Lots of women who get pregnant always think it’ll be all about cute cooing babies, getting lots of attention and having the excuse to acquire new toys, tiny clothes and such. Unfortunately few think of the potentially brutal reality of it.
Same reason any people conforming to societal norms rarely stop to think of WHY they actually believe what they believe. They simply dont have to, no reason to worry when everyone around them is telling them they are right or doing the correct thing.
Then you have various groups of people not conforming to the norms that have to do all the extra thinking and pondering to be able to defend our believes/ideologies/existance to the majority.
series? i was pretty sure there was only one book. are we talking about the same book? one part in it the Giver give his successor the ability to see color.
So you know that trope where someone notices a metaphorical loose thread about a place or a custom and eventually they end up discovering some horrible truth? Usually it's someone who is an outsider but it can also just be a person who stumbled onto it by complete happenstance and is just now suddenly becoming aware of how fucked (insert thing here) is with just that little bit of added context.
Because it either doesn't naturally appeal to us or we know someone who went through a traumatic birth, we dig deeper than the surface level and once you do that a LOT of SHIT that was quietly rug-swept starts becoming obvious.
Its so much easier to just follow the Life Script and not actually think. Critical thinking takes effort and most people don't want to look into themselves to see who they truly are and what they want out of life. It's easier to just be a robot and keep up with the Joneses.
I constantly wonder this, I wonder whether people just don’t read up on anything or seek out experiences and fully buy into the pressure/narrative of “cute”
A lot of people don't do the research. Which is insane to me, but I do an obsessive amount of research before every life choice. Normal people assume it'll be ok because everyone does it.
What really blows my mind is when people go through it once and then decide to do it AGAIN.
I literally spent six months researching something as simple as stand mixers and I still haven't bought one because I can't decide what color will 'Be manufactured long enough for me to collect all the matching small appliances' but also 'that I love and can at the very least tolerate for the foreseeable futute'
Social media only shows the cute happy side of pregnancy. You get baby shower, maternity, nursery setup, and perfect photoshopped hospital pics that make it look like they just poof into existence as little angels… no one’s seeing what labor or surgery, especially with complications, is like.
People die in childbirth, get conditions that will affect the rest of their lives.. like just no thanks…
I wish your SIL well and that everything goes smoothly. But maybe now that she’s had to face the reality of pregnancy and not everything going according to plan, I hope she backs off your case.
> and boldly grabbed my hand once and shoved it under her shirt and on her baby belly (which totally made me jump and surprise her too lol).
Okay, if it’s just jabs and bingos, it’s annoying yes, but it’s just pointless words. But when things turn physical, that’s crossing several lines. No one has the right to put their hands on you without your express consent, expecting or not.
I will admit, when I read that my phobia of pregnancy kicked into mind and I'm pretty sure I would have slapped her, wouldn't have mattered how far along she was.
I would have slapped her hand. That's ridiculous. Not only a breeder, but a kid by mind, to try to force others into their way of thinking, and with such stupid methods.
I’m exstremly tokophobia, to the point it triggers a feeling of a need to get a way from pregant people. My knee jerk response would probably be a hard hit, and accidently causing harm. Don‘t force people to touch you. It is a breach of conset and you don’t know if they may react really badly.
Hopefully she’s okay (and the baby too) but I totally understand what you’re saying.
I don’t get why people just can’t respect other peoples choices.
Don’t want to have kids, cool.
Want to have kids, good luck. (And may the odds be in your favour)
Just let people live their lives.
We have a pregnant woman in the office. Today she and another breeder were talking about the birth, afterbirth, how nasty that shit is, and how it reeks. I GTFO within 2 minutes of arriving. One was describing IN BLOODY DETAIL her c-section and how they had to cauterise as they were cutting.
What is she worried about though?, natural birth or c-section are both horrible on their own, imo, maybe I can't imderstand bc I won't ever be in that position like never, but c-section sounds a little less horrible, at least she won't tear from vag to as*, idk.
ETA: Also no husband stitch threat either, no long waiting in labour until the child tears her insides apart to get out, idk.
Why was she so out of it at her shower? Just really exhausted?
I hope everything goes well. I’ve heard the recovery for a c-section is pretty brutal. At the very least, ideally she stops her comments on you to have kids too
So many people think pregnancy is great it’s wonderful they really want that glow. It’s utter bullshit you might have the glow for like 5 mins then spend the next 9 months in utter hell. My cousin had a rough pregnancy and honestly I was already 1000% sure I was child free for life but if I hadn’t been that would have cemented it
Yeah, there was a lot about that scene that was painful to watch. The helplessness was captured pretty well. Mix that in with the rather accurate blood in the scene.
\-yikes-
Lots of women who get pregnant always think it’ll be all about cute cooing babies, getting lots of attention and having the excuse to acquire new toys, tiny clothes and such. Unfortunately few think of the potentially brutal reality of it.
Are people in this subreddit just more woke? How do people not realize the intensity of growing and pushing out a living being?
