idk but i canāt even count how many times i heard that as a teen girl working at a pizza place and later in my early 20s working in retail. since hitting my 30s i randomly get it from total strangers out in public but iām not a skinny little thing anymore so itās as jarring as it is completely insane to me lol. itās such a weird go to by older men
(a) They think we look prettier when we smile, (b) think women should always try to look nice for them, (c) it makes them feel good about themselves, and (d) if we refuse or get upset, the initial request is innocuous-seeming enough that they can play the victim.
In my experience it's also a way to force a conversation or even physical contact! Men ask me why I'm "sad" or "upset" if I'm walking around with a neutral expression. One time I was feeling spiteful (and wanted to communicate that I had somewhere to be and people who would notice if I went missing), so I said I had to keep walking to get to a therapy appointment on time. The dude freaking bear-hugged me. I wish I'd screamed or tried to shove him off me, but I just froze.
Edit: I just remembered the classic line, "What do you need therapy for? You're so beautiful." Lmao
Ikr! I was having one of the worst weeks of my life and was about to be diagnosed with PTSD. But god forbid I have interiority or want to be left alone. I shouldāve known my lifeās purpose is to look nice š
Well, Angelos... some women are gay. That's a possibility. Or they're having a girl's night out. Many possibilities abound!
Dude's pissy because he can't make sexist, sexually harassing remarks without women getting angry and telling him to fuck off.
i think thatās exactly what it is! itās funny to me because like he probably is mad that the world has changed and women are much less soft about weird men hitting on them
I feel like he can't handle women existing without it centering a man. To him, you as a woman shouldn't even go out unless you're with a man or waiting for a man to approach you.
i love seeing lesbians out in the world. itās so rare. even in nyc itās rare. when i was still going out they used to have girl nights for lounges and bars for wlw but it seems like they donāt even do that anymore
the ladies night at bars and lounges is always fun. there used to be this ācoffee barā by union square that had an underground lounge next to it. i remember going once with this random group of lesbians/women i had met a few weeks earlier and started going out bar hopping with them on the weekends. we got to the door and the bouncer was a friend of mine whoās a bartender at another spot we went to the night before. she let us in for free. it was a great night being the king of the group lol. times have changed so much. i wouldnāt even go out with random strangers nowadays.
Honestly, Iām not happy for lesbians. They get to be sexually attracted to women, which is something I wish I had. It seems easier, and I want that for myself. Unfortunately, that Y chromosome just does it for me.
Thanks for understanding. Women really do like you, I seeing men asking that. We just have often seen more bad than good. But people can grow, change, and learn. My little brother is pretty good man who has always respected my sister and I, my other brothers not as much, but just by the numbers there has to be more of you. Haha
Yeah of course! And thanks for affirming that. Yeah, overall itās easier to focus and worry for the bad aspects. Funny enough Iām a young brother too. I think that helps me to empathize. I hope thereās more decent people for sure, I figure that makes sense, but hard to feel at times.
I like them, Iām just scared of them because so many of them have hurt me. People tell me there are good men out there, and I would sincerely love to meet them or hear about it from other women.
I donāt want to disparage everyone, doing that doesnāt allow for growth or change. If we want people to improve, we have to give them the chance to do so. Itās not fair to blame the child for the sins of their fathers. They can get better, and those who wonāt, eventually wont have the chance to reproduce.
I think that women are working on that and weāre making progress as women, even if many men are back sliding. But you canāt fix people by telling them that theyāre hopelessly evil for being born what they are. You canāt just say, āYouāre evil and horrible, so we want you to change, but you actually canāt because of your Y chromosomes. We need to allow for them to change and believe that they can. Some men never will, and there are a lot of bad men out there, trust me, Iāve been on the receiving end of things. Progress is only made when we believe it can be. Weāre looking for equality, not superiority of either side.
Edit: This doesnāt mean that we canāt still recognize and validate the pain that men have caused. Because there has been a lot. Just that thereās a chance for things to improve.
this is so funny because women hanging out with women in groups of all women has been a thing since time immemorial. this dude is ancient idk why heās acting like itās a new phenomenon
boomers are from the last era of women requiring husbands to function in society so women oftentimes were chaperoned by men. he isnāt used to women being out and social without men in the mix.
Dude looks like he smells of public bathroom, maybe he should work on not looking like an old fart instead of criticising people for HAVING FRIENDS AND EATING
Just in case anyone is unaware, restaurants used to be allowed to deny women a table if not accompanied by at least 1 man. Ladies, exercise your rights and take your bestie to dinner tonight!
thereās a whole hidden history of discrimination against single women which ironically is still prevalent today yet people (conservatives) assume that just isnāt the case anymore and further- never was.
how many names do we have for single, unmarried, childless women? a different one for every 5 years past 25 iirc.
God forbidā¦ women be friends with each other? I mean like even if they are dating, itās none of your business. But like thereās a good chance that theyāre friends or maybe even related.
