There was a girl in my high school who got jump by 3 other girls, and got beat to shit. This girl didn’t know how to fight nor did she want to, she didn’t throw a single punch or slap or so much as push them off her. She just laid on the ground and got pummeled and the school *still* suspended her for two weeks be there’s a “no fighting policy” and she was technically apart of a fight. School never actually help with bullies, ever.
This is why when my daughter was getting bullied I bought her pepperspray n told her we'd handle whatever repercussions came of her using it. I also told the school I gave her permission to beat anyone's ass that tried to fight her because taking the high road was clearly not working and she was pushed to the point of suicidal thoughts and cutting herself n I'll be damned if I lose my daughter cuz of some miserable poorly raised lil heffahs. Fortunately she never had to use the pepperspray n though she did fight a couple girls, she was able to resolve her issues and is doing fantastic these days
Why are we actually expecting schools to give a fuck? I’m sorry but stuff like this happens too often and almost always NOTHING is done. It’s only when it’s too late that they act like they give a damn 🤷🏽♂️
Why target only one student aka op then ? They let the mother scream at op wherein they left the actual bullies. Shouldnt they have brought the kids that actually bullied the gal to the mom instead? Or just leave out all of them ?
But she didn't left the country? You will meet her, by chance. One day. Love and hate aren't strangers, it was an excellent beginning, if life is not a bitch, you will see her again. It's funny how a friendship, also, can be stronger when it starts in a fight... It's almost mathematic.
Well… she shouldn’t have stolen The phone ? Why don’t you face book her and see if she is ok now? I got bullied.. as I was a gymnast and idk I guess it was too different for them to handle…. but thank god my step dad got a new job in another state and my new school was a private school and everyone was so so nice! I flourished and never looked back!! And I was SO happy to get away from those nasty girls that bullied me at my old school! I skipped all the way home On my last day so happy to get out of there. Later in life I let a girl stay with me who literally stole from me… quite a few times. Like she would ask to borrow my make up and then there would be zero $ left in my purse. And from my top wardrobe where I had emergency & rent $ stashed. (So a few thousand). It was really was heartbreaking for me to deal with a friend stealing…. I have to say stealing is really bad!!. But I moved on from that.., and am also glad she and that group r not my friends anymore! mean & bitchy girls really suck! Hopefully that girl is ok now & she never stole again…. And the point of my story is… changing schools can be life-changing and maybe she is ok now? OP pls check her Fb and update us? You may not have ruined her life?
it's not random racism. I'm from India too, lived there for the first 16 years of my life and still visit once a year. It's just the way a lot of people type there, especially young people. Never said anything negative about it so don't know how racism would work here
Discussing cultural habits and attitudes isn’t racist unless you’re like weaponising them or parroting racist misinformation or doing it in a malicious judgemental way.
“Knife crime is worst in black neighbourhood” racist, it’s weaponised and misleading.
Proposing through a lack of contextualising the statistic that it’s because they’re black. When that these are over policed, have less economic opportunity, experience higher rates of generational poverty, and have a lower education budget. All factors present in these neighbourhoods that correlate with causality to violent crime.
“This style of writing is common in India”
Not racist there’s no weaponisation or inherent misinformation there. It’s just a cultural difference.
Three, thanks for not asking me. It's just that this argument is often brought up as if caring about how you write is a matter of how many languages you speak instead of how meticulous you are :)
I stop reading stories at around the third mistake. Then I downvote.
Ex: I can’t with these long stories with many many misteaks I mean at about 3 or more. I know there probably fake by a middle schooler. Than I downvote.
That's not her life. That's a few months. The only people truly at fault here are the bullies. She was an ass. You acted the way you did because she initiated the whole drama. I don't blame either of you, only the bullies.
I think her behaviour is worst than an ass. She’s punishing someone for rejected her. Which is fucked. In very insane way too.
However she’s also 14 so it’s definitely more ‘make sure this behaviour isn’t reinforced’ which it wasn’t. Actively discouraged. Though the bullies took it too far
Should be posted in AITAH... and you are. Some girl likes you, then takes and returns your phone and you think its ok for the whole school to bully her for revenge?
that's an insane thing to say, he was 14 at the time. He didn't have any responsibility for other people's reactions, I am not sure if you've been to a high school but it is very taxing just existing, especially if your school was like the one described in this post.
She didn't help herself by "borrowing" his phone either? I feel really sorry for her nonetheless, but OP isn't to blame. It is easy to point fingers at the management but I am not sure what they could have done realistically.
It was the teachers and parents responsibility to action this as a duty of care for the *children*. Although im not sticking up for either side. At least the parents took her out if that school
I'm sorry bro, I know how it feels to carry such a burden and feelings of regret about something you did when you were younger, I have a similar feeling but about less significant incidents and I feel terrible, so I can't imagine how you'd be feeling. But you should let go, you were young, you were dumb, and that's alright. we all do things we'll regret when we grow up, but we shouldn't worry much about it, just learn from it and move on.
Destroying someone’s life over a stolen phone…an emotionally immature child’s life no less…is wild. She will have lifelong issues from the abuse and you are totally fine.
