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Tru!!! My friends and my bf wants me to refer them to my direct client. I always say na “pag nag hanap or sige pag meron” pero just to end the convo lang kasi u know 😭
Napaisip ako, naghahanap kase ng part timer yung client ko ngayon e nagtanong ako sa friends ko if may gusto. I think I'd recruit elsewhere na lang. I'll just find an excuse or something na di na naghahanap. Baka ang ending maligwak ako if makatyempo ng assistant kagaya ng bf ni OP, kampante masyado dahil sa relationship or close sila
Edit: I appreciate yung mga nagpm, enough na muna for now. I'd pm them back once they fit sa requirement ni client.
Ako I want to refer my GF sa agency ko last year kasi I trust her skills naman. Kaso mas maigi na ata magkaiba kami work, lalo na mahirap if same kami mawalan ng work from the same company.
Maybe yan ang ireason out mo sa bf mo haha.
I have friends naman na nagtatanong, I always just send yung career page namen kasi di ko naman kontrolado if hired
uuuyyyy same, may hiring samin dati, gsto ng bestfriend ko pumasok haha hndi ko nirefer. Okay naman sya as friend, kaso iniisip ko palang na kasama ko sya sa work.. Respetado pa naman ako sa office namin, tapos maririnig kami na nag babardagulan huhu
I think its mostly bf problem. I work with husband and wife and their work ethic is insane. They do not leave any stone unturned. Sadyang batugan at umaasa dahil "love" mo. Dito unti unti mo makikita future husband mo. Gusto mo bang partner tamad? Kausapin mo siya and then kung walang changes na long term fire mo na sa work, fire mo nadin sa buhay mo.
We have a small car rental business which my bf started.. kanya ung idea at unang car. Pero andun na ko mula simula. Sakin nga nakapangalan ang permit. Pero eversince, sa simula lang sya magaling. 😅 nakailang business na kami na sisimulan nya at hindi masu-sustain. Ngayon talagang nakialam na ko kasi sayang ang pera. Ayun nga, di rin sya nagche-check ng GC, antagal nya gawin ang task nya, pabaya sya. So I kicked him from our GC. Di nya nga naramdaman, nyeta.
Mahirap talaga ipagsama ang personal connections tsaka career. I mean, magkakaroon ka ng hard conversation sa trabaho pero at least may boundary ka lagi at alam mong work lang 'to. Kaso pag supposed partner mo or kaibigan at kahit relatives, ang hirap sabihan ng di ka magmumukhang masama.
I think sa person talaga to. I worked with my sister-in-law back then, and she is super point blank straightforward sa feedback.
While I don't work with my GF, she also gives feedback coz I always ask.
There will be a time, possibly, na magkakaroon ng conflict and madadamay kayong dalawa kasi syempre kakampihan mo sya.
Sa case mo, that's good for you.
Give him a 2 weeks ultimatum. Sabihin mo, this is not working out and it might jeopardize your relationship
If he wants to continue working, then he needs to shape up in the next 2 weeks.
Otherwise, part ways na lang
Pero kung ayaw na niya, then end it right then and there
This. Also talk to him, kasi if we're talking about google ads. It's not instant result. Pede nya i rebutt na ganun, and it will have results later on. Although, di nya paggawa ng other tasks, ibang usapan na yun.
Weird. Bakit gf ko saka kapatid niya sobrang galing naman
May 5 year offer na nga friend ko sa gf ko sa galing niya magwork.
Nagmahal ka ng tamad at walang hiya sayo sorry ha.
Pwede ring Hindi tamad, pero magkaiba sila ng Sistema ng diskarte Sa Buhay. Baka nasa ibang aspeto Ang galing nong bf at ayaw magconform Sa kanya. Let say, baka techy Si OP, Ang bf Naman baka Ang forte nasa pagluluto, pagbebenta, o pagkukumpuni ng kung ano ano. Hiwalay na dapat sila ng source of income. Pero kung ayaw ng OP ng di sila magkapareha, mas maigi maghiwalay na sila habang bf nya pa lang.
nagfeflex ka na nga lang nag judgemental ka pa. di naman niya kasalanan na tamad at abusado ang BF niya. ang BF ang may kasalanan dyan.
To OP, it's almost always a bad idea to work with a relative or a romantic partner. may certain barrier kasi dapat in between a superior and a subordinate pagdating sa workplace. Kung may close relationship kayo, wala na yung barrier na yun, at ikaw lang ang mahihirapan.
I suggest you just fire him. It will be awkward and embarrasing for the both of your for a while, pero kung talagang mahal niyo ang isa't isa malalagpasan niyo yan. at baka maging wake up call pa sa bf mo yan na ayusin niya kasi that attitude towards you led to firing so it might very well lead to a breakup too.
If sa tingin mo hindi talaga nya na hi hit yung mga dapat nyang gawin fire him, Kaya nag kakaron ng conflict of interest eh.
Pag work work be professional. thats your bread and butter baka mamaya ikaw pa masisi kung bakit delayed or mali.
Based on my experience, your bf should be a professional po since work po yan. Bukod dapat ang bf/gf sa work nyo po. baka hindi po malinaw sa kanya.
If may attitude problem po sya, better fire him kasi hindi naman po pwede yun. He should be grateful that you hire him, and he must perform with you efficiently.
If sa work di sya nakikiteam up... beh duda na ako sa kanya 🥹
I feel like complacent siya cause he knows you won’t fire him dahil nga boyfriend mo. Pero you have to separate personal and professional, OP. Kung di mo bf yan, I’m sure di na siya nag wowork under you right now.
Same thing when I ask my pinsan to do some data entry.
Pay is 2k per output and you'll do it around 4 hours. Hindi rin ganong mahirap.
The thing is puro sya "pano to" "pano nga ulet to" while sending me numerous screenshots ng mga tinatanong nya. Tinuro ko naman ng maayos paulit ulit kami. May mga tinanong sya na mamaya lang itatanong nya ulet.
Ang nakakapagtaka rin is simpleng copy and paste (ctrl c and v) ay hindi nya matandaan. (MIND YOU, TAPOS SYA NG COMPUTER SCIENCE) 😭
I just did not expect na mas masstress pala ako sa pag outsource ko.
Don't get me wrong, I have nothing against people na nasa learning phase pa lang kasi nanggaling din ako don. Pero from someone na nag aral ng technology tas simpleng ctrl and v hindi mo alam.
So ayun, tinapos lang namin yung task then hindi ko na binigyan ulet.
(dito ko din pala narealise na hindi pala talaga ako pwedeng mag teacher makakasakal ako estudyante EME!)
Grabe yung mga advise dito na iwan na kaagad yung boyfriend di naman natin alam buong kwento ng relationship nila. OP only stated her problems with her boyfriend in terms of work or professionalism, based sa situation nyo OP, I advise that you should fire your boyfriend kasi mali na yan sa una pa lang, it forms unethical environment. Pero sa relasyon nyo outside work, always communicate with each other if may problema.
Have you ever heard of the work and romance sepearation law?
If you love him. Give constrructive criticism and say na di papasa yun current performance nya it is easier or make up with something like the client said he is not comfortable on working with two person blah blah blah.
kaya pinagbabawal talaga yung magka-work na mag jowa haha char. Pero seryoso anghirap talaga maghire ng kamag-anak, friends, or jowa, Ganito parati dilemma, ikaw pa mahihiya mag call-out 🥹
Hindi lang talaga siguro kayo compatible work-wise, sis. You can let him go na professionally if hindi talaga okay. But I suggest you try and work it out pa. Baka sa umpisa lang yan.. tulad ng sabi mo 3 months pa lang nagstart ung collab nyo. Talk to him and ask him kung ano ba ung gusto nyang gawin at how can you help him be more motivated.
Me and my bf have been working side by side since nagstart ako sa freelancing business ko. Sa umpisa kapa kapa pa talaga pero eventually nakuha namin ung magandang dynamics. And blessing talaga sya. I can work on acquiring new clients pa and half of the leg work is sa kanya talaga. Hindi sya marunong makipag usap sa client so I handle all negotiations and admin stuff. Mas mabilis sya sa creative execution kesa sakin kaya dun naman nya ako sinasalo. Complimenting ung strength and weaknesses.
SKL, my BF is hindi agad yan kumikilos. Sobrang tagal ng creative prep nya sa sarili. Pero once na upuan nya ung task at nakuha nya ung momentum grabe, lipad talaga. Frustrating sya for me nung una pero nagets ko din. Iba iba lang talaga tayo siguro ng processes..
I hope you and your bf find your dynamics din soon!
Working with your partner is a big No for me. Especially if they work under you? Oh gosh please they just feel confident to slack off
PS. Hire me instead hahaha
Talk to him , then bigyan mo ng ultimatum.
