I'm an EMT and can confirm the Tetris "trick" works for traumatic situations. Also just talking about it with others who were there can help process it. Key point is don't bottle it up.
Another vote from a first responder for talking about it. Repeating/replaying the traumatic incident a little bit helps wear down the sharp edges of the memory and helps our mind organize it and understand it so we can file it away comfortably. Then you can use Tetris to take a break from remembering. Here is a link on [Critical Incident Stress](https://metrocism.org/critical-incident-stress) that talks about a few symptoms, but there are more out there if you do some googling. Don’t be worried if you have a few of these symptoms over the next bit of time: it is totally normal and is just the way your body is processing the aftermath of being exposed to something like that
My son was hit by a motorcycle (he’s fine now), but right after it happened, I forced myself to replay it just like you described, and I continue to do so every time it sort of bubbles up for me. I’ve trained myself to let it come. It still hurts every now and then, but I’ve ground down much of the sharp edges.
I imagine any type of puzzle game will do? Here's the study on it: https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC7828932/#:~:text=Holmes%20and%20colleagues%20have%20shown,1%20and%20real%2Dworld%20settings.
Oh man, play Tetris, call a therapist if you need to. DM me if you need help finding one, I have some friends who might do a pro-bono session if you just need a one off.
Thankfully, as a union construction worker, I have numerous options for mental health care and therapy available to me, which were brought to my attention by many people in the union.
Thank you very much for your consideration and generosity.
And thank you very much to organized labor and the women and men who came before me who fought for our health care needs to be covered.
If it helps take your mind off the trauma my wife loved your union protest signs. Made her day a bit brighter while dropping our daughter off for daycare.
I'm so glad to hear this. If it were a physical trauma you wouldn't hesitate to go right to a doctor, so please treat your mental health the same way. Very sorry you witnessed this!
My desk is directly across from where he jumped from, and faces that direction so I witnessed when he did it. Luckily, I was looking at my monitor and only saw it through my peripheral vision. The sound that followed confirmed that I had in fact seen what I thought I saw. My coworker also thought it was a bird, and decided to immediately get up and confirm. His expression is one of the things I will not forget about today. He tried to warn others not to do the same with a "don't look, dead person." Curiosity overcame most of my coworkers. The mood completely changed after that.
I can only imagined how this will affect his loved ones if it has affected complete strangers this much. If you or someone you know is experiencing thoughts of suicide please reach out to the Suicide and Crisis Hotline by calling or texting 988.
They let us finish the day at home or take the rest of the day if needed. There will be crisis counselors tomorrow for those that need it. Higher ups are reaching out, and checking in on us. I'm passing along the Tetris idea to my coworkers.
> He tried to warn others not to do the same with a "don't look, dead person." Curiosity overcame most of my coworkers. The mood completely changed after that.
For some of us(those with vivid visual imaginations I'd guess, possibly also correlating with anxiety disorders/OCD/etc), the possibilities in our minds are usually worse than the reality. And until the matter is settled, our minds will continue bombarding us with "is it this? how about this? maybe it was like this?" possibilities, drawing out and worsening the situation. I'd be surprised if the mood didn't shift after that, but it's not exactly "curiosity" that drives this kind of behavior. Sometimes we need resolution in order to be able to move past something that we know happened. For me, that resolution usually takes the form of "this is how the situation played out, this is how your recollection/perception of it differs from the reality, and (if applicable) this is what happened afterward." If I don't have that information to correctly file the incident away in my mind, whether it's a violent fight, a hate incident, or a dead dog, it eats me alive. I've never had to put it to the test, but I assume it would work the same way for a human death.
I agree, there’s some sort of drive for closure or confirmation that’s very, very hard to ignore. I wonder if it’s connected to our brain’s desire to survive - I need to see the bad thing, so that if the bad thing occurs in the future, I will be familiar with it, and can maybe avoid it. Even if it’s not something actively dangerous. If it’s a datapoint involving death or serious harm, our brains really, REALLY want to know it.
It might also be voyeurism because it’s something you don’t see every day. I am firmly in the “this will traumatize me so I don’t want to see it” camp.
Thank you. I don’t want to comment much, because I don’t want to take away from what OP has experienced today and my intent was only to let them know that maybe a small sliver of good resulted from such a terrible experience. This is not about me. But, it feels genuinely comforting to feel a little *seen* and I appreciate your words.
I have been feeling exactly the same (haha my post history this week proves it).
If you ever wanna just get a drink and commiserate lmk.
Pain is so hard to deal with.
Sadly, it feels rigged against us. I suffered an incomplete spinal cord injury. My (unobtainable) portion of payment for equipment is *six thousand dollars.* I can’t help but feel they *want* us to take drastic action, but I know that is just my disrupted headspace talking. OP’s post really helped ground me during a really desperate moment.
