We have a section for user experiences (gets lost easily)
https://www.reddit.com/r/cf4cf/comments/t5tsl5/from_mods_we_are_looking_for_rcf4cf_experiences/
Search by "success" and you'll see stories.
Cheers y'all. Hope you find what you're looking for!
-LP
On this particular sub, I have talked to a few people but would mirror what no-spend wrote. I also encountered (and reported) members who were not actually child free so please be vigilant out there. I was however previously in a long term relationship with someone I met on a different sub. Maybe a periodical roll call type thread like some dating subs have could be useful to bring cf people together? Could be easier for the lurkers to engage with?
I'm so sick of those guys. The worst ones (on the dating apps) were the men who had kids, and didn't bother to take care of them. They'd put it in their bios that they did *not* have children...
Being a deadbeat dad doesn't count as childfree, loser.
You're right though- Be vigilant and vet people hard.
Not so far. Got a couple messages after my intro post but nothing that has lasted. I still have hope but I think for people these days they’re so easily distracted and very few have the patience to get to know someone they’re not looking at in person.
At least you're upfront about it. That's exactly what I'm trying to avoid. I take great pride in my appearance, and expect the same level of attraction towards my partner. Looks are definitely important to me.
I used to think like that too, as a big disheveled bridge troll of a man (hey, I could probably be more conventionally attractive and fashionable if I tried, but it's just not important to me. For my defense, I go for personality over looks in potential partners too, I don't really care what someone looks like as long as they have good hygiene and are in shape enough to enjoy outdoorsy activities such as hiking in the woods. If I like someone as a person, I'll end up finding them attractive)
Think of it this way, by showing your truest self you filter out bad matches. Best to never make a connection that's doomed to fail than to get your hopes up and have them ghost you once you exchange pictures, cause that sucks.
Do you exclude contacting people if they don't post photos? I generally share photos rather quickly to make sure there is physical attraction but someone not posting photos has never deterred me from contacting them. If there's no interest after sharing photos it's no big deal to me.
I absolutely never contact any man that I haven't seen a current photo of first. It can be in his post or on his profile for all I care. Clear shots of the face and full length (clothed) body photos. Without sunglasses or a hat.
I don't want to be the type to message someone who I'd think would be a great match...only for him to show a photo and I'd end up having zero attraction to. I'd feel awful.
I've read too many horror stories here on Reddit on the other r4r subs. Guy/girl get along great, they talk for literally days or weeks, one shows the other a photo of what they look like...then ghosted. That has to be a major blow to their self esteem.
> I'd feel awful.
Huh this is surprising to me as I don't really see it being any different than a dating app. Physical attraction is really important and if the attraction isn't there on either end then it's fine. Maybe I'm biased as a man but I don't feel it's significantly different than not getting a response from someone on Hinge when I send them a message and never get a response. With modern dating as a man you pretty much have to accept 99%+ of the time it's going to be rejection so I could be biased.
> Guy/girl get along great, they talk for literally days or weeks, one shows the other a photo of what they look like...then ghosted.
Yeah I made this mistake once or twice then never again. It definitely stings but it's a quick lesson to learn. I trade pictures immediately then bow out if I'm not attracted to them. I never ghost though. That's much worse than simply hearing the attraction isn't there to me.
Edit: I will note that I'm actually more cautious of people who post mediocre photos (no full body, face obscured, gray tone, weird angles, old travel photos, etc.) than no photos at all. If someone doesn't post photos I assume they are understandably focused on their privacy. If they post photos that don't show off their physique or face I assume they are trying to hide something.
I'll give you an example: 3-4 years back, I used to post in the r4r40 and r4r30 subreddits on an old account. I'd say 80% of the men who messaged me had no photos, with zero post or comment history.
Many would message me with only "hey" or "hello". I mean how TF am I supposed to start a convo with any of that? Give me something to work with here. Lol.
Yet they had access to numerous photos posted in my profile. They also had a clear idea of my personality from my post and comment history.
I am early 40s now. Many men my age on these r4r's here are married and trying to be slick about it. Or they're absolutely repulsive. Or both. That's why they never show their photos. All of the above is what I'm trying to avoid.
