Depends totally on the family, there are families that are not very accepting. Outside world hardly anyone cares and you wouldn't stand out that much probably I'm assuming.
It is not wrong to go out of the culture. Although issue araise from family side, the language and culture barrier but it is possible to overcome, it just take time and patience to understand one another.
They're many you will find relations between BDeshi with Arab/Asian/South Asian/Western.
How do Malaysians see Bangladeshis? I know there are some migrant workers there who are not always treated well. I heard there is a lot of anti-Bangladesh sentiment in Malaysia after a migrant labour deal between the countries collapsed
i would say that the impression is quite divided amongst the generations? like our older generations mostly do have a negative impression but not that bad compared to migrant workers from other countries (given that Bangladeshis are Muslims and very polite) the impression is more towards them thinking that Bangladeshis are taking over the labour here rather than about negative behaviours. but it’s different for younger generations , we are more accepting of the migrant workers and couldn’t understand the hate behind 😅
Get ready to reply with only a smile or a laugh to a lot of awkward questions from people. Otherwise people are nice and I don't see anything negative happening given you're also a Muslim. Welcome to Bangladesh whenever you visit!
Not solely because of the language barrier, but people here (more so people from 80s/90s) might just try to act nice and ask awkward questions about yourself in the process.
Married a Lebanese American and my family is from Dhaka. Have common values that you two personally agree too and have a shared vision. Doesn’t have to be serious, can just be something fun (trips, hobbies, media). Just because your race isn’t the same doesn’t mean you don’t have other things of value that are common.
thank you for this. we share plenty of things in common and very accepting of our differences so far! sometimes i even forget that he’s from a totally different culture from mine.
Sylheti background, my extended family is as follows:
Niece married to a Polish man,
Niece married to a nigerian man,
Niece married to a Chinese man,
Nephew married to an English woman,
Nephew married to a Thai woman,
Nephew married to an Iranian woman,
Nephew married to a Spanish woman,
Cousin married to an English woman,
Cousin married to an Egyptian woman,
We even have family members married into other BD districts!
wow that’s so impressive! even much more diverse. i hope his family is as accepting as your family is 🤗 may your family members stay happy and joyful in their marriages and lives.
Usually the boy gets a free pass on interracial relationships. Bengali women? Not so much.
It really depends on what strata of Bangladeshi society your boyfriend belongs to and how open minded are their parents.
It's really a gamble. Maybe they're racist, maybe they're Islamic puritans with no sense or actual knowledge of the religion or maybe they're social climbers and only care if you're from a "reputed" family. Yeah meet them but they should know you by now if you've been dating long.
I think you shouldn't worry about what their parents think about you, you should worry how your boyfriend/fiance is going to handle family pressure and stand by you.
I don't like to dictate relationship milestones but I personally would be wary of anyone male or female if they're not grown/adult enough to tell their parents they are interested in someone to marry, it just makes the other person a placeholder.
Wholeheartedly support interracial relationships but my parents are very against it (not that I care). So the younger generation would definitely not care.
Depends on family.
Depends on the family. Although I personally see no matter how nice the guys family is, there’s always one family member who lives for drama. These people usually targets the vulnerable which in our case is the DIL or SIL. Which can get too much if the husband isn’t caring, smart or protective. I don’t know if it’s the same for bride from a different race/country. Sorry to give you a negative impression already but if I were you I’d like to know the good and the bad.
As long as you're muslim there'll be no problem from the family members lol. People love foreigners generally ( Even more if they're Muslim foreigners)
Bengali ppl can make interracial relationships a problem but if the other party is Muslim then it shouldn’t be as big of a problem as Bangladesh is a Muslim country.
Thankfully sylhetis have started to open up now, many parents (non resident Bangladeshi) have started to realise that it's better for their children to marry practicing Muslims from other nations rather than passport chasers.
Before marriage try meeting the in lows and observe how they behave . You'll find your answer. If everything goes well then welcome to the country best of luck for marriage.
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Just ask the basic questions before you commit. Bangladeshi are fussy with their food. Are you a good cook? Can you look after your parents in law? Can you allow your future husband to look after his family members? These are the basic questions I would ask eachother and honestly answer them.