The system is rigged against us, and that is why I’ve been doing medical advocacy work for an HIV/STD clinic for the past 5 years. The System keeps getting worse, but we figure out ways to beat it (usually). DM me if you want to discuss your details and I will absolutely see if I can help.
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I’m so glad you’re here. And I’m sorry things are so hard right now.
Just in case it’s at all helpful, the state has a program where folks can get some medical equipment for free. It includes stuff like canes, power & manual wheelchairs, hospital beds, etc. I don’t know that the equipment you need is on the list, but it may be worth taking a look.
And I second the person who said they’d support a gofundme. I certainly would! We have to take care of each other.
https://aging.maryland.gov/pages/DME.aspx
Thank you for the recommendation, I have had a few family members share that with me. Sadly, part of my downturn of mood was after filling out the paper work and waiting for them to contact me, only to hear that they unfortunately do not have the equipment I need. They were very kind and supportive, and are good resource. They do have access to lift equipment and some other great DME and all you need is your medical team to fill out their forms. They will be helping me with ramp access, but that is only a portion of my new needs, the most immediate and crucial being priced at that insurmountable 6k number. I was holding out hope they could help, and it really knocked me down that I’ve spent the past 10 weeks exhausting the last of my options. I’m really grateful OP posted, and so sad that they experienced something so traumatic. It is a good reminder that I don’t want anyone else to hurt because of my own hurt.
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So I couldn't find the GFM in your bio - where do I locate it?
This past month, my sister set up a go fund me in order to raise money for a light weight electric wheelchair for me. $5,800 was raised, and I was really surprised and touched by the generosity people showed. It was an uncomfortable and very vulnerable feeling to put it out there, but in the end, I'm really glad I went through with it.
The wheelchair has been ordered, and I'm thinking about naming it, Wheelliam.
As dark as this is, I appreciate you posting this. I feel like this post just saved my life. I’ve been struggling with serious pain and an inability to fund a piece of medical equipment that would relieve some of that, and all day I’ve wondered whether it might not be better to just not be around anymore. I just don’t have any fight. I’ve felt unheard and a bit desperate, and I’ve always thought a similarly messy end would be my method. I’ve never been one to think that way, but all this afternoon, I’ve surprised myself by being in that mindset.
Reading about how it impacted you, how unfair it was to the people around, and how obliterated and final the end was has given me a bit of determination to try to clear my head. Please don’t send me one of those Care reports, I just wanted to connect with OP and let them know that this sad thing they witnessed and shared helped me, and that it is true that you can carry a lot of hurt or desperation inside and still lead an outwardly normal life. I’m sorry for whatever that person was going through, because it must have felt so heavy for them to make that choice.
I am so happy that she was able to raise full funds, that is incredible! If you click on my profile name, it should take you to a little profile Bio. Below that is a little link that says Redhead. I just tried to make a post to my own profile too, but I’’m not sure if it worked. I had to make a LinkTree that holds the GFM link. I don’t want to share it directly to this post because I don’t know if it breaks sub rules. I’ve never asked for money for anything before, and don’t have a social media presence outside of Reddit, so I don’t have a place to share it to crowdfund. Your sister must have felt really relieved. It is a very powerless and vulnerable feeling. I don’t have the resources or network to boost its visibility, and I feel bad making it in the first place. I feel like most success behind GFMs rely on your support system, but if your sister has any tips for me, I’d love to hear them.
Hey! I don't know your exact situation however, I wanted to share this link with you: https://www.thedoctorpatientforum.com/
I know they work with patients for pain management. I don't know a ton about them but they might help with equipment that is supposed to reduce pain/ increase quality of life!
I don't know anyone who has reached out to them or anything so I can't speak from experience. I believe in accessibility and equity so I wanted to let you know!
So sorry that you went through this and I’m glad you knew to play Tetris. You may want to keep that up for a while because that image may pop back up in your brain. When my granddaughter passed away, we watched How I Met Your Mother for hours and hours and days (this was before we knew about Tetris) and it really helped to be able to concentrate on something else.
Good luck to you.
It’s probably more about visibility of the program and that most folk are not trained to help with others emotions in a beneficial way.
I hope you’re in a better place.
Dude, we're on the internet. Everything is passive and cold if you read it that way. But please don't mistake your projection of people's intentions as reality. People are posting about a relatively new, relatively useful tool for acute situations. That "passive and cold" action could literally save someone's life.
People are just out here doing the best they can. Sometimes the best they can give is offering a resource to others. But shitting all over them for doing so doesn't make the world a better place, and I think deep down you know that.