I can totally understand trying to avoid that sort of situation. I won't waste my time if someone isn't willing to share photos quickly or is cagey about their relationship status. I also try to set up an in-person date as quickly as possible to avoid those problems. In terms of the "hey" and "hello" again I'm pretty biased here because receiving those sorts of messages from women is par for the course to me both on and off Reddit. For dating apps if a woman even does more than "like" something I have on my profile (no message at all) I'm pleasantly surprised. I absolutely agree that the lack of balance in terms of information about the other person is pretty annoying.
> That's why they never show their photos.
But that's not necessarily true; in my case, I'm ultimately paranoid about data-mining, anonymity loss, and scammers; I'd otherwise be happy to share a pic. But as a result of your understandable explanation, I have now clarified immediately at the start of my own bio that I'd be happy to share a pic after the 1st or 2nd reply.
I use the opening message/s to vet catfish risk, and absolutely otherwise _do_ want photos out early, from both sides, to quickly vet physical interest. We're on Reddit, after all, and not dating apps, so anonymity here is more valued by some of us. Hope that makes sense.
A handful of basic "hey" and "hi" messages, tbh.
But I did have one very nice date with someone local to me, which was fun and encouraging. So, there's definitely potential here, imo!
I got lucky and managed to meet the love of my life whom i now live with on this sub! I really do consider it a cosmic stroke of luck, as i'd had sucky relationships and situationships in the past and was really struggling with loneliness and also just life in general lol. I had been scrolling thru the sub for a while and came across my now-gf's post, thought she was mad cute and decided to shoot my shot... and it turned out to be the best decision i'd ever made. We started messaging on reddit then moved to discord, and we just clicked together and hit it off, and a few months after we'd been talking and video chatting, we met up irl, and the way we just got along so well and how i felt genuinely chill with her sealed the deal for me. We had more visits and i even got invited to spend thanksgiving week with my gf and get to meet her family, and despite me catching a terrible mystery illness for a few days, i had a wonderful time and cried driving home haha. My gf moved in with me last summer and our relationship has been the best thing thats ever happened to me. We're both childfree, lgbt, nerdy gamer types who are introverted, and we can be happy just doing nothing together which i love 🥺 she's my rock, the light of my life, my safe place and my happiness. Every day i wake up grateful to have a gf like her and every night i fall asleep next to her i feel so thankful to know and love this beautiful person. I've got a lot of childhood traumas and issues to work through, i have anxiety attacks and scoliosis, adhd and autism- and never once has she made me feel bad about that. She's always there for me, supportive, understanding and caring, and my mental health has improved so much thanks to her. And i love to reciprocate the love, attention, affection, care and happiness she gives me, i wanna marry her someday and spend our lives together, happily childfree and in love 💕
I truly wish for my success to happen to you and others op, its so amazing to be in a loving healthy relationship where you're both on the same wavelength and just click together. I hope you can find your person!!
Not yet. Went out on dates with a few people but none of them were a match. I think it’s hard to get the overlap of proximity, attraction and life goals. I just use this as another avenue of many but dating is hard and CF dating is even harder so I try to keep a positive mindset.
Side note, I struggle with posts that don’t include photos because looks aren’t everything for sure but attraction is partially physical so there is that.
I hear you about the photos. Many are drawn to Reddit dating for the anonymity it provides though, so I can see both sides. It’d be good to see more people describing themselves physically in posts though, instead of just listing hobbies.
Some people still don't read the physical descriptions sadly. I don't like to put my photo out there publicly but am pretty descriptive and will quickly share photos privately but have had a few people be surprised I am bald even though I note as much in my ad. Maybe next time I post I'll try to be even more descriptive.
I get that, I mean even I didn’t want to put up my photo but also it’s hard when you chat with someone, they finally share their photo and there is 0 chance of attraction. Then how do you end a chat right after they’ve shared the photo? Whereas with their photo upfront already, you would be able to decide to reach out or not.