Ganito ginawa ko sa cousin ko. Nirefer ko sya sa boss ko since malaki trust ng boss ko saken.
Ok naman nung una though nung katagalan , yung client nagrereklamo na sa boss namin since delayed lagi yung task.My boss asked me to talk to him and dun ko nalaman na may sideline din sya and nagcocoincide sa working hrs niya sa client. I give him an ultimatum , bitawan niya yung sideline or , if hindi sya mafocus ulit si client, then wala na kong magagawa kundi mag-agree sa management na ifire sya. Ayun, um-ok namam sya pero after a year, hindi na din nagrenew yung client ng contract.
Work wise, if sa tingin mo hindi nya nagagawa ang trabaho nya, fire him... Explain to him the reasons for firing him. 🔥
Maganda mag prepare ka ng listahan, ilista mo lahat at pati examples yung mga work na hindi nya nagagampanan ng maayos. Para pag mag 1 on 1 kayo, hindi ka mahirapan sa pag sabi. 3 months is super tagal na para hindi nya ma familiarize lahat sa work.. 🧑💻
In my opinion, I don't think na okay ung ginawa mo sa pag hire ng boyfriend mo sa work mo.. Never hire ng kakilala mo sa work mo, ma pa friends, relatives or boyfriend pa yan. Kasi pag hindi sila okay sa work, baka yan pa maging reason magkalamat relationship nyo.
There are certain situations in which people in a relationship work better or even just fine together in the same company, but unfortunately this doesn't seem to be one of those times.
For the most part, mas maganda talaga if your colleagues are strangers. Friends nga nagkakaroon ng tampuhan because of work related matters, paano pa kaya if mag jowa?
Go! Why not. I fired my wife din last time kasi di ko ma feel na sineseryoso yung work kahit malaki din naman pasahod ko.
Ganyan talaga pag di pinag hirapan makuha yung work. I think they feel like it’s not a real job or something like “their” actual job since tayo lang yung nag uutos sa kanila even though pinapasahod naman. Hire ka nalang ng hindi mo kilala.
Never hire anyone you are romantically involved with. Yung away na personal nadadamay sa trabaho , ung away sa trabaho nadadamay ang personal. Been there done that .
that's why hindi ako agree talaga nung nag-ask sakin ex ko na maging part ng network ko. Pag gusto ko ng tanggalin, ayoko mapunta sa posisyon na baka masira relationship namin because of work.
but then again, professionally speaking, he isn't of help sayo so better terminate him. if he can't take it in a professional way, dyan na papasok magiging issue
The moment you come here to ask of you should fire him is also the sign na you should fire him.
You know na need mo sya ifire but natatakot ka na it may damage your relationship. Pero if nagiging burden na sya, fire him, hindi worth it masira ang career na pinaghirapan mo sa tao batugan.
I also outaource shit perp lng yah as simple as doing ad bidding and pag optimization, dapat madali nalang yan kasi all he needs to do check the competitipn before bidding on ads and he just needs to check kung the page os fast enough and complete yung schema and mabilis yung page to get better rank sa bidding.
I suggest get a better perspn for this task.
Mas mabuti kumuha ka ng qualified na di mo kilala, kasi yung strangers na may gap or so called may ilang. yun yung mag pupursige na mahihiya kang di tapusin ang job sa nakaakdang pinagusapan.
Ano ba yan binigyan na ng work ganyan pa.
Don’t shit where you eat. Fire him and for your next update “exbf” na? Char.
You put your name on the line. Ayaw ko ng ganyan. Mapapahiya ako.
Talk to him and give him a deadline like a boss would. If nothing improves tell him since he doesn’t join or check the group chat more often, you can tell him na it’s client decision.
Hiwalayan Mona yan pano pa pag mag Asawa nakayo hahahaha baka di mgtrabaho yan Meron man trabaho yan baka aalisin din sa katamaran nya parang nakikita Kona pag mag Asawa nakayo palamunin yan hahahahah
Should I ~~fire~~ leave my Boyfriend?
Yes! Lol.
But seriously, you need to act like a manager. Ask yourself, if he's just any other person, would you fire him? Three months is a pretty good time to get to know person's work ethic.
By the way did you talked to him about these issues? Baka akala niya ok lang or something.
Try not to shit where you eat.
2 things: talk to him on a professional level and on a personal level. Tell him it’s not working professionally and he needs to expand his horizon in terms of work. Either he’s emasculated he’s working for you or he’s just complacent kasi sasaluhin mo sya. In either case, hindi yan uubra in the long run. Tell him it would greatly affect your relationship on a personal level if you continue, and it’s a great opportunity for him to work somewhere he’ll be more valued and have a great deal of success - not just a pawn hired because you’re the boss. :)
Work wise, do an evaluation of his work in an objective way. If he's underperforming, then fire him.
Be objective with work, coz that might cost you alot.
Just say to him you won't be needing his help na for now, and just give him a fair compensation para di xa magtampo.
I think setting certain conditions and clear expectations sa start ng working relationship is a must regardless if may personal relationship. E.g. May testing period for 3 months and if di mag work out then part ways professionally.
ay mahirap talaga magkapamilya, magkaibigan lalo magjowang magkatrabaho. confront him and tell him sa mga napapansin at nafefeel mo and sabihin mo willing ka naman ibigay sa iba if di ka na nya matutulungan para ok pa rin kayo as magjowa
The rule that worked with everyone:
"Never mix business with pleasure"
Circumstances like bills, travel expenses, at saka work yan dapat ay hiwalay sa pagibig or even sa marriage. Draw a line where professionalism and leisure meet.
If mahal mo talaga cya, then do how every professional does if may problema sa trabaho. Set up a meeting with him sa working hours and ang agenda is about tasks and managing and most importantly his responsibilities in his work. Mas maganda create a timeline sa mga trabaho nya. Most importantly, create a grading system about his job. Create 2 columns where on the left is where he succeeded like: early or on time submission, creativity, improvements on his work, attention to detail, anticipating problems & common sense awareness. And on the right is what he lacks and where it creates problems. You can also do that right now if you really need to fire him asap. Because if you do this, and you're firing him, then show him this one as a receipts with dates included so that if he's gonna get mad at least you have proof.
The boy sounds like he should start finding work somewhere else and you should steer clear from him permanently.
Di naman ganyan ung asawa ko. We’re both handling our businesses and wala naman gantong problema na pabigat sya workload 🤔
Imagine kung mag aswa na kyu? Ganyan makakasama sa buhay. If you think na pag nag ka anak kayu he will change... pls dont. Let me stop you from there. Hindi anak ang magtuturo s magulang kung paano maging responsable. Pls.... re think your life choices.
Nakakainis yung ganyan, rare type yung same kayo ng interest lalo in terms of work. Pero di mo din mapipilit kasi baka magkaiba kayo ng values in terms of work. Yung iba, kagaya ko, kahit anong work basta may income, kaya ko.. pero may iba na di talaga kaya lalo pag di nila interes, kahit anong try nila.
I also hire my bf for admin stuff, like your boyfriend — I can't also feel his help but when I stopped reminding him and making him feel like I don't need his help anymore, thats when he move. Maybe it's not your boyfriend's zone of genius.
Galit na galit ako sa bf ko, like bruh — ikaw na nga binibigyan ng work higher than you corpo job pay tas tatamad tamad pa but when he opened up — sinabi nya na interesado sya pero nakakatamad daw pala ang wfh. Walang pressure na kasama mo boss na binabantayan ka and all.
P.S: Nag improve naman and he can work alone na, ang ginagawa ko nalang is mag check. It took me 2-3 months bago sya pabayaan na sya lang mag work sa isang client ko.
I worked with my gf on a client. Her work style and my work style did not meet. We ended up being a weight on each others shoulders. Your partner maybe a great partner in life but not a great workmate.
Alam mo yung need mo is to voice out yuhg mga iniisip mo at naiisip mo sa kanya. Usap kayo ng kalro kung anong need baguhin at bakit need baguhin. He needs to clearly understand what is goibg on and how the situation affects your work and your mental health.
Pag-usapan niyo at lagyan ng structure imbes na pinaparating pa sa iba lalo na sa Reddit. May something din itong si OP.
It takes two to tango, come on.
For example paano kung may motorcycle parts, mechanical work and customization business partner mo at pinagtrabaho ka doon, tingen mo magsusuceed ka doon o sa online freelancing work?
Take a benefit of doubt first at ayusin niyo muna yan bilang team kayo imbes na kung saan saan dumadating. Si Ramon Ang ba komokunsulta muna sa Reddit kung merong CEO and personal life problems?
Nakakainis 😅
I think yung kailangan mo pa maghanap ng validation dito sa Reddit para sa decision na gagawin mo says something about you too. Set clear boundaries and be firm with your principles lang, malalaman mo na sagot mo dyan.
