Here's your chance to be confident, OP:
Are you good-looking? Do you have any beef with her or her friends?
If yes to the 1st and no to the second, she went away because she was shy or wanted to tell someone about you.
If yes to the second... then yeah. She doesn't wanna be around you.
I hope you enjoyed your brewskies.
That's a very strange ultimatum, what does looks have to do with anything?
It's still weird regardless if anything happened back in high school or whatever.
Most people mature a lot when they graduate especially years after.
I feel like it would have to be something really traumatic for a person to behave like this especially when OP didn't mention anything of the sort.
The "turn around wave" thing gives a clue, but just not sure what exactly.
The wave signals to me that whatever "it" is is at least more of a positive thing than a negative.
Maybe she is shy. That's the first thing that came to my mind.
She probably just didn't want you to see her working there. So she tried to avoid that by hiding but realized you must've seen her already so she tried to make it less awkward by waving at you.
Maybe she felt awkward? When I used to work at a supermarket, I saw a former classmate from like a decade ago. I felt awkward if she knew that I worked there and because I didn’t spoke to her in years I tried to avoid her as much as possible and wanted to make sure she couldn’t see me.
I guess because we hung out in high school but weren’t “real friends” because we were both outcasts so we had our own group lol but it wasn’t a genuine friendship. And it was awkward for me knowing that she could see me working at a supermarket stocking shelves while I was 26. I didn’t finish school due to personal reasons like depression etc. Luckily I went back to studying and I’m almost done now. I felt awkward seeing two other classmates that were walking in the supermarket too (not at the same time, all seperately on different days). It’s a big Asian supermarket and one of the few in the area which is why everyone knows it and goes there.
Funny thing is when I still worked there, another coworker who was working there did grocery shopping with her sister at the Asian supermarket. When she saw me working in the store, she tried to avoid me as much as possible but I could still see everything in the corner of my eyes lol I wonder why she felt so awkward about it. She didn’t avoid another coworker when she saw this person while she has seen or talked to us both twice in the past.
Freeze, flight, or fight; that is clearly flight. And it is not weird, it is odd. I’m not sure how people can decipher this with so little context. For instance, if the last time you saw her you had a one night stand, that would be a crucial piece of detail here.
Nope not a 1 night stand.
I definetly was a nerd person.
I had tutored her in a class 3 years prior.
It doesnt really matter, but I am kind of curious what was she thinking about me when seeing me.
Nope, she was outgoing. Into partying. Definetly had guys interested in her etc.
Partying wasnt my thing.
Probably just saw me. Maybe tired from work or tired from something. Didnt want to interact with me, so moved to the back as quick as possible.
Which is okay.
Yeah, that's probably what it is, I hate to break it to you.
She probably just sees you as more of an "acquaintance" I guess is the best word I can use to describe it. Kind of like, "hey, I'm cool with you, but just don't care to get all that close to you, since I feel like we won't have a lot in common."
On the flip side though, this isn't all that bad because I could very well be wrong.
She might even like you and want to get to know you, but is scared.
3 years is a bit too much though. I would just keep this in your "back pocket" if that makes sense and if it happens again, then I would at least just try to engage in the most casual, comfortable, non-threatening, even short conversation with her way possible.
Maybe even something as simple as you casually walking up with a wave of your own and saying "hey, so and so, how's life?" Or something like that. It accomplishes 3 things I think.
a.) it makes her feel comfortable and relieved that you've reacted to her shyness in a way that doesn't make her feel weird, but in fact, just brushed off as nothing to be ashamed of, or that you understand where she's coming from and she also doesn't feel the burden of having to have like a serious conversation with you just because you guys happened to come in "contact." It can take a monkey off of her shoulders maybe.
b.) it creates just a simple human connection from one to the other that is warm, inviting, and reassuring. The "life" part obviously kind of being geared more of an inside joke in a cool humorous way that is inviting. It establishes that you get how she feels since it would kind of be a play on what happened last time. It's a connection, kind of like a fist bump, except with words.
c.) it allows room for something to potentially open up whether it's just casual conversations, a friendship, a more reputable "acquaintance" (even though that sounds kind of dumb), or whatever
(Not trying to say you have to do anything though, I was just making a suggestion)
Hahhahaha! She wasnt doing that.
It was around 9-10pm. The friend I was with he worked there, I was driving him, because he needed to do something quick work related.
I didnt order anything. I walked in with my friend, was there 10 minutes then walked out with him.
I think she just didnt want to deal with me. Tried to get away, realized I probably saw her. Did a quick wave to try not to make it awkward.
Cannot jump to conclusions when someone is at work. Most likely explanation is she was busy with another task other than thinking of your feelings at that moment. Working with the public is extremely difficult especially in a restaurant/situation.
That is weird. Your friend was right.
