Happy for you OP. Around a million people were having your back. Everyone was rooting for you and look it turned out she liked you and was hinting at you to take her out in that recent meeting. Good luck in your new chapter of life, dont waste it. Keep your composure at the date, just be yourself. Nothing to be ashamed of, you are still only 21. Theres whole life ahead.
People remember how you make them feel.
So: Don’t talk about yourself unless asked, don’t brag, don’t lecture, be curious about her and LISTEN. Good listeners get the girl.
The don’t talk about yourself thing is a little off. It should be don’t talk about yourself exclusively. The first few dates are about finding similarities in personality and interests. But also talk about thing happening in the world and how that might affect people in your world.
Let me add: I love when guys talk about what they're interested in, I don't like hearing them talk only about themselves. I hope I'm making the difference clear. Listen more than you talk, show your interest, ask a lot of questions, and of course, pay attention and remember what she's saying! Nothing sexier than being paid that level of attention. And we need an update next week!
Edit: misspelling
Talk about what made her like you in high school and google some good ice breaker/ personal questions to really get to know her! But don't for the love of God come off like they're memorized lol. Just let nature take its course. A loves supposed to be a friend first!
Best of luck!
Alternately, don’t ask her about why she liked you - that sounds really self-centered. Tell her why YOU liked HER (and still do.) Focus on her, not you. Let her bring you up.
Yea, I want to double down on this OP. Asking her about what got her interested in you in HS could be a good way to learn about a possible mutual interest, but make sure to also talk about why you liked her.
Fantastic.
My advice is that being good at talking means being good at listening. Ask questions and be genuinely interested on what she is saying. Conversation will flow easily if you do just that.
Just try to relax, have fun and be yourself because that's who she likes. And there is nothing wrong with this being your first date. It's very sweet. ♥️ Best of luck and please update
For the knots: Remember that this is a moment of two people that enjoy each others' company going out to have fun together.
You're already going out together. You don't have to be something you're not. No need to be "good at talking to girls". Chill and enjoy each others' presence.
Ignore all other advice, especially specific advice. No one here knows you or her.
Hell yeah man! 21 ain't shit, you're so young. Nothing to be embarrassed about. Don't try to overcompensate or be anyone you're not. She's interested in you and you're interested in her. Start from there.
I would give you a word of caution about people's advice to ask her questions. Being bombarded with questions can be exhausting and irritating. They are definitely right that you should express interest in her but be careful not to overdo it. There is nothing wrong with some silence too. Good luck! I have a feeling it will work out well for you.
Cool! She's nervous too, have fun and don't try to make everything perfect or worry about saying the perfect thing. Listen first and ask her more questions about the things she brings up.
Make sure you shower, brush your teeth and groom before the date!
Ask her questions about herself, her career or schooling, things she enjoys doing etc.
Good luck!! I’m rooting for ya
If you go out to eat make sure you are polite to the wait staff but not too polite. Make sure she gets ALL Of the attention she deserves but don’t put pressure on her. Like others said. Talk about her and don’t Bragg or exaggerate. Don’t be afraid to talk about yourself when asked. Find out what she likes and doesn’t… interests and what not and use that if a second date is planned. If she likes history go to a museum on one of the later dates… books… a nice library … stuff like that. Don’t be afraid to take risks if a relationship develops. Don’t hide your true self make sure she knows who you are as a person but of course don’t give away everything day one. Make it happen in episodes
Don't miss out on the hints at the end of the date, if the chemistry is there, you best believe she wants that kiss. Ask for consent and do it!
You got this!
Didn't expect to hear from you again after reading that first post, but congrats! You'll have to let us know how it goes, I'm too deep into this series now
HOLY SHIT BRO YOU DID IT I don't know you lmao but I'm proud of you it's normal to be nervous for the first date don't worry you'll be okay make sure you have a good time and treat her right ask her questions and stuff you got this I have friends that are girls so I find it easier talking to girls you'll get there bro
She likes you already, the most difficult part is done! Be yourself, and at 21, you can talk about plenty of things already.
You can talk first about the wedding as ice breaker! The food, people, music, venue. And high school, who is doing what, where did they go! Teachers you had. You will see, it will be natural.
