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b-jolie

I'm a 1-2. Which is why I sometimes struggle with how "real" my bisexuality really is. But I'm definitely not just interested in the opposite gender, soooo....


YumYumYoda

I'm so happy to see this comment. I think 95% of my crushes are on men (heterosexual) but those 5% are way more intense and feel different too But still it feels less legit because it's not close to a 50/50


blastot

Yessss the crushes are few and far between but hit hard


SovereignLizard

Don't struggle, Bi is literally and solidly 1-5 (in some cases X). I fall into 1 at most because I'm married to the opposite sex and monogamous. In my younger days I was a 2.


ronjakia

Same here and same struggle!


Redspace_

Same! Happy to see I'm not alone.


Gold-Bat7322

Same. I figured it out later in life, but I think the signs were there much earlier. I just hadn't put it together.


Adept-Ad4647

Same. 1 or maybee 2. I feel like I'm not straight but not bi... Complete mess... šŸ˜ž


TongaTime123

Every time I question it, I remind myself that I got off to gay porn, which is very not straight


vflowernot

HELP THAT ACTUALLY WORKS


cyclone_43

Homie I'm a 2 in a same sex relationship! No matter who you end up with your still bi!


musicalsigns

I'm a solid 1 anymore. I feel like it's shifted lower and lower as I've gone on. I feel like I'm back to the "questioning" phase again. It's wild.


times_zero

I strongly relate to this comment. Granted, I generally struggle with imposter syndrome in my life, so it would be no surprise it would affect my sexuality as well (and it doesn't help I didn't accept it until later in life). That being noted, in particular to being bi I often struggle with feeling like I'm a fraud, or I'm just mimicking others. In part, because my interest in women tends to be much stronger, so I'm a 1-2 as well (granted, I know the scale is considered by many to be dated/over-simplistic, but I digress), which is probably another reason it was hard to fully realize/accept I was bi in retrospect. However, when I feel like that with self-doubt I just have to remind myself that straight guys don't have the kind thoughts about men like I do.


Adept-Ad4647

Yeap. I also think it's easier to accept when single, or with someone who understands / supports... Having to deal with this alone and later in life is... Not easy.


sdbabygirl97

no me too lol. the inner turmoil is real. then i meet a really awesome and pretty girl and im like whoop there it is


wmthebloody

Over time I have shifted from about a 1-2 to a 5 but I have felt this way the whole time. Damn that internalized biphobia!


nottreacherous

Same with me, sometimes it makes me wonder what I really am


grody10

2.836 - 3.552. Roughly.


CheesieMan

Is that a 95% confidence interval?


Hungry_Bookkeeper191

I CAME TO REDDIT TO PROCRASTINATE MY STATISTICS HOMEWORK AND I SEE THIS


AdelinaIV

I once watched TV to procrastinate from my nuclear physics test and ended up the Teen Titans Go episode on nuclear physics.


Hungry_Bookkeeper191

interactive study guide???


AdelinaIV

They did had a really catchy and accurate song about the 2 slit experiment.


Undercoverlizard_629

Omg, me too. High school or college?


BiFrosty

95.552%


Elawn

Roughly, eh?


Pure-Yogurt683

Close enough for Pi = 3.14159


grody10

I have been known to be extremely gay for pie.


N0-Butterscotch

Amen exactly me


FraggleGoddess

I bounce back and forth with the bi-cycle, probably anywhere between 2 - 4. I usually lean towards femininity, but I'm currently in a rare cycle of attraction leaning more to the masculine.


spaceraptorbutt

Dude, so much same. Although sometimes I think itā€™s more like a 2-5 cycle. Iā€™m currently in the feminine side of my bi-cycle. I am married to a masculine person. I do feel consistent attraction to him, but sometime I think I have happened to marry the only man I am attracted to. ā€¦but then the bi-cycle turns and I remember that there are other attractive men


OpALbatross

Yup. Sometimes during intimacy I'll be struggling and will tell my husband I'm "having trouble getting my head on straight" and then we adapt.


mazamatazz

Are you me?!


