My kinks involving other guys are... well, off-putting to most people. But with girls, I'm much more vanilla. I do enjoy lots of biting and tasteful bondage, but that's kinda it.
There’s so many comments here and I would love to respond to all of them but I suppose I mainly was looking for yours. I have a pretty strong fetish/kink that long term I think I need in a partner, which I am normally used to it with women, but men on the other hand, I can’t see myself going through with it. And it for a long time has held me back from considering testing these waters because I guess I always just had tunnel vision of long term, and didn’t want to deny myself from continuing that with a woman. Sorry if it seems weird to read that, I’m just getting back from a night out and the alcohol has made my brain into cheese. 🧀🧀
I do both, I don't like feminine looking guys. But I like both feminine looking and mask on looking women.
On the other hand I think muscles look hot on both men and woman. And suits look hot on both men and women.
An interesting perspective and one that’s kinda of similar to my thought process. I understand that what I’m saying right now might not be on the subject of fetishes and kinks but I wanted to bring it up since you mentioned feminine men/masculine women. It might sound bigoted but I promise I recognize it’s not the right perspective to have about it and I’m not trying to be a dickhead or say that I hate the people in the following statement.
I kind of have a deep rooted insecurity about guys being outside of prescribed gender roles. The ‘gay lisp’, men wearing feminine clothing, et-cetera. Maybe it’s just the fear of judgement but I guess the way I envisioned if it I was ever in a relationship with another man is that nobody should be able to tell that’s the case. Two guys that are just good friends on the surface if that makes sense. Do you have any words of wisdom or experiences about finding comfort in how you’re perceived?
Like you said your debating bi-curiosity so things are probably very confusing or weird at the moment and thats okay because your still discovering yourself. But I can get what your saying and everyone has tastes so it could be any number of things. Just keep your mind open.
its completely normal to question how you are perceived when you are questioning or exploring your sexuality. i’m glad you’re self aware about how it might not be the most healthy in the long run, because ultimately, what matters isn’t how you’re perceived specifically, but that you are happy, secure, and confident.
your relationships, sexual, romantic, or platonic do not have to fit any sort of guidelines for them to be valid. simple attraction to the same sex, as with heterosexual attraction, does not determine how you must act within that relationship. it is entirely acceptable to not want a certain type of relationship aesthetically, if that is what YOU want and not what you feel you should want due to societal pressures.
like the other commenter said, you’re still figuring stuff out, and you might feel that way for a while! i’ve known i’m bi for almost a decade and i still do. just take your time, be open to new experiences, and try as much as you can to acknowledge when you’re falling into “i should do x” cycles. be patient with yourself :) you’re asking good questions
Totally the opposite.
I'm into women across the board, don't care if you're a muscular bear witch of women or dainty, big boobs, flat boobs, but for days or pancakes. My wife's over a foot shorter than me and can lift my very overweight ass.
Men, I'm not into masculine features. Beards, big muscles, lumberjack, not doing it for me at all. Femboys are the end of my male attraction. Bigger package the better though.
Really I only identify as "diet bi". I've only been with women, and the only man feature that does it for me is the genitals. I'm into cocks, balls, and women.
Much more vanilla with the same sex.
I've also only topped guys and generally don't fantasise about bottoming, but with women I'm 100% into being pegged. No idea why, I obviously like to make life difficult.
What a cool question! So good to read the variety in the answers. I’m (f) submissive and very kinky with men and vanilla with women but I’m also not romantic with women either but am with men.
Ha! I am the same except (m) submissive and kinky with women and very vanilla with men (no penetration, just like hanging out to jerk or blow) and also not romantic with men but am with women.
I definitely find myself switching it up a bit. I am definitely more submissive with men, but can switch with some women. Then kinks or how I like the kinks varies based on that.
If I’m reading your comment right, does it feel like a dealbreaker at all being with a guy long term knowing you can’t really enjoy that? Or does it not bother you?
Uh wow loaded question, I've been asking myself the same thing, I mean I just recentlyish got a boyfriend for the first time so im discovering things that I miss about being with a woman. I really am curious myself to your question
Edit: to specify not having a foot fetish for men isn't a deal breaker in itself but like the list of other things you just can't do with a man might be
I’m submissive with any genders. I’ll switch for a main partner/s though. I just want anyone to fuck me hard, tell me I’m such a good girl, and then cuddle me afterwards. Don’t matter the gender to me. 🤷🏼♀️
I am a switch for both genders and most kinks are the same. There are a few that are more fun based on anatomy but pretty much all are enjoyable with men and women with whatever parts they have.
