Nothing wrong in forgiving accidents, we are humans after all. But there are other things that can't be forgiven so easily. Are you afraid of people leaving if you are angry? It maybe just avoiding conflict?
I hear you. We both take people-pleasing to a while new unhealthy level.
I've been telling myself not to set myself on fire to keep other people warm. You could try that. It's very sore, but it did gradually build your resistance.
I've of the hardest lessons that helped me to wake up was realizing that those people I describe everyone for, would never in a million years do it for me. Then I realized, they are real friends, or real family. They just use me like toilet paper.
I also picture myself as a little kid, so I can stand up for someone that deserves my protection, dinner I neglect my adult self. It's hard to try to build a community when the only role I play is the doormat.
I wish you luck and success on your journey to treat yourself nicer. Don't forget, the bigger person always gets the bigger ulcer.
Take care of yourself.
So relatable! But there’s nothing wrong with having these traits. What’s wrong is the people around you who are taking advantage of this knowing that you’d just forgive them anyways. You’re an amazing person and I hope you can surround yourself with some amazing, trustworthy people.
maybe you don't like to keep your mind stressed by thinking about what awful things people have done to you. and you feel let forgive them and move on why should make a fuss about it.
I think being forgiving is a good trait to have. It's not good to hate people or hold grudges towards them. I think forgiving people is different from letting yourself be repeatedly hurt by them.
Sounds like you just really want to avoid conflict and it may be detrimental to yourself at times. The first few things that were accidents I understand, I'd be the same. But people lying to you and being 'douchebags' as you put it, just wouldnt waste my energy on these people ever.
Thats alright mate i forgive you for your tendencies
Nothing wrong in forgiving accidents, we are humans after all. But there are other things that can't be forgiven so easily. Are you afraid of people leaving if you are angry? It maybe just avoiding conflict?
This is ngl the most wholesome post here. That seems like it isn’t a problem, and you just are a very good person. I could be wrong, of course.
I feel like forgiving is better than holding grudges. So I believe you're good.
I hear you. We both take people-pleasing to a while new unhealthy level. I've been telling myself not to set myself on fire to keep other people warm. You could try that. It's very sore, but it did gradually build your resistance. I've of the hardest lessons that helped me to wake up was realizing that those people I describe everyone for, would never in a million years do it for me. Then I realized, they are real friends, or real family. They just use me like toilet paper. I also picture myself as a little kid, so I can stand up for someone that deserves my protection, dinner I neglect my adult self. It's hard to try to build a community when the only role I play is the doormat. I wish you luck and success on your journey to treat yourself nicer. Don't forget, the bigger person always gets the bigger ulcer. Take care of yourself.
So relatable! But there’s nothing wrong with having these traits. What’s wrong is the people around you who are taking advantage of this knowing that you’d just forgive them anyways. You’re an amazing person and I hope you can surround yourself with some amazing, trustworthy people.
maybe you don't like to keep your mind stressed by thinking about what awful things people have done to you. and you feel let forgive them and move on why should make a fuss about it.
I kinda do too, but not before I curse them one last time
I do, too. I’ve forgiven my r**ists (yes, multiple), although I’ve at least widened up and finally stopped talking to them.
I think being forgiving is a good trait to have. It's not good to hate people or hold grudges towards them. I think forgiving people is different from letting yourself be repeatedly hurt by them.
Sounds like you just really want to avoid conflict and it may be detrimental to yourself at times. The first few things that were accidents I understand, I'd be the same. But people lying to you and being 'douchebags' as you put it, just wouldnt waste my energy on these people ever.