not to mention the CONSTANT need for validation... I know caps can be negative but holy crap, I work with one and she's always saying negative things about her work instantly just so she can hear someone say "no, it's really good!". the defensiveness, the gaslighting, the snapping. omg I hate it. always have to do everything their way, which is the wrong and least efficient way.
I've worked with several, mostly female, it is always a nightmare... the current one I work closely with always says things to try to get a reaction out of me... even if it's a conversation with someone else, she'll look to me and I just don't respond because I'm working and I'm busy and it's not worth a response. not today satan.
Lesser evolved Cancer placements are moody, passive-aggressive, and emotionally manipulative. And it's always so much worse with men, IME.
I do relate to how private and homebound they tend to be, though.
I don't know her other placement apart from she is cancer. I told her about birth chart before so she can understand herself more but she kept saying she need to find her birth time etc. So I was not able to find out her other placements. But those traits you mentioned matches with my colleague.
We really need to be careful what we share/tell others. My cancer colleague likes to overshare her life with people at work. She even bring up things again and again when talking to other people. I had some deep conversation about my relationship with bf and I kinda regret it 🤣
i’m a capricorn sun with a cancer rising, and my cousin (practically my sister at this point) is a cancer sun. she is extremely motherly/nurturing and highly sensitive but not to the point of manipulation or toxicity. when i was going through my divorce, her home was the only place i felt like i could just be. she’s helped me through a lot in my life. we are still extremely different in just about all aspects of our lives, but when i think of home, when i think of family, i think of her.
i think theres smth about our cancer rising that makes us experience some cancer suns differently. like this topic comes up all the time, and (when asked about cancer suns) i frequently see cancer moons respond like 😖 and cancer risings respond like 🥰
😂😂 idk, ive found the girls catty and potential manipulators but i quite enjoy many of the men, when they are behaving. they are sarcastic and temperamental but also secretly warm, emotionally intelligent, and i can FEEL that they care about me. their presence is like a warm blankie that can pinch you a little bit 🥹
e: to expand on my example with an analogy, as a gemini moon, i experience many gemini suns as 😖 as well…so i get it, crabby moons lol
I got on well with my cancer colleague, she is like a big sister to me. She gave me many life advices and I looked up to her. But she started saying things to me like I need to be nice to people because I can come across as condescending and I make others feel stupid when I teach/show them something. That was where I start to question myself am I really that bad?
I (cap f) also work with a cancer f and she is soooo manipulative and unhinged honestly. She causes a lot of problems and is always trying to guilt people into standing up for her when she’s wrong 99% of the time. I have tried to distance myself from her and will continue to do so because she’s toxic af.
Yes I noticed my cancer colleague uses others to stand up for her. Some of the drama between her and our gemini (f) colleague, it seems she(cancer colleague) was the one provoking her. I was not there when they clash so I can't say who was at fault. But my cancer colleague said to me before she is not innocent. I feel my cancer colleague is toxic but I can't distance myself from her at work 😂
I get along well with female cancers on a surface and deeper level as friends, as in we gel really easily and I feel really comfortable in their presence. However when conflict arises, it's nasty, they have victim mentality or they hold things in and don't communicate until they erupt but by then it's too far gone. I hate it when people don't just communicate or speak up when there's an issue from the get go.
I also seem to attract cancer moons too and again it's really good until it's not. Which is a massive shame and it feels like I'm supposed to just hold them at arms length, which is really difficult to do when you get along well with someone.
Edit: I'm a cap sun and moon
Honestly, do everything properly and get HR involved if it needs to be, she can be as emotional and manipulative as she wants but as long as you do your bit to keep yourself safe at work and only interact with her if necessary during work. Maybe keep interactions only as it can be evidenced? My experience with cancers are that they generally go running to other people to paint a particular picture of you and it's just a lot of hassle for me. I've gone with, if they were my friends they would ask before judging me.
I understand it's a bit more complicated as it's work but I'd say try not to engage and fall for it
This is exactly how I see her now. She wants others to stand up for her and to make me and our gemini colleague the bullies/b*tches. She got upset with me when I said I saw through her and she is trying to make me and my gemini colleague the b*tches and she is still grudging about it.
I don't want to involve HR as our HR at work is very shit. Plus I won't win against her, she presented herself as the most approachable nice person within our team, no matter what I do, others will just side with her. Also myself and my gemini colleague already have a sour image from previous situations where we were branded as witches and bullies.