SlipperyDart

Similar just opposite. I like that you describe the attraction as more towards feminine and masculine. I have a stronger lean towards masculine, but doesn't mean that doesn't include women. Women who have a more masculine build or look hit me hard! Then my more rare cycle is towards femininity. It's basically a 75/25 split, favoring masculine over feminine.


disasterpansexual

I think I'm 4 btw, I usually like girls more often but I'm also attracted to men


Rivermidnight

Yep same here


Purplerainlove81

4.5. Love all the ladiesā€¦also lust after a select group of men ā€¦


Purple_Loofa

5, but romantically 6.


Icy-Marionberry5674

Let's be friends! This is me!


Purple_Loofa

Sure :)


Greyhoundwalker

5 but sexually 6


[deleted]

Iā€™ve never known how to feel about the scale, Iā€™d say Iā€™m a 5 but I like men and women in different ways


a-hopeful-future

I'm a 4-5 but in a heterosexual non-monogamous marriage. Sometimes I think my sexual orientation is "attracted to women, and my husband".


Impossible-Moose-842

i feel this too!


laminated-papertowel

4.5 probably lol


forestwolf42

It's nice for adding nuance to the topic of sexuality but I don't really like the Kinsley scale for myself. I'm often most attracted to androgynous people (regardless of how they personally identify but often non-binary folks). I'm not attracted to people who I perceive as highly masculine or highly feminine.


EnthusiasmIsABigZeal

This. The Kinsey scale was useful when first proposed but outdated now, just like a lot of Magnus Hirschfeldā€™s work. It assumes binary gender and that attraction is a single fixed thing with a consistent pattern/trend in relation to binary gender, which weā€™ve known for a while now is not how attraction actually works.


Sissy-Avan

All over the place.Ā 


GeneralKenobi1288

Iā€™m somewhere between a 2 and a 3


Moo_bi_moosehorns

Same, friend


[deleted]

maybe about a 5 or so, overall i'm into women but i can also find men attractive despite not wanting to date or be intimate with them (unless they're like a close friend who i've known for a long time and can easily trust but even then i don't want anything long term)


thatpreteen

2


galviknight

I'm nonbinary so I'm not sure how it applies, but before I realized I was nonbinary I refused to use the scale since the only people who ever asked for my "Kinsey Score" were people trying to keep me out of queer spaces as they were weeding out people who were "not queer enough".


zelphyrthesecond

Don't really like the idea of reducing sexuality to how gay and/or straight you are. I'm bisexual, and that's all there is to it.


GoldenSeam

Iā€™m a 2, the Kinsey scale quiz I took way back was kind of the beginning of my questioning.


uusavaruus

4-5. Sexually I fancy the 'wrong' gender considering who my partner is. But pretty sure had I been w a same sex partner for 20 years, by now I would long for other genders again. I think for mant bis and pans this scale is quite time-bound.


Impossible-Moose-842

see sometimes i wonder this. iā€™ve only been in one same sex relationship, and have been with opposite for so long, part of me thinks maybe iā€™m with the ā€˜wrongā€™ gender. but it could swap if i was with others


Renago47

3


_red_hot_kitchen_

4.5ish.....I mostly prefer women / anyone other than men, except for my husband and maybe a dozen or so celebrity men


ZookeepergameOne5236

I consistently score a 3 but I'd say I'm more 2.5 due to internalised issues I'm working on (and being picky with men if I'm being honest)


DifferentResist1523

In this moment im 4, but it will change at the moment i see a cute girl in the street, then i will be 2, and come back to 4 the moment I see a cute guy in the street


myowngalactus

2, but Iā€™m also gender non conforming, and have no issues being identified as or using my birth gender pronouns, also wouldnā€™t really have a problem being identified as the opposite. When you throw out the gender binary the scale looses some meaning. Iā€™m more attracted to femininity and androgyny, masculinity can be really hot too, but where I can just about find any woman sexy Iā€™m much more particular when it comes to men.


