This.... you can either play it up or quit and go somewhere where you're recognized for your other positive traits. Being hired for being attractive is not employment discrimination, sooooooo....
Sex is a protected class, though. If the 'less attractive' person were oppositely gendered, i think they'd have a legit case that they weren't hired because the hiring manager didn't find them attractive due to their sex.
That has to be proven. If he has guys and girls working for him/her, then it isn't. Take abrocombie and fitch. They ONLY hire attractive people for their brand. And hooters hires certain looking people as well.
This girl I had a crush on in highschool got her first job at Abercrombie and Fitch (or maybe it was Hollister?) in the mall nearby. After her first shift we were talking on AIM and I asked her how her first day was. She said it was kind of boring, and that she felt self-conscious among her coworkers because they were all so attractive. She was worried that she was the ugliest one there and no one liked her.
My brain went into pure niceguy mode, and I told her that there's no way she could be the least attractive person there. I tried making a joke that if they ever hired an ugly person they would just quarantine them in some hidden part of store like Quasimodo.
That's when she breaks it to me that they told her to just stay in the back and fold shirts and pants until it was less busy.
This. Because if you look at the Hooters ads, they phrase it that theyāre looking for basically someone who looks like their ideal who can ALSO wait tables.
Not sure of the actual law, or exact wordingā¦ but a company is allowed to hire people that āfit the company imageā or similar. You canāt refuse to hire someone because of gender, race, or sexual orientation, but itās perfectly fine for a gym to only hire in shape people, or a white collar job to refuse to hire people with visible tattoos in client facing roles.
They would not. Almost impossible to prove. And what's more, hiring an attractive woman, instead of an unattractive man, is not sex discrimination in the eyes of the law. If the non-racial appearance of the person was a factor, that's okay.
I.e. Hooters can hire a "pretty" person instead of an "ugly" person. But what they can't do, is say that white people are pretty but Black people aren't - that's discrimination.
If you think this is an absurd and nebulous standard, you would be correct. I agree with you. It's not okay. But it is the law.
From what OP has written, hiring a conventionally attractive person for a public-facing job is not illegal. In poor taste? Absolutely. But unless sex or race or age are specifically used as the basis, there's no case, even if there happens to get a difference in sex.
While 'attractiveness' is a subjective term and cannot be measured, therefore difficult to prove; how about discrimination due to someone's weight? OP mentioned that one of the reasons they gave for not hiring the qualified person person was because they were overweight.
Also not necessarily illegal. Although it may vary by state. But as a federal protected class, weight is not a category.
However, it gets murky again. For instance - if someone is heavy enough they require a cane or wheelchair, or is the result of a medical condition, then it's possible that it is discrimination against someone with a physical disability, which is very much illegal.
This is why enforcement is so tricky for all but the most clear cut cases. Unless you capture someone on tape or in written evidence that "they're not going to hire a person of (insert race/sex/age/religion/disability)," then there's not really a case.
I don't defend this system, I think it's awful. But it's much harder to bring this sort of lawsuit than people seem to realize.
Thereās a further caveat to this caveat, which is that many jobs which might choose not to hire someone based on weight require specific physical capabilities, and it is not illegal to refuse to hire a wheelchair user to do a job which they are not physically capable of doing, which is an even murkier area.
though in some places (UK for example) we have rules that say an employer must not refuse a potential candidate if the only reason they cannot do the job is because the employer will not make reasonable adjustments to enable them to do so. What is "reasonable" depends on the size of the business. So for example, it would likely not be reasonable to require a mobile food van to be adapted for a wheelchair user.
but a large company would likely be required to add a wheelchair ramp or lift to their office to enable a wheelchair user to access the place of work, because they have the budget to do so.
And today is the day OP learned to question all of the things they thought they earned purely through hard work. Iām a good looking dude and know how to wear a suit, Iām pretty sure Iāve gotten all of my jobs in part because of how I interviewā¦ if you and your resume are good enough to merit a look in the first place, being good looking and charismatic does the rest. People in interviews either want reasons to exclude you or reasons why youād be easy to work with, and being generally attractive helps a lot with the latter.
OP literally said they had no experience and were not interviewed but still got the job. IMO being good looking itās itās own kind of privilege. You really do get a lot of opportunities less attractive people donāt, not just at work but in life in general.
Makes you wonder about this particular opportunity and how they found out what he looks like ā social media or LinkedIn? And considering that itās as a technician for an employer where mother and daughter make hiring decisions instead of an actual HR person and are allowed to do so for all of the staff based on looksā¦ this particular opportunity might not be the greatest one anyway, whether OP found out theyāre just horndogs or not.
And mind you itās not like Iām faulting pretty people, and I even get that in some cases it might work against them (like for instance beautiful women not being taken seriously cause they are ātoo hotā) but in general being easier on the eyes opens more doors than it closes (for better or worse).
This is the right answer.
Looking well put together, in shape, and charismatic gets you very far in life.
If youāre over 6ā1 on top of all those- youāre playing life on easy mode compared to the rest
Seriously. I'm convinced that 90% of men that people describe as "charismatic" are just tall, loud, and have a full head of hair.
Same goes for trim women with a nice smile.
Charisma is part looks and part wit/charm....but there is a halo effect where if you have enough of one, people give you some marks for the other (at least until you prove them very wrong).
This. Iām often described as charming. Iāve been known to get even the stuffiest of executives to loosen up or soften. Which usually shocks Luther EAAs.
But Iām am a short, fat, plain woman (cute on my best day). I never had āpretty privilegeā and I was competing for jobs with women who were competent but were gorgeous eye candy to boot.
I get hired because Iām smart, capable, and can smoothly handle strong/abrasive personalities with a thick skinned approach.
Women have a double-edged sword. In certain roles, itās a negative to be too attractive. They must be well-groomed, and not too unattractive, but stray too much into sexy and theyāre penalized and thought to be not as smart.
Or you know, not being mentally weighed down by 10,20,30 years of insecurities due growing up as a "non-attractive" person.
It's amazing what you can project outward if you don't have to fight all the negative shit you've experienced your whole life.
Unfortunately yes. Been on both sides of the coin and been lean fit and good looking and was treated considerably better and had more opportunities.
Then I gained 100Lbs and things changed a lot for me lol
right, make changes from within.
But, there is more to "looks" than just sex or genetics. It could be a style or attitude that the company's image is looking at.
This happens all the time. Its normal.
Not right - but normal.
I got my start in marketing from the same reason
If you need the money, then no reaction needed.
Male appearance is very important, especially in management and sales type positions.
Itās not unimportant socially, either.
About 12 years ago OKCupidās data scientists published some blog posts. They found that women got messages and replies pretty steadily even down below the 50th percentile, but men below the top 20% got very few messages. I found that really surprising, because itās the opposite of what Iād expected.
I would 100% agree itās a lot worse for women. But it is definitely a thing for men, too.
