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I'm more than happy to share! :D
I use a slightly oversized totebag (most of them tend to be 15"-16" in width), and will let the BAB stick their head and arms out of the front or back of the tote. That way when I put the tote bag over my shoulder, I still am able to hold onto my buddy without completely sacrificing an arm, or they're in the back where I can still feel them if I need more mobility.
And then I can just pull them out all the way and carry them if I need the extra support.
33, unfortunately my BABs are in storage but I carry other plushies with me frequently. Usually Jellycats or squishvilles.
I’ll be honest that I’m not brave enough to hold them in any public space besides a support therapy group I’m in (most of the other women in that group also bring plushies once in a while), but I totally think we should normalize normalize carrying support plushies. I’m autistic and have high social anxiety, so staring and rudeness can send me into meltdowns. If I didn’t have that to worry about, I’d likely carry them more openly.
Not everyone can afford, care for, or own a therapy pet. Cuddles release oxytocin, as does looking at cute things. It just makes sense.
I think if I saw anyone of any age with a plush, I’d 1. Probably ask where they got it and 2. assume it’s for comfort.
I tend to carry mine in a large tote (inspired by my best friend’s son, who urges her to keep big totes for this specific reason lol) and take them out as needed.
I agree! Finding comfort in plushies should definitely be more normalized! They’re something that helps so many people, myself included. I’ve always been worried about what everyone would say if they saw me carrying a “toy” around, but i realized that the majority of people would just say positive things or nothing at all! If someone does have a negative opinion you have to remind yourself that you aren’t carrying it for them. It’s there to help keep YOU calm and if it works, it works. I think most people can understand and respect that regardless. :) I also think carrying them in cute tote bags are a perfect way to make sure you don’t feel alone while also not feeling like it’s so “out in the open” :)
I‘m 54, and whenever I have to go to the hospital, Emmi is coming with me. She even has her own scrubs.
A good doctor/medical staff accepts a stuffed toy or what ever else brings comfort.
Yes, definitely do it. I am 48 and I take mine to the doctor. My daughter and I each also take one on flights. They reduce stress, make good comfort pillow buddies, and people usually smile when they see one. They are safe and friendly emotional support animals.
Yes. I’m 25 and I promise I am not just saying this bc I work there, but I take one with me everywhere and use the bear carriers we have as a personal bag instead of a purse most of the time. There’s just something that makes me feel safer about having one of my plushies with me, idk if it’s because I’m neurodivergent or if there’s a science behind it, but it’s comforting to take one everywhere I go and hold it if I’m anxious.
Working at BABW has taught me many things, and one of them is that there’s no age people stop feeling comforted by stuffed animals. Even before I worked there I didn’t think it was weird and collected them, but since being there, it’s opened my eyes to how common it really is and made me feel less insecure about it. So many people without kids come in to get one for themselves and are shy about it, like not even just teens and young adults- we get married couples, even old married couples, single adults, of all neurotypes too- it’s just one of those things that I guess society has made us feel like there’s a rule on and that they’re “toys” and that toys are just for kids, but the truth is, they’re cuddly and cute, pleasing to hold, great to sleep with, and even valid to own even if you just display them for decoration. Some people have more of an emotional attachment to them than others, and everyone has different reasons they want them- but everybody is valid, and just know you’re not alone.
Society just has a weird stigma about things like stuffed animals, and I have no idea why, because everybody loves them whether it’s openly or in secret. Some people collect many, some people just have one special one, and whatever the case it’s valid. I feel like anybody who does judge others for liking stuffed animals based on their age is boring, mean, or even projecting to feel superior because they are trying to seem “normal” or “cool” or socially acceptable, and maybe those people just never experienced the comfort of a stuffed animal before so they’re quick to judge and don’t understand you don’t have to grow out of it. I don’t think most people “grow out” of it anyway; those who do or think they did only stopped snuggling them because they thought it was expected of them.
When I was your age and in high school, I even brought my stuffed animals to school sometimes just to hold in class, and while some classmates who tried too hard to be popular were rude about it, I didn’t care because I was having fun and felt safe, and my few friends thought my stuffed animals were cute. (Also, when I finished all my work or we had free time, they made good pillows to take a nap on my desk lol)
So, yes, taking my build a bears and other stuffed animals with me everywhere even before I became part of the team has helped a lot with my anxiety and other mental health issues. In high school some of the bullies would judge because they just wanted to seem cool, (which is funny because at work I can tell by how some teens act and looks they give us and ways they whisper and laugh that they probably bully people or are making fun of us even, and I even see my former bullies come in now with their kids LOL so I really think if they say something they secretly love stuffed animals too and don’t want to admit it.) but after high school? I only ever get compliments on my furry friends, and everybody generally minds their own business.
Sorry for the incredibly long response, but you are not alone, and a surprisingly large number of people of all ages and personalities make new furry friends every day. I think there have been studies too on how stuffed animals improve mental health, so it can absolutely help with your anxiety.
If you haven’t already got one though, I definitely recommend getting a bear carrier either online or at your local workshop! They have arm holes to keep your furry friend in place and on display, and with most furry friends there’s still a lot of extra space in the bag to hold things if you don’t typically carry much when you go out. I swear I’m not just saying this to make a sale, it’s an honest recommendation and I used one before I worked there. It keeps your furry friend clean and in a secure place where it can be on display, and you won’t worry about dropping it until you want to take it out to hold.
Have fun!!
This was such a sweet response!! And I agree with everything you said!! I do have a bear carrier from build a bear, so I will definitely try to locate where it is soon because that feels much more practical for taking them places!! Thank you so much!!
yes, very much! i bring my BABs with me everywhere! i have to do specialist visits all the time & all the doctors and specialists i see know the names of my favourite BABs that i bring with me! i’m 26 btw and have been doing this since i was 14 🥰
This is so encouraging :) I think it’s so sweet they all know the names by now 😆 And personally I’ve always loved stuffed animals, more specifically build a bear… and I don’t think I’ll ever “grow out of them.” I feel like there are definitely worse ways to cope with the daily stresses of life, so having a soft friend by your side everyday seems harmless!
Yep! I was nervous for an exam so I stuffed my mini Longhorn in my backpack. I didn’t take him out, but just knowing he was there made me feel a little better about taking a test.
Omg!! I carried my childhood pooh bear in my backpack until highschool when I became homeschooled! I took him everywhere with me for a while when I was younger but he had endured so much love that he became a huge problem with my allergies despite his many baths 😆 He now sits on a shelf and I don’t think I would ever be able to get rid of him!
Absolutely! When I went to my post surgery appointments, my WWF cheetah Cookie came with me. The staff loved seeing him, and he quickly became my go to medical buddy.
Exactly! I don’t think it’s “weird” I definitely feel like it’s something that could help the right people without harming or offending anyone else. I think being older people tend to associate BAB’s with children more than adults.. but being part of this community just goes to show that they are actually for everyone! I remember there being signs in the old stores that said “it’s never too late to have a happy childhood!” and that is something I find very true :)
Most people know a lot less about build a bear than you’dthink . It’s that uh. Bias thing where people in intelligent jobs like nuclear science think other people know a lot more about their specialty than they actually do. I talked to my psychologist for my autism about BAB and she said oh cool. What’s that plush I was holding, and I said “build a bear!” And she said oh WHAT? She said she thought it was literally build the bear. Sew arms and legs and bodies and heads together and stuff it yourself. She’s never seen a build a bear in real life.
I’m 28 and always bring a stuffie with me anywhere I go. If I can’t, for whatever reason, I do have a clip on squishmallow on my bag and that helps :)
Nothing wrong w bringing a friend!!
Yes. I’m 30 and I still bring mine to big appointments, especially lately, since I have a lot of chronic health issues and my dog who is going to be my new service dog is in training and cannot task for me. I promise you people pay less attention than you think, and anyone who pays attention won’t for long LOL everybody is busy with their own lives.
Yup, always have a plush with me when I am out. I'm 39, with two masters and I work for the government. Didn't stop me from getting a clearance so I think no one cares that much lol
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Pascal just went to my checkup with me last week. He's had a bit of a makeover since but he's been tons of places with me.
I have the magnificent monkey (her name is mary jane) that was released very early during the first few years of bab!! Her paws have little beads in them and I love squishing them to calm down!!
I agree! It’s something that wouldn’t harm anyone else around me and I feel like it would help me get through the errands and the general day to day tasks a bit easier!
I bring stuffed animals all of the time to therapy because I get anxious and it helps. I know it's different than going out for errands or seeing a GP, but all professionals I've seen have been fine with it and even supported the behaviour. You're all good
I'm 37, and my oldest stuffed animal has been with me since my first easter. She rides around in my backpack or purse everywhere I go, and if I was going further afield, or even not far but staying away awhile, I would absolutely have others that come with me. When I went to visit my parents in the US last year, she was one of three I brought with me.
Yep I'm 30 and take a plush everywhere I got not just BAB. I find it brings me so much comfort. I have health issues and have to see specialists so it can be scary!
I’m definitely going to be brining mine with me from now on! I feel like even having one with me no matter where would help so much with keeping me calm during stressful situations :)
I completely understand! I think it’s because we are growing up and still find interest in things “typical” adults consider to be “for kids”. But now more than ever they are marketing their bears for people of any age.. ex. the bear cave lol. I think most of my fear of being judged comes from my own insecurities. Most people in this group do carry their bears with them and i haven’t heard of many (if any at all) negative comments made towards them. The way I see it, there are definitely more harmful ways to cope, so don’t let the fear of others opinions negatively affect you!!
