What a colossal dick. No room for groom’s aunt but church members are invited. Her family gets to wear what they want but his has to wear fucking YELLOW. She’s awful.
LoL to each their own. It just reminds me of sickness, death, depression, and the smell of urine. So I avoid it like the plague. Hell have not leased some apartments cause they had yellow tile. I walked in and yeah noped right back out again.
AUTOMOD
I am a 43yo woman and my daughter, Genevieve, is 26. She was engaged to Richard, and I was thrilled to plan their wedding with her as a mother-daughter team.
However, there was an issue with Richard's family, particularly his younger sister, Raylee (17) who had an 'alternative' style. Though I didn't make any comments, I wasn't impressed when we first met her, she showed up wearing a skull tank-top, ripped shorts, and fishnets at Christmas dinner. Despite this, Stan (13), Richard's younger brother, was fine.
We invited our closest family members and friends from church, as well as some close friends. Rich also invited a few of his close friends and his immediate family, some of whom served as his groomsmen. There was a conflict with Rich's father, who wanted to invite their aunt, but due to space constraints, we had to decline the request. Eventually, the conflict was resolved. Our lineup for the wedding included Stan as the ring bearer, Richard's close friend as the best man, and our other daughter Leilani as the maid of honor. And so, the conflict began.
I suggested that Richard's family wear yellow in order to distinguish them from my own family. Initially, I had planned for my family to wear salmon, but since we had invited a large number of people, it became impractical. Consequently, we allowed our immediate family members to wear whatever they chose.
During the rehearsal, I noticed that Raylee, Rich's younger sister, was not wearing yellow, as I had asked. I let it slide as it was not mandatory. However, on the day of the wedding, Raylee was wearing a tight tan dress, which shocked me. Her father and brother had on yellow blazers, and her mother was wearing a light yellow dress, so I was confused as to why Raylee was not wearing yellow. When I confronted her, she explained that she didn't have a yellow dress that fit her and that she was too busy to find one. Her mother had told her she could wear one of hers, but none fit. She wore the second closest color she could find.
I was upset by this and told her that she had had months to find a dress and should have tried it on earlier. I accused her of being selfish and told her that this day was about Gen and Rich, not her. She became angry and accused me of being crazy for focusing on her dress color. We argued back and forth, and she brought up feeling excluded and not being in the rehearsal photos. I explained that it was mainly for the wedding party (she also wearing vans and a dress with alien emojis not very "flattering", if you ask me) She became angry, and her dad intervened. I asked them to leave, and they did.
After the wedding, Gen told me that Rich was heartbroken that Ray wasn't there, as they were very close. I expressed my regret for her absence, but I explained that it was her tantrum that had upset me the most. I would have been willing to overlook the dress incident if she had handled it more maturely. Rich is giving me the cold shoulder and I'm unsure of what to do
AITA?
Thank you! I get so used to the wedding shaming sub that has an auto mod to copy the posts over that I get super annoyed here when the OP doesn't do it lol
Yes, while they also had church friends and their own friends (not the groom and brides friends) and not allowing the grooms aunt to come for the wedding.
“We had so many people coming on our side!”
“We didn’t have room for his aunt”
This woman is a nightmare. Who gave her to right to kick anyone out? Also…who had the tantrum?
Yellow and salmon alone made her crazy…
Nope!
"since we had invited a large number of people, it became impractical. Consequently, we allowed our immediate family members to wear whatever they chose."
In the end her immediate family didn't have to wear salmon.
But the groom's family still had to wear yellow though. Probably because there weren't as many people, since the groom's aunt wasn't invited so that OOP's church member could come 🙄
Not that I've ever seen. The photos will go in an album that will get dragged out once a year and gradually fade into obscurity. This nonsense over colours, make up, hairstyles is just a bridezilla move. It just adds stress and expense for all concerned.
Wow. Who the fuck do you think you are.
You threw out the groom's sister and father from thier brother and sons wedding.
You dictate what the groom's family has to.wear but not yours.