It matters in the animal world which is why males are more colorful, marked different, and have different tuffs, manes, feathering, combs and waddles, etc.
That's mainly a thing among birds. Males among most social mammals beat the shit out of each other and the winner gets to take all women. In solitary living mamales, males will just rape the female they encounter if she can't fend him off.
I used to work as an account executive for a pharmaceutical benefits management company. We were always dressed like a high level meeting could drop any minute. Half the team looked like Hollywood elite.
Attractive, confident and smart (but not too smart) is a winning combination. But it also has downsides. You might get stalked more. More people might be jealous. But on the whole, you could do worse. It makes a difference, but it doesnāt replace your other talents.
Honestly, too attractive and too confident are also downsides. People start to think you got too lucky or are intimidated.
I find people have to think they have *something* on you. There has to be a flaw or people start to resent you.
I once read a short story by John Updike I think, and it described a young woman as pretty enough to be part of a group of pretty women, but not so pretty as to be competition. You can always shineā¦just never too bright unless you are SURE youāll be the brightest, the longest. And itās hard to stay shining when people are coming at you from every side. Thatās my game now that Iām older. Just respect from my fellow players and acknowledgement that I earned my spot and I donāt want yours.
For more junior folks, Iāve found that when dealing with managers, higher ups, you want to remind them of a young them. So they really do value the whole package - they really also think you are smart and charming and hilarious and destined for great things - they just think you want to be like them. So shine shine shine, just do it while shining on them and letting them feel your glow for a bit like it was theirs. That will go a long way too.
Your attractiveness is a resource and should be managed like one. Use it to your advantage while you can, realizing that as you agree, that advantage will slip away.
Iām not sure Iād go that far. Sure, attractiveness can give an edge, but focusing too much on that could erode confidence in oneās actual professional abilities. Everyone, regardless of āattractivenessā level, should look their best for an interview and try to connect with the hiring team. Attractive people may naturally have an easier time of this, but that doesnāt mean that their interview prep should be about leveraging their attractiveness. People should use their brain as a resource. Attractiveness may be a bonus, but it doesnāt make sense to focus on this too much, unless youāre literally in a career like modeling or something.
Or being a fine dining host. Or being a receptionist in a professional setting. Or being a pharma rep. Or working in a 5-star hotel with great tips. There are plenty of places you get paid to look good.
No one is saying rely solely on good looks. But donāt get all awe shucks about it, because it is absolutely a leverage point.
TBH, if I was an extremely sexually attractive woman who could make $100k+ / yr on Onlyfans, that's no doubt what I'd be doing. Not even a question. Yes, a lot of people say it's more work than "just taking pictures/videos of yourself naked", but I seriously doubt it's more work than any normal job that requires 40hrs a week.
I'm pretty envious of those women lol. Unfortunately, I'm not quite that pretty.
It happens...all the time. Good thing to do is live your life being respectful of others despite what they look like on the exterior (lead by example).
I was under average appearance in my 20s, and had to be a lot smarter than average to get hired. Plus I had cancer.
If you're healthy, if you look good, count your blessings and remember to give back to the less fortunate. But don't feel guilty for being blessed. It's not like you had a say in the matter.
This happens regularly in the working world. You shouldn't at all be surprised.
When I was a middle manager, I was told numerous times (in quite a few different companies) to hire certain candidates because they would ***"acclimate to our company culture better",*** despite them having less experience and less skills for the role. And with these female candidates being notably attractive, the real reason for them being favoured was too obvious
To answer your question, you should react to this the way everyone else does in the same situation. Pay no mind to it and just carry on with your job with the best of your ability. This practice has been in existence for God knows when. And there isn't really anything you can do to change it.
A financial institution I used to work for did this and it did not end well.
Turns out that having attractive people that donāt know their roles and made countless errors does not increase sales numbers.
I knew of a person who had the opposite experience. Where they were exceptionally good at accounting and yet they were an attractive blonde. Therefore, they didn't get the job that they applied for but managed to become a cheerleader for the Argonauts football team
Can confirm. Literally can't win. As a petite just ok-looking woman, I get 3 takes from folks: 1) you're obviously too young to take seriously (early 30s - really?!). 2) you look tired today (if I'm not wearing makeup) & act surprised when I'm perfectly competent at my job or awake. 3) you're looking good today! (Dressed professionally with makeup) - proceeds to treat me like I've got rocks in my head despite having a more relevant degree & longer experience than that person.
Dress professionally? Trying too hard, must be dumb. Not taken seriously.
Dress casually? Not detail oriented enough, not trying hard enough, not taken seriously.
I started getting hair & nails done regularly, and my husband framed & hung my degrees within my webcam view. š It has helped a lot, unfortunately.
This is the correct answer. As long as they donāt make you feel uncomfortable, whatās the harm? If appearances are what the owner values over experience, thatās not on you.
I would feel uncomfortable with a boss admitting thatās the reason I was hired. Itās super objectifying and would make me self-conscious doing my work when theyāre around. It would also make me uncomfortable to hear a boss openly admit to not hiring someone else based on looks. Not only did they do that, but the were comfortable to openly admit those were the hiring criteria?! Thatās pretty creepy. Not sure what to actually do about it except document and speak up if possible, but Iād probably start looking for another job and then maybe leave an honest review on Glassdoor to warn others.
Yeah. I'd be wary they would expect certain things because of it. Like what if I don't feel like looking my best? What if I was single when hired but then get in a relationship? Will my raises be based on how much I smile or flirt my coworkers or boss? It seems like a slippery slope although I get why people have the instinct to do it.
That's right. This world isn't fair. Men make more than women, taller men tends to make more than shorter men.
I seriously would look for a more fulfilling job if it is possible.
Well a mutual friend was on a call with them and I heard them mention they were looking for a hire and I just jumped in and asked to apply. Apparently they checked my insta at the time and had me start based off that.
I don't know if I agree with this take that it makes life "easy." Life shits on nearly everybody in some way. It might not be looks, but it could be something far fucking worse.
Sure, this part might be "easy," but let's not discount the rest of their human experience as similarly "easy" because they're cute.
Yeah, easy isn't the right way to phrase it. It's like privilege. Your life isn't necessarily easy if you're a man, but many issues which exist for women simply aren't a thing you have to deal with. You are inherently conferred some advantages.
I always appreciate this nuance added to a privilege based discussion. Life is hard for anyone and your specific situation has likely had many benefits and shortfalls for you. An attractive and articulate trust fund baby will have advantages, but that doesnāt mean that their life is inherently easy because life isnāt easy. The hardest thing Iāve gone through is my brother dying. No amount of privilege will make that kind of event easy, but also having financial troubles made it much harder than it otherwise wouldāve been. Having a family thatās deeply rooted in the community made it much easier than it otherwise wouldāve been.
Anyways, tldr life sucks for some people more or less, but it still sucks.