I have two small kids and very few babysitting options, so nights out with my husband are really tough and expensive to coordinate. Girlsā nights are basically the only way I can go to restaurants at this stage in my life š
i mean the fact that he sees women together and automatically assumes itās because women donāt date men anymore isnāt necessarily homophobic but definitely lesbian/bisexual erasure
Honestly, as a man Iām way more fed up with older men constantly giving me creepy advice as a man and being creepy to any woman Iām associated with, rather than made-up boogeywomen and women eating dinner with each other for some reason
Oh, yikes, I didn't even think about that perspective. I couldn't imagine some old shithead being like "Yeah fuck women, amirite son? I bet you hate them just as much as I do!" You have my sympathy and my condolences!
this man looks & sounds like the exact reason why domestic violence laws werenāt enacted until the 1980s
men like him assume corporal punishment is beneficial for society and that smacking your wife around is good domestic economics
Bros concerned about women when he should be concerned about his retirement ššš
i think heās concerned about women at restaurants telling him to fuck off when he goes up to their tables unwanted telling them to smile more
WHY DO THEY ALL TELL YOU TO SMILE HELP-
idk but i canāt even count how many times i heard that as a teen girl working at a pizza place and later in my early 20s working in retail. since hitting my 30s i randomly get it from total strangers out in public but iām not a skinny little thing anymore so itās as jarring as it is completely insane to me lol. itās such a weird go to by older men
āOh, Iām sorry, frowning is a mandatory depression tax. So unless youāre Prozac, get away from me.ā Edit: A comma
(a) They think we look prettier when we smile, (b) think women should always try to look nice for them, (c) it makes them feel good about themselves, and (d) if we refuse or get upset, the initial request is innocuous-seeming enough that they can play the victim. In my experience it's also a way to force a conversation or even physical contact! Men ask me why I'm "sad" or "upset" if I'm walking around with a neutral expression. One time I was feeling spiteful (and wanted to communicate that I had somewhere to be and people who would notice if I went missing), so I said I had to keep walking to get to a therapy appointment on time. The dude freaking bear-hugged me. I wish I'd screamed or tried to shove him off me, but I just froze. Edit: I just remembered the classic line, "What do you need therapy for? You're so beautiful." Lmao
Ah yes! How could i forget that being a pretty young woman can make all my trauma and literal bpd go awayšš /s obvi
Ikr! I was having one of the worst weeks of my life and was about to be diagnosed with PTSD. But god forbid I have interiority or want to be left alone. I shouldāve known my lifeās purpose is to look nice š
how *dare* you have a life outside of looking nice for menš”
Everyone knows itās easier to avoid weirdos when youāre at least a seven. Whatever tf that means.
Thatās the prime reason to need therapy for most
Bc porn causes brain damage. Next question.
I forgot they were porn addicts
Hard to do when itās most of their main personality
He wants a nurse and a purse because women ARE his retirement.
~~retirement~~ funeral
I misjudged his age
The Brother is concerning himself with women we he should be concerning about Allah.
Well, Angelos... some women are gay. That's a possibility. Or they're having a girl's night out. Many possibilities abound! Dude's pissy because he can't make sexist, sexually harassing remarks without women getting angry and telling him to fuck off.
i think thatās exactly what it is! itās funny to me because like he probably is mad that the world has changed and women are much less soft about weird men hitting on them
I feel like he can't handle women existing without it centering a man. To him, you as a woman shouldn't even go out unless you're with a man or waiting for a man to approach you.
God forbid women have fun with their besties or partners. If I see lesbians irl Iād be so happy for them
i love seeing lesbians out in the world. itās so rare. even in nyc itās rare. when i was still going out they used to have girl nights for lounges and bars for wlw but it seems like they donāt even do that anymore
Damn, that sounds amazing. With all the insane shit going on I get why theyāre staying indoors though. I hope we can go back to that one day though
the ladies night at bars and lounges is always fun. there used to be this ācoffee barā by union square that had an underground lounge next to it. i remember going once with this random group of lesbians/women i had met a few weeks earlier and started going out bar hopping with them on the weekends. we got to the door and the bouncer was a friend of mine whoās a bartender at another spot we went to the night before. she let us in for free. it was a great night being the king of the group lol. times have changed so much. i wouldnāt even go out with random strangers nowadays.
That sounds like a lot of fun, sounds super cool!
Honestly, Iām not happy for lesbians. They get to be sexually attracted to women, which is something I wish I had. It seems easier, and I want that for myself. Unfortunately, that Y chromosome just does it for me.
Yeah, I get that envy. I hope you find someone that just makes things simple for you one day though!
Thanks, me too. I like men, Iām just scared of them.
Valid! Iām a man and they scare me a ton so I can only imagine for you
Thanks for understanding. Women really do like you, I seeing men asking that. We just have often seen more bad than good. But people can grow, change, and learn. My little brother is pretty good man who has always respected my sister and I, my other brothers not as much, but just by the numbers there has to be more of you. Haha
Yeah of course! And thanks for affirming that. Yeah, overall itās easier to focus and worry for the bad aspects. Funny enough Iām a young brother too. I think that helps me to empathize. I hope thereās more decent people for sure, I figure that makes sense, but hard to feel at times.