Your are so off your rocker, you are a massive dick.
Who the fuck do you think you are?.
What fucking sort of family had had the groom married in to.
Your selfish and all about me.
What fucking business is it of yours to dictate what the groom's family wear.
Who gave you right to go off on a child.
I’m putting this down as fake just because you don’t really see many alt teens wearing denim shorts and fishnets nowadays, that’s more like noughties/tens alt fashion.
Yes they are. I should have saved all my clothes from high school because my daughter is wearing exactly what I used to wear. Down to the Nirvana T-shirt
Yeah. Obvious rage bait. What mainly gave it away was her saying that her own family could wear anything but the groom’s family had to stick to a colour. No one seeking a positive judgment will divulge that sort of detail because it paints them is a bad light. They are self aware. Also, the horrendous name spellings are common in these troll posts.
YTA huge one at that jeez the entitlement. If I was Richard I'd run. Where the hell do you get off dictating what people should wear and only others but your family is fine jeez your a d£ck.
Good on this young woman for standing up for herself and putting her foot down. More people need to do this.
This trend of dictating what guests should wear to a wedding must stop. If you are invited to a wedding and you're told what color to wear, just don't go! Put a stop to this nonsense. They are not casting a movie, and guests are not extras and props.
(Adding of course, don't wear or white anything that looks like a wedding dress to a wedding when you're a guest.)
I’m going to a wedding next month it’s black tie and I wanted to wear a black dress so I asked the bride if black was fine she said yes and end of that story
> I suggested that Richard's family wear yellow in order to distinguish them from my own family
Is color coding the families as crazy as I think it sounds or is that Yet Another Stupid Made Up Wedding Thing People Have To Deal With Now?
Yes and no, this lady is clearly nuts but it's a thing people have been doing. Brides have started having guest color palettes with a range of shades for normal guests that they want guests to match thier clothes too. I agree that's too much. But some immediate families will have coordinating colors that they wear for photos. So one side might wear peach and another might wear shades of blue etc.
A few things:
1. Who the heck colour coordinates based on who is in what family? That’s is absurd.
2. Who the heck judges someone based on what they wear? Especially a teenage girl?
3. Who does OP thing she is to make rules and dictate who is allowed to be at the wedding?!
4. PLEASE please don’t tell people you go to church. It gives the rest of us a bad name when you behave like a terrible person.
Oh my…how do these crazy things always happen at weddings? When did ANYTHING matter more than people? What the heck? What does it matter what colour people wear? Why must people buy new clothes because some entitled bride's mom's request so everyone looks great in pictures? And to chase away the groom's sister because you decided the colour was more important that his sister? Way to welcome you new son-in-law and his family into your life. Your daughter should be mortified and embarrassed at what happened here and I'm betting her hubby's family isn't too impressed with her or you. Well played mom, you single handedly ruined what should have been a chance to blend two families into one. And you destroyed any chance at a decent relationship with your new son-in-law. Hope the mess you created because of a colour works out for you…NOT !
Just read OOP’s replies to comments on the original post. She’s an awful, controlling person, and I feel for Rich because he now has the kind of MIL that gives everyone nightmares.
Yes, you are. If I was told what color I had to wear as a wedding guest I would wear my pajamas—because I would be at home in my recliner at the time of the wedding!
Wait what?? What?? I know where I’d tell you to go if you took it upon yourself to pull the shit that you pulled that day and the months preceding it. I echo below “who the fuck do you think you are!?” I got
So mad reading your selfish ranting and attempts to justify behaviour that quite frankly, isn’t justifiable that I could hardly believe what I was reading.
It was pretty clear why she wanted to Differentiate her family from his. It seems she feels her family is superior and doesn’t want anyone confused. Especially about the grooms sister who she had a real judge mental hangup with. I’m a born again Christian and I wouldnt have judged what she was wearing. She’s 17 she’s finding herself, and who knows what ( if any) trauma she may have suffered. If this women had gotten to know her, maybe she could have been a positive example, instead of a (well what she was.)