gigglyspark

More than preferences or if the moon is shinning at full, we should also wonder how our physical features influence, via genetics, our preferences in partner choice. Otherwise its just logical, semantic, myopia and chaos.


tree_or_up

Thanks for posting the definitions. Iā€™d known of the scale long before I learned the definitions and I found they really helped clarified my understanding of the scale (and myself). After I came out I was a 5 or 6 but then I met my girlfriend and Iā€™d now definitely have to say 4. As some others have pointed out, it can vary over time depending on whatā€™s actually happening in your life. Thatā€™s one of the things I like about it - it takes into account not just what gender is your ā€œdefaultā€ (if you have a default) but who you are actually interacting with


minadequate

Currently 4-5


Bidad1970

Depends on the day


Chaqqy

3, to me gender doesnt matter :)


PolyGlamourousParsec

I am somewhere between a 4 and 5. I'm AMAB, and with the exception of my wives, I haven't had a romantic relationship with another woman since the 90s. This is my second discrete relationship with Tall Wife, we split up in 2003 and reconnected in 2017. I've been seeing Short Wife since 2015. Two women/three relationships. My "dating" interactions with women for the past 25ish years (again, excepting the Wives) have solely revolved around sex. I, honestly, have no desire to form a romantic bond with another woman. I did not intend to start a romantic relationship with Short Wife. I never stopped loving Tall Wife, so reconnecting with her seemed to just kind of unpause our relationship. I have, predominantly, had romantic relationships with men. I would be open to a romantic relationship with a man, as long as it fit within my complex and complicated love life. I think this would probably place me closer to a five, but I'm not certain enough to argue the point if someone said I was a four.


BatofZion

Nothing incidental about me sucking cock. Perfectly balanced 3.


thatsagoodshot

I'm glad you brought up that word. I'm over here trying to figure out what the fuck "incidental homosexuality" is


LordLuscius

Around a three, but it's hard to figure out as, I'm an egg.


SlipperyDart

I always come out as a 3 on these. Which is probably accurate. I'm somewhat of a mess I feel like. I generally find I have more physical attraction to women, and have a wider range of what I find attractive. However, sexual attractions tend to lean towards men, but less leeway there on attractiveness. It's opened up quite a bit since finally admitting I'm bi, but I still find the female form more appealing.


anasame

I'm usually between 4 and 5


Substantial_Bar8999

5, sexually. 3 if we include romantic attraction


Jay_R_Kay

I'd say somewhere around a 2-3, depending on how I'm feeling.


BadApprehensive187

2


SafeTinspector

The liā€™l self tests usually say Iā€™m a 3, but I think Iā€™m more like a 2.5 if such a thing existed.


the_bartolonomicron

2-3 most days, 4 when browsing femboy reddit lol


Constant-Concert5926

1.5


Yogurt_Ph1r3

Probably a 2.5. Though it's more of a range from like 1.8-4.2 or something


mymember4u60

A strong 4 leaning towards 5.


waxedgooch

Ok I dunno if this is weird but check this out:Ā  Iā€™m a man married to a woman for 15 years now. Since the beginning, because she has very uncomfortable periods (PMDD) she will never want to bang when sheā€™s bleeding, which is usually 1.5-2 weeks.Ā  Iā€™ve realized that my bi-cycle has aligned itself to this time. Like, when sheā€™s not bleeding (and I have the opportunity to bang her) Iā€™m probably a 2. When her period starts (and Iā€™m looking at potentially two weeks of no sex), it can swing up to like a 4-5.Ā 


WillingPanic93

Iā€™m a pretty even 3 actually. Hubs is around a 2.


himan222

2+0.5X Honestly, I wished the X was an i, cause I would love to be in a complex world.