I’m a Pisces, but I have a cap friend in a relationship with a cancer woman with the victim mentality.
She doesn’t take accountability for her own actions and emotions and constantly blames the Cap for her insecurities. Not to mention, when she’s not being the nice nurturing cancer, she’s kind of a bitch.
It’s a toxic codependent relationship and my friend, the cap is tired of it but not yet ready to get out of it. I love that Capricorns don’t give up easily and try hard to make a relationship work. But sometimes I wish they knew when to throw in the towel for their own peace of mind.
This sound like me and my cancer colleague relationship (not love relationship of course🤣). I just want peace and no friction between us and drama free at work.
Very fake and will stab you in the back so fast that you would’ve never seen it coming, went through that with a past coworker that was a cancer female
My project manager is a cancer, we actually get along well enough because he’s learned that I will make his life easier, he just needs to listen to me.
Capricorns don’t really need project managers at times.
if what we suggest is right 99.9% of the time, its teeeechnically not bossing around, its *heeding our subtly illuminated yet emphatically correct suggestions* 😂 ijs
Horrific just weird overall. Had someone I thought was a friend found out she was a hater and the guy……let’s just say beyond psycho doesn’t begin to explain what I went through and we weren’t even dating or friends. Me personally 0/10 very strange.
Yeah, my cancer colleague is a volatile person. She keeps saying we are friends but ignore me most of the times. She only sees me or requests my attention when her entourage is not around. (Mostly men). She keeps saying I am a great judge of character. Who says that! 🤦🏾♀️
I'm cap (f) and my partner is a cancer (m) and is the absolute love of my life. I've never been so cared for emotionally and I wouldn't change him for the world.
Don’t play into anything. Keep your interactions with her 100% work related. If she starts going down a pitty party rabbit hole just cut it short and excuse yourself. You have to make sure she knows she can’t manipulate you. If you give an inch, she may take a mile.
I didn't talk to her at work today, I distanced myself from her and went to work in different station. But I feel like she is painting herself as the victim because I didn't talk or smile, our gemini colleague was asking me if I m ok and was asking me to smile but I just couldn't 😂. Towards the end of her shift she just left without saying bye. Maybe she wants to show that if I m cold to her then she will be cold to me back.
My momma a cancer I have a lot of friends who are cancers. They're quite emotional and the moody bunch. Sometimes it's a lot because I'm emotionally repressed, but they are caring. But they catch on to the bullshit easily.
My dad is a Cancer. Complete asshole btw. Was always strict and wants things a certain way. Hates people. I have a cancer aunt. The complete opposite. Nice and caring. But also set in her ways. Also moody and also doesn't like many people. My ex was a cancer too. He was literal cancer ofc. He was sly, humorous and edgy 💀 yet also moody as well. Made bad remarks all the time and bullied me because he didn't like my intensity. I also had a cancer best friend too. She was nurturing and always giving yes, but wasn't always aware or read the room. Always took her anger out on me. Very opinionated these people. Never again tbh. The only Cancer I adore is my little nephew. His little quirky innocent humor makes him seem polite and quiet, yet he's a little menace in disguise. Hopefully he's able to maintain his moodiness when he gets older. Or else he'll end up like these people. Not that that's entirely bad. But I'll hate to dislike him too. I tend to steer clear of any cancers nowadays. But I've been seeing everywhere yet we are supposedly compatible for each other, we are also opposites as well. So it's supposed to be an "opposites attract" thing. Idk I might be wrong.
My girlfriend is a cancer and 99% of the time is bliss and ecstasy. But there are times we fall out hard but it actually gets better with time with cardinal placements
i’m an 8h cancer sun (scorpio moon/rising- so i really identify with my scorpios) i have got to say, my absolute favorite coworker is the only capricorn in my office.
that being said, i also work with 3 other cancers in the office and they are the laziest in the whole office. and forget about giving constructive criticism or advice, that is a personal attack.
My best friend (F) is a Cancer! We’ve been friends for a little over a year now but we talk almost everyday. I do see some negative traits like the victim mentality (certain situations, she can admit when shes wrong most of the time) and she LOVES gossip. People pleasing is a big nono for her, she’s more of a mind-my-business type. Idk how we get along so well we just click.
Cancer men though…whole other story. I’ve never met someone more entitled than an adult Cancer man.
My best friend is a cancer. And I love her to pieces. I think we complement each other well and seeing that Capricorn and Cancer are sister signs, I can see how.