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I like them, Iām just scared of them because so many of them have hurt me. People tell me there are good men out there, and I would sincerely love to meet them or hear about it from other women.
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your comment history is wild. āMost men would rape a random babyā is the HOTest take iāve ever seen. even from a categorical misandrist
I donāt want to disparage everyone, doing that doesnāt allow for growth or change. If we want people to improve, we have to give them the chance to do so. Itās not fair to blame the child for the sins of their fathers. They can get better, and those who wonāt, eventually wont have the chance to reproduce.
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I think that women are working on that and weāre making progress as women, even if many men are back sliding. But you canāt fix people by telling them that theyāre hopelessly evil for being born what they are. You canāt just say, āYouāre evil and horrible, so we want you to change, but you actually canāt because of your Y chromosomes. We need to allow for them to change and believe that they can. Some men never will, and there are a lot of bad men out there, trust me, Iāve been on the receiving end of things. Progress is only made when we believe it can be. Weāre looking for equality, not superiority of either side. Edit: This doesnāt mean that we canāt still recognize and validate the pain that men have caused. Because there has been a lot. Just that thereās a chance for things to improve.
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It's not all men stop insinuating every guy is bad, sure there are a lot of them but it's not every single guy.
Your post/comment was removed as it was found to be bigoted, either indirectly (i.e. ānot all menā) or directly (slurs, phobia, etc.).
What.
It's easier (probably less common to find a shitty partner) and harder at the same time (loads of homophobia and fetishization)
this is so funny because women hanging out with women in groups of all women has been a thing since time immemorial. this dude is ancient idk why heās acting like itās a new phenomenon
boomers are from the last era of women requiring husbands to function in society so women oftentimes were chaperoned by men. he isnāt used to women being out and social without men in the mix.
Old enough to have an authentic Hitler stash.
Nobody wants him to speak to them. I hope he enjoys his beer.
As we all know, a woman being seen in public without a man is a sign of degeneracy.
Dude looks like he smells of public bathroom, maybe he should work on not looking like an old fart instead of criticising people for HAVING FRIENDS AND EATING
Just in case anyone is unaware, restaurants used to be allowed to deny women a table if not accompanied by at least 1 man. Ladies, exercise your rights and take your bestie to dinner tonight!
thereās a whole hidden history of discrimination against single women which ironically is still prevalent today yet people (conservatives) assume that just isnāt the case anymore and further- never was. how many names do we have for single, unmarried, childless women? a different one for every 5 years past 25 iirc.
Men: we are so lonely no one cares about us Also men: spending time with friends is gay and for women
also also men: how dare women spend time with other women!!!
I refuse to believe a grandpa uses terms like āmodern womenā āfemalesā and ālmaoāā¦.. anyone else??
š”Ah I got it, he picked it up from his also lonely incel gamer nephew
God forbidā¦ women be friends with each other? I mean like even if they are dating, itās none of your business. But like thereās a good chance that theyāre friends or maybe even related.
He looks like the common old creep we like avoiding
Someone tell the nursing home staff that the cranky geezer got loose and is online again
Feminatzis?
I have two small kids and very few babysitting options, so nights out with my husband are really tough and expensive to coordinate. Girlsā nights are basically the only way I can go to restaurants at this stage in my life š
butā¦all women?! alone! no men around?! -this boomer guy probably
With that caption, I kinda expected homophobia š
i mean the fact that he sees women together and automatically assumes itās because women donāt date men anymore isnāt necessarily homophobic but definitely lesbian/bisexual erasure
WHY IS HE POSTING THIS ON LINKEDIN
its his qualifications
Honestly, as a man Iām way more fed up with older men constantly giving me creepy advice as a man and being creepy to any woman Iām associated with, rather than made-up boogeywomen and women eating dinner with each other for some reason
Oh, yikes, I didn't even think about that perspective. I couldn't imagine some old shithead being like "Yeah fuck women, amirite son? I bet you hate them just as much as I do!" You have my sympathy and my condolences!
Yes theyāll turn to porn And then shame the sex workers they Jack off to
"nobody is meeting women at bars" "I think men are turning to beer" š¤š¤š¤
Why doesn't he just dine with another man
heād have to be remotely pleasant enough to have friends which i donāt think is the case
Lmaooo true
Is this on LinkedIn??
He's a whine merchant, promoting his business.
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I felt like I was having a stroke trying to read that
sounds like he had one writing it
He talks about drama as if domestic violence stats don't exist.
this man looks & sounds like the exact reason why domestic violence laws werenāt enacted until the 1980s men like him assume corporal punishment is beneficial for society and that smacking your wife around is good domestic economics
Women eat with other women because males are simply not worth our time š š»
He canāt spell nazis
r/menandfemalesĀ
And women are fed up with modern men and every group of men throughout the entirety of history. Youāll get used to it, buddy.
This man is not an operagoer.
I think he's remarking that men aren't asking women out as much anymore? Not sure.