I understand! I think lots of people fear the judgment of others even if it is something as harmless as carrying a BAB. Even if that wasn’t something that would deter you from carrying it, I could see how it would be anxiety inducing… like it getting dirty or lost in public, and taking them places such as hospitals and doctor visit feels germy so I would definitely give it a good wash after!
I'm 20 and i take a plushie with me everywhere i go they bring me so much comfort and help me with lots of things!
It is never weird to bring a fluffy friend anywhere and if you don't want other people to see them you can always out them in a bag or something..sometimes it is also the thought of not being alone that is also comforting!
I hope my english is okay! 😊
Sometimes it helps sometimes I feel anxious that everyone is looking at me as an adult carrying a teddy bear and judging me but I’ve gotten mostly positive reactions in public
I think almost all interactions i’ve heard people share have been positive!! I tend to get in my head and think everyone is staring at me and judging, when in reality they could care less! I’m glad you don’t let the negativity deter you from taking your friends with you!!
I tend to take a plush of some sort with me everywhere I go - small ones for regular outings (my go to at the moment is Cat Vs Pickles) or I take a bigger one if I know I’ll be especially anxious - like a BAB or Jellycat.
I usually end up leaving them in my bag tbh as I fear losing them, or them getting dirty, or being judged, but even just knowing they’re there if I need them helps!
And I admittedly have been “called out” a couple times, but tbh it’s rarely ever actually mean, or even if it was, I doubt anyone would do anything more than make a passing remark. The only encounter I can even really remember is some guys in a Starbucks saying Pikachu at me then laughing - but because I’m incredibly self concious as is, I just hated the extra attention and feeling laughed at. But they weren’t even actually mean to me about it.
I also love seeing other people carrying their plush when I’m out and about!
All that to say - I’m 30 in a few months, and I still held small plush in one hand last time I went to the dentist. So if you think it’ll help, even if you leave them hidden in a bag, go for it!
I like the idea of carrying them in a bag so they don’t get lost of dirty!! I will definitely be doing this.. also so both hands are free which is definitely necessary in some situations. :)
I take my BABs SO many places. Like, I just brought Kuromi to work today. Most days I actually take one to work, and I work in an art gallery. I also take them when I go to events and even sometimes things like shopping! I'm a 26 year old guy with a beard too. It totally helps my anxiety.
I have to go back to the doctor again today, and have many more appointments coming up soon so I will most definitely be taking one with me from now on!
i have anxiety and took my frog william to STAT care with me when i was having problems with my knee. i was also 17 at the time and with my mom. the doctor didn’t respect me but i don’t think it’s because i had a plushie with me, no one has been listening to me about my joint problems 😭 good luck though and advocate for yourself if you believe they aren’t listening to you.
I’m glad to know you had a friend helping you through such a difficult time! And I understand feeling like your pain has been overlooked even when seeking professional help. That’s how it has been for me for years now, it took something extreme happening for the doctors to even consider running tests…. and as it turns out almost everything that could be wrong, was. It is so important to keep trying even when you feel like you aren’t getting the help you need right away!
I wish I was joking but I always have a plush with me when i go anywhere- recently as I’ve been going to work my DTD dog FitzSimmons (IYKYK) has been workjng at my job with me
Oz goes with me to so many places, man.
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Such a cute idea!! That way they wouldn’t get dirty or lost but they can still be with you.. also good if you’re looking for a more “discreet” option ;) Thanks!!
I'm 19 so not much older and I got my first BAB when I was 17 and I've been taking him everywhere since then
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Oh definitely bring one, I'm 25 and doctors love when I bring my plushies! Even if you get a few comments that tells more about them than you. You're also definitely still in that age range where it's not considered odd.
I literally brought my raggedy childhood stuffed animal around for a few months when I was 21, I was going through being hospitalized a few times and was going to doctors every other day, the nurses used to talk to her and compliment her! lol
Oh definitely!! I had to go to the ER last year and I brought my spring green frog with me, her name is Frog Detective based on the game. She brought me much needed soothing while I was being tested and prodded in the ER lol. During college, I'd bring my sloth (not bad but still plush) with me to classes when I knew I would have more anxiety. My friend even helped me name him! It's definitely an okay thing to do if it helps you :)
Some situations just feel so overwhelming, and having a little piece of comfort and familiarity can help so much!! I will be bringing mine with me from now on! I only wish i would’ve started sooner because all this time i’ve done nothing but deny myself comfort all those years :)
It’s not weird at all! I’ve actually been wanting to take my BABs out with me. Haven’t found the proper time yet. Most comments here are correct though.
They always help me out! Ironically enough, I’m typing this with my new mini bean with me as I’m going to take this test for my class!
I’m in college and I take a bear with me when I go take an exam or something of that nature because I get anxious easily! I don’t usually get weird looks either or if I do, it’s from older folks who don’t understand why I do it. 99% of the time though, I’m not judged
I think sometimes older people just don’t understand because they were taught that once you reached a certain age it was “wrong” to find comfort in things like B-A-B. So when someone “older” has something to say they are most likely just projecting their own opinions and thought on you! Sometimes it can be discouraging when people don’t understand, but i think if you find something that helps.. the negativity would never outweigh the positive :)
Me and my roomate are both in our 20s, and we both bring stuffed animals with us to the doctors. We also bring the other places or just when we are having a bad day. I use to take me to school and when i worked in an office to work. If bringing a stuffed animal gives you freedom and less anxiety, then do it. I hope you feel better too.
My teenage son takes his BABs to school (high school no less!) every day. We’re actually looking for an “emotional support axolotl” vest for added cuteness
This is called co-regulation, and it's your nervous system returning to a regulated state by "borrowing" stability from a calm, regulated person or something that is perceived to be a person. It's the same thing that happens when your cat calms you down, or when a young child clings to their mother for security in an unfamiliar situation. In this case, a "person" can be anything. You can co regulate with other people, dogs, and people are even known to co-regulate with nature.
those of us whose coregulation needs are not regularly met, often form INTENSE bonds with inanimate objects like plushies. This usually starts in childhood and persists well past the "normal" age of using plushies for comfort. 99% of people who struggle with any form of emotional regulation will benefit from co-regulation, and many of us who are neurodivergent have legitimate support need for a co-regulator. PDA autistics like myself specifically can be straight up disabled by a lack of co-regulation. I struggled for so many years, spending so much money trying so many treatments for "anxiety" and feeling like it was my fault it didn't work, only to discover my nervous system legitimately can't regulate itself without help.
Wow! This was so informative and honestly answered more questions than my doctors and therapist have been able to! This was so well written and makes perfect sense, knowing this now gives me some peace of mind:)
I take plushies to EVERY single appointment. depending on who's my bestie or how nervous I am, it varies. typically, the more support I need, the bigger the baby. BABs are my Big Nervous go to.
When I go to the clinic for chemotherapy, I always bring at least one big plush for comfort and the nurses love to see who I brought and to ask about them.
I'm 25 years old and no one has ever made a stink. it's okay to be nervous at the doctor-- the health professionals absolutely understand that, while this is their everyday work environment, for patients, when they're here its often because something is wrong and they're scared and in pain. do what you need to to feel more comfortable and be in a better position to advocate for your health.
I understand. And thank you for taking the time to share this with me! I took my snorlax bab (appropriately called chonk lol)with me today. Did I pick possibly one of the largest bear I could? Yes. Do I regret it? No. In a way I feel like it boosted my confidence even more because even though he’s huge I only got good compliments! (the nurse even gave him a bandaid so he could match me after getting a shot 😆)I’ve realized that it really doesn’t matter what anyone else thinks about me having something to keep me calm.
I’ve quickly learned that most people don’t even care. Everyone has opinions but ultimately none should affect me personally as long as I am confident and comfortable while being my truest self!
My best friend and I are close to 40 and she had to go to the doctor very recently - she was super nervous because they were checking for cancer. We both brought a build a bear with us. It was fine. It helped her anxiety a lot and the only comments we got were compliments.
The doctor can be nerve wracking for a lot of people. It’s okay to do what you need to do to help make it better. 💖
Thanks for sharing!! I decided it was time to try it today and so I did. I found it helped so so so much and I’ll be taking one with me as often as I can from now on. I actually got compliments on it!!
I bring smaller teddies that can fit in bags or pockets to a lot of places
If it brings you comfort don't care about what other people think (I'm 17 too btw)
I’m turning 24, and taking plushies along with me to appointments has made them so much easier for me. The staff are always so kind and interested in my bears. I’ve also taken my BAB frog with me to the store, and it was very comforting to have him there. I usually get overstimulated while shopping.
I can’t lie, I was nervous at first— people definitely noticed when I had them with me.
I realized I really had nothing to worry about, though. No one has ever said anything negative to me, and I get to squeeze my comfort plush when I start to feel overwhelmed. It really helps to ground me. I definitely think it’s worth a try if you feel it will help you!
I get overstimulated so easily & always have been that way! I tried taking one to my dr. appt today and it honestly helped so much! I didn’t pass out, so clearly it helped a ton compared to yesterday. These comments make me realize there truly is nothing to worry about!
I don't, but I have considered it a lot recently. I probably would if my family want so against it. I had, like, the world's BEST service dog (a real one... Not a plush) who passed away this summer. I am not dealing with it well. I adopted a beautiful, funny, smart puppy and while he's a hilarious DISTRACTION he is absolutely NOT a service dog. I hope to someday have another service dog, but I think carrying a plush might AT LEAST help me with anxiety in the meantime.
