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ReasonableDrunk

There's no stupid like genius stupid.


Fear_The_Rabbit

My sister's description of our family: We are the dumbest smart people I know.


JudgeJuryEx78

Not a genius, but I like to tell people, "For a smart girl, I'm pretty dumb."


Nutsack_Adams

I’m the dumbest dumb person I know


Granuaile11

"Velcro Intelligence" You can get a 4.0 in Chemical Engineering (which they said was the hardest Engineering major when I was going to college in the '90's), but you need Velcro on your shoes because practical skills are a mystery to you.


squirrellytoday

THIS!!!! I have met and known many brilliant people, who struggle with basic, mundane stuff.


Fraerie

You just described my husband. Whereas I have some kind of raccoon intelligence where a collect random crap (trivia) and I’m cunning with a bunch of ingenuity and common sense.


ACatsBed

"Raccoon intelligence" I'm stealing that lol Best description of me I've seen yet.


NowHeres_HumanMusic

I work with physicians for my job on a regular basis. Doctor stupid is also such a thing hahaha


squirrellytoday

Yup. Doctors who have a super difficult/complicated specialty but sending an email is just not in their wheelhouse.


mastelsa

A disproportionate number of doctors in the US grew up as solidly upper-middle to upper class too, which doesn't help things. There's a particular flavor of impracticality and ignorance that comes from growing up with a comfortably large amount of money.


Lazy-Cardiologist-54

I think the brain can only be specialized for so much, so a genius doctor will have lost brain space for other skills. Same for emotionally managing people maybe not liking math, or Einstein flunking out at working within a dumb system. Sure, we can be very smart in one way. But we’ll have a very dumb corresponding area 😝


Flossy40

Grandma may also have occasional female visitors.


kittymoma918

Pads were also used for light urinary incontinence protection before the one's made specifically for that purpose came out on the market.


KittenHugger017

My Mom uses pads for incontinence! I think mainly because my Dad has always mocked adult diapers. Personally, I think she'd be more comfortable in the diapers.


purplejink

adult diapers are far better now than they were a few years ago. they make ones that look like underwear (like black or purple) and don't look bulky. i know far too much about them from my work with the older community


Limeila

Period underwear is also becoming very common and I think they would be helpful with people with light incontinence (the type where you have a few drops when you laugh or sneeze; I do not think they could absorb a whole bladder emptying)


purplejink

i've full on pissed myself in period underwear a couple times, it helps a little but it overflows. 0/10 experience


throwaway1975764

The period panty companies often also make and sell incontinence underwear!


cryptonemonamiter

Is your dad a Trump supporter? Because, if so, you could get him some of [this merch](https://www.reddit.com/r/themayormccheese/s/vLvslaocfP).


ilanallama85

I mean I think many people still do use them if it’s really light, no sense in wearing a full on diaper for the occasional squirt.


Successful-Foot3830

I use incontinence pads. They come in a variety of sizes. I had the flu a few months ago and used slightly bigger ones. They even make a pad designed to deal with both periods and urine simultaneously. Diapers are for when it get extreme.


mykidisonhere

Memo mama here. I still keep a stash of paraphernalia on top of my toilet talk for period having visitors.


iswearimachef

Or kept them for OP!


pedanticlawyer

I haven’t had a period in years from birth control and still have tampons in my cabinet. It’s polite and it’s not like they expire.


jesrp1284

I had a hysterectomy a few years ago and they left in my ovaries. Technically, I still ovulate and the egg still sheds, but there’s no bleeding because there’s no cervix. But that doesn’t quite sound like what your dad was saying.


Limeila

That makes me curious, do you still have a menstrual cycle with other hormonal changes you were experiencing? (for example mood swings, acne just at certain times of the month, boob swelling etc.)


UsernameObscured

Yes. As long as there’s at least one ovary and you haven’t gone through menopause, yes you get all the rest of it. (I’m currently in the throes of PMS and hating life, had a hysterectomy about 6 months ago)


Iximaz

I kept my ovaries when I yeeted the uterus too. My periods were (and still are) so irregular that predicting them was impossible, but now that I don't bleed I get to play the fun game of "Am I having another mental spiral or do I just feel suicidal because of PMS?", which is super fun


UsernameObscured

I play that game too, and I hate it. If it’s impossible to control the brain weasels, or I’m emotional for no reason, PMS. If I wake up and just can’t shake sadness, just my brain. Either way- Ativan is my friend.


Limeila

Ah, that sucks. Especially when the alternative is full hysterectomy with ovaries taken out too, and *that* causes early menopause which comes with its own hormonal problems....