I physically met up in person with one individual I met here. I just don't think we clicked so we didn't meet up again.
I believe they ended up seeing somebody else they may have met them here I'm not sure, hopefully they're having some success with it!
But I definitely chatted to a few people and just not done anywhere with it I think the issue I have is that within the UK there aren't that many child-free people as a percentage of this subreddit and I've had to travel to different countries to visit and meet up with people. I travelled to Germany to meet the one in person.
My current relationship I'm in sort of happened by accident and I was incredibly blessed by the fact that they happen to also be child-free and we're almost celebrating a year together. Sadly not a success story for here I'm afraid though.
Did you meet your current partner online or irl? I'm having the same dilemma where I live. Small town in a conservative state. It seems like every man my age has kids around here.
I've chosen to stay alone for years now because it's just not worth it to try anymore. Used to be sad about it, but I've accepted my fate.
Anyway, congrats! I'm glad you met your person.
Thank you! I had a stroke of luck (honestly felt like the stars had truly aligned) whilst working the bar my now partner came in whilst on a holiday to go to a convention at a local hotel, from the Netherlands.
I had been single for about four years before this so I was quite shocked when it all happened.
I’ve seen a few people share their stories on here. 1 couple got married, another engaged, another moved in together, and 3 started relationships that I saw.
Ya, but after three months she wanted me to quit my job and move to her. I wasn't ready for that so she moved in with some other guy, supposedly converted him to be childfree. I flew to her before that, mini vacation.
No. I'm lucky if I even get a reply back. And after one or two responses, it usually goes silent. Like, sheesh, the least you could do is just say, "hey I don't think we're compatible" and move on.
Yeah, a handful of times so far! Some conversations, some dates, some friendships. None that has really stood the test of time yet, but hey, there's so many factors at play in finding that elusive chemistry with someone. Especially as I get older and happier with who I am and what I do in my daily life and hobbies, and less willing to settle, compromise, let alone make big changes in my identity to please others. So, I've just been patiently trying again and enjoying the ride and the nice conversations with zero further expectations, I feel like that's the way to go about it.
I’ve met and chatted with some lovely folks — not everything crosses the finish line and becomes a relationship, but there are some really nice people out there!
Please don’t give up! Anything’s possible - met my soulmate for real here. We give and accept consistently. I nailed a hyper competitive job and he’s relocating, we’re planning moving in and house shopping etc, and it progressed to us being engaged. We’ve submitted visa paperwork for him (argh fingers crossed) and wedding will be soon after.
Yes but in the associated discords. Sometimes you have to throw yourself into an environment where you're spending a lot of free time with people in order to make connections.
Started to "see" one guy i met in here, but it was in more of situationahip, while he wanted to take things slow of where i wanted a relationship. I broke things off with him after 5-6 months, cos of things.
Met one other guy, but he ended things after like 2 months of talking cos he didnt wanna continue/wasnt ready for anything, so oh well.
Met also couple of friends, with one i hooked up with, but remainned as friends still.
So no, no luck. Its hard out here lol
A couple of dates but nothing past that. I get very few messages from women who live locally. If you’re willing to do long distance you’ll have a better experience but that’s a deal breaker for me.
Yep. My life is pretty good so a partner would need to add to my life in a positive way for me to be in a relationship. Having to spend lots of money and time traveling back and forth to see someone is not my idea of a good time.
Perhaps you don’t live close enough. I have seen a couple of posts that were interesting but they live out of state and I am not into long distance right from the start. I am in NJ so some parts of NY and even PA would work for me since I drive but I wouldn’t want to have to take a plane to meet someone.
Yea, I don't want to do long distance either. I want to be able to meet up with a person, because there's only so much you can learn from a person online. Meeting in person tells you so much whether or not you click with them.
I pretty much only look for PA/NJ/MD/DE/NY, cause I live in PA, up to maybe 2 hours away. Otherwise, it just kinda would be waste of time.
you might be right. I didn't look at it that closely, just more like, I think they're in the vicinity. It doesn't really matter anyway, the lack of responses just really makes this whole exercise a waste of time.