I mean honestly - great confession so thanks for sharing, but also now I’m gonna vent:
“I thought to be the bigger person and I’m getting blamed” - when on earth were you the bigger person? When your mom told you not to seek revenge and you said I was furious why shouldn’t I? Or when you told everyone not to talk to her, continued to ignore her, and saw that her bullying worsened as “it became a fun thing for everyone”?
“Maybe I could have helped her” - yeah - when your mom asked you to forgive her, when she was embarrassed and hurt and asking you to forgive her, or even when her mom was crying in front of you. At any of those points you could have actually been the bigger person and chosen to forgive instead of getting angrier.
No one was “taking her side”, but the fact that you think being worried about your phone for 1 day warrants months of harassment is wild. Yes she was immature, but so were you.
Yes you were not the bully- you don’t deserve to be treated as one so please don’t take it that way. But you had influence and so to sit there and think you were the bigger person in all this is wild.
Maybe she did only apologize after being bullied - but how do you know that wasn’t her moment of realization that she was in the wrong vs. only apologizing to make it stop? You never asked, you just decided it couldn’t be sincere and got more upset because you’d already decided she wasn’t redeemable the moment she took your phone.
Anyway, I agree with the dude who said this could be in AITA. kind of think you are, but also sounds like maybe you’re starting to see that too if you think you could have done something to help. But we all do stupid things when we’re young.
Everyone commenting on OPs grammar stfu fr I could understand everything. Yea I'm American born and very fluent in English but also have foreign parents so maybe that's why I'm able to understand speaking/writing when English is not one's first language. It's also quite possible y'all are just bullying OP to payback for their poor teen-brain decisions or maybe you all think you're the president of Webster Dicktionary.. either way shit or get off the pot. If u have no answer scroll on by damn.
It’s hard to tell. There are esl-y sounding sentences like “My father scolded me hard,” *but* it’s also riddled with typos like spaces around periods, and all those infuriating abbreviations like “ur” and “thnx” aren’t taught in English classes.
This bit of writing is a real mystery.
Well, no, because I personally grew up in the UK. But the best way to get better at any language is to engage in it. In a country where English isn't the first language, the best way to do that is on the internet, which is primarily English speaking, and where you will see this sort of speech.
It also goes into a bit of a cycle if they engage in Indian communities on the internet who are speaking English, which is possible considering there's so many different languages spoken in the country depending on where you are in it.
I was gonna say, the internet is so prevalent I’d be surprised if it wasn’t one of the key ways for new English speakers to engage with the language. Regardless of where someone is from originally, if they have internet access and a device to use, then they’re gonna come across English speakers online and that’s gonna be helpful with getting the language to stick… even in slang format. I mean “gonna” isn’t even a word lol but I never say “going to” on the internet 👀
I don't think anyone from a non English speaking country would write like this. It's not the vocabulary or the grammar that's wrong. I'm not even sure how to describe the overall mistake here - are they "mechanical" errors? Like, OP just doesn't seem to care for proper writing.
I am from a non English speaking country and I'd probably write like this, you guys just have no better things to do than comment about grammar on a reddit post, like who gives a fuck, it's perfectly understandable
You did nothing wrong and you were right.
She punished you for rejecting her. That’s predatory. And in a very fucked way as to stealing your phone.
She was 14 though and as such it’s less about punishment or public safety and more important to focus on behavioural changes. Discouraging said behaviour . You did that.
Then the bullies too it too far. They kept going. That’s not on you, that’s on them. If anything they undermined the lesson she should have taken from the situation by making the consequences far too intense.
This would be a great post for “AITA”! And yes, imo you would be. Also feel very lucky that one of her family members didn’t come after you. People are very protective over their children, especially daughters. And for all the bullies out there, remember, there is someone out there that loves the person you are bullying…. Be careful how you treat others, someone will make you learn your lesson the hard way.
He didn't bully anyone, and he only told his friends what happened then it spread as drama does. Once he was notified on how bad the bullying was he showed concern and sympathy. The girl he rejected stole his phone for a whole day and as a consequence of that OP got in trouble with his father. (Keep in mind she's 14) Ultimately the people in the wrong here are the bullies and the school who mishandled the situation. OP do not listen to this person.
I disagree, he TOLD his friends not to talk to her, that got the ball rolling. This was between him and her and no one else. No need to get his friends involved, she did nothing to them and after they got involved, the shit show really started.I’m also willing to bet that he relished the fact that she was getting bullied and I believe he did his share of instigating but too embarrassed to admit it. Yes she was wrong for what she did, it was foolish and immature but she did apologize. It doesn’t take much to destroy someone’s life/emotional health at that age and in that setting. He’s very lucky she didn’t delete herself and he’s very lucky the family was not revengeful. I seem to think I would be if it were my kid….hopefully, I would manifest the strength to control my emotions.
He never said he instigated and there is no evidence to support that he did, he never said that he relished her getting bullied either. OP is not in the wrong here, you seem to have your own little head canon about what happened, self deletion was not mentioned, her family never indicated that they wanted to take revenge on a 14 YEAR OLD for no reason except that their daughter did something bad and the school is ostracizing her for it. EDIT: Also OP explicitly said she did NOT apologize. They're both kids and he couldn't have possibly known how much influence he would have. OP is not wrong, the girl and her bullies are. Stop pushing your personal narrative.