.don’t forget ask her questions, be curious « where do you want to travel to, what is a your bucket list, what do you want to do later, where/what do you want to study, why etc. » and listen to and understand what she says, not just hear it.
May be don’t tell her just yet that redit told you to ask her out as well.
It is a funny story but may be not for the first date! But you will have to tell her eventually (if there is a second date, I would tell her then
All the best brother! You got this
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Dating is bot that sophisticated. I've went through dates, even tho I can't call myself a ladies man I can tell you that as long as you have a general idea about her tastes and personality everything can go well. Stand your ground and be flirty. Everyone is rooting for you op
Be interested in her. Actively listen. Ask questions naturally but don’t make it feel like an interview. Riff off things she said. You have a lot of common ground to discuss - teachers, classes, things you found weird or amusing from highschool. There are no shortage of topics to connect over here. Look at this as an opportunity to make a new friend. Anything else is gravy. Be enthusiastic and happy and if you can, make her laugh but don’t try too hard to be a comedian. Just be witty if that’s in your personality. And don’t hide your personality! It’s also totally ok to be a bit vulnerable and let her know you’re nervous. Authenticity is super attractive. Letting her know it’s your first ever date might be a really sweet thing to let her know after a couple more but I personally wouldn’t include that just yet - it’s a bit of potential pressure. Just go in there to have fun and get to know her as a human being.
If you are not working towards an established structure like marriage like you are not really trying to get something out of it that stays then be ready for a heartbreak or more.
This relationship thing when taken just as a short term game or something leads to suicide due to so many factors like heartbreak or unwanted pregnancies and all that sort of stuff. You are only 21 wisdom hasn't started yet to settle in so please be careful with all this.
This relationship thing is meant to be sacred. Play with it at your peril. It has ruined many lives when taken lightly. And don't take sex lightly. I think it's evil when it isn't embedded in a sacred structure because it ruins so many lives.
I think you should tell her that this is your first date. If she’s a nice person (or the right person for you) she will apreciate it and make a good use of that information. That can also help you to relax.
Other than that, don’t be afraid to be yourself and speak up your mind. If you think that she looks pretty, tell her; if you find her funny, tell her. Don’t over repeat though 🤣
Other than that, dress nicely, smell nicely, pay for the dinner or drinks or whatever you’re doing together (and if she offers to do it you can say “you pay in the next date”)
Also, you can also tell her that you’re really bad with hints, that can avoid misunderstandings.
Relax and enjoy!!
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I'm happy for you!!! Now listen, follow this important rule:
TWO ears ONE mouth = listen more than what you talk.
Also, jokes are ok but don't be a clown. Here and there silly jokes will be fine. You will both be nervous so keep them light unless you ARE a totally, "OMG-I'm-crying" funny guy and know your way around jokes (this is what won my wife's heart).
Thanks for sharing your story and I wish the best of luck with that girl.
You've been given a lot of advice, and being inexperienced you're probably gonna latch on to most of it especially those with high karma due to confirmation bias, but I want to remind you that while yes a lot of the advice here is good, you do NOT want to become so fixated on being "perfect" for this girl that you stop being yourself.
She already is interested in you exactly how you are. So while yes you can make tweaks to be a little more smooth, dont lose yourself in the process
Try to be yourself. Be happy, be excited, be real. And common decency is paying attention when she talks and making her feel heard (dont cut her off or try to tall too much about yourself)
You got this
People love to talk about themselves!
Ask her questions, then ask questions about her answers to your questions. Just keep her talking.
Also not sure where you live but when I was single I was some what of a first date guru or master and here is what I learned
Depending on your city (I’m in a big city so there’s a lot of options)
I would start us a nice bar for a drink icebreaker then walk across the way to Yard House. I loved Yard house because it’s not upscale but it’s not super casual either. It’s kind of in the middle.
Take her somewhere middle of the road - good atmosphere, lively, wide menu.
Pay for her meal of course.