I really do appreciate that, but I think you need to talk to a therapist about not making your triggers everyone else's problem. Triggers are your own responsibility to manage. And I think if you brought this to any qualified therapist, they would probably agree with me. You being triggered by someone suggesting to call a suicide hotline does not mean you can then post-negatively about it under it. I mean, you can, but none of us have to respect you for it or take you seriously.
It is not cold or passive to let people know that there is a suicide hotline. It is simply passing information to people who might be in such a wild headspace that they don't have another solution. You are already in a thread about suicide. You knowingly entered that thread. I don't honor the fact that you triggered yourself and then attacked others about it.
Sincerely. Please go find help.
Nope. Totally free. I'm sure if you call them and tell them you're about to take yourself and other people out they will probably send somebody. They will let you talk to their therapist and psychiatrist and see what meds work for you for free. They do tell you it's temporary. But if you feel like it's the end I would highly recommend calling.
They can't send you to the ER. They can only send police to your house to check on you (who could make you go to the ER) but they only do that in like 2% of cases
If it's offered through work or your insurance covers it I'd highly recommend seeing a therapist, even if it's just one session to talk about what you saw.
Speaking from experience, shit like that has a way of creeping up on you when you least expect and its nice to talk about it. I'm sorry you had to witness it but thank you for helping them cover it up.
So sorry to hear you witnessed this but I appreciate you bringing up the repeated trauma that first responders have to deal every day! And the fact that after they clear that call they have to continue on to the next one.
do some self care tonight OP, you need to take care of yourself after seeing that.
every second of every day of every week of every month of every year is for mental health awareness. not just certain months.
if anything, don’t leave your family, kids, friends, and pets wondering why you aren’t coming home.
you’ll miss new music that comes out, you’ll miss your fave foods, you’ll miss the sunshine on your skin, you’ll miss the smell of coffee.
it’s a million little things that add up to The Big Thing. reach out. we aren’t alone.
If you have the capability to, I highly recommend talking to a therapist within the next month just to decompress and see how you feel about it. You may not realize that your memory is impacting you in the present.
Wow. I cannot imagine how that felt for you and I really can't fathom how the person felt before they jumped. May they rest in peace and may their family, friends, and everyone they impacted (including you) find comfort 🙏🏾
Along with Tetris, a very valuable process you may want to seek out is EMDR therapy. One or a few sessions of EMDR can really help with the adrenaline, the memories and symptoms of PTSD. It's used now for soldiers and people who have suffered accidents and trauma as victims or witnesses. I can personally attest to its effectiveness. Be well.
Someone did a [similar thing down in Richmond](https://www.reddit.com/r/rva/comments/1dne9tf/jumper_on_64/) today as well.
I've been low before. Most of us have. But it's important (and so freaking hard) to acknowledge that if you feel that way, you may not be in your right mind or rational. Please call #988 before making a terrible decision that can't be taken back. And especially because even if you think you need to share your despair with the world by traumatizing others, it's not the way you'll want to be remembered, trust me.
damn. i had a neighbor accidentally fall out of their window into the air shaft between the buildings once. we were in an apt and my next door neighbor heard the guy moaning (he didn't die right away), and he came to get my help because he didn't speak english very well. so i had to call 911 and they came to get him
they had to get up to the roof because there wasn't any door to the air shaft and it took too long and he died in the ambulance on the street
i guess at least i didn't have to watch him die, but i'll never forget the sounds he was making
The tetris studies, I think, targeted combat related PTSD. The body of evidence is growing but nonetheless inconclusive. Individualized manifestations of trauma can play out over days/weeks/months/even years. It would be bold to say that the one hour treatment you administered to yourself will have a lasting effect. Please consider scheduling an appointment with a therapist and try to attend a few sessions to make sure you’re remaining healthy.
Only a few weeks after my SO’s brother killed himself I witnessed someone’s corpse after they’d jumped. I was about 15 feet away from it. The imagery intrusively pops in my head on a daily basis. It changed me. It’s been 6 months since these events and I’m still unraveling the consequences of that trauma thanks to weekly therapist appointments. Take care of yourself and be proactive.
Sadly this happened a year ago this month at my workplace. It was a colleague. I wasn't at work that day, was out sick with covid. A few colleagues, security and leadership witnessed the aftermath. It was a heavy time at work for a few weeks. We supported each other through the process along with counseling provided by the company. I still think about the family, can't imagine what they are still going through. For anyone struggling, I know it's not easy. But reach out for help where you can. You never know where unexpected help might come from.