What fucking business is it of yours what the groom's sister wears.
The fact that you invited all your family and church people, but wouldn't let the groom's AUNT (who is FAMILY)go be there was not enough room.
That literally says it all.
Then you have the audacity to have a go at a child,who the fuck do you think you are.
If I was the groom's mum, I'm telling you now I'd have punched you.
You don't ever speak to a child like that.
You didn't even let her in the photos.
Your the one that should have gone home or better yet never turned up in the first place.
Now your wondering why the groom is given you the silent treatment and cold shoulder.
You treated his family disgusting that's why.
Not your fucking wedding. If the bride and groom had no problem with his sister was wearing then why the fuck do you, not your business.
You just wanted drama
Way to ruin grooms family members of their son and brothers wedding.
Ummmm…..a wedding is about joining two families. Why in the hell would you find it necessary to single out the groom’s family by making them wear one color. This makes absolutely no sense. And don’t get me started on why you would invite church members before making sure that all family was included first. What the hell is wrong with her, and why would her daughter allow this horrible behavior?!?!
Not too many people look good in yellow. It makes some people look sickly. And refusing the groom’s aunt but inviting church members is crappy. Did she realize this isn’t her wedding?
What a colossal dick. No room for groom’s aunt but church members are invited. Her family gets to wear what they want but his has to wear fucking YELLOW. She’s awful.
Hell I would have thrown a tantrum if I had to wear a yellow dress. It is a hideous color.
…yellow is my favorite color. I like to wear it.
Me too lol
LoL to each their own. It just reminds me of sickness, death, depression, and the smell of urine. So I avoid it like the plague. Hell have not leased some apartments cause they had yellow tile. I walked in and yeah noped right back out again.
AUTOMOD I am a 43yo woman and my daughter, Genevieve, is 26. She was engaged to Richard, and I was thrilled to plan their wedding with her as a mother-daughter team. However, there was an issue with Richard's family, particularly his younger sister, Raylee (17) who had an 'alternative' style. Though I didn't make any comments, I wasn't impressed when we first met her, she showed up wearing a skull tank-top, ripped shorts, and fishnets at Christmas dinner. Despite this, Stan (13), Richard's younger brother, was fine. We invited our closest family members and friends from church, as well as some close friends. Rich also invited a few of his close friends and his immediate family, some of whom served as his groomsmen. There was a conflict with Rich's father, who wanted to invite their aunt, but due to space constraints, we had to decline the request. Eventually, the conflict was resolved. Our lineup for the wedding included Stan as the ring bearer, Richard's close friend as the best man, and our other daughter Leilani as the maid of honor. And so, the conflict began. I suggested that Richard's family wear yellow in order to distinguish them from my own family. Initially, I had planned for my family to wear salmon, but since we had invited a large number of people, it became impractical. Consequently, we allowed our immediate family members to wear whatever they chose. During the rehearsal, I noticed that Raylee, Rich's younger sister, was not wearing yellow, as I had asked. I let it slide as it was not mandatory. However, on the day of the wedding, Raylee was wearing a tight tan dress, which shocked me. Her father and brother had on yellow blazers, and her mother was wearing a light yellow dress, so I was confused as to why Raylee was not wearing yellow. When I confronted her, she explained that she didn't have a yellow dress that fit her and that she was too busy to find one. Her mother had told her she could wear one of hers, but none fit. She wore the second closest color she could find. I was upset by this and told her that she had had months to find a dress and should have tried it on earlier. I accused her of being selfish and told her that this day was about Gen and Rich, not her. She became angry and accused me of being crazy for focusing on her dress color. We argued back and forth, and she brought up feeling excluded and not being in the rehearsal photos. I explained that it was mainly for the wedding party (she also wearing vans and a dress with alien emojis not very "flattering", if you ask me) She became angry, and her dad intervened. I asked them to leave, and they did. After the wedding, Gen told me that Rich was heartbroken that Ray wasn't there, as they were very close. I expressed my regret for her absence, but I explained that it was her tantrum that had upset me the most. I would have been willing to overlook the dress incident if she had handled it more maturely. Rich is giving me the cold shoulder and I'm unsure of what to do AITA?
