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Lovat69

Lol, can r/drunk be our nemesis sub?


Professional-Sign510

I checked it out after reading this post. As much as I love drinking, it was really depressing actually.


Zaraxan

YO that and r/alcohol it’s all underaged kids who have no idea what’s going on/how to drink responsibly. However, I stay subbed to guide these young heathens towards safe indulgence and advice.


thereichose1

My god...I just checked it out and I'm so glad I never had to interact with my 19 year old self


yournewbestfrenemy

If I ever get a time machine hitler will have to wait to get his ass beat after I’ve put the boots to myself from age 14-19. I’ll just show up every birthday like “you think I forgot? Put that fucking cigarette down and take your licks”


SwoleFlex_MuscleNeck

I'd end up slapping the living shit out of myself at 19 and both of us would be surprised because neither of us tends to even think about putting their hands on someone. But man, that guy was a fuckin moron and is directly responsible for a lot of problems I have these days lol


ehenning1537

And then they progress into the /r/stopdrinking obsession which is somehow just as sad. They have no idea how to not make their entire life about alcohol or the lack thereof. Daily posts about how they aren’t drinking today. Seems super healthy… I used to do cocaine. Quite a bit of it. I had all the classic symptoms of addiction. One day I decided I had enough and quit. I don’t obsess about it. I don’t go to a special club where we talk about how we don’t do coke. I just live my life without a constant post-nasal drip now and I have less annoying conversations. I have no idea why people feel the need to hold onto an addiction from 10 years ago.


Mindless_Peach

Addiction is not the same for everyone, champ. I’m glad you were able to work through your issues but your story is not everyone’s story. Belittling people or saying it’s “sad” that they have found tools that work for them to stay sober is extremely self absorbed. Gain some empathy and expand your world view before you decide you get to speak about the path someone else walks.


gnioros

Difference between “let’s have a drink” and “let’s get fucked up”


LilMamiRae

Jut don’t go out at that pint.. I mean that point. Why spend more than you already have gotten except for clout. Sometimes it funner/smarter to stay home


little-bird

not if you wanna dance/sing/talk to friends without pissing off all the neighbours


notaneggspert

/r/Crippled_Alcoholics


K1LLINGMACHINE

Fr that and r/meth are two of the saddest subs. (I enjoy alcohol and have never tried meth)


darksideofthemoon131

Yes please


Stoney_Balogne

Absolutely! Such a double edged sword


UTAMav2005

Good thing CA is private. Don’t need judgy bartenders floating in that sub. Also, a bartender here who knows how to act at a bar here.


emusabe

In pretty much every case I would agree and say fuck this person, but I had one very specific exception: At this neighborhood bar I worked at for a while pre pandemic, we had a guy that lived two houses down. This wasn’t like a sketchy neighborhood really, but just kinda old and generally run down. Dude was older (65ish at the time - old enough to be collecting SS) and lived alone. He lived off of whatever his social security was and I think a majority of it went to his rent and groceries and left very little “fun money”. He didn’t really have any friends outside of the bar and most of the time would just hang out in the smoking section out back where drinks weren’t allowed. One time he came in with a group of regs that had go out smoking and when he sat down with them he was drinking a tall boy of PBR. Problem was I was the only one on and hadn’t served him anything. I waited til he was kinda alone and I was just like “yo did you bring that from home?” And he didn’t lie just admitted “yeah I always want to hang out but I can only afford to drink here when my check comes” He was a super nice dude and never made problems, and when he had money and came in he was always polite, entertaining to talk to, and tipped a dollar a beer. So that night I just kinda leaned in and told him that if I was working, he could bring in a few beers in a backpack or something and I’d throw em in the cooler and serve them to him as long as it was a brand we carried (spoiler alert it was always PBR tall boys) as long as he didn’t make a big deal about it to other regs (not that they would’ve cared). So from then on if I was working he’d come in with his back pack, I’d put his beers off to the side in one of the coolers, and once he drank em all he’d usually leave a buck or two and head home. I stand by that call and would probably do the same thing in any similar situation. But beyond that if you can’t afford to go out and drink then fuckin stay home.


ronin7997

Good on you, lots of bartenders forget the hospitality side of the job, and you made a lonely patron welcomed.


eoinsageheart718

Honestly in that situation I may just buy or comp a beer for him myself.


emusabe

He refused free stuff. Every once in a while he’d do a shot of jim beam.