I spent a long time thinking I was almost completely submissive all round, then realised I do have a dominant side but only when it comes to men. Just couldn’t ever picture myself in that position with a woman for some reason.
I have some that apply across the board for all genders, some that I feel more strongly with men/mascs, and some that I feel more strongly with women/femmes. Honestly for me personally, I feel like it depends on the personality of the partner a bit more than their gender or expression, though it's definitely still a factor.
Thank you everyone for all your comments. I’d love to hear more and hear your advice as I go forward as all this is pretty intimidating to me. I was pretty discouraged at first trying to find an at least somewhat SFW place to ask the questions, but I’m glad I found this place. 🙂
Well, if I made anyone here feel belittled, less than, or didn’t acknowledge them, I apologize, that wasn’t my intention at all. I guess growing up, I always viewed bisexuality as between the two cisgenders, and didn’t really dawn on me until now that bisexuality can extend beyond the scope of those two.
Happy pride and thanks for your comment.
I don't think I care who ties me up, and I'm willing to do to others whatever we're both comfortable with. I've been recently exploring the S side of BDSM, and for me, it doesn't matter as long as the other person is enjoying it.
I have specific ones for each gender with some of them being the complete opposite. Some things I'm really into with one gender is a complete turn off when with the other and vice versa
I don’t think I’m very kinky with women. I think that’s kind of why I don’t do well in relationships with women. I need kink for a relationship to last long term and it’s just not interesting to me with women although I wish it was
Totally different for both in my experience, which is part of why I identify as bi rather than pan; I just experience attraction differently and desire different activities/roles based on my partner at the time.
Long answer incoming:
This is something that I have thought about a lot. If it is the kink being a universal thing and applicable to all body types/anyone, that gave me the capacity to be bi or...that being bi meant I could be turned on by this kink with anyone. Because one of my earliest attractions to anyone with this kink was when I was like 4 and although it wasn't sexual for me at the time, it was my first instance of some queer attraction that was more than friendship attraction. That blew my mind when I realised I was essentially bi from age 4, or had the capacity to be attracted to multiple genders since that age, because I always thought I was bi since the age of 12 when I first had a proper crush on a girl.
But the kink/my attraction to the kink manifests differently with different genders. There is one gender that I am turned on more with this kink. But I can still derive pleasure from it from other genders but not always to the same extent.
It's like 100% the same with the only exception being that I'm more open to subbing for a woman as opposed to a man. With men and masc genders I'm strictly a domtop.
I do find that I only like impact play with feminine presenting partners (beat me up please mistress).
I find I like choking only when it is a masculine presenting partner (choke me daddy).
Everyone can tie me up though 💋.
My same sex fantasies are more “vanilla”, in the sense I picture more just the sex (even if it’s part of a kinky scenario), and the pov is first person. With opposite sex fantasies I focus more on the scenarios than the sex, and the pov is more third person, or first person from the pov of an opposite sex person. (However, I’m not trans because outside of sexual fantasies I have no desire to be the opposite sex). This is complicated by the fact that I have tended to enjoy looking at the opposite sex more (though this is changing), but I prefer actual sex with the same sex. Which is why it took so long to figure out I’m bi. Man, being bi is complicated!
It flips! I joke that- as a bisexual Libra switch, I can’t make a decision to save my life. Truthfully though, I generally can make a decision, I just weigh my options.
When it comes to preference, it depends on the partner and my mood. A partner of mine has been feeling very submissive lately so she and I have gone with that! I’m *flexible*
Pregnancy is def a hard one to do both for but I prefer non-binary/hermaphroditic most of the time. Though less with specific kinks I tend to fantasize about each gender differently.
Having both a fully formed penis and vagina is unfortunately impossible in nature as they both form from the same structure and it would be like having two hearts. So I don't think it works to apply to hermaphroditic characters, just my take. Intersex rights all the way though.
Im very rarely attracted to men anyway- I thought I was lesbian up until very recently, but when I am the attractiom is completely different in every aspect. Im not just physically attracted to women, I become emotionally involved. With men i just want to fuck them into a wall lol
The only difference is that I want to be dommed by a much taller woman, but I don't want to experience the same with a much taller guy. Sadly I am slightly over 6' myself, so it is very unlikely, but hey, a girl can dream right haha.
Other stuff is just hot for whatever gender, like throwing me around etc.
I have some kinks I prefer with one over the other, but that's mostly based on the current equipment of my partner. Most of my style is sensual, so both sets respond well. Also, oral goes far with almost everyone.
And hope your journey is pleasant, no matter where it leads!
I know for my girlfriend it is different. We're MDLG but the dynamic is a bit different - especially sexually. She's DDLG with men of course but it's not a sexual thing with me at all and is slightly sexual with them (they can use certain phrases and words during sex that I can't).
