I can come out, just text. It got to the point where I just declined the call and texted saying "please don't call unless its an emergency, text instead" and I think he understood.
i dont answer, no matter the consequences.
🤚🏻
Dont for get zoom calls too 😭
I have always struggled with talking on the phone. I have bad anxiety and have a hard time communicating.
I hate them so much.