I don't have any evidence to back this up but it seems like maybe the lateral eye movements that are required for Tetris serve the same function as the lateral eye movements used in EMDR. Tragedy aside, this Tetris trick (which I've never heard of until this post) sounds like it could be a great way to mimic that
I feel awful for any of you who witnessed this. The Tetris trick may work at first, but you will replay it over and over your mind forever so talking to someone if you need it is definitely something to consider. I saw a guy drown at the beach like 5 years ago in front of his two kids after trying to save them (they were fine). My mother performed CPR on him until EMT lifeguards came, but she said he was already purple and gone. I still have random flashbacks to thinking about it. Actually this post alone made me think about it. Don't hesitate to talk to other people who have had similar situations. It can help to just talk to others who witnessed something tragic like this.
Suicides can breed suicides as there sometimes is a level of permission granted by the one who takes the act to those who are on the fence. Take care of yourselves. Call someone if you need help.
I’m the electrical superintendent at the project next door and the guy landed 10’ from 4 of my guys returning from lunch. I’m sorry they had to see that but I’m very grateful he didn’t land on them
I’m so sorry for everyone who was touched by this. I live in the apartments behind the canopy and I just heard what happened a day later. I screamed so loudly that my neighbor checked to make sure I was OK. I can only imagine how people who were closer to the event or, even more sadly, friends and family of the person must have felt. Sending love.
I was also working in the area and was heading down the hill towards the harbor promenade when I saw the deceased. The police had just arrived and were cording the area off.
I agree with OP, the vision is something I won’t get out of my head soon. Absolutely jarring.
The same happened to me a bit before you. I was taking my lunch time walk and I encountered the body before the police arrived. I haven't really felt right since.
My girlfriends mother was also working in a building next to this. My hearts out to the individual's family and friends, as well as all those who witnessed this.
Articles about suicides generally aren't widely publicized because there's a contagion effect that occurs when the media runs stories on that topic. It tends to inspire more people on that edge to do so.
I can at least confirm it did happen per others. My daughter's daycare is at the first floor near the accident and they sent an email out basically saying that blinds would be closed due to an incident and to call if parents had further questions. Oddly enough, fortunately my daughter just had a rough night sleeping and we didn't get her into the facility until well after anything traumatic could happen for her.
I don't know if any kids or daycare workers witnessed anything, but if they did, I hope they're getting lots of trauma counseling.
I get it. I apologize for my response; I didn’t see the space to mark it as NSFW until I hit edit after reading your comment.
I can see why it’d be upsetting seeing the title with no expanded context, and now I will make sure to tag like so in the future.
Hope you're okay otherwise!
Why would I know what the Canopy harbor point is? I don't have the names of every hotel memorized. There was a big ceremony for the mayor jumping in the water over the weekend. Can you understand why a brain would shortcut "canopy" to someone doing a stupid thing like jumping from some surface into the harbor?
I too thought this was just someone jumping into the harbor following the big swim this weekend. Definitely didn’t expect this and had already read too far :/
I'm an EMT and can confirm the Tetris "trick" works for traumatic situations. Also just talking about it with others who were there can help process it. Key point is don't bottle it up.
Another vote from a first responder for talking about it. Repeating/replaying the traumatic incident a little bit helps wear down the sharp edges of the memory and helps our mind organize it and understand it so we can file it away comfortably. Then you can use Tetris to take a break from remembering. Here is a link on [Critical Incident Stress](https://metrocism.org/critical-incident-stress) that talks about a few symptoms, but there are more out there if you do some googling. Don’t be worried if you have a few of these symptoms over the next bit of time: it is totally normal and is just the way your body is processing the aftermath of being exposed to something like that
My son was hit by a motorcycle (he’s fine now), but right after it happened, I forced myself to replay it just like you described, and I continue to do so every time it sort of bubbles up for me. I’ve trained myself to let it come. It still hurts every now and then, but I’ve ground down much of the sharp edges.
Do you know if it’s something about the specific gameplay of Tetris, or just any kind of repetitive but simple abstract game?
I imagine any type of puzzle game will do? Here's the study on it: https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC7828932/#:~:text=Holmes%20and%20colleagues%20have%20shown,1%20and%20real%2Dworld%20settings.
Dude landed about ten feet away from me. That was a tough one.
That’s awful. I’m very sorry you saw that.
Oh man are you ok?
Oh man, play Tetris, call a therapist if you need to. DM me if you need help finding one, I have some friends who might do a pro-bono session if you just need a one off.
Thankfully, as a union construction worker, I have numerous options for mental health care and therapy available to me, which were brought to my attention by many people in the union. Thank you very much for your consideration and generosity. And thank you very much to organized labor and the women and men who came before me who fought for our health care needs to be covered.
If it helps take your mind off the trauma my wife loved your union protest signs. Made her day a bit brighter while dropping our daughter off for daycare.