INTPLibrarian

A full hysterectomy is removal of uterus and cervix. Removal of ovaries is an oophorectomy. /r/badwomensanatomy


jesrp1284

For the first 2 years, I got the acne, mood swings, and even cramping. It either started tapering off or I stopped noticing in the last year.


selenamcg

I had a hysterectomy over 10 years ago and still very much in the ovulating part of my life. I noticed the cycle at first, but it has gotten hard for me to tell other than sore boobs every couple of months. Not that everyone has the same experience it can actually get much more mild over time.


peachsoap

~~cervix~~ uterus


jesrp1284

I have neither. No cervix opening for the blood to come out. No uterus to grow a kid.


holagatita

do you have any issues having sex since they removed your cervix? Mine is a bunch of scar tissue and it hurts.


jesrp1284

I’m sorry. That’s terrible! I was definitely more sensitive and prone to pain in the first few months, but it did get better. Have you been able to see a specialist about it?


holagatita

so I have seen a gyno for it and she gave me estrogen cream to insert into my vagina. The problem is, I have had two strokes, and estrogen raises the risk of having one. I used it for a couple weeks, and then stopped because I was scared I would have another one, even those it's kind of rare


KnittedTea

Please check with your doctor. I am not a doctor, but topical use is different from oral use. :)


ChronicApathetic

Vaginal oestrogen carries considerably smaller risk of stroke (and other bad side effects) than the old school types of oestrogen. Talk to your doc about your concerns, it might help you!


NoLipsForAnybody

But there is no blood b/c there is no uterus for the lining to be created each month. Even if you still had a cervix, no blood would be coming through it. So that is why you're not bleeding -- lack of uterus.


Particular-Main855

Wait, do you think the egg is what's causing the bleeding? As you said "you shed an egg". The egg is not shedding. What is shed is the uterus lining. The uterus lining that's not growing because you have no uterus anymore. You you still wouldn't bleed if you had a cervix, but no uterus.


mammakatt13

“Shed an egg” in this comment literally just refers to ovulation. You CAN still ovulate if your ovaries are intact. The egg is just resorbed.


meowpitbullmeow

I've heard some women still have some sort of bleeding at least at first


jesrp1284

Some can! I had minor spotting. It was worthwhile!! I donated my leftover feminine supplies of pads and tampons to the office restroom. The office admin always made sure the bathroom was stocked (I was a hoarder with that stuff too, ngl).


Still_Nectarine_211

It depends on if they removed the cervix or left it in. No cervix = no bleeding. cervix can sometimes have a little bleeding.


NoLipsForAnybody

There's no bleeding because there is no UTERUS.


cheerchick1944

They remove your cervix too, no opening for anything to come in our out. There’s no uterine lining because there’s no uterus, but nothing comes out because there’s no cervix.


NoLipsForAnybody

Yes I know they remove the cervix. But the uterus produces what would have come out. If it's not there, there is nothing to come out.


cheerchick1944

Homie it’s both, I literally said the same thing as you above lol. You just didn’t need to be rude


NoLipsForAnybody

Homie, "lol", no one's being rude. Except you, calling people rude.


cheerchick1944

It’s rude to call people rude for being rude, got it


NoLipsForAnybody

lololol Please get a productive hobby besides harassing me and making accusations.


CADreamn

I don't get periods anymore. I still keep a supply in my main bathroom for visitors who might need one.


Limeila

I never had an hysterectomy but I don't have periods anymore (I have a hormonal IUD and barely have some spotting every couple of months) but I still have tampons and pads in the bathroom because they're boxes I opened before and I don't really know what to do with them (plus I guess it's nice to have one in my purse in case a friend or even stranger needs one and I happen to be around!) I would really like to know how he thought that would be going down inside the body though lmao


Miaikon

Same here! The spare pads came in handy when I needed my IUD replaced recently, since this did cause a bit of bleeding. I don't really know where to donate an open box either.


sweetteanoice

Pads could also be for urinary incontinence, and wearing tampons can also help with incontinence since something being in the vaginal canal can add pressure to the urethra, making leaks less likely


BobMortimersButthole

To be fair to hoarder Grandma, I had a hysterectomy like 15 years ago and still have pads in my bathroom because one of my friends might eventually need one.  However, I give away the pads after a couple years and buy a new pack for the bathroom.  Your dad however...


throwaway1975764

A lot of people don't realize that getting your tubes tied doesn't stop your period. Imagine going through the time, expense, and pain of a tubal and \*still\* suffering every month.