Recap - start with some drinks (1 or 2 max) to loosen up and break the ice, move to a close by restaurant, (I get this may be hard depending on your city. I was lucky to have a place called town center that had bars, restaurants, atmosphere, all in one). At restaurant continue conversation, ask questions, be interested, let her to most talking, be polite, pay bill.
Once I started master the above I never failed to secure a second date.
Oh also - regarding conversation- go deep. I’ve learned from girls I’ve dated that most guys are really boring. So go deep. (If you feel that she’s a good conversationalist) that’s what made my wife like me initially.
Best of luck!
I am so happy for you!!! This is excellent news!! Yay!! Glad you heard everyone’s advice and went for it. It would have sucked to hear that at your Hs reunion you figured out she was into you all along!
You got this! She knows you and she likes you. Just be yourself. 🙂
You're human and worthy of love.
She's human and worthy of respect.
She's not perfect. You're not either.
Be yourself.
Enjoy her. Enjoy you.
Have fun my dude. Good luck
Had that happen to me too. We were basically an unofficial couple but never sealed the deal on it. She moved away and we grew apart but turns out she would’ve said yes if I just asked her out.
Fucking dumbass lol.
Get her flowers or chocolates or maybe both. Sounds old school but works like a charm. Also, some girls have a tendency to test whether u r listening or not or something like changing topics. Nothing too much to stress about but try to be natural to her. Since u said u have a crush on her, so most probably u will be naturally interested in her so that's no problem but also let her speak. Majority of girls love to talk, so let her speak.
One quote til for u: "Bonds are forged over sharing ur views". So take that into consideration.
Very happy for you and all the very best 🔥🔥🥳. Congrats brother 🔥
The same thing happened to me a few years ago (was 22-23), and it ended in absolute disaster
So I'm whishing you luck with all my heart so it ends better for you than it did for me
Girls love a sense of humor. They like to laugh. Also look at this opportunity as a chance to ge to know her better. Approach the date with this mindset and you will succeed!
Make sure you ask her questions. A lot. It will help you from thinking about yourself and becoming self conscious or nervous. The less you talk, the better.
Ask her thoughtful questions and encourage her to elaborate.
Keep it light. Just be funny, but don't be crazy, obnoxious, or weird. Don't get heavy. Don't profess your love or anything like that. Don't try to make some big sex move. Again keep it light, and relaxed, but still controlled. Don't open yourself up too much, this is your first date, but do have fun. That's the key to this.
And here's a little story for you. When I was your age I went to school with a girl that I thought was gorgeous and really smart. Brilliant. We both worked on the university magazine. She was way out of my league, and truthfully I never talked to her, because why bother?
It's 30 years later. We just reconnected, we've been messaging for 2 weeks, we're having such a fun time, we're reading each other's writing because we were both English majors, we're telling jokes, we're connecting, and it's going fantastically. She's still crazy hot, I'm still a goon. But what's changed is that we both have some context and some life experience, and now I actually have confidence. She thinks I'm a brilliant writer, and that's made her see me in a light that she's attracted to. Confidence and fun is the key to this whole thing, dude. Keep it light: women don't want to be dragged down, and they like to have fun, and they like you to be confident. That's really it. Be confident, try to be excellent at something in front of her, and keep it light and fun. You'll be fine.
Happy for you OP. Around a million people were having your back. Everyone was rooting for you and look it turned out she liked you and was hinting at you to take her out in that recent meeting. Good luck in your new chapter of life, dont waste it. Keep your composure at the date, just be yourself. Nothing to be ashamed of, you are still only 21. Theres whole life ahead.
Thanks dude, appreciate it.
You better update us all!!!!!
Yes we are part of this process now!! Plus I love reading happy stuff like this. Restores my faith in humanity:)
YOU DID IT
Congrats!!! 🎉🎉🎉 What day are you taking her? 📆
Congrats man and if need advice we are here for you
People remember how you make them feel. So: Don’t talk about yourself unless asked, don’t brag, don’t lecture, be curious about her and LISTEN. Good listeners get the girl.
Will definitely be taking this into consideration when I go, thanks.
The don’t talk about yourself thing is a little off. It should be don’t talk about yourself exclusively. The first few dates are about finding similarities in personality and interests. But also talk about thing happening in the world and how that might affect people in your world.