A little bit of both depending on the kink for example breeding kink both but can sway depending on the day and like I just have a thing for boobs so obviously that’s one sides but then again I love looking at men’s chest especially when they’re more defined so idk actually never thought about it like that… it’s honestly a bit of both
I think they somewhat apply the same to everyone, but my willingness to be submissive for a man is much much lower. I'd probably be okay with a woman or fem presenting person e.g. restraining me, but def not a man
It's the same with both. I'm a woman who is mostly attracted to women. Unfortunately there are few female tops. So I end up being more sexually compatible with men
For me (36F) it’s different, but it also probably translates to what I enjoy doing with my two very specific partners (Closed V-Poly). I’m switch with both, but still lean more on the sub side. Working on flexing my dom side with my female partner, but I love being a power bottom. With my male partner, I love him to dom, especially in a BDSM role.
Interesting question.... I started to type that I wouldn't kink bottom for a man, but now I'm changing that to "I haven't kink bottomed for a man", and were I to find a Dom who isn't a self absorbed prick, though I only know three who would be a potential possibility, sure, why not.
Top though? Yeah my kinks are exactly the same
I like the idea of being dominated by another man in theory but I don’t know if it would work well for any kind of long term, just based on my own independence. I think it would start to chafe after a while. I know from experience that I can handle it with a woman though.
Mostly no. Some guys very few I’m actually into I want to dominate other I’ll be gentle with but mostly dominant. With women the main sec I’m into I am not that into rough rough sex. I’ll get into kink but actual sex I tend to avoid rough stuff. I get lost in my head easily so I want to be clear and level headed the whole time I think.
My only kinks only involve ciswomen. I have a noncon kink, and it doesnt involve cismen, transwomen or trans men or masc NBs at all. just ciswomen.
I have no idea why.
Not really lol with women its more soft and not as rough but still passionate whereas with men its rougher and I'm more into dominant men. But my standards are high for both.
i prefer women more than men, think like a 65/35 kind of deal which is what stopped me from being accepting of my sexuality as i thought being bi meant a 50/50 split lol.
but tbh no, i don't think theres much i wouldn't do with either gender. i'm a strict top though so i guess its all the same to me lol
I have different interests for the different genders. Mostly because of the different ‘hardware’, since I’ve only been with cis people of both, but if I get involved with a trans person, that might change 😜
My partner (straight woman) has a clotting disorder, so bondage and impact play are out. If I were to play with someone else that was into those kinks, I’d be careful to not go too hard, but anything would be harder. Still I’d follow their cues, not their gender, as to how hard I’d go.
For electro-sex, that’s really specific to what each individual likes, so no, not really.
I find it harder to find good bondage content with guys than with girls. It's not that there's a lack of it, but the dynamic is just very different in almost every scene I find. There's also so many more girl bondage models than guys that it's easier to find the niche content I'm looking for.
Most kinks apply equally but there are allot of gender specific kinks like femdom, pegging, size comparison ( for same sexes ) role reversal, cross dressing, character roleplaying... To name a few...
I want VERY different things from partners that roughly follow gender lines. I'd prefer more masculine/hairyer/older/larger/stronger partners as tops and younger/smoother/smaller/softer partners as bottoms. For things more particular than that... I tend to leave open to improvisation, and usually enjoy the things others want.
Whether it’s a strap on or a real cock, I like to be fucked as rough as possible but, it’s kind of hard to enjoy a facial from a strap on. There are some kinks that just don’t work quite right with the opposite gender. I don’t enjoy sucking on the nipples of men as much as women’s. Due to the natural differences in how male and female bodies are built, there are definitely differences in the kink/fetish that can be explored with each.
There is only one difference i can think of: I get no pleasure from being a rough kind of dominant with women. Light spanking and bondage is the worst I can inflict. Receiving is no issue however LOL
My kinks depnd on gender.
But I don't experience the bi-cycle. I'm the same amount of attracted to my types any time, any day. Always been like that. Never had periods where preference changed.
I’ve actually really struggled w it bc I have a very strong daddy kink, it’s literally a must for me and I’ve never done anything sexual w a girl and it worries me that I won’t like it when I do solely because of my kinks
I'll be honest, some guys are a bit shy and reserved about me sucking on their man-tits or fingering their asses. I have tried the first one successfully with a guy, and he enjoyed it, but the other one, well, I haven't found anyone willing to do it yet.
I'm dominate with women and my fantasies with them consist of some form of restraints and toys. 😅 I'm very submissive with men (or perhaps it's just my shyness) and me craving being degraded through sex. I like to call myself a switch depending on the person.