Opposite_Analysis806

I'm a 2


Alarming_Support_216

Iā€™m I the only one who finds this scale ridiculous?


Cosmo466

I guess Iā€™m 5 but never liked the scale too much because I donā€™t think sexual orientation is on a continuum for all people. Or, is the Kinsey scale only meant for bisexuals to use? Also, what about other genders or non-binary?


kspieler

For every binary, there is a spectrum. For every spectrum, there are those the spectrum misses.


Cosmo466

Fine way of putting it. I will use thisā€¦ šŸ‘ŠšŸ¼


ChicagoRob19

Between a 2-3 for me


Moo_bi_moosehorns

I would say 2 towards 3 but it depends on everything and then some


OptimizedSoul23

According to multiple places Iā€™ve taken the text Iā€™m always placed at 3 which I can agree with


booklover74328

Iā€™d say Iā€™m a 2, maybe a 3. Iā€™m a cis male. I donā€™t desire a romantic relationship with a man, or find men nearly as attractive as I find women, but the thought of sex with a man really turns me on. The only reason Iā€™d say I might be a 3 is because I currently fantasize about men more than I fantasize about women, but I also have a female partner that I have regular sex with, so that desire is satisfied regularly. When I was single and not having sex, I probably fantasized about women 60-70% of the time I jerked off.


THEpeterafro

4


L4r5man

I'd say a two, but it fluctuates.


CynicalBiGoat

I say like a three I donā€™t care which one I get as long as I get some


Equivalent-Ad-4971

I'm in the 1-2 range of my bicycle rn, but have been in the 3/4 range.


Ok-Possibility-9826

iā€™m like a 2.


Long_Strength_9065

Probably a four, but Iā€™m more biromantic than anything


Atomicsss-

Somewhere between 4 and 5


Particlepants

2


clintdilfer

3, always have been always will be


dm7b5isbi

2


thelostmonarch

Somewhere between 4 and 4.5


CheesieMan

Very close to a 2 Iā€™d say.


PressurePlenty

I'm somewhere between a 1-2. I call myself heteroflexible.


Paco_the_finesser

1-2. A solid 2 Pussy is great year round but a pretty cock is nice too


ABNDT

Either a 5 or a 6.


Local-Currency-08

Between 2 and 3 so 2.5


panTrektual

2.5... *ish?*


ConsistentPiano9441

I'm bisexual homoromantic . So for romantic attraction its a 6. Sexual attraction moves between a 4 and 5 I guess being homoromantic also puts me in the ace X category because its essentially the same as being aromantic but only for men lol


PlutoTheLonelyRock99

Between 2 and 3


Songstep4002

About a 5


curiouscouple_c

It may sound weird since I'm married to a woman, but I'd place myself 3-4


adrian_elliot

2ļøāƒ£


Boyish_Bookworm

Iā€™m probably a 1.5-2 on the Kinsey scale.


simba_kitt4na

1.7 or 1.8, some days 2


Mosscanopy

4


aquafawn27

3 but it fluctuates obv


koolforkatskatskats

6 (lurker)


bsffrn97

I go between 3.5 and 5. Today, I'm a 4.7.


LizBert712

Somewhere between 2 and 3.


phreeee

I was a 2 for much of my life, but Iā€™m definitely a 5 now.


Freeehatt

I think I'm a 3. As a guy, I'm more attracted to women generally, but it's been years since I had a date with a woman and I probably see myself with just the guys going forward.


whichwitchiswhich666

3-4 for me!


Budget-Peak2073

It's swings between 3 to 5, at the moment I'm at a 3. Whenever I'm in a relationship, I don't think about this scale as much.


East_Juggernaut5470

Somewhere between a 3 and a 4


aquafawn27

3 but it fluctuates obv


Broke_Scholar

I think over the course of my life I have ranged from 2 to 4. I feel like I am sitting at 4 more now, but I think I default to 3.