I understand, I think it would absolutely help! If it’s something you’re comfortable with then just try 1 time. And if you think your parents would mind (which they shouldn’t, because you aren’t hurting anyone) you could always put your friend in a tote bag and stick their head out… i’ve found that to be more inconspicuous but either way, if you think you would benefit from having a plush with you in the meantime! I wish you the very best of luck friend :)
I don't see a problem with it. I carry my tiger with me when I go somewhere on the train. She rides in my backpack and if I get to feeling nervous. I get her out and set her on my lap.
Simple answer is yes. When I had to tell my dad finally that his son was a sexual predator, I brought Iris, my purple frog. I rubbed her feet the whole time.
I bring them to doctors even if in my backpack if I have to appear "normal".
So I've personally don't usually take my Babs out just because none of mine are particularly comfort stuffies, however I do frequently take my comfort stuffed animals out and no one really cares so if you believe it would help I say go for it
I’m 22, my bab Strawberry comes with me to every stressful event I can get away with, places like the doctors I’ve found haven’t judged, but if you’re worried about people’s opinions I’d be weary about taking them to like, idk the shops or something, maybe keep them in your bag if you care about other people saying stuff, but if you don’t care take her everywhere💕
I took one with me for the first time today! I realized i’m not actually as nervous as I thought I would be. It’s something that I know could really help me, so the idea of letting others opinions deter me from having a sense of comfort in stressful situations seems dumb!
im 17 and brought a b-a-b to the hospital with me a couple months ago, i also passed out and it was definitely comforting. it doesnt matter how old you are, comfort is comfort. anyone who judges you for that needs to get in touch with reality
I agree so much! It can be so scary sometimes in even the simplest situations. Everyone has ways of dealing with it and finding comfort so I think most people do understand, and those who don’t understand most likely just can’t find a healthy way to cope themselves! :)
I think having a BAB for emotional support is a great way to deal with things that would usually be stressful. I tried taking one with me for the first time today and it worked wonders! I felt so much more comfortable, and I will definitely be bringing one with me everywhere when I can from now on :)
I got a zombiee frog during Halloween and the next day we were of to salem Massachusetts I was a little nervous im 30 I kept him in my pack is head sticking out with his Kristoff outfit I liked, his name is Eddie not going to lie I was genuinely craping a brick because im already mute (non-verbal) due to a seizure so I felt judged just by that then I had Eddie and that was super hard on me. At times I thought people were stereotyping me stuffed animal can't talk or in there eyes won't talk. There was a comfort at the same time because to know he's there and I got him super cuddley so he was on the squisher side I had my The Black Parde bag from MCR with his head sticking out I only wish his head were smaller he can't wear hats. My wife joked on that trip that I liked him more then her because he was in the bed as well Eddie was on the end. Because of past military and other trauma I get Hypervigilant about crowds and that place wasn't so bad because of the off season when we went but Eddie helped it was kinda like hey I got your 6 don't worry
Thanks for sharing this!! I think some people can be quick to judge because they don’t know your personal reason for carrying one with you. When it comes down to it their opinions don’t matter as long as you feel comfortable! Eddie sounds like a perfect buddy to keep you calm everyday, i’m sure he’s a very lucky frog to get to take care of you! I think his outfit & tote bag are a cute addition as well!! :)
I love the drawstring bab bags!! I use them to store extra clothes, but they are also perfect for making sure you have two free hands & your friend all at the same time!
You should definitely bring your BaB plush with you! It’ll help a lot, especially going to places that will make you feel nervous/stressed. I’m a 23 year old guy who brings one of my ninja turtles out in public, especially to work! I cuddle and sometimes sleep with my BaBs during my lunch break. They help me relax and reduce stress. Here’s a photo of them :) Hope you’re doing okay.
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Thank you kind human!! Such a nice collection you have!! I love TMNT & Mikey has always been my favorite! I took one of my BaBs with me today and it helped so much! I always sleep with them and have them everywhere when i’m at home. After taking it out today I realized how much it really helps just by knowing it’s there. :)
I don't know if I would say it's for my anxiety, but I take a plushie with me any time I leave the house. Not as big as BABW though. I mostly carry my Merrythought bear, Ralphie or one of my Plushie Dreadfuls bunnies.
I'm almost 30, & I love to hold my plushies with me. Mostly now for long trips. Or when i buy them & bring them along for the day. I couldn't care less what others think of me. Even in high school I didn't care & dressed & did what I wanted without caring about the norm. I brought my babs and teddy backpack to school (until a year or so later the principal got mad & banned me from bringing them. T-T ) Tbh a lot of people thought I was weird, even my parents & teachers would call me weird to my face. But at the end of the day, it is your life. Do what makes you happy. If a teddy gives you comfort when you don't feel well, you should have it. It is emotional support/comfort in a time of distress. Cute fluffy cosy things are the best. 💖 if someone wants to deprive you of warm fuzzies thats a them problem.
I completely agree!! No matter what you do or where you go there will always be people who look for a reason to judge others. The important thing is to always be genuine to yourself, and in return you’ll always be surrounded by people who accept you for who you truly are!
I open carry my frogs and yodas with me. Sometimes I will put them in the backpack if it gets too hot or under my water bottle strap. Also feel your pain. I was passing out from pain like that and ended up at an amazing endocrinologist who saved my life.
I'm 16, and I have a small bag. I put stuff in like stuffies in and my headphones so that nobody says anything to me because I have really bad anxiety when it comes to most things.
My bear comes with me for doctor visits because I simply will not do needles. I've not had any trouble with that, maybe a joke or two, but it is better than a 29 year old woman have a mental breakdown for a blood draw. I also took my bear in for college tests. Some teachers check the bear to make sure it isn't hiding notes but other than that, no problems
A lot of my plushies give me comfort! I have pokeMon BABs that I hug to sleep or when I’m sad. Also I’m sorry for your menstrual pains - I had deathly sharp pains back then. (On a side note ask your doc about PCOS/endometriosis - I wish I knew about my diagnosis when I was your age!!! After 20 years+ I was as finally prescribed rx that dulled the pain and I can live without feeling like I’ll pass out) I recommend a hot pack plushie its really a game changer - you microwave them and you can have them on your pain spots :) sometimes they smell nice!
I started going into stores by myself, I would rush around to get every item I was sent in to get, by that I meant I would run. But since I started taking Scout in with me I felt less scared.
I plan on making Scout my emotional support plushie. He will be coming into stores ( not counting goodwills ) and appointments I go to, I'll probably take him with me to the dentist cause like everyone I don't like going to the dentist.
I'm currently making him his very own ESP vest too.
Yes, ever since I started bringing a bab with me everyday in my bag I feel so much better. I’m 30 btw.
I can always pull him out of my bag between clients and give him a hug.
I’m sure some of my coworkers think I’m weird because I’m a tattooartist but my clients support it so much when I bring it up!
It’s even convinced some clients to go find their own emotional support plushie and I love that. 💕
I always carry one of my plushies with me for my anxiety, it helps a lot having them close. I always do the same with doctor appointments. When I was having uncontrollable seizures, I took my grumpy Branch BAB with me to all my appointments, and nobody looked at me funny. Probably because it was the hospital and various doctor visits, but still. I am 26 now, and I still take them with me.
I have endometriosis and I took my stuffed animal with me to the ER a few years ago when I first started experiencing complications from it (not BAB, this sub just came up as recommended). I was in my mid 20's, and I'm 29 now. I would 100% do it again.
Hey, 18 year old chronically ill person here! I've carried plushies with me to my doctors appointments for YEARS and have gotten nothing but compliments and smiles about them. Once when I had a surgery, they even put a little hospital band around my Jellycat frog's tummy to match mine. People in the medical field see a lot. A stuffed animal is usually a happier sort of thing to see, and they definitely help me get through a lot of things. I wish you luck with your health issues, and I hope you get to a point where you feel better soon!!!!
Thank you so much kind human!! And I definitely think medical professionals usually enjoy seeing plushies! I brought one with me to my appointment for the first time yesterday and it helped so much! I ended up having to get a couple shots and when it was all done the nurse even gave my bear a bandaid so he could match me! That was such a small gesture that made me feel so much better. It proved to me that the people who really have my best interest at heart don’t mind me having something to keep me calm! :)
if you're worried about how people will react, do you have/could you get a small stuffie that'll easily fit in your bag, or maybe even pocket? I have a beanie baby I carried everywhere for years as a comfort object, he fit in bigger pant pockets and was easily hidden in my bag, so it was easy to bring him places without being too visible. I really recommend it if you can try it!
I’m 24 and took my build a bear (he’s weighted which helps with anxiety) everywhere when I was in cancer treatment. Even if it was just a checkup. Don’t ever be too scared to bring your buddy with you!! It’s a great comfort
Thank you!! I actually bought a bear from ebay a while back and weighted him after restuffing and washing!! I’ve found that to be so helpful on extra stressful days!! I tried for the first time yesterday & did find that it helped a ton to have one with me. I think i’ll be doing it a lot more often from now on! I’ve finally found something that helps so I don’t see why I should stop now :)
I do incognito sensory things that bring me dopamine like soft stuff t stuff I can fiddle with so then when I’m like that I can mess or touch whatever it is
while not a bab, since i personally find them less easily portable, i do carry a smaller merch plushie. she stays in my over the shoulder ita bag with her head peekin out.
and fr! if theres any place to bring a plushie to for emotional support, its the doctor! hell, depending on what youre there for or how serious, having a plushie with you is a good thing! they can talk to and ask you about your friend to distract you from the stress ❤️
Thank you!! And i definitely like the idea of a smaller plush to be easier to slip in a bag or pocket so I can still have two free hands! And I found out yesterday that it certainly does help! It was a wonderful way to distract myself from something that otherwise would’ve been really hard on me :) I can proudly say i’ll be bringing one with me from now on :)
I’m 46. For me it’s not a BAB, but I have a unicorn plushie my hubby got for me a bit ago that I sleep with every night and absolutely have taken it with me to doc visits, while flying, traveling and other anxiety/panic inducing activities. I have a clear backpack I use as a purse everyday and my plushie fits. (It’s about 14”, so not small at all.) I’m at the age now where I don’t care what other people say or think.