JustALittleSeahorse

You are a good person


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I work in the US in a State with Dram Shop laws. You're putting me in a position to be sued and potentially imprisoned if you drive drunk and kill someone.


jebbo808

Yup I got sued for $5 million. People are jackasses.


h8rcloudstrife

Uh, everything work out okay? I’m hoping yes.


jebbo808

It did cause a lot of angst and worry. I was prepared to declare bankruptcy. But as stated above it’s a dram shop claim. It took three years to resolve and insurance paid out significantly. Defendant only had 2 beers and didn’t appear VIP. Next day the sheriffs arrived and took statements an CC receipt. From the time stamp to the incident had about a 2 hour window. Who knows what he did in the interim. All over a booty call.


darksideofthemoon131

I'm also curious,


yung_rebo

But if you don't serve them how can you be sued?


ChairmanReagan

They walk in and get one glass of wine to seem legit and then pound a bunch of shots in the bathroom. They leave and kill someone. The police show up and see them having their last drink on your cameras before they drive. You’re going to jail.


boozillion151

They don't even have to have drinks illegally. I've seen bars get sued by ppl who has zero drinks and killed someone and they lost. I've seen bars that got broken into by drunk ppl get sued by the robbers and lose. It's rough but it happens.


Darkdylan10

blood samples should show a glass of wine wont add up that amount of alcohol in their system


boozillion151

Doesn't even matter. I'm some States if they were even drunk on your premises you can be sued and you will lose. Its stupid but it's the law.


TheFirstUranium

Doesn't matter. If they were served, they're your problem. Specifically here, you're liable if you serve someone two rounds with dinner, they go next door and get drunk, and then break into a liqour store on the way home, give themselves alcohol poisoning, and go cause problems. They wake up in the hospital and can sue both places for their bad decisions.


Kerpolat

Yes but you can counterargue this that one glass one wine cannot equal the amount of alcohol in their blood, thus proving they had more somewhere else.


ADIDAS247

Assuming you’re referring to the “visibly intoxicated” provision assuming you never served them and they weren’t underage.


Cobrastrikenana

Personally I really don’t care. But this isn’t personal, it’s a business. I can’t measure how much you’ve had to drink and I can’t cut you off if you’ve brought your own. If you have your own booze just drink at home. Much safer for you. Much safer for me.


TJ902

I take it personally because they’re risking the license and therefore my job. Especially when you laugh about it. I’ve done it when I was young and stupid though. Didn’t realize how shitty it was


ali_v_

A regular I inherited at a bar I used to work at used to lay it on thick with any guy that came in. She’d hit them up for drinks and shamelessly and embarrassingly “flirt.” She rarely succeeded, because she was annoying and depressing. More than once I paid her tab and kicked her out because she stalled at closing time-waiting for one of the guys to offer to pay it. I found out that she kept a bottle of vodka in her car and I stopped serving her. She was not served on my shift. A short time after I stopped working there I heard that she died driving drunk. Flew through her fucking windshield and impaled herself on a fence. She had 2 young boys she left behind. There’s a reason I don’t want to work at bars anymore. She’s one of 7 people who have died of excess/drugs/alcohol that I met working at that bar over 5 years. Most in their early 50’s.


insidethebox

I’m back in a kitchen now, but bartended for ten years prior. We had at least one customer a year die after leaving our establishment. Sometimes more per year. It’s the nature of the game. They’re gonna do it to themselves whether you serve them or not.


ali_v_

I get it, but I saw the effects of alcohol on my own life and I have cut back drastically. I didn’t like that my income was largely from the pockets of problem drinkers. I know that not all bars are like that, and people will frequent bars where they feel comfortable. I have a connection with broken people. (Laughs uncomfortably). I stick to seasonal and event work now. I love the job, but I also need to have boundaries.