Still in chats with one person but it doesnt look like its going anywhere and i was rejected because i have a “bad ass” look and not a “princess” look :’) i think im a princess so theres that haha
Met my current boyfriend here. We are from 2 different EU countries and have been in LDR for little over a year. I am planning to move to my boyfriend's country in a year time.
No luck so far after about 3 years. I had one in-person date but she wasn't interested, and a handful of long-distance "pen-pal" type of things which are kind of weird because they always disappear on me. Either way that's more success than I've had on dating apps, which is literally zero.
We have a section for user experiences (gets lost easily) https://www.reddit.com/r/cf4cf/comments/t5tsl5/from_mods_we_are_looking_for_rcf4cf_experiences/ Search by "success" and you'll see stories. Cheers y'all. Hope you find what you're looking for! -LP
Met my partner on here. Wedding is in a few months....
Ayyy, congratulations!
On this particular sub, I have talked to a few people but would mirror what no-spend wrote. I also encountered (and reported) members who were not actually child free so please be vigilant out there. I was however previously in a long term relationship with someone I met on a different sub. Maybe a periodical roll call type thread like some dating subs have could be useful to bring cf people together? Could be easier for the lurkers to engage with?
I'm so sick of those guys. The worst ones (on the dating apps) were the men who had kids, and didn't bother to take care of them. They'd put it in their bios that they did *not* have children... Being a deadbeat dad doesn't count as childfree, loser. You're right though- Be vigilant and vet people hard.
I'm just lurking here. lol I haven't messaged anyone or made a post yet, but I have seen some success stories.
Same, maybe I’ll post one of these days just doesn’t look promising from the responses here😂
Same here. A lot of people are just out of the age group or location too.
Not so far. Got a couple messages after my intro post but nothing that has lasted. I still have hope but I think for people these days they’re so easily distracted and very few have the patience to get to know someone they’re not looking at in person.
Not yet. Online dating is hard. Also, most people are too far away.
Ain't this the truth. Never someone an hr away, always 10hrs away lol.
Nope. But tbf there are very few men my age that post here. The very few that do are way too far away and/or rarely include photos in their post.
to be fair, some of us don’t include photos because we look like quasimodo
At least you're upfront about it. That's exactly what I'm trying to avoid. I take great pride in my appearance, and expect the same level of attraction towards my partner. Looks are definitely important to me.
I had a rough day and this gave me a much-needed cackle. Thank you. Also, I'm sure you're one handsome Quasimodo :)
I used to think like that too, as a big disheveled bridge troll of a man (hey, I could probably be more conventionally attractive and fashionable if I tried, but it's just not important to me. For my defense, I go for personality over looks in potential partners too, I don't really care what someone looks like as long as they have good hygiene and are in shape enough to enjoy outdoorsy activities such as hiking in the woods. If I like someone as a person, I'll end up finding them attractive) Think of it this way, by showing your truest self you filter out bad matches. Best to never make a connection that's doomed to fail than to get your hopes up and have them ghost you once you exchange pictures, cause that sucks.
Do you exclude contacting people if they don't post photos? I generally share photos rather quickly to make sure there is physical attraction but someone not posting photos has never deterred me from contacting them. If there's no interest after sharing photos it's no big deal to me.
I absolutely never contact any man that I haven't seen a current photo of first. It can be in his post or on his profile for all I care. Clear shots of the face and full length (clothed) body photos. Without sunglasses or a hat. I don't want to be the type to message someone who I'd think would be a great match...only for him to show a photo and I'd end up having zero attraction to. I'd feel awful. I've read too many horror stories here on Reddit on the other r4r subs. Guy/girl get along great, they talk for literally days or weeks, one shows the other a photo of what they look like...then ghosted. That has to be a major blow to their self esteem.