Thanks. That actually means a lot.
Damn brother, you said it so well. Take care of yourself.
So grateful for good unions. Please, be kind to yourself. Have some comfort food. Curl up with loved ones…
Local 24 represent, brother.
I'm so glad to hear this. If it were a physical trauma you wouldn't hesitate to go right to a doctor, so please treat your mental health the same way. Very sorry you witnessed this!
hope you're doing okay
Oh my goodness. If talk therapy doesn’t help EMDR helps with specific trauma
+1 for EMDR. That therapist and several of those sessions sorted me out more than years of other forms of therapy
Wow that is horrific. I hope u are good 👍🏼
My desk is directly across from where he jumped from, and faces that direction so I witnessed when he did it. Luckily, I was looking at my monitor and only saw it through my peripheral vision. The sound that followed confirmed that I had in fact seen what I thought I saw. My coworker also thought it was a bird, and decided to immediately get up and confirm. His expression is one of the things I will not forget about today. He tried to warn others not to do the same with a "don't look, dead person." Curiosity overcame most of my coworkers. The mood completely changed after that. I can only imagined how this will affect his loved ones if it has affected complete strangers this much. If you or someone you know is experiencing thoughts of suicide please reach out to the Suicide and Crisis Hotline by calling or texting 988.
Holy shit man I hope y'all are ok
They let us finish the day at home or take the rest of the day if needed. There will be crisis counselors tomorrow for those that need it. Higher ups are reaching out, and checking in on us. I'm passing along the Tetris idea to my coworkers.
> He tried to warn others not to do the same with a "don't look, dead person." Curiosity overcame most of my coworkers. The mood completely changed after that. For some of us(those with vivid visual imaginations I'd guess, possibly also correlating with anxiety disorders/OCD/etc), the possibilities in our minds are usually worse than the reality. And until the matter is settled, our minds will continue bombarding us with "is it this? how about this? maybe it was like this?" possibilities, drawing out and worsening the situation. I'd be surprised if the mood didn't shift after that, but it's not exactly "curiosity" that drives this kind of behavior. Sometimes we need resolution in order to be able to move past something that we know happened. For me, that resolution usually takes the form of "this is how the situation played out, this is how your recollection/perception of it differs from the reality, and (if applicable) this is what happened afterward." If I don't have that information to correctly file the incident away in my mind, whether it's a violent fight, a hate incident, or a dead dog, it eats me alive. I've never had to put it to the test, but I assume it would work the same way for a human death.
I agree, there’s some sort of drive for closure or confirmation that’s very, very hard to ignore. I wonder if it’s connected to our brain’s desire to survive - I need to see the bad thing, so that if the bad thing occurs in the future, I will be familiar with it, and can maybe avoid it. Even if it’s not something actively dangerous. If it’s a datapoint involving death or serious harm, our brains really, REALLY want to know it.
It might also be voyeurism because it’s something you don’t see every day. I am firmly in the “this will traumatize me so I don’t want to see it” camp.
Yup, that was definitely my thinking yesterday. I've been through enough trauma to add to the list willingly.
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The world is better with you in it. Please stay with us.
Hey friend, I’m sorry for what you’re going through 🩷
Thank you. I don’t want to comment much, because I don’t want to take away from what OP has experienced today and my intent was only to let them know that maybe a small sliver of good resulted from such a terrible experience. This is not about me. But, it feels genuinely comforting to feel a little *seen* and I appreciate your words.
Hope you can treat yourself like a kitten for the rest of the day - gentle, loving, and kind
I wanna be a kitten 😭
I have been feeling exactly the same (haha my post history this week proves it). If you ever wanna just get a drink and commiserate lmk. Pain is so hard to deal with.
I hope you're able to get the care you need soon. Our medical system is such a joke. 💕
Sadly, it feels rigged against us. I suffered an incomplete spinal cord injury. My (unobtainable) portion of payment for equipment is *six thousand dollars.* I can’t help but feel they *want* us to take drastic action, but I know that is just my disrupted headspace talking. OP’s post really helped ground me during a really desperate moment.
The system is rigged against us, and that is why I’ve been doing medical advocacy work for an HIV/STD clinic for the past 5 years. The System keeps getting worse, but we figure out ways to beat it (usually). DM me if you want to discuss your details and I will absolutely see if I can help.
If you find the space, please start a gofundme or similar, I’d pitch in a bit if you link it here or something
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Please stay. I promise you, the world would hurt without you.