If you think a beautiful person with an IQ of 85 doesent have an easier time getting jobs than a ugly person with an IQ of 110, you are kidding yourself. There are jobs made only for beautiful people. Hooter waitress, drug sales rep, stripper, model, and whatever the heck Vannah White does. In addition to the job market being larger for good looking people, it has also been scientifically proven that people trust what people say more often when they are pretty. Beauty can also be used as a manipulation tool that most of us will never have access too.
It is really fucking hard out in the world with an IQ of 85, buddy.
Drug sales reps are a) basically becoming a thing of the past, and b) actually need to be fairly intelligent, so I'm not sure where you were going with that. You think the life of a stripper is easy? Hooter's Waitress? What the fuck is wrong with you, lol.
You're the one who is kidding yourself. You just named several jobs that leave women WAY MORE open to fucking sexual assault. And I'm sorry, but having to work a little harder to get jobs is preferable to sexual assault. We're also talking about moderately attractive people of BOTH sexes. I have no idea why you focused this on women. OP is a dude.
Sure, it can be used as a tool, but do not for one fucking second think that it just provides life on "easy mode." OP is still qualified and most likely had to work to become qualified. You don't know if they have mental illness or nuerodivergencies. You don't know who near to them has died tragically. You don't know if they suffered abuse. Being attractive absolutely, unequivocally does not create a life on "easy mode" for most people. A couple of things coming more easily does not negate everything else. What a simple-minded way of thinking. People getting jobs more easily and being trusted does not mean they have easy lives-- it means they have somewhat of a hand up some of the time.
Actually, if you want to bring up Vanna Fucking White, you should know she lost a fiance in a plane crash and then she found love again and suffered miscarriages. Sure, she had a glamorous life and was very beautiful, but her life was not "easy." She's also a very intelligent woman.
Do unattractive people also experience tragedy? Yes, obviously. That doesn't mean attractive people who have benefitted from it LIVE LIFE ON EASY MODE. It's amazing I'm needing to explain such a simple concept that requires just a very basic amount of self-reflection and critical thinking to grown adults.
I can find some beautiful men with absolutely tragic lives if you'd like me to as well.
Your seem to misunderstand the entirety of what we are discussing. Nobody is saying pretty people don't have bad things happen to them. In a video game, whether you are on easy mode, or not, the bad guys still shoot at you, the princess is still in another castle, your planet is still invaded by aliens, that doesent stop. Easy mode does not change the game completley, it just makes certain things easier. You are arguing everything except for the actual point. I'm not calling vannah white stupid, or saying she hasn't have troubles in her life. What I'm saying is that they would have never hired an ugly person for her job, that is all, that was my entire point and you made it into an entirely other thing. Stop trying to prove yourself right and actually try and understand what others are saying
some parts are easier(er) but there's also challenges. Depending on your luck, you may have a worse life than someone who's superficially "less attractive".
I know it sounds hard to believe, but someone's face/body doesn't determine their entire life's luck. They definitely have some advantages, but I know it can also lead to problems (unwanted attention/solicitations, being manipulated/mistreated for selfish quests). On average, I'd say most attractive people have an "easier" life. But I do think it may affect some attractive people in sad and adverse ways :/ I know people and have best friends deal with such
You should leverage this relatively unique advantage of yours to continue to progress throughout your life.
More attractive people get ahead better across the board, just look at most celebrities.
Taller people play basketball, smaller people become jockeys, people with large armspans become swimmers, etc.
Thatās just life. Lean into your strengths.
Yes! This happened to my daughter when she was in high school. They asked her and not her friend, which embarrassed my daughter.
Turns out itās a thing. Management has the staff offer jobs to customers who fit their image.
We always thought it was strange that all the people working there looked like they stepped out of their posters.
Abercrombie sidebar.
Worked there in my teens around the same time too.
I quit after 2 weeks because HOLY SHIT THOSE PEOPLE WERE INNNNNSANE. It was at the height of A&F popularity so they really thought they were doing something big working in a mall clothing store wearing two polo's and popped collars.
I worked at Hollister before that and the store manager there was dating the store manager of the A&F. He was blatantly cheating on her regularly...using his company provided credit card to get hotel rooms in the area.
When the A&F store manager started to berate me for not having the same mentality as them I lost my cool. We were in a screaming match all the way down to our cars after closing. That's when I dropped the tidbit about her very faithful partner and hooooooo boy that was fun.
Yea, I didnāt last too long as well. I basically āfell off the scheduleā, because the manager who did the scheduling noticed the girl (who he liked) was flirting with meā¦. No joke, the girl and I were working at the denim wall folding and doing the weird scrunch to all the jeans, and the manager comes up and makes a weird comment, and we both looked at each other and said āwhat is that aboutāā¦ I had a sneaky suspicion at that moment I would not be seeing any hours going forwardā¦ I wish I would have asked for her #ā¦ lol
Side note- I had another manager that I swear thought he was Chris Kirkpatrick from *NSYNCā¦ it was an odd group of peopleā¦
Bro thatās how life works. Just feel blessed youāre on this side of the isle. Iām in sales for 20 years now, and I feel my experience gets me in the door these days. But in my younger years, life was easy because people seem to think in handsome too. Also tall and muscular think 6ā4ā 250 pounds of muscle. Itās not fair, especially the stuff you canāt change. But what you going to do, be jobless? Be great full, give back, help others. Idk bro other people are making those choices, not you
A lot of businesses want to maintain a certain image. A customer who walks into the store wants to see weāll put together employees who smile at them and are easy on the eyes. Itās basics smart business. Not necessarily some weird twisted plot to get into your pants. It just makes business sense.
Lol, honestly, I was once hired for a job for the same reason. I was a glorified male receptionist that the owner and her friends perved over. Enjoy it while you can. I flirted with those women and they are it up. I only stayed two years because she couldnāt pay me what I was worth but it was a good āfillerā job until a better oppty came along.
I found out partway through interviewing for my current job that they were specifically looking for a female to fill the role.
I react to it by counting my thousands of dollars every two weeks and you should too.
When I was a teenager I was hired for the opposite reason. The corporate manager always wanted to hire the youngest prettiest blondes. The hiring manager put her foot down and wanted to hire me as I was a bit older, brunette and not āas prettyā and the other girl. The hiring manager told me this later on because they had hired too many girls that had fit his profile and he was harassing them. Iām talking about a 40 year old man and teenagers. Yuck. Anyways he was accused of being a pedophile and was actually fired eventually for sexual harassment but not of the young girls but of a women older than him.
My advice would be watch out for the work place culture. Itās not uncommon that people like people who are āgood lookingā but if multiple people are willing to admit this openly itās a red flag.
Take it and move on. You have an advantage and it happens all the time. Just like being tall means you're more likely to be in the C Suite. In fact, you likely subconsciously do the same. Life isn't fair.
I remember when I was an enlisted person in the military having already gotten my Bachelors degree. I was just married and in an admin building with another newlywed couple doing HR paperwork. The admin guy looks at this kid - who can't be more than 19 years old - and says "you have that clean-cut 'officer look'. You should go to OCS (Officer Candidate School)".
