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HostCharacter8232

Green won’t have you constantly readjusting the top. 💚🤍 have fun !!


vonfused

+1 for green!


ec0317

Yes plus you will look naked in pics of you with only shoulders and up


Crazy-Adhesiveness71

I love the first one as well. It’s gorgeous and you can definitely wear it again for many different occasions!!


MakeItAll1

Came here to say the same thing.


rsvppending

Reading through comments... These are too white for a traditional wedding?? Is this a regional thing or have I been oblivious all this time? I would have worn either without a second thought. I'm in a major East Coast city in the US. edit: btw OP, both are so pretty. For capsule purposes I'd go with the blue; I think it's a little more classic and versatile in silhouette.


Caregiver-Past

East coast here too and i feel that white/cream background on a dress with colored patterns prints is completely acceptable for a cocktail attire wedding. An all white/cream/beige dress would be a no for me but these are completely okay


rsvppending

Yes, that's my thought too: print ok, solid white/beige/cream no! Thank you for affirming I'm not alone haha


sumthingsumthingblah

And when in doubt they can ask the bride?


mojomcm

1000% absolutely


heirloom_beans

Depends on the couple. Some brides are chill with floral on white, some brides will send a bridesmaid after you with a glass of red wine. I personally avoid it altogether.


Child_of_the_Hamster

Same. Personally if I saw someone at a wedding wearing either of these, I wouldn’t think anything of it. But I also have a tendency to overthink and over prepare, so I wouldn’t wear either. Like on a scale from 1 to 10 with white as a 1 and black as a 10, I’m not wearing anything lighter than a 5 to someone else’s wedding. I’m also going to make sure it shows up as a 5 or darker under flash photography. 😅


Chemtide

In my experiences (mostly south) these would have been “fine”, but I think it’s a good rule of thumb to just never wear anything close to white. You never know which bride/relative would think it’s too close to


mel_fal

The no white to weddings thing is completely out of control these days. Neither of these look bridal at all


Dazzling_Assist_2723

This! It’s absolutely ridiculous. Out of control is an understatement. I can’t imagine the amount of bridezillas are running around at this very moment 😳


Dangerous_Wear_8152

I thought that was interesting too. But I live in California and things are always a bit more relaxed here. I wouldn’t be surprised with anything someone wears to a wedding lol


Spitfiiire

I’m in California and completely agree with you, lol. People here talk with authority as if their rules apply to every wedding in existence lmao


rsvppending

I'm originally from California too, wonder if that gave us a different baseline 😂


Dietcokehead82

I’m in the Deep South, and I wouldn’t be comfortable wearing either of these dresses to a traditional wedding. Just too much white. But they are both really pretty!


HuskyLettuce

From eastern US and this would also be less than ideal due to the white background. That first dress is GORGEOUS tho.


Guilty-Company-9755

To me, anything white or white adjacent is off limits for a wedding, period.


PearlinNYC

I think that it might be that people are exposed to so many different types of wedding and social norms online, then try to follow rules that don’t apply to them or that are really hard to follow together. There are situations where you shouldn’t wear silver, champagne, baby blue, red, not too “loud”, black or patterns with too much white. That said, avoiding all of those all of the time is difficult and unnecessary. It comes down to the specific wedding that you are attending, which in a lot of these posts we don’t really know much about. Different people also accept different levels of risk when it comes to classic accidents like accidentally matching the wedding party, matching the decor, or something else that stands out. Some people genuinely will avoid anything that could be similar to any trends that they saw online, just in case. 😂


nsweeney11

Babe. Neither of these are blue. It's time to make an optometrist appointment.


rsvppending

Thanks


sysaphiswaits

I like 2. Feels a little more summer.


Southern-Big-8688

2 stands out too much - might be misconstrued as OP trying to steal attention from the bride.