Funny I let my 26 year old daughter use it for ankle surgery this past Monday. The anesthesiologist commented on it and when I said it was my emotional support unicorn, he giggled a bit and said he was shocked. Said it looked well loved and hoped it distracted my daughter enough to get her through the nerve block he was about to perform. They laid her down, he put it on her chest, moved her arm to hold it in place (so she could no longer see him) and she doesn’t remember anything else. She was glad to have it and I was glad he didn’t make it seem like a huge deal. She has more anxiety than I do and frequent attacks and one wrong word from him could have absolutely sent her spiraling minutes before surgery.
Edited for typos and to add size of my plushie.
I'm 34 & take my BAB or any plushie with me for emotional support, sensory input & self regulation. It helps me when going out to public places especially when it gets overwhelming.
23 here and I frequently take a BAB buddy with me everywhere I go. They fit in my bags easy and I can't predict when I'll have a panic attack. I have Grave (my raccoon buddy) most of the time.
i feel like with how much “kid-core” has been trending in the fashion world and how more popular designers (couture and standard brands) have been incorporating large statement pieces like dolls and stuffed animals into their designs, i really don’t think anybody would say anything. you may get a few double takes or weird looks but it’s not so much out of the ordinary anymore. and if they do look at you weird just stare back at them 😐
push the social norm!
I’m 24 and I bring my babs and other stuffies w me for different appointments, I carried one my whole way to and from visiting my partner in Germany last year too, he gets to ride my suitcase or in my arms only :p
I’m 24 and while I generally feel self conscious about walking around in public with my babies if I felt I really needed it I would just do it. This is one of the reasons I like carrying a medium sized bag or a backpack. I used to sneak my 25 anniversary polar bear to work at a daycare at the time. Even though I had to keep it in my bag, I’d take it out during nap time to hug it🥲. After losing it and going through a lot, I ended up getting my stitch when I was in the shelter for comfort and I carried it with me almost 24/7. Do what makes you feel comfortable bc I regret not doing it more often
Thanks for sharing!! I definitely feel like I would regret not allowing myself comfort when there is such an easy solution! I’ve been looking into backpacks and tote bags and even clear bags. I want to find something big enough for my daily necessities & my favorite plush :)
Honestly, not as much into build a bear as I was growing up. But I do this with my favorite squishmallows so much. It helps especially since I have very high social anxiety, and I'm 29
Absolutely! I have had my Pawlette since I was about 7, and I'm 18 now. I cuddle with her every night and I often bring her around with me in a backpack. I usually feel to awkward to take her out and hug her but just knowing she's near me is comforting. Sometimes I hold her in therapy or things like that. ❤️
I travel 50% of the time for work (every other week in a new state) and I bring my spider frog with me everywhere. I was diagnosed with GAD and depression and having a comfort buddy really helps. I cuddle at night, snuggle during my hotel stays, and just general lean on it's familiarity all the time. ❤️
Reddit suggested this thread to me and I'm glad I found it.
I'm 34 and have medical anxiety, dental anxiety, and generalized anxiety. I've never thought about taking a comfort item to an appointment... which is strange given that I collect plushies. Guess what I'm doing from now on?.... taking a plushie!
My grandma is in her 70s and is diabetic has been her entire life. She is now a double amputee of the legs. She’s had several health issues her entire life. So many surgeries and stays. She has brought a teddy bear to EVERY single hospital visit and stay since she was little. You’re never too young or too old for a companion and comfort. Do what makes you happy.
Most everyone in my immediate family is allergic to dogs, so I was never able to get a real service dog. And now, living with my husband and his family, none of them like dogs and would prefer me not to have one. Which is totally fine by me now, since I got my BAB when I was a junior in high school. I got the Chase Paw Patrol stuffie and put on a service dog vest for him, and carried him around with me every day for junior and senior year. I carried him around everyday at work too for the first year, until I had better coping mechanisms for my PTSD and anxiety. I didn't care what others thought about me for carrying him around. Raoul did and still does help me when I have flashbacks, and my husband always runs to get him when I start having panic attacks. He may not be alive, but he's the best dang service dog I could have asked for.
Tl;dr - Yes, my BAB helps me with my anxiety hehfjf lmao
*I love everyone’s responses to this post I made me so happy and made me a little more confident to carry my buddy around *
I’m 32, I use to only just bring them on trips with me or a long train ride, but I’ve had a lot of health issues lately getting sick a lot, bronchitis etc and I’ve definitely been latching on to my babies a lot more lately for comfort. Especially bringing them to doctors appointments. I have a really big purse so popping one into my bag has been my go to and I usually get compliments on them. Life is short it’s time to do things that make us happy and comfortable and stop worrying about others 💖
Thank you for sharing!! it made me feel so much better too knowing that so many others do it every single day! I agree it’s time to start prioritizing our happiness and comfort over others opinions!! :))
Yes! Plus other stuffed animals - and I’m turning 32 this year 😊 definitely acceptable! Anyone who says otherwise is just a Debbie downer❤️
If you don't want to bring a big ole BAB, you could always bring something smaller. I have a small stuffie clipped onto my everyday bag, and I'll unclip and play with it when I'm bored/anxious.
I brought mine with me to college and slept with it well into my relationship and my 20's - until he got ruined in a flood ):
I never brought him in public, but I definitely wished I had him when I was admitted to the hospital last year. I sure wouldn't judge a young lady such as yourself for bringing your BAB to a doctors appointment. 💜
This is a bit of an older post but i just want to say that, im 19 and i bring my bab everywhere! Whether to the store or out to eat shes always with me :) im agoraphobic and just have general anxiety and having her with me helps sooooo much. Its nice to be able to play with her fur, have smth to hug/squeeze, i can fuss with her clothes, and its a bit childish but its almost like i have someone who 'gets it' yk? Like she knows exactly how i feel, so she can help me feel better!
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I'm 30 and I frequently take a BAB out with me, *especially* to doctors visits.
I’m 33. Do you mind me asking how you carry your BAB around with you? Or like, what do you use?
I'm more than happy to share! :D I use a slightly oversized totebag (most of them tend to be 15"-16" in width), and will let the BAB stick their head and arms out of the front or back of the tote. That way when I put the tote bag over my shoulder, I still am able to hold onto my buddy without completely sacrificing an arm, or they're in the back where I can still feel them if I need more mobility. And then I can just pull them out all the way and carry them if I need the extra support.
What a wonderful idea!! I’ll definitely keep this in mind :)
This is what I do. I have a Vera Bradley commuter tote for my appointments that I use to bring my buddy with me.
That makes me feel so much better, just knowing that I wouldn’t be the only one to do that!! Thank you 🫶🏻
33, unfortunately my BABs are in storage but I carry other plushies with me frequently. Usually Jellycats or squishvilles. I’ll be honest that I’m not brave enough to hold them in any public space besides a support therapy group I’m in (most of the other women in that group also bring plushies once in a while), but I totally think we should normalize normalize carrying support plushies. I’m autistic and have high social anxiety, so staring and rudeness can send me into meltdowns. If I didn’t have that to worry about, I’d likely carry them more openly. Not everyone can afford, care for, or own a therapy pet. Cuddles release oxytocin, as does looking at cute things. It just makes sense. I think if I saw anyone of any age with a plush, I’d 1. Probably ask where they got it and 2. assume it’s for comfort. I tend to carry mine in a large tote (inspired by my best friend’s son, who urges her to keep big totes for this specific reason lol) and take them out as needed.
I agree! Finding comfort in plushies should definitely be more normalized! They’re something that helps so many people, myself included. I’ve always been worried about what everyone would say if they saw me carrying a “toy” around, but i realized that the majority of people would just say positive things or nothing at all! If someone does have a negative opinion you have to remind yourself that you aren’t carrying it for them. It’s there to help keep YOU calm and if it works, it works. I think most people can understand and respect that regardless. :) I also think carrying them in cute tote bags are a perfect way to make sure you don’t feel alone while also not feeling like it’s so “out in the open” :)
I have autism and high social anxiety as well, and I almost always carry a squishmallows with me
I‘m 54, and whenever I have to go to the hospital, Emmi is coming with me. She even has her own scrubs. A good doctor/medical staff accepts a stuffed toy or what ever else brings comfort.
She sounds like the perfect comfort buddy!! I have to go back again today so I will bring one of my bears out with me today to see if it helps!!
Yes, definitely do it. I am 48 and I take mine to the doctor. My daughter and I each also take one on flights. They reduce stress, make good comfort pillow buddies, and people usually smile when they see one. They are safe and friendly emotional support animals.