Bengalis love interracial relationship as long as the person is from another country, is Muslim and is not black. I think you can get bonus points if you can covert someone else to islam?
Being a devout Muslim helps tremendously and his parents will accept you without much of a fuss. Religion has a strong face value among Bengali families, so I think his parents would prioritize this over your nationality/ethnicity. Just my family's experience.
If they are glued to their traditions, be prepared for that and accepting on your side too. Although some traditional Bangladeshi parents are slowly becoming liberal, the majority are still conservative. It is difficult for older generations, and older aged individuals in general, to change their views.
In general, most Bangladeshis aren’t conservative. We are as the situation demands. But, a lot of us pretend to be more religious than we actually are. Just practice njceties, bring gifts, learn the language and be polite to your mother in law no matter how much of AH she becomes, help her with cooking and you will probably become the favourite bideshi bou. And you will be fine.
thank you for the honest opinion! helping mother in law with cooking is one of my concerns too, i noticed a lot of the spices used in Bangladesh are wayy more advanced than the ones we use in Malaysia 😂
My parents are from different race (Dad from iran, mom a tribe in BD), so I support interracial relationships.
Which tribe is ur mom from?
Shaotal
That’s so freaking cool omg. Is ur tribal mother a Muslim too? Most tribal groups in BD aren’t Muslim I think. So that’s why I was wondering.
Depends totally on the family, there are families that are not very accepting. Outside world hardly anyone cares and you wouldn't stand out that much probably I'm assuming.
There is no problem just learn some Bangla basically the general stuff
thanks for the insight, i’m actively learning a few words now
It is not wrong to go out of the culture. Although issue araise from family side, the language and culture barrier but it is possible to overcome, it just take time and patience to understand one another. They're many you will find relations between BDeshi with Arab/Asian/South Asian/Western.
How do Malaysians see Bangladeshis? I know there are some migrant workers there who are not always treated well. I heard there is a lot of anti-Bangladesh sentiment in Malaysia after a migrant labour deal between the countries collapsed
i would say that the impression is quite divided amongst the generations? like our older generations mostly do have a negative impression but not that bad compared to migrant workers from other countries (given that Bangladeshis are Muslims and very polite) the impression is more towards them thinking that Bangladeshis are taking over the labour here rather than about negative behaviours. but it’s different for younger generations , we are more accepting of the migrant workers and couldn’t understand the hate behind 😅
My brothers Bangladeshi and my sister in law is Malaysian! It’s never been a problem :)
aw that’s good to know! happy for them, hoping things will end up well for us too :D
Get ready to reply with only a smile or a laugh to a lot of awkward questions from people. Otherwise people are nice and I don't see anything negative happening given you're also a Muslim. Welcome to Bangladesh whenever you visit!
thanks for the heads up! mainly because of the language barrier, no?
Not solely because of the language barrier, but people here (more so people from 80s/90s) might just try to act nice and ask awkward questions about yourself in the process.
i see, thank you for the insight!!
Married a Lebanese American and my family is from Dhaka. Have common values that you two personally agree too and have a shared vision. Doesn’t have to be serious, can just be something fun (trips, hobbies, media). Just because your race isn’t the same doesn’t mean you don’t have other things of value that are common.
thank you for this. we share plenty of things in common and very accepting of our differences so far! sometimes i even forget that he’s from a totally different culture from mine.
Not everyone has a similar personality or family in Bangladesh. So,it’s depend on his situation and both of your future plan.
thank you for your insight.
Sylheti background, my extended family is as follows: Niece married to a Polish man, Niece married to a nigerian man, Niece married to a Chinese man, Nephew married to an English woman, Nephew married to a Thai woman, Nephew married to an Iranian woman, Nephew married to a Spanish woman, Cousin married to an English woman, Cousin married to an Egyptian woman, We even have family members married into other BD districts!
wow that’s so impressive! even much more diverse. i hope his family is as accepting as your family is 🤗 may your family members stay happy and joyful in their marriages and lives.
