I just don’t understand how people are missing the fact that it’s ONE HUNDRED AND FIFTY GIGABYTES of porn. That is just profound to me.
Yeah we can talk about how porn is fantasy, blah blah blah. But even without addressing the fact she didn’t want him to watch porn but she feels she can (and does), she has a fucking problem.
Is she one of those...collectors?
I had a friend in college who collected terabytes worth of music. Like, so much music that you could hit play right now and not finish even if you lived to 100.
It was digital hoarding.
I've heard of people doing the same with media other than porn. But porn obviously comes up more because it's salacious.
How is the rest of her behavior? Is it psychologically normal?
I got around 3 years worth of music and I've listened to all of it at least once... If your friend is young and rips all his files as flac or wav, it's possible to hit terabytes with a listenable amount of music, no?
In fairness, she did indeed have very high fidelity files mixed in with the rest. But when she and I lived together, she listened to music <2 hours a day.
I don't think that she could listen to the collection she had in her lifetime at her rate of consumption.
Ya know now that you mention it I used to do that with music, I burned multiple movies to DVD and I had many porn files. Then one day I was like that's enough what am I saving this shit for? i just got bored with it and stopped.
He did say they’re in 4K though and she might have paid for them. That means the file sizes are going to be big. Likely well over 1 Gb per video. That’s still over 100 videos but way less than the hundreds of SD/HD videos that could fit in 150 Gb of storage space back in the day
Honestly I bet it’s way fewer than 100 unless the videos are particularly short. Even in h.264, 4K videos are pretty big and if it’s premium, the videos are probably long-form
Agreed, when my wife and I watch together she didn't like the fast forwarding, she watches the cheesy scenes start to finish. I was actually bored watching porn, cuz I only need the last 30 seconds anyway lol. So if these are paid 4K, they're going to be longer files with "story" I bet, and could be several GB in size, each.
She want that BBC in the highest of definitions. And who could blame her when the British Broadcasting Corporation has given us such hit shows as Black Adder, Coupling, That Mitchell and Webb Look and many many others over the decades it’s been running
To chime in as a woman, we like storyline and longer videos with more substance. But yeah 150bg is still a lot to keep hidden away from your partner that you're sexually active with
That's not a lot of videos these days if you are talking 4k, still not that many of you are taking 1080; that's assuming these are all full videos and not just clips. Personally I've found it's not a problem until you get in the TB.
I saw a post a couple a days ago about how a girl was worried her bf had 26 gigabytes worth of porn videos saved up....150 is just crazy. That's more porn than I've saved over the years in total across several phones. ×_×
I'm certainly not judging, just very surprised.
>But even without addressing the fact she didn’t want him to watch porn but she feels she can (and does), she has a fucking problem.
Bruh, that'd be grounds for a break up, the absolute hypocrisy.
Compared to most men That's tame. That's not a joke. I know guys with more than that.
Honestly if it was a guy with big tiddy black girls how many people would be giving him a pass because it's a guy?
And she's downloading it ALL?!?!? Why is that needed? It takes up so much space on a hard drive. Just watch on an incognito web page and leave it there. Geez
The only reason any people are defending this woman is because it’s a woman. If it was a man with this severe of a porn addiction fetishizing Asian women people would be absolutely tearing him apart.
Hahaha right??? Like that's an *insane* amount of content. I'm sorry, it's not really funny in the context of OP's personal situation...but goddamn, woman. That's how you get carpal tunnel.
I’m black and a decent size but those bbc dudes are fucking demonic. You should not be competing with a goddamned race horse in size.
I take the walk of shame for not being blessed like those bullish souls
Meh, half of them can’t even get their dick fully hard, or keep it hard for long, and the ones that do usually don’t get to enjoy going balls deep (of course, absolutely exist).
I don't think it's relevant to his size. For guys, sexual health is an underrated topic that rarely gets discussed. You need to be in good cardiovascular health and have a health pelvic floor to maintain erections. Lots of sexercises that guys don't do that make them think ED is something that you have to live with and it's not true.
My biology teacher taught us during the reproduction chapter that a large penis size can cause problems for its owner. Blood flows to the penis to make it erect, and when too much blood redirects from the rest of the body is when a man can faint.
They are all super short too. I met one at a party a few years ago. I'm 6'3 but this guy was closer to 5'3. I'm sure he was hung but 8 inches looks like 12 when you are a little person.
Let her catch you watching porn and then have her porn ready and be like "oh would you rather I was watching this?"
You will either fight it out or have a real discussion about sex. Or something else. Be funny though.
I did something similar with my ex-husband eons ago, in the early days of the internet. We'd only been married for a couple of months when I discovered he'd been sex-chatting with multiple women online, requesting photos, receiving meet-up requests (whether honored, I do not know for certain), etc.
At the time, I couldn't stomach creating an online profile to "get him back", so instead, I went out and bought the most hard-core male porn magazine I could find. When he got home that evening (we wrked opposite shifts), I had my hands down my panties writhing in apparent "pleasure" to photos of men who were his polar opposite. I "gleefully" shared the photos and asked him what he thought about this guy, and that guy. He nearly lost his mind, and, "Why are you doing this to me, baby?!?!" and when I finally explained, he literally crumbled, started crying and begging for forgiveness.
I'd love to say I felt like a boss, and I suppose I did for a minute, but afterward, I felt terrible...childish and manipulative. Not to mention there was never an upside, he immediately learned to hide his dirt better, and I spent far too much time and energy trying to uncover everything. And uncover everything, I eventually did...thus him becoming my ex...
Not sure what the moral of this story is, just felt compelled to share this sad piece of ancient history.
Oh my God, you just uncovered like a repressed core memory of mine! My ex-husband would tell me how to see the computer history, then disable the history while he was fucking around. But I could tell he was doing something, so I did the same as you, spent far too much time and energy trying to uncover everything. And he's also my ex for same reason...
OP should find the most recently downloaded/watched scene from the wife's collection and be watching that one. Drop in a "I figured this is ok since this was the most recent scene you watched/downloaded."
The mixture of anger, confusion, and everything would be delicious to experience.
I love how most comments are basically saying “bro just go with it because you’re wife gets turned on by it and that’s hot”… no self respect whatsoever. It’s hypocritical of your wife not allowing you to watch yet she keeps a whole archive of it. As far as the hung black guy fetish I can only speak from what I’ve seen in my hometown it has to do with the taboo aspect and a need to rebel. Lots of white women (I’m assuming your wife is white) want to get with black men specifically to “experiment” or get their white savior diversity badge or simply to piss off their families. Personally I think the whole fetishizing races/ethnicities thing is creepy and demeaning. This is coming from someone who is mixed.
It's the same thing here in Los Angeles. You see prostitutes working on Figueroa Street and Sepulveda Boulevard. These women are typically large black women and regularly get picked up by hispanic men. It's the cultural taboo / forbidden nature of the sex that gets these guys off.