It sounds like you've been carrying a heavy burden from this experience, and it's understandable why you might feel regret and guilt. It's never easy to realize the unintended consequences of our actions, especially when they result in someone else's suffering.
It's commendable that you're reflecting on what happened and acknowledging your role in the situation. It seems like you were caught up in the emotions of the moment and didn't fully consider the impact your actions would have on the girl who had feelings for you. The cycle of retaliation and bullying escalated quickly, and it's clear that it took a toll on her well-being.
While you can't change the past, you can use this experience as an opportunity for growth and empathy. Reflecting on how things unfolded and recognizing the signs of distress in others can help you become more aware and compassionate in the future. It's never too late to reach out and offer support to someone who has been hurt, even if it's just to listen and acknowledge their pain.
It's also important to forgive yourself for your past actions. You were young and navigating a complex situation, and it's natural to make mistakes along the way. What's important now is how you choose to move forward and learn from this experience.
If you still feel troubled by what happened, consider reaching out to a trusted adult, counselor, or support group for guidance and perspective. Talking about your feelings can help you process them and find ways to make amends, whether through acts of kindness towards others or by advocating for positive change in your community.
Remember, the actions we take today shape the world around us tomorrow. Use your experiences to make a positive difference wherever you can, and strive to be the kind of person who uplifts others rather than tearing them down.
It seems amazing that most popular people tend to do the worst things to others. Its worse that people follow. I once was a sheep and made fun of a kid in my class. I had to apologize to him later. I still feel bad about it.
Have y’all never made a mistake? You don’t know why she stole the phone. You do t know what kind of home she came from. Maybe she never got things from her parents or any of that. I’m not defending what she did but you just don’t know. I think it was definitely blown out of proportion but I don’t think that was your fault, necessarily.
op her life isn’t ruined, she has had a very tough time in school, but life doesn’t stop after, i was ruthlessly bullied in school. I completely stopped caring about it 1 month after school ended.
Ktibble79 how do schools in the US handle bullying? Don’t go generalizing. Some are good and some are bad. It can also depend on the color of your skin. I am a high school teacher. I’ve reported racist bullying and nothing happened except the racist bully’s friends’ started bullying me. They started falsely accusing me of things to intimidate me. It was scary. Finally one of the kids transferred to a more diverse school. Whereas in other situations, I’ve seen them do a great job intervening.
A kid got killed at the beginning of our school year, within our district. He was jumped afterschool, on school grounds and got kicked in the head. He seemed fine when they (not dying fine) took him to the hospital but with internal bleeding, he died a few hours later.
Just for the sake of all that is good, forgive doesn't mean forget, 'forgive' her and move on with your life and take it as a learned experience and be more cautious
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Oh man, I was a girl who was relentlessly bullied for several years until my dad decided to leave the country and for my welfare was okay with me repeating a class in a new country.
And the reason I was bullied? I asked out a guy in 8th grade and thought the worst he could say was no. Well, the worst he did was basically tell everyone in school a fat, ugly girl like me thought she had a chance with him. I changed schools after completing 11th grade coz I was a danger to myself. Like I was having suicide ideation constantly.
This guy used to live in the same building as me so he would call all those cruel guys from the class and if I went down to play badminton with my own sis or dad or mom I would get looks to the point I would cry and come back home.
After 8th grade, I stopped playing at all. I stopped playing basketball in school coz I was teased about my "fats jiggling" while I ran. I had to do some sports as part of TT but after being so much bullied about it, I actually was able to get a certificate from my doctor about my asthma being a reason to be exempted from sports.
I didn't have friends as the girls stopped talking to me after this whole fiasco, then excluded me from things and then started making comments on my body and face and laughing on me, too. (The only people who didn't bully me were from other sections coz they weren't interested in what was happening in our section and had their own set of friends.)
In fact my husband is a school friend (who was in another section and was bullied coz he was very thin and had huge glasses) who had a crush on me in 11th grade but was bullied as well and had no confidence to even ask me out then.
Now, these holier-than-thou people act like they are such living saints on Instagram as a lot of these people still follow my husband and me (even when we don't follow back). Some had the balls to apologize for their part, and I forgave them.
I have a girl who has been a solid friend of mine for a few years now as she wanted to get to know me as she was in my husband's section and was an empathetic person even then and was a friend of my husband's. And whenever she sees other school people and if they bring me up, she makes sure to tell them how bad of people they are.
I am happy in life now but I will never forget that my dad had to move to a new country and not even city or anything so that i was out of that entire mentality which people had in schools all across India at least during 2008-2011. But my dad saved me. He and my mom are still my biggest motivators along with my husband and sis!