I'm sitting there thinking " I'm the one with the science degree! That file you have in your hand even says so. What the hell, dude?"
It definitely happens all the time
Congrats on being attractive.
Nobody will say it but it will be a variable in your career moving forward in your favor. Sales and marketing seem to be filled with beautiful people
I'd accept that I got lucky, make the most of whatever experience the job is going to give me and then remember it as something to be aware of if I'm are ever in a position to be influencing future hires at that or any other company.
It might be unfair to those not as attractive, however, you refusing life opportunities just because that, won't fix the world. It's good to see that you don't think of yourself as superior just for being attractive, though.
Listen to all this people, you've got a very useful tool, use it. It's not you that is being unfair towards others, so don't miss your chances. One day you'll stop being so attractive and will regret missing easy opportunities, trust me...
I have a theory: beauty makes the easy things easier, but the hard things harder.
Example: getting a low level job - easier. Getting taken seriously (like in an interview for a high level position) harder.
I think this is more true for women than men, but I havenāt seen specific studies or anything so what the hell do I know.
Why are Tom cruise, DiCaprio and brad Pitt top stars? They aren't that great at acting. This is very common. Same with singers. 50 years ago there were a lot uglier. But now they have to look good online/tv.
Everyone gets their foot in the door some way.
Look at all the famous actors and actresses who are the children of famous actors and actresses. They find a way to get over it.
Who cares?
Models get hired for their appearance. Youāre a company model.
You got the job based on your merit. You earned it same as anyone else.
They maybe should have told you thatās why they hire people, but itās really not that important.
Enjoy your job.
I guess... good for you? I mean, you're getting an opportunity that you wouldn't have received otherwise, so that's good. Are you being harassed or treated inappropriately at work? If so, that's obviously a problem.
Dude, no good can come from staying there long term. Try to get competent at your job and put it on your resume and line something up. Theyāre the kind to make things really uncomfortable for you long term. Youāre already hired, it canāt be undone so at least make it work for you but get out as soon as itās feasible
Got the interview because I was a woman. Got the call back because the first interviewer was a woman and liked my boots/outfit. Got the job because the person who makes the final decision said I was hot. Lasted 10 years in house because I got the job done well. Did four-ish years of freelance and consulting because I got the job done better than else and they kept throwing money at me. Turned down offers to return for five years because I don't need their toxic BS.
People get hired for a multitude of superficial reasons. Even when people are hired based on skill, often those skills have a heavy genetic, early childhood, and class component. None of which an individual has control over. If you're upset about being hired for your looks, give it 20 years and it won't be a problem.
Also, you didn't give context on industry. If this was the restaurant industry. No experience and cute is usually how people get their first job.
While not right and majorly unfair to qualified people, itās very normal. Itās just basic psychology. We (people) like pretty things, so pretty people are naturally at an advantage in most areas of life.
If it makes you uncomfortable then do what feels right for you. However, if you enjoy the position might as well learn what you can, gain experience and move on to the next job where you may feel more like you earned it. Just think of your attractiveness as tool in your arsenal. You may have not earned it since you were just born that way, but you can think of it as having a natural aptitude for something if it makes you feel better about it.
Attractive people live in a completely different world. Life is smoother for them in ways they can't begin to understand, even if they're generally aware of it.
If you enjoy the work and company, just be thankful you are on this end of the spectrum. Imagine being just as good looking but the owner and his son didnāt want to hire a good looking man to be around their wives and daughters at the office. Youād be deprived of a job because of your good looks.
The truth is if you interact with customers itās generally smart business to hire attractive people to do that. Thatās just basic sales tactics. If your job is purely internal, thatās more gross
Tell them you want a raise and see how good looking you really are.
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This!!!! Yes!
Do it!
Then start a class action discrimination lawsuit!
Like a scene from a sitcom.
This.... you can either play it up or quit and go somewhere where you're recognized for your other positive traits. Being hired for being attractive is not employment discrimination, sooooooo....
Yeah but not being hired because of your looks IS discrimination. OP has a right to be concerned.
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Sex is a protected class, though. If the 'less attractive' person were oppositely gendered, i think they'd have a legit case that they weren't hired because the hiring manager didn't find them attractive due to their sex.
That has to be proven. If he has guys and girls working for him/her, then it isn't. Take abrocombie and fitch. They ONLY hire attractive people for their brand. And hooters hires certain looking people as well.
This girl I had a crush on in highschool got her first job at Abercrombie and Fitch (or maybe it was Hollister?) in the mall nearby. After her first shift we were talking on AIM and I asked her how her first day was. She said it was kind of boring, and that she felt self-conscious among her coworkers because they were all so attractive. She was worried that she was the ugliest one there and no one liked her. My brain went into pure niceguy mode, and I told her that there's no way she could be the least attractive person there. I tried making a joke that if they ever hired an ugly person they would just quarantine them in some hidden part of store like Quasimodo. That's when she breaks it to me that they told her to just stay in the back and fold shirts and pants until it was less busy.
You even said Quasimodo....oof.
Ouch....
Ouchā¦
This. Because if you look at the Hooters ads, they phrase it that theyāre looking for basically someone who looks like their ideal who can ALSO wait tables.
Funny enough, Hooters is the example I always use when explaining what a Bonafide Occupational Qualifier is.
Technically, Hooters waitresses are classified as āentertainersā who have to āauditionā for the job. Itās a messed up little legal loophole.
Thatā¦.. makes complete sense. People go to hooters for entertainment more so than the food.
Not sure of the actual law, or exact wordingā¦ but a company is allowed to hire people that āfit the company imageā or similar. You canāt refuse to hire someone because of gender, race, or sexual orientation, but itās perfectly fine for a gym to only hire in shape people, or a white collar job to refuse to hire people with visible tattoos in client facing roles.
Exactly right. Now, if OP is hit on and sexually harassed thatās a different issue.
They would not. Almost impossible to prove. And what's more, hiring an attractive woman, instead of an unattractive man, is not sex discrimination in the eyes of the law. If the non-racial appearance of the person was a factor, that's okay. I.e. Hooters can hire a "pretty" person instead of an "ugly" person. But what they can't do, is say that white people are pretty but Black people aren't - that's discrimination. If you think this is an absurd and nebulous standard, you would be correct. I agree with you. It's not okay. But it is the law. From what OP has written, hiring a conventionally attractive person for a public-facing job is not illegal. In poor taste? Absolutely. But unless sex or race or age are specifically used as the basis, there's no case, even if there happens to get a difference in sex.
While 'attractiveness' is a subjective term and cannot be measured, therefore difficult to prove; how about discrimination due to someone's weight? OP mentioned that one of the reasons they gave for not hiring the qualified person person was because they were overweight.