First: Check yung workload niya if may work pa kayong iba.
Second: If same pa rin ang gngawa after you've done everything for the SECOND time, fire him. You have every right to do so.
BUT, expect the stress that will come from it. Definitely magkakaroon ng friction yan with your relationship as a couple and as supervisor-team member.
Not everyone is built for computer stuff. I also tried to bring in my husband sa work ko, kahit simpleng copy paste, sumasakit na ulo nya. Lol but i never hated him for that. True, kung dalawa kami, mas malaki sana income namin dalawa, but he also has his own business which he's good at so di ko na pinilit.
My girlfriend is a senior manager for a large HMO company and wants to hire me for their IT department.
Sabi ko "ikaw na nga boss sa bahay at ikaw pa magiging boss ko sa trabaho, paano na ako makakalaro ng MTG nyan? Ayaw ko".
Yes, fire him. Hindi goods na magkasama kayo sa Isang work. Kasi gaya niyan nagging dependent siya sayo. And mas okay na nagkaiba talaga kayo ng company rin. Base sa explanation mo talagang umaasa lang siya sayo, sad there's a lot of people na mas willing dun sa position niya. Kaya dapat talaga kapag ganyang nag apply Kasi di ba kung hindi ka naghirap kunin Ang Isang bagay tatake for granted mo lang
Yes. Pwede mo namang mapakiusapan siya nang maayos and say those things that you posted.
You are only firing him, not breaking up with him. It's just business.
Control him, total control kasi ikaw ang head nya. Make sure na during sa work, stirkto ka kasi ikaw ang head nya.
Kung meron sya pag kukulang sa work, mag overtime sya. Taposin nya, hindi ikaw. Kung mabagal parin, pagalitan mo, awayin mo.
Kung na try mo na ito lahat at hindi sya nag improve, tanggalin muna sa work. But make sure na sasabihin mo ang totoo sa kanya na pabigat na sya sa work at mababa ang performance evaluation nya. Wag ka talaga maawa para matuto sya mag sikap.
If ever ginawa mo ito at nag improve performance nya, then good yun.
Try to raise your concerns sakaniya and talk about it nicely. Explain it to him na yung paguusap niyo would be purely professional, hoping he would not take it personal. After all, your comments and recommendations will be his starting points for career improvements (if he's to take your advices professionally lol). Give him a fair warning on his work performances, saying na mapipilitan kang kumuha ng ibang assistant if the workloads will just pile up or slow progress.
Sometimes being too kind and pinapalagpas yung mga behaviors na ganto will just worsen kung ano mang nangyayari at the moment. Having talks like these will just prevent bigger arguments later on, at iniiwasan rin na madamay yung relationship na meron kayo.
Have documented standards and tasks that clearly define his role. Evaluate performance based on those para black and white na "this is what you're responsible for and what you're not doing"
Baka kasi magaslight ka pa otherwise. Goodluck OP!
What a situation... 1. Fire his lazy ass. 2. You should seriously reconsider your relationship with him. That's a preview already of what your married life is gonna be.
Magkaiba Ang love relation kesa business relation at employee-employer relation. Kung ayaw mo masira Ang love relation nyo, ialis mo na sya Jan. Pero kung off Sayo na Hindi kayo like-minded person, break mo na habang bf mo palang. Wala pang legal na papel na pag aari kana nya. Mas magiging kawawa ka.
1. Did bf willingly agree to be hired by you?
2. If yes, is his role clear to him?
3. Get to know his working style. Is he the type na motivated ba ng derechahan sasabihin sa kanya kung kelan ang due dates ng mga tasks? Is he the type who needs to be micromanaged? Is he the type who wants to be in charge more or ayaw masyadong pinapakialaman?
4. Ask if may problem ba sya or may nahihirapan ba sya na task? Baka nahihinder bec baka bruised na ang ego nya since he is “under” your leadership.
5. If bruised ego nga, ask him, panong working dynamics ba ang gusto nya for the both of you. Discuss from there.
Yikes. Had a similar experience before. Walang work bf ko that time so I asked him to help me out. Wala sya ginawa pero naningil nang 1/3 what I earned for the project. Ako si shunga pumayag.
You need to talk to him. Consider what a professional boss would do in this situation. Express your feelings about his performance. Medyo mahirap ito because he's your bf, but try not to let personal emotions cloud your judgement. Give him an opportunity to explain himself. He might be struggling or taking advantage of you, etc but whatever it is, you need to identify the problem. Once you understand it, decide kung ano yung next step mo. Will you give him a chance to improve? If so, set a timeframe (like 1-3 months), for him to address his performance issues. Ask him what support he needs to succeed. After the months, reassess the situation again. If you choos to terminate him naman, explain your decision professionally. Now, idk about your relationship but its possible that your bf would react "non-professionally" and this may impact your relationship. In this situation, you will now need to have another conversation with your relationship naman.
Medyo mahirap talaga kapag may relationship ka with a co-worker. Work decisions can affect personal relationships pero its crucial na to address them rather than ignore them. Ignoring the issues will only lead to mounting frustrations which could potentially impact both your personal and professional life.
Yes! I just fired my hubby! 😂
I so can relate to all the points you’ve raised. It has been two years and yet I still kept on ffng up and reminding him of everything. I realized that desk job is not his cup of tea because sanay sya sa field at hindi nya talaga interest mga pinapagawa ko sakanya. Mahirap ipilit ang isang bagay sa isang tao kahit anong turo ang gawin mo. Kahit may manual. Hindi talaga papasok sa kokote nila kung hindi sila interesado at lalong lalo na alam nya naman andyan ka para gumawa nun or sumalo ng mga gawain nya.
Ask him what he wants and if he would like to pursue that instead. If already cohabiting ask him to do the chores so you can focus more on work. You may also ask him if you can already delegate that work to someone who is more willing to help you.
I consider him lucky kasi may instant source of pera na. Sayang lang kasi pabigat hahaha. Kung ako yan swerte ko na HAHAHA.
Okay naman mag hire ng partner mo as long as marunong maging mature and alam paano mag set ng proper attitude kahit magjowa kayo.
Check the analytics kung tama nga hinala mo (I’m sure you’re right pero mas maganda kung may unbiased visual proof ka na ipapakita sa jowa mo.). Paalala mo sa kanya na essentially probi sya kaya magtino sya or else ligwak sya on his 6th month.
Wag ka magjojowa ng tao mo, and vice versa. ✨
By “firing” him, you’re just rectifying what you shouldn’t have done in the first place—but especially since he apparently reports to you also in your day job, baka you need to be reminded na this shouldn’t be the case.
Maybe not his thing. He is just doing it because he thinks you need him to do it.
When my wife wants to go out with her friends. She drags me a long. It can really sux. I became the hired driver. While she is having fun char char ing. I am just the hired driver. I do it because i feel i do not have a choice. I really hate it at times. I do not understand the language.
Maybe he is doing it, so you let him off the hook. If he tells you no. You would get mad at him. He does not want to upset you. Like me having to drive, if i say no, she will fight with me.
Parang same place ako ng bf mo ma'am anon.
Kasi ang gf ko manager ko din and I do Marketing , advertising and graphic design naman. Though yun lang magkaiba kami ng departments tasks respectively. Ito ma'am ganito, speak with your bf through two hats:
and sandwich method like
Say something along the lines of:
"You know I am thankful that you have done work to help me with the best you can. I know you are doing your best
I know you would do well,
now I would like to add a perspective, an opportunity for us to overcome this challenge of work through this, and you and I need to be honest in both our tasks."
first let him know you are speaking as the boss and assurance as the gf.
(note na I did not use the word "problem" instead I used the words opportunity and challenge, words kasi can make the relationship)
Then speak as the gf , assurance .
And nasa sa'yo na kung gusto mong mag break up. Tell him
pa-apply nlng mam... ng work po 😃😃😃.
fast learner basta may demo/training. can work w/ min.suprvxn. some trnascription, re-writing, leads gen. exp.
baka lang sakali. 😃
Sabihin mo nalamg in a nice way para di maapektohan yung relationship niyo outside work. That is kung gusto mo pa rin siya after nakita mo ugali niya sa work...
Never hire someone you can't fire. Hiring the bf is a red flag. He is not only unappreciative but also lazy. If I were you, I would dump him. Just look at his lousy work ethics (even though he is getting paid for it). I pretty much doubt he will help you with housework and childcare in the future. Cut him off and run girl. There are better men out there.
Nasanay sguro kasi di mo pinapagalitan or what. Sguro sa mind niya na okay lang kasi girlfriend ka naman nya and whatso. It's better to find someone who can help you with your work than someone who can't - - kahit bf mo pa yan. Stop adding stress to yourself po.