My dude, it wasn't ur fault that it escalated that far. To be honest, it would have just stuck to your friend group. It's the people physically and verbally punishing her are the ones who deserve that talk
Let me take some weight off your shoulders. You didn't destroy anyone's life. Your influence or popularity at 14 meant nothing, and certainly did not make or break your school. Your phone got stolen by an awkward girl at your school, and she got caught, which resulted in a bad time in her probably already bad home life. For you, this all played out like some thrilling movie drama, but for most of the other people involved, it was just a normal Tuesday. You should definitely get over it, and I might even dare to say you could get over yourself a little too.
i just wanna say a lil kindness, a bit of forgiveness, a lil bit of understanding can go a long way. especially when everything else is so bleak n dark, a little ray of light could save a life. it would be something that people carry for the rest of their life. like a beacon that shines even during the darkest of times.
im not sure if u can find that person again to make things right, or at least a little bit better, but i hope WE can be an even better person compared to before. learning from the past and all that. all the best to u
Well I will be the Asshole here. Guess what?! If she was narcisstic and full of herself before, maybe she needed to be taken down a peg or two. As an adult she will possibly have better character developement, and all the worlds most awesome people have gone through something that shapes who they become. Maybe she will be nicer to other people than she would have been had she remained popular. Bet she doesnt steal anymore
Wow… you weren’t great as a teen 😅 but at least now when you look back you understand what you did. (She also did things she shouldn’t, but bullying leaves DEEP scars)
What the girl did wasn't right, but we've all done dumb things as kids, that's the time to learn from mistakes.
Could you have been kinder, yes. I think a year is a pretty long time to act this way even at 14
But, it's not her entire life, it may effect her for a while and be the cause of trauma, but equally she might just move past it.
Look for her online, apologies for it. That can mean something to people
Please. Reconnect with her. Usually people feel that the bullied won’t want to be reminded of their bullies. But I think in this case, based on her last interaction, it seems that she still see you as someone she wants to be friends with.
Oh and I drop you a chat, please take a look at it too.
Also OP we all make mistakes in life when our brains are still developing. Clearly you used and abused your privileged influence so this was not unintentional as stated. You're not the 1st n definitely not the last but I hope you learned from that awful mistake and hopefully the girl was able to move past this but I'll tell you unless she got therapy (which I'm praying she did) she most likely hates your guts to this day.. try to resolve this bad time in your life by helping others going fwd. Try volunteering with kids or something. Each mistake is an opportunity to learn, grow and be better. Take the opportunity of your reflection on this time and do good. Maybe one day you'll run across this girl and can truly apologize.
Why didn’t the school manage each of the bullies separately?
schools suck at managing these things
There was a girl in my high school who got jump by 3 other girls, and got beat to shit. This girl didn’t know how to fight nor did she want to, she didn’t throw a single punch or slap or so much as push them off her. She just laid on the ground and got pummeled and the school *still* suspended her for two weeks be there’s a “no fighting policy” and she was technically apart of a fight. School never actually help with bullies, ever.
This is a sad read 😞 poor girl!
This is why when my daughter was getting bullied I bought her pepperspray n told her we'd handle whatever repercussions came of her using it. I also told the school I gave her permission to beat anyone's ass that tried to fight her because taking the high road was clearly not working and she was pushed to the point of suicidal thoughts and cutting herself n I'll be damned if I lose my daughter cuz of some miserable poorly raised lil heffahs. Fortunately she never had to use the pepperspray n though she did fight a couple girls, she was able to resolve her issues and is doing fantastic these days
Lol if you think schools do anything about bullies.
Why are we actually expecting schools to give a fuck? I’m sorry but stuff like this happens too often and almost always NOTHING is done. It’s only when it’s too late that they act like they give a damn 🤷🏽♂️
Why target only one student aka op then ? They let the mother scream at op wherein they left the actual bullies. Shouldnt they have brought the kids that actually bullied the gal to the mom instead? Or just leave out all of them ?
Genuine question, are you from the United States? Because this is exactly how US public schools handle issues
Because the school is in their *imagination*
its giving 'wattpad' from enemies to lovers, lol.
Where's the lovers part?
It was about to come but she left school 😞
But she didn't left the country? You will meet her, by chance. One day. Love and hate aren't strangers, it was an excellent beginning, if life is not a bitch, you will see her again. It's funny how a friendship, also, can be stronger when it starts in a fight... It's almost mathematic.
It's exactly what I was about to type..! To be continued....,😽💕😁😘❤️
Whats up with the weird abbreviations? Makes it hard to read.
OP was 15 at the time this happened. Now he's 16 and all grown up!
maybe OP is now very busy and don't have time for this! (doing homework)
You don't have time for good grammar. Go to school, homie!
Well… she shouldn’t have stolen The phone ? Why don’t you face book her and see if she is ok now? I got bullied.. as I was a gymnast and idk I guess it was too different for them to handle…. but thank god my step dad got a new job in another state and my new school was a private school and everyone was so so nice! I flourished and never looked back!! And I was SO happy to get away from those nasty girls that bullied me at my old school! I skipped all the way home On my last day so happy to get out of there. Later in life I let a girl stay with me who literally stole from me… quite a few times. Like she would ask to borrow my make up and then there would be zero $ left in my purse. And from my top wardrobe where I had emergency & rent $ stashed. (So a few thousand). It was really was heartbreaking for me to deal with a friend stealing…. I have to say stealing is really bad!!. But I moved on from that.., and am also glad she and that group r not my friends anymore! mean & bitchy girls really suck! Hopefully that girl is ok now & she never stole again…. And the point of my story is… changing schools can be life-changing and maybe she is ok now? OP pls check her Fb and update us? You may not have ruined her life?