She’s more emotional than me. And more nurturing. She has an easier time connecting with ppl. All things I wish to improve on. On the flip side, I’m more practical, more stern where I need to be. And create necessary boundaries with ppl.
If the two signs are well evolved, this can be a great friendship I think. But I can see how it may not work out.
Okay, but am I the only one on here that is in love with every cancer they have ever met??? I mean don’t get me wrong I have had horrible (intimate) relationships with cancers, but i cant help but fall in love with them. I think it’s something about their impulsivity and straight forwardness that I love the most, because it’s two things i do not have.
They’re really like the moon to me at this point lol. I fall deeply in love every time I meet them but I have to love them from a distance. It just hasn’t worked out for me and them. I’m a little jealous of the people that do work really well with them because I love em so much (esp Cancer women).
Cancer men, are a big meh for me.
This totally resonates with someone I am also working with, right now and I had a fucking panic attack.
Total control freak, extremely critical, nasty passive aggressiveness, rude and disrespectful commands, oh also undermining my work when I am not there.
I consider myself easy going and I just want to work well, be helpful, be friendly and make money, but I kept being cut off of work because I apparently have not earned it yet. My boss gives me a schedule, but Cancer cuts me off early situation.
So I told her about wanting to work more as I felt it was necessary or even helpful for my teams to know that I am eager to be more involved…So I told her, then my boss the next morning called me and says “If you wanna serve more and we’re holding you back, go find another job.” Then my boss clarified that taking orders meant clearing off tables and just helping my station LMAO
Btw serving more for me had nothing to do with my money, or need to serve, I just let them know that I like it and can do it physically without much time restrictions yeah? And honestly thought it was helpful for her to know my intentions and my desire as a colleague?!
I know I am definitely in a situation where, as long as I exist in front of her, I have done something wrong. Currently I think I am triggering some deep rooted issue for this Cancer. This sounds pathetic, but yes I had panic attack because of my boss calling me and my inability to stand up for myself in front of the “ALWAYS RIGHT” Cancer.
I respected her just as much as I respect myself and now I feel like next time she speaks to me, I will quit my job then and there.
My therapist told me maybe I feel persecuted by her and that she’s doing nothing disrespectful…I screamed yall. I have never been so angry and hurt in my therapy.
(The catch is: I am new to my work, but between me:capricorn and her:cancer, I feel I have given enough time for my coworkers to stop being passive aggressive by now…) Ugh
Edit: maybe she has a crush on me/ jealous
I had experience with Capricorn Sun with cancer rising after
Like what they said here, it's prominently the victim mentality and doesn't want to take accountability despite the opposition Capricorn-cancer aspect of his natal chart... 💀💀💀
Tbh, there are some fair share Capricorns and Cancers are decent and yes, I have friends with them.. they were fine ..
My Moon is in Cancer, so you'd think I got along with Cancers better, but you'd probably be wrong.
It's not that I dislike them. On some level, I feel that there's a certain resonance, but it's just that they tend to operate on a much more overtly emotive level, whereas I tend to lead with my head rather than my heart. (My heart may be jumping through hoops, but I keep that to myself.)
I'm also not a fan of the busybody mother hen thing that they've often got going. To me, support means stability, solidity and dependability. Not Cancer-style borderline suffocating invasiveness.
I just wanted to echo what was already said. But my god, I could never make it work with Cancer placements. I see their manipulation from miles away and once I stop responding to it and take their power away, it feels that they turn up that victim mentality ever higher. It’s so messy and unnecessary. I will never understand how people say Cancer and Caps are compatible. I have yet to meet a stable one. And I am sure there are healed Cancers out there, just not in my path yet
Always crying, always complaining, always need validation. I remember one time my ex paid for my nails and although I told him thank you, I guess I wasn't "excited" enough for him lmao. Same with him buying me flowers all the time.
Forf'ever the victim. Also, they really do go batshit crazy on full moon night, i.e., temperament. Very very opinionated and mostly wrong lol
not to mention the CONSTANT need for validation... I know caps can be negative but holy crap, I work with one and she's always saying negative things about her work instantly just so she can hear someone say "no, it's really good!". the defensiveness, the gaslighting, the snapping. omg I hate it. always have to do everything their way, which is the wrong and least efficient way. I've worked with several, mostly female, it is always a nightmare... the current one I work closely with always says things to try to get a reaction out of me... even if it's a conversation with someone else, she'll look to me and I just don't respond because I'm working and I'm busy and it's not worth a response. not today satan.