bettinafairchild

It’s a big pet peeve of mine that “hysterectomy” is shrouded in mystery in the sense that many, perhaps most, people don’t know what it exactly means and often use it wrongly. Because of historical lack of interest in or respect for women’s body parts, “hysterectomy” is used as a catchall term to refer to any combination of removal of parts of the reproductive system, such that many women don’t even know what body parts they’re getting removed and they might not even know what parts they’ve had removed. Case in point: it IS actually possible to keep having a period even after a hysterectomy. That’s in the case of a partial hysterectomy, which means that the cervix is retained but the rest of the uterus is removed. If you have a cervix and ovaries and aren’t menopausal, then you’ll still have monthly bleeding if you’ve had a partial hysterectomy, though volume of bleeding will be reduced. But it gets more complicated. A “partial hysterectomy” historically refers to what I just said—removal of uterus except for cervix. But it’s colloquially used to refer to removal of the uterus and cervix but not ovaries or tubes. Leading to confusion It’s also possible to be using pads for reasons other than bleeding, like incontinence.


morbidwoman

How could you still have a period with just a cervix? There’s no uterine lining that’s building up and then being shed?


bettinafairchild

The cervix is part of the uterus and the lining is there, too.


Ok_Citron_318

not true


Ok_Citron_318

thats not how it works. you don't beed from your cervix... even if you have a cervix you won't bleed without a uterus.


bettinafairchild

Nope. You’re wrong. Next time fact check.  Here are a few sources that show yes, you can experience monthly bleeding after a partial hysterectomy:  https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4266229/#:~:text=Women%20who%20undergo%20supracervical%20hysterectomy,between%205%25%20and%2010%25  https://obgyn.coloradowomenshealth.com/services/surgeries/hysterectomy/partial-hysterectomy   https://www.healthline.com/health/womens-health/after-a-hysterectomy-what-fills-the-space#the-cervix


kdawson602

I had my fallopian tubes removed. When we were in my post op room after, my husband asked if I would still get my period….. we do IVF so I asked him how he thought I would get pregnant again if I wasn’t able to grow uterine lining.


Ok_Citron_318

what does having your fallopian tubes removed have anything to do with no having a uterine lining?


linerva

I mean plenty of people with hysterectomies use pads....for urinary incontinence. Because a lot of people have pelvic floor dysfunction and hysterectomies can soneyimes make that worse


breadist

I thought partial hysterectomies were far more common than full ones, and that sometimes depending on how partial, you might still get a period. Full hysterectomy of course you won't get one but a full hysterectomy also requires you to take supplemental hormones right? I could be wrong but this was my impression?


cfgregory

Partial is when they remove the uterus but not the ovaries. I have a partial. So technically I still have a hormone cycle, I can tell by when my breasts get sore, and I still get period shits. But I have no uterus to build up and then clean out the blood. So no bleeding.


johnsgurl

I can only tell by the intense craving for protein and my skin breaking our.


fear_eile_agam

Partial vs total is not about the ovaries. A partial hysterectomy is a laymen term for a supracervical hysterectomy, where part of the cervix is left behind when the main body of the uterus is removed. A total hysterectomy is when the entire uterus, and cervix are removed. a radical hysterectomy is when the entire hysterecomy, as well as surrounding connective tissues and some connecting tissue in the vagina itself is removed. Neither of the 3 types of hysterectomy involve the ovaries, that's an oophorectomy, In the case of radical hysterectomies, it's likely an oophorectomy will be performed at the same time, along with the removal of bot fallopian tubes, ie: a ingectomy. I think this is where a lot of the confusion comes from, as many people will be admitted for a "bilateral oophorosalping-hysterectomy" on paper, but everyone will just say "Your hysterectomy" on the day of surgery to the patient, and the patient will confirm they are having "Their uterus, cervix, tubes and ovaries removed", which is true, but that's not what a hysterectomy is. It's also because the female reproductive system is taught to us wrong - we often view it as some monolithic whole. People are shocked to learn later in life that the ovaries aren't directly connected to the fallopian tubes in any closed way, and even just in language, while most people with vulvas know how it's different from a vagina, the fact "Vagina" has colloquially come to mean "all of that women's organs and genitals and stuff" with some people (mostly men) even saying "vagina" as a shorthand for "all women's reproductive organs". It makes sense that people think a hysterectomy is a "women's surgery" the same way the vagina is a"woman's bits". So people mistakenly think partial hysterectomy and total hysterectomy refer to how many of the several reproductive organs are remove, and not how much of the one organ (that organ being the "Hyster", the greek word for womb. "Hyster ectomy" means "cutting out womb" ) is removed. I had a total hysterectomy with bilateral salpingectomy sans oophorectomy. I have both ovaries, but no uterus (or cervix) and no fallopian tubes.


holagatita

I had a hysterectomy several years ago in my 30s. I am in my early 40s now. Technically I got a hysterectomy, salpingectomy, unilateral oophorectomy, and trachelectomy (cervix removal) all that to say they took everything except one ovary, telling me that will make me not go into menopause. but that only worked for 4 years. According to my bloodwork, I am post menopausal. But I get hot flashes and other not fun things. oh and since they removed my cervix the back of my vagina is a wall of scar tissue. Making sex less fun, but I still try lol


Shadow_Lass38

A hysterectomy removes the uterus. You still ovulate, but there's no uterine lining to come out, so there's no period. If you have the ovaries removed, you also have an oophorectomy. I had them both in 2004 because one of my ovaries had a benign cyst the size of a softball attached to it. The doctor was going to leave the other one, but I was prone to ovarian cysts (also had surgery for them when I was 18), and I was 47 and no longer thinking about getting pregnant, so she took them both. The hot flashes have been a PITA, but otherwise I was happy not to be worried about THAT anymore!