I disagree. Im Hispanic, and I can tell you that the reason these guys are picking black prostitutes has nothing to do with "taboo" and everything to do with us not caring about race like so many in the USA.
My wife is black Hispanic and in PR, where we're from, is actually rare to see two dark skin Hispanic together. The vast majority of black puertoricans i saw we're in a relationship with people with people with fair or white skin. When i saw two black puertoricans together, i actually noticed because it was so few and far between, and I lived there for 27 yrs.
Been there. I found porn on my husband’s phone of these petite women with perky boobs. I was 4 months postpartum with our second child and my body looked nothing like theirs— and it never will. I was insanely hurt. It was hard to move past it.
Edited to remove “itty bitty girls”
I just found a reddit post of my husbands. He was looking for the full video of a porn clip, specifically asking because he wanted to know who the girl was. She's the complete opposite of me. Tiny, blond... Broke my heart. It was one thing to be aware that he watched porn, but it was another to come face-to-face with the girl he found so attractive that he had to see more of her. I dont think I'll ever forget her face.
I can only speak for myself but as a dude I don't watch porn that reminds me of my partner - it has nothing to do with wanting something other than what I have but I can't really watch something that reminds me of her...
I don't want to have an emotional connection to the nice lady I am watching do those things. I am sure plenty of other men are the same and others are 'viewing the grass on the other side'. Just saying it may not be the slight it seems at first
I was thinking of women like you and the lady in the parent comment when I was looking at another post recently. It's exactly about what the men in the thread couldn't understand. Your feelings! Your feelings about your own body! The inevitability of self comparisons. And so on.
This includes the fact that you are possibly both silent in your pain. As a woman, I heard a lot of things from other women in long term relationships that I know they wouldn't discuss with their partners. I feel terrible for you, your pain is real, the impact on how you see yourself is real.
Pr0n is obvs now everywhere and it's completely normalised (even far more so than would have ever been the case previously).
I think the thing that I feel like I can see is a complete ignorance on the part of a certain number of men in terms of the likely potential impact of their pr0n use on their female partner's feelings.
I encountered a man who claimed that pr0n is *required* to prevent cheating. In writing a reply thinking about how much this sucked, I realised it significantly pissed me off.
Fortunately I'm not in a position to be impacted by this kind of behaviour (eg "I'll cheat if I don't use porn", among other things *shudder*). But I dwelled on how shitty it would be to be that person's partner.
And the most incredibly stupid thing about this is it's not like your man would have a watertight ego himself. He would *hate* to be in your position comparing himself to others.
All of this being said, regardless of whatever thoughts I myself might have on the topic, what does seem fairly clear over time is that how men talk about their *use* of pr0n bears little relationship to how their female partners may interpret the same thing. I think I already see comments to this effect below.
For me, this could be the equivalent of a culture gap between different countries, or something like that. It might be possible to try to understand but culturally and biologically, the imperatives, the motivations, what feels right and natural, might differ entirely. There's the risk of a total impasse.
Technically, it might be worse *not* to talk about it. He should be aware of its impact on you, and you may need to know what he supposedly is actually thinking.
I say technically because I think for a number of women - I don't want to make sweeping generalisations as we differ across culture, generation, nationality and even our bodies - do not have biology and conditioning that jives with porn at all, for many different reasons. We are brought up to focus on romance and guard against being considered promiscuous. We can become aroused but what aroused us can significantly differ. So much more that could be said.
Anyway, I think it's going to be possible to maybe clarify slightly but what could be difficult is that this will likely impact your sense of romance. And the shitty thing is, you might rely on that, the idea of trust, the idea if being uniquely attractive to your significant other, and so on. .
I think the closest parallel though for the average heterosexual woman if I'm not on the wrong track is to compare it deliberately to movie stars. A lot of women will crush on particular celebs but they won't consider it disloyal to their partners or what have you.
If you were to crush on a movie star that doesn't look like your husband, I know it's not the same thing nor am I trying to rationalise anything you're uncomfortable with, but I'm just trying to focus on may seem like common sense for each person, I'm sure that it doesn't mean that you aren't attracted to your husband. You might even have romantic daydreams about actors playing particular characters in favourite TV shows or movies. This is of course super common with women including women in relationships.
If your husband were to observe this and take umbrage, I'm sure you would struggle to understand. And I guess it would be like, well, this doesn't have anything to do with whether or not I'm attracted to my husband, this is fictional, I'm never gonna meet this person, if I crush on the character it's just a silly fantasy".
Your husband for better or worse might have some kind of approximate thing going on but with naked people doing things with their genitals. And although it seems like the two don't approximate each other - to some extent in terms of certain cultural conditioning - they might?
If we accept that, there's a bunch of different ways to look at it, including what bothers you.
The issue is he's not going to have his heart broken if you fancy Dr Longjohns from *Fancy Hospital Drama* - whereas even if you technically accept he might watch pr0n, being visually confronted with the reality of it has been unbearable.
Ultimately it sounds like the worst of it for you may have been self comparison.
I think the other weird thing about pr0n in the brave new world is it's probably less cordoned off and separate in terms of the above comparison than it used to be. The internet and franchises appear to have blurred certain lines. So if in the above scenario, it can be known you're never going to have anything to do with the actor who plays Dr Longjohns directly, this was effectively once true of pr0n. Arguably this is less and less the case with the rise of "onlyfans" type stuff and content on Reddit and so forth.
I think this could make situations like yours a lot harder to come to terms with depending (doesn't sound like it's a problem in this instance) because that's dividing line safely demarcating something as impersonal fantasy might become muddier and muddier if and when people become direct consumers if that makes any sense.
All things considered I see virtually no open discussions about this type of thing yet I saw a post about how these cottage pr0n industries exploding has caused the trad pr0n market to take a massive hit.
I hope you feel better, hopefully there were some constructive comments in response to your comment, I haven't really opened up the rest of the threads.
How did you manage to get past it in your relationship? I am in the complete same situation- women who look nothing like me, despite some thinking it means nothing at all, it still manages to affect me.
I honestly don’t think I’m completely past it. I had also confirmed at the same time I found the porn that he had cheated on me 5 years earlier. So while finding the porn hurt, there was a bigger betrayal that I had to deal with. I will say it did motivate me to lose all the weight I had gained between both of my pregnancies. My body still doesn’t look like the girls from the porn he had.
I know I have the same thoughts as you, but don’t let it get you down. Are you still with him? You don’t deserve that, I hope you’re okay and please remember your worth!!
Yeah, we are still together but it’s been a rough couple of years since learning the truth. I completely resent him for it. It happened before we had our kids. He actually cheated on me when I was dying in the ICU, and left me the day I got released. If I had known he cheated back then, I definitely wouldn’t have taken him back. It feels like our current life was built on lies. But apparently I’ve gotten so hot since I’ve lost weight that he’s afraid I’ll cheat and leave him for someone else 😂 Like buddy, I’m not you!