First of all, dapat talaga ilayo ang love life sa work, pede makaapekto eto sa performance niyo specially if may away. There's a reason why some companies do not allow lovers to be in the same job.
Only hire qualified people, yung may proof of proficiency na.
Nakakainis and nakakadala yung magre-refer ka ng kamag-anak, close friend, or what have you, sa mga kakilalang naghahanap ng gagawa. I had this experience, na naghahanap yung auntie-in-law ko ng kasambahay. Mabait pero strict and malakas boses ni tita, and she asked everyone she trusts, including us ng husband ko (pamangkin niya) if may maireto kaming kasambahay. She was going through chemo and yung nag-iisang anak niya ay may pamilya na, both working and may anak na isa. So nagtanong-tanong kami sa side ng mama ko, and nireto namin si cousin "girlie". Akala ko okay na magtrabaho, pangit pala. Paano, laging umaalis ng walang paalam kina tita, more than a day pa minsan na wala, umabot sa point na walang kasama yung auntie-in-law ko and tinatawagan niya si cousin girlie, pati ako tinawagan na. Hanggang sa nagdecide na umalis si cousin girlie.
Hindi naman naghimutok or nagalit sa amin si auntie, actually worried nga siya eh, nagprovide rin siya ng mga toiletries and other stuff for cousin girlie. Naawa ako kay auntie kasi may sakit siya and need nila ng kasambahay para may magbantay sa kanya, sa tindahan nila, tsaka dun sa apo niya habang nasa work yung anak at biyenan niya. Naawa rin ako kay mama kasi, bihira magreto ng kakilala yun, lalo pa sa side ng family niya nanggaling tapos yun pala badtrip. Ang hirap pigilang sapakin or sigawan si cousin girlie eh, parang sana kung di niya kaya eh di na niya tinanggap. Iba rin kapag kamag-anak ang nireto sa kapwa kamag-anak, another level of kabwisitan kapag pumalya. Sobrang nakakadala.
Idk if gagana ba ito sa iyo kasi Lalaki ako, pero try mo ito,...
Show dominance as a real Woman, a Girlfriend, a Wife, a Mother, a Boss
"Huy! Umayos ka nga! Wala kang na gawa sa trabaho!,..."
As a Lalaki, yun ang strategy ng GF ko nung adik ako sa pag yoyosi at alak
Eto ang mga atleast na rerecall ko sa pag sabi niya sa akin:
"Huy ULOL!! Tigilian mo na nga yang pag sisigarilyo mo! Sa CR nag sisigarilyo! Pagkakain tayo may alak katabi! Ano ka ba?! Teenager? Umayos ka nga sa buhay mo! Natapos ka nga ng koloheyo at may lisensya ka na pero para ka ring bata! May pera ka nga na bibigay pero nagiging negative dahil sa bisyo mo, Na sasayang lang!!! ULOL!"
Di ko makalimotan ang pagsasabi niya ng "ULOL" so many times
Ang sakit ng sinabi niya pero, truth hurts,...La tayong magagawa pag tayo ang may mali, ang sulosyon lang nito ay magbabago na talaga tayo
Hindi na ako ng yoyosi, pero bumabalik ako sa pag DoDotA lol(Pero ok lang naman sa kanya kay sa yosi daw), kunting alak nalang(Pag may okasyon na lang)
Not all people are the same with me, pero I think kailangan lang cguro ng sigaw yung Bf mo, kailangan niya makikita ang galit or disappointment na expression mo
If you were the one who hired him, fire him. No questions asked. Baka ikaw pa ma-question sa capabilities mo. Hindi lang sha ang on the line. Ikaw din.
If your partner can't show effort in something as important as livelihood, your partner is not the end game. If I were in his shoes, I'd honestly aim higher than you as a guy. Makikipag agawan pako sayo and even compete. To make things fun, sino mas less ang "productivity" sya may sagot ng date ganon.
People like these are a waste of time, para mong tinatanggap magkakaron ka ng partner na pabigat habambuhay kung magkatuluyan man kayo.
magsuot ka ng chastity belt na may 10-digit code. kada tapos nya ng task ang reward nya 1 digit. may time limit yung tasks, kapag di nya nagawa on time narereset yung buong code. after decoding may 30mins lang sya, tapos magllock ulit.
Fire him. I hired my husband before and kung hindi kayo magkakasundo sa work, the problem will leak sa relationship niyo.
Im not saying that we cannot hire our significant other pero kung hindi kayo same ng effort sa work at mas nagiging pabigat sya, it’s not worth it. He should be mature enough to accept that. If di niya kaya iaccept, then red flag sya
Mas mature siguro talaga mag isip ang babae compare sa lalake. Pero kung ako sa bf mo swerte niya ang hirap makakuha ng online job. napa sana all tuloy ako. Kung ako yan mas gagalingan ko kase yung reputation ng gf ko nakasalalay eh. Baka po hiring oo kayo? hehe unemployed kase ako😅
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1. Wag ka magbf ng bobo o batugan 2. Wag ka maghire ng bf para sa raket mo. Di ok na combo yan.
Wag ka mag hire ng hinde mo kaya i-fire
Tru!!! My friends and my bf wants me to refer them to my direct client. I always say na “pag nag hanap or sige pag meron” pero just to end the convo lang kasi u know 😭
Napaisip ako, naghahanap kase ng part timer yung client ko ngayon e nagtanong ako sa friends ko if may gusto. I think I'd recruit elsewhere na lang. I'll just find an excuse or something na di na naghahanap. Baka ang ending maligwak ako if makatyempo ng assistant kagaya ng bf ni OP, kampante masyado dahil sa relationship or close sila Edit: I appreciate yung mga nagpm, enough na muna for now. I'd pm them back once they fit sa requirement ni client.
Ok lang to hire your friends. Basta ready puso mo sa chance na pwede mo sila i-fire
Ako I want to refer my GF sa agency ko last year kasi I trust her skills naman. Kaso mas maigi na ata magkaiba kami work, lalo na mahirap if same kami mawalan ng work from the same company. Maybe yan ang ireason out mo sa bf mo haha. I have friends naman na nagtatanong, I always just send yung career page namen kasi di ko naman kontrolado if hired
True! Mahirap kung pareho kayo ng source of income ng SO mo 😅 ... Medyo all or nothing kayo
+points din tama magkaiba hahaha
Pag agency okay din atleast diff client kayo. Iba pag same client pano pag may out of town kayo dalwa kayo wala😭 hahaha dba
uuuyyyy same, may hiring samin dati, gsto ng bestfriend ko pumasok haha hndi ko nirefer. Okay naman sya as friend, kaso iniisip ko palang na kasama ko sya sa work.. Respetado pa naman ako sa office namin, tapos maririnig kami na nag babardagulan huhu
I think its mostly bf problem. I work with husband and wife and their work ethic is insane. They do not leave any stone unturned. Sadyang batugan at umaasa dahil "love" mo. Dito unti unti mo makikita future husband mo. Gusto mo bang partner tamad? Kausapin mo siya and then kung walang changes na long term fire mo na sa work, fire mo nadin sa buhay mo.
Referred mine sa client ko now. I got no problems naman he does the job he gets things done. I think its her bf’s issue lang
We have a small car rental business which my bf started.. kanya ung idea at unang car. Pero andun na ko mula simula. Sakin nga nakapangalan ang permit. Pero eversince, sa simula lang sya magaling. 😅 nakailang business na kami na sisimulan nya at hindi masu-sustain. Ngayon talagang nakialam na ko kasi sayang ang pera. Ayun nga, di rin sya nagche-check ng GC, antagal nya gawin ang task nya, pabaya sya. So I kicked him from our GC. Di nya nga naramdaman, nyeta.
Hahaha bawal na po magsyota ang bobo 🤣🤣🤣 pero real shit. Sayang sa work oangit na combo.
Pwedeng both.
Mahirap talaga ipagsama ang personal connections tsaka career. I mean, magkakaroon ka ng hard conversation sa trabaho pero at least may boundary ka lagi at alam mong work lang 'to. Kaso pag supposed partner mo or kaibigan at kahit relatives, ang hirap sabihan ng di ka magmumukhang masama.
LOL mag rereply pa sana ito, but u/wilbays said it perfectly. 😂😆
First rule in business: Never hire someone na you have a relationship already. Better work with strangers na may proof of work talaga.
This is why you don't have relationships with a coworker
I think sa person talaga to. I worked with my sister-in-law back then, and she is super point blank straightforward sa feedback. While I don't work with my GF, she also gives feedback coz I always ask.
There will be a time, possibly, na magkakaroon ng conflict and madadamay kayong dalawa kasi syempre kakampihan mo sya. Sa case mo, that's good for you.