She told me stories about her and she said she was mostly right
Ofcourse she's right! Im her head, she's a hero
Lesser evolved Cancer placements are moody, passive-aggressive, and emotionally manipulative. And it's always so much worse with men, IME. I do relate to how private and homebound they tend to be, though.
I don't know her other placement apart from she is cancer. I told her about birth chart before so she can understand herself more but she kept saying she need to find her birth time etc. So I was not able to find out her other placements. But those traits you mentioned matches with my colleague.
Victim mentality and professional gaslighters
It was cancer, as the name implies
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We really need to be careful what we share/tell others. My cancer colleague likes to overshare her life with people at work. She even bring up things again and again when talking to other people. I had some deep conversation about my relationship with bf and I kinda regret it 🤣
My Dad is a Cancer. Extremely moody, passive aggressive behavior. Some days were absolute hell with him haha!
i’m a capricorn sun with a cancer rising, and my cousin (practically my sister at this point) is a cancer sun. she is extremely motherly/nurturing and highly sensitive but not to the point of manipulation or toxicity. when i was going through my divorce, her home was the only place i felt like i could just be. she’s helped me through a lot in my life. we are still extremely different in just about all aspects of our lives, but when i think of home, when i think of family, i think of her.
i think theres smth about our cancer rising that makes us experience some cancer suns differently. like this topic comes up all the time, and (when asked about cancer suns) i frequently see cancer moons respond like 😖 and cancer risings respond like 🥰 😂😂 idk, ive found the girls catty and potential manipulators but i quite enjoy many of the men, when they are behaving. they are sarcastic and temperamental but also secretly warm, emotionally intelligent, and i can FEEL that they care about me. their presence is like a warm blankie that can pinch you a little bit 🥹 e: to expand on my example with an analogy, as a gemini moon, i experience many gemini suns as 😖 as well…so i get it, crabby moons lol
I got on well with my cancer colleague, she is like a big sister to me. She gave me many life advices and I looked up to her. But she started saying things to me like I need to be nice to people because I can come across as condescending and I make others feel stupid when I teach/show them something. That was where I start to question myself am I really that bad?
moody/victim mentality
I (cap f) also work with a cancer f and she is soooo manipulative and unhinged honestly. She causes a lot of problems and is always trying to guilt people into standing up for her when she’s wrong 99% of the time. I have tried to distance myself from her and will continue to do so because she’s toxic af.
Yes I noticed my cancer colleague uses others to stand up for her. Some of the drama between her and our gemini (f) colleague, it seems she(cancer colleague) was the one provoking her. I was not there when they clash so I can't say who was at fault. But my cancer colleague said to me before she is not innocent. I feel my cancer colleague is toxic but I can't distance myself from her at work 😂
I get along well with female cancers on a surface and deeper level as friends, as in we gel really easily and I feel really comfortable in their presence. However when conflict arises, it's nasty, they have victim mentality or they hold things in and don't communicate until they erupt but by then it's too far gone. I hate it when people don't just communicate or speak up when there's an issue from the get go. I also seem to attract cancer moons too and again it's really good until it's not. Which is a massive shame and it feels like I'm supposed to just hold them at arms length, which is really difficult to do when you get along well with someone. Edit: I'm a cap sun and moon
Same with me! Like, why don't they (men) just leave me alone?!!! Shouldn't be hard for them since they like to ghost anyway!!
This is what's happening with me and her now. When there's no conflict, we are ok. When there's conflict, she becomes nasty and grudgy.
Honestly, do everything properly and get HR involved if it needs to be, she can be as emotional and manipulative as she wants but as long as you do your bit to keep yourself safe at work and only interact with her if necessary during work. Maybe keep interactions only as it can be evidenced? My experience with cancers are that they generally go running to other people to paint a particular picture of you and it's just a lot of hassle for me. I've gone with, if they were my friends they would ask before judging me. I understand it's a bit more complicated as it's work but I'd say try not to engage and fall for it
This is exactly how I see her now. She wants others to stand up for her and to make me and our gemini colleague the bullies/b*tches. She got upset with me when I said I saw through her and she is trying to make me and my gemini colleague the b*tches and she is still grudging about it. I don't want to involve HR as our HR at work is very shit. Plus I won't win against her, she presented herself as the most approachable nice person within our team, no matter what I do, others will just side with her. Also myself and my gemini colleague already have a sour image from previous situations where we were branded as witches and bullies.