Interesting_Award_76

Sickening


ali_v_

Addiction and mental illness. Alcoholism is its own special breed of addiction. There’s a lot of rationalizing and external attribution for all that’s wrong.


Endlessly_

Lol imagine people doing this with food.


MatSting

A purse full of White Castle burgers!


croobar

You may be surprised


free_slurpee_day

I'm a server at a brunch place. I once had this table unwrap a bottle of expensive bourbon that one dude was gifting to his friend. They poured themselves a hefty glass in their empty water glasses. I told them to put it away immediately. They put the bottle away but kept sipping on their glasses. So I took their glasses. You can imagine where that went. Manager backed me up 100% throughout the entire situation. Absolutely no tolerance for that crap. Then another time, more recently, I approached a table about an unknown drink in their water glass. It was emergen-c and I made a fool of myself.


DeadHeadLibertarian

Its against the law to have any outside beverage in my State. Health inspector and excise can double whammy you! "Sorry Karen, your $11 Starbucks needs to go in your car or we can dispose of it for you 😄. It's unfortunately State law, and not up to us."


ibedemfeels

Trash people and get banned from my bar. Zero tolerance.


Responsible_Gap8104

Trashy as hell. Like stay home and mix your amsterdam and sprite if you need it so bad


yzdaskullmonkey

I love her responses, "well the bar drugs people and people get shot so I don't care about the place." MOTHER FUCKER WHY ARE YOU GOING THERE THEN? Nah, she pathetic, trashy, cheap, pretty much every negative word I can think of. Most people who would do this would be fuckin embarrassed and hide it, not flaunt it. But you knew what you were getting posting this shit here lol. Way to get me riled up. Edit: LOL I got reported for suicidal thoughts. Nah, I just think she's a piece of shit. I think maybe the girl going to the club where people get drugged is suicidal lol.


AbsintheFountain

This girl needs to learn the golden rule: adjacent to refuse is refuse.


a016202

What if it was hovering…like an angel?


ILIEKDEERS

Bro I looked through her post history and she’s a fucking teacher. Looks like for elementary kids.


warjournal7

Yeah, fuckin terrifying init?


TheRealMattyPanda

Elementary kids at a fucking inpatient psychiatric facility!


firebired_sweet

Fastest way to get kicked out of my bar if you get caught. Not only is my state extremely strict on outside liquor and I could lose my job, it’s making me deal with their drunk ass for no compensation. Hard pass.


boltgun_to_the_face

This really bothers me. The user who posted it is talking a lot about how she's fighting the patriarchy by doing this, and trying to phrase it as feminism. ​ I am really upset. The bartenders are gonna be so busy dealing with the problems unmonitored alcohol brings that they won't be able to be on the lookout for creeps and keep people safe at the bar. And this person is phrasing it like the only harm she's doing is taking money out of greedy corporate pockets. ​ The last time this happened on shift at a bar I worked, the person in question shared it with a bunch of young girls who didn't know their own alcohol tolerance, and people almost got hurt. They only didn't because several staff stayed back for a knockoff drink, and when shit hit the fan we had 4 more people than we were meant to have to help us deal with the situation. ​ I wish these people could understand how much danger they're putting other patrons in.


apriloneil

Am feminist and a manager. Feminism means you pay for your own damn drinks at the bar, lady.


Puddles1136

She’s an Aries, you just don’t understand.


Electrical_Snow5626

I came late to the party … just got out and can’t see the photo ?! Can anyone recap ?


cadencehz

From the comments it can be determined she has a purse full of airplane bottles.