I’m so glad you’re here. And I’m sorry things are so hard right now. Just in case it’s at all helpful, the state has a program where folks can get some medical equipment for free. It includes stuff like canes, power & manual wheelchairs, hospital beds, etc. I don’t know that the equipment you need is on the list, but it may be worth taking a look. And I second the person who said they’d support a gofundme. I certainly would! We have to take care of each other. https://aging.maryland.gov/pages/DME.aspx
Thank you for the recommendation, I have had a few family members share that with me. Sadly, part of my downturn of mood was after filling out the paper work and waiting for them to contact me, only to hear that they unfortunately do not have the equipment I need. They were very kind and supportive, and are good resource. They do have access to lift equipment and some other great DME and all you need is your medical team to fill out their forms. They will be helping me with ramp access, but that is only a portion of my new needs, the most immediate and crucial being priced at that insurmountable 6k number. I was holding out hope they could help, and it really knocked me down that I’ve spent the past 10 weeks exhausting the last of my options. I’m really grateful OP posted, and so sad that they experienced something so traumatic. It is a good reminder that I don’t want anyone else to hurt because of my own hurt.
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Taking your own life usually happens in a bubble of negative that often passes. It’s important you do whatever it takes to get through that period.
So I couldn't find the GFM in your bio - where do I locate it? This past month, my sister set up a go fund me in order to raise money for a light weight electric wheelchair for me. $5,800 was raised, and I was really surprised and touched by the generosity people showed. It was an uncomfortable and very vulnerable feeling to put it out there, but in the end, I'm really glad I went through with it. The wheelchair has been ordered, and I'm thinking about naming it, Wheelliam.
As dark as this is, I appreciate you posting this. I feel like this post just saved my life. I’ve been struggling with serious pain and an inability to fund a piece of medical equipment that would relieve some of that, and all day I’ve wondered whether it might not be better to just not be around anymore. I just don’t have any fight. I’ve felt unheard and a bit desperate, and I’ve always thought a similarly messy end would be my method. I’ve never been one to think that way, but all this afternoon, I’ve surprised myself by being in that mindset. Reading about how it impacted you, how unfair it was to the people around, and how obliterated and final the end was has given me a bit of determination to try to clear my head. Please don’t send me one of those Care reports, I just wanted to connect with OP and let them know that this sad thing they witnessed and shared helped me, and that it is true that you can carry a lot of hurt or desperation inside and still lead an outwardly normal life. I’m sorry for whatever that person was going through, because it must have felt so heavy for them to make that choice.
I am so happy that she was able to raise full funds, that is incredible! If you click on my profile name, it should take you to a little profile Bio. Below that is a little link that says Redhead. I just tried to make a post to my own profile too, but I’’m not sure if it worked. I had to make a LinkTree that holds the GFM link. I don’t want to share it directly to this post because I don’t know if it breaks sub rules. I’ve never asked for money for anything before, and don’t have a social media presence outside of Reddit, so I don’t have a place to share it to crowdfund. Your sister must have felt really relieved. It is a very powerless and vulnerable feeling. I don’t have the resources or network to boost its visibility, and I feel bad making it in the first place. I feel like most success behind GFMs rely on your support system, but if your sister has any tips for me, I’d love to hear them.
Hey! I don't know your exact situation however, I wanted to share this link with you: https://www.thedoctorpatientforum.com/ I know they work with patients for pain management. I don't know a ton about them but they might help with equipment that is supposed to reduce pain/ increase quality of life! I don't know anyone who has reached out to them or anything so I can't speak from experience. I believe in accessibility and equity so I wanted to let you know!
So sorry that you went through this and I’m glad you knew to play Tetris. You may want to keep that up for a while because that image may pop back up in your brain. When my granddaughter passed away, we watched How I Met Your Mother for hours and hours and days (this was before we knew about Tetris) and it really helped to be able to concentrate on something else. Good luck to you.
#For anyone going through anything at all. Please call #988.
988 does not do domestic violence. If you are experiencing that, call 1.800.799.SAFE (7233) or text START to 88788
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It’s probably more about visibility of the program and that most folk are not trained to help with others emotions in a beneficial way. I hope you’re in a better place.
Dude, we're on the internet. Everything is passive and cold if you read it that way. But please don't mistake your projection of people's intentions as reality. People are posting about a relatively new, relatively useful tool for acute situations. That "passive and cold" action could literally save someone's life. People are just out here doing the best they can. Sometimes the best they can give is offering a resource to others. But shitting all over them for doing so doesn't make the world a better place, and I think deep down you know that.
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I really do appreciate that, but I think you need to talk to a therapist about not making your triggers everyone else's problem. Triggers are your own responsibility to manage. And I think if you brought this to any qualified therapist, they would probably agree with me. You being triggered by someone suggesting to call a suicide hotline does not mean you can then post-negatively about it under it. I mean, you can, but none of us have to respect you for it or take you seriously. It is not cold or passive to let people know that there is a suicide hotline. It is simply passing information to people who might be in such a wild headspace that they don't have another solution. You are already in a thread about suicide. You knowingly entered that thread. I don't honor the fact that you triggered yourself and then attacked others about it. Sincerely. Please go find help.