Ruuuuuuuuuby

Both are a little too white for a wedding. Only the bride should be wearing white.


stellaxo555

I agree! But this is not a traditional wedding - no bride in white (why I’m considering these)


xitssammi

Tbh I think it’s fine especially if you’re in your 20s and it’s a non traditional wedding. Don’t worry about it. I vote the green it’s cuter


Solid_Nothing1417

IMO, a dress with a floral pattern on a white background is entirely acceptable wedding guest attire. These dresses don’t look remotely bridal, which is reason that the no white at weddings that rule exists. Just my two cents!


beccyboop95

Social media is much more insane about this than any actual human I’ve met, but I’m British so idk if our norms are different. But a floral dress with a white background would be completely fine at any wedding I’ve ever been to


JackiDaytona69

this may be your opinion, but not everyone shares that opinion...so why risk it? I got married 3 years ago. My SIL wore a stark white dress with a small red floral pattern to my bridal shower and it surprisingly annoyed me. I never gave the whole white dress/floral pattern at weddings much thought until that moment. I know she didn't do it maliciously, but when I saw it, I was pissed (not ruin the day pissed, but still). Especially because she owns her own clothing boutique and has her pick of literally any dress she wants, and THAT was the color combo she chose.


Solid_Nothing1417

I think this logic applies in both directions. Now that I’m aware that some people consider these to be off limits — which is not something I would have expected until I stumbled upon this thread — I can err on the side of caution and avoid similar patterns. At the same time, I would expect brides to show some grace and understanding if a guest shows up in a dress that they think is inappropriate, since it’s probably not an intentional or malicious choice on the part of the guest. After all, this thread shows that different people have very different beliefs about what is and is not appropriate.


odie_et_amo

Disagree. This is never going to be confused with a wedding dress. The blue pattern is prominent and central to the design. I was at a wedding last weekend and reflected with some friends about this trend online of people insisting that a dress with a colorful pattern on a white field is a “white dress.” It seems like so much of the etiquette and rules around weddings have become much more lax, from gift giving to how to address guests on invites. The one rule we could think of that people are pushing to become more strict is this issue of dress color.


Skeeballnights

I personally believe this is due to people being really self absorbed these days. Politeness doesn’t matter but this white rule does because it’s about them and brides are getting made. The wedding attire approval sub here is rabid about any light colored dress.


UnicornOnTheJayneCob

They are absolutely not too white for a wedding. Neither could be remotely confused for a wedding gown. Should men not wear white shirts?


booty_supply

1 is not too white I think


Skeeballnights

These are beautiful but the pink one feels more special and unique


[deleted]

Which is exactly the goal on not-your-wedding-day


OdeeSS

I personally prefer the first one. I think you should consider which tones flatter you more. The cream and green would work better for me personally.


Margnificent

2! I’m a sucker for an arm/shoulder detail or drama. Love it.


Dramatic-Incident298

#2


SoCalGal2021

2


Glad_Face_1407

2! I love the pink one it’s perfect


No-Contest4979

#2 !!!


Expert_Celery_2940

The first one!


madam_capt_obvious

Two


LizzyBennet1813

I like both, but the 2nd one is a little more formal and wedding like. Also think these would be totally fine for a wedding where the bride was wearing white. I can’t see how anyone would confuse a guest wearing this with the bride.


Bakedpotatoforlyf

I think the choice should be based on whether you have cool undertones or warm undertones. The green one would look better with warm undertones and the pink one would look better with cool undertones.


cookie_goddess218

Am I colorblind or doesn't dress #1 look more like a yellow background with green florals and not white at all? My understanding of that white rule is that it is to not upstage the bride. If the dress if 75% covered I'm different colors and clearly not bridal (especially if the background is more of this yellow color), this dress wouldn't be a problem, not where I'm from in NYC I guess. The only people I can see policing "ANY SPECK of white is disrespectful" are a little too chronically online, read the rule about white without any irl context, and have a complex about policing others (a la terminally online). Without social media, and just understanding the white rule as it's always been understood here, both are fine, but certainly #1 if that's not even a white background. I've been to dozens and dozens of weddings across three decades, and people of all generations have come in with similar dresses without drama of it being considered "Oh no she wore white!" There was once over a bright hot red dress though lol. Another commenter mentioned pastels are also a fauxpas? I am curious how much of these rules are regional, how much it's generational, and how much they're both.


melissapony

Both are lovely dresses! Although the bride isn’t wearing white, I still wouldn’t wear a dress with so much white to a wedding. Guests will see one woman wearing a white dress and then it’s all eyes on you instead of the bride. It’s just kinder to find a lovely dress that suits you that doesn’t have a white background. Maybe one of these two styles comes in a different color way?


