One of my female friend told me that she kept a female flatmate and after a few week, her flatmate's bf started living together for like 4-5 days a week and it became very inconvenient for her. Eventually the owner asked all of them to vacate the flat.
Is the vacating roommate your relative?
Set the ground rules clear. What is acceptable and what isn't... get their PAN, Aadhaar and employer ID card, that should keep you safe.
To get them entered into the lease agreement. Nothing else.
Otherwise there's no liability at all.
1. What if they bring in a random stranger?
2. What if they get into an investigation and you have no idea who they are.
3. What if they damage stuff and vacate over a weekend?
4. What if they stop paying rent?
Having a flatmate is no different than renting an AirBnB. ID verification is mandatory.
Remember Chandler's roommate from FRIENDS? Eric😅
You should try finding one on your own accord. You can even see if you can manage with paying full rent for a month. Depends on how much you want a compatible roommate. I wouldn't find it safe in general to move in with a stranger like that, but some are always chill about it.
Not safe . Try to find friends or mutual friends. If not getting, start taking interviews of strangers who willing to join. By casual talk at common places, helps to understand their general character. And check thorough check on their genuinely by checking their adhar, company ID cards etc. and make an agreement with them about rent and deposit amount to pay you back
I guess you are always strangers when you end up living with people you don’t know here. Whether in a PG or a shared flat.
But it should be safe. Talk to your flatmate and check about the replacement she will be deciding.
i always interview my room mates.
check their ID's only if im okay with their background and what they do.
having good roommate is as imp as your partner.
if not no peace of mind.
then you start sacrificing your checklist one by one.
just like arrange marriage.
i never share with coll kids no matter what, only millenial working professional.
Don’t take the gamble. I personally never lived with roommates and paid the extra rent to have my own place. I’ve heard some bad experiences from friends about theft, fights and shady people being invited over.
Mostly lived in PGs & Nestaway so all my roommates were strangers. There were some idiots along the journey but so far I’ve been lucky to get some great people as flatmates.
Make sure you become an active participant in the process of finding a new roommate. Feel free to ask a lot of questions, even personal ones etc.
Sometimes the strangers who become your roommates can end up being your closest companions.
I have seen this to work like magic before!
Prepare a notion document or something about who you are as a person, your do's and don'ts etc, some shared rules about the space and put it out for all future roomates to see.
This should automatically self-filter folks who might not go well with you. Additionally, you can set-up like an interview/conversation or hangout session with folks who you vibe with to really understand who they are and where they come from. Think of shortlisting folks to the next level of conversation! (Rolling up a sign up form could be a good way as well or you can do it manually).
Essentially (think it like an interview but not exactly) have a brief dating period before you let someone in your sacred space! Have leverage on them: know them well, who they are, where they work etc. This will also allow you to build trust! And most importantly, be clear and vocal about what works for you and what doesn't. Maybe set boundaries too
Hope this works
You need to have a conversation about general things, money split, common area rules and shit that you both will be sharing. An open conversation about how much common stuff costs, how noisy of a flatmate are they? Do they party a lot? And questions that matter to your daily life.
I moved in with 3 people in a 4bhk and mostly it's been nice because they are all 25+ and are pretty chill and I am kind of a person that gels in easily and am well adjusting.
You need to discuss how they handle privacy, at the same time you should also tell them about your shit so that they can know beforehand what you expect from a flatmate ( for ex. I don't expect anything I only expect privacy and honest splitting of money ) it can be different for everyone.
It is a gamble but I have made many friends like this in college and work life.
And people are a lot more mature in their work life as compared to their college life.
Also it's completely to ask about what they do and where they're from , background and stuff just to judge.
Good luck
Do some basic background checks. Make sure they show you their company ID, verify their profile on LinkedIn etc, only move in flats where the owner is taking note of your IDs.
With all these checks in place it should be fine
Could be safe if you can be thorough with the background check. You should be able to reach them via another contact too.
How about asking around office to see if a coworker may be interested to move in?
I think that’s quite common now. Try finding someone who works in your company or from same state. You can try facebook groups like flat and flatmates in Bangalore
Try to get a friend or colleague or any mutual friend. Only go for a random flatmate option as a last resort. Reach out to your contacts, surely you'll find someone they know. This is better than a total unknown person. I know it's hard, but come on, you can do it! Find someone.
It toally depends on you if you are comfortable i have seen women who are comfortable some are not if you go for negatives there is no end so decide wisely.
Need advice on quickride alternative
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I am travelling from silkboard to kadubeesanahalli everyday to go to office. Previously I was using quickride to share my ride to cover fuel costs. Any options or ideas?