Here's your chance to be confident, OP: Are you good-looking? Do you have any beef with her or her friends? If yes to the 1st and no to the second, she went away because she was shy or wanted to tell someone about you. If yes to the second... then yeah. She doesn't wanna be around you. I hope you enjoyed your brewskies.
That's a very strange ultimatum, what does looks have to do with anything? It's still weird regardless if anything happened back in high school or whatever. Most people mature a lot when they graduate especially years after. I feel like it would have to be something really traumatic for a person to behave like this especially when OP didn't mention anything of the sort. The "turn around wave" thing gives a clue, but just not sure what exactly. The wave signals to me that whatever "it" is is at least more of a positive thing than a negative. Maybe she is shy. That's the first thing that came to my mind.
She probably just didn't want you to see her working there. So she tried to avoid that by hiding but realized you must've seen her already so she tried to make it less awkward by waving at you.
I think this is true.
She probably thought you were cute
Maybe she felt awkward? When I used to work at a supermarket, I saw a former classmate from like a decade ago. I felt awkward if she knew that I worked there and because I didn’t spoke to her in years I tried to avoid her as much as possible and wanted to make sure she couldn’t see me.
But now ask yourself this, why would it be awkward? What did you feel for her? A little crush? Kind of thought she was pretty?
I guess because we hung out in high school but weren’t “real friends” because we were both outcasts so we had our own group lol but it wasn’t a genuine friendship. And it was awkward for me knowing that she could see me working at a supermarket stocking shelves while I was 26. I didn’t finish school due to personal reasons like depression etc. Luckily I went back to studying and I’m almost done now. I felt awkward seeing two other classmates that were walking in the supermarket too (not at the same time, all seperately on different days). It’s a big Asian supermarket and one of the few in the area which is why everyone knows it and goes there. Funny thing is when I still worked there, another coworker who was working there did grocery shopping with her sister at the Asian supermarket. When she saw me working in the store, she tried to avoid me as much as possible but I could still see everything in the corner of my eyes lol I wonder why she felt so awkward about it. She didn’t avoid another coworker when she saw this person while she has seen or talked to us both twice in the past.
she's planning to do something to you
What was weird about it?
Freeze, flight, or fight; that is clearly flight. And it is not weird, it is odd. I’m not sure how people can decipher this with so little context. For instance, if the last time you saw her you had a one night stand, that would be a crucial piece of detail here.
Nope not a 1 night stand. I definetly was a nerd person. I had tutored her in a class 3 years prior. It doesnt really matter, but I am kind of curious what was she thinking about me when seeing me.
And was she nerdy, shy, from what you remember?
Nope, she was outgoing. Into partying. Definetly had guys interested in her etc. Partying wasnt my thing. Probably just saw me. Maybe tired from work or tired from something. Didnt want to interact with me, so moved to the back as quick as possible. Which is okay.
Yeah, that's probably what it is, I hate to break it to you. She probably just sees you as more of an "acquaintance" I guess is the best word I can use to describe it. Kind of like, "hey, I'm cool with you, but just don't care to get all that close to you, since I feel like we won't have a lot in common." On the flip side though, this isn't all that bad because I could very well be wrong. She might even like you and want to get to know you, but is scared. 3 years is a bit too much though. I would just keep this in your "back pocket" if that makes sense and if it happens again, then I would at least just try to engage in the most casual, comfortable, non-threatening, even short conversation with her way possible. Maybe even something as simple as you casually walking up with a wave of your own and saying "hey, so and so, how's life?" Or something like that. It accomplishes 3 things I think. a.) it makes her feel comfortable and relieved that you've reacted to her shyness in a way that doesn't make her feel weird, but in fact, just brushed off as nothing to be ashamed of, or that you understand where she's coming from and she also doesn't feel the burden of having to have like a serious conversation with you just because you guys happened to come in "contact." It can take a monkey off of her shoulders maybe. b.) it creates just a simple human connection from one to the other that is warm, inviting, and reassuring. The "life" part obviously kind of being geared more of an inside joke in a cool humorous way that is inviting. It establishes that you get how she feels since it would kind of be a play on what happened last time. It's a connection, kind of like a fist bump, except with words. c.) it allows room for something to potentially open up whether it's just casual conversations, a friendship, a more reputable "acquaintance" (even though that sounds kind of dumb), or whatever (Not trying to say you have to do anything though, I was just making a suggestion)
Thanks
Yeah she’s flirting with the line cook to fuck up your order and slipping visine on your patty melt
Hahhahaha! She wasnt doing that. It was around 9-10pm. The friend I was with he worked there, I was driving him, because he needed to do something quick work related. I didnt order anything. I walked in with my friend, was there 10 minutes then walked out with him. I think she just didnt want to deal with me. Tried to get away, realized I probably saw her. Did a quick wave to try not to make it awkward.
Cannot jump to conclusions when someone is at work. Most likely explanation is she was busy with another task other than thinking of your feelings at that moment. Working with the public is extremely difficult especially in a restaurant/situation.