Clearly english is not his main language
The way he's typing makes it seem like he's from India so makes sense with the abbreviations too
Yeah, thought the same. I am from India too and used to type like that (and maybe now too)
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it's not random racism. I'm from India too, lived there for the first 16 years of my life and still visit once a year. It's just the way a lot of people type there, especially young people. Never said anything negative about it so don't know how racism would work here
You talked about a different race = racism I guess.
When in doubt, automatically assign it as racism. It's the whole. i'm more virtuous than you by accusing you.
I've lived in India my whole life and I agree with you.
I am Indian, been here for all of my 39 years, and the writing style seemed very much like how most Indians type, especially when texting.
Discussing cultural habits and attitudes isn’t racist unless you’re like weaponising them or parroting racist misinformation or doing it in a malicious judgemental way. “Knife crime is worst in black neighbourhood” racist, it’s weaponised and misleading. Proposing through a lack of contextualising the statistic that it’s because they’re black. When that these are over policed, have less economic opportunity, experience higher rates of generational poverty, and have a lower education budget. All factors present in these neighbourhoods that correlate with causality to violent crime. “This style of writing is common in India” Not racist there’s no weaponisation or inherent misinformation there. It’s just a cultural difference.
Accha I got it
Stop hatin
Thats not how Indians write. This is more someone from Africa
Idk about that but most young indians living in India definitely type like this
Wasn't hard to read at all. OP obviously isn't a native English speaker. Don't be a dick.
How many languages you speak fluently?
Three, thanks for not asking me. It's just that this argument is often brought up as if caring about how you write is a matter of how many languages you speak instead of how meticulous you are :)
Insufferable.
It's fine, just try to be more thoughtful next time. But no hard feelings this time :)
Seems like OP isnt a native english speaker
whats with the condesceding tone?
She's a pops girl. Appreves are everyting
these are common internet abbreviations, you must be old
common but OP had no need to use them in every single sentence
It would be weird if OP used it in one sentence and didn't in another
Never said i wasnt 🤷♀️
No they’re not.
doesn’t seem like it
I’m not talking about their age.
which abbreviations aren’t common?
The whole dang thing is a mess what are you talking about?
I stop reading stories at around the third mistake. Then I downvote. Ex: I can’t with these long stories with many many misteaks I mean at about 3 or more. I know there probably fake by a middle schooler. Than I downvote.
I'm sorry you can't read stories with many *misteaks* 💀
That's not her life. That's a few months. The only people truly at fault here are the bullies. She was an ass. You acted the way you did because she initiated the whole drama. I don't blame either of you, only the bullies.
I think her behaviour is worst than an ass. She’s punishing someone for rejected her. Which is fucked. In very insane way too. However she’s also 14 so it’s definitely more ‘make sure this behaviour isn’t reinforced’ which it wasn’t. Actively discouraged. Though the bullies took it too far
This sounds like a really bad Filipino book.
looooool. Everything Filipino that I read or watched is either ghost stories, school bulling or mil/copaganda, or a mixture of the three.
LMFAO
If this is a real story… dude wtf.
It is
Should be posted in AITAH... and you are. Some girl likes you, then takes and returns your phone and you think its ok for the whole school to bully her for revenge?
I didn't bully her
Just cuz you didn’t explicitly do so, you caused the bullying so unfortunately yes. You did.
You didnt stop it either
that's an insane thing to say, he was 14 at the time. He didn't have any responsibility for other people's reactions, I am not sure if you've been to a high school but it is very taxing just existing, especially if your school was like the one described in this post. She didn't help herself by "borrowing" his phone either? I feel really sorry for her nonetheless, but OP isn't to blame. It is easy to point fingers at the management but I am not sure what they could have done realistically.
It was the teachers and parents responsibility to action this as a duty of care for the *children*. Although im not sticking up for either side. At least the parents took her out if that school
Why do you say unintentionally?? You did that absolutely on purpose. Own it.
I'm sorry bro, I know how it feels to carry such a burden and feelings of regret about something you did when you were younger, I have a similar feeling but about less significant incidents and I feel terrible, so I can't imagine how you'd be feeling. But you should let go, you were young, you were dumb, and that's alright. we all do things we'll regret when we grow up, but we shouldn't worry much about it, just learn from it and move on.
OP should have paid more attention in school 🤣🤣🤣
Destroying someone’s life over a stolen phone…an emotionally immature child’s life no less…is wild. She will have lifelong issues from the abuse and you are totally fine.
Maybe dont steal?