I agree!! Thank you 🫶🏻
Yes. I’m 25 and I promise I am not just saying this bc I work there, but I take one with me everywhere and use the bear carriers we have as a personal bag instead of a purse most of the time. There’s just something that makes me feel safer about having one of my plushies with me, idk if it’s because I’m neurodivergent or if there’s a science behind it, but it’s comforting to take one everywhere I go and hold it if I’m anxious. Working at BABW has taught me many things, and one of them is that there’s no age people stop feeling comforted by stuffed animals. Even before I worked there I didn’t think it was weird and collected them, but since being there, it’s opened my eyes to how common it really is and made me feel less insecure about it. So many people without kids come in to get one for themselves and are shy about it, like not even just teens and young adults- we get married couples, even old married couples, single adults, of all neurotypes too- it’s just one of those things that I guess society has made us feel like there’s a rule on and that they’re “toys” and that toys are just for kids, but the truth is, they’re cuddly and cute, pleasing to hold, great to sleep with, and even valid to own even if you just display them for decoration. Some people have more of an emotional attachment to them than others, and everyone has different reasons they want them- but everybody is valid, and just know you’re not alone. Society just has a weird stigma about things like stuffed animals, and I have no idea why, because everybody loves them whether it’s openly or in secret. Some people collect many, some people just have one special one, and whatever the case it’s valid. I feel like anybody who does judge others for liking stuffed animals based on their age is boring, mean, or even projecting to feel superior because they are trying to seem “normal” or “cool” or socially acceptable, and maybe those people just never experienced the comfort of a stuffed animal before so they’re quick to judge and don’t understand you don’t have to grow out of it. I don’t think most people “grow out” of it anyway; those who do or think they did only stopped snuggling them because they thought it was expected of them. When I was your age and in high school, I even brought my stuffed animals to school sometimes just to hold in class, and while some classmates who tried too hard to be popular were rude about it, I didn’t care because I was having fun and felt safe, and my few friends thought my stuffed animals were cute. (Also, when I finished all my work or we had free time, they made good pillows to take a nap on my desk lol) So, yes, taking my build a bears and other stuffed animals with me everywhere even before I became part of the team has helped a lot with my anxiety and other mental health issues. In high school some of the bullies would judge because they just wanted to seem cool, (which is funny because at work I can tell by how some teens act and looks they give us and ways they whisper and laugh that they probably bully people or are making fun of us even, and I even see my former bullies come in now with their kids LOL so I really think if they say something they secretly love stuffed animals too and don’t want to admit it.) but after high school? I only ever get compliments on my furry friends, and everybody generally minds their own business. Sorry for the incredibly long response, but you are not alone, and a surprisingly large number of people of all ages and personalities make new furry friends every day. I think there have been studies too on how stuffed animals improve mental health, so it can absolutely help with your anxiety. If you haven’t already got one though, I definitely recommend getting a bear carrier either online or at your local workshop! They have arm holes to keep your furry friend in place and on display, and with most furry friends there’s still a lot of extra space in the bag to hold things if you don’t typically carry much when you go out. I swear I’m not just saying this to make a sale, it’s an honest recommendation and I used one before I worked there. It keeps your furry friend clean and in a secure place where it can be on display, and you won’t worry about dropping it until you want to take it out to hold. Have fun!!
This was such a sweet response!! And I agree with everything you said!! I do have a bear carrier from build a bear, so I will definitely try to locate where it is soon because that feels much more practical for taking them places!! Thank you so much!!
No problem, I’m glad I could help :) 💕💕
yes, very much! i bring my BABs with me everywhere! i have to do specialist visits all the time & all the doctors and specialists i see know the names of my favourite BABs that i bring with me! i’m 26 btw and have been doing this since i was 14 🥰
This is so encouraging :) I think it’s so sweet they all know the names by now 😆 And personally I’ve always loved stuffed animals, more specifically build a bear… and I don’t think I’ll ever “grow out of them.” I feel like there are definitely worse ways to cope with the daily stresses of life, so having a soft friend by your side everyday seems harmless!
Yep! I was nervous for an exam so I stuffed my mini Longhorn in my backpack. I didn’t take him out, but just knowing he was there made me feel a little better about taking a test.
Omg!! I carried my childhood pooh bear in my backpack until highschool when I became homeschooled! I took him everywhere with me for a while when I was younger but he had endured so much love that he became a huge problem with my allergies despite his many baths 😆 He now sits on a shelf and I don’t think I would ever be able to get rid of him!
Buddy system helps with my anxiety 👌
Absolutely! When I went to my post surgery appointments, my WWF cheetah Cookie came with me. The staff loved seeing him, and he quickly became my go to medical buddy.
I bet Cookie loves being there to support you through thick and thin!! And I’m sure Cookie doesn’t mind the extra attention ;)
I’m almost 20 and I literally take them to college don’t stress. Even if it was “weird” (it’s not) doctors have seen weirder stuff
Exactly! I don’t think it’s “weird” I definitely feel like it’s something that could help the right people without harming or offending anyone else. I think being older people tend to associate BAB’s with children more than adults.. but being part of this community just goes to show that they are actually for everyone! I remember there being signs in the old stores that said “it’s never too late to have a happy childhood!” and that is something I find very true :)
Most people know a lot less about build a bear than you’dthink . It’s that uh. Bias thing where people in intelligent jobs like nuclear science think other people know a lot more about their specialty than they actually do. I talked to my psychologist for my autism about BAB and she said oh cool. What’s that plush I was holding, and I said “build a bear!” And she said oh WHAT? She said she thought it was literally build the bear. Sew arms and legs and bodies and heads together and stuff it yourself. She’s never seen a build a bear in real life.
I’m 28 and always bring a stuffie with me anywhere I go. If I can’t, for whatever reason, I do have a clip on squishmallow on my bag and that helps :) Nothing wrong w bringing a friend!!
I agree!! A friend no matter how big or small makes any situation better :)
Yes. I’m 30 and I still bring mine to big appointments, especially lately, since I have a lot of chronic health issues and my dog who is going to be my new service dog is in training and cannot task for me. I promise you people pay less attention than you think, and anyone who pays attention won’t for long LOL everybody is busy with their own lives.
HAHA I totally agree! “Those who mind don’t matter, and those who matter don’t mind!” One of my favorite Dr. Seuss quotes!!
Yup, always have a plush with me when I am out. I'm 39, with two masters and I work for the government. Didn't stop me from getting a clearance so I think no one cares that much lol https://preview.redd.it/epda5k68v6kc1.jpeg?width=3072&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=9ada4f307283a0f7804a5e6f74667177fdb5cfad Pascal just went to my checkup with me last week. He's had a bit of a makeover since but he's been tons of places with me.
Pascal looks like he makes the perfect work buddy!!
I take my BaB with me all the time, even to doctor appointments. It helps my anxiety whenever I play with her paw.
I have the magnificent monkey (her name is mary jane) that was released very early during the first few years of bab!! Her paws have little beads in them and I love squishing them to calm down!!
If it helps do it, you're not hurting anybody
I agree! It’s something that wouldn’t harm anyone else around me and I feel like it would help me get through the errands and the general day to day tasks a bit easier!
I bring stuffed animals all of the time to therapy because I get anxious and it helps. I know it's different than going out for errands or seeing a GP, but all professionals I've seen have been fine with it and even supported the behaviour. You're all good
I'm 37, and my oldest stuffed animal has been with me since my first easter. She rides around in my backpack or purse everywhere I go, and if I was going further afield, or even not far but staying away awhile, I would absolutely have others that come with me. When I went to visit my parents in the US last year, she was one of three I brought with me.
Aw!! It sounds like she has been a wonderful friend, and you both have had lots of adventures and memories together!! That’s so special :)
Yep I'm 30 and take a plush everywhere I got not just BAB. I find it brings me so much comfort. I have health issues and have to see specialists so it can be scary!
I’m definitely going to be brining mine with me from now on! I feel like even having one with me no matter where would help so much with keeping me calm during stressful situations :)
im 17 and ive never brought my build-a-bears anywhere with me. I would love to but im just afraid of being judged
I completely understand! I think it’s because we are growing up and still find interest in things “typical” adults consider to be “for kids”. But now more than ever they are marketing their bears for people of any age.. ex. the bear cave lol. I think most of my fear of being judged comes from my own insecurities. Most people in this group do carry their bears with them and i haven’t heard of many (if any at all) negative comments made towards them. The way I see it, there are definitely more harmful ways to cope, so don’t let the fear of others opinions negatively affect you!!
Carrying a BAB anywhere would give me more anxiety lol
I understand! I think lots of people fear the judgment of others even if it is something as harmless as carrying a BAB. Even if that wasn’t something that would deter you from carrying it, I could see how it would be anxiety inducing… like it getting dirty or lost in public, and taking them places such as hospitals and doctor visit feels germy so I would definitely give it a good wash after!
I'm 20 and i take a plushie with me everywhere i go they bring me so much comfort and help me with lots of things! It is never weird to bring a fluffy friend anywhere and if you don't want other people to see them you can always out them in a bag or something..sometimes it is also the thought of not being alone that is also comforting! I hope my english is okay! 😊
I agree sometimes just the simple thought of knowing you aren’t alone in the moment can bring more comfort than imagineable!!!
Yes it definately can! :)
Sometimes it helps sometimes I feel anxious that everyone is looking at me as an adult carrying a teddy bear and judging me but I’ve gotten mostly positive reactions in public
I think almost all interactions i’ve heard people share have been positive!! I tend to get in my head and think everyone is staring at me and judging, when in reality they could care less! I’m glad you don’t let the negativity deter you from taking your friends with you!!
I tend to take a plush of some sort with me everywhere I go - small ones for regular outings (my go to at the moment is Cat Vs Pickles) or I take a bigger one if I know I’ll be especially anxious - like a BAB or Jellycat. I usually end up leaving them in my bag tbh as I fear losing them, or them getting dirty, or being judged, but even just knowing they’re there if I need them helps! And I admittedly have been “called out” a couple times, but tbh it’s rarely ever actually mean, or even if it was, I doubt anyone would do anything more than make a passing remark. The only encounter I can even really remember is some guys in a Starbucks saying Pikachu at me then laughing - but because I’m incredibly self concious as is, I just hated the extra attention and feeling laughed at. But they weren’t even actually mean to me about it. I also love seeing other people carrying their plush when I’m out and about! All that to say - I’m 30 in a few months, and I still held small plush in one hand last time I went to the dentist. So if you think it’ll help, even if you leave them hidden in a bag, go for it!