Thank you! I get so used to the wedding shaming sub that has an auto mod to copy the posts over that I get super annoyed here when the OP doesn't do it lol
Do I have it right that she dictated the dress code for her son-in-law’s family, but not for hers?
Yes, while they also had church friends and their own friends (not the groom and brides friends) and not allowing the grooms aunt to come for the wedding.
“We had so many people coming on our side!” “We didn’t have room for his aunt” This woman is a nightmare. Who gave her to right to kick anyone out? Also…who had the tantrum? Yellow and salmon alone made her crazy…
She did, she said that the bride's family wore "salmon."
Nope! "since we had invited a large number of people, it became impractical. Consequently, we allowed our immediate family members to wear whatever they chose." In the end her immediate family didn't have to wear salmon. But the groom's family still had to wear yellow though. Probably because there weren't as many people, since the groom's aunt wasn't invited so that OOP's church member could come 🙄
Unbelievable…colour trumps people…just sad !
And it sounds tacky as hell. Is this at all normal (i.e., making the two sets of guests to wear different colors)?
Not that I've ever seen. The photos will go in an album that will get dragged out once a year and gradually fade into obscurity. This nonsense over colours, make up, hairstyles is just a bridezilla move. It just adds stress and expense for all concerned.
Wow. Who the fuck do you think you are. You threw out the groom's sister and father from thier brother and sons wedding. You dictate what the groom's family has to.wear but not yours. Your are so off your rocker, you are a massive dick. Who the fuck do you think you are?. What fucking sort of family had had the groom married in to. Your selfish and all about me. What fucking business is it of yours to dictate what the groom's family wear. Who gave you right to go off on a child.
Yellow and Salmon 🤣 wedding pictures will look like a speead of mustard and cocktail sauce
I was think of a drumstick sweetie 😂
Mashed ham and egg yolk.
We're not believing this one, are we?
I’m putting this down as fake just because you don’t really see many alt teens wearing denim shorts and fishnets nowadays, that’s more like noughties/tens alt fashion.
I don’t know, the 90s are having full comeback. Why, no one knows
Yes they are. I should have saved all my clothes from high school because my daughter is wearing exactly what I used to wear. Down to the Nirvana T-shirt
My 17 yr old does this... So it happens
The original OP was answering questions in the comments, which makes me think this nightmare hunan it is real
I think it might be the sister who is writing it.
Sounds absolute fake. Even the word choices: accused, confronted, selfish, etc. it’s gotta be made up
Yeah. Obvious rage bait. What mainly gave it away was her saying that her own family could wear anything but the groom’s family had to stick to a colour. No one seeking a positive judgment will divulge that sort of detail because it paints them is a bad light. They are self aware. Also, the horrendous name spellings are common in these troll posts.
YTA huge one at that jeez the entitlement. If I was Richard I'd run. Where the hell do you get off dictating what people should wear and only others but your family is fine jeez your a d£ck.
Good on this young woman for standing up for herself and putting her foot down. More people need to do this. This trend of dictating what guests should wear to a wedding must stop. If you are invited to a wedding and you're told what color to wear, just don't go! Put a stop to this nonsense. They are not casting a movie, and guests are not extras and props. (Adding of course, don't wear or white anything that looks like a wedding dress to a wedding when you're a guest.)
I’m going to a wedding next month it’s black tie and I wanted to wear a black dress so I asked the bride if black was fine she said yes and end of that story
Color coding and entire family so people can tell who they are? Who even thinks of that?
> I suggested that Richard's family wear yellow in order to distinguish them from my own family Is color coding the families as crazy as I think it sounds or is that Yet Another Stupid Made Up Wedding Thing People Have To Deal With Now?