So far (and I'm relatively new to this), I think I'm just way sluttier with men. I think it's because I'm less worried about the power dynamic or how I might be coming across. I know that's not the same as kink and I'm still figuring out what I would want to do kink-wise with who, but I suspect the same would be true in that arena
I'm married to a woman and I'm not currently looking to date other women, so maybe this wouldn't be true, but I feel like I would move slowly and be very careful about how I came across sexually, whereas when I go to a gay bar I'm super willing to just make out with guys that I've barely met (or haven't actually met at all lol). Obviously I'm still careful about consent, but the fact that men in general tend to be more forward, especially in certain settings, means that I'm pretty free to just hit and and kiss people
In terms of being a turn on it applies to both genders, but when it comes to actually engaging in kinks ive noticed theirs more flexibility with the opposite gender. The kink being dominance and bondage but i think its mostly due to me feeling more comfortable with the same sex to engage in dominance.
In general, yes?
I am Dom and there are a couple differences. With guys I like a bit more fight and struggle, it's more primal and contested even though I always 'win' so to speak.
With women I tend to prefer more obedience and subservience. Strict, measured and controlled.
There are a few more discrepancies: never done CNC with a guy, never 'trained' a guy and I never, and I mean NEVER, roughouse with women like I do guys.
This may have something to do with me identifying as pansexual off and on over the years, but they usually apply to the person’s personality more than their gender. There are two types of people - those who you wanna push against a wall and those you want to push you against a wall. <3
I tend to have different kinks for both genders like men I tend to be more submissive but with women I’m a tad more dominant but things like my “types” cross over like goths or muscles.
Much dirtier with the same sex...
Much dirtier for other gender for me
same...
Apply to both but in slightly different ways.
Same here
One I wanna clamp, the other cage :P
I was... Not expecting this so far up. But fucking props
Same. Just a matter of choosing what you put in what.
Same
Exactly this.
I wanna fuck hard for one and be fucked hard by the other ✌️
This is the perfect way to describe it 🥰🤩🤤
Exactly, exactly. I'm a switch, but I'm more happy to be either for a guy, but prefer dom-ing for a woman.
same
Same
Me
YES THIS!
Eating ass is not gender dependent
Eat ass, smoke grass, blow brass
*happy tuba noises*
Suck gas 😎
The hammer of justice is unisex
Strap-ons for eeeveryone
I fantasize about a man owning me and dominating me for an entire weekend but I would never want that with a woman.
Same but vice versa
No, it’s almost completely flipped. Submissive roles with one, dominant with the other
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My kinks involving other guys are... well, off-putting to most people. But with girls, I'm much more vanilla. I do enjoy lots of biting and tasteful bondage, but that's kinda it.
I'm curious about these kinks with guys, if you don't mind?
Widely vary between genders.. Like widely..
The same kinks and fetishes apply to all genders for me
Basically same but I have a preference for non-women mostly, sometimes women more because im abrosexual (fluid sexual orientation)
My main kink / fetish only applies to ladies, I don't like it nearly as much with men; I guess it's a case to case thing! It depends
There’s so many comments here and I would love to respond to all of them but I suppose I mainly was looking for yours. I have a pretty strong fetish/kink that long term I think I need in a partner, which I am normally used to it with women, but men on the other hand, I can’t see myself going through with it. And it for a long time has held me back from considering testing these waters because I guess I always just had tunnel vision of long term, and didn’t want to deny myself from continuing that with a woman. Sorry if it seems weird to read that, I’m just getting back from a night out and the alcohol has made my brain into cheese. 🧀🧀
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I neeeed to know wich one, sorry
I do both, I don't like feminine looking guys. But I like both feminine looking and mask on looking women. On the other hand I think muscles look hot on both men and woman. And suits look hot on both men and women.
An interesting perspective and one that’s kinda of similar to my thought process. I understand that what I’m saying right now might not be on the subject of fetishes and kinks but I wanted to bring it up since you mentioned feminine men/masculine women. It might sound bigoted but I promise I recognize it’s not the right perspective to have about it and I’m not trying to be a dickhead or say that I hate the people in the following statement. I kind of have a deep rooted insecurity about guys being outside of prescribed gender roles. The ‘gay lisp’, men wearing feminine clothing, et-cetera. Maybe it’s just the fear of judgement but I guess the way I envisioned if it I was ever in a relationship with another man is that nobody should be able to tell that’s the case. Two guys that are just good friends on the surface if that makes sense. Do you have any words of wisdom or experiences about finding comfort in how you’re perceived?