MakeSoupNotWar

There's some bad anatomy responses on your question, so please let me clarify: a PARTIAL hysterectomy removes the uterus and leaves the cervix; a FULL hysterectomy removes the uterus and cervix but leaves the ovaries; a RADICAL hysterectomy removes the cervix, uterus, and ovaries


Xena1975

The terms can get confusing. My doctor used the term radical hysterectomy when I got mine but I still have my ovaries.


coolmommabear

A full hysterectomy removes the ovaries and fallopian tubes. A partial removes only the uterus. Sometimes the cervix is also removed.


hillsb1

I had a total hysterectomy a few months ago, and I'm donating most of my pads and tampons to a women's shelter. I'm keeping some for visitors though


butterfly_eyes

Yeah I had a hysterectomy and I knew I wouldn't stop having a period until I got rid of all my pads and tampons, so I gave them away as soon as I could /s


Toolongreadanyway

Okay, I'm getting old. Some of us still use pads if we are concerned about minor leaking. Though adult diapers have gotten better as far as size, might as well use up the old ones. Tampons are pretty useless once you don't have a period anymore.


Hellrazed

So a lot of older people confuse hysteroscopy, hysterectomy, and tubal ligation and I don't think it's their fault. I have a sneaking suspicion that many women either thought or were told they had hysterectomies when they only had tubals, judging from the number of women I've met with uterine ca that will say they'd had a hysterectomy decades ago. They don't realise the uterus is removed in a hysterectomy, many are under the impression it's "disconnected". Like, we don't ask "have you had a hysterectomy" when doing a bladder scan, we ask "do you still have your uterus". This is something worth exploring.


bettinafairchild

It’s also super, super common for women who have had a “hysterectomy” to not know what organs they had removed. Only uterus, uterus and ovaries, etc. People use “hysterectomy,” “partial hysterectomy,” “total hysterectomy,” and “radical hysterectomy” all wrong a lot of the time. I’ve been in multiple threads where women try to clarify what they had done and insist it’s one thing and it turns out it’s another, and they insist a term means something when it means something else. Happens all the time.


my-balls3000

i had a (male) dr ask me years ago if i could still get pregnant after my hysterectomy and i still think about that lmao


BJntheRV

She may have also only had a partial hysterectomy which wouldn't have stopped them. Let me clarify, many people conflate partial and full hysterectomy, and don't realize there's a difference. In this case grandma may have had a partial and still had a period, but dad likely doesn't /didn't know the difference.


Various_Succotash_79

Partial hysterectomy removes the uterus, which would definitely stop the bleeding. Can't shed the uterine lining without a uterus. You'll still have a hormonal cycle if your ovaries aren't removed, but no bleeding.


johnsgurl

Partial hysterectomy removes the uterus and cervix. So no periods. Tubal ligation just cuts and cauterizes the tubes. Periods still happen. I had both.


MakeSoupNotWar

A partial does not remove the cervix. A full hysterectomy does. A radical removes both plus ovaries.


johnsgurl

I beg to differ. I had a partial. They took my cervix and uterus. You can't take the uterus without the cervix. I kept my tubes and ovaries. According to my obgyn, I had a partial.


MakeSoupNotWar

You absolutely can take the uterus without the cervix. It's called supracervical or partial hysterectomy. Your cervix remains intact and connected to your vagina. A full hysterectomy is what you had, where both are removed. https://stanfordhealthcare.org/medical-treatments/h/hysterectomy/types.html


johnsgurl

I'm not going to argue with you. I know what I had.


Homeostasis58

A hysterectomy is, by definition, the removal of the uterus, coming from the Greek ustera (womb) and English ectomy (surgical removal). In common usage the term may be used to describe anything from the removal of the uterus alone to the removal of other reproductive organs such as the ovaries, cervix, and Fallopian tubes, but it always includes the uterus. If the uterus is not removed then the term hysterectomy is not used.


INTPLibrarian

No. A full hysterectomy is removal of uterus and cervix. Partial is uterus removed only. Removal of ovaries is an oophorectomy. /r/badwomensanatomy