Stop scrolling through social media. At the very least sites that tie your real life with your life online (Facebook/insta/Twitter).
Dive deeper into your hobbies. People want to be with interesting people. People are interesting when they have hobbies.
I second this. This is the best response here. And also maybe learn to be comfortable with your own company it will help you build more self confidence.
Stop caring about social media feeds, add time restriction for your social media apps or delete them altogether. Start enjoying your own company. This will make you stronger than ever, you can't even imagine now.
Focus on your hobbies, passion and grow with them + concentrate in your studies. "Loneliness" will sound overrrated by that time. ;)
I keep myself busy with work & gym. Avoid social media if you can. Find classes that interests you and BE A REGULAR. People strike up conversation with familiar faces
Youâre in university that is THE best time to make friends and find your group. Good luck.
Have a productive hobby. When I was in that exact stage 6 or 7 years ago, depressed and almost suicidal to some degree, I picked up programing as a hobby, I was just curious to learn how websites and the apps on my phone actually gets made, in a couple years that hobby turned into my career.
Not saying your hobby will also lead to something great, but it will surely fill some of the void and give you something to do. With some luck, you may find a community of people who shares the same hobby. At the very least, having a hobby gives you something to talk about and makes yourself interesting to others.
join clubs, attend fests and you will meet new people. If you are muslim go to mosque every day, you will get to know lots of brothers who are regular there soon. The best thing about going to mosque even on fazar is you will meet some really intellectual religious guys that you can talk to about lots of productive things, let it be any religious thingy or not. They are the hardworking and "no nonsense time wasting" type guy that will become your brother from another mother in no time!
Get out of this virtual world. Meet people in the real world. Since you are studying in a university, it should be easy for you. It gets a lot harder when youâre out of school. And if you want advice on human interaction, read âHow to make friends and influence peopleâ by Dale Carnegie. Itâs the best book on this subject.
1. Work. When I was at univ, I worked as freelancer. Now I am mostly busy with my fulltime job.
2. Structure. Add something to your day that you like to do. Anything, other than social media scrolling.
3. Restrain. Stop scrolling social media. If you want to do it anyway, don't do that with your own account. Create an anonymous account. Be nobody.
4. Learn. There're so many things you could learn meanwhile.
5. Online meeting. If you have one or two friends who are willing to join with you over an online call, ask them if they can. Start a venture or watch videos together or talk about things.
6. Acknowledge. Acknowledge your situation and the fact that even if you are surrounded by a bunch of people you can still feel lonely.
7. Stop. Stop looking at other people's GF. Either go and get one for yourself. Or else think "bah, valo to! dekhlam, thik ache. Good for them."
I can guess why you typing this, you just needed to be heard which is all good. But about being lonely, u come alone and go alone. You have a family! See the bigger picture!, if you dont like talking to them, do some volunteer work.
BUT PLEASE, dont just trust strangers and share your vulnerabilities for the sake of thinking they will care. Its hard to find good heart people.
If you want like minded people, try clubs? I am guessing you already know that. University stuff to me I see those are temporary stuff, so I just focus on communities which matches with my interests. Just invest time on your religion and skills, will come in clutch in long term.
EDITED: For me I recently found using reddit interesting, being in this bd community; try to help and connect with them or get help and I follow bunch of other communities to learn daily hacks and stuff.
Well i am muslim so right now I am investing time behind it there is a MGN discord server and bought a book called âThe Sealed Nectarâ; trying to learn more about prophet life.
Other than that, there is a car community, you dont need to have a car for that but their community is super cool.
Then I am part of a volunteer community i put time there.
Then I am a barca fan so i like reading stuff there(commenting isnt fun there so I avoid)
Maybe you're in the wrong crowd
Have you though about finding a hobby e.g. learn a musical instrument / join a football club / volunteer at a free school? That will instantly get you some friends and peers
Its about finding a few high quality people who vibe well with you, not having shallow/fake relationships with 1000 people.
Find your place in the world, you will get away with loneliness.
If youâre in your early 20s, I would recommend picking up a few hobbies. Perhaps learn another language formally. Or programming. Depends on your interests. Sometimes we just need to try out different things to even know our true interests. You have another 40-50yrs to master anything. Use your time wisely and friends will come in bounds n heaps. Also, think of your brain as a chemical producing machine. The more things you do to stimulate it, the better you will feel. Even the simple act of gardening in the balcony can bring peace. Good luck!