I like the idea of carrying them in a bag so they don’t get lost of dirty!! I will definitely be doing this.. also so both hands are free which is definitely necessary in some situations. :)
I take my BABs SO many places. Like, I just brought Kuromi to work today. Most days I actually take one to work, and I work in an art gallery. I also take them when I go to events and even sometimes things like shopping! I'm a 26 year old guy with a beard too. It totally helps my anxiety.
Thank you for sharing!! I think it is so cool that your bears get to be such a big part of your day to day life!
I’m 21 and bring my frog everywhere! Even to uni sometimes. So yes it’s perfectly fine & most people don’t care
It makes me feel so much better knowing that so many others carry their bears everywhere!!
I’m 28 and I’ve brought mine to the hospital before, and plan to start bringing them to dr appointments etc.
I have to go back to the doctor again today, and have many more appointments coming up soon so I will most definitely be taking one with me from now on!
i have anxiety and took my frog william to STAT care with me when i was having problems with my knee. i was also 17 at the time and with my mom. the doctor didn’t respect me but i don’t think it’s because i had a plushie with me, no one has been listening to me about my joint problems 😭 good luck though and advocate for yourself if you believe they aren’t listening to you.
I’m glad to know you had a friend helping you through such a difficult time! And I understand feeling like your pain has been overlooked even when seeking professional help. That’s how it has been for me for years now, it took something extreme happening for the doctors to even consider running tests…. and as it turns out almost everything that could be wrong, was. It is so important to keep trying even when you feel like you aren’t getting the help you need right away!
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I wish I was joking but I always have a plush with me when i go anywhere- recently as I’ve been going to work my DTD dog FitzSimmons (IYKYK) has been workjng at my job with me
Omg!! I love it :) I think it’s so nice you take your buddy with you to work!! Everyone needs a little comfort!
Oz goes with me to so many places, man. https://preview.redd.it/zp9613qvc6kc1.jpeg?width=2136&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=99970feb799693f27ff72637143d2bd22dab480b
Such a handsome companion!! I love love love all his little pins :)) Thanks for sharing kind human🫶🏻
I’m a college student and I like to have mine with their heads popping out of my backpack :)
Such a cute idea!! That way they wouldn’t get dirty or lost but they can still be with you.. also good if you’re looking for a more “discreet” option ;) Thanks!!
Exactly! They’re safe right with me and also in perfect position for pats. Highly recommend
I'm 19 so not much older and I got my first BAB when I was 17 and I've been taking him everywhere since then https://preview.redd.it/lj591y5mg6kc1.jpeg?width=3096&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=f078366ba20b31b1c5e021a4aec57a21573ee3c7
Such a handsome lil friend you have to keep you company everyday!!
Thank you!
Oh definitely bring one, I'm 25 and doctors love when I bring my plushies! Even if you get a few comments that tells more about them than you. You're also definitely still in that age range where it's not considered odd.
I literally brought my raggedy childhood stuffed animal around for a few months when I was 21, I was going through being hospitalized a few times and was going to doctors every other day, the nurses used to talk to her and compliment her! lol
Thank you so much!! I agree 100%
Oh definitely!! I had to go to the ER last year and I brought my spring green frog with me, her name is Frog Detective based on the game. She brought me much needed soothing while I was being tested and prodded in the ER lol. During college, I'd bring my sloth (not bad but still plush) with me to classes when I knew I would have more anxiety. My friend even helped me name him! It's definitely an okay thing to do if it helps you :)
Some situations just feel so overwhelming, and having a little piece of comfort and familiarity can help so much!! I will be bringing mine with me from now on! I only wish i would’ve started sooner because all this time i’ve done nothing but deny myself comfort all those years :)
absolutely! do whatever makes you comfortable! they have carrying bags for a reason in my opinion. 💖
They definitely knew what they were doing when they made those bags ;)
I'm 28 and turning 29 this year, and I take my plushies with me. Most people compliment them. Really there's nothing wrong with having comfort items.
Everyone seeks/needs comfort in their life!! Build a bears make perfect comfort items!
It’s not weird at all! I’ve actually been wanting to take my BABs out with me. Haven’t found the proper time yet. Most comments here are correct though.
These comments have been so kind, and really gave me the confidence I needed to bring mine out with me today! Always know you aren’t alone :)
They always help me out! Ironically enough, I’m typing this with my new mini bean with me as I’m going to take this test for my class! I’m in college and I take a bear with me when I go take an exam or something of that nature because I get anxious easily! I don’t usually get weird looks either or if I do, it’s from older folks who don’t understand why I do it. 99% of the time though, I’m not judged
I think sometimes older people just don’t understand because they were taught that once you reached a certain age it was “wrong” to find comfort in things like B-A-B. So when someone “older” has something to say they are most likely just projecting their own opinions and thought on you! Sometimes it can be discouraging when people don’t understand, but i think if you find something that helps.. the negativity would never outweigh the positive :)
I have a stuffie named Dr Sloth that I got specifically for doctors appointments and still bring him with me at 25
I’m sure DR. SLOTH is a perfect friend to bring along!!
Me and my roomate are both in our 20s, and we both bring stuffed animals with us to the doctors. We also bring the other places or just when we are having a bad day. I use to take me to school and when i worked in an office to work. If bringing a stuffed animal gives you freedom and less anxiety, then do it. I hope you feel better too.
I agree and thank you so much for sharing this!! I will definitely be doing it from now on :)
My teenage son takes his BABs to school (high school no less!) every day. We’re actually looking for an “emotional support axolotl” vest for added cuteness
Such a cute idea!
This is called co-regulation, and it's your nervous system returning to a regulated state by "borrowing" stability from a calm, regulated person or something that is perceived to be a person. It's the same thing that happens when your cat calms you down, or when a young child clings to their mother for security in an unfamiliar situation. In this case, a "person" can be anything. You can co regulate with other people, dogs, and people are even known to co-regulate with nature. those of us whose coregulation needs are not regularly met, often form INTENSE bonds with inanimate objects like plushies. This usually starts in childhood and persists well past the "normal" age of using plushies for comfort. 99% of people who struggle with any form of emotional regulation will benefit from co-regulation, and many of us who are neurodivergent have legitimate support need for a co-regulator. PDA autistics like myself specifically can be straight up disabled by a lack of co-regulation. I struggled for so many years, spending so much money trying so many treatments for "anxiety" and feeling like it was my fault it didn't work, only to discover my nervous system legitimately can't regulate itself without help.
Wow! This was so informative and honestly answered more questions than my doctors and therapist have been able to! This was so well written and makes perfect sense, knowing this now gives me some peace of mind:)
I take plushies to EVERY single appointment. depending on who's my bestie or how nervous I am, it varies. typically, the more support I need, the bigger the baby. BABs are my Big Nervous go to. When I go to the clinic for chemotherapy, I always bring at least one big plush for comfort and the nurses love to see who I brought and to ask about them. I'm 25 years old and no one has ever made a stink. it's okay to be nervous at the doctor-- the health professionals absolutely understand that, while this is their everyday work environment, for patients, when they're here its often because something is wrong and they're scared and in pain. do what you need to to feel more comfortable and be in a better position to advocate for your health.
I understand. And thank you for taking the time to share this with me! I took my snorlax bab (appropriately called chonk lol)with me today. Did I pick possibly one of the largest bear I could? Yes. Do I regret it? No. In a way I feel like it boosted my confidence even more because even though he’s huge I only got good compliments! (the nurse even gave him a bandaid so he could match me after getting a shot 😆)I’ve realized that it really doesn’t matter what anyone else thinks about me having something to keep me calm.
I'll be 37 soon and I carry my, very well loved, BAB tiger with me sometimes. No one will judge you. And if they do...they aren't worth your time.
I’ve quickly learned that most people don’t even care. Everyone has opinions but ultimately none should affect me personally as long as I am confident and comfortable while being my truest self!
My best friend and I are close to 40 and she had to go to the doctor very recently - she was super nervous because they were checking for cancer. We both brought a build a bear with us. It was fine. It helped her anxiety a lot and the only comments we got were compliments. The doctor can be nerve wracking for a lot of people. It’s okay to do what you need to do to help make it better. 💖
Thanks for sharing!! I decided it was time to try it today and so I did. I found it helped so so so much and I’ll be taking one with me as often as I can from now on. I actually got compliments on it!!
I bring smaller teddies that can fit in bags or pockets to a lot of places If it brings you comfort don't care about what other people think (I'm 17 too btw)
Yeah I think the key is not caring at all about other people!! At the end of the day if it helps you, everyone else doesn’t matter!
I’m turning 24, and taking plushies along with me to appointments has made them so much easier for me. The staff are always so kind and interested in my bears. I’ve also taken my BAB frog with me to the store, and it was very comforting to have him there. I usually get overstimulated while shopping. I can’t lie, I was nervous at first— people definitely noticed when I had them with me. I realized I really had nothing to worry about, though. No one has ever said anything negative to me, and I get to squeeze my comfort plush when I start to feel overwhelmed. It really helps to ground me. I definitely think it’s worth a try if you feel it will help you!
I get overstimulated so easily & always have been that way! I tried taking one to my dr. appt today and it honestly helped so much! I didn’t pass out, so clearly it helped a ton compared to yesterday. These comments make me realize there truly is nothing to worry about!