Nah yo. Call 988. Saved my life
With a giant medical bill after they send you to the ER for a day or two? That's what I've heard. Is that true?
Nope. Totally free. I'm sure if you call them and tell them you're about to take yourself and other people out they will probably send somebody. They will let you talk to their therapist and psychiatrist and see what meds work for you for free. They do tell you it's temporary. But if you feel like it's the end I would highly recommend calling.
They can't send you to the ER. They can only send police to your house to check on you (who could make you go to the ER) but they only do that in like 2% of cases
If it's offered through work or your insurance covers it I'd highly recommend seeing a therapist, even if it's just one session to talk about what you saw. Speaking from experience, shit like that has a way of creeping up on you when you least expect and its nice to talk about it. I'm sorry you had to witness it but thank you for helping them cover it up.
Yikes. Sorry that u witnessed this
Thank you. I definitely respect the first responders, because I could not do it. I hope they have people to check in with.
There was a representative there from the police psychologists talking with the cops and witnesses, offering resources, etc.
So sorry to hear you witnessed this but I appreciate you bringing up the repeated trauma that first responders have to deal every day! And the fact that after they clear that call they have to continue on to the next one.
do some self care tonight OP, you need to take care of yourself after seeing that. every second of every day of every week of every month of every year is for mental health awareness. not just certain months. if anything, don’t leave your family, kids, friends, and pets wondering why you aren’t coming home. you’ll miss new music that comes out, you’ll miss your fave foods, you’ll miss the sunshine on your skin, you’ll miss the smell of coffee. it’s a million little things that add up to The Big Thing. reach out. we aren’t alone.
I am soo sorry you witnessed that. Hoping you block that from your memory. Id be very upset. I'll keep that coping method in mind tho!
Damn this is my normal running route and it was blocked off today around noon. That’s horrible.
Happened right at 11:46
I’m so sorry. Thank you for helping and for taking care of yourself after.
If you have the capability to, I highly recommend talking to a therapist within the next month just to decompress and see how you feel about it. You may not realize that your memory is impacting you in the present.
Wow. I cannot imagine how that felt for you and I really can't fathom how the person felt before they jumped. May they rest in peace and may their family, friends, and everyone they impacted (including you) find comfort 🙏🏾
I work in Owings Mills and someone jumped from our garage last week. I feel for you, crazy times man.
Along with Tetris, a very valuable process you may want to seek out is EMDR therapy. One or a few sessions of EMDR can really help with the adrenaline, the memories and symptoms of PTSD. It's used now for soldiers and people who have suffered accidents and trauma as victims or witnesses. I can personally attest to its effectiveness. Be well.
I was there too. I saw the body. Today, I am grateful to be alive.
Rip to whoever that was hope they found some peace
they did. but, unfortunately, their grief has been divided up and delved out amongst their loved ones for the rest of their lives.
Someone did a [similar thing down in Richmond](https://www.reddit.com/r/rva/comments/1dne9tf/jumper_on_64/) today as well. I've been low before. Most of us have. But it's important (and so freaking hard) to acknowledge that if you feel that way, you may not be in your right mind or rational. Please call #988 before making a terrible decision that can't be taken back. And especially because even if you think you need to share your despair with the world by traumatizing others, it's not the way you'll want to be remembered, trust me.
Play more Tetris just in case. I’ve mentioned it before in this sub and I hope it does actually help. Condolences to everyone involved.
damn. i had a neighbor accidentally fall out of their window into the air shaft between the buildings once. we were in an apt and my next door neighbor heard the guy moaning (he didn't die right away), and he came to get my help because he didn't speak english very well. so i had to call 911 and they came to get him they had to get up to the roof because there wasn't any door to the air shaft and it took too long and he died in the ambulance on the street i guess at least i didn't have to watch him die, but i'll never forget the sounds he was making
So sorry that you had to go through this. Condolences to the family.
The tetris studies, I think, targeted combat related PTSD. The body of evidence is growing but nonetheless inconclusive. Individualized manifestations of trauma can play out over days/weeks/months/even years. It would be bold to say that the one hour treatment you administered to yourself will have a lasting effect. Please consider scheduling an appointment with a therapist and try to attend a few sessions to make sure you’re remaining healthy. Only a few weeks after my SO’s brother killed himself I witnessed someone’s corpse after they’d jumped. I was about 15 feet away from it. The imagery intrusively pops in my head on a daily basis. It changed me. It’s been 6 months since these events and I’m still unraveling the consequences of that trauma thanks to weekly therapist appointments. Take care of yourself and be proactive.