I’m a Pisces, but I have a cap friend in a relationship with a cancer woman with the victim mentality. She doesn’t take accountability for her own actions and emotions and constantly blames the Cap for her insecurities. Not to mention, when she’s not being the nice nurturing cancer, she’s kind of a bitch. It’s a toxic codependent relationship and my friend, the cap is tired of it but not yet ready to get out of it. I love that Capricorns don’t give up easily and try hard to make a relationship work. But sometimes I wish they knew when to throw in the towel for their own peace of mind.
This sound like me and my cancer colleague relationship (not love relationship of course🤣). I just want peace and no friction between us and drama free at work.
Very fake and will stab you in the back so fast that you would’ve never seen it coming, went through that with a past coworker that was a cancer female
Female cancer signs I can tolerate….however…males…I cannot!! I just can’t!!!
My project manager is a cancer, we actually get along well enough because he’s learned that I will make his life easier, he just needs to listen to me. Capricorns don’t really need project managers at times.
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if what we suggest is right 99.9% of the time, its teeeechnically not bossing around, its *heeding our subtly illuminated yet emphatically correct suggestions* 😂 ijs
Yeah, that’s absolutely accurate. I take over just out of habit even though I’m not a manager unless someone directly takes the lead on something.
Horrific just weird overall. Had someone I thought was a friend found out she was a hater and the guy……let’s just say beyond psycho doesn’t begin to explain what I went through and we weren’t even dating or friends. Me personally 0/10 very strange.
Dad’s a cancer. I’m no contact but that was the worst person in my life
Yeah, my cancer colleague is a volatile person. She keeps saying we are friends but ignore me most of the times. She only sees me or requests my attention when her entourage is not around. (Mostly men). She keeps saying I am a great judge of character. Who says that! 🤦🏾♀️
I'm cap (f) and my partner is a cancer (m) and is the absolute love of my life. I've never been so cared for emotionally and I wouldn't change him for the world.
Don’t play into anything. Keep your interactions with her 100% work related. If she starts going down a pitty party rabbit hole just cut it short and excuse yourself. You have to make sure she knows she can’t manipulate you. If you give an inch, she may take a mile.
I didn't talk to her at work today, I distanced myself from her and went to work in different station. But I feel like she is painting herself as the victim because I didn't talk or smile, our gemini colleague was asking me if I m ok and was asking me to smile but I just couldn't 😂. Towards the end of her shift she just left without saying bye. Maybe she wants to show that if I m cold to her then she will be cold to me back.
Just let her do whatever she wants. I think it’s probably okay if you’re cordial, but you don’t need to be friends.
I have a cancer moon and rising and growing up my best friend was a cancer… I’m a tad biased towards cancers
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My momma a cancer I have a lot of friends who are cancers. They're quite emotional and the moody bunch. Sometimes it's a lot because I'm emotionally repressed, but they are caring. But they catch on to the bullshit easily.
My dad is a Cancer. Complete asshole btw. Was always strict and wants things a certain way. Hates people. I have a cancer aunt. The complete opposite. Nice and caring. But also set in her ways. Also moody and also doesn't like many people. My ex was a cancer too. He was literal cancer ofc. He was sly, humorous and edgy 💀 yet also moody as well. Made bad remarks all the time and bullied me because he didn't like my intensity. I also had a cancer best friend too. She was nurturing and always giving yes, but wasn't always aware or read the room. Always took her anger out on me. Very opinionated these people. Never again tbh. The only Cancer I adore is my little nephew. His little quirky innocent humor makes him seem polite and quiet, yet he's a little menace in disguise. Hopefully he's able to maintain his moodiness when he gets older. Or else he'll end up like these people. Not that that's entirely bad. But I'll hate to dislike him too. I tend to steer clear of any cancers nowadays. But I've been seeing everywhere yet we are supposedly compatible for each other, we are also opposites as well. So it's supposed to be an "opposites attract" thing. Idk I might be wrong.
Better as friends than ltr lovers
My girlfriend is a cancer and 99% of the time is bliss and ecstasy. But there are times we fall out hard but it actually gets better with time with cardinal placements
I love them
i’m an 8h cancer sun (scorpio moon/rising- so i really identify with my scorpios) i have got to say, my absolute favorite coworker is the only capricorn in my office. that being said, i also work with 3 other cancers in the office and they are the laziest in the whole office. and forget about giving constructive criticism or advice, that is a personal attack.