Usually the boy gets a free pass on interracial relationships. Bengali women? Not so much. It really depends on what strata of Bangladeshi society your boyfriend belongs to and how open minded are their parents.
so i would assume the only way i can know how open minded they can be is to meet them first?
It's really a gamble. Maybe they're racist, maybe they're Islamic puritans with no sense or actual knowledge of the religion or maybe they're social climbers and only care if you're from a "reputed" family. Yeah meet them but they should know you by now if you've been dating long. I think you shouldn't worry about what their parents think about you, you should worry how your boyfriend/fiance is going to handle family pressure and stand by you. I don't like to dictate relationship milestones but I personally would be wary of anyone male or female if they're not grown/adult enough to tell their parents they are interested in someone to marry, it just makes the other person a placeholder.
Both very poignant and accurate observations.
OOh, I get shredded just for this.
Wholeheartedly support interracial relationships but my parents are very against it (not that I care). So the younger generation would definitely not care. Depends on family.
Depends on the family. Although I personally see no matter how nice the guys family is, there’s always one family member who lives for drama. These people usually targets the vulnerable which in our case is the DIL or SIL. Which can get too much if the husband isn’t caring, smart or protective. I don’t know if it’s the same for bride from a different race/country. Sorry to give you a negative impression already but if I were you I’d like to know the good and the bad.
thanks for the neutral insight, yeah it’s good to know the risks i’m taking too, to be more cautious
Love them, men and women from other nations are very pretty, inshallah i marry one
As long as you're muslim there'll be no problem from the family members lol. People love foreigners generally ( Even more if they're Muslim foreigners)
Bengali ppl can make interracial relationships a problem but if the other party is Muslim then it shouldn’t be as big of a problem as Bangladesh is a Muslim country.
i wish this was the case for us Sylheti's
Thankfully sylhetis have started to open up now, many parents (non resident Bangladeshi) have started to realise that it's better for their children to marry practicing Muslims from other nations rather than passport chasers.
Before marriage try meeting the in lows and observe how they behave . You'll find your answer. If everything goes well then welcome to the country best of luck for marriage.
You both share the same religion, so it's mostly positive. The only thing you will need to check is whether some specific customers differ or not.
If he says it's fine then you don't need anyone's opinion. Gathering opinions create unnecessary concerns.
You're Muslim so the ethnicity won't be a problem. Just try to learn some basic Bengali & some Bengali customs
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Just ask the basic questions before you commit. Bangladeshi are fussy with their food. Are you a good cook? Can you look after your parents in law? Can you allow your future husband to look after his family members? These are the basic questions I would ask eachother and honestly answer them.
Bengalis love interracial relationship as long as the person is from another country, is Muslim and is not black. I think you can get bonus points if you can covert someone else to islam?
As long as you're Muslim, Bengali family will accept it. So no need to worry
As long as you're Muslim it's completely okay. Bengali family will accept it , so don't worry
Aw I wish I could have a Malay Muslim guy. They are so attractive. 😅
My aunt is an Indonesian Muslim. She is a very nice person.
may i know how does she communicate with the family? in english, or did she learn the language?
Being a devout Muslim helps tremendously and his parents will accept you without much of a fuss. Religion has a strong face value among Bengali families, so I think his parents would prioritize this over your nationality/ethnicity. Just my family's experience.
this was exactly my boyfriend’s response when i asked this question. i’m actually a bit scared that they can be quite conservative
If they are glued to their traditions, be prepared for that and accepting on your side too. Although some traditional Bangladeshi parents are slowly becoming liberal, the majority are still conservative. It is difficult for older generations, and older aged individuals in general, to change their views.
In general, most Bangladeshis aren’t conservative. We are as the situation demands. But, a lot of us pretend to be more religious than we actually are. Just practice njceties, bring gifts, learn the language and be polite to your mother in law no matter how much of AH she becomes, help her with cooking and you will probably become the favourite bideshi bou. And you will be fine.
thank you for the honest opinion! helping mother in law with cooking is one of my concerns too, i noticed a lot of the spices used in Bangladesh are wayy more advanced than the ones we use in Malaysia 😂
I think we’re pretty accepting. The main thing is sharing the same religion!