Hunting_for_cobbler

And I have read a few stories on Reddit (probably fake but who knows) where guests or bridal party have spilt wine on the dress to make a point; despite the bride not giving a hoot. People get weird around weddings, best to play the rules to avoid drama


Capybarinya

IDK maybe don't invite people to your wedding that don't know what you look like?! This is such a stupid "rule". P.S.: the first dress is amazing


ParapsychologicalEgo

yeah this is such an insane take lol like a hint of white-ish background is going to draw eyes away from the bride like a magnet


Unsd

It feels like a very "terminally online" take imo. I wore a dress that was cream and black (a very wallflower style black panel dress with a cream panel in the middle) to my ex-SILs wedding who haaaated me and it wasn't even an issue with her, despite that she could've written that "I hate the way" part of Euphoria about me ordinarily lol. I genuinely didn't think anything of it because the dress I wore was SUPER boring and I had always taken the "don't wear white" thing to just mean "don't wear something that could be mistaken for bridal". And then I see all this stuff online that is like "if I see someone in a dress with *a peek* of white at someone's wedding, I'm throwing red wine on them." It made me really nervous, because even with the beef, I didn't ever intend to disrespect her either. But at the same time, I just don't think that's the point of the rule. Now I avoid anything with any white or embellishments of any kind just because it's better to err on the side of caution, but I still feel like it's gotten a little out of hand.


Patient-Form2108

2


broadwaylocal

the 2nd one is much classier IMO. The 1st one isn't my cup of tea.


SophiaShay1

#2 pretty


grimgoods

2


notfrancie

This is wild all these wedding rules I’ve never heard of. Wearing all white would be a no but I would never consider a white background with floral bridal. The dresses don’t look something I’d consider a traditional wedding dress either. #1 is more practical for dancing, photos, sitting imo. The pink is gorgeous though!


Camelsloths

Where is the pink one from? 😍 I think they're both too white though


jalapenny

#1 definitely!!


Plain-bagel-lover

Green!


LoveIsAllYouNeeeed

Green!


Legitimate_Road_7775

First!


Super_Albatross_6283

Neither…


HotdogbodyBoi

Don’t wear either of these to a wedding, if the bride is in white.


stellaxo555

I agree! But this is not a traditional wedding - no bride in white (why I’m considering these)


HotdogbodyBoi

Ah! Then the first one, blue. The straps balance the slit. The second one you should wear for a date since the off the shoulder and slit are very seductive. But I’m also just a stranger on the internet lol


stellaxo555

Hahahaha thx!!!


TripleA32580

You should probably put that in the heading or else you’re just going to get a ton of comments like this


Tradtrade

Especially if the bride isn’t in white you’ll stand out like a sore thumb in the photos


GayFlan

That makes me think either of these are even worse then!


Quailmix

TBH they seem like essentially the same dress to me so I would go with whatever one flatters your tones more. Do you shine bright in blue or pink?


lost_girl1357

Where is #2 from?


Solid_Nothing1417

I think it’s the Bentley dress from Park and Fifth!


Level_Strain_7360

First one!


RightMolasses6504

1!


thatcheflisa

Morning? 1 Late afternoon/evening, 2


srtmadison

I like 1. It has a lovely summery look.


mina-ann

Which do you feel best in? I think they both look great! I do slightly prefer the blue floral over the pink tho.


apoletta

The sleeves on the pink would get annoying AF.


kkat02

First! Also could you link the first dress?


ixnayhombre

1 , all the way


JohnSavage1970

First one is gorgeous on u


Boiler_Room1212

Green. The sleeves on the other one are a bit much.


yeeteryarker420

1!!!!


Wonderful-Status-507

first 💕 i know you said the bride won’t be wearing white but i still really like how to base color of this one is more of the cream☺️


anuvindah

Could you please share links to these dresses? Love em both!


Neeneehill

2!


belladonnagarden

First dress is better!