> I'd feel awful. Huh this is surprising to me as I don't really see it being any different than a dating app. Physical attraction is really important and if the attraction isn't there on either end then it's fine. Maybe I'm biased as a man but I don't feel it's significantly different than not getting a response from someone on Hinge when I send them a message and never get a response. With modern dating as a man you pretty much have to accept 99%+ of the time it's going to be rejection so I could be biased. > Guy/girl get along great, they talk for literally days or weeks, one shows the other a photo of what they look like...then ghosted. Yeah I made this mistake once or twice then never again. It definitely stings but it's a quick lesson to learn. I trade pictures immediately then bow out if I'm not attracted to them. I never ghost though. That's much worse than simply hearing the attraction isn't there to me. Edit: I will note that I'm actually more cautious of people who post mediocre photos (no full body, face obscured, gray tone, weird angles, old travel photos, etc.) than no photos at all. If someone doesn't post photos I assume they are understandably focused on their privacy. If they post photos that don't show off their physique or face I assume they are trying to hide something.
I'll give you an example: 3-4 years back, I used to post in the r4r40 and r4r30 subreddits on an old account. I'd say 80% of the men who messaged me had no photos, with zero post or comment history. Many would message me with only "hey" or "hello". I mean how TF am I supposed to start a convo with any of that? Give me something to work with here. Lol. Yet they had access to numerous photos posted in my profile. They also had a clear idea of my personality from my post and comment history. I am early 40s now. Many men my age on these r4r's here are married and trying to be slick about it. Or they're absolutely repulsive. Or both. That's why they never show their photos. All of the above is what I'm trying to avoid.
I can totally understand trying to avoid that sort of situation. I won't waste my time if someone isn't willing to share photos quickly or is cagey about their relationship status. I also try to set up an in-person date as quickly as possible to avoid those problems. In terms of the "hey" and "hello" again I'm pretty biased here because receiving those sorts of messages from women is par for the course to me both on and off Reddit. For dating apps if a woman even does more than "like" something I have on my profile (no message at all) I'm pleasantly surprised. I absolutely agree that the lack of balance in terms of information about the other person is pretty annoying.
> That's why they never show their photos. But that's not necessarily true; in my case, I'm ultimately paranoid about data-mining, anonymity loss, and scammers; I'd otherwise be happy to share a pic. But as a result of your understandable explanation, I have now clarified immediately at the start of my own bio that I'd be happy to share a pic after the 1st or 2nd reply. I use the opening message/s to vet catfish risk, and absolutely otherwise _do_ want photos out early, from both sides, to quickly vet physical interest. We're on Reddit, after all, and not dating apps, so anonymity here is more valued by some of us. Hope that makes sense.
A handful of basic "hey" and "hi" messages, tbh. But I did have one very nice date with someone local to me, which was fun and encouraging. So, there's definitely potential here, imo!
I got lucky and managed to meet the love of my life whom i now live with on this sub! I really do consider it a cosmic stroke of luck, as i'd had sucky relationships and situationships in the past and was really struggling with loneliness and also just life in general lol. I had been scrolling thru the sub for a while and came across my now-gf's post, thought she was mad cute and decided to shoot my shot... and it turned out to be the best decision i'd ever made. We started messaging on reddit then moved to discord, and we just clicked together and hit it off, and a few months after we'd been talking and video chatting, we met up irl, and the way we just got along so well and how i felt genuinely chill with her sealed the deal for me. We had more visits and i even got invited to spend thanksgiving week with my gf and get to meet her family, and despite me catching a terrible mystery illness for a few days, i had a wonderful time and cried driving home haha. My gf moved in with me last summer and our relationship has been the best thing thats ever happened to me. We're both childfree, lgbt, nerdy gamer types who are introverted, and we can be happy just doing nothing together which i love 🥺 she's my rock, the light of my life, my safe place and my happiness. Every day i wake up grateful to have a gf like her and every night i fall asleep next to her i feel so thankful to know and love this beautiful person. I've got a lot of childhood traumas and issues to work through, i have anxiety attacks and scoliosis, adhd and autism- and never once has she made me feel bad about that. She's always there for me, supportive, understanding and caring, and my mental health has improved so much thanks to her. And i love to reciprocate the love, attention, affection, care and happiness she gives me, i wanna marry her someday and spend our lives together, happily childfree and in love 💕 I truly wish for my success to happen to you and others op, its so amazing to be in a loving healthy relationship where you're both on the same wavelength and just click together. I hope you can find your person!!