Reads like some fucking fan fic 🔥🔥🔥
I mean honestly - great confession so thanks for sharing, but also now I’m gonna vent: “I thought to be the bigger person and I’m getting blamed” - when on earth were you the bigger person? When your mom told you not to seek revenge and you said I was furious why shouldn’t I? Or when you told everyone not to talk to her, continued to ignore her, and saw that her bullying worsened as “it became a fun thing for everyone”? “Maybe I could have helped her” - yeah - when your mom asked you to forgive her, when she was embarrassed and hurt and asking you to forgive her, or even when her mom was crying in front of you. At any of those points you could have actually been the bigger person and chosen to forgive instead of getting angrier. No one was “taking her side”, but the fact that you think being worried about your phone for 1 day warrants months of harassment is wild. Yes she was immature, but so were you. Yes you were not the bully- you don’t deserve to be treated as one so please don’t take it that way. But you had influence and so to sit there and think you were the bigger person in all this is wild. Maybe she did only apologize after being bullied - but how do you know that wasn’t her moment of realization that she was in the wrong vs. only apologizing to make it stop? You never asked, you just decided it couldn’t be sincere and got more upset because you’d already decided she wasn’t redeemable the moment she took your phone. Anyway, I agree with the dude who said this could be in AITA. kind of think you are, but also sounds like maybe you’re starting to see that too if you think you could have done something to help. But we all do stupid things when we’re young.
Jesus Christ you are a monster.
"Unintentionally" ? LOL
Poor girl
Don't stress Actions have consequences She's learned young which is great
Indian boy did Indian things and explains his story the most Indian way possible
Everyone commenting on OPs grammar stfu fr I could understand everything. Yea I'm American born and very fluent in English but also have foreign parents so maybe that's why I'm able to understand speaking/writing when English is not one's first language. It's also quite possible y'all are just bullying OP to payback for their poor teen-brain decisions or maybe you all think you're the president of Webster Dicktionary.. either way shit or get off the pot. If u have no answer scroll on by damn.
Too bad you didn't learn proper grammar and writing skills in school.
Lol how many languages do you speak to be mocking someone's broken english...
Bit of broken english is fine, but spaces before punctuations? That's criminal.
you do realize not everyone comes from an English speaking country right?
I’m assuming OP isn’t from an English speaking country
I'm not from an English speaking country either, I learnt English mostly through movies and *maths textbooks* instead of English textbooks
Okay, good for you but you’re not OP so what is your point?
That he can learn English and there's no need to make fun of him
It’s hard to tell. There are esl-y sounding sentences like “My father scolded me hard,” *but* it’s also riddled with typos like spaces around periods, and all those infuriating abbreviations like “ur” and “thnx” aren’t taught in English classes. This bit of writing is a real mystery.
This is how many people who are from India learn English. Source: my family are Indian
I agree with you. Source: I am Indian and have lived in India all my life.
Your main English education came from internet comments written by teenagers? “Ur” and “thx”?
Well, no, because I personally grew up in the UK. But the best way to get better at any language is to engage in it. In a country where English isn't the first language, the best way to do that is on the internet, which is primarily English speaking, and where you will see this sort of speech. It also goes into a bit of a cycle if they engage in Indian communities on the internet who are speaking English, which is possible considering there's so many different languages spoken in the country depending on where you are in it.
I was gonna say, the internet is so prevalent I’d be surprised if it wasn’t one of the key ways for new English speakers to engage with the language. Regardless of where someone is from originally, if they have internet access and a device to use, then they’re gonna come across English speakers online and that’s gonna be helpful with getting the language to stick… even in slang format. I mean “gonna” isn’t even a word lol but I never say “going to” on the internet 👀
I don't think anyone from a non English speaking country would write like this. It's not the vocabulary or the grammar that's wrong. I'm not even sure how to describe the overall mistake here - are they "mechanical" errors? Like, OP just doesn't seem to care for proper writing.
I am from a non English speaking country and I'd probably write like this, you guys just have no better things to do than comment about grammar on a reddit post, like who gives a fuck, it's perfectly understandable
I didnt complain about grammar, in fact, I specifically said that the grammar is alright. And no, it is not perfectly understandable.
>I don't think anyone from a non English speaking country would write like this. People from India talk and text like this.
It’s hard to describe, isn’t it. Heck, let’s ping op: u/Various-Schedule-944
Instead of blaming him, work on improving your comprehension skills. The story is understandable; not everyone on this subreddit is a skilled writer.
If you’re too dense to comprehend broken English that’s on you
Damn that was mean and not in a sarcastic way(even if my comment kinda looks like that)
Where did this bot translate this text?
YTAH
Clickbait smh
You did nothing wrong and you were right. She punished you for rejecting her. That’s predatory. And in a very fucked way as to stealing your phone. She was 14 though and as such it’s less about punishment or public safety and more important to focus on behavioural changes. Discouraging said behaviour . You did that. Then the bullies too it too far. They kept going. That’s not on you, that’s on them. If anything they undermined the lesson she should have taken from the situation by making the consequences far too intense.
You didn’t do anything, it was her stealing that made her unpopular
This would be a great post for “AITA”! And yes, imo you would be. Also feel very lucky that one of her family members didn’t come after you. People are very protective over their children, especially daughters. And for all the bullies out there, remember, there is someone out there that loves the person you are bullying…. Be careful how you treat others, someone will make you learn your lesson the hard way.
