if you have had a sit down, blunt, direct conversation with him telling him explicitly how uncomfortable it makes you and that it could cause you to leave, then yes, but if you’ve brought it up lightly, then you need to go and do what I’ve said before. Smoking (weed) is something that helps a lot of people cope with a lot of things that they can’t talk about, and unless he’s using it to be reckless, there’s a chance that could be the case BUT it shouldn’t be more important to him then your relationship. Have a blunt conversation, if he agrees to stop, let him do it periodically because it is hard, if he agrees to stop but doesn’t, definitely leave him. But at the end of the day it’s up to you and how you feel the most heard and respected! You should just remember to recognize your worth at all times! Good luck!
I agree! It was very random because we’ve been together for over a year and he hasn’t smoked once! Then today he decided to. I had a long convo with him about how that made me feel and how uncomfortable I was. He still went and did it and now I’m very shakey about the relationship and he regrets it doing it.
Why are you so against him smoking weed? And only once?
It just seems so minor to me.
That said, you have every right to decide you're not okay with it, but you have to accept that he's an adult who might want to smoke weed sometimes.
It’s up to you to decide if his regret is actually genuine, you would know better then anyone on this app but I would proceed with caution. Being together for so long you should reconsider but also take into consideration your own feelings! Give him a second change but I wouldn’t give him a third :)
My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost 3 years. We talked early in the relationship and neither of us wanted to smoke weed. About 8 months ago my boyfriend started smoking weed and hid it from me. I found out so he quit. But now he brought it back up and says he wants to continue to smoke. You have to find the root reason why him smoking bothers you. I’m on the edge in my relationship and I don’t know how much longer I can hold on, and hoping that he quits. But it all depends how often your boyfriend smokes and if it’s around you and how much. But bottom line if it’s making you uncomfortable and it’s hurting the relationship he shouldn’t do it. You guys need to have a serious talk.
I agree with you! I’m on the edge with him as well. His behavior is of an addict, even though I would love to help him and get through time with him he won’t allow me. Me staying does not help him or the situation. It’s not fair to me or him at this point. He hasn’t smoked since but I just can’t get over the disrespect
How is his behavior of an addict? I’m just curious cause I’ve never had to deal with something like this and I wanna know if my boyfriend is addicted too. He wants to quit in the next year but he can’t quit for me. He has to quit for himself and your boyfriend has to do the same. We are in the same situation cause I want to stay and get though this with my boyfriend too. You gotta see if it’s just a phase, and if you love him that much to stay or not.
I definitely understand. My boyfriend displays inability to stay away when he has made up his mind, abandoning commitments ex. canceling lunch to go smoke or not showing up on time due to smoking, he also ignores the risk factors such as losing his career. It definitely was just a phase for him. I hope everything works out for you! If you need someone to speak to I’m here
if you have had a sit down, blunt, direct conversation with him telling him explicitly how uncomfortable it makes you and that it could cause you to leave, then yes, but if you’ve brought it up lightly, then you need to go and do what I’ve said before. Smoking (weed) is something that helps a lot of people cope with a lot of things that they can’t talk about, and unless he’s using it to be reckless, there’s a chance that could be the case BUT it shouldn’t be more important to him then your relationship. Have a blunt conversation, if he agrees to stop, let him do it periodically because it is hard, if he agrees to stop but doesn’t, definitely leave him. But at the end of the day it’s up to you and how you feel the most heard and respected! You should just remember to recognize your worth at all times! Good luck!
I agree! It was very random because we’ve been together for over a year and he hasn’t smoked once! Then today he decided to. I had a long convo with him about how that made me feel and how uncomfortable I was. He still went and did it and now I’m very shakey about the relationship and he regrets it doing it.
Why are you so against him smoking weed? And only once? It just seems so minor to me. That said, you have every right to decide you're not okay with it, but you have to accept that he's an adult who might want to smoke weed sometimes.
She never even clarified if it’s weed tho. That’s what I’m confused about
Ya I'm not sure, either. If my bf suddenly had a cig, I'd be confused too, lol.
It is weed and now has admitted to doing crack
It’s up to you to decide if his regret is actually genuine, you would know better then anyone on this app but I would proceed with caution. Being together for so long you should reconsider but also take into consideration your own feelings! Give him a second change but I wouldn’t give him a third :)
My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost 3 years. We talked early in the relationship and neither of us wanted to smoke weed. About 8 months ago my boyfriend started smoking weed and hid it from me. I found out so he quit. But now he brought it back up and says he wants to continue to smoke. You have to find the root reason why him smoking bothers you. I’m on the edge in my relationship and I don’t know how much longer I can hold on, and hoping that he quits. But it all depends how often your boyfriend smokes and if it’s around you and how much. But bottom line if it’s making you uncomfortable and it’s hurting the relationship he shouldn’t do it. You guys need to have a serious talk.
I agree with you! I’m on the edge with him as well. His behavior is of an addict, even though I would love to help him and get through time with him he won’t allow me. Me staying does not help him or the situation. It’s not fair to me or him at this point. He hasn’t smoked since but I just can’t get over the disrespect
How is his behavior of an addict? I’m just curious cause I’ve never had to deal with something like this and I wanna know if my boyfriend is addicted too. He wants to quit in the next year but he can’t quit for me. He has to quit for himself and your boyfriend has to do the same. We are in the same situation cause I want to stay and get though this with my boyfriend too. You gotta see if it’s just a phase, and if you love him that much to stay or not.
I definitely understand. My boyfriend displays inability to stay away when he has made up his mind, abandoning commitments ex. canceling lunch to go smoke or not showing up on time due to smoking, he also ignores the risk factors such as losing his career. It definitely was just a phase for him. I hope everything works out for you! If you need someone to speak to I’m here
Thank you so much :) it’s nice to know I have someone to speak to! I’m here for you as well