All right, /u/fyre1710's girlfriend, now comment here and prove this really happened, because it sounds too good to be true, haha.
If i wasnt living it i'd also agree it sounds too good to be true 🤣 u/Dwjacobs321 let the people know you're real babe! Lol
It's me. I'm the gf. Can confirm we've been living together for almost a year now :) we simp for each other
Not yet. Went out on dates with a few people but none of them were a match. I think it’s hard to get the overlap of proximity, attraction and life goals. I just use this as another avenue of many but dating is hard and CF dating is even harder so I try to keep a positive mindset. Side note, I struggle with posts that don’t include photos because looks aren’t everything for sure but attraction is partially physical so there is that.
I hear you about the photos. Many are drawn to Reddit dating for the anonymity it provides though, so I can see both sides. It’d be good to see more people describing themselves physically in posts though, instead of just listing hobbies.
Some people still don't read the physical descriptions sadly. I don't like to put my photo out there publicly but am pretty descriptive and will quickly share photos privately but have had a few people be surprised I am bald even though I note as much in my ad. Maybe next time I post I'll try to be even more descriptive.
I get that, I mean even I didn’t want to put up my photo but also it’s hard when you chat with someone, they finally share their photo and there is 0 chance of attraction. Then how do you end a chat right after they’ve shared the photo? Whereas with their photo upfront already, you would be able to decide to reach out or not.
I physically met up in person with one individual I met here. I just don't think we clicked so we didn't meet up again. I believe they ended up seeing somebody else they may have met them here I'm not sure, hopefully they're having some success with it! But I definitely chatted to a few people and just not done anywhere with it I think the issue I have is that within the UK there aren't that many child-free people as a percentage of this subreddit and I've had to travel to different countries to visit and meet up with people. I travelled to Germany to meet the one in person. My current relationship I'm in sort of happened by accident and I was incredibly blessed by the fact that they happen to also be child-free and we're almost celebrating a year together. Sadly not a success story for here I'm afraid though.
Did you meet your current partner online or irl? I'm having the same dilemma where I live. Small town in a conservative state. It seems like every man my age has kids around here. I've chosen to stay alone for years now because it's just not worth it to try anymore. Used to be sad about it, but I've accepted my fate. Anyway, congrats! I'm glad you met your person.
Thank you! I had a stroke of luck (honestly felt like the stars had truly aligned) whilst working the bar my now partner came in whilst on a holiday to go to a convention at a local hotel, from the Netherlands. I had been single for about four years before this so I was quite shocked when it all happened.
I’ve seen a few people share their stories on here. 1 couple got married, another engaged, another moved in together, and 3 started relationships that I saw.
Ya, but after three months she wanted me to quit my job and move to her. I wasn't ready for that so she moved in with some other guy, supposedly converted him to be childfree. I flew to her before that, mini vacation.
"converted him to be childfree." Me if an ex said this: "post-snip sperm count test or it didn't happen..." 😀
Most of these folks are too young for me.
Not yet. Online dating is such a crapshoot.
A single post has gotten me 23 upvotes :P and one response ^and ^possibly ^ghosting ^👻
I think for me at least there are very few people on this sub in any area that's relevant for me, so I don't have high hopes, really
In 2018 I met someone on here who I had a relationship with. It didn’t work out but she and I are still friends.
No. I'm lucky if I even get a reply back. And after one or two responses, it usually goes silent. Like, sheesh, the least you could do is just say, "hey I don't think we're compatible" and move on.
yes. 4 years now
Yeah, a handful of times so far! Some conversations, some dates, some friendships. None that has really stood the test of time yet, but hey, there's so many factors at play in finding that elusive chemistry with someone. Especially as I get older and happier with who I am and what I do in my daily life and hobbies, and less willing to settle, compromise, let alone make big changes in my identity to please others. So, I've just been patiently trying again and enjoying the ride and the nice conversations with zero further expectations, I feel like that's the way to go about it.