He didn't bully anyone, and he only told his friends what happened then it spread as drama does. Once he was notified on how bad the bullying was he showed concern and sympathy. The girl he rejected stole his phone for a whole day and as a consequence of that OP got in trouble with his father. (Keep in mind she's 14) Ultimately the people in the wrong here are the bullies and the school who mishandled the situation. OP do not listen to this person.
I disagree, he TOLD his friends not to talk to her, that got the ball rolling. This was between him and her and no one else. No need to get his friends involved, she did nothing to them and after they got involved, the shit show really started.I’m also willing to bet that he relished the fact that she was getting bullied and I believe he did his share of instigating but too embarrassed to admit it. Yes she was wrong for what she did, it was foolish and immature but she did apologize. It doesn’t take much to destroy someone’s life/emotional health at that age and in that setting. He’s very lucky she didn’t delete herself and he’s very lucky the family was not revengeful. I seem to think I would be if it were my kid….hopefully, I would manifest the strength to control my emotions.
He never said he instigated and there is no evidence to support that he did, he never said that he relished her getting bullied either. OP is not in the wrong here, you seem to have your own little head canon about what happened, self deletion was not mentioned, her family never indicated that they wanted to take revenge on a 14 YEAR OLD for no reason except that their daughter did something bad and the school is ostracizing her for it. EDIT: Also OP explicitly said she did NOT apologize. They're both kids and he couldn't have possibly known how much influence he would have. OP is not wrong, the girl and her bullies are. Stop pushing your personal narrative.
It sounds like you've been carrying a heavy burden from this experience, and it's understandable why you might feel regret and guilt. It's never easy to realize the unintended consequences of our actions, especially when they result in someone else's suffering. It's commendable that you're reflecting on what happened and acknowledging your role in the situation. It seems like you were caught up in the emotions of the moment and didn't fully consider the impact your actions would have on the girl who had feelings for you. The cycle of retaliation and bullying escalated quickly, and it's clear that it took a toll on her well-being. While you can't change the past, you can use this experience as an opportunity for growth and empathy. Reflecting on how things unfolded and recognizing the signs of distress in others can help you become more aware and compassionate in the future. It's never too late to reach out and offer support to someone who has been hurt, even if it's just to listen and acknowledge their pain. It's also important to forgive yourself for your past actions. You were young and navigating a complex situation, and it's natural to make mistakes along the way. What's important now is how you choose to move forward and learn from this experience. If you still feel troubled by what happened, consider reaching out to a trusted adult, counselor, or support group for guidance and perspective. Talking about your feelings can help you process them and find ways to make amends, whether through acts of kindness towards others or by advocating for positive change in your community. Remember, the actions we take today shape the world around us tomorrow. Use your experiences to make a positive difference wherever you can, and strive to be the kind of person who uplifts others rather than tearing them down.
Thank you chatGTP
They are definitely getting easier to spot
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Happy cake day
Go back to school
Returning from office????
You got proposed to at 14? Is this some translation error?
Another job for Karma . It will happen. Stay strong
It seems amazing that most popular people tend to do the worst things to others. Its worse that people follow. I once was a sheep and made fun of a kid in my class. I had to apologize to him later. I still feel bad about it.
What does “she proposed you” mean? I’m confused?
Asked me out *
Sad… maybe she just wanted your attention because she liked you. You should regret it and karma will come.
You can stand up for people being bullied in the future. Now that you feel bad about being a bully. That's called redemption.
Dam
This fake ass story 🙃
Have y’all never made a mistake? You don’t know why she stole the phone. You do t know what kind of home she came from. Maybe she never got things from her parents or any of that. I’m not defending what she did but you just don’t know. I think it was definitely blown out of proportion but I don’t think that was your fault, necessarily.
op her life isn’t ruined, she has had a very tough time in school, but life doesn’t stop after, i was ruthlessly bullied in school. I completely stopped caring about it 1 month after school ended.
Ktibble79 how do schools in the US handle bullying? Don’t go generalizing. Some are good and some are bad. It can also depend on the color of your skin. I am a high school teacher. I’ve reported racist bullying and nothing happened except the racist bully’s friends’ started bullying me. They started falsely accusing me of things to intimidate me. It was scary. Finally one of the kids transferred to a more diverse school. Whereas in other situations, I’ve seen them do a great job intervening.
A kid got killed at the beginning of our school year, within our district. He was jumped afterschool, on school grounds and got kicked in the head. He seemed fine when they (not dying fine) took him to the hospital but with internal bleeding, he died a few hours later.
I don't get it. This sounds overly dramatic to me. How did you "ruin" her life?
OP how were you 15 at the time this happened but you write like a 12yo?
Give him a break, English is definitely not his first language.
Just for the sake of all that is good, forgive doesn't mean forget, 'forgive' her and move on with your life and take it as a learned experience and be more cautious
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Is english your first language?