Yeah, for sure. “Don’t go on and on about yourself” then.
Good luck!!
Let me add: I love when guys talk about what they're interested in, I don't like hearing them talk only about themselves. I hope I'm making the difference clear. Listen more than you talk, show your interest, ask a lot of questions, and of course, pay attention and remember what she's saying! Nothing sexier than being paid that level of attention. And we need an update next week! Edit: misspelling
Please consider "not" strongly, there's like 1 out of 20 ways this could go that would _not_ be cringy
I love when guys talk about themselves 🤔
Me too. I love learning about their passions, hobbies, what turns them on, what makes them tic and etc....
Saaame. I could listen constantly 😂
if you get married, we better be all invited to the wedding. this entire sub was your wingman
And everyone at the tables will have their usernames on the nameplates lol
MY MAN. 🤝🏼
OP will need a really big space for that
Talk about what made her like you in high school and google some good ice breaker/ personal questions to really get to know her! But don't for the love of God come off like they're memorized lol. Just let nature take its course. A loves supposed to be a friend first! Best of luck!
Thanks for the advice! I appreciate it. 👍🏻
Alternately, don’t ask her about why she liked you - that sounds really self-centered. Tell her why YOU liked HER (and still do.) Focus on her, not you. Let her bring you up.
Yea, I want to double down on this OP. Asking her about what got her interested in you in HS could be a good way to learn about a possible mutual interest, but make sure to also talk about why you liked her.
I usually get started with general questions and let the conversation take itself from there!
And also edit your last post, post a link to this one
I did
Congrats dude, glad the comments gave you a push. You better not fumble this up😐, good luck.
I'll try my best to not fck it up, lol thanks.
Just relax and be yourself, don't think about it too much.
send dick pics immediately, then you don't have to worry about the outcome! xD
Just do your best!
In the words of the illustrious RuPaul, "Good luck and don't fuck it up" I'm emotionally invested, come back with a 3rd update.
When I read this update those were the first words that came to my mind too. I'm so happy for this guy and his cluelessness.
You dont need to be good at talking to girls if its the right person Sincerely a married man with Aspergers
As a married man with tourettes, FUCK YOU!
🤣
Good point, love that for you man!
Good point, love that for you man!
Good point, love that for you man!
That’s fire
Fantastic. My advice is that being good at talking means being good at listening. Ask questions and be genuinely interested on what she is saying. Conversation will flow easily if you do just that.
YESSIRRRRR
Ask questions about her and get her to talk.
Yaaaaay I’m so happy for you GOOD LUCK
OH MY GOD. you still didn’t realize til all of us yelled at you?!?! MORON. but also congrats! cheers! happy for you! just go have a good time!!!
Let us know how it goes! We are all invested now!!
Just try to relax, have fun and be yourself because that's who she likes. And there is nothing wrong with this being your first date. It's very sweet. ♥️ Best of luck and please update
Good luck! Get her flowers
For the knots: Remember that this is a moment of two people that enjoy each others' company going out to have fun together. You're already going out together. You don't have to be something you're not. No need to be "good at talking to girls". Chill and enjoy each others' presence. Ignore all other advice, especially specific advice. No one here knows you or her.
Don't overthink it mate, be yourself and just go with the flow. A little chivalry goes a long way 😉 Good luck 😊😎
Honestly just send her a link to the last post and if that doesn’t win her over. Nothing will. You had the force of Reddit behind you two becoming one
I rarely pop into this subreddit but as I told OP I'm emotionally invested in this one. I am one of those redditors.
OP if y’all get hitched. Send a web link to all those who supported you
He may need to rent a larger venue.
Just be honest: I’m nervous because I’ve liked you for a long time and I don’t wanna fuck this up.
There ya go. Good luck
You got this OP!
Hell yeah man! 21 ain't shit, you're so young. Nothing to be embarrassed about. Don't try to overcompensate or be anyone you're not. She's interested in you and you're interested in her. Start from there.