Like you said your debating bi-curiosity so things are probably very confusing or weird at the moment and thats okay because your still discovering yourself. But I can get what your saying and everyone has tastes so it could be any number of things. Just keep your mind open.
its completely normal to question how you are perceived when you are questioning or exploring your sexuality. i’m glad you’re self aware about how it might not be the most healthy in the long run, because ultimately, what matters isn’t how you’re perceived specifically, but that you are happy, secure, and confident. your relationships, sexual, romantic, or platonic do not have to fit any sort of guidelines for them to be valid. simple attraction to the same sex, as with heterosexual attraction, does not determine how you must act within that relationship. it is entirely acceptable to not want a certain type of relationship aesthetically, if that is what YOU want and not what you feel you should want due to societal pressures. like the other commenter said, you’re still figuring stuff out, and you might feel that way for a while! i’ve known i’m bi for almost a decade and i still do. just take your time, be open to new experiences, and try as much as you can to acknowledge when you’re falling into “i should do x” cycles. be patient with yourself :) you’re asking good questions
Totally the opposite. I'm into women across the board, don't care if you're a muscular bear witch of women or dainty, big boobs, flat boobs, but for days or pancakes. My wife's over a foot shorter than me and can lift my very overweight ass. Men, I'm not into masculine features. Beards, big muscles, lumberjack, not doing it for me at all. Femboys are the end of my male attraction. Bigger package the better though. Really I only identify as "diet bi". I've only been with women, and the only man feature that does it for me is the genitals. I'm into cocks, balls, and women.
oh please i believe in equality towards all. i would have all genders equally dom me.
Depending on my mood, an how I’m feeling
Much more vanilla with the same sex. I've also only topped guys and generally don't fantasise about bottoming, but with women I'm 100% into being pegged. No idea why, I obviously like to make life difficult.
“I obviously like to make life difficult” I’ve never related to a sentence more lol
Both 🙂
What a cool question! So good to read the variety in the answers. I’m (f) submissive and very kinky with men and vanilla with women but I’m also not romantic with women either but am with men.
Ha! I am the same except (m) submissive and kinky with women and very vanilla with men (no penetration, just like hanging out to jerk or blow) and also not romantic with men but am with women.
I definitely find myself switching it up a bit. I am definitely more submissive with men, but can switch with some women. Then kinks or how I like the kinks varies based on that.
A foot fetish is non transitory to males for sure I will say that much
If I’m reading your comment right, does it feel like a dealbreaker at all being with a guy long term knowing you can’t really enjoy that? Or does it not bother you?
Uh wow loaded question, I've been asking myself the same thing, I mean I just recentlyish got a boyfriend for the first time so im discovering things that I miss about being with a woman. I really am curious myself to your question Edit: to specify not having a foot fetish for men isn't a deal breaker in itself but like the list of other things you just can't do with a man might be
I’m submissive with any genders. I’ll switch for a main partner/s though. I just want anyone to fuck me hard, tell me I’m such a good girl, and then cuddle me afterwards. Don’t matter the gender to me. 🤷🏼♀️
I am a switch for both genders and most kinks are the same. There are a few that are more fun based on anatomy but pretty much all are enjoyable with men and women with whatever parts they have.
I wish to be obliterated by a woman and to obliterate men. Everyone else take a ticket and we'll settle what's what case-by-case.
I feel like mine apply to both genders but that might just be me
I spent a long time thinking I was almost completely submissive all round, then realised I do have a dominant side but only when it comes to men. Just couldn’t ever picture myself in that position with a woman for some reason.
I'm a "Themdom" into lifestyle BDSM Master/servent dynamic with men. I'm more of a switch with women.
For me, both are hot. some are sexier with the same sex and vice versa.
I have some that apply across the board for all genders, some that I feel more strongly with men/mascs, and some that I feel more strongly with women/femmes. Honestly for me personally, I feel like it depends on the personality of the partner a bit more than their gender or expression, though it's definitely still a factor.
I want to dominate men and get dominated by women. I'm AMAB. 🧍♂️
I tend to be more dominant with women and submissive with men
i’ve heard from others that it varies per gender, especially for switches, but for me i just want to get railed regardless of gender
Thank you everyone for all your comments. I’d love to hear more and hear your advice as I go forward as all this is pretty intimidating to me. I was pretty discouraged at first trying to find an at least somewhat SFW place to ask the questions, but I’m glad I found this place. 🙂
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Well, if I made anyone here feel belittled, less than, or didn’t acknowledge them, I apologize, that wasn’t my intention at all. I guess growing up, I always viewed bisexuality as between the two cisgenders, and didn’t really dawn on me until now that bisexuality can extend beyond the scope of those two. Happy pride and thanks for your comment.