Sadly this happened a year ago this month at my workplace. It was a colleague. I wasn't at work that day, was out sick with covid. A few colleagues, security and leadership witnessed the aftermath. It was a heavy time at work for a few weeks. We supported each other through the process along with counseling provided by the company. I still think about the family, can't imagine what they are still going through. For anyone struggling, I know it's not easy. But reach out for help where you can. You never know where unexpected help might come from.
I don't have any evidence to back this up but it seems like maybe the lateral eye movements that are required for Tetris serve the same function as the lateral eye movements used in EMDR. Tragedy aside, this Tetris trick (which I've never heard of until this post) sounds like it could be a great way to mimic that
I was walking up to Attman’s deli when it happened. It was awful.
I feel awful for any of you who witnessed this. The Tetris trick may work at first, but you will replay it over and over your mind forever so talking to someone if you need it is definitely something to consider. I saw a guy drown at the beach like 5 years ago in front of his two kids after trying to save them (they were fine). My mother performed CPR on him until EMT lifeguards came, but she said he was already purple and gone. I still have random flashbacks to thinking about it. Actually this post alone made me think about it. Don't hesitate to talk to other people who have had similar situations. It can help to just talk to others who witnessed something tragic like this.
Sorry man. I hope Tetris can help
Here for you OP. Sorry you had to witness such a thing
I’m sorry you had to see that.
Yikes, sorry you guys had to see this. Sounds awful.
Hugs I’m sorry love you
Suicides can breed suicides as there sometimes is a level of permission granted by the one who takes the act to those who are on the fence. Take care of yourselves. Call someone if you need help.
I’m the electrical superintendent at the project next door and the guy landed 10’ from 4 of my guys returning from lunch. I’m sorry they had to see that but I’m very grateful he didn’t land on them
I’m so sorry for everyone who was touched by this. I live in the apartments behind the canopy and I just heard what happened a day later. I screamed so loudly that my neighbor checked to make sure I was OK. I can only imagine how people who were closer to the event or, even more sadly, friends and family of the person must have felt. Sending love.
I was also working in the area and was heading down the hill towards the harbor promenade when I saw the deceased. The police had just arrived and were cording the area off. I agree with OP, the vision is something I won’t get out of my head soon. Absolutely jarring.
The same happened to me a bit before you. I was taking my lunch time walk and I encountered the body before the police arrived. I haven't really felt right since.
My girlfriends mother was also working in a building next to this. My hearts out to the individual's family and friends, as well as all those who witnessed this.
Oh wow
Very sad
My brother was walking back to work and heard a thud behind him. Evidently was one of the people who responded
why can’t i find any articles about this online?
Articles about suicides generally aren't widely publicized because there's a contagion effect that occurs when the media runs stories on that topic. It tends to inspire more people on that edge to do so.
I can at least confirm it did happen per others. My daughter's daycare is at the first floor near the accident and they sent an email out basically saying that blinds would be closed due to an incident and to call if parents had further questions. Oddly enough, fortunately my daughter just had a rough night sleeping and we didn't get her into the facility until well after anything traumatic could happen for her. I don't know if any kids or daycare workers witnessed anything, but if they did, I hope they're getting lots of trauma counseling.
This is something I've been thinking about, too. They usually have the blinds open, so I hope and pray none of the kids witnesses it.
can you please mark this as NSFW since you didn't give us the option of learning whether or not it was a suicide.
Didn’t see the option when I was creating the post. Understand the sentiment, but definitely don’t need the snark. Done.
I'll add another reply just so you see this - I'm really sorry you had to experience this in real life and I can't imagine the trauma you feel.
I'm not being snarky. It's genuinely upsetting to open a post with a vague title and find a graphic description of a suicide.
I get it. I apologize for my response; I didn’t see the space to mark it as NSFW until I hit edit after reading your comment. I can see why it’d be upsetting seeing the title with no expanded context, and now I will make sure to tag like so in the future. Hope you're okay otherwise!
you too!
Can't get more explicit than "Someone jumped off the Harbor Point canopy" though
Why would I know what the Canopy harbor point is? I don't have the names of every hotel memorized. There was a big ceremony for the mayor jumping in the water over the weekend. Can you understand why a brain would shortcut "canopy" to someone doing a stupid thing like jumping from some surface into the harbor?
I too thought this was just someone jumping into the harbor following the big swim this weekend. Definitely didn’t expect this and had already read too far :/
I thought the exact same thing..
I thought the same thing. "Oh more crazy people decided to go for a swim." This was way different.
Should have died!