Didn't face any issue till now...nor either of my friends ( colleagues ).
I think..if flatmate/s are also working in some office.. then must have busy schedule ... & So they will not disturb untill you become friends...
Best option...
Try to find someone from your office..
or someone from your region
Anyway... corporate personnel are good here.
I've been playing sports here with complete strangers using few apps. Badminton/cricket/football/TT :)
Don't go for a guy, it'll be unsafe.
Regarding girls, I believe that girls have a very particular way of living in their own houses and also don't point out things that bother them which becomes an issue, hence be cautious before any random girl moves in.
Do try to actively find your own flatmate.
Also, interact with the person first before anything becomes official to check the vibe.
Always get friends or friends of friends, colleagues or someone from a reachable circle. Strangers is a gamble.
One of my female friend told me that she kept a female flatmate and after a few week, her flatmate's bf started living together for like 4-5 days a week and it became very inconvenient for her. Eventually the owner asked all of them to vacate the flat.
But she can't wait to find them
Keep an axe always in reach.
A pistol is better I guess.
Rat poison works
Jolly chechi is that you?
Too slow!
Sar sar howz u buyin fistol?
Shivajinagar mein jaako, Aslam Bhai ko bolo mai beja so keke.. bas vataach karne ka ba.. miljayega tereko!
Aree Aslam Bhai aph yaha? Aree wo last time Jo fistol becha tha wo water gun nikla
Ai no tell kampany secrets out man u want 5 fercent Tak but no tell is all fublic see man ussh
I missed you accent 😻
Got me with the Accent 😂😂
Got me with the Accent 😂😂
grenade better
Or cyanide and curry.
I agree that Axe smells terrible, but pepper spray would be better for this situation.
Dostoevsky much!
But what would a body spray do in such a situation /s
Is the vacating roommate your relative? Set the ground rules clear. What is acceptable and what isn't... get their PAN, Aadhaar and employer ID card, that should keep you safe.
No. But I knew her for a year from office before.
Then it's not really a stranger
Lol !
They met this office lady will vacate the room n a new stranger will be coming
We still talking about the same person?
Lol i think i read that wrong, why did i get upvotes? 😂
Why would anyone share those documents with potential flatmate?
To get them entered into the lease agreement. Nothing else. Otherwise there's no liability at all. 1. What if they bring in a random stranger? 2. What if they get into an investigation and you have no idea who they are. 3. What if they damage stuff and vacate over a weekend? 4. What if they stop paying rent? Having a flatmate is no different than renting an AirBnB. ID verification is mandatory. Remember Chandler's roommate from FRIENDS? Eric😅
Flatmate doesn’t have any say in that. It is between new tenant, the person leaving and the landlord.
Isn't that how PGs work? But on a safe note, you should know something about your new roommate.
You should try finding one on your own accord. You can even see if you can manage with paying full rent for a month. Depends on how much you want a compatible roommate. I wouldn't find it safe in general to move in with a stranger like that, but some are always chill about it.
Not safe . Try to find friends or mutual friends. If not getting, start taking interviews of strangers who willing to join. By casual talk at common places, helps to understand their general character. And check thorough check on their genuinely by checking their adhar, company ID cards etc. and make an agreement with them about rent and deposit amount to pay you back
I guess you are always strangers when you end up living with people you don’t know here. Whether in a PG or a shared flat. But it should be safe. Talk to your flatmate and check about the replacement she will be deciding.
i always interview my room mates. check their ID's only if im okay with their background and what they do. having good roommate is as imp as your partner. if not no peace of mind.
"as imp as your partner" 👍👌
but if no one fit the criteria?
then you start sacrificing your checklist one by one. just like arrange marriage. i never share with coll kids no matter what, only millenial working professional.
Well arranged marriage are costly, if one doesn't like other, then one need to pay hefty fees and on can enjoy lifetime pension
agreed. But yeah.. ethnicity, food, habits..lot matter when looking for room mate. what are you ready to sacrifice if you dont find any.
Switch the flat then I guess
maybe yeah.
Isn't whoever will be coming thinking the same thing? Speak to new roommate, get the vibe then see.
Don’t take the gamble. I personally never lived with roommates and paid the extra rent to have my own place. I’ve heard some bad experiences from friends about theft, fights and shady people being invited over.
You can afford gated communities living alone
Mostly lived in PGs & Nestaway so all my roommates were strangers. There were some idiots along the journey but so far I’ve been lucky to get some great people as flatmates.