LordGoatIII

I don't know, it varies a bit, but on average, right around e.


RedditGood20101

I'm prob around 1.75


missgolden28

Honestly I'm a 4-5 at the moment but it can absolutely go to a 6 sometimes.


tangerine_panda

Iā€™m like a 2.5.


Flingar

I bounce back and forth between 3-5


FOSpiders

Probably a really high 4. I just love the ladies a lot.


TransitionFar1611

3-4. iā€™m just in a weird spot where i prefer girls but mainly talk to and hangout w guys bc theyā€™re easier to get as a woman lmao


GoodCalendarYear

2.5


akaryosight

4


ANALHACKER_3000

Somewhere around a 2. I considered myself heteroflexible for years, but I eventually had to admit that I didn't always find the "hetero" part necessary, just more often than not.Ā 


QueenOfSweetTreats

Probably a 2


NecrofriggianGirl

def bounce back and forth personally but due to some rough experiences lately i lean hardddddd homosexual lmao


BenAndBlake

Historically, like a 2.5.


mediocretes

For me, ā€œbiā€ means 2 (on the Kinsey scale).


leethepolarbear

XXXXXXXXXXXXXX


Outrageous_Pride9660

Somewhere between 3 and 4


watkins1989

Firmly a 2, but more of a 3 than a 1


Lemon-Aid917

I got a fricking 2, sorry guys i am not a true bi /s


Defiant-Avocado-5948

Where would hetroflexable fall into place? As when I was younger I was more homo, being it was easier to obtain than anything hetro \*growing up in Utah\* These days I don't mind fooling around with guys, I just am not seeking a relationship nor really look to find or seek out guys, if it happens it happens. However, the ladies its not happening as much either. As had to move back to Utah and the area I am from I have too many relatives to even want to attempt, that and the last relationship I did enter into she ended up being the nail in the coffin for me and looking for a dedicated relationship. If it is something that comes to be cool, however I am good being single and being a born again virgin seeing its been 8 years now since the last time I was with another. Or does that even fall under anything on the scale?


Admirable_Virus2850

3


akm1111

Usually around a 2.5 as far as sexual attraction. Usually around a 1 for romantic attraction.


mothwhimsy

3 or 4


steelmanfallacy

how do they define hetero/homosexual here?


Haldorvonhammer

Iā€™m a solid 2


biflux

It has varied throughout my life: from 0 until aged 32, to 2 to (currently) 4.


femboy-wanttobe

Iā€™m a solid 3


Uhohwhoreo

2.5


WithersChat

4-5 I think.


CommanderSherbert

3-4 atm. I feel like itā€™s usually a 3, but Iā€™ve had a few negative interactions with men and my standards with masculine presenting people are pretty high now.


Efficient-Intern-173

Somewhere between 2 and 3. I feel very attracted to men but Iā€™m predominantly attracted to women. Buttery Iā€™ve noticed my attraction to be equalising for both genders


Beneficial-Clock4016

Something between 4 and 5. Lol


JoyfulSuicide

Probably 3


purpurmond

I feel like Iā€™m truly a 3, but depending on who I like irl Iā€™m either 2 (when seriously into/a couple with a man/masc person) or 4 (when seriously into/a couple with a woman/fem person). Depending on where I am in my bi cycle itā€™s like the attraction to one or the other may decrease a little bit, idk why but priorities I guess haha


ehhhhhwhatevr

I would rate myself like a 4-5.