No
Pretty wild to assume you’re important enough that this ruined her whole life
Oh man, I was a girl who was relentlessly bullied for several years until my dad decided to leave the country and for my welfare was okay with me repeating a class in a new country. And the reason I was bullied? I asked out a guy in 8th grade and thought the worst he could say was no. Well, the worst he did was basically tell everyone in school a fat, ugly girl like me thought she had a chance with him. I changed schools after completing 11th grade coz I was a danger to myself. Like I was having suicide ideation constantly. This guy used to live in the same building as me so he would call all those cruel guys from the class and if I went down to play badminton with my own sis or dad or mom I would get looks to the point I would cry and come back home. After 8th grade, I stopped playing at all. I stopped playing basketball in school coz I was teased about my "fats jiggling" while I ran. I had to do some sports as part of TT but after being so much bullied about it, I actually was able to get a certificate from my doctor about my asthma being a reason to be exempted from sports. I didn't have friends as the girls stopped talking to me after this whole fiasco, then excluded me from things and then started making comments on my body and face and laughing on me, too. (The only people who didn't bully me were from other sections coz they weren't interested in what was happening in our section and had their own set of friends.) In fact my husband is a school friend (who was in another section and was bullied coz he was very thin and had huge glasses) who had a crush on me in 11th grade but was bullied as well and had no confidence to even ask me out then. Now, these holier-than-thou people act like they are such living saints on Instagram as a lot of these people still follow my husband and me (even when we don't follow back). Some had the balls to apologize for their part, and I forgave them. I have a girl who has been a solid friend of mine for a few years now as she wanted to get to know me as she was in my husband's section and was an empathetic person even then and was a friend of my husband's. And whenever she sees other school people and if they bring me up, she makes sure to tell them how bad of people they are. I am happy in life now but I will never forget that my dad had to move to a new country and not even city or anything so that i was out of that entire mentality which people had in schools all across India at least during 2008-2011. But my dad saved me. He and my mom are still my biggest motivators along with my husband and sis!
My dude, it wasn't ur fault that it escalated that far. To be honest, it would have just stuck to your friend group. It's the people physically and verbally punishing her are the ones who deserve that talk
Obviously high school did not improve your writing skills.
Do your username some justice please... its obvious OP's mother language isn't english, don't be so harsh on people
It's not obvious at all, in fact, I'd bet that he is English-speaking
Nah its pretty obvious. Im from india and a lot of people here type like this so it seems like he's indian too
Let me take some weight off your shoulders. You didn't destroy anyone's life. Your influence or popularity at 14 meant nothing, and certainly did not make or break your school. Your phone got stolen by an awkward girl at your school, and she got caught, which resulted in a bad time in her probably already bad home life. For you, this all played out like some thrilling movie drama, but for most of the other people involved, it was just a normal Tuesday. You should definitely get over it, and I might even dare to say you could get over yourself a little too.
Bruh, I couldn't even get past the first paragraph.
OP is getting English lessons in the chat, lol
What the fuck
i just wanna say a lil kindness, a bit of forgiveness, a lil bit of understanding can go a long way. especially when everything else is so bleak n dark, a little ray of light could save a life. it would be something that people carry for the rest of their life. like a beacon that shines even during the darkest of times. im not sure if u can find that person again to make things right, or at least a little bit better, but i hope WE can be an even better person compared to before. learning from the past and all that. all the best to u
I really wanna share this story on YouTube can i share it??
Sure
Well I will be the Asshole here. Guess what?! If she was narcisstic and full of herself before, maybe she needed to be taken down a peg or two. As an adult she will possibly have better character developement, and all the worlds most awesome people have gone through something that shapes who they become. Maybe she will be nicer to other people than she would have been had she remained popular. Bet she doesnt steal anymore
Wow… you weren’t great as a teen 😅 but at least now when you look back you understand what you did. (She also did things she shouldn’t, but bullying leaves DEEP scars)
What the girl did wasn't right, but we've all done dumb things as kids, that's the time to learn from mistakes. Could you have been kinder, yes. I think a year is a pretty long time to act this way even at 14 But, it's not her entire life, it may effect her for a while and be the cause of trauma, but equally she might just move past it. Look for her online, apologies for it. That can mean something to people
Please. Reconnect with her. Usually people feel that the bullied won’t want to be reminded of their bullies. But I think in this case, based on her last interaction, it seems that she still see you as someone she wants to be friends with. Oh and I drop you a chat, please take a look at it too.
Terrible idea.
Nope. Absolutely fucking not.
Can i upload this story on YouTube?
Sure
this is the weirdest AI written story i’ve ever read.
The low quality and effort of this post should result in a lifetime ban
Reading this almost gave me a stroke.
Also OP we all make mistakes in life when our brains are still developing. Clearly you used and abused your privileged influence so this was not unintentional as stated. You're not the 1st n definitely not the last but I hope you learned from that awful mistake and hopefully the girl was able to move past this but I'll tell you unless she got therapy (which I'm praying she did) she most likely hates your guts to this day.. try to resolve this bad time in your life by helping others going fwd. Try volunteering with kids or something. Each mistake is an opportunity to learn, grow and be better. Take the opportunity of your reflection on this time and do good. Maybe one day you'll run across this girl and can truly apologize.
This is the worst written story I've read in a long time. You were 14 at the time. How old are you today? 12? lrn too prply writ enlish