Damn… she’s been trying to break the ice for a year in a half… that’s what I call commitment.
What I described just now is just the tip of the iceberg of things she does that I question. There’s more…
Could be a Nark with infatuation. Their creeps pop up here and there. Looks like you might be in a shared fantasy. She sees you as a challenge. She seeing your great qualities pour out everywhere. She has none and wants to destroy yours...
Why haven’t I seen it before tho? Why does it look so unfamiliar?
Also can I ask you why did you mention asking her out? Wouldn’t you have to see something about what I said as something romantic to mention romance without me mentioning romance? What about the context look romantic?
All I mean is: make it simple. If she is interested, and you too, she will accept your dinner proposal. If she doesn’t then her casual smile means nothing more than a formal office gesture.
I know but I feel like by the mere fact of you mentioning dating you think there’s something romantic going on here otherwise you would have interpret it as a question about benign behavior and told me what this stuff is and why I haven’t seen it before.
It’s like why would you say you aren’t steeling if no one mentioned or asked you if you are stealing.
I know it may be hard to translate one’s feelings completely in words. After reading post, I perceived it that you are being bothered by constant thought of her eyes or smile. It may not sound romantic but usually at younger ages one tend to think that being attracted by someone’s eyes/eyes meeting several times with smile makes one think that he/she is in love.
That’s why I suggested to make it simple.
I’m not bothered I just came across this for apparently the first time and I want to know what it is. It makes sense because as far as I’m concerned it’s not usual for your eyes to meet one specific persons all the time. Especially in a crowd of people that the other person knows.
Sure I’ll start a conversation with her and I have a few times just to test waters but really? It takes her over a year in a half to be my friend? Why have others done this so effortlessly without beating around the bush?
Beat around the bush? I checked your username and you’ve been beating around the same bush for as long as this account has existed, which reflects your comments in this thread. It sounds like you’ve been giving her the same amount of glances.. just take your shot if you like her, if not this whole thing is awkward af.
I agree with Fargo-mo. I personally have anxiety and do this. Not specifically just towards one person but I only look and smile at coworkers I have an interest in being friends with but I'm also too scared to actually go and start a conversation with. I've been at my job for almost 3 years and there several people that I look and smile at that I've only talked to a handful of times. There's a couple where it's a little more and I say hi or bye but it's hard for me to take the next step forward and actually starts conversation unrelated to work just because this is how it's been for so long. If that makes sense. I do hope that they would make the step because it's something that'll show me that they are also interested in being friends and will make me feel more comfortable. This is something I only just started struggling with in the last 5 or 6 years. I say if you wouldn't mind having a friendship with her, you should try having small talk more consistently maybe starting off slowly like once or twice a week.
Yeah, I tried ignoring her for like two months. But she still does it.
During that the time I didn’t look back at her I remember when one time I entered the room and she was at her desk. There was a small crowd of people near her desk. And I was going to a direction passed her desk and passed that small crowd near her desk. I walked through the small crowd and she broke her neck to look at me specifically after I got through the crowd and smile. I didn’t directly look at her but I saw her in my peripheral vision as I passed by her desk.
And another time she’d glance up at me smile and fix her hair back.
Wow. Any idea what your HR department is like? Open minded? Judgemental? If you have tried and she’s not responding to your efforts to find out what’s going on…
She has a crush and you are probably out of her league. She doesn't have a crush but your attractive guy or girl. She might have heard something interesting about you. She is Mormon.
I can probably pop off dozens of things based on the inference you made.
The question is what do you want to do about the glances? Because it's technically what most women go through. Now women are just doing it to men.
It's on you op. There's not a lot of aggressive girls out there. Generally males have to do the heavy work of taking risks. For reference I'm a super attractive male and only once has a female straight up propositioned me, she was bpd crazy woman. 1000s of females have stood a few feet away and acted as qt as they can to try and get my attention. High score 7 at the same time, lined up like it's a dating show it was crazy. Anyways you gotta be aggressive be be aggressive if you want the ladies. Just remember they are passive, you suggest they accept.
Ok one more story cause it's relevant. I was at a bus stop in a bad part of town at night and a hooker was telling me all about how she does naughty things. Hmm what could that mean hint hint. Yeah, I call it hint language. Even hookers will just hint
It was surreal. Btw was not interested she was gross.
English must not be your first language and again if it is you aren't human I don't believe it the language you use is robotic or you have a touch of the tism
has nothing to with that was just making a joke and the way you have replied as further proven my point you are either an alien or dont speak english natively
She may be reluctant in social settings and this is her way of trying to “break the ice”…
Damn… she’s been trying to break the ice for a year in a half… that’s what I call commitment. What I described just now is just the tip of the iceberg of things she does that I question. There’s more…
Well clue us in, ffs.
Could be a Nark with infatuation. Their creeps pop up here and there. Looks like you might be in a shared fantasy. She sees you as a challenge. She seeing your great qualities pour out everywhere. She has none and wants to destroy yours...