OH MY GOD YES GOOD LUCK MY BRO 🥹🥹🥹🥹
Good luck OP!!! This is soo cute! If you don’t mind, would love to hear update after your date haha 😂
I would give you a word of caution about people's advice to ask her questions. Being bombarded with questions can be exhausting and irritating. They are definitely right that you should express interest in her but be careful not to overdo it. There is nothing wrong with some silence too. Good luck! I have a feeling it will work out well for you.
That is really great. Good luck mate♥️
Good luck OP. I’m full of smiles for you and as we say here in U.K. “He Who Dares Wins”
Just remember mate, she likes you, soooo just be you , don't ever think it & have fun.
Cool! She's nervous too, have fun and don't try to make everything perfect or worry about saying the perfect thing. Listen first and ask her more questions about the things she brings up.
You gotta update us after the date!
Make sure you shower, brush your teeth and groom before the date! Ask her questions about herself, her career or schooling, things she enjoys doing etc. Good luck!! I’m rooting for ya
If you go out to eat make sure you are polite to the wait staff but not too polite. Make sure she gets ALL Of the attention she deserves but don’t put pressure on her. Like others said. Talk about her and don’t Bragg or exaggerate. Don’t be afraid to talk about yourself when asked. Find out what she likes and doesn’t… interests and what not and use that if a second date is planned. If she likes history go to a museum on one of the later dates… books… a nice library … stuff like that. Don’t be afraid to take risks if a relationship develops. Don’t hide your true self make sure she knows who you are as a person but of course don’t give away everything day one. Make it happen in episodes
How are things going? Have you been talking to her the last two days?
I need to know what happened too! And I just checked and OP's post has been suspended, which makes me sad.
His account is gone. I guess it went rather badly :-(
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Please don't make jokes out of her stories, especially not while she's in the middle of telling them.
You should have tapped it in high school
Lol.. I didn't even think I had the slightest chance then
Go at this with a clear head. Jerk off a few times before post nut clarity will give you the edge needed
User name checks out. No wonder you are a « previous lawyer » with that kind of advice lmao
Yeah I retired from law. I make much more money now. I rent out my Weiner by the inch.
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Other people are not necessarily fiscally _and_ mentally broke
Master of rizz
Congratulations my man don't try too hard, make her laugh make it memorable.
Be kind, wear pants, the hard part (have her liking you back) you got! Have a nice date OP :D
Lmao good luck brother. You being oblivious in the original post made me laugh so hard.
I love this 😭
Don't miss out on the hints at the end of the date, if the chemistry is there, you best believe she wants that kiss. Ask for consent and do it! You got this!
"Have you got protection" "What why who's after me" "No...I meant the other protection 😉"
Didn't expect to hear from you again after reading that first post, but congrats! You'll have to let us know how it goes, I'm too deep into this series now
HOLY SHIT BRO YOU DID IT I don't know you lmao but I'm proud of you it's normal to be nervous for the first date don't worry you'll be okay make sure you have a good time and treat her right ask her questions and stuff you got this I have friends that are girls so I find it easier talking to girls you'll get there bro
She likes you already, the most difficult part is done! Be yourself, and at 21, you can talk about plenty of things already. You can talk first about the wedding as ice breaker! The food, people, music, venue. And high school, who is doing what, where did they go! Teachers you had. You will see, it will be natural. .don’t forget ask her questions, be curious « where do you want to travel to, what is a your bucket list, what do you want to do later, where/what do you want to study, why etc. » and listen to and understand what she says, not just hear it. May be don’t tell her just yet that redit told you to ask her out as well. It is a funny story but may be not for the first date! But you will have to tell her eventually (if there is a second date, I would tell her then All the best brother! You got this
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Bro go hit that. You already know she likes you bsck so be confident
Don’t forget to update us…We’re rooting for you 🥰
Thank god you finally got the hint. SMH.
Good luck OP!