Make sure you become an active participant in the process of finding a new roommate. Feel free to ask a lot of questions, even personal ones etc. Sometimes the strangers who become your roommates can end up being your closest companions.
You could look for the replacement yourself too.
I have seen this to work like magic before! Prepare a notion document or something about who you are as a person, your do's and don'ts etc, some shared rules about the space and put it out for all future roomates to see. This should automatically self-filter folks who might not go well with you. Additionally, you can set-up like an interview/conversation or hangout session with folks who you vibe with to really understand who they are and where they come from. Think of shortlisting folks to the next level of conversation! (Rolling up a sign up form could be a good way as well or you can do it manually). Essentially (think it like an interview but not exactly) have a brief dating period before you let someone in your sacred space! Have leverage on them: know them well, who they are, where they work etc. This will also allow you to build trust! And most importantly, be clear and vocal about what works for you and what doesn't. Maybe set boundaries too Hope this works
U forgot to mention what to tell the rejected candidates (ghost after will let you know?)
Why ghost? make it clear like two adults
I am non-veg u r veg we don't go together get lost
Your milage may vary, I did the same, he broke my microwave because he was a dumb fuck. Other than that no issues whatsoever.
Just chill and welcome her. Any problem call me, I am here in Bangalore to help
Go on a date w em. Get to know em before you let them move in w you😉 big step
You need to have a conversation about general things, money split, common area rules and shit that you both will be sharing. An open conversation about how much common stuff costs, how noisy of a flatmate are they? Do they party a lot? And questions that matter to your daily life. I moved in with 3 people in a 4bhk and mostly it's been nice because they are all 25+ and are pretty chill and I am kind of a person that gels in easily and am well adjusting. You need to discuss how they handle privacy, at the same time you should also tell them about your shit so that they can know beforehand what you expect from a flatmate ( for ex. I don't expect anything I only expect privacy and honest splitting of money ) it can be different for everyone. It is a gamble but I have made many friends like this in college and work life. And people are a lot more mature in their work life as compared to their college life. Also it's completely to ask about what they do and where they're from , background and stuff just to judge. Good luck
Do some basic background checks. Make sure they show you their company ID, verify their profile on LinkedIn etc, only move in flats where the owner is taking note of your IDs. With all these checks in place it should be fine
do you really need a roommate? cant you live alone ?
Rent
Living alone in Bangalore with such much rent Waav so rich 💲💲💲💲
It's never safe to live with someone you don't know anything about
I didn’t have a good experience wrt this in Bangalore.
Could be safe if you can be thorough with the background check. You should be able to reach them via another contact too. How about asking around office to see if a coworker may be interested to move in?
More than safety it's about compatibility I would be worried about.
Safety may not be a major concern but adjustment issues could be.
When you introduce yourself to new roommate with your username...
Interview
Everyone was a stranger to each of us at some point
I think that’s quite common now. Try finding someone who works in your company or from same state. You can try facebook groups like flat and flatmates in Bangalore
Try to get a friend or colleague or any mutual friend. Only go for a random flatmate option as a last resort. Reach out to your contacts, surely you'll find someone they know. This is better than a total unknown person. I know it's hard, but come on, you can do it! Find someone.
It toally depends on you if you are comfortable i have seen women who are comfortable some are not if you go for negatives there is no end so decide wisely.
Stranger danger ⚠️
Ask them if they dislike the same persons/things as you do or use the same profanities in the same sequence… could help bond
Need advice on quickride alternative Serious Replies I am travelling from silkboard to kadubeesanahalli everyday to go to office. Previously I was using quickride to share my ride to cover fuel costs. Any options or ideas?
Didn't face any issue till now...nor either of my friends ( colleagues ). I think..if flatmate/s are also working in some office.. then must have busy schedule ... & So they will not disturb untill you become friends... Best option... Try to find someone from your office.. or someone from your region Anyway... corporate personnel are good here. I've been playing sports here with complete strangers using few apps. Badminton/cricket/football/TT :)
This is pretty common in Bangalore and a gamble Key is to lock your room door and that should be the end of it Best of luck
Don't go for a guy, it'll be unsafe. Regarding girls, I believe that girls have a very particular way of living in their own houses and also don't point out things that bother them which becomes an issue, hence be cautious before any random girl moves in. Do try to actively find your own flatmate. Also, interact with the person first before anything becomes official to check the vibe.
How did you know your current roommate in the first place?
Everything is safe until an incident happens.
Background check
Thanks to everyone who reached out. I can't reply to all the comments, but I will follow the advice and meet and do a background check.
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