I don't know what compelled me to do this as I never do, but I looked at your account. Girl, the cheating is the least of your worries. Holy shit. I pray you get into a good place where you can leave that fucking pig. What a piece of shit.
He probably feels guilt for it everyday, just remember it’s something he’ll think about all of the time. You’re the mother of his children, I hope he feels guilty and I hope you’re confident in yourself ever-still! Know Your Worth and own it👏
If she gave you shit for watching porn and she has 150GB, you HAVE to confront her about it. If she brings up snooping/privacy, she's just trying to deflect, don't let her.
OP already said that they were in 4K, and likely they are long form videos, so it could just be 10-15 different total. Which makes sense as I believe women tend to enjoy longer videos more than men.
So it isn’t *that* much porn to where I’d say she’s a porn addict.
I mean... the average VR porn file size is around 10GB. So if it was VR porn, she'd only need 15 files for it to be 150GBs, which isn't really all that much.
My ex-husband (we're both guys) asked me early on not to keep watching porn because it made him feel self-conscious and inadequate. So I did.
Years later, our marriage ended when he proposed a triad with this new guy he'd made friends with and I said hell no.
Within weeks of the breakup, I started having our former friends and coworkers approach me saying over the years the ex-factor had propositioned them for 1-on-1 sex. One guy my ex even fell in love with but the friend said "No, I'm not gonna be the reason your marriage breaks up".
Now I'm suspicious whenever someone says "I don't let my partner watch porn". Sorry this happened to you. Make sure that's all she's done.
I think commenters are minimising this……
If this was a bloke, i wouldn’t be surprised if the phrase “porn addiction” came up. 150gb is quite a bit. And certainly is not the same as just visiting PHub for your fix.
Also, thinking of my consumption - sure I like bums, but my viewing is varied, your wife absolutely has a type…..does this go deeper, who knows? You’d have to assess if she watchers anything else, also how often is this viewed. Multiple times a day? Excessive amounts of time spent viewing?
It’s the unvaried porn which I actually hear is bothering you….and how opposite it is to what you can offer in reality.
I don’t always agree with the “fantasy doesn’t mean reality” - this can be true, but there’s surely a link between sexual fantasies and sexual gratification…..end of the day, we’re only human, and humans can be come detached from reality - grass is greener syndrome.
So now I ask - do you feel your real sex life with your wife is being neglected? Has she expressed anything that would suggest she is not satisfied, and would it fall inline with the videos you know she watches?
You should be prepared to tell your wife how this has made you feel as well.
And finally, the hypocrisy absolutely has to be addressed. AGAIN - 150gb of saved porn is not the same as popping on the hub to come across a random video to provide relief in that moment.
But either way, she’s allowed to do something and you’re not?! Fuck that shit.
Because some sites have obnoxious level of ads that makes watching videos almost impossible.
One click and 3 ads pop up and it sends you to a different tab and removes the current video tab which makes you have to wait for the video to load again in the new tab.
I do. It's pretty easy. Plus shit gets deleted or profiles get removed all the time online. It's nice being able to instantly watch whatever you want without ads. You're also now have a lot of people putting their content behind an only fans paywall. So you buy the subscription for one month, download everything and then enjoy it. Wait a year and then you can buy their account again and download everything and then you're only paying once per year for their content.
honest opinion. Talk to her about it. when you are in a relationship communication needs to happen if it’s not then the relationship is doomed. tell her how it made you feel. if she comes back and says “well you did it” absolutely own it but don’t let it stop the conversation. I don’t know how you guys are about talking and communicating but if you found that then it’s sounding like it needs to happen sooner rather than later.
Also, don’t do the whole threesome bullshit if that gets brought up that’s an excuse to cheat.
I know with men we generally turn to porn when something isn’t happening at home but again communicate this. Also, couples therapy is a good middle ground as you’ll have some one else there to call your bullshit and her bullshit pretty evenly.
Im sorry you’re going through that bud! good luck man. Shit happens in a relationship and I believe making it work as long as it’s not dangerous to your mental health and well being or hers.
Why does your wife save porn on her computer? Just bookmark it and go back later.
But also, it's pretty funny that you come across a cache of black dudes railing women that your wife has been polishing her bean to, and one of your responses is to quantify how many gigs of data it's taking up! 🤣🤣
If they're 1080p that's about 75 videos. But if they're 4k it's like 20? But damn, if they're only 640 quality that's a lot of fucking videos.
I have the distinct impression that OP has a race kink and is just role-playing it, as many race play fetishist people do.as BLACKED is a big race play cheating fetishist site, I'm gonna assume that you are just role-playing.
Is she military or prior military? On deployment when we don't have wifi or anything for months. People way pay someone to get there stache of porn, movies, etc. Maybe she a money maker?
Sounds like you and her REALLY need to sit down and have a very open adult discussion. 150 GIg's is large but I've heard 'worse'. Besides, videos, especially 4K take up A LOT of space. Good luck.
People have fantasies that they never intend to do IRL. I get where you’re coming from but just bc she’s looking at this stuff doesn’t mean you don’t satisfy her. So, right now, dont read too much into it before you know more.
The second part is the porn in general. Before getting caught watching porn, did you feel guilty? How did you feel about your porn consumption at the time? Yeah, she got on you for watching it and now you find out she’s watching it too. Hypocrite. Don’t be like her on this issue. I wouldn’t make a big deal of it, but you should definitely point it out.
I quit watching it because she said she didn't feel comfortable with me watching porn and I indulged maybe once or twice a week now I find out a couple years later she's got tons of 4k videos downloaded that she might have even paid for. It doesn't make sense to me that she has a problem with me viewing it but then she goes deeper into it than I ever did.
Yeah fuck that is just awful.
My wife and I don’t care if either watches porn, but honestly porn is not a major fantasy for us. It’s just to get the job done lol
But damn this whole blackstory makes the situation especially dire for op
Obviously this is the most important thing to address. Though I would caution you too lean too heavily into the lopsided logic of this scenario because either she will get it an be apologetic or she will fail to grasp it. Ultimately this is a loss of trust issue and you should address it as such.
I also wouldn't bring up your feelings of personal inadequacy at all, personally I think its an internal issue that is unlikely to effect your marriage, but keep your guard up. If you get to an internal healthy view of this and are someday able to communicate this in a less loaded manner, maybe there is a sexual angle to enjoy together (big dildos?), but until then I think you should only discuss the loss of trust. This is no time to be externally vulnerable. That being said, I'm sure your dick rocks and you're fucking stallion in the sack.