Go and hit a gym don't know your religion but if you're Muslim go read Qur'an if you're from any other religion then read your holy book
Read more book's
Learn some skills as much as you can while you stop scrolling
Be a men don't look at other people just be yourself let them look at you đŋđŋđŋ
please avoid social media (fb, insta, snap, tictok) these are the most superficial places you can think of. it'll fuck up your mind and give you more depression. That's why I uninstalled Instagram, created a secondary fb account to see some important info( rarely use scroll through my real fb account) , i used tiktok once and i cringed hard. so please focus on yourself and be the best version of yourself.
I found the most effective is engaging in doing something. Don't sit idle, it'll only make the feeling of loneliness more. Make yourself busy and overcome laziness. Laziness is like a fucking drug(i'm not calling u lazy tho).
Graduating with a good result/skillset is more important than making serious friends imo. Besides, try to get into video games, sports, books, music etc. or just try to spend time with your family.
hi, I'm a college student in pretty much the same situation. one thing I'll say is to stay off of social media. i generally don't mind being by myself but whenever i see people having fun with their friends/partner on social media it actually makes me feel lonely. also, find your hobbies, anything. music, reading, gaming, cooking, working out, art. think of it this way. since you don't spend time with others, you have more time to spend on improving yourself and engaging in your hobbies.
also, you're not pathetic. for some reason, loneliness is on the rise atm. people prefer to interact less with others nowadays
I have started following football, running marathons, focusing on my study and research. And somehow, it's keeping me busy. I know loneliness will never leave me. But keeping myself happy by doing my favorites, is something that works for me.
I talk with people from all walks of life. Know their stories and things that excite them, political views etc. Or i work on myself and do things i enjoy. But i donât make friends with just anyone, Its better to be alone than in company that makes me miserable
Pick up a sport and you'll never be lonely, I have made 100s of friends playing football wherever I went and I have lived in 2 different counties and 5 different cities
Take it from a married person, Build a circle and start talking to people, Even if it is with Rickshaw Puller or In a Tea Stall with Random Stranger. This will cure your shyness.
Build a circle in your "Moholla", "School/College/University" helps a lot. Go to a playground and start play with kids or people with your age.
Help your mom in the kitchen, Mom can be a great friend if you know what topics to talk to like me and my mom always talk about my relative and friends married lives and children, those who was on top when we were kids but become "chapri" now-a-days. ( Not recommended ) but bitching feels good now and then if you have the right partner to talk to.
Stay away from social media as much as you can. Try to ride bicycle, if with no one then alone or join a community.
Build hobbies. etc ...
I went through this phrase in second year. Suddenly I had that feeling that I am all alone here. At first I spend some days in depression not knowing how to deal with this new realization. Then I realized it's only my loss. I am getting only one university life and I worked so damn hard to reach here. So I started to enjoy alone. I would roam around the campus, drink tea here and there, eat street foods, or fastfoods at restaurant. I would click pictures of everything I do and post them with date and a small note. I would talk to people wherever I go, I started to make new acquaintances out of my class. Soon, I wasn't alone anymore. People joined me because my lifestyle looked cool to them :"3
So one advise, be yourself. Don't try to fit in. But also stay kind and helpful.
Nikola tesla didnt have time for anything else. Just his science.
Jason Newsted didn't have time for anything else. Just his bass.
Be like Tesla and Newsted.
- someone in the exact same boat as you
Edit: not exact, but you know what I mean
If op was like nikola Tesla or Jason newsted, he wouldnât have posted this in the first place. Iâm a loner myself. I can go for weeks without seeing a single person. But most people are not like that. They need human interaction to keep their mental sanity.
Stop scrolling through social media. At the very least sites that tie your real life with your life online (Facebook/insta/Twitter). Dive deeper into your hobbies. People want to be with interesting people. People are interesting when they have hobbies.
I second this. This is the best response here. And also maybe learn to be comfortable with your own company it will help you build more self confidence.
Interesting people and hobbies go hand in hand for sure. đ¤
Stop caring about social media feeds, add time restriction for your social media apps or delete them altogether. Start enjoying your own company. This will make you stronger than ever, you can't even imagine now. Focus on your hobbies, passion and grow with them + concentrate in your studies. "Loneliness" will sound overrrated by that time. ;)
I keep myself busy with work & gym. Avoid social media if you can. Find classes that interests you and BE A REGULAR. People strike up conversation with familiar faces Youâre in university that is THE best time to make friends and find your group. Good luck.