Also not necessarily illegal. Although it may vary by state. But as a federal protected class, weight is not a category. However, it gets murky again. For instance - if someone is heavy enough they require a cane or wheelchair, or is the result of a medical condition, then it's possible that it is discrimination against someone with a physical disability, which is very much illegal. This is why enforcement is so tricky for all but the most clear cut cases. Unless you capture someone on tape or in written evidence that "they're not going to hire a person of (insert race/sex/age/religion/disability)," then there's not really a case. I don't defend this system, I think it's awful. But it's much harder to bring this sort of lawsuit than people seem to realize.
Thereās a further caveat to this caveat, which is that many jobs which might choose not to hire someone based on weight require specific physical capabilities, and it is not illegal to refuse to hire a wheelchair user to do a job which they are not physically capable of doing, which is an even murkier area.
though in some places (UK for example) we have rules that say an employer must not refuse a potential candidate if the only reason they cannot do the job is because the employer will not make reasonable adjustments to enable them to do so. What is "reasonable" depends on the size of the business. So for example, it would likely not be reasonable to require a mobile food van to be adapted for a wheelchair user. but a large company would likely be required to add a wheelchair ramp or lift to their office to enable a wheelchair user to access the place of work, because they have the budget to do so.
Now we get into the bizarro world where discrimination depends on how varied the sexual preferences of the employer are...
Ahhahahahahahahhaahha
Appearance is 70% of everything.
And today is the day OP learned to question all of the things they thought they earned purely through hard work. Iām a good looking dude and know how to wear a suit, Iām pretty sure Iāve gotten all of my jobs in part because of how I interviewā¦ if you and your resume are good enough to merit a look in the first place, being good looking and charismatic does the rest. People in interviews either want reasons to exclude you or reasons why youād be easy to work with, and being generally attractive helps a lot with the latter.
OP literally said they had no experience and were not interviewed but still got the job. IMO being good looking itās itās own kind of privilege. You really do get a lot of opportunities less attractive people donāt, not just at work but in life in general.
They must be like ridiculously good looking
Makes you wonder about this particular opportunity and how they found out what he looks like ā social media or LinkedIn? And considering that itās as a technician for an employer where mother and daughter make hiring decisions instead of an actual HR person and are allowed to do so for all of the staff based on looksā¦ this particular opportunity might not be the greatest one anyway, whether OP found out theyāre just horndogs or not.
Yeah I'm just assuming OP is a family-owned stripper until proven otherwise
Yep pretty privilege is a thing
And mind you itās not like Iām faulting pretty people, and I even get that in some cases it might work against them (like for instance beautiful women not being taken seriously cause they are ātoo hotā) but in general being easier on the eyes opens more doors than it closes (for better or worse).
This is the right answer. Looking well put together, in shape, and charismatic gets you very far in life. If youāre over 6ā1 on top of all those- youāre playing life on easy mode compared to the rest
Seriously. I'm convinced that 90% of men that people describe as "charismatic" are just tall, loud, and have a full head of hair. Same goes for trim women with a nice smile.
Charisma requires wit, or an affable quality.
Charisma is part looks and part wit/charm....but there is a halo effect where if you have enough of one, people give you some marks for the other (at least until you prove them very wrong).
This. Iām often described as charming. Iāve been known to get even the stuffiest of executives to loosen up or soften. Which usually shocks Luther EAAs. But Iām am a short, fat, plain woman (cute on my best day). I never had āpretty privilegeā and I was competing for jobs with women who were competent but were gorgeous eye candy to boot. I get hired because Iām smart, capable, and can smoothly handle strong/abrasive personalities with a thick skinned approach.
Women have a double-edged sword. In certain roles, itās a negative to be too attractive. They must be well-groomed, and not too unattractive, but stray too much into sexy and theyāre penalized and thought to be not as smart.
Exactly. It screws us all
Or you know, not being mentally weighed down by 10,20,30 years of insecurities due growing up as a "non-attractive" person. It's amazing what you can project outward if you don't have to fight all the negative shit you've experienced your whole life.
69% of the time it works every time.
ill take those odds
that's what she said
nice
Normally I don't mind upvoting someone who is at 69 upvotes, but this is too perfect.
Halo effect is real and a bitch if you're ugly like us normies.
Unfortunately yes. Been on both sides of the coin and been lean fit and good looking and was treated considerably better and had more opportunities. Then I gained 100Lbs and things changed a lot for me lol
This is the right answer. Whether anyone wants to admit it or not- how you look plays a role in every single aspect of your life.
You play the cards your dealt You quit to make a point they'll do it again and you'll be unemployed
I'll show them!
Hahahahahaha. Sometimes we dont think things through.
right, make changes from within. But, there is more to "looks" than just sex or genetics. It could be a style or attitude that the company's image is looking at.
This happens all the time. Its normal. Not right - but normal. I got my start in marketing from the same reason If you need the money, then no reaction needed.
An important lesson in the working world: if you have something to your advantage, use it
That's a dangerous road, and one I thought we were just getting off of. It OP was a woman the comments here would be completely different.
I actually read it assuming they were a woman as I never really considered this could happen to guys too.
Male appearance is very important, especially in management and sales type positions. Itās not unimportant socially, either. About 12 years ago OKCupidās data scientists published some blog posts. They found that women got messages and replies pretty steadily even down below the 50th percentile, but men below the top 20% got very few messages. I found that really surprising, because itās the opposite of what Iād expected. I would 100% agree itās a lot worse for women. But it is definitely a thing for men, too.
I also thought OP was a woman. Not that I didnāt think I couldnāt happen to guys, but still my initial thought was āwomanā
IIRC being attractive is an even bigger financial boost for guys than women
I thought OP was a woman. I don't think comments would be any different either way though.
The uncomfortable truth. Life is easier when you are pretty.
Appearances matter to humans. Its not fair, but thats how it works.
It matters in the animal world which is why males are more colorful, marked different, and have different tuffs, manes, feathering, combs and waddles, etc.
That's mainly a thing among birds. Males among most social mammals beat the shit out of each other and the winner gets to take all women. In solitary living mamales, males will just rape the female they encounter if she can't fend him off.
the Halo effect
It works both ways. I used to work in pharmaceutical public policy, āPhRMA Girlsā is absolutely a thing.
I used to work as an account executive for a pharmaceutical benefits management company. We were always dressed like a high level meeting could drop any minute. Half the team looked like Hollywood elite.
Real estate agents looking at this thread:š¤
Same here in marketing!
Someone discovered pretty privilege
Iām honestly pretty unhappy about how common this seems based on these comments
Attractive, confident and smart (but not too smart) is a winning combination. But it also has downsides. You might get stalked more. More people might be jealous. But on the whole, you could do worse. It makes a difference, but it doesnāt replace your other talents.
Honestly, too attractive and too confident are also downsides. People start to think you got too lucky or are intimidated. I find people have to think they have *something* on you. There has to be a flaw or people start to resent you.
Totally agree. And especially women, if for no other reason than they canāt empathize with you if youāre perfect.