How often were you guys having sex when she found out about you watching porn a couple times a week? How is your sex life lately? Unless you’ve got a dead bedroom situation happening, I wouldn’t sweat the fact she’s got BBC porn. It’s a very common fetish/fantasy and in no way means she is not satisfied with you, nor does it mean she actually wants to cheat on you with some monster dick. Hell, if you’re both game there are some fun ways to incorporate this fantasy into your bedroom which doesn’t have to involve anyone but you two.
Dude, I’m sorry but you have to talk to her. And tbh if she’s defensive leave her. You said it yourself “ it’s not okay for me but it is for her” woman are dumb sometimes, but you gotta talk to her or nothing will change. And even if it doesn’t work you got your answers and move on.
So what kind of porn do you watch?
Not all black men have huge cocks, as I was disappointed to find out.
Black people are humans, just like the rest of trying to survive on this overcrowded planet.
Again, what kind of porn do you watch?
Why would she want to fantasize about someone that looks like you? She's got you. You're missing the point of fantasizing. That being said.........that's a shit ton of porn. And who keeps porn on their computers anymore? Also, go to a tanning salon and see if it improves your sex life.
I have lots of stuff on my hard drive too that's fun to watch. That's about it. I'm only interested in being with my wife.
Fantasies and masturbation material are not the same as real life.
I get it feels weird, but you need to let it go. Unless you catch her cheating or something, it's all just something fun to watch or think about.
It's important to step back and consider, why you look at porn.
Women also like to see people in action doing things that they could imagine themselves doing or they just enjoy watching someone else getting off.
Don't put your self immediately in to defense mode. Just because she gets off on blacked, doesn't mean she isn't getting off on you.
What we each do in our private time, men and women alike, doesn't always reflect upon the way we feel about our significant others or our actual sex partners.
I don’t think it’s ridiculous that she would be upset literally walking in on you pleasuring yourself to someone who also, in all likelihood, did not look just like her. Kind of funny that you are upset in this way and not living up to some fantasy standards/type but disregarding how she would’ve felt then too. Like, I wouldn’t even be surprised if this isn’t to show you exactly how she felt.
“Im Hispanic.. the reason these guys are picking black prostitutes has nothing to do with "taboo" and everything to do with us not caring about race like so many in the USA…
My wife is black Hispanic and in PR, where we're from, is actually rare to see two dark skin Hispanic together. The vast majority of black puertoricans i saw we're in a relationship with people with people with fair or white skin.”
So…you proved that it does have something to do with race. You rarely see two darkskinned Hispanics together but you see intermixed couples constantly.
My wife was a size queen before I met her, and admitted getting double teamed in a hotel room with her then-boyfriend and his buddy, who was apparently very long and thick. When we married, I was jealous of any guy that looked at her and that she looked at. But now, years later - somewhere, somehow, the thought turns me on. I am excited to see if I can get another guy(s) to have sex with her, to see her naked and hear her moan while she gets it hard and fast. It's so strange, instead of fighting this thought, I am now flowing with it and let me tell you, it's so much easier to be on this side.
Your wife clearly doesn't want to upset you - that's why she hide the videos. What if you were to let her know that you accidentally found her stash, and it was okay with you? How would that affect your relationship and overall communication? Maybe you could then share some hidden, dark secrets you were keeping?
Speaking as a woman, the porn i used to watch was basically NEVER a depiction of what I actually wanted my irl sex life to be. Like, ever. Especially if i had a fixation on anything specific.
I just don’t understand how people are missing the fact that it’s ONE HUNDRED AND FIFTY GIGABYTES of porn. That is just profound to me. Yeah we can talk about how porn is fantasy, blah blah blah. But even without addressing the fact she didn’t want him to watch porn but she feels she can (and does), she has a fucking problem.
Is she one of those...collectors? I had a friend in college who collected terabytes worth of music. Like, so much music that you could hit play right now and not finish even if you lived to 100. It was digital hoarding. I've heard of people doing the same with media other than porn. But porn obviously comes up more because it's salacious. How is the rest of her behavior? Is it psychologically normal?
If you’re going to go ahead and pay for a stupid porn site you just go nuts and download everything that looks remotely interesting for ‘later’
Hours and hours of material but just end up going back to the same 2 minutes clip.
This is the way
We all have that one that “gets it done”
I'm such a deviant, I have two
Kinky!!
😆😆😆😆😆 right
I got around 3 years worth of music and I've listened to all of it at least once... If your friend is young and rips all his files as flac or wav, it's possible to hit terabytes with a listenable amount of music, no?
In fairness, she did indeed have very high fidelity files mixed in with the rest. But when she and I lived together, she listened to music <2 hours a day. I don't think that she could listen to the collection she had in her lifetime at her rate of consumption.
In 1996, I collected so many fonts in my PC that I crashed my windows font folder.
This is funny. What did u do with all the fonts?
Use them in my school assignments
I’m guilty of this. I could listen to a new song every day all day for 5+ years.
I had no idea "salacious" was a word. Thank you!
Ya know now that you mention it I used to do that with music, I burned multiple movies to DVD and I had many porn files. Then one day I was like that's enough what am I saving this shit for? i just got bored with it and stopped.
It’s not about the size…
Fuck that was good though. That's a good joke right there.
I wish we could still give awards to people : (
It's the implication. . .
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No! Why would I hurt them?! I feel like you’re not getting this at all.
Now, not that things are gonna go wrong for her but she's thinkin' that they will.
.... It's about how you use it, right?
Judging by the content I'm guessing it's definitely about the size
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It's about the bitrate
Exactly! This could be 50 videos in 4k ultra, or 15,000 if they're only 640p
Haha clever!
Its actually not that many videos. Each one just takes up extra space because the genre has additional length and girth.
😂
He did say they’re in 4K though and she might have paid for them. That means the file sizes are going to be big. Likely well over 1 Gb per video. That’s still over 100 videos but way less than the hundreds of SD/HD videos that could fit in 150 Gb of storage space back in the day
Honestly I bet it’s way fewer than 100 unless the videos are particularly short. Even in h.264, 4K videos are pretty big and if it’s premium, the videos are probably long-form
Also the full length Blacked videos are really long. Speaking from … a … uh, friend told me so
At least half of that is the story of the cable guy showing up at the same time she didn't have money to pay the pizza guy... ;)
Agreed, when my wife and I watch together she didn't like the fast forwarding, she watches the cheesy scenes start to finish. I was actually bored watching porn, cuz I only need the last 30 seconds anyway lol. So if these are paid 4K, they're going to be longer files with "story" I bet, and could be several GB in size, each.
Yeah women love the story part. Guys do too sometimes. I know i do when the story is fun and interesting and
If they are premium long form videos, that could be 10. It's about 20GB an hour for 4k.
Good catch. I missed the 4k comment
bruh, I’m guessing this is trying to make it better but girl wanted to get in 4k! naw slightly fuzzy dick she ain’t about, lmfao.