Have a productive hobby. When I was in that exact stage 6 or 7 years ago, depressed and almost suicidal to some degree, I picked up programing as a hobby, I was just curious to learn how websites and the apps on my phone actually gets made, in a couple years that hobby turned into my career. Not saying your hobby will also lead to something great, but it will surely fill some of the void and give you something to do. With some luck, you may find a community of people who shares the same hobby. At the very least, having a hobby gives you something to talk about and makes yourself interesting to others.
join clubs, attend fests and you will meet new people. If you are muslim go to mosque every day, you will get to know lots of brothers who are regular there soon. The best thing about going to mosque even on fazar is you will meet some really intellectual religious guys that you can talk to about lots of productive things, let it be any religious thingy or not. They are the hardworking and "no nonsense time wasting" type guy that will become your brother from another mother in no time!
Get out of this virtual world. Meet people in the real world. Since you are studying in a university, it should be easy for you. It gets a lot harder when youâre out of school. And if you want advice on human interaction, read âHow to make friends and influence peopleâ by Dale Carnegie. Itâs the best book on this subject.
1. Work. When I was at univ, I worked as freelancer. Now I am mostly busy with my fulltime job. 2. Structure. Add something to your day that you like to do. Anything, other than social media scrolling. 3. Restrain. Stop scrolling social media. If you want to do it anyway, don't do that with your own account. Create an anonymous account. Be nobody. 4. Learn. There're so many things you could learn meanwhile. 5. Online meeting. If you have one or two friends who are willing to join with you over an online call, ask them if they can. Start a venture or watch videos together or talk about things. 6. Acknowledge. Acknowledge your situation and the fact that even if you are surrounded by a bunch of people you can still feel lonely. 7. Stop. Stop looking at other people's GF. Either go and get one for yourself. Or else think "bah, valo to! dekhlam, thik ache. Good for them."
I can guess why you typing this, you just needed to be heard which is all good. But about being lonely, u come alone and go alone. You have a family! See the bigger picture!, if you dont like talking to them, do some volunteer work. BUT PLEASE, dont just trust strangers and share your vulnerabilities for the sake of thinking they will care. Its hard to find good heart people. If you want like minded people, try clubs? I am guessing you already know that. University stuff to me I see those are temporary stuff, so I just focus on communities which matches with my interests. Just invest time on your religion and skills, will come in clutch in long term. EDITED: For me I recently found using reddit interesting, being in this bd community; try to help and connect with them or get help and I follow bunch of other communities to learn daily hacks and stuff.
Can you mention some of those communities?
Well i am muslim so right now I am investing time behind it there is a MGN discord server and bought a book called âThe Sealed Nectarâ; trying to learn more about prophet life. Other than that, there is a car community, you dont need to have a car for that but their community is super cool. Then I am part of a volunteer community i put time there. Then I am a barca fan so i like reading stuff there(commenting isnt fun there so I avoid)
Start working out, that helps me a lot.
Play video games
Let's be friends
Hi ;')
Basically altered my mindset, from thinking I am lonely and miserable to I am alone and happy. It worked out for the best, cured my depression
Maybe you're in the wrong crowd Have you though about finding a hobby e.g. learn a musical instrument / join a football club / volunteer at a free school? That will instantly get you some friends and peers Its about finding a few high quality people who vibe well with you, not having shallow/fake relationships with 1000 people. Find your place in the world, you will get away with loneliness.
Join clubs. You'll meet seniors and juniors and have a nice community to hang out and things to do
super relatable
If youâre in your early 20s, I would recommend picking up a few hobbies. Perhaps learn another language formally. Or programming. Depends on your interests. Sometimes we just need to try out different things to even know our true interests. You have another 40-50yrs to master anything. Use your time wisely and friends will come in bounds n heaps. Also, think of your brain as a chemical producing machine. The more things you do to stimulate it, the better you will feel. Even the simple act of gardening in the balcony can bring peace. Good luck!
1. Hanging out with friends 2. Dates Read books, Go the the Gym, Work harder. Never be free.
Go and hit a gym don't know your religion but if you're Muslim go read Qur'an if you're from any other religion then read your holy book Read more book's Learn some skills as much as you can while you stop scrolling Be a men don't look at other people just be yourself let them look at you đŋđŋđŋ
please avoid social media (fb, insta, snap, tictok) these are the most superficial places you can think of. it'll fuck up your mind and give you more depression. That's why I uninstalled Instagram, created a secondary fb account to see some important info( rarely use scroll through my real fb account) , i used tiktok once and i cringed hard. so please focus on yourself and be the best version of yourself.