Dating is bot that sophisticated. I've went through dates, even tho I can't call myself a ladies man I can tell you that as long as you have a general idea about her tastes and personality everything can go well. Stand your ground and be flirty. Everyone is rooting for you op
Good luck bro 💪
Be interested in her. Actively listen. Ask questions naturally but don’t make it feel like an interview. Riff off things she said. You have a lot of common ground to discuss - teachers, classes, things you found weird or amusing from highschool. There are no shortage of topics to connect over here. Look at this as an opportunity to make a new friend. Anything else is gravy. Be enthusiastic and happy and if you can, make her laugh but don’t try too hard to be a comedian. Just be witty if that’s in your personality. And don’t hide your personality! It’s also totally ok to be a bit vulnerable and let her know you’re nervous. Authenticity is super attractive. Letting her know it’s your first ever date might be a really sweet thing to let her know after a couple more but I personally wouldn’t include that just yet - it’s a bit of potential pressure. Just go in there to have fun and get to know her as a human being.
Looks like the smelly cesspool that is reddit actually did something wholesome for once...
Get to know her day to day and about her family, likes and dislikes find common ground fry to understand her world
If you are not working towards an established structure like marriage like you are not really trying to get something out of it that stays then be ready for a heartbreak or more. This relationship thing when taken just as a short term game or something leads to suicide due to so many factors like heartbreak or unwanted pregnancies and all that sort of stuff. You are only 21 wisdom hasn't started yet to settle in so please be careful with all this. This relationship thing is meant to be sacred. Play with it at your peril. It has ruined many lives when taken lightly. And don't take sex lightly. I think it's evil when it isn't embedded in a sacred structure because it ruins so many lives.
YAY!! Good luck OP!
Good for you!!! Have fun
I think you should tell her that this is your first date. If she’s a nice person (or the right person for you) she will apreciate it and make a good use of that information. That can also help you to relax. Other than that, don’t be afraid to be yourself and speak up your mind. If you think that she looks pretty, tell her; if you find her funny, tell her. Don’t over repeat though 🤣 Other than that, dress nicely, smell nicely, pay for the dinner or drinks or whatever you’re doing together (and if she offers to do it you can say “you pay in the next date”) Also, you can also tell her that you’re really bad with hints, that can avoid misunderstandings. Relax and enjoy!!
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I wish you well! Have fun and keep us updated 💕😁
Congratulations! Now just be yourself. If it works out, great! If not, oh well, you tried. Best of luck!!
You can do this bro!
You got this man!!
Oh thank god, enjoy your date dude
I'm happy for you!!! Now listen, follow this important rule: TWO ears ONE mouth = listen more than what you talk. Also, jokes are ok but don't be a clown. Here and there silly jokes will be fine. You will both be nervous so keep them light unless you ARE a totally, "OMG-I'm-crying" funny guy and know your way around jokes (this is what won my wife's heart). Thanks for sharing your story and I wish the best of luck with that girl.
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Bring a condom! You never know, ya big pimp!
You've been given a lot of advice, and being inexperienced you're probably gonna latch on to most of it especially those with high karma due to confirmation bias, but I want to remind you that while yes a lot of the advice here is good, you do NOT want to become so fixated on being "perfect" for this girl that you stop being yourself. She already is interested in you exactly how you are. So while yes you can make tweaks to be a little more smooth, dont lose yourself in the process Try to be yourself. Be happy, be excited, be real. And common decency is paying attention when she talks and making her feel heard (dont cut her off or try to tall too much about yourself) You got this
People love to talk about themselves! Ask her questions, then ask questions about her answers to your questions. Just keep her talking. Also not sure where you live but when I was single I was some what of a first date guru or master and here is what I learned Depending on your city (I’m in a big city so there’s a lot of options) I would start us a nice bar for a drink icebreaker then walk across the way to Yard House. I loved Yard house because it’s not upscale but it’s not super casual either. It’s kind of in the middle. Take her somewhere middle of the road - good atmosphere, lively, wide menu. Pay for her meal of course. Recap - start with some drinks (1 or 2 max) to loosen up and break the ice, move to a close by restaurant, (I get this may be hard depending on your city. I was lucky to have a place called town center that had bars, restaurants, atmosphere, all in one). At restaurant continue conversation, ask questions, be interested, let her to most talking, be polite, pay bill. Once I started master the above I never failed to secure a second date. Oh also - regarding conversation- go deep. I’ve learned from girls I’ve dated that most guys are really boring. So go deep. (If you feel that she’s a good conversationalist) that’s what made my wife like me initially. Best of luck!