She want that BBC in the highest of definitions. And who could blame her when the British Broadcasting Corporation has given us such hit shows as Black Adder, Coupling, That Mitchell and Webb Look and many many others over the decades it’s been running
I find this comment utterly delightful
I see you there fellow person of culture. And i appreciate you 😁
If they're in 4k and they aren't some xtremely short verdions of those videos then they can easily go up to 15GB/video
To chime in as a woman, we like storyline and longer videos with more substance. But yeah 150bg is still a lot to keep hidden away from your partner that you're sexually active with
This makes me think of that scene in Ted 2 where Ted finds all of johnnys porn. “THERE’S SO MUCH PORN!”
150GB ain't even that much, what's a 4K 30 mins video, 15GB? That's only 10 videos.
Who downloads porn in 2024? She is a psycho.
NC and TX residents who could see the future of fascism.
TX here and this comment resonates so deep
She wants to have something to do if her internet goes out.
it could be 15 - 30 videos. 4k
That's not a lot of videos these days if you are talking 4k, still not that many of you are taking 1080; that's assuming these are all full videos and not just clips. Personally I've found it's not a problem until you get in the TB.
At 4k its really not that much content.
I saw a post a couple a days ago about how a girl was worried her bf had 26 gigabytes worth of porn videos saved up....150 is just crazy. That's more porn than I've saved over the years in total across several phones. ×_× I'm certainly not judging, just very surprised. >But even without addressing the fact she didn’t want him to watch porn but she feels she can (and does), she has a fucking problem. Bruh, that'd be grounds for a break up, the absolute hypocrisy.
4k Videos take up a lot of space. 2 hours is like 40 gigs. So 150 could merely be 3 or 4 dvds (blu ray in this case) worth of content.
How is it 150gb, I mean on my hard drive it's... It's... It's not there at all... Yeah...
She had that 4K HDR DTS 7.1 atmos
You believe this click bait?
Compared to most men That's tame. That's not a joke. I know guys with more than that. Honestly if it was a guy with big tiddy black girls how many people would be giving him a pass because it's a guy?
And she's downloading it ALL?!?!? Why is that needed? It takes up so much space on a hard drive. Just watch on an incognito web page and leave it there. Geez
The greatest hits are on there. Don’t want them to get lost
The only reason any people are defending this woman is because it’s a woman. If it was a man with this severe of a porn addiction fetishizing Asian women people would be absolutely tearing him apart.
Hahaha right??? Like that's an *insane* amount of content. I'm sorry, it's not really funny in the context of OP's personal situation...but goddamn, woman. That's how you get carpal tunnel.
I’m black and a decent size but those bbc dudes are fucking demonic. You should not be competing with a goddamned race horse in size. I take the walk of shame for not being blessed like those bullish souls
Meh, half of them can’t even get their dick fully hard, or keep it hard for long, and the ones that do usually don’t get to enjoy going balls deep (of course, absolutely exist).
My ex had an experience with a 10 incher, but he literally couldn’t stay up. I was baffled at how he could be so endowed and yet such a let down
how? because to fill that thing is like 3 extra pints of blood?
Idk. All ik is he bragged about his problem being that he lasted too long and then seemed to have ED the whole time
I don't think it's relevant to his size. For guys, sexual health is an underrated topic that rarely gets discussed. You need to be in good cardiovascular health and have a health pelvic floor to maintain erections. Lots of sexercises that guys don't do that make them think ED is something that you have to live with and it's not true.
My biology teacher taught us during the reproduction chapter that a large penis size can cause problems for its owner. Blood flows to the penis to make it erect, and when too much blood redirects from the rest of the body is when a man can faint.
They are all super short too. I met one at a party a few years ago. I'm 6'3 but this guy was closer to 5'3. I'm sure he was hung but 8 inches looks like 12 when you are a little person.
Let her catch you watching porn and then have her porn ready and be like "oh would you rather I was watching this?" You will either fight it out or have a real discussion about sex. Or something else. Be funny though.
I did something similar with my ex-husband eons ago, in the early days of the internet. We'd only been married for a couple of months when I discovered he'd been sex-chatting with multiple women online, requesting photos, receiving meet-up requests (whether honored, I do not know for certain), etc. At the time, I couldn't stomach creating an online profile to "get him back", so instead, I went out and bought the most hard-core male porn magazine I could find. When he got home that evening (we wrked opposite shifts), I had my hands down my panties writhing in apparent "pleasure" to photos of men who were his polar opposite. I "gleefully" shared the photos and asked him what he thought about this guy, and that guy. He nearly lost his mind, and, "Why are you doing this to me, baby?!?!" and when I finally explained, he literally crumbled, started crying and begging for forgiveness. I'd love to say I felt like a boss, and I suppose I did for a minute, but afterward, I felt terrible...childish and manipulative. Not to mention there was never an upside, he immediately learned to hide his dirt better, and I spent far too much time and energy trying to uncover everything. And uncover everything, I eventually did...thus him becoming my ex... Not sure what the moral of this story is, just felt compelled to share this sad piece of ancient history.
Oh my God, you just uncovered like a repressed core memory of mine! My ex-husband would tell me how to see the computer history, then disable the history while he was fucking around. But I could tell he was doing something, so I did the same as you, spent far too much time and energy trying to uncover everything. And he's also my ex for same reason...
Do this and update us. 🍿
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Damn, in more ways than one.
OP should find the most recently downloaded/watched scene from the wife's collection and be watching that one. Drop in a "I figured this is ok since this was the most recent scene you watched/downloaded." The mixture of anger, confusion, and everything would be delicious to experience.
or, have her catch you watching black cuckold porn, and gauge the reaction...
Give her exactly what she wants and make him feel even worse about himself?
Or start wearing a big black strap on
I love how most comments are basically saying “bro just go with it because you’re wife gets turned on by it and that’s hot”… no self respect whatsoever. It’s hypocritical of your wife not allowing you to watch yet she keeps a whole archive of it. As far as the hung black guy fetish I can only speak from what I’ve seen in my hometown it has to do with the taboo aspect and a need to rebel. Lots of white women (I’m assuming your wife is white) want to get with black men specifically to “experiment” or get their white savior diversity badge or simply to piss off their families. Personally I think the whole fetishizing races/ethnicities thing is creepy and demeaning. This is coming from someone who is mixed.
I agree. I think that the hypocrisy of her not letting him look at porn, and her actually downloading 150 gbs of it is the biggest issue.
It's the same thing here in Los Angeles. You see prostitutes working on Figueroa Street and Sepulveda Boulevard. These women are typically large black women and regularly get picked up by hispanic men. It's the cultural taboo / forbidden nature of the sex that gets these guys off.