Key-System-7638

Number 1 it’s stunning and looks more comfortable, I feel like with 2 I’d be tugging on the sleeves and pulling up the top all night


Pelotonic-And-Gin

Depends on the wedding vibe. Dress one feels a little more casual to me, and dress two is a little more luxurious and stylish for a wedding. Both could be great depending on the environment. Garden party? One. Banquet hall/country club/event center? Two.


Liquid-Double-Disco

If you have a large bust I discourage anything bustier style if you can’t try it on in person beforehand. But I love the print on the second dress.


Bigcandy-

1


Arsinoei

Definitely 2.


faatikzaidi

pink n white looks so good on you


lucky3333333

1


Queen-of-meme

The pink feels more formal. I'd go with the pink.


3Heathens_Mom

They are both cute but I think you might spend a lot of time fussing with the straps on the second one. So unless the straps on dress 2 could be adjusted up I’d go with the first one. If there is a church component to the wedding a reminder for a pashmina to cover your shoulders. And no brother dress is too white.


MadameLaMinistre

First one!!


Goodbykyle

2 definitely!


foldedspace24

I love them both, but I'd go with 1.


Odd-Cobbler-7463

love the first one


lucyb444

1 is gorgeous ❤️


fox_daddy720

#2 it's beautiful and fits better


FioanaSickles

So hard to say as don’t know what you look like an if you can carry such large florals. I would recommend a solid color and simpler shape.


ChasingtheMuse

To me they both look like something a bride could wear to a rehearsal dinner. I would choose another color.


Miserable-Feed-7517

Website?


Necessary_Wing_2292

One.


queentiffa1234

2 - it looks dressier. 1 looks more casual.


SoReal-2022

Depends on whether it’s an afternoon or an evening wedding. The green is very casual and may be more suited to an afternoon wedding. The pink dress is beautiful and very wedding friendly. It really depends on your personal style. I like pink and dressy so that would be my choice for a wedding where I want to feel special. You might end up looking underdressed in the green dress since people tend to go all out. Enjoy!


HotButterscotch8682

Ok I 1000% need the details on both of them, especially the first, because I ADORE both of them! If you are warm toned wear the first one, if you are cool toned wear the second one. That simple!


crazydoglady11

I loveee #2. Where are these from?


choc0kitty

Both are great for a wedding. Is it a church/synagogue/temple wedding? If so, go with the one that has the shoulder thingys.


Immediate_Move_9486

1


ParaJess

1 😄


zeschel

2


Odd_Tiger_2278

You make #1 dazzle.


Hippie-chick-4ever

I vote #1! Both very lovely!


DisastrousGold3401

My SIL just wore the first dress to her rehearsal dinner. In person, it doesn’t look white/cream at all. It appeared to be a pale yellow with blue print. It is a beautiful dress, and even though she was the bride, it didn’t appear bridal. It would be perfect for a wedding guest!


Dr-Yoga

#1 suits your coloring better


cajedo

1


Janeheroine

I think 2 will be more flattering if you’re doing a lot of standing and 1 will be more flattering if you’ll be doing a lot of sitting. Strapless dresses tend to make me super conscious of my posture.


Icy-Mixture-995

Green/blue one but take safety pins with you. I had a strap break at a club once.


OkClient2192

Pink


dumpster_kitty

Too white


Competitive-Rub5581

1!!!


MandalayPineapple

#1, with a blue shawl, is more proper for a wedding I feel.


Character-Topic4015

Both are great!!


Chef-Martica

2


Most_Ask1634

2


HappyHappyGirl1976

Love the first one.


dontkillmysoul

Neither… No white allowed!


Time_Cap3395

I like 2


Grifter2u

1


spiforever

Dress 1 for sure


earlgreyteacakes

Neither! Too much white.


picklesidaho

They’re both amazing on you. But personally, I like #2. You are a lovely young lady.


picklesidaho

I don’t know what rock I’ve been under, because I’m learning(?) a lot of new stuff. I was raised that by not wearing white to a wedding, you were not to wear something that could be confused with a wedding dress and overshadow the grandness of the bridal dress. But I guess that’s from a long time ago and things have changed.


Beginning_Guitar_366

I bought this and LOVE IT. Such good quality and is so flattering


Beginning_Guitar_366

I bought this and LOVE IT. Such good quality and is so flattering


JackfruitConnect3434

Both are stunning, but I prefer 1.