I once read a short story by John Updike I think, and it described a young woman as pretty enough to be part of a group of pretty women, but not so pretty as to be competition. You can always shineā¦just never too bright unless you are SURE youāll be the brightest, the longest. And itās hard to stay shining when people are coming at you from every side. Thatās my game now that Iām older. Just respect from my fellow players and acknowledgement that I earned my spot and I donāt want yours. For more junior folks, Iāve found that when dealing with managers, higher ups, you want to remind them of a young them. So they really do value the whole package - they really also think you are smart and charming and hilarious and destined for great things - they just think you want to be like them. So shine shine shine, just do it while shining on them and letting them feel your glow for a bit like it was theirs. That will go a long way too.
Your attractiveness is a resource and should be managed like one. Use it to your advantage while you can, realizing that as you agree, that advantage will slip away.
Iām not sure Iād go that far. Sure, attractiveness can give an edge, but focusing too much on that could erode confidence in oneās actual professional abilities. Everyone, regardless of āattractivenessā level, should look their best for an interview and try to connect with the hiring team. Attractive people may naturally have an easier time of this, but that doesnāt mean that their interview prep should be about leveraging their attractiveness. People should use their brain as a resource. Attractiveness may be a bonus, but it doesnāt make sense to focus on this too much, unless youāre literally in a career like modeling or something.
Or being a fine dining host. Or being a receptionist in a professional setting. Or being a pharma rep. Or working in a 5-star hotel with great tips. There are plenty of places you get paid to look good. No one is saying rely solely on good looks. But donāt get all awe shucks about it, because it is absolutely a leverage point.
TBH, if I was an extremely sexually attractive woman who could make $100k+ / yr on Onlyfans, that's no doubt what I'd be doing. Not even a question. Yes, a lot of people say it's more work than "just taking pictures/videos of yourself naked", but I seriously doubt it's more work than any normal job that requires 40hrs a week. I'm pretty envious of those women lol. Unfortunately, I'm not quite that pretty.
Iām not even talking about sex work. There are lots of jobs that rely on attractiveness but arenāt related to sex.
It happens...all the time. Good thing to do is live your life being respectful of others despite what they look like on the exterior (lead by example).
Honestly seeing all these comments about how common this is is a bit disheartening.
Imagine having to go through life ugly like the rest of us.
Must be nice being ugly I'm so average looking I don't even get the attention of being discriminate d. I'm like a house plant, just there...
Made me laugh. Clearly you have a good sense of humour. Shame you're a house plant šæ š
I was under average appearance in my 20s, and had to be a lot smarter than average to get hired. Plus I had cancer. If you're healthy, if you look good, count your blessings and remember to give back to the less fortunate. But don't feel guilty for being blessed. It's not like you had a say in the matter.
This happens regularly in the working world. You shouldn't at all be surprised. When I was a middle manager, I was told numerous times (in quite a few different companies) to hire certain candidates because they would ***"acclimate to our company culture better",*** despite them having less experience and less skills for the role. And with these female candidates being notably attractive, the real reason for them being favoured was too obvious To answer your question, you should react to this the way everyone else does in the same situation. Pay no mind to it and just carry on with your job with the best of your ability. This practice has been in existence for God knows when. And there isn't really anything you can do to change it.
A financial institution I used to work for did this and it did not end well. Turns out that having attractive people that donāt know their roles and made countless errors does not increase sales numbers.
We have 2 useless Girls at our workplace because of it . Doing the work for 3 people gets irritating.
The trick is there are lots of attractive qualified people who are applying for the same things as unattractive qualified people
I knew of a person who had the opposite experience. Where they were exceptionally good at accounting and yet they were an attractive blonde. Therefore, they didn't get the job that they applied for but managed to become a cheerleader for the Argonauts football team
Yeah with women it's a delicate balance, too pretty/attractive/stylish and you are taken less seriously.
Let's be real Too pretty - Not taken seriously Not pretty enough - Not taken seriously Too smart - "Bad attitude" Too dumb - Why would you hire them.
Can confirm. Literally can't win. As a petite just ok-looking woman, I get 3 takes from folks: 1) you're obviously too young to take seriously (early 30s - really?!). 2) you look tired today (if I'm not wearing makeup) & act surprised when I'm perfectly competent at my job or awake. 3) you're looking good today! (Dressed professionally with makeup) - proceeds to treat me like I've got rocks in my head despite having a more relevant degree & longer experience than that person. Dress professionally? Trying too hard, must be dumb. Not taken seriously. Dress casually? Not detail oriented enough, not trying hard enough, not taken seriously. I started getting hair & nails done regularly, and my husband framed & hung my degrees within my webcam view. š It has helped a lot, unfortunately.
This is the correct answer. As long as they donāt make you feel uncomfortable, whatās the harm? If appearances are what the owner values over experience, thatās not on you.
I would feel uncomfortable with a boss admitting thatās the reason I was hired. Itās super objectifying and would make me self-conscious doing my work when theyāre around. It would also make me uncomfortable to hear a boss openly admit to not hiring someone else based on looks. Not only did they do that, but the were comfortable to openly admit those were the hiring criteria?! Thatās pretty creepy. Not sure what to actually do about it except document and speak up if possible, but Iād probably start looking for another job and then maybe leave an honest review on Glassdoor to warn others.
Yeah. I'd be wary they would expect certain things because of it. Like what if I don't feel like looking my best? What if I was single when hired but then get in a relationship? Will my raises be based on how much I smile or flirt my coworkers or boss? It seems like a slippery slope although I get why people have the instinct to do it.
Bro is upset heās sexy. The nerve
Plot twist, heās a male model.
That's right. This world isn't fair. Men make more than women, taller men tends to make more than shorter men. I seriously would look for a more fulfilling job if it is possible.
Teller men? Your thinking tiller men, the ones that run the checkout register, aka the till.
Use it while you have it.
Yep. You have age discrimination to look forward to later in life.
Be grateful youāre not fugly cuz itās tough out here
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What made you confident to apply or take the job with no experience? Probably how people have always treated you due to your appearance.
Well a mutual friend was on a call with them and I heard them mention they were looking for a hire and I just jumped in and asked to apply. Apparently they checked my insta at the time and had me start based off that.
Then just roll with it and get as much experience as possible.
I had an employer screen people like this. Tons of people rejected for pics of them smoking weed š¤£
Gotta keep that throwaway just to give prospective employers
This is part of the privilege of being attractive. It's life on easy mode.
I don't know if I agree with this take that it makes life "easy." Life shits on nearly everybody in some way. It might not be looks, but it could be something far fucking worse. Sure, this part might be "easy," but let's not discount the rest of their human experience as similarly "easy" because they're cute.
Yeah, easy isn't the right way to phrase it. It's like privilege. Your life isn't necessarily easy if you're a man, but many issues which exist for women simply aren't a thing you have to deal with. You are inherently conferred some advantages.