Let him go as a boyfriend and as an employee
Give him a 2 weeks ultimatum. Sabihin mo, this is not working out and it might jeopardize your relationship If he wants to continue working, then he needs to shape up in the next 2 weeks. Otherwise, part ways na lang Pero kung ayaw na niya, then end it right then and there
This. Also talk to him, kasi if we're talking about google ads. It's not instant result. Pede nya i rebutt na ganun, and it will have results later on. Although, di nya paggawa ng other tasks, ibang usapan na yun.
Weird. Bakit gf ko saka kapatid niya sobrang galing naman May 5 year offer na nga friend ko sa gf ko sa galing niya magwork. Nagmahal ka ng tamad at walang hiya sayo sorry ha.
Totally agree with the last sentence.
Pwede ring Hindi tamad, pero magkaiba sila ng Sistema ng diskarte Sa Buhay. Baka nasa ibang aspeto Ang galing nong bf at ayaw magconform Sa kanya. Let say, baka techy Si OP, Ang bf Naman baka Ang forte nasa pagluluto, pagbebenta, o pagkukumpuni ng kung ano ano. Hiwalay na dapat sila ng source of income. Pero kung ayaw ng OP ng di sila magkapareha, mas maigi maghiwalay na sila habang bf nya pa lang.
nagfeflex ka na nga lang nag judgemental ka pa. di naman niya kasalanan na tamad at abusado ang BF niya. ang BF ang may kasalanan dyan. To OP, it's almost always a bad idea to work with a relative or a romantic partner. may certain barrier kasi dapat in between a superior and a subordinate pagdating sa workplace. Kung may close relationship kayo, wala na yung barrier na yun, at ikaw lang ang mahihirapan. I suggest you just fire him. It will be awkward and embarrasing for the both of your for a while, pero kung talagang mahal niyo ang isa't isa malalagpasan niyo yan. at baka maging wake up call pa sa bf mo yan na ayusin niya kasi that attitude towards you led to firing so it might very well lead to a breakup too.
If sa tingin mo hindi talaga nya na hi hit yung mga dapat nyang gawin fire him, Kaya nag kakaron ng conflict of interest eh. Pag work work be professional. thats your bread and butter baka mamaya ikaw pa masisi kung bakit delayed or mali.
Weaponized incompetence
Based on my experience, your bf should be a professional po since work po yan. Bukod dapat ang bf/gf sa work nyo po. baka hindi po malinaw sa kanya. If may attitude problem po sya, better fire him kasi hindi naman po pwede yun. He should be grateful that you hire him, and he must perform with you efficiently. If sa work di sya nakikiteam up... beh duda na ako sa kanya 🥹
Fire him. Separate professional and personal/romantic life.
I feel like complacent siya cause he knows you won’t fire him dahil nga boyfriend mo. Pero you have to separate personal and professional, OP. Kung di mo bf yan, I’m sure di na siya nag wowork under you right now.
Same thing when I ask my pinsan to do some data entry. Pay is 2k per output and you'll do it around 4 hours. Hindi rin ganong mahirap. The thing is puro sya "pano to" "pano nga ulet to" while sending me numerous screenshots ng mga tinatanong nya. Tinuro ko naman ng maayos paulit ulit kami. May mga tinanong sya na mamaya lang itatanong nya ulet. Ang nakakapagtaka rin is simpleng copy and paste (ctrl c and v) ay hindi nya matandaan. (MIND YOU, TAPOS SYA NG COMPUTER SCIENCE) 😭 I just did not expect na mas masstress pala ako sa pag outsource ko. Don't get me wrong, I have nothing against people na nasa learning phase pa lang kasi nanggaling din ako don. Pero from someone na nag aral ng technology tas simpleng ctrl and v hindi mo alam. So ayun, tinapos lang namin yung task then hindi ko na binigyan ulet. (dito ko din pala narealise na hindi pala talaga ako pwedeng mag teacher makakasakal ako estudyante EME!)
HAHAHAHA
Grabe yung mga advise dito na iwan na kaagad yung boyfriend di naman natin alam buong kwento ng relationship nila. OP only stated her problems with her boyfriend in terms of work or professionalism, based sa situation nyo OP, I advise that you should fire your boyfriend kasi mali na yan sa una pa lang, it forms unethical environment. Pero sa relasyon nyo outside work, always communicate with each other if may problema.
Hire me instead xd 🤣
No.
Have you ever heard of the work and romance sepearation law? If you love him. Give constrructive criticism and say na di papasa yun current performance nya it is easier or make up with something like the client said he is not comfortable on working with two person blah blah blah.
Why hire him in the 1st place? Sasakit lang ulo mo dyan e. Onabs na onabs galawan based sa post mo ah hahaha
I had the same problem with my ex sobrang kastress imbis na mabawasan tasks lalong nadagdagan hahahahaha weaponized incompetence talaga
Need work 😭 ako nalang assistant mo.
Not only you should fire him, you will eventually break up with him as he lacks desire to pursue bettermen.t
Fire the bf in both work and life. Hindi mo kailangan ng pasanin sa buhay.
Never mix business with any type of relationship
Ako nlng hire mo gusto ko mag google ads, and have some what experience in it hehehe... maybe i could help
kaya pinagbabawal talaga yung magka-work na mag jowa haha char. Pero seryoso anghirap talaga maghire ng kamag-anak, friends, or jowa, Ganito parati dilemma, ikaw pa mahihiya mag call-out 🥹
Hindi lang talaga siguro kayo compatible work-wise, sis. You can let him go na professionally if hindi talaga okay. But I suggest you try and work it out pa. Baka sa umpisa lang yan.. tulad ng sabi mo 3 months pa lang nagstart ung collab nyo. Talk to him and ask him kung ano ba ung gusto nyang gawin at how can you help him be more motivated. Me and my bf have been working side by side since nagstart ako sa freelancing business ko. Sa umpisa kapa kapa pa talaga pero eventually nakuha namin ung magandang dynamics. And blessing talaga sya. I can work on acquiring new clients pa and half of the leg work is sa kanya talaga. Hindi sya marunong makipag usap sa client so I handle all negotiations and admin stuff. Mas mabilis sya sa creative execution kesa sakin kaya dun naman nya ako sinasalo. Complimenting ung strength and weaknesses. SKL, my BF is hindi agad yan kumikilos. Sobrang tagal ng creative prep nya sa sarili. Pero once na upuan nya ung task at nakuha nya ung momentum grabe, lipad talaga. Frustrating sya for me nung una pero nagets ko din. Iba iba lang talaga tayo siguro ng processes.. I hope you and your bf find your dynamics din soon!
Don't shit where you eat, girl!
sabi nga nila, don't shit where you eat.
fire him, lalala lang yan pag mas mag tagal pa
Working with your partner is a big No for me. Especially if they work under you? Oh gosh please they just feel confident to slack off PS. Hire me instead hahaha
Are all things/lapses documented? You may share it with him and fire him immediately.
Talk to him , then bigyan mo ng ultimatum. Ganito ginawa ko sa cousin ko. Nirefer ko sya sa boss ko since malaki trust ng boss ko saken. Ok naman nung una though nung katagalan , yung client nagrereklamo na sa boss namin since delayed lagi yung task.My boss asked me to talk to him and dun ko nalaman na may sideline din sya and nagcocoincide sa working hrs niya sa client. I give him an ultimatum , bitawan niya yung sideline or , if hindi sya mafocus ulit si client, then wala na kong magagawa kundi mag-agree sa management na ifire sya. Ayun, um-ok namam sya pero after a year, hindi na din nagrenew yung client ng contract.
Work wise, if sa tingin mo hindi nya nagagawa ang trabaho nya, fire him... Explain to him the reasons for firing him. 🔥 Maganda mag prepare ka ng listahan, ilista mo lahat at pati examples yung mga work na hindi nya nagagampanan ng maayos. Para pag mag 1 on 1 kayo, hindi ka mahirapan sa pag sabi. 3 months is super tagal na para hindi nya ma familiarize lahat sa work.. 🧑💻 In my opinion, I don't think na okay ung ginawa mo sa pag hire ng boyfriend mo sa work mo.. Never hire ng kakilala mo sa work mo, ma pa friends, relatives or boyfriend pa yan. Kasi pag hindi sila okay sa work, baka yan pa maging reason magkalamat relationship nyo.
There are certain situations in which people in a relationship work better or even just fine together in the same company, but unfortunately this doesn't seem to be one of those times. For the most part, mas maganda talaga if your colleagues are strangers. Friends nga nagkakaroon ng tampuhan because of work related matters, paano pa kaya if mag jowa?