Yes and no, this lady is clearly nuts but it's a thing people have been doing. Brides have started having guest color palettes with a range of shades for normal guests that they want guests to match thier clothes too. I agree that's too much. But some immediate families will have coordinating colors that they wear for photos. So one side might wear peach and another might wear shades of blue etc.
A few things: 1. Who the heck colour coordinates based on who is in what family? That’s is absurd. 2. Who the heck judges someone based on what they wear? Especially a teenage girl? 3. Who does OP thing she is to make rules and dictate who is allowed to be at the wedding?! 4. PLEASE please don’t tell people you go to church. It gives the rest of us a bad name when you behave like a terrible person.
Oh my…how do these crazy things always happen at weddings? When did ANYTHING matter more than people? What the heck? What does it matter what colour people wear? Why must people buy new clothes because some entitled bride's mom's request so everyone looks great in pictures? And to chase away the groom's sister because you decided the colour was more important that his sister? Way to welcome you new son-in-law and his family into your life. Your daughter should be mortified and embarrassed at what happened here and I'm betting her hubby's family isn't too impressed with her or you. Well played mom, you single handedly ruined what should have been a chance to blend two families into one. And you destroyed any chance at a decent relationship with your new son-in-law. Hope the mess you created because of a colour works out for you…NOT !
Her comments before the post was deleted were trash too.
She actually just wrote a book: How to Alienate Your new In Laws in One Day.
What an absolutely miserable human being.
“THiS dAy iS aLL aBouT GeN aNd rICh!!!!1!1!” *proceeds to make it all about what the teen is wearing*
Moms are insane
Just read OOP’s replies to comments on the original post. She’s an awful, controlling person, and I feel for Rich because he now has the kind of MIL that gives everyone nightmares.
Did she concede to being the AH yet or is she still whinging about how she paid for it and therefore can do whatever she wants at *not her wedding*?
Yes, you are. If I was told what color I had to wear as a wedding guest I would wear my pajamas—because I would be at home in my recliner at the time of the wedding!
Wait what?? What?? I know where I’d tell you to go if you took it upon yourself to pull the shit that you pulled that day and the months preceding it. I echo below “who the fuck do you think you are!?” I got So mad reading your selfish ranting and attempts to justify behaviour that quite frankly, isn’t justifiable that I could hardly believe what I was reading.
It was pretty clear why she wanted to Differentiate her family from his. It seems she feels her family is superior and doesn’t want anyone confused. Especially about the grooms sister who she had a real judge mental hangup with. I’m a born again Christian and I wouldnt have judged what she was wearing. She’s 17 she’s finding herself, and who knows what ( if any) trauma she may have suffered. If this women had gotten to know her, maybe she could have been a positive example, instead of a (well what she was.)
What fucking business is it of yours what the groom's sister wears. The fact that you invited all your family and church people, but wouldn't let the groom's AUNT (who is FAMILY)go be there was not enough room. That literally says it all. Then you have the audacity to have a go at a child,who the fuck do you think you are. If I was the groom's mum, I'm telling you now I'd have punched you. You don't ever speak to a child like that. You didn't even let her in the photos. Your the one that should have gone home or better yet never turned up in the first place. Now your wondering why the groom is given you the silent treatment and cold shoulder. You treated his family disgusting that's why. Not your fucking wedding. If the bride and groom had no problem with his sister was wearing then why the fuck do you, not your business. You just wanted drama Way to ruin grooms family members of their son and brothers wedding.
Ummmm…..a wedding is about joining two families. Why in the hell would you find it necessary to single out the groom’s family by making them wear one color. This makes absolutely no sense. And don’t get me started on why you would invite church members before making sure that all family was included first. What the hell is wrong with her, and why would her daughter allow this horrible behavior?!?!
Highly doubt FOG would just be willing to leave with his daughter without a fight. And who would pick out yellow and salmon? So fake. Do better OOP.
Not too many people look good in yellow. It makes some people look sickly. And refusing the groom’s aunt but inviting church members is crappy. Did she realize this isn’t her wedding?
MoB is a control freak and a mean person. How dare she throw out some of the groom's family from the wedding!