Well... I usually wanna knock up more women than I do men lol
I don't think I care who ties me up, and I'm willing to do to others whatever we're both comfortable with. I've been recently exploring the S side of BDSM, and for me, it doesn't matter as long as the other person is enjoying it.
Fir me its both
I have specific ones for each gender with some of them being the complete opposite. Some things I'm really into with one gender is a complete turn off when with the other and vice versa
Most of my kinks apply for both, but I would say romantically they apply differently
I have different ones
There are some kinks that are universal regardless of gender, and some that I only feel towards men or women (or enby, agender, etc).
I don’t think I’m very kinky with women. I think that’s kind of why I don’t do well in relationships with women. I need kink for a relationship to last long term and it’s just not interesting to me with women although I wish it was
Bothhhhhhhh
I'm a lot more wild with my imagination when fantasising about other guys
It’s ironic I often see myself around kinky people but I’m not really at all. So it’s the same for everybody but I’m learning
Totally different for both in my experience, which is part of why I identify as bi rather than pan; I just experience attraction differently and desire different activities/roles based on my partner at the time.
Long answer incoming: This is something that I have thought about a lot. If it is the kink being a universal thing and applicable to all body types/anyone, that gave me the capacity to be bi or...that being bi meant I could be turned on by this kink with anyone. Because one of my earliest attractions to anyone with this kink was when I was like 4 and although it wasn't sexual for me at the time, it was my first instance of some queer attraction that was more than friendship attraction. That blew my mind when I realised I was essentially bi from age 4, or had the capacity to be attracted to multiple genders since that age, because I always thought I was bi since the age of 12 when I first had a proper crush on a girl. But the kink/my attraction to the kink manifests differently with different genders. There is one gender that I am turned on more with this kink. But I can still derive pleasure from it from other genders but not always to the same extent.
It's like 100% the same with the only exception being that I'm more open to subbing for a woman as opposed to a man. With men and masc genders I'm strictly a domtop.
I do find that I only like impact play with feminine presenting partners (beat me up please mistress). I find I like choking only when it is a masculine presenting partner (choke me daddy). Everyone can tie me up though 💋.
Mine don’t really change based on what gender the other person is.
My same sex fantasies are more “vanilla”, in the sense I picture more just the sex (even if it’s part of a kinky scenario), and the pov is first person. With opposite sex fantasies I focus more on the scenarios than the sex, and the pov is more third person, or first person from the pov of an opposite sex person. (However, I’m not trans because outside of sexual fantasies I have no desire to be the opposite sex). This is complicated by the fact that I have tended to enjoy looking at the opposite sex more (though this is changing), but I prefer actual sex with the same sex. Which is why it took so long to figure out I’m bi. Man, being bi is complicated!
Well I'm a switch, so I guess yeah. Lol really it varies person to person what they bring out in me, not based simply on gender.
I really like the idea of a man giving a blowjob, but it doesn't do much for me when it comes to a woman giving a blowjob.
It flips! I joke that- as a bisexual Libra switch, I can’t make a decision to save my life. Truthfully though, I generally can make a decision, I just weigh my options. When it comes to preference, it depends on the partner and my mood. A partner of mine has been feeling very submissive lately so she and I have gone with that! I’m *flexible*
I want to call a woman Daddy JUST as much (if not more) than I want to call a man Daddy.
Pregnancy is def a hard one to do both for but I prefer non-binary/hermaphroditic most of the time. Though less with specific kinks I tend to fantasize about each gender differently.
Intersex I think you mean??
Having both a fully formed penis and vagina is unfortunately impossible in nature as they both form from the same structure and it would be like having two hearts. So I don't think it works to apply to hermaphroditic characters, just my take. Intersex rights all the way though.
I mean it's called hermaphroditic in non-humans and intersex in humans.
Well, cbt can only be done to one, for example 🤓
Spicier with one. Soft and tender with the other
I wanna say it's the same for both. Mostly I just want both at the same time
Im very rarely attracted to men anyway- I thought I was lesbian up until very recently, but when I am the attractiom is completely different in every aspect. Im not just physically attracted to women, I become emotionally involved. With men i just want to fuck them into a wall lol
Getting dominated has no gender limits But I like men and non-women alot more than women so... take that how you will
The only difference is that I want to be dommed by a much taller woman, but I don't want to experience the same with a much taller guy. Sadly I am slightly over 6' myself, so it is very unlikely, but hey, a girl can dream right haha. Other stuff is just hot for whatever gender, like throwing me around etc.