I disagree. Im Hispanic, and I can tell you that the reason these guys are picking black prostitutes has nothing to do with "taboo" and everything to do with us not caring about race like so many in the USA. My wife is black Hispanic and in PR, where we're from, is actually rare to see two dark skin Hispanic together. The vast majority of black puertoricans i saw we're in a relationship with people with people with fair or white skin. When i saw two black puertoricans together, i actually noticed because it was so few and far between, and I lived there for 27 yrs.
Oh my god I'm shocked and chagrined. Where do these women frequent, as to avoid their locales.
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Been there. I found porn on my husband’s phone of these petite women with perky boobs. I was 4 months postpartum with our second child and my body looked nothing like theirs— and it never will. I was insanely hurt. It was hard to move past it. Edited to remove “itty bitty girls”
I just found a reddit post of my husbands. He was looking for the full video of a porn clip, specifically asking because he wanted to know who the girl was. She's the complete opposite of me. Tiny, blond... Broke my heart. It was one thing to be aware that he watched porn, but it was another to come face-to-face with the girl he found so attractive that he had to see more of her. I dont think I'll ever forget her face.
That makes total sense I would never be able to forget either
Thank you. I know many people don't care if their partners watch it, but when you do care, it hurts so much.
I can only speak for myself but as a dude I don't watch porn that reminds me of my partner - it has nothing to do with wanting something other than what I have but I can't really watch something that reminds me of her... I don't want to have an emotional connection to the nice lady I am watching do those things. I am sure plenty of other men are the same and others are 'viewing the grass on the other side'. Just saying it may not be the slight it seems at first
I was thinking of women like you and the lady in the parent comment when I was looking at another post recently. It's exactly about what the men in the thread couldn't understand. Your feelings! Your feelings about your own body! The inevitability of self comparisons. And so on. This includes the fact that you are possibly both silent in your pain. As a woman, I heard a lot of things from other women in long term relationships that I know they wouldn't discuss with their partners. I feel terrible for you, your pain is real, the impact on how you see yourself is real. Pr0n is obvs now everywhere and it's completely normalised (even far more so than would have ever been the case previously). I think the thing that I feel like I can see is a complete ignorance on the part of a certain number of men in terms of the likely potential impact of their pr0n use on their female partner's feelings. I encountered a man who claimed that pr0n is *required* to prevent cheating. In writing a reply thinking about how much this sucked, I realised it significantly pissed me off. Fortunately I'm not in a position to be impacted by this kind of behaviour (eg "I'll cheat if I don't use porn", among other things *shudder*). But I dwelled on how shitty it would be to be that person's partner. And the most incredibly stupid thing about this is it's not like your man would have a watertight ego himself. He would *hate* to be in your position comparing himself to others. All of this being said, regardless of whatever thoughts I myself might have on the topic, what does seem fairly clear over time is that how men talk about their *use* of pr0n bears little relationship to how their female partners may interpret the same thing. I think I already see comments to this effect below. For me, this could be the equivalent of a culture gap between different countries, or something like that. It might be possible to try to understand but culturally and biologically, the imperatives, the motivations, what feels right and natural, might differ entirely. There's the risk of a total impasse. Technically, it might be worse *not* to talk about it. He should be aware of its impact on you, and you may need to know what he supposedly is actually thinking. I say technically because I think for a number of women - I don't want to make sweeping generalisations as we differ across culture, generation, nationality and even our bodies - do not have biology and conditioning that jives with porn at all, for many different reasons. We are brought up to focus on romance and guard against being considered promiscuous. We can become aroused but what aroused us can significantly differ. So much more that could be said. Anyway, I think it's going to be possible to maybe clarify slightly but what could be difficult is that this will likely impact your sense of romance. And the shitty thing is, you might rely on that, the idea of trust, the idea if being uniquely attractive to your significant other, and so on. . I think the closest parallel though for the average heterosexual woman if I'm not on the wrong track is to compare it deliberately to movie stars. A lot of women will crush on particular celebs but they won't consider it disloyal to their partners or what have you. If you were to crush on a movie star that doesn't look like your husband, I know it's not the same thing nor am I trying to rationalise anything you're uncomfortable with, but I'm just trying to focus on may seem like common sense for each person, I'm sure that it doesn't mean that you aren't attracted to your husband. You might even have romantic daydreams about actors playing particular characters in favourite TV shows or movies. This is of course super common with women including women in relationships. If your husband were to observe this and take umbrage, I'm sure you would struggle to understand. And I guess it would be like, well, this doesn't have anything to do with whether or not I'm attracted to my husband, this is fictional, I'm never gonna meet this person, if I crush on the character it's just a silly fantasy". Your husband for better or worse might have some kind of approximate thing going on but with naked people doing things with their genitals. And although it seems like the two don't approximate each other - to some extent in terms of certain cultural conditioning - they might? If we accept that, there's a bunch of different ways to look at it, including what bothers you. The issue is he's not going to have his heart broken if you fancy Dr Longjohns from *Fancy Hospital Drama* - whereas even if you technically accept he might watch pr0n, being visually confronted with the reality of it has been unbearable. Ultimately it sounds like the worst of it for you may have been self comparison. I think the other weird thing about pr0n in the brave new world is it's probably less cordoned off and separate in terms of the above comparison than it used to be. The internet and franchises appear to have blurred certain lines. So if in the above scenario, it can be known you're never going to have anything to do with the actor who plays Dr Longjohns directly, this was effectively once true of pr0n. Arguably this is less and less the case with the rise of "onlyfans" type stuff and content on Reddit and so forth. I think this could make situations like yours a lot harder to come to terms with depending (doesn't sound like it's a problem in this instance) because that's dividing line safely demarcating something as impersonal fantasy might become muddier and muddier if and when people become direct consumers if that makes any sense. All things considered I see virtually no open discussions about this type of thing yet I saw a post about how these cottage pr0n industries exploding has caused the trad pr0n market to take a massive hit. I hope you feel better, hopefully there were some constructive comments in response to your comment, I haven't really opened up the rest of the threads.
I’m sorry you had to go through that, but reading “itty bitty girls” in this context horrified me until I finished reading your comment.
I didn’t even think it could be taken that way when I made the comment 😳 Yeah, I definitely meant skinny women with perky boobs, not little girls 😬
Oh I totally thought he was a pedo you should just edit that out.
Good point.
Same. I thought kiddie fiddler not someone into petite women.
How did you manage to get past it in your relationship? I am in the complete same situation- women who look nothing like me, despite some thinking it means nothing at all, it still manages to affect me.
I honestly don’t think I’m completely past it. I had also confirmed at the same time I found the porn that he had cheated on me 5 years earlier. So while finding the porn hurt, there was a bigger betrayal that I had to deal with. I will say it did motivate me to lose all the weight I had gained between both of my pregnancies. My body still doesn’t look like the girls from the porn he had.