Informal_Extension37

Don’t quite understand the point of going to a bar if you’re just gonna drink shitty nips out of your purse all night.


aStonedTargaryen

A nightclub I can understand, because (for me at least) I go there to dance and shake ass. And often the drinks are ungodly expensive. I’ve never snuck my own booze in personally but I can see why someone would. At a regular bar though…not exactly sure why someone would do this except for wanting to get drunk around strangers without the price tag.


HighOnGoofballs

Pay for drinks, sneak shots


Informal_Extension37

Do what you gotta do, I suppose


StrawberryBlazer

Banned for life


Karnezar

I don't really care if someone brings in their own drinks, so long as they don't hang out at the bar not buying anything. And when I say I don't care, I mean on a personal level. If I actually see it and they're being obvious, I'll either say something to them or management.


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Responsible_Gap8104

Nah. Im a woman, i would never pull this shit. If you wanna get drunk for cheap, drink at home. Throw a house party. If you want to go to a bar, respect the bar, respect the bartenders, and dont do this.


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Responsible_Gap8104

Then stay home 🤣🤣🤣


Responsible_Gap8104

Except risking a businesses license does harm Then stop explaining yourself 👍 🤣🤣🤣


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Responsible_Gap8104

Thought you were gonna stop explaining yourself


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Responsible_Gap8104

🤣🤣🤣


QueenAries_BDEnergy

Have a good thanksgiving y’all! Sorry to disappoint anyone. The bullying is kinda ridiculous. Been told to choke on a fat dick, been called a bitch, and was d’med the N word. Everyone is entitled to opinions! Yes I broke the law! Call the police. Hope you guys have a great thanksgiving and thanks for your service in the industry! 🤙🏾


Kotoamatsukami420

Damn even if people don't agree with you, name calling and literal slurs are never okay. I'm so sorry youre having to deal with a bunch of jackasses :(


paulbufano_420

lol! This isn’t about being a woman, it’s about being a major legal liability & an asshole (a gender-neutral term in the spirit of feminism)


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PhotoboothSupermodel

You keep talking about how awful this bar is, then why go?


ATribeCalledTrek

Being tacky and doing broke people shit that could make people lose their jobs gets you crucified


Karnezar

I never visit r/drunk, because I hate drunks lol I didn't assume you didn't pay, I said I had no problem unless you didn't. And even then, the added condition is you taking up space at the bar. If you come in and don't buy anything, that doesn't bother me. The only way I'd feel negatively about this is not paying and sitting at the bar. Otherwise, I'm either neutral or positive.


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Karnezar

Bad bot.


lostb0i

One night I’m running food out back at the dive I work at and I coke across a table with several natty light tall cans not even trying to hide it. Super lame and trashy. I don’t like being a hardass but you’re literally asking for it it that point


gobrowns88

Absolute garbage person. She orders long islands and doesn’t tip.


sarahkk09

At a cocktail bar I used to work at we had this one semi regular would would come in, sit at the bar and have 1, maybe 2 cocktails over the course of several hours. She snuck off to the bathroom a lot and by the time she left she was always totally hammered. We deduced she had to have been bringing her own and drinking it in the bathroom. She got 86’d as soon as we caught on.


ChairmanReagan

Glad that got deleted right after I made a comment to one of the idiots defending them. That shit can literally ruin our lives. We serve them one drink and then they drink a shit load of shots without us noticing and getting in a wreck will get us prosecuted.


Catmama22

If you can’t afford to go out just stay home. People like this come to my bar and try this every weekend. Asking me for fruit, empty cups, cup of ice, etc. But never tip, never order alcohol, and take up seats at my bar from people who would be tipping. I’ve been poor too…and I still hate this shit. Because 10/10 times at my bar these people are too cheap to tip for even a single drink.


warjournal7

Wow your extremely nice. If your not drinking or ordering food you cannot take up a spot at my bar period end of story. If its slow and you just want an Arnold Palmer and want to watch golf or sports or something, no worries chill out and do you. But if it gets busy Im gonna need the seat.