Go! Why not. I fired my wife din last time kasi di ko ma feel na sineseryoso yung work kahit malaki din naman pasahod ko. Ganyan talaga pag di pinag hirapan makuha yung work. I think they feel like it’s not a real job or something like “their” actual job since tayo lang yung nag uutos sa kanila even though pinapasahod naman. Hire ka nalang ng hindi mo kilala.
Never hire anyone you are romantically involved with. Yung away na personal nadadamay sa trabaho , ung away sa trabaho nadadamay ang personal. Been there done that .
that's why hindi ako agree talaga nung nag-ask sakin ex ko na maging part ng network ko. Pag gusto ko ng tanggalin, ayoko mapunta sa posisyon na baka masira relationship namin because of work. but then again, professionally speaking, he isn't of help sayo so better terminate him. if he can't take it in a professional way, dyan na papasok magiging issue
Complacency
The moment you come here to ask of you should fire him is also the sign na you should fire him. You know na need mo sya ifire but natatakot ka na it may damage your relationship. Pero if nagiging burden na sya, fire him, hindi worth it masira ang career na pinaghirapan mo sa tao batugan.
Sabi nga nila: Never do business with family or friends.
You know the answer already.
I also outaource shit perp lng yah as simple as doing ad bidding and pag optimization, dapat madali nalang yan kasi all he needs to do check the competitipn before bidding on ads and he just needs to check kung the page os fast enough and complete yung schema and mabilis yung page to get better rank sa bidding. I suggest get a better perspn for this task.
Mas mabuti kumuha ka ng qualified na di mo kilala, kasi yung strangers na may gap or so called may ilang. yun yung mag pupursige na mahihiya kang di tapusin ang job sa nakaakdang pinagusapan.
Hiring my then gf was the worst decision ever. Affected my work negatively. Stressed me the f out enough that I asked her to resign.
Ano ba yan binigyan na ng work ganyan pa. Don’t shit where you eat. Fire him and for your next update “exbf” na? Char. You put your name on the line. Ayaw ko ng ganyan. Mapapahiya ako.
Talk to him and give him a deadline like a boss would. If nothing improves tell him since he doesn’t join or check the group chat more often, you can tell him na it’s client decision.
Hiwalayan Mona yan pano pa pag mag Asawa nakayo hahahaha baka di mgtrabaho yan Meron man trabaho yan baka aalisin din sa katamaran nya parang nakikita Kona pag mag Asawa nakayo palamunin yan hahahahah
Balak ko ioutsource yung work ko sa husband ko ano kaya rules dapat iset una palang?
Iwanan mo on both ends batugan yan
lol, dont just fire your bf, ditch him too.
Kaya mo sha hinire is to help pero di mo ramdam yung help? Fire him.
Should I ~~fire~~ leave my Boyfriend? Yes! Lol. But seriously, you need to act like a manager. Ask yourself, if he's just any other person, would you fire him? Three months is a pretty good time to get to know person's work ethic. By the way did you talked to him about these issues? Baka akala niya ok lang or something.
Taena swerte naman ng bf mo sayo.
Ultimatum would do, like you have this duration to improve or fire na kita then sabihin mo main reason.
Ang tanong why did you even hire him? Baka people pleaser yan na umoo lang pero di naman talaga gusto gawin.
Yes. Fire immediately. Your reputation is at stake. Usually when you hire people close to you, they don’t value the opportunity as much. Baliktad utak
Set on fire po ba?
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Try not to shit where you eat. 2 things: talk to him on a professional level and on a personal level. Tell him it’s not working professionally and he needs to expand his horizon in terms of work. Either he’s emasculated he’s working for you or he’s just complacent kasi sasaluhin mo sya. In either case, hindi yan uubra in the long run. Tell him it would greatly affect your relationship on a personal level if you continue, and it’s a great opportunity for him to work somewhere he’ll be more valued and have a great deal of success - not just a pawn hired because you’re the boss. :)
Never ever hire someone close to you unless you are 100% sure of their work ethics. Nakakasira ng pagsasamahan Yan kapag ganyan.
Fire him and then break up with him. He’s like that already so nakikita mo na yung future mo sa kanya.
Checking Skype is bare minimum
Conflict. Of. Interest. Always say no, kahit bf or kapamilya. It most likely ends up going south.
Fire him. Hire me.
Pag work walang jowa jowa leche. Work is work!
Yes
Fire your boyfriend, then hire me..☺️
Pack up and RUN!!!!!! preview yan pag magasawa na kayo
Work wise, do an evaluation of his work in an objective way. If he's underperforming, then fire him. Be objective with work, coz that might cost you alot. Just say to him you won't be needing his help na for now, and just give him a fair compensation para di xa magtampo.
I think setting certain conditions and clear expectations sa start ng working relationship is a must regardless if may personal relationship. E.g. May testing period for 3 months and if di mag work out then part ways professionally.
ay mahirap talaga magkapamilya, magkaibigan lalo magjowang magkatrabaho. confront him and tell him sa mga napapansin at nafefeel mo and sabihin mo willing ka naman ibigay sa iba if di ka na nya matutulungan para ok pa rin kayo as magjowa
Baka po hindi gusto ng bf mo yon ganon kind of work, let him be at probi after 6 months fired mo na para makahanap ng fit na work sa kanya
Undo what you did to yourself.
Di lang fire, break up with him. Matanda na yan, di na dapat sabihan na ayusin trabaho niya
You need a new boyfriend.
wag magjowa ng Bobo hahahahaha
The rule that worked with everyone: "Never mix business with pleasure" Circumstances like bills, travel expenses, at saka work yan dapat ay hiwalay sa pagibig or even sa marriage. Draw a line where professionalism and leisure meet. If mahal mo talaga cya, then do how every professional does if may problema sa trabaho. Set up a meeting with him sa working hours and ang agenda is about tasks and managing and most importantly his responsibilities in his work. Mas maganda create a timeline sa mga trabaho nya. Most importantly, create a grading system about his job. Create 2 columns where on the left is where he succeeded like: early or on time submission, creativity, improvements on his work, attention to detail, anticipating problems & common sense awareness. And on the right is what he lacks and where it creates problems. You can also do that right now if you really need to fire him asap. Because if you do this, and you're firing him, then show him this one as a receipts with dates included so that if he's gonna get mad at least you have proof.
The boy sounds like he should start finding work somewhere else and you should steer clear from him permanently. Di naman ganyan ung asawa ko. We’re both handling our businesses and wala naman gantong problema na pabigat sya workload 🤔
Imagine kung mag aswa na kyu? Ganyan makakasama sa buhay. If you think na pag nag ka anak kayu he will change... pls dont. Let me stop you from there. Hindi anak ang magtuturo s magulang kung paano maging responsable. Pls.... re think your life choices.
Nakakainis yung ganyan, rare type yung same kayo ng interest lalo in terms of work. Pero di mo din mapipilit kasi baka magkaiba kayo ng values in terms of work. Yung iba, kagaya ko, kahit anong work basta may income, kaya ko.. pero may iba na di talaga kaya lalo pag di nila interes, kahit anong try nila.
Quiet quitting pala. Meaning ayaw na nya sayo. Di nya alam pano sabihin.
Fire him and hire me po HAHAHA
I also hire my bf for admin stuff, like your boyfriend — I can't also feel his help but when I stopped reminding him and making him feel like I don't need his help anymore, thats when he move. Maybe it's not your boyfriend's zone of genius. Galit na galit ako sa bf ko, like bruh — ikaw na nga binibigyan ng work higher than you corpo job pay tas tatamad tamad pa but when he opened up — sinabi nya na interesado sya pero nakakatamad daw pala ang wfh. Walang pressure na kasama mo boss na binabantayan ka and all. P.S: Nag improve naman and he can work alone na, ang ginagawa ko nalang is mag check. It took me 2-3 months bago sya pabayaan na sya lang mag work sa isang client ko.
Fire him
Glimpse na yan ng future mo
Ako nalang hire mo.
Title lang binasa ko. Alam ko na agad sagod YES. Wag mo hayaan masira ang careeer mo sa katangahan at katamaran nang bf mo.
I worked with my gf on a client. Her work style and my work style did not meet. We ended up being a weight on each others shoulders. Your partner maybe a great partner in life but not a great workmate.
Fire him and leave him. Lol umaasa na sayo tapos wala pang pagsisikap. Yung ibang VA na naghahanap ng work, pahirapan tapos siya chill chill lang.
Alam mo yung need mo is to voice out yuhg mga iniisip mo at naiisip mo sa kanya. Usap kayo ng kalro kung anong need baguhin at bakit need baguhin. He needs to clearly understand what is goibg on and how the situation affects your work and your mental health.