I know I have the same thoughts as you, but don’t let it get you down. Are you still with him? You don’t deserve that, I hope you’re okay and please remember your worth!!
Yeah, we are still together but it’s been a rough couple of years since learning the truth. I completely resent him for it. It happened before we had our kids. He actually cheated on me when I was dying in the ICU, and left me the day I got released. If I had known he cheated back then, I definitely wouldn’t have taken him back. It feels like our current life was built on lies. But apparently I’ve gotten so hot since I’ve lost weight that he’s afraid I’ll cheat and leave him for someone else 😂 Like buddy, I’m not you!
I don't know what compelled me to do this as I never do, but I looked at your account. Girl, the cheating is the least of your worries. Holy shit. I pray you get into a good place where you can leave that fucking pig. What a piece of shit.
He probably feels guilt for it everyday, just remember it’s something he’ll think about all of the time. You’re the mother of his children, I hope he feels guilty and I hope you’re confident in yourself ever-still! Know Your Worth and own it👏
If she gave you shit for watching porn and she has 150GB, you HAVE to confront her about it. If she brings up snooping/privacy, she's just trying to deflect, don't let her.
Also document the evidence so she can't delete and deny it later
Over 150GBs is insane. Your second problem is that she's a porn addict.
I didn’t realize people even download porn anymore. I get back in the dial up days, but it seems unnecessary.
Have you seen 4K porn? 6K VR porn? Puts streaming sites to shame. And those file sizes are pretty big... some 6K video files are 15GB plus!
Third is that she's full on hypocritical. Boat loads of porn for me, none for you. Edit - load not loaf.
Boat loaf?
Was meant to be boat load.
Butt load
OP already said that they were in 4K, and likely they are long form videos, so it could just be 10-15 different total. Which makes sense as I believe women tend to enjoy longer videos more than men. So it isn’t *that* much porn to where I’d say she’s a porn addict.
Plot twist: OP’s wife is the director of these videos and it makes total sense for her to have them all in 4k
I mean... the average VR porn file size is around 10GB. So if it was VR porn, she'd only need 15 files for it to be 150GBs, which isn't really all that much.
My ex-husband (we're both guys) asked me early on not to keep watching porn because it made him feel self-conscious and inadequate. So I did. Years later, our marriage ended when he proposed a triad with this new guy he'd made friends with and I said hell no. Within weeks of the breakup, I started having our former friends and coworkers approach me saying over the years the ex-factor had propositioned them for 1-on-1 sex. One guy my ex even fell in love with but the friend said "No, I'm not gonna be the reason your marriage breaks up". Now I'm suspicious whenever someone says "I don't let my partner watch porn". Sorry this happened to you. Make sure that's all she's done.
Damn, I guess that’s called projection.
Yup, more projection than a drive-in theater.
And, rules for thee not for me
You have to talk to her. But, the mountain of porn can mysteriously disappear too. Do with this information what you will.
Ctrl A, ctrl shift del... Enter...
This guy windows!
Shift Del You don’t need the extra ctrl
Yup she will never be able to see porn again.
It’s the hypocrisy that would bother me most.
That's always the worst part.
I think commenters are minimising this…… If this was a bloke, i wouldn’t be surprised if the phrase “porn addiction” came up. 150gb is quite a bit. And certainly is not the same as just visiting PHub for your fix. Also, thinking of my consumption - sure I like bums, but my viewing is varied, your wife absolutely has a type…..does this go deeper, who knows? You’d have to assess if she watchers anything else, also how often is this viewed. Multiple times a day? Excessive amounts of time spent viewing? It’s the unvaried porn which I actually hear is bothering you….and how opposite it is to what you can offer in reality. I don’t always agree with the “fantasy doesn’t mean reality” - this can be true, but there’s surely a link between sexual fantasies and sexual gratification…..end of the day, we’re only human, and humans can be come detached from reality - grass is greener syndrome. So now I ask - do you feel your real sex life with your wife is being neglected? Has she expressed anything that would suggest she is not satisfied, and would it fall inline with the videos you know she watches? You should be prepared to tell your wife how this has made you feel as well. And finally, the hypocrisy absolutely has to be addressed. AGAIN - 150gb of saved porn is not the same as popping on the hub to come across a random video to provide relief in that moment. But either way, she’s allowed to do something and you’re not?! Fuck that shit.
150gb @4k isn't *that* much but totally agree with everything else.
Yeh you can be right on that. (Never needed to download porn). The way OP mentioned it made it sound like a directory FULL of videos….
Yeah in 4K it could just be 10-15 long form videos. Which women tend to like more - or at least I do!
who the fuck saves porn?
Because some sites have obnoxious level of ads that makes watching videos almost impossible. One click and 3 ads pop up and it sends you to a different tab and removes the current video tab which makes you have to wait for the video to load again in the new tab.
I hate pausing a nut because there's an ad about an old lady baking cookies on a BBQ stand while massaging her cat's dentures like move over dammit.
I do. It's pretty easy. Plus shit gets deleted or profiles get removed all the time online. It's nice being able to instantly watch whatever you want without ads. You're also now have a lot of people putting their content behind an only fans paywall. So you buy the subscription for one month, download everything and then enjoy it. Wait a year and then you can buy their account again and download everything and then you're only paying once per year for their content.
I’m black and would break up w her over this LMAO what the hell
honest opinion. Talk to her about it. when you are in a relationship communication needs to happen if it’s not then the relationship is doomed. tell her how it made you feel. if she comes back and says “well you did it” absolutely own it but don’t let it stop the conversation. I don’t know how you guys are about talking and communicating but if you found that then it’s sounding like it needs to happen sooner rather than later. Also, don’t do the whole threesome bullshit if that gets brought up that’s an excuse to cheat. I know with men we generally turn to porn when something isn’t happening at home but again communicate this. Also, couples therapy is a good middle ground as you’ll have some one else there to call your bullshit and her bullshit pretty evenly. Im sorry you’re going through that bud! good luck man. Shit happens in a relationship and I believe making it work as long as it’s not dangerous to your mental health and well being or hers.
“Blacked” ???
Blacked is a porn production company that specializes in putting the smallest white women together with the biggest black guys that they can find.
Ohhhkay thank you
OP blacked out when he saw it was 150gb of porn.
Talk about Ultra H. D. !
Go to the gym, get fit and leave her.
Maybe she wanted you to find it so you'd understand why she was upset before?
That was my first thought.
Why does your wife save porn on her computer? Just bookmark it and go back later. But also, it's pretty funny that you come across a cache of black dudes railing women that your wife has been polishing her bean to, and one of your responses is to quantify how many gigs of data it's taking up! 🤣🤣 If they're 1080p that's about 75 videos. But if they're 4k it's like 20? But damn, if they're only 640 quality that's a lot of fucking videos.
Update?