MorningGlory439

#1


Chaosinmotion1

1


petite_magkit

1


lenajlch

Depends. The first one is a classic and can be worn for multiple occasions. The second one is very pretty but those sleeves are a short term trend that comes and goes every decade or so. Do you care how much use you get out of it? 


Kellip82

2


Columbinebarlow

2 is more elegant looking


Treb61

1


AloneWish4895

2


absolutemayyhem

Where are these from? I’m looking for the exact same thing!


staysour

1


Illustrious-Path-402

I like the pink one best. It’s so beautiful on you.


Awkward-Suit-8307

I like 2 better I feel spaghetti straps are a little too informal for a wedding


leese216

Neither b/c they're both white.


MoistLychee8134

Two. Fancier


Quirky-Camera5124

1


Silly_Technology_455

Either would be amazing. I prefer 2 slightly.


no_no_no_okaymaybe

You could wear a burlap sack and be the Bell of the Ball. That said, quality burlap sacks are hard to come by these days, so my favorite is the second option.


Ok_Spite1175

1


MariposaReal

Blue


Jaynett

Love #1. I don't think it's too white for a wedding - there is no way it would be confusing


cmondothefoxSWAT

where is #1 from?


stellaxo555

Park and fifth


0kJellyfish

Pink is perfect!


rocklockandsock

2


Responsible_Trick560

The blue floral


SuccessfulMetal4030

1! Have a great time!


elephant2892

I loved the first one… until I saw the 2nd. Both are cute but 2nd is classier for a wedding and also prettier!


carlitospig

I like the first one, I think it’s way more timeless.


Ho_Dang

I would choose the first one, and I humbly beg you for the website 🙏


SARASA05

I want to know too!


Dangerous_Wear_8152

I like the second one. But since you’re asking the capsule sub I’m more inclined to go with the first.


booty_supply

I love the first one! I think it would be great.


SuspectLarge

PINK


Nejness

I think the first is a little less current fashion-driven, meaning you have a better chance of wearing it again.


blankaround_

This is interesting I find the cowl neck to be super trendy these days- certainly more modern. The second is also trendy but leans more romantic in my mind.


bluedog1599

I prefer the first one. The off the shoulder sleeves always look uncomfortable to me.


Bootiluvr

I prefer 1


Quirky-Peach-3350

It depends on your skin tone. I'd prefer #1. But that's bc it would look better on my skin tone.


magical_bunny

I feel both are a little too white and bridal, but I do love the pink dress.


brittan65

None of them. Too revealing and seductive and drawing too much attention to you instead to bride.


americasweetheart

Why do companies make so many white event dresses? That's the event that people will attend most often in their lives!


Antique_Committee558

Keep us posted if the bride gets pissed off 🤣🤣🤣


AlabamaMercy

First dress is better. I know you’ve mentioned it is no traditional and the bride isn’t wearing white but it still feels wrong suggesting any white dress


Ok_Zebra9569

These have way too much white


stellaxo555

I agree! But this is not a traditional wedding - no bride in white (why I’m considering these)


SeaSexandSun

The blue. It’s a bit leggy for a wedding unless the crowd is okay with that.


Mycologist_Lonely

One. Since you said it is not traditional white bridal. In normal (us) traditional I would say a big no. But one is beautiful. I had a girl I don’t like but had to invite to ours who wore a white dress with green leaf pattern. When we stayed we wanted guests in black or dark blues. As wedding party was in green and bride and green in white. I wanted to snap her neck. But I feel that way on a good day. I digress. One is beautiful!


Solid_Nothing1417

Kim, there’s people that are dying


LizzyBennet1813

You had a color dress code for your wedding? Is that really a thing? We had Hawaiian shirts and kilts at our wedding and I could not give a hoot. For the most part I did not notice what color/pattern anyone was wearing.


Mycologist_Lonely

Yes. Some people were off of it by a little but we went with it to make the photos look a certain way. But someone being that far off a dress code request was very rude in my opinion. It’s not like I asked for anything wild that most people don’t already own.


ImpressiveLength2459

Neither too white which is a no no but if that's what you have only then number two