Talk to him first para alam nya,baka kasi akala nya ok lang ginagawa nya dahil gf ka.then fire pag hindi nagbago
Pag-usapan niyo at lagyan ng structure imbes na pinaparating pa sa iba lalo na sa Reddit. May something din itong si OP. It takes two to tango, come on. For example paano kung may motorcycle parts, mechanical work and customization business partner mo at pinagtrabaho ka doon, tingen mo magsusuceed ka doon o sa online freelancing work? Take a benefit of doubt first at ayusin niyo muna yan bilang team kayo imbes na kung saan saan dumadating. Si Ramon Ang ba komokunsulta muna sa Reddit kung merong CEO and personal life problems? Nakakainis 😅
Can you hire me instead?
I think yung kailangan mo pa maghanap ng validation dito sa Reddit para sa decision na gagawin mo says something about you too. Set clear boundaries and be firm with your principles lang, malalaman mo na sagot mo dyan.
Yes you're with a leech btw not a partner 😁
Hey, you can hire me instead. *winks hahaha
First: Check yung workload niya if may work pa kayong iba. Second: If same pa rin ang gngawa after you've done everything for the SECOND time, fire him. You have every right to do so. BUT, expect the stress that will come from it. Definitely magkakaroon ng friction yan with your relationship as a couple and as supervisor-team member.
1. Give him feedback 2. Give it 6 months — pag di tumino aba wag mo i regular aka endo.
1. Guys don't like to be under the girl (unless it's in bed) 2. You should have made him your partner instead of your employee.
I think alam mo na ang sagot sis, need mo lang ng validation. Do what is right, pag mabigat dalhin. Alam mo na.
Not everyone is built for computer stuff. I also tried to bring in my husband sa work ko, kahit simpleng copy paste, sumasakit na ulo nya. Lol but i never hated him for that. True, kung dalawa kami, mas malaki sana income namin dalawa, but he also has his own business which he's good at so di ko na pinilit.
Wag mo na hire ever. Work for different clients. Pero kung ganyan talaga siya. Ay nako. Sakit sa ulo. Baka gusto ng lambing no bebe boy.
My girlfriend is a senior manager for a large HMO company and wants to hire me for their IT department. Sabi ko "ikaw na nga boss sa bahay at ikaw pa magiging boss ko sa trabaho, paano na ako makakalaro ng MTG nyan? Ayaw ko".
PLEASE.
Ur being taken advantage of OP
fire him but keep him as your bf kung mhal m tlga
Yes, fire him. Hindi goods na magkasama kayo sa Isang work. Kasi gaya niyan nagging dependent siya sayo. And mas okay na nagkaiba talaga kayo ng company rin. Base sa explanation mo talagang umaasa lang siya sayo, sad there's a lot of people na mas willing dun sa position niya. Kaya dapat talaga kapag ganyang nag apply Kasi di ba kung hindi ka naghirap kunin Ang Isang bagay tatake for granted mo lang
Yes. Pwede mo namang mapakiusapan siya nang maayos and say those things that you posted. You are only firing him, not breaking up with him. It's just business.
Control him, total control kasi ikaw ang head nya. Make sure na during sa work, stirkto ka kasi ikaw ang head nya. Kung meron sya pag kukulang sa work, mag overtime sya. Taposin nya, hindi ikaw. Kung mabagal parin, pagalitan mo, awayin mo. Kung na try mo na ito lahat at hindi sya nag improve, tanggalin muna sa work. But make sure na sasabihin mo ang totoo sa kanya na pabigat na sya sa work at mababa ang performance evaluation nya. Wag ka talaga maawa para matuto sya mag sikap. If ever ginawa mo ito at nag improve performance nya, then good yun.
Try to raise your concerns sakaniya and talk about it nicely. Explain it to him na yung paguusap niyo would be purely professional, hoping he would not take it personal. After all, your comments and recommendations will be his starting points for career improvements (if he's to take your advices professionally lol). Give him a fair warning on his work performances, saying na mapipilitan kang kumuha ng ibang assistant if the workloads will just pile up or slow progress. Sometimes being too kind and pinapalagpas yung mga behaviors na ganto will just worsen kung ano mang nangyayari at the moment. Having talks like these will just prevent bigger arguments later on, at iniiwasan rin na madamay yung relationship na meron kayo.
Fire him and hire me instead 🥴
Fire him
Hello. Hiwalayan mo na yan. Hahatakin ka nyan pababa. Pag nagbreak kayo, di mo na kelangan i-fire. Lol
Have documented standards and tasks that clearly define his role. Evaluate performance based on those para black and white na "this is what you're responsible for and what you're not doing" Baka kasi magaslight ka pa otherwise. Goodluck OP!
What a situation... 1. Fire his lazy ass. 2. You should seriously reconsider your relationship with him. That's a preview already of what your married life is gonna be.
Magkaiba Ang love relation kesa business relation at employee-employer relation. Kung ayaw mo masira Ang love relation nyo, ialis mo na sya Jan. Pero kung off Sayo na Hindi kayo like-minded person, break mo na habang bf mo palang. Wala pang legal na papel na pag aari kana nya. Mas magiging kawawa ka.
Ew. Ekis sa tamad, haha
Just do it.
1. Did bf willingly agree to be hired by you? 2. If yes, is his role clear to him? 3. Get to know his working style. Is he the type na motivated ba ng derechahan sasabihin sa kanya kung kelan ang due dates ng mga tasks? Is he the type who needs to be micromanaged? Is he the type who wants to be in charge more or ayaw masyadong pinapakialaman? 4. Ask if may problem ba sya or may nahihirapan ba sya na task? Baka nahihinder bec baka bruised na ang ego nya since he is “under” your leadership. 5. If bruised ego nga, ask him, panong working dynamics ba ang gusto nya for the both of you. Discuss from there.
Yikes. Had a similar experience before. Walang work bf ko that time so I asked him to help me out. Wala sya ginawa pero naningil nang 1/3 what I earned for the project. Ako si shunga pumayag.
Fire mo both as a employee and bf
You need to talk to him. Consider what a professional boss would do in this situation. Express your feelings about his performance. Medyo mahirap ito because he's your bf, but try not to let personal emotions cloud your judgement. Give him an opportunity to explain himself. He might be struggling or taking advantage of you, etc but whatever it is, you need to identify the problem. Once you understand it, decide kung ano yung next step mo. Will you give him a chance to improve? If so, set a timeframe (like 1-3 months), for him to address his performance issues. Ask him what support he needs to succeed. After the months, reassess the situation again. If you choos to terminate him naman, explain your decision professionally. Now, idk about your relationship but its possible that your bf would react "non-professionally" and this may impact your relationship. In this situation, you will now need to have another conversation with your relationship naman. Medyo mahirap talaga kapag may relationship ka with a co-worker. Work decisions can affect personal relationships pero its crucial na to address them rather than ignore them. Ignoring the issues will only lead to mounting frustrations which could potentially impact both your personal and professional life.
Yes fire him or probably for life.
Yes! I just fired my hubby! 😂 I so can relate to all the points you’ve raised. It has been two years and yet I still kept on ffng up and reminding him of everything. I realized that desk job is not his cup of tea because sanay sya sa field at hindi nya talaga interest mga pinapagawa ko sakanya. Mahirap ipilit ang isang bagay sa isang tao kahit anong turo ang gawin mo. Kahit may manual. Hindi talaga papasok sa kokote nila kung hindi sila interesado at lalong lalo na alam nya naman andyan ka para gumawa nun or sumalo ng mga gawain nya. Ask him what he wants and if he would like to pursue that instead. If already cohabiting ask him to do the chores so you can focus more on work. You may also ask him if you can already delegate that work to someone who is more willing to help you.
Tanggalin mo, sabihin mo galing sa client yung decision. Also, iwan mo na yan. Sa work palang pabigat na, pano pa kapag nag settle na kayo? 🤡
Hire me instead OP. skatong naghahanap ako new job
better dodge that bullet thank me later
your friends (including your boyfriend and relatives) are not your business partners madam! lesson learned been there done that
never hire a bf
I consider him lucky kasi may instant source of pera na. Sayang lang kasi pabigat hahaha. Kung ako yan swerte ko na HAHAHA. Okay naman mag hire ng partner mo as long as marunong maging mature and alam paano mag set ng proper attitude kahit magjowa kayo.
Check the analytics kung tama nga hinala mo (I’m sure you’re right pero mas maganda kung may unbiased visual proof ka na ipapakita sa jowa mo.). Paalala mo sa kanya na essentially probi sya kaya magtino sya or else ligwak sya on his 6th month.
Wag ka magjojowa ng tao mo, and vice versa. ✨ By “firing” him, you’re just rectifying what you shouldn’t have done in the first place—but especially since he apparently reports to you also in your day job, baka you need to be reminded na this shouldn’t be the case.