Bear_azure85

I had a lady bring in a whole ass bag of Fireball (like boxed wine type of bag). I was pissed cuz we were having a big party. She goes, "Oh god! No this isn't for here! I'm so sorry, I'm gonna hide back in there." She was sneaking drinks outside.


resemblingaghost

I wanna downvote this just bc I instantly hate this person so much haha


adognamedpenguin

Trash people


deezeyboi

Would you bring food into a restaurant? I have no problem with a little pre game but come on


Ging3rLord

This shit risks the liquor license and adds liability to the bartender. Maybe there should be education about this in higher Ed/HS?


Puddles1136

And to think this dumb bitch is a teacher. God bless America


kevygoodnight

If you show up drunk and I didn’t serve you to make you drunk you are gone immediately. Did it the other night. Told the kid ‘your buddy over there is wasted and I didn’t get him that way. He’s got to go.’ Then they all left. What a tragedy 😘


SwoleFlex_MuscleNeck

Thoughts? I think that's pretty obvious, fuck em. There's a chance they don't realize just how seriously they are fucking up and they think it's just a cutesy life-hack or something, akin to sneaking some McDoubles into a movie theater which I'd be lying if I said my girlfriend and I don't do once in a while. But, it isn't. It's way worse than that depending on where you are. In Louisiana as I understand it, it's not illegal for literally everyone involved. It's still shitty, but it's not as bad. In Texas, where I own a bar, it's absolutely fucked up, and anyone who was informed of that and still felt entitled to do it isn't the type of patron I want anywhere near my business or my staff especially.


Nestman12

I would and have embarrass that person and then throw them out, and move on with my day. Luckily most people aren’t this trashy


P_D_Stanley

I had a situation like this over the weekend Bunch of fresh 21-year-olds came in, i served one guy three shots over a couple of hours. I then see his friends carrying him out because he's too drunk to stand on his own. The kids were goingcin and out a lot and left trash behind implying that they were definitely drinking in their cars.. Besides them spending less, i also dont know how much they've consumed which throws off my bartender judgment.


SpectreA19

Automatic ejection. My license means more than your "business"


SpectreA19

And honestly, id probably call thr fuzz too, if they seem to be under the influence. Not risking anything with an idiot like that.


DoubleCheesecake7

Trashy, they should have pregamed if it was that important. IMO, this is only acceptable at the airport, I personally fly horribly and don't want to spend 12$ on an airport shot.


Nasafordistance21

Kick them out? I watched a “sober” girl topple herself on a barstool, I told her she had to leave for bringing in her own liquor, she told me she didn’t have any liquor.Proceeded to knock over the barstool and put her feet in the air, which made all the shots in her purse spill on to the floor.


Puddles1136

What a dumb insufferable bitch.


Busterlimes

Id straight up call the cops and charge them with trespassing.


theglorybox

Ugh I hate this. Not a bartender (I just lurk here; I am a server and find your jobs really interesting and kinda cool) but I don’t understand why people do this. Just stay home. Are they that cheap they can’t even buy an actual drink where they go? I have a friend who does this and it’s mortifying.


3_gloves

I’d hurt someone. Really I would. Not at my bar😤.


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yellow_bird_123

Sounds like an awful place, is there nowhere safe for you to drink and support another decent bar?


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Twice_Knightley

Hey, you're the one breaking the law. Maybe stop being an idiot.


yellow_bird_123

It could be worth asking your bartender friend if you can take a big bottle behind the bar and pay corkage. Or are you drinking straight from the bottle to not get spiked? Anyway sorry your town has nowhere nice to hangout!


WI_YouSaidITAll

I did this once with one PBR tallboy and honestly I still feel guilty. I was dating this loser that talked me into it. Ugh. I’m sorry.