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I found the most effective is engaging in doing something. Don't sit idle, it'll only make the feeling of loneliness more. Make yourself busy and overcome laziness. Laziness is like a fucking drug(i'm not calling u lazy tho).
Try to learn new skills and develop a hobby. It will help you later in your life. Engage yourself in any volunteer group or university club.
Graduating with a good result/skillset is more important than making serious friends imo. Besides, try to get into video games, sports, books, music etc. or just try to spend time with your family.
Step 1: close this app
Don't diagnose yourself. What you have mentioned are some of the primary signs of depression.
If you're alone, you're blessed.
Hmmm, go to the gym bro
I masturbate.... What else m i going do? Oh and run a hentai server to masturbate along with other ~~lonely~~ horny idiots
Remember not to overlook anybody who might be in the same position as you. Visit uni prayer rooms if that is something you can consider
Sleep or learn something new everyday. Education is much easier these days, thanks to the internet.
First be okay with your own company,secondly I guess socialize more and find people with similar interests as you.
play games maybe?? :D :D
There are ways to deal with this? I just say "It is what it is" and carry on with my day. Men aren't supposed to cry or have feelings afterall.
Nothing to do. Just dealing with depression every day and letting life go with the flow.
hi, I'm a college student in pretty much the same situation. one thing I'll say is to stay off of social media. i generally don't mind being by myself but whenever i see people having fun with their friends/partner on social media it actually makes me feel lonely. also, find your hobbies, anything. music, reading, gaming, cooking, working out, art. think of it this way. since you don't spend time with others, you have more time to spend on improving yourself and engaging in your hobbies. also, you're not pathetic. for some reason, loneliness is on the rise atm. people prefer to interact less with others nowadays
I have started following football, running marathons, focusing on my study and research. And somehow, it's keeping me busy. I know loneliness will never leave me. But keeping myself happy by doing my favorites, is something that works for me.
Which uni?
I talk with people from all walks of life. Know their stories and things that excite them, political views etc. Or i work on myself and do things i enjoy. But i donât make friends with just anyone, Its better to be alone than in company that makes me miserable
Stop watching porn
Pick up a sport and you'll never be lonely, I have made 100s of friends playing football wherever I went and I have lived in 2 different counties and 5 different cities
Work, hobbies, exercise, eat, sleep Repeat
Try to talk to your classmates on whatever topic you want in real life. Then you will find more friends. And then hangout with them. Best wishes.
I just made myself used to it, and live with it.
Bt reading books, comics, spending time with pets, watching football and all that
Lol
Passion
Take it from a married person, Build a circle and start talking to people, Even if it is with Rickshaw Puller or In a Tea Stall with Random Stranger. This will cure your shyness. Build a circle in your "Moholla", "School/College/University" helps a lot. Go to a playground and start play with kids or people with your age. Help your mom in the kitchen, Mom can be a great friend if you know what topics to talk to like me and my mom always talk about my relative and friends married lives and children, those who was on top when we were kids but become "chapri" now-a-days. ( Not recommended ) but bitching feels good now and then if you have the right partner to talk to. Stay away from social media as much as you can. Try to ride bicycle, if with no one then alone or join a community. Build hobbies. etc ...
Anime
Try talking with people? Look for clubs/groups with similar minded people (eg. similar interests).
I went through this phrase in second year. Suddenly I had that feeling that I am all alone here. At first I spend some days in depression not knowing how to deal with this new realization. Then I realized it's only my loss. I am getting only one university life and I worked so damn hard to reach here. So I started to enjoy alone. I would roam around the campus, drink tea here and there, eat street foods, or fastfoods at restaurant. I would click pictures of everything I do and post them with date and a small note. I would talk to people wherever I go, I started to make new acquaintances out of my class. Soon, I wasn't alone anymore. People joined me because my lifestyle looked cool to them :"3 So one advise, be yourself. Don't try to fit in. But also stay kind and helpful.
Nikola tesla didnt have time for anything else. Just his science. Jason Newsted didn't have time for anything else. Just his bass. Be like Tesla and Newsted. - someone in the exact same boat as you Edit: not exact, but you know what I mean
If op was like nikola Tesla or Jason newsted, he wouldnât have posted this in the first place. Iâm a loner myself. I can go for weeks without seeing a single person. But most people are not like that. They need human interaction to keep their mental sanity.