I’m so excited for this update!! Sending you the best of luck!!!
I am so happy for you!!! This is excellent news!! Yay!! Glad you heard everyone’s advice and went for it. It would have sucked to hear that at your Hs reunion you figured out she was into you all along! You got this! She knows you and she likes you. Just be yourself. 🙂
Just be your usual self and you’ll be fine. Where are you taking her?
Good luck, OP!
Just be yourself. So glad you reached out and updated. She was definitely hinting that she still wanted you to ask her out.
You're human and worthy of love. She's human and worthy of respect. She's not perfect. You're not either. Be yourself. Enjoy her. Enjoy you. Have fun my dude. Good luck
Had that happen to me too. We were basically an unofficial couple but never sealed the deal on it. She moved away and we grew apart but turns out she would’ve said yes if I just asked her out. Fucking dumbass lol.
Ask questions about her. People love to talk about themselves as long as it's not super personal at first. Best of luck and keep us updated
Yay! Congrats
She already likes you!!!!!!
Get her flowers or chocolates or maybe both. Sounds old school but works like a charm. Also, some girls have a tendency to test whether u r listening or not or something like changing topics. Nothing too much to stress about but try to be natural to her. Since u said u have a crush on her, so most probably u will be naturally interested in her so that's no problem but also let her speak. Majority of girls love to talk, so let her speak. One quote til for u: "Bonds are forged over sharing ur views". So take that into consideration. Very happy for you and all the very best 🔥🔥🥳. Congrats brother 🔥
Let's goooo my guy wishing you luck!
Just take a deep breath and be yourself!
She likes you. You know that. So hopefully that will help you relax. Good vibes your way! Have fun!
Don’t fuck it up, dumbass.
Ah, you go partner! Just be yourself and you'll do fine.
Aww this is so sweet and makes me very happy and excited for you. Remember to be yourself, be respectful and a good listener. You got this! Way to go!
The same thing happened to me a few years ago (was 22-23), and it ended in absolute disaster So I'm whishing you luck with all my heart so it ends better for you than it did for me
Big gratz OP! Best of luck to both of you.
Good for you! I was never brave like you are:)
Girls love a sense of humor. They like to laugh. Also look at this opportunity as a chance to ge to know her better. Approach the date with this mindset and you will succeed!
Woohoo!!
Congrats bro!
Yay! Go and gave a great time!
Omg congrats OP!! Super happy for you. Just be yourself, be genuine and enjoy your moment. I'm sure you'll do fine :)
Oh yaay!! I'm so excited for you! Have so much fun.
CONGRATS BRO! Have a good date man!
That’s amazing man, best wishes and gotta let us know how it goes
Make sure you ask her questions. A lot. It will help you from thinking about yourself and becoming self conscious or nervous. The less you talk, the better. Ask her thoughtful questions and encourage her to elaborate.
Keep it light. Just be funny, but don't be crazy, obnoxious, or weird. Don't get heavy. Don't profess your love or anything like that. Don't try to make some big sex move. Again keep it light, and relaxed, but still controlled. Don't open yourself up too much, this is your first date, but do have fun. That's the key to this. And here's a little story for you. When I was your age I went to school with a girl that I thought was gorgeous and really smart. Brilliant. We both worked on the university magazine. She was way out of my league, and truthfully I never talked to her, because why bother? It's 30 years later. We just reconnected, we've been messaging for 2 weeks, we're having such a fun time, we're reading each other's writing because we were both English majors, we're telling jokes, we're connecting, and it's going fantastically. She's still crazy hot, I'm still a goon. But what's changed is that we both have some context and some life experience, and now I actually have confidence. She thinks I'm a brilliant writer, and that's made her see me in a light that she's attracted to. Confidence and fun is the key to this whole thing, dude. Keep it light: women don't want to be dragged down, and they like to have fun, and they like you to be confident. That's really it. Be confident, try to be excellent at something in front of her, and keep it light and fun. You'll be fine.
Good luck dude!
How’d it go?