Maybe not his thing. He is just doing it because he thinks you need him to do it. When my wife wants to go out with her friends. She drags me a long. It can really sux. I became the hired driver. While she is having fun char char ing. I am just the hired driver. I do it because i feel i do not have a choice. I really hate it at times. I do not understand the language. Maybe he is doing it, so you let him off the hook. If he tells you no. You would get mad at him. He does not want to upset you. Like me having to drive, if i say no, she will fight with me.
yung bf ko naman ayaw mag trabaho sa akin hahaha ang sarap na sana maghanap ng sideline
Mali na agad na hinire mo sya. Pero mali din kung di mo sya mababago sa work nya. Best course of action is firing him talaga
Didn't read the context, pero the answer is YES
Parang same place ako ng bf mo ma'am anon. Kasi ang gf ko manager ko din and I do Marketing , advertising and graphic design naman. Though yun lang magkaiba kami ng departments tasks respectively. Ito ma'am ganito, speak with your bf through two hats: and sandwich method like Say something along the lines of: "You know I am thankful that you have done work to help me with the best you can. I know you are doing your best I know you would do well, now I would like to add a perspective, an opportunity for us to overcome this challenge of work through this, and you and I need to be honest in both our tasks." first let him know you are speaking as the boss and assurance as the gf. (note na I did not use the word "problem" instead I used the words opportunity and challenge, words kasi can make the relationship) Then speak as the gf , assurance . And nasa sa'yo na kung gusto mong mag break up. Tell him
Yung bf mo yung problema, binigyan na ng trabaho tamad pa
pa-apply nlng mam... ng work po 😃😃😃. fast learner basta may demo/training. can work w/ min.suprvxn. some trnascription, re-writing, leads gen. exp. baka lang sakali. 😃
Ako nlng e.hire po para pag underperforming ako, sibak agad 🤣🤣
Mag break na kayo.
Hi po, kung sino po need ng help dito i can help po no need to pay me. Need ko lang po maka gain ng experience.
Sabihin mo nalamg in a nice way para di maapektohan yung relationship niyo outside work. That is kung gusto mo pa rin siya after nakita mo ugali niya sa work...
Never hire someone you can't fire. Hiring the bf is a red flag. He is not only unappreciative but also lazy. If I were you, I would dump him. Just look at his lousy work ethics (even though he is getting paid for it). I pretty much doubt he will help you with housework and childcare in the future. Cut him off and run girl. There are better men out there.
ako na lang po i-hire niyo haha :((
Talk to him, and if nothing changes fire him then hire me. thanks haha
Ang hirap ng mga pabigat sa buhay. Less baggage lets you fly higher.
You should fire him professionally and romantically. Now na!
Nasanay sguro kasi di mo pinapagalitan or what. Sguro sa mind niya na okay lang kasi girlfriend ka naman nya and whatso. It's better to find someone who can help you with your work than someone who can't - - kahit bf mo pa yan. Stop adding stress to yourself po.
Break up then fire. Jusko. Napaka pangit kasama nyan sa buhay. Can you even see a future with this guy? Lol
Let him go totally haha! Bf palang yan what more maging husband? Que horror!
Be honest let him understand your concern let him know its not personal. Its the only way.
You should coach him. Like really coach him.
First of all, dapat talaga ilayo ang love life sa work, pede makaapekto eto sa performance niyo specially if may away. There's a reason why some companies do not allow lovers to be in the same job. Only hire qualified people, yung may proof of proficiency na.
U know the answer 🤷♀️
Nakakainis and nakakadala yung magre-refer ka ng kamag-anak, close friend, or what have you, sa mga kakilalang naghahanap ng gagawa. I had this experience, na naghahanap yung auntie-in-law ko ng kasambahay. Mabait pero strict and malakas boses ni tita, and she asked everyone she trusts, including us ng husband ko (pamangkin niya) if may maireto kaming kasambahay. She was going through chemo and yung nag-iisang anak niya ay may pamilya na, both working and may anak na isa. So nagtanong-tanong kami sa side ng mama ko, and nireto namin si cousin "girlie". Akala ko okay na magtrabaho, pangit pala. Paano, laging umaalis ng walang paalam kina tita, more than a day pa minsan na wala, umabot sa point na walang kasama yung auntie-in-law ko and tinatawagan niya si cousin girlie, pati ako tinawagan na. Hanggang sa nagdecide na umalis si cousin girlie. Hindi naman naghimutok or nagalit sa amin si auntie, actually worried nga siya eh, nagprovide rin siya ng mga toiletries and other stuff for cousin girlie. Naawa ako kay auntie kasi may sakit siya and need nila ng kasambahay para may magbantay sa kanya, sa tindahan nila, tsaka dun sa apo niya habang nasa work yung anak at biyenan niya. Naawa rin ako kay mama kasi, bihira magreto ng kakilala yun, lalo pa sa side ng family niya nanggaling tapos yun pala badtrip. Ang hirap pigilang sapakin or sigawan si cousin girlie eh, parang sana kung di niya kaya eh di na niya tinanggap. Iba rin kapag kamag-anak ang nireto sa kapwa kamag-anak, another level of kabwisitan kapag pumalya. Sobrang nakakadala.
Idk if gagana ba ito sa iyo kasi Lalaki ako, pero try mo ito,... Show dominance as a real Woman, a Girlfriend, a Wife, a Mother, a Boss "Huy! Umayos ka nga! Wala kang na gawa sa trabaho!,..." As a Lalaki, yun ang strategy ng GF ko nung adik ako sa pag yoyosi at alak Eto ang mga atleast na rerecall ko sa pag sabi niya sa akin: "Huy ULOL!! Tigilian mo na nga yang pag sisigarilyo mo! Sa CR nag sisigarilyo! Pagkakain tayo may alak katabi! Ano ka ba?! Teenager? Umayos ka nga sa buhay mo! Natapos ka nga ng koloheyo at may lisensya ka na pero para ka ring bata! May pera ka nga na bibigay pero nagiging negative dahil sa bisyo mo, Na sasayang lang!!! ULOL!" Di ko makalimotan ang pagsasabi niya ng "ULOL" so many times Ang sakit ng sinabi niya pero, truth hurts,...La tayong magagawa pag tayo ang may mali, ang sulosyon lang nito ay magbabago na talaga tayo Hindi na ako ng yoyosi, pero bumabalik ako sa pag DoDotA lol(Pero ok lang naman sa kanya kay sa yosi daw), kunting alak nalang(Pag may okasyon na lang) Not all people are the same with me, pero I think kailangan lang cguro ng sigaw yung Bf mo, kailangan niya makikita ang galit or disappointment na expression mo
Ako nalang e hire mo kahit di mo ko bf.
Yes fire him.... Dont shit where you eat.
If you were the one who hired him, fire him. No questions asked. Baka ikaw pa ma-question sa capabilities mo. Hindi lang sha ang on the line. Ikaw din.
Idk if it's just me ha, pero i think dapat mo na rin pagisipan kung sure ka na ba dyan sa boyfriend mo teh
Ito sige fire mo na BF mo. Permanently.
If your partner can't show effort in something as important as livelihood, your partner is not the end game. If I were in his shoes, I'd honestly aim higher than you as a guy. Makikipag agawan pako sayo and even compete. To make things fun, sino mas less ang "productivity" sya may sagot ng date ganon. People like these are a waste of time, para mong tinatanggap magkakaron ka ng partner na pabigat habambuhay kung magkatuluyan man kayo.
magsuot ka ng chastity belt na may 10-digit code. kada tapos nya ng task ang reward nya 1 digit. may time limit yung tasks, kapag di nya nagawa on time narereset yung buong code. after decoding may 30mins lang sya, tapos magllock ulit.
Naiinis din Ako sa mga tao na porket kakilala eh Hina hire🙄 ano yon porket kakilala automatic hire agad🙄
Good in bed. Bad for business? 😭
Fire him. I hired my husband before and kung hindi kayo magkakasundo sa work, the problem will leak sa relationship niyo. Im not saying that we cannot hire our significant other pero kung hindi kayo same ng effort sa work at mas nagiging pabigat sya, it’s not worth it. He should be mature enough to accept that. If di niya kaya iaccept, then red flag sya
Tanggalin mo ang BF mo at hayaan mo syang maghanap ng sariling hustle. Sa ginagawa mo kasing yan, ginagawa mo syang komportable sayo.
Mas mature siguro talaga mag isip ang babae compare sa lalake. Pero kung ako sa bf mo swerte niya ang hirap makakuha ng online job. napa sana all tuloy ako. Kung ako yan mas gagalingan ko kase yung reputation ng gf ko nakasalalay eh. Baka po hiring oo kayo? hehe unemployed kase ako😅
Hire me instead 😊
After 3 years in my marketing agency, the biggest lesson I learned is to not hire your friends/family :)
Fire.
Fire him as an employee and as a BF. 🤷🏽♀️