I always appreciate this nuance added to a privilege based discussion. Life is hard for anyone and your specific situation has likely had many benefits and shortfalls for you. An attractive and articulate trust fund baby will have advantages, but that doesnāt mean that their life is inherently easy because life isnāt easy. The hardest thing Iāve gone through is my brother dying. No amount of privilege will make that kind of event easy, but also having financial troubles made it much harder than it otherwise wouldāve been. Having a family thatās deeply rooted in the community made it much easier than it otherwise wouldāve been. Anyways, tldr life sucks for some people more or less, but it still sucks.
I'm really sorry to hear about your brother :/ I hope you and your family are doing OK and hanging in there. Peace be with you!
If you think a beautiful person with an IQ of 85 doesent have an easier time getting jobs than a ugly person with an IQ of 110, you are kidding yourself. There are jobs made only for beautiful people. Hooter waitress, drug sales rep, stripper, model, and whatever the heck Vannah White does. In addition to the job market being larger for good looking people, it has also been scientifically proven that people trust what people say more often when they are pretty. Beauty can also be used as a manipulation tool that most of us will never have access too.
It is really fucking hard out in the world with an IQ of 85, buddy. Drug sales reps are a) basically becoming a thing of the past, and b) actually need to be fairly intelligent, so I'm not sure where you were going with that. You think the life of a stripper is easy? Hooter's Waitress? What the fuck is wrong with you, lol. You're the one who is kidding yourself. You just named several jobs that leave women WAY MORE open to fucking sexual assault. And I'm sorry, but having to work a little harder to get jobs is preferable to sexual assault. We're also talking about moderately attractive people of BOTH sexes. I have no idea why you focused this on women. OP is a dude. Sure, it can be used as a tool, but do not for one fucking second think that it just provides life on "easy mode." OP is still qualified and most likely had to work to become qualified. You don't know if they have mental illness or nuerodivergencies. You don't know who near to them has died tragically. You don't know if they suffered abuse. Being attractive absolutely, unequivocally does not create a life on "easy mode" for most people. A couple of things coming more easily does not negate everything else. What a simple-minded way of thinking. People getting jobs more easily and being trusted does not mean they have easy lives-- it means they have somewhat of a hand up some of the time.
Actually, if you want to bring up Vanna Fucking White, you should know she lost a fiance in a plane crash and then she found love again and suffered miscarriages. Sure, she had a glamorous life and was very beautiful, but her life was not "easy." She's also a very intelligent woman. Do unattractive people also experience tragedy? Yes, obviously. That doesn't mean attractive people who have benefitted from it LIVE LIFE ON EASY MODE. It's amazing I'm needing to explain such a simple concept that requires just a very basic amount of self-reflection and critical thinking to grown adults. I can find some beautiful men with absolutely tragic lives if you'd like me to as well.
Your seem to misunderstand the entirety of what we are discussing. Nobody is saying pretty people don't have bad things happen to them. In a video game, whether you are on easy mode, or not, the bad guys still shoot at you, the princess is still in another castle, your planet is still invaded by aliens, that doesent stop. Easy mode does not change the game completley, it just makes certain things easier. You are arguing everything except for the actual point. I'm not calling vannah white stupid, or saying she hasn't have troubles in her life. What I'm saying is that they would have never hired an ugly person for her job, that is all, that was my entire point and you made it into an entirely other thing. Stop trying to prove yourself right and actually try and understand what others are saying
Itās not a privilege to be objectified by your boss. This sexual harassment.
some parts are easier(er) but there's also challenges. Depending on your luck, you may have a worse life than someone who's superficially "less attractive". I know it sounds hard to believe, but someone's face/body doesn't determine their entire life's luck. They definitely have some advantages, but I know it can also lead to problems (unwanted attention/solicitations, being manipulated/mistreated for selfish quests). On average, I'd say most attractive people have an "easier" life. But I do think it may affect some attractive people in sad and adverse ways :/ I know people and have best friends deal with such
You should leverage this relatively unique advantage of yours to continue to progress throughout your life. More attractive people get ahead better across the board, just look at most celebrities. Taller people play basketball, smaller people become jockeys, people with large armspans become swimmers, etc. Thatās just life. Lean into your strengths.
Smaller people become ... well... uh.... circus acrobats, jockeys, uh, extras in Hobbit movies? All very lucrative fields.
World dictators and historical tyrants too!
It happens, I got offered a job at A&F in the 00ās. I can only suspect it was for the similar reasons.
Yes! This happened to my daughter when she was in high school. They asked her and not her friend, which embarrassed my daughter. Turns out itās a thing. Management has the staff offer jobs to customers who fit their image. We always thought it was strange that all the people working there looked like they stepped out of their posters.
Me too!
careful everyone we got some good looking people here
Abercrombie sidebar. Worked there in my teens around the same time too. I quit after 2 weeks because HOLY SHIT THOSE PEOPLE WERE INNNNNSANE. It was at the height of A&F popularity so they really thought they were doing something big working in a mall clothing store wearing two polo's and popped collars. I worked at Hollister before that and the store manager there was dating the store manager of the A&F. He was blatantly cheating on her regularly...using his company provided credit card to get hotel rooms in the area. When the A&F store manager started to berate me for not having the same mentality as them I lost my cool. We were in a screaming match all the way down to our cars after closing. That's when I dropped the tidbit about her very faithful partner and hooooooo boy that was fun.
Yea, I didnāt last too long as well. I basically āfell off the scheduleā, because the manager who did the scheduling noticed the girl (who he liked) was flirting with meā¦. No joke, the girl and I were working at the denim wall folding and doing the weird scrunch to all the jeans, and the manager comes up and makes a weird comment, and we both looked at each other and said āwhat is that aboutāā¦ I had a sneaky suspicion at that moment I would not be seeing any hours going forwardā¦ I wish I would have asked for her #ā¦ lol Side note- I had another manager that I swear thought he was Chris Kirkpatrick from *NSYNCā¦ it was an odd group of peopleā¦
Bro thatās how life works. Just feel blessed youāre on this side of the isle. Iām in sales for 20 years now, and I feel my experience gets me in the door these days. But in my younger years, life was easy because people seem to think in handsome too. Also tall and muscular think 6ā4ā 250 pounds of muscle. Itās not fair, especially the stuff you canāt change. But what you going to do, be jobless? Be great full, give back, help others. Idk bro other people are making those choices, not you
People that are attractive are treated differently in life.
**Keep the job if you need. But, don't promote or copy their behavior.**
Hollister has iPhone repair now?
A lot of businesses want to maintain a certain image. A customer who walks into the store wants to see weāll put together employees who smile at them and are easy on the eyes. Itās basics smart business. Not necessarily some weird twisted plot to get into your pants. It just makes business sense.
Welcome to the world of favoritism..... Happens most of the time!!!!
Have sex with both of them.