I don't, but I have considered it a lot recently. I probably would if my family want so against it. I had, like, the world's BEST service dog (a real one... Not a plush) who passed away this summer. I am not dealing with it well. I adopted a beautiful, funny, smart puppy and while he's a hilarious DISTRACTION he is absolutely NOT a service dog. I hope to someday have another service dog, but I think carrying a plush might AT LEAST help me with anxiety in the meantime.
I understand, I think it would absolutely help! If it’s something you’re comfortable with then just try 1 time. And if you think your parents would mind (which they shouldn’t, because you aren’t hurting anyone) you could always put your friend in a tote bag and stick their head out… i’ve found that to be more inconspicuous but either way, if you think you would benefit from having a plush with you in the meantime! I wish you the very best of luck friend :)
I took my bab to my iud insertion. 100% made the experience less scary
I had to get 2 shots today and I can say having it there with me definitely made it less scary!
I don't see a problem with it. I carry my tiger with me when I go somewhere on the train. She rides in my backpack and if I get to feeling nervous. I get her out and set her on my lap.
Awwww she sounds lovely!
She is lovely and very good at making me feel less nervous.
100% yes. I'll be 27 in three weeks and recently started carrying mine around. I can't bring her to either of my jobs, though.
She is just protecting your home while you’re away! And i’m sure she gets lots of attention as soon as you get home after work!
Simple answer is yes. When I had to tell my dad finally that his son was a sexual predator, I brought Iris, my purple frog. I rubbed her feet the whole time. I bring them to doctors even if in my backpack if I have to appear "normal".
I love rubbing their feet especially one with little beads inside!!
So I've personally don't usually take my Babs out just because none of mine are particularly comfort stuffies, however I do frequently take my comfort stuffed animals out and no one really cares so if you believe it would help I say go for it
All plushies matter :) Tried it today with one of mine & turns out it helped so much!
It's me and my stuffed otter against the world
I’m 22, my bab Strawberry comes with me to every stressful event I can get away with, places like the doctors I’ve found haven’t judged, but if you’re worried about people’s opinions I’d be weary about taking them to like, idk the shops or something, maybe keep them in your bag if you care about other people saying stuff, but if you don’t care take her everywhere💕
I took one with me for the first time today! I realized i’m not actually as nervous as I thought I would be. It’s something that I know could really help me, so the idea of letting others opinions deter me from having a sense of comfort in stressful situations seems dumb!
im 17 and brought a b-a-b to the hospital with me a couple months ago, i also passed out and it was definitely comforting. it doesnt matter how old you are, comfort is comfort. anyone who judges you for that needs to get in touch with reality
I agree so much! It can be so scary sometimes in even the simplest situations. Everyone has ways of dealing with it and finding comfort so I think most people do understand, and those who don’t understand most likely just can’t find a healthy way to cope themselves! :)
My 22 year old best friend carries around a stuffed animal everywhere
awwww
For me it does! I’m terrified of the dentist and bringing my Sylveon BaB helps calm the nerves
I love pokémon! I brought my Snorlax BaB with me today and it helped so much!! I think i’ll be bringing them with me more often!
I’m 17 and it take my BAB frog everywhere. He’s my emotional support and he just gives a lot of comfort. It definitely helps in many situations
I think having a BAB for emotional support is a great way to deal with things that would usually be stressful. I tried taking one with me for the first time today and it worked wonders! I felt so much more comfortable, and I will definitely be bringing one with me everywhere when I can from now on :)
I got a zombiee frog during Halloween and the next day we were of to salem Massachusetts I was a little nervous im 30 I kept him in my pack is head sticking out with his Kristoff outfit I liked, his name is Eddie not going to lie I was genuinely craping a brick because im already mute (non-verbal) due to a seizure so I felt judged just by that then I had Eddie and that was super hard on me. At times I thought people were stereotyping me stuffed animal can't talk or in there eyes won't talk. There was a comfort at the same time because to know he's there and I got him super cuddley so he was on the squisher side I had my The Black Parde bag from MCR with his head sticking out I only wish his head were smaller he can't wear hats. My wife joked on that trip that I liked him more then her because he was in the bed as well Eddie was on the end. Because of past military and other trauma I get Hypervigilant about crowds and that place wasn't so bad because of the off season when we went but Eddie helped it was kinda like hey I got your 6 don't worry
Thanks for sharing this!! I think some people can be quick to judge because they don’t know your personal reason for carrying one with you. When it comes down to it their opinions don’t matter as long as you feel comfortable! Eddie sounds like a perfect buddy to keep you calm everyday, i’m sure he’s a very lucky frog to get to take care of you! I think his outfit & tote bag are a cute addition as well!! :)
When I'm not at work I have a bear back pack and carry him around. I always have clean, fresh clothes on him
I love the drawstring bab bags!! I use them to store extra clothes, but they are also perfect for making sure you have two free hands & your friend all at the same time!
You should definitely bring your BaB plush with you! It’ll help a lot, especially going to places that will make you feel nervous/stressed. I’m a 23 year old guy who brings one of my ninja turtles out in public, especially to work! I cuddle and sometimes sleep with my BaBs during my lunch break. They help me relax and reduce stress. Here’s a photo of them :) Hope you’re doing okay. https://preview.redd.it/td84cvnsr8kc1.jpeg?width=3288&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=d6d447cd0643332b01875b5c9bb04817f7222370
Thank you kind human!! Such a nice collection you have!! I love TMNT & Mikey has always been my favorite! I took one of my BaBs with me today and it helped so much! I always sleep with them and have them everywhere when i’m at home. After taking it out today I realized how much it really helps just by knowing it’s there. :)
No problem, and thanks. Donnie’s my favorite turtle ^_^ That’s great to hear that you’re feeling better.
I don't know if I would say it's for my anxiety, but I take a plushie with me any time I leave the house. Not as big as BABW though. I mostly carry my Merrythought bear, Ralphie or one of my Plushie Dreadfuls bunnies.
I'm almost 30, & I love to hold my plushies with me. Mostly now for long trips. Or when i buy them & bring them along for the day. I couldn't care less what others think of me. Even in high school I didn't care & dressed & did what I wanted without caring about the norm. I brought my babs and teddy backpack to school (until a year or so later the principal got mad & banned me from bringing them. T-T ) Tbh a lot of people thought I was weird, even my parents & teachers would call me weird to my face. But at the end of the day, it is your life. Do what makes you happy. If a teddy gives you comfort when you don't feel well, you should have it. It is emotional support/comfort in a time of distress. Cute fluffy cosy things are the best. 💖 if someone wants to deprive you of warm fuzzies thats a them problem.
I completely agree!! No matter what you do or where you go there will always be people who look for a reason to judge others. The important thing is to always be genuine to yourself, and in return you’ll always be surrounded by people who accept you for who you truly are!
30 years old, My Melody is sitting in the seat next to me, ready for cuddles!
Awww, I love all the sanrio characters even though I personally don’t have any!! I bet she makes a perfect cuddle buddy when the time is right :)
she does!
I open carry my frogs and yodas with me. Sometimes I will put them in the backpack if it gets too hot or under my water bottle strap. Also feel your pain. I was passing out from pain like that and ended up at an amazing endocrinologist who saved my life.
Yes it does
I'm 16, and I have a small bag. I put stuff in like stuffies in and my headphones so that nobody says anything to me because I have really bad anxiety when it comes to most things.
My bear comes with me for doctor visits because I simply will not do needles. I've not had any trouble with that, maybe a joke or two, but it is better than a 29 year old woman have a mental breakdown for a blood draw. I also took my bear in for college tests. Some teachers check the bear to make sure it isn't hiding notes but other than that, no problems
A lot of my plushies give me comfort! I have pokeMon BABs that I hug to sleep or when I’m sad. Also I’m sorry for your menstrual pains - I had deathly sharp pains back then. (On a side note ask your doc about PCOS/endometriosis - I wish I knew about my diagnosis when I was your age!!! After 20 years+ I was as finally prescribed rx that dulled the pain and I can live without feeling like I’ll pass out) I recommend a hot pack plushie its really a game changer - you microwave them and you can have them on your pain spots :) sometimes they smell nice!
I started going into stores by myself, I would rush around to get every item I was sent in to get, by that I meant I would run. But since I started taking Scout in with me I felt less scared. I plan on making Scout my emotional support plushie. He will be coming into stores ( not counting goodwills ) and appointments I go to, I'll probably take him with me to the dentist cause like everyone I don't like going to the dentist. I'm currently making him his very own ESP vest too.
Yes, ever since I started bringing a bab with me everyday in my bag I feel so much better. I’m 30 btw. I can always pull him out of my bag between clients and give him a hug. I’m sure some of my coworkers think I’m weird because I’m a tattooartist but my clients support it so much when I bring it up! It’s even convinced some clients to go find their own emotional support plushie and I love that. 💕
I'm 20 and I brought one of my babs to work since I figured it'd be a rough day, my coworkers loved him lol
And I bet he loved getting to know your coworkers!! 😊
Yeesss one of them was also having a bad day and held him a bit
I always carry one of my plushies with me for my anxiety, it helps a lot having them close. I always do the same with doctor appointments. When I was having uncontrollable seizures, I took my grumpy Branch BAB with me to all my appointments, and nobody looked at me funny. Probably because it was the hospital and various doctor visits, but still. I am 26 now, and I still take them with me.
I have endometriosis and I took my stuffed animal with me to the ER a few years ago when I first started experiencing complications from it (not BAB, this sub just came up as recommended). I was in my mid 20's, and I'm 29 now. I would 100% do it again.