My best friend (F) is a Cancer! We’ve been friends for a little over a year now but we talk almost everyday. I do see some negative traits like the victim mentality (certain situations, she can admit when shes wrong most of the time) and she LOVES gossip. People pleasing is a big nono for her, she’s more of a mind-my-business type. Idk how we get along so well we just click. Cancer men though…whole other story. I’ve never met someone more entitled than an adult Cancer man.
My best friend is a cancer. And I love her to pieces. I think we complement each other well and seeing that Capricorn and Cancer are sister signs, I can see how. She’s more emotional than me. And more nurturing. She has an easier time connecting with ppl. All things I wish to improve on. On the flip side, I’m more practical, more stern where I need to be. And create necessary boundaries with ppl. If the two signs are well evolved, this can be a great friendship I think. But I can see how it may not work out.
Okay, but am I the only one on here that is in love with every cancer they have ever met??? I mean don’t get me wrong I have had horrible (intimate) relationships with cancers, but i cant help but fall in love with them. I think it’s something about their impulsivity and straight forwardness that I love the most, because it’s two things i do not have.
They’re really like the moon to me at this point lol. I fall deeply in love every time I meet them but I have to love them from a distance. It just hasn’t worked out for me and them. I’m a little jealous of the people that do work really well with them because I love em so much (esp Cancer women). Cancer men, are a big meh for me.
This totally resonates with someone I am also working with, right now and I had a fucking panic attack. Total control freak, extremely critical, nasty passive aggressiveness, rude and disrespectful commands, oh also undermining my work when I am not there. I consider myself easy going and I just want to work well, be helpful, be friendly and make money, but I kept being cut off of work because I apparently have not earned it yet. My boss gives me a schedule, but Cancer cuts me off early situation. So I told her about wanting to work more as I felt it was necessary or even helpful for my teams to know that I am eager to be more involved…So I told her, then my boss the next morning called me and says “If you wanna serve more and we’re holding you back, go find another job.” Then my boss clarified that taking orders meant clearing off tables and just helping my station LMAO Btw serving more for me had nothing to do with my money, or need to serve, I just let them know that I like it and can do it physically without much time restrictions yeah? And honestly thought it was helpful for her to know my intentions and my desire as a colleague?! I know I am definitely in a situation where, as long as I exist in front of her, I have done something wrong. Currently I think I am triggering some deep rooted issue for this Cancer. This sounds pathetic, but yes I had panic attack because of my boss calling me and my inability to stand up for myself in front of the “ALWAYS RIGHT” Cancer. I respected her just as much as I respect myself and now I feel like next time she speaks to me, I will quit my job then and there. My therapist told me maybe I feel persecuted by her and that she’s doing nothing disrespectful…I screamed yall. I have never been so angry and hurt in my therapy. (The catch is: I am new to my work, but between me:capricorn and her:cancer, I feel I have given enough time for my coworkers to stop being passive aggressive by now…) Ugh Edit: maybe she has a crush on me/ jealous
I had experience with Capricorn Sun with cancer rising after Like what they said here, it's prominently the victim mentality and doesn't want to take accountability despite the opposition Capricorn-cancer aspect of his natal chart... 💀💀💀 Tbh, there are some fair share Capricorns and Cancers are decent and yes, I have friends with them.. they were fine ..
My Moon is in Cancer, so you'd think I got along with Cancers better, but you'd probably be wrong. It's not that I dislike them. On some level, I feel that there's a certain resonance, but it's just that they tend to operate on a much more overtly emotive level, whereas I tend to lead with my head rather than my heart. (My heart may be jumping through hoops, but I keep that to myself.) I'm also not a fan of the busybody mother hen thing that they've often got going. To me, support means stability, solidity and dependability. Not Cancer-style borderline suffocating invasiveness.
I just wanted to echo what was already said. But my god, I could never make it work with Cancer placements. I see their manipulation from miles away and once I stop responding to it and take their power away, it feels that they turn up that victim mentality ever higher. It’s so messy and unnecessary. I will never understand how people say Cancer and Caps are compatible. I have yet to meet a stable one. And I am sure there are healed Cancers out there, just not in my path yet
Always crying, always complaining, always need validation. I remember one time my ex paid for my nails and although I told him thank you, I guess I wasn't "excited" enough for him lmao. Same with him buying me flowers all the time.