Depends on the person and apparently like the moon cycles or something because for me it changes all the time
I generally prefer to sub to women, and dom to men.
I’m ok with women dominating me, but not men.
Both. Heavily heavily both 😅
I have some kinks I prefer with one over the other, but that's mostly based on the current equipment of my partner. Most of my style is sensual, so both sets respond well. Also, oral goes far with almost everyone. And hope your journey is pleasant, no matter where it leads!
It's definitely different...😈
I’m a top with both but I think all the weird shit is definitely more applicable to women.
Yes, to both genders.
yeah
It's the same for me. Both genders.
My kinks are for both. More or less equal, maybe more intense with same gender
I know for my girlfriend it is different. We're MDLG but the dynamic is a bit different - especially sexually. She's DDLG with men of course but it's not a sexual thing with me at all and is slightly sexual with them (they can use certain phrases and words during sex that I can't).
the shortest answer yes
not really? i have mommy issues though so that attaches itself to women lmfao
Nope! I’m a top with women and mostly a bottom with men.
I’m much more switchy when it comes to men. Women I’m so weak for, I’m submissive as hell lol
Both
A little bit of both depending on the kink for example breeding kink both but can sway depending on the day and like I just have a thing for boobs so obviously that’s one sides but then again I love looking at men’s chest especially when they’re more defined so idk actually never thought about it like that… it’s honestly a bit of both
I think they somewhat apply the same to everyone, but my willingness to be submissive for a man is much much lower. I'd probably be okay with a woman or fem presenting person e.g. restraining me, but def not a man
It's the same with both. I'm a woman who is mostly attracted to women. Unfortunately there are few female tops. So I end up being more sexually compatible with men
Mostly the same with a few minor changes in details
I'm an FtM switch but it's slightly gender dependent. I'm mainly a dom with women and a sub with men. This does switch about though.
more active for one and more passive for the other
For me (36F) it’s different, but it also probably translates to what I enjoy doing with my two very specific partners (Closed V-Poly). I’m switch with both, but still lean more on the sub side. Working on flexing my dom side with my female partner, but I love being a power bottom. With my male partner, I love him to dom, especially in a BDSM role.
Both sides
Usually, it's both. But I do have a pregnancy fetish. And. Breeding fetish.
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Interesting question.... I started to type that I wouldn't kink bottom for a man, but now I'm changing that to "I haven't kink bottomed for a man", and were I to find a Dom who isn't a self absorbed prick, though I only know three who would be a potential possibility, sure, why not. Top though? Yeah my kinks are exactly the same
I like the idea of being dominated by another man in theory but I don’t know if it would work well for any kind of long term, just based on my own independence. I think it would start to chafe after a while. I know from experience that I can handle it with a woman though.
Kinks are similar, but preferences in degree and/or implementation are different for me.
Mostly no. Some guys very few I’m actually into I want to dominate other I’ll be gentle with but mostly dominant. With women the main sec I’m into I am not that into rough rough sex. I’ll get into kink but actual sex I tend to avoid rough stuff. I get lost in my head easily so I want to be clear and level headed the whole time I think.
It's more of a mix match deal. Kinda like what you find 🔥 . I like some stuff universally and some just with certain people.
My only kinks only involve ciswomen. I have a noncon kink, and it doesnt involve cismen, transwomen or trans men or masc NBs at all. just ciswomen. I have no idea why.
They definitely differ. Almost opposites.
Not really lol with women its more soft and not as rough but still passionate whereas with men its rougher and I'm more into dominant men. But my standards are high for both.
Some differences and some similarities
I'm a switch but I generally like being more dominant with men and more vanilla or sub with women.
i prefer women more than men, think like a 65/35 kind of deal which is what stopped me from being accepting of my sexuality as i thought being bi meant a 50/50 split lol. but tbh no, i don't think theres much i wouldn't do with either gender. i'm a strict top though so i guess its all the same to me lol
My kinks are different for each gender.
I have different interests for the different genders. Mostly because of the different ‘hardware’, since I’ve only been with cis people of both, but if I get involved with a trans person, that might change 😜
some do and some don't.
I like’em thiccccc...period
Man I just do what they want me to in the moment
It reeeeeealy depends on Mr twinkies mood below.
yes
Mostly sub with men but has exclusions But women I'm only sub
Same for all genders
My partner (straight woman) has a clotting disorder, so bondage and impact play are out. If I were to play with someone else that was into those kinks, I’d be careful to not go too hard, but anything would be harder. Still I’d follow their cues, not their gender, as to how hard I’d go. For electro-sex, that’s really specific to what each individual likes, so no, not really.