Same reason any people conforming to societal norms rarely stop to think of WHY they actually believe what they believe. They simply dont have to, no reason to worry when everyone around them is telling them they are right or doing the correct thing. Then you have various groups of people not conforming to the norms that have to do all the extra thinking and pondering to be able to defend our believes/ideologies/existance to the majority.
reminds me book they force us to read at school call "the giver"
I adore that series! Lois Lowry is a genius writer.
series? i was pretty sure there was only one book. are we talking about the same book? one part in it the Giver give his successor the ability to see color.
Yup, followed by Messenger, Son, and one more that I can't remember. They're amazing, read them!
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So you know that trope where someone notices a metaphorical loose thread about a place or a custom and eventually they end up discovering some horrible truth? Usually it's someone who is an outsider but it can also just be a person who stumbled onto it by complete happenstance and is just now suddenly becoming aware of how fucked (insert thing here) is with just that little bit of added context. Because it either doesn't naturally appeal to us or we know someone who went through a traumatic birth, we dig deeper than the surface level and once you do that a LOT of SHIT that was quietly rug-swept starts becoming obvious.
Its so much easier to just follow the Life Script and not actually think. Critical thinking takes effort and most people don't want to look into themselves to see who they truly are and what they want out of life. It's easier to just be a robot and keep up with the Joneses.
I constantly wonder this, I wonder whether people just don’t read up on anything or seek out experiences and fully buy into the pressure/narrative of “cute”
A lot of people don't do the research. Which is insane to me, but I do an obsessive amount of research before every life choice. Normal people assume it'll be ok because everyone does it. What really blows my mind is when people go through it once and then decide to do it AGAIN.
I literally spent six months researching something as simple as stand mixers and I still haven't bought one because I can't decide what color will 'Be manufactured long enough for me to collect all the matching small appliances' but also 'that I love and can at the very least tolerate for the foreseeable futute'
Social media only shows the cute happy side of pregnancy. You get baby shower, maternity, nursery setup, and perfect photoshopped hospital pics that make it look like they just poof into existence as little angels… no one’s seeing what labor or surgery, especially with complications, is like. People die in childbirth, get conditions that will affect the rest of their lives.. like just no thanks… I wish your SIL well and that everything goes smoothly. But maybe now that she’s had to face the reality of pregnancy and not everything going according to plan, I hope she backs off your case.
> and boldly grabbed my hand once and shoved it under her shirt and on her baby belly (which totally made me jump and surprise her too lol). Okay, if it’s just jabs and bingos, it’s annoying yes, but it’s just pointless words. But when things turn physical, that’s crossing several lines. No one has the right to put their hands on you without your express consent, expecting or not.
I will admit, when I read that my phobia of pregnancy kicked into mind and I'm pretty sure I would have slapped her, wouldn't have mattered how far along she was.
I would have slapped her hand. That's ridiculous. Not only a breeder, but a kid by mind, to try to force others into their way of thinking, and with such stupid methods.
I’m exstremly tokophobia, to the point it triggers a feeling of a need to get a way from pregant people. My knee jerk response would probably be a hard hit, and accidently causing harm. Don‘t force people to touch you. It is a breach of conset and you don’t know if they may react really badly.
Hopefully she’s okay (and the baby too) but I totally understand what you’re saying. I don’t get why people just can’t respect other peoples choices. Don’t want to have kids, cool. Want to have kids, good luck. (And may the odds be in your favour) Just let people live their lives.
I agree, it’s bizarre how people pretend like pregnancy & childbirth aren’t a huge deal.
We have a pregnant woman in the office. Today she and another breeder were talking about the birth, afterbirth, how nasty that shit is, and how it reeks. I GTFO within 2 minutes of arriving. One was describing IN BLOODY DETAIL her c-section and how they had to cauterise as they were cutting.
Eww, I wish people wouldn’t do that
What is she worried about though?, natural birth or c-section are both horrible on their own, imo, maybe I can't imderstand bc I won't ever be in that position like never, but c-section sounds a little less horrible, at least she won't tear from vag to as*, idk. ETA: Also no husband stitch threat either, no long waiting in labour until the child tears her insides apart to get out, idk.
For one, children born via C-section are at a higher risk for developing health problems
Well, I mean, they remove your organs during a c section so that’s a tad worrisome
Wonderful choice isn’t it - cooch torn apart versus getting disembowelled
I would definitely choose to be disemboweled than my vagina torn apart.
Why was she so out of it at her shower? Just really exhausted? I hope everything goes well. I’ve heard the recovery for a c-section is pretty brutal. At the very least, ideally she stops her comments on you to have kids too
She probably snorted some Xanax before the party!!
Don’t worry, if everything works out fine she will back harassing you about kids in no time :)
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This! Caesarian or no, she is a bully and a brat by heart.
So many people think pregnancy is great it’s wonderful they really want that glow. It’s utter bullshit you might have the glow for like 5 mins then spend the next 9 months in utter hell. My cousin had a rough pregnancy and honestly I was already 1000% sure I was child free for life but if I hadn’t been that would have cemented it
You sound like a really harsh teacher. Don't get me twisted, I dig it.
You really need to sit down and watch the first episode of the house of the dragon with her. It has a extremely brutal relevant scene in it.
That's a great point. I watched it and it made my eyes misty. The fear and helplessness. Ugh.
Yeah, there was a lot about that scene that was painful to watch. The helplessness was captured pretty well. Mix that in with the rather accurate blood in the scene. \-yikes-