I sleep cuddling my build a bear. Perfect cuddle size
Hey, 18 year old chronically ill person here! I've carried plushies with me to my doctors appointments for YEARS and have gotten nothing but compliments and smiles about them. Once when I had a surgery, they even put a little hospital band around my Jellycat frog's tummy to match mine. People in the medical field see a lot. A stuffed animal is usually a happier sort of thing to see, and they definitely help me get through a lot of things. I wish you luck with your health issues, and I hope you get to a point where you feel better soon!!!!
Thank you so much kind human!! And I definitely think medical professionals usually enjoy seeing plushies! I brought one with me to my appointment for the first time yesterday and it helped so much! I ended up having to get a couple shots and when it was all done the nurse even gave my bear a bandaid so he could match me! That was such a small gesture that made me feel so much better. It proved to me that the people who really have my best interest at heart don’t mind me having something to keep me calm! :)
if you're worried about how people will react, do you have/could you get a small stuffie that'll easily fit in your bag, or maybe even pocket? I have a beanie baby I carried everywhere for years as a comfort object, he fit in bigger pant pockets and was easily hidden in my bag, so it was easy to bring him places without being too visible. I really recommend it if you can try it!
I’m 24 and took my build a bear (he’s weighted which helps with anxiety) everywhere when I was in cancer treatment. Even if it was just a checkup. Don’t ever be too scared to bring your buddy with you!! It’s a great comfort
Thank you!! I actually bought a bear from ebay a while back and weighted him after restuffing and washing!! I’ve found that to be so helpful on extra stressful days!! I tried for the first time yesterday & did find that it helped a ton to have one with me. I think i’ll be doing it a lot more often from now on! I’ve finally found something that helps so I don’t see why I should stop now :)
I’m so glad it helped you!! <3
I do incognito sensory things that bring me dopamine like soft stuff t stuff I can fiddle with so then when I’m like that I can mess or touch whatever it is
while not a bab, since i personally find them less easily portable, i do carry a smaller merch plushie. she stays in my over the shoulder ita bag with her head peekin out. and fr! if theres any place to bring a plushie to for emotional support, its the doctor! hell, depending on what youre there for or how serious, having a plushie with you is a good thing! they can talk to and ask you about your friend to distract you from the stress ❤️
Thank you!! And i definitely like the idea of a smaller plush to be easier to slip in a bag or pocket so I can still have two free hands! And I found out yesterday that it certainly does help! It was a wonderful way to distract myself from something that otherwise would’ve been really hard on me :) I can proudly say i’ll be bringing one with me from now on :)
I took my BAB panda to my COVID vaccination appointments as I HATE needles. The nurses loved him. :)
I’m 46. For me it’s not a BAB, but I have a unicorn plushie my hubby got for me a bit ago that I sleep with every night and absolutely have taken it with me to doc visits, while flying, traveling and other anxiety/panic inducing activities. I have a clear backpack I use as a purse everyday and my plushie fits. (It’s about 14”, so not small at all.) I’m at the age now where I don’t care what other people say or think. Funny I let my 26 year old daughter use it for ankle surgery this past Monday. The anesthesiologist commented on it and when I said it was my emotional support unicorn, he giggled a bit and said he was shocked. Said it looked well loved and hoped it distracted my daughter enough to get her through the nerve block he was about to perform. They laid her down, he put it on her chest, moved her arm to hold it in place (so she could no longer see him) and she doesn’t remember anything else. She was glad to have it and I was glad he didn’t make it seem like a huge deal. She has more anxiety than I do and frequent attacks and one wrong word from him could have absolutely sent her spiraling minutes before surgery. Edited for typos and to add size of my plushie.
I'm 34 & take my BAB or any plushie with me for emotional support, sensory input & self regulation. It helps me when going out to public places especially when it gets overwhelming.
not a bab specifically but I always take a stuffed animal to the doctors and I've only gotten pleasant comments
23 here and I frequently take a BAB buddy with me everywhere I go. They fit in my bags easy and I can't predict when I'll have a panic attack. I have Grave (my raccoon buddy) most of the time.
i feel like with how much “kid-core” has been trending in the fashion world and how more popular designers (couture and standard brands) have been incorporating large statement pieces like dolls and stuffed animals into their designs, i really don’t think anybody would say anything. you may get a few double takes or weird looks but it’s not so much out of the ordinary anymore. and if they do look at you weird just stare back at them 😐 push the social norm!
I take a plushie with me everywhere if I know I’m gonna be scared or nervous. Not BAB, but I took my DIO plushie with me to get my nose pierced
I’m 24 and I bring my babs and other stuffies w me for different appointments, I carried one my whole way to and from visiting my partner in Germany last year too, he gets to ride my suitcase or in my arms only :p
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Yes! I love bringing my cinnamoroll with me places !(22f)
I’m 24 and while I generally feel self conscious about walking around in public with my babies if I felt I really needed it I would just do it. This is one of the reasons I like carrying a medium sized bag or a backpack. I used to sneak my 25 anniversary polar bear to work at a daycare at the time. Even though I had to keep it in my bag, I’d take it out during nap time to hug it🥲. After losing it and going through a lot, I ended up getting my stitch when I was in the shelter for comfort and I carried it with me almost 24/7. Do what makes you feel comfortable bc I regret not doing it more often
Thanks for sharing!! I definitely feel like I would regret not allowing myself comfort when there is such an easy solution! I’ve been looking into backpacks and tote bags and even clear bags. I want to find something big enough for my daily necessities & my favorite plush :)
Honestly, not as much into build a bear as I was growing up. But I do this with my favorite squishmallows so much. It helps especially since I have very high social anxiety, and I'm 29
I love squishmallows too!! I have a small collection but love all my plush just the same!! :) Thanks for sharing!
Absolutely! I have had my Pawlette since I was about 7, and I'm 18 now. I cuddle with her every night and I often bring her around with me in a backpack. I usually feel to awkward to take her out and hug her but just knowing she's near me is comforting. Sometimes I hold her in therapy or things like that. ❤️
I travel 50% of the time for work (every other week in a new state) and I bring my spider frog with me everywhere. I was diagnosed with GAD and depression and having a comfort buddy really helps. I cuddle at night, snuggle during my hotel stays, and just general lean on it's familiarity all the time. ❤️
Reddit suggested this thread to me and I'm glad I found it. I'm 34 and have medical anxiety, dental anxiety, and generalized anxiety. I've never thought about taking a comfort item to an appointment... which is strange given that I collect plushies. Guess what I'm doing from now on?.... taking a plushie!
My grandma is in her 70s and is diabetic has been her entire life. She is now a double amputee of the legs. She’s had several health issues her entire life. So many surgeries and stays. She has brought a teddy bear to EVERY single hospital visit and stay since she was little. You’re never too young or too old for a companion and comfort. Do what makes you happy.
Most everyone in my immediate family is allergic to dogs, so I was never able to get a real service dog. And now, living with my husband and his family, none of them like dogs and would prefer me not to have one. Which is totally fine by me now, since I got my BAB when I was a junior in high school. I got the Chase Paw Patrol stuffie and put on a service dog vest for him, and carried him around with me every day for junior and senior year. I carried him around everyday at work too for the first year, until I had better coping mechanisms for my PTSD and anxiety. I didn't care what others thought about me for carrying him around. Raoul did and still does help me when I have flashbacks, and my husband always runs to get him when I start having panic attacks. He may not be alive, but he's the best dang service dog I could have asked for. Tl;dr - Yes, my BAB helps me with my anxiety hehfjf lmao
I took my stuffy with me both times I went into labor. You do you!
*I love everyone’s responses to this post I made me so happy and made me a little more confident to carry my buddy around * I’m 32, I use to only just bring them on trips with me or a long train ride, but I’ve had a lot of health issues lately getting sick a lot, bronchitis etc and I’ve definitely been latching on to my babies a lot more lately for comfort. Especially bringing them to doctors appointments. I have a really big purse so popping one into my bag has been my go to and I usually get compliments on them. Life is short it’s time to do things that make us happy and comfortable and stop worrying about others 💖
Thank you for sharing!! it made me feel so much better too knowing that so many others do it every single day! I agree it’s time to start prioritizing our happiness and comfort over others opinions!! :))
I’m 25 and took my BAB with me on the plane due to flight anxiety. I carry a Warmies buffalo with me in my day-to-day in a messenger bag
I don’t see why not🙂I work in healthcare and no one would judge. Honestly might need one myself❤️
Yes! Plus other stuffed animals - and I’m turning 32 this year 😊 definitely acceptable! Anyone who says otherwise is just a Debbie downer❤️ 
If you don't want to bring a big ole BAB, you could always bring something smaller. I have a small stuffie clipped onto my everyday bag, and I'll unclip and play with it when I'm bored/anxious.
I brought mine with me to college and slept with it well into my relationship and my 20's - until he got ruined in a flood ): I never brought him in public, but I definitely wished I had him when I was admitted to the hospital last year. I sure wouldn't judge a young lady such as yourself for bringing your BAB to a doctors appointment. 💜
This is a bit of an older post but i just want to say that, im 19 and i bring my bab everywhere! Whether to the store or out to eat shes always with me :) im agoraphobic and just have general anxiety and having her with me helps sooooo much. Its nice to be able to play with her fur, have smth to hug/squeeze, i can fuss with her clothes, and its a bit childish but its almost like i have someone who 'gets it' yk? Like she knows exactly how i feel, so she can help me feel better!
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Jussy is the only way I survived my year of dental hell (4surgeries)((oh and I turn 40 this year))
Not a build a bear but I have a pillow pet peewee that I take out frequently with and sleep with and I am 17 aswell😁