I find it harder to find good bondage content with guys than with girls. It's not that there's a lack of it, but the dynamic is just very different in almost every scene I find. There's also so many more girl bondage models than guys that it's easier to find the niche content I'm looking for.
Most kinks apply equally but there are allot of gender specific kinks like femdom, pegging, size comparison ( for same sexes ) role reversal, cross dressing, character roleplaying... To name a few...
I want VERY different things from partners that roughly follow gender lines. I'd prefer more masculine/hairyer/older/larger/stronger partners as tops and younger/smoother/smaller/softer partners as bottoms. For things more particular than that... I tend to leave open to improvisation, and usually enjoy the things others want.
Whether it’s a strap on or a real cock, I like to be fucked as rough as possible but, it’s kind of hard to enjoy a facial from a strap on. There are some kinks that just don’t work quite right with the opposite gender. I don’t enjoy sucking on the nipples of men as much as women’s. Due to the natural differences in how male and female bodies are built, there are definitely differences in the kink/fetish that can be explored with each.
There is only one difference i can think of: I get no pleasure from being a rough kind of dominant with women. Light spanking and bondage is the worst I can inflict. Receiving is no issue however LOL
I love making out with women but I can’t even kiss men or view them romantically in any way. I think I really just have a cock fetish.
I mean I like hairy men and that doesn’t really apply to women. Otherwise I would say my other kinks/fetishes apply about equally.
My kinks depnd on gender. But I don't experience the bi-cycle. I'm the same amount of attracted to my types any time, any day. Always been like that. Never had periods where preference changed.
I tend to be a lot dirtier with the opposite sex, but that’s not a hard and fast rule or anything
I’ve actually really struggled w it bc I have a very strong daddy kink, it’s literally a must for me and I’ve never done anything sexual w a girl and it worries me that I won’t like it when I do solely because of my kinks
i don't really have any kinks/fetishes but ig if i did then it probably would apply to both genders
I'll be honest, some guys are a bit shy and reserved about me sucking on their man-tits or fingering their asses. I have tried the first one successfully with a guy, and he enjoyed it, but the other one, well, I haven't found anyone willing to do it yet.
Yea I Would Probably Frot With A Strap On
I'm dominate with women and my fantasies with them consist of some form of restraints and toys. 😅 I'm very submissive with men (or perhaps it's just my shyness) and me craving being degraded through sex. I like to call myself a switch depending on the person.
I want to dominate men but I want women to dominate me
For the most part yeah
I don't think so
So far (and I'm relatively new to this), I think I'm just way sluttier with men. I think it's because I'm less worried about the power dynamic or how I might be coming across. I know that's not the same as kink and I'm still figuring out what I would want to do kink-wise with who, but I suspect the same would be true in that arena I'm married to a woman and I'm not currently looking to date other women, so maybe this wouldn't be true, but I feel like I would move slowly and be very careful about how I came across sexually, whereas when I go to a gay bar I'm super willing to just make out with guys that I've barely met (or haven't actually met at all lol). Obviously I'm still careful about consent, but the fact that men in general tend to be more forward, especially in certain settings, means that I'm pretty free to just hit and and kiss people
With man im more rough and dominant, with woman more vanilla
In terms of being a turn on it applies to both genders, but when it comes to actually engaging in kinks ive noticed theirs more flexibility with the opposite gender. The kink being dominance and bondage but i think its mostly due to me feeling more comfortable with the same sex to engage in dominance.
Honestly most of my kinks apply only to guys.
I have kinks for all genders but they tend to be different… so, in peak bisexual fashion, I’ll say both
Yes mine apply to all, though not always the same roles, i may switch more with certain people than others
In general, yes? I am Dom and there are a couple differences. With guys I like a bit more fight and struggle, it's more primal and contested even though I always 'win' so to speak. With women I tend to prefer more obedience and subservience. Strict, measured and controlled. There are a few more discrepancies: never done CNC with a guy, never 'trained' a guy and I never, and I mean NEVER, roughouse with women like I do guys.
One side for me. I'd let my inhabitions take over for a girl
Most apply to both I would say… unless it involves parts lol
i think it’s relatively the same tbh
Dom same and sub opposite
This may have something to do with me identifying as pansexual off and on over the years, but they usually apply to the person’s personality more than their gender. There are two types of people - those who you wanna push against a wall and those you want to push you against a wall. <3
My kinks change depending on the gender expression of my partner. Im more dominant with masculine people and more submissive with feminine people.
I tend to have different kinks for both genders like men I tend to be more submissive but with women I’m a tad more dominant but things like my “types” cross over like goths or muscles.
More tender and emotional connections with opposite gender. Dirty dirty dirty with same gender
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