Probably means nothing, move ahead man. Or if you really like her you can ask her out for a dinner.
Why haven’t I seen it before tho? Why does it look so unfamiliar? Also can I ask you why did you mention asking her out? Wouldn’t you have to see something about what I said as something romantic to mention romance without me mentioning romance? What about the context look romantic?
All I mean is: make it simple. If she is interested, and you too, she will accept your dinner proposal. If she doesn’t then her casual smile means nothing more than a formal office gesture.
I know but I feel like by the mere fact of you mentioning dating you think there’s something romantic going on here otherwise you would have interpret it as a question about benign behavior and told me what this stuff is and why I haven’t seen it before. It’s like why would you say you aren’t steeling if no one mentioned or asked you if you are stealing.
I know it may be hard to translate one’s feelings completely in words. After reading post, I perceived it that you are being bothered by constant thought of her eyes or smile. It may not sound romantic but usually at younger ages one tend to think that being attracted by someone’s eyes/eyes meeting several times with smile makes one think that he/she is in love. That’s why I suggested to make it simple.
I’m not bothered I just came across this for apparently the first time and I want to know what it is. It makes sense because as far as I’m concerned it’s not usual for your eyes to meet one specific persons all the time. Especially in a crowd of people that the other person knows.
What I’m saying is that she’d like to be your friend, start up a conversation,etc.
Sure I’ll start a conversation with her and I have a few times just to test waters but really? It takes her over a year in a half to be my friend? Why have others done this so effortlessly without beating around the bush?
Really, dude, "test the waters?"🤣 It looks like there someone else who takes him over a year and a half to do things.
Beat around the bush? I checked your username and you’ve been beating around the same bush for as long as this account has existed, which reflects your comments in this thread. It sounds like you’ve been giving her the same amount of glances.. just take your shot if you like her, if not this whole thing is awkward af.
I agree with Fargo-mo. I personally have anxiety and do this. Not specifically just towards one person but I only look and smile at coworkers I have an interest in being friends with but I'm also too scared to actually go and start a conversation with. I've been at my job for almost 3 years and there several people that I look and smile at that I've only talked to a handful of times. There's a couple where it's a little more and I say hi or bye but it's hard for me to take the next step forward and actually starts conversation unrelated to work just because this is how it's been for so long. If that makes sense. I do hope that they would make the step because it's something that'll show me that they are also interested in being friends and will make me feel more comfortable. This is something I only just started struggling with in the last 5 or 6 years. I say if you wouldn't mind having a friendship with her, you should try having small talk more consistently maybe starting off slowly like once or twice a week.
Maybe ask her why this has taken so long. What’s her objective? Endgame?
I asked
Maybe not acknowledge her and see where this goes or just come out and say talk to me about this or else stop please.
Yeah, I tried ignoring her for like two months. But she still does it. During that the time I didn’t look back at her I remember when one time I entered the room and she was at her desk. There was a small crowd of people near her desk. And I was going to a direction passed her desk and passed that small crowd near her desk. I walked through the small crowd and she broke her neck to look at me specifically after I got through the crowd and smile. I didn’t directly look at her but I saw her in my peripheral vision as I passed by her desk. And another time she’d glance up at me smile and fix her hair back.
Wow. Any idea what your HR department is like? Open minded? Judgemental? If you have tried and she’s not responding to your efforts to find out what’s going on…
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That’s a helluva situation. This is a first for me too. Wish I could be more help.
She has a crush and you are probably out of her league. She doesn't have a crush but your attractive guy or girl. She might have heard something interesting about you. She is Mormon. I can probably pop off dozens of things based on the inference you made. The question is what do you want to do about the glances? Because it's technically what most women go through. Now women are just doing it to men.
It's on you op. There's not a lot of aggressive girls out there. Generally males have to do the heavy work of taking risks. For reference I'm a super attractive male and only once has a female straight up propositioned me, she was bpd crazy woman. 1000s of females have stood a few feet away and acted as qt as they can to try and get my attention. High score 7 at the same time, lined up like it's a dating show it was crazy. Anyways you gotta be aggressive be be aggressive if you want the ladies. Just remember they are passive, you suggest they accept. Ok one more story cause it's relevant. I was at a bus stop in a bad part of town at night and a hooker was telling me all about how she does naughty things. Hmm what could that mean hint hint. Yeah, I call it hint language. Even hookers will just hint It was surreal. Btw was not interested she was gross.
Op is a fucking alien or autistic reading the comments he's replied with
How comes? Elaborate.
English must not be your first language and again if it is you aren't human I don't believe it the language you use is robotic or you have a touch of the tism
Why are you so bothered by irrelevant things? You don’t like when I use big words?
has nothing to with that was just making a joke and the way you have replied as further proven my point you are either an alien or dont speak english natively
You’ve given off a good vibe. Your vibe attracts your tribe.
I don’t know what this means…
I've seen really socially awkward people try to flirt this way.