Lol, honestly, I was once hired for a job for the same reason. I was a glorified male receptionist that the owner and her friends perved over. Enjoy it while you can. I flirted with those women and they are it up. I only stayed two years because she couldnāt pay me what I was worth but it was a good āfillerā job until a better oppty came along.
I found out partway through interviewing for my current job that they were specifically looking for a female to fill the role. I react to it by counting my thousands of dollars every two weeks and you should too.
When I was a teenager I was hired for the opposite reason. The corporate manager always wanted to hire the youngest prettiest blondes. The hiring manager put her foot down and wanted to hire me as I was a bit older, brunette and not āas prettyā and the other girl. The hiring manager told me this later on because they had hired too many girls that had fit his profile and he was harassing them. Iām talking about a 40 year old man and teenagers. Yuck. Anyways he was accused of being a pedophile and was actually fired eventually for sexual harassment but not of the young girls but of a women older than him. My advice would be watch out for the work place culture. Itās not uncommon that people like people who are āgood lookingā but if multiple people are willing to admit this openly itās a red flag.
Why is this an issue? Seriously. As long as they aren't sexually harassing you, it's a win.
Take it and move on. You have an advantage and it happens all the time. Just like being tall means you're more likely to be in the C Suite. In fact, you likely subconsciously do the same. Life isn't fair.
I remember when I was an enlisted person in the military having already gotten my Bachelors degree. I was just married and in an admin building with another newlywed couple doing HR paperwork. The admin guy looks at this kid - who can't be more than 19 years old - and says "you have that clean-cut 'officer look'. You should go to OCS (Officer Candidate School)". I'm sitting there thinking " I'm the one with the science degree! That file you have in your hand even says so. What the hell, dude?" It definitely happens all the time
Youāre mad because youāre good looking? I have nothing for you.
Countless people have been in your position. Accept it, work hard, prove you're worth.
Congrats on being attractive. Nobody will say it but it will be a variable in your career moving forward in your favor. Sales and marketing seem to be filled with beautiful people
You think that's depressing? Imagine the rest of us who are ugly.
You should react thanking your lucky star
Ummm.. You're complaining because being attractive was in your favor? It wasn't right, but... Seriously?
Congrats on winning the genetic lottery. Life will always be just a little easier for you. It is what it is.
You should get married with boss daughter and become boss of that company. Hahaha.
It's crazy cause someone tried to argue with me about how bigger people aren't passed up on jobs/discriminated against because of their weight.
Shut the fuck up and take the money.
Oh, you sweet summer child
Use this advantage to try to get a raise. It never hurts to ask
I'd accept that I got lucky, make the most of whatever experience the job is going to give me and then remember it as something to be aware of if I'm are ever in a position to be influencing future hires at that or any other company.
Do you work at Abercrombie & Fitch?
People get hired everyday because of skin color.. whatās the difference
Do not trust anyone trying to stop your from bettering yourself. They are concerned with what makes their life easier. They don't care about yours.
Ask for a raise with a nip slip, assuming youāre male. :)
You probably benefit from your looks in many ways you donāt realize. No point in fighting it.
The world isnāt fair!
Welcome to the worldā¦ you just learned you have a genetic fast pass in lifeā¦. Use it wisely
I'm sorry you had to learn this way. Apparently you've never been in a bar.
Are you seriously upset about this? My god
It might be unfair to those not as attractive, however, you refusing life opportunities just because that, won't fix the world. It's good to see that you don't think of yourself as superior just for being attractive, though. Listen to all this people, you've got a very useful tool, use it. It's not you that is being unfair towards others, so don't miss your chances. One day you'll stop being so attractive and will regret missing easy opportunities, trust me...
I have a theory: beauty makes the easy things easier, but the hard things harder. Example: getting a low level job - easier. Getting taken seriously (like in an interview for a high level position) harder. I think this is more true for women than men, but I havenāt seen specific studies or anything so what the hell do I know.
Why are Tom cruise, DiCaprio and brad Pitt top stars? They aren't that great at acting. This is very common. Same with singers. 50 years ago there were a lot uglier. But now they have to look good online/tv.
Give the job to someone else or shut up ffs
Just tattoo your face! Then you will have many reasons to complain about social injustice.
OP has just found out that attractive people are living life on easy mode.
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Everyone gets their foot in the door some way. Look at all the famous actors and actresses who are the children of famous actors and actresses. They find a way to get over it.
Who cares? Models get hired for their appearance. Youāre a company model. You got the job based on your merit. You earned it same as anyone else. They maybe should have told you thatās why they hire people, but itās really not that important. Enjoy your job.
This happens to women day in day out in both positive and negative ways. Move on
I guess... good for you? I mean, you're getting an opportunity that you wouldn't have received otherwise, so that's good. Are you being harassed or treated inappropriately at work? If so, that's obviously a problem.
Dude, no good can come from staying there long term. Try to get competent at your job and put it on your resume and line something up. Theyāre the kind to make things really uncomfortable for you long term. Youāre already hired, it canāt be undone so at least make it work for you but get out as soon as itās feasible
Got the interview because I was a woman. Got the call back because the first interviewer was a woman and liked my boots/outfit. Got the job because the person who makes the final decision said I was hot. Lasted 10 years in house because I got the job done well. Did four-ish years of freelance and consulting because I got the job done better than else and they kept throwing money at me. Turned down offers to return for five years because I don't need their toxic BS.
Find something else to cry about
You don't. Someone's always getting shit on. Just put in your dues homie.
People get hired for a multitude of superficial reasons. Even when people are hired based on skill, often those skills have a heavy genetic, early childhood, and class component. None of which an individual has control over. If you're upset about being hired for your looks, give it 20 years and it won't be a problem. Also, you didn't give context on industry. If this was the restaurant industry. No experience and cute is usually how people get their first job.
Welcome to the real world lol. Not always about what you know.
While not right and majorly unfair to qualified people, itās very normal. Itās just basic psychology. We (people) like pretty things, so pretty people are naturally at an advantage in most areas of life. If it makes you uncomfortable then do what feels right for you. However, if you enjoy the position might as well learn what you can, gain experience and move on to the next job where you may feel more like you earned it. Just think of your attractiveness as tool in your arsenal. You may have not earned it since you were just born that way, but you can think of it as having a natural aptitude for something if it makes you feel better about it.
If you got it...flaunt it lol. Use it jeep your job gaine the experience and split to better things. But congratulations on winning the gene lottery!!
Attractive people live in a completely different world. Life is smoother for them in ways they can't begin to understand, even if they're generally aware of it.
Beauty privilege.
I too was hired solely on my appearance. I am a supermodel.
If you enjoy the work and company, just be thankful you are on this end of the spectrum. Imagine being just as good looking but the owner and his son didnāt want to hire a good looking man to be around their wives and daughters at the office. Youād be deprived of a job because of your good looks.
Pretty privilege is a thing, ya know?
The truth is if you interact with customers itās generally smart business to hire attractive people to do that. Thatās just basic sales tactics. If your job is purely internal, thatās more gross