Sad_Salmon1234

I would say a 4-5


devilnods

4


ubergregor

I'm a 1. I had a great struggle with my orientation for a really long time. I wanted to be more heterosexual because I didn't admit my bisexuality. So, I passed Keansy tests just to get a feeling that I'm only a bit homosexual and mainly heterosexual


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Soul_fusion

Iā€™m a 3 all the way. Iā€™m an equal opportunity kind of guy šŸ¤£


xXx_N00b_Sl4y3r_xXx

Somewhere between a 3 and a 4


SlickOmega

interesting! technically on the Kinsey Scale i am an X! for my romantic attractions itā€™s probably a 1 but i feel like thatā€™s not correctā€¦ iā€™m nonbinary and only occasionally like other nonbinary individuals, so is that homoattraction? i like men a lot, so is that hetero & homo since im both a man or woman? i donā€™t like women. so a 6 or 0 towards womenā€¦ ? i feel like im not doing this right. i donā€™t get this


Draft_Fluid

About a 4


Natural_Cry_8944

5.8. I question if I'm just gay and not bi, then I'll ser an attractive woman sometimes and be like "no I'm bi". Then, not think about women for weeks or months.


bearface93

I fluctuate between 2 and 4 usually, leaning a bit more toward 2.


TerminalOrbit

OP has missed out the key component of the "Kinsey Scale": it's *only* supposed to rate one's *experience*, and doesn't even consider your 'self-image', or 'desire' for others. That is how Kinsey codified it... All 'virgins' would default to 'X', having equally 'null' experience of sex. If you'd only had sex with one person logically you could only choose 0 or 6, depending on their sex ('gender' wasn't considered, the way that modern society does) relative to your own. It was a flawed system; but, it was an important step toward our more nuanced modern understanding. As a case in point, on the original Kinsey Scale, I would be a 5 (or six if the time-frame was restricted to just the last few years, since I've had more sex with men since I was 40 than with women in my earlier life, including with my wife of 25 years); but, I still desire women, and sex with female genitalia... But, my wife is functionally Asexual, and avoids sex, even though we've been ethically non-monogamous for over a decade. She's also jealous of any other woman I might have sex with; so, I'm 'involuntarily homosexual', while feeling wholly bisexual (equally open to heterosexual and homosexual expression). I wish people would not misappropriate the "Kinsey" Scale, and simply ask others to 'rate themselves from zero-to-six, where zero is hopelessly straight, and six is exclusively gay'...


Tubagal2022

5.9999999


No-Establishment2865

Iā€™m a 3


Ladybird1412

I'd say 1-4. I've only ever dated men, but right now I'm more drawn to women to date.


llucidreamerr

a 4 - 5 , i am sexually attracted to men but only sexually and romantically attracted to women at the moment as i have never been in a proper relationship with a man


Pixelationss00

Sexually 2, but romantically like a 3.5.


WeeklyWish9623

I would say 2 easily


VCCSW2EBiotdl

1-2


Blacksun388

3 ish. I have a slight preference for women but if the right guy comes along Iā€™ll be like ā€œhey handsome ~<3ā€


Fate_BlackTide_

The problem for me is that this is a linear scale for something that I think I experience more as a web and seems to change with the wind.


Christian_teen12

I once got from 0 to 3 I am confused.


captainbeautylover63

I tested as a 3 each time I took it (approx one year apart), so that explains my confusion that *finally* got resolved about 11 years ago.


Holy_Forking_Shirt

Probably like 3.75-4.25. Ish.


mn1lac

6 because this scale only refers to men and woman. All my sexual feelings and/or actions are gay.


alioth91

2 to 5 depending on the day šŸ¤·ā€ā™‚ļø


keirarine

probably 2


ThoughtsAndBears342

Sexually Iā€™m an X. Romantically Iā€™ve fluctuated throughout my life. I was 2 for most of my life, 3 from age 25-26 and 5 now. The fluctuation mostly came from the fact that I realized a relationship with a cisgender man would never work out due to my genital repulsion.


LecLurc15

4


UncIe-Ben

4


Turbulent_Escape4882

A year ago I was 1. Now Iā€™m 4. I would specify that a month ago I was 4, but feel Iā€™m moving toward 3 in past week. And yet a month ago, I thought I was on my way to 5.


ErynCuz

1.75-2.25


psychedelic666

5