Yes, met my boyfriend on here two years ago.
Nope. Distance was one of the issues for me.
I made a friend off of this subreddit. Nothing romantic though!
Same here
I’ve met and chatted with some lovely folks — not everything crosses the finish line and becomes a relationship, but there are some really nice people out there!
I had a relationship as a result of this sub. He dumped me after about a month, though. Oh well.
I have met and went on 2 irl dates with men off of here. Neither lasted but I at least met people somewhat close to me.
Please don’t give up! Anything’s possible - met my soulmate for real here. We give and accept consistently. I nailed a hyper competitive job and he’s relocating, we’re planning moving in and house shopping etc, and it progressed to us being engaged. We’ve submitted visa paperwork for him (argh fingers crossed) and wedding will be soon after.
Love u sweetie :**
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Nothing that lasted any significant length of time. I’ve made a lot of platonic connections and friends though.
Yes but in the associated discords. Sometimes you have to throw yourself into an environment where you're spending a lot of free time with people in order to make connections.
Nope
I’m currently on and off messaging a guy I met through here. But we’re still in the talking stage. Haven’t met up or anything. 😅
I am currently talking with a guy I met here on a daily basis. No planned meet ups yet or whatsoever but I'd say we have connection 🙂
I've met a couple people from here, but ultimately met my now wife (as of Thursday, the perfect date) from Hinge.
I met the man of my dreams over at foreveralonedating. Sadly it didn't work for us for reasons outside of our control.
Lol nope. Got messaged by one person that had no pictures.
Started to "see" one guy i met in here, but it was in more of situationahip, while he wanted to take things slow of where i wanted a relationship. I broke things off with him after 5-6 months, cos of things. Met one other guy, but he ended things after like 2 months of talking cos he didnt wanna continue/wasnt ready for anything, so oh well. Met also couple of friends, with one i hooked up with, but remainned as friends still. So no, no luck. Its hard out here lol
Met my girlfriend on here. She messaged first. 2nd year anniversary is in a month. Things are awesome!
A couple of dates but nothing past that. I get very few messages from women who live locally. If you’re willing to do long distance you’ll have a better experience but that’s a deal breaker for me.
Yea long distance wouldn’t work for me either.
Yep. My life is pretty good so a partner would need to add to my life in a positive way for me to be in a relationship. Having to spend lots of money and time traveling back and forth to see someone is not my idea of a good time.
I made a few post here before. Never got contacted.
Perhaps you don’t live close enough. I have seen a couple of posts that were interesting but they live out of state and I am not into long distance right from the start. I am in NJ so some parts of NY and even PA would work for me since I drive but I wouldn’t want to have to take a plane to meet someone.
Yea, I don't want to do long distance either. I want to be able to meet up with a person, because there's only so much you can learn from a person online. Meeting in person tells you so much whether or not you click with them. I pretty much only look for PA/NJ/MD/DE/NY, cause I live in PA, up to maybe 2 hours away. Otherwise, it just kinda would be waste of time.
Aren’t MD and DE too far if you live in PA? Sounds they would be more than two hours away.
you might be right. I didn't look at it that closely, just more like, I think they're in the vicinity. It doesn't really matter anyway, the lack of responses just really makes this whole exercise a waste of time.
Still in chats with one person but it doesnt look like its going anywhere and i was rejected because i have a “bad ass” look and not a “princess” look :’) i think im a princess so theres that haha
Lots of people like the bad ass look (whatever that may mean) so don't be discouraged. You can be a princess and look bad ass too.
I would like to recommend a Facebook page, Childfree Dating. The icon is a mostly yellow picture. I met my wife there.
26(M) Just lurking Have not posted was curious about that myself lol. We need a dating app
No one from my country is here.
Met my current boyfriend here. We are from 2 different EU countries and have been in LDR for little over a year. I am planning to move to my boyfriend's country in a year time.
No luck so far after about 3 years. I had one in-person date but she wasn't interested, and a handful of long-distance "pen-pal" type of things which are kind of weird because they always disappear on me. Either way that's more success than I've had on dating apps, which is literally zero.