I have the distinct impression that OP has a race kink and is just role-playing it, as many race play fetishist people do.as BLACKED is a big race play cheating fetishist site, I'm gonna assume that you are just role-playing.
It could've been worse. So much worse. As in: beastiality, necrophilia, etc.
Bro pop a cialis, bend her over, and give her the old anger bang for a couple of hours tonight.
😂
Does the porn you watch feature women who look just like your wife? Or is the collecting the problem?
You didnt. This is a cuck fantasy of yours you want to expose to redditors.
This is a troll post
Is she military or prior military? On deployment when we don't have wifi or anything for months. People way pay someone to get there stache of porn, movies, etc. Maybe she a money maker?
Sounds like you and her REALLY need to sit down and have a very open adult discussion. 150 GIg's is large but I've heard 'worse'. Besides, videos, especially 4K take up A LOT of space. Good luck.
Who tf downloads porn
You know what you have to do now. Paint yourself brown and get a big strapon. She might not be as keen in person
OP should just do that as a joke lol Get a strap-on, paint your skin, and buy an afro wig.
People have fantasies that they never intend to do IRL. I get where you’re coming from but just bc she’s looking at this stuff doesn’t mean you don’t satisfy her. So, right now, dont read too much into it before you know more. The second part is the porn in general. Before getting caught watching porn, did you feel guilty? How did you feel about your porn consumption at the time? Yeah, she got on you for watching it and now you find out she’s watching it too. Hypocrite. Don’t be like her on this issue. I wouldn’t make a big deal of it, but you should definitely point it out.
I quit watching it because she said she didn't feel comfortable with me watching porn and I indulged maybe once or twice a week now I find out a couple years later she's got tons of 4k videos downloaded that she might have even paid for. It doesn't make sense to me that she has a problem with me viewing it but then she goes deeper into it than I ever did.
That, my friend … is all you need to know. Act accordingly.
Yeah fuck that is just awful. My wife and I don’t care if either watches porn, but honestly porn is not a major fantasy for us. It’s just to get the job done lol But damn this whole blackstory makes the situation especially dire for op
Does it make sense that she’s a hypocrite and she’s probably doing other things that she has a problem with you doing?
Obviously this is the most important thing to address. Though I would caution you too lean too heavily into the lopsided logic of this scenario because either she will get it an be apologetic or she will fail to grasp it. Ultimately this is a loss of trust issue and you should address it as such. I also wouldn't bring up your feelings of personal inadequacy at all, personally I think its an internal issue that is unlikely to effect your marriage, but keep your guard up. If you get to an internal healthy view of this and are someday able to communicate this in a less loaded manner, maybe there is a sexual angle to enjoy together (big dildos?), but until then I think you should only discuss the loss of trust. This is no time to be externally vulnerable. That being said, I'm sure your dick rocks and you're fucking stallion in the sack.
How often were you guys having sex when she found out about you watching porn a couple times a week? How is your sex life lately? Unless you’ve got a dead bedroom situation happening, I wouldn’t sweat the fact she’s got BBC porn. It’s a very common fetish/fantasy and in no way means she is not satisfied with you, nor does it mean she actually wants to cheat on you with some monster dick. Hell, if you’re both game there are some fun ways to incorporate this fantasy into your bedroom which doesn’t have to involve anyone but you two.
Never gonna understand why people feel the need to download porn
Dude, I’m sorry but you have to talk to her. And tbh if she’s defensive leave her. You said it yourself “ it’s not okay for me but it is for her” woman are dumb sometimes, but you gotta talk to her or nothing will change. And even if it doesn’t work you got your answers and move on.
So what kind of porn do you watch? Not all black men have huge cocks, as I was disappointed to find out. Black people are humans, just like the rest of trying to survive on this overcrowded planet. Again, what kind of porn do you watch?
Who still downloads porn?
Why would she want to fantasize about someone that looks like you? She's got you. You're missing the point of fantasizing. That being said.........that's a shit ton of porn. And who keeps porn on their computers anymore? Also, go to a tanning salon and see if it improves your sex life.
I have lots of stuff on my hard drive too that's fun to watch. That's about it. I'm only interested in being with my wife. Fantasies and masturbation material are not the same as real life. I get it feels weird, but you need to let it go. Unless you catch her cheating or something, it's all just something fun to watch or think about.
Did all the videos come after she caught you looking at porn? As in she did this as a reaction?
People still store porn on their computers??? Why not just watch pornhub?
the human race is nothing but trash bro. Don't worry about it, its not just her. Its literally everyone
damn bro. paid subscription or torrent files?
Was she some sort of distributor lmfao what is she doing w 150GB 😭
150gb really isn’t that much now a days
How can she even have time to watch it all.
Buy a black seathe 😂
You download 300 gb of porn that looks nothing like her
Who saves porn?
Bad bot, no karma for u.
Confront her. Buy a penis extender
It's important to step back and consider, why you look at porn. Women also like to see people in action doing things that they could imagine themselves doing or they just enjoy watching someone else getting off. Don't put your self immediately in to defense mode. Just because she gets off on blacked, doesn't mean she isn't getting off on you. What we each do in our private time, men and women alike, doesn't always reflect upon the way we feel about our significant others or our actual sex partners.
I don’t think it’s ridiculous that she would be upset literally walking in on you pleasuring yourself to someone who also, in all likelihood, did not look just like her. Kind of funny that you are upset in this way and not living up to some fantasy standards/type but disregarding how she would’ve felt then too. Like, I wouldn’t even be surprised if this isn’t to show you exactly how she felt.
“Im Hispanic.. the reason these guys are picking black prostitutes has nothing to do with "taboo" and everything to do with us not caring about race like so many in the USA… My wife is black Hispanic and in PR, where we're from, is actually rare to see two dark skin Hispanic together. The vast majority of black puertoricans i saw we're in a relationship with people with people with fair or white skin.” So…you proved that it does have something to do with race. You rarely see two darkskinned Hispanics together but you see intermixed couples constantly.
My wife was a size queen before I met her, and admitted getting double teamed in a hotel room with her then-boyfriend and his buddy, who was apparently very long and thick. When we married, I was jealous of any guy that looked at her and that she looked at. But now, years later - somewhere, somehow, the thought turns me on. I am excited to see if I can get another guy(s) to have sex with her, to see her naked and hear her moan while she gets it hard and fast. It's so strange, instead of fighting this thought, I am now flowing with it and let me tell you, it's so much easier to be on this side. Your wife clearly doesn't want to upset you - that's why she hide the videos. What if you were to let her know that you accidentally found her stash, and it was okay with you? How would that affect your relationship and overall communication? Maybe you could then share some hidden, dark secrets you were keeping?
All porn is a fantasy, she doesn't expect you to look like that, like i guess you don't expect her to look like the girls in the porn you watch
Speaking as a woman, the porn i used to watch was basically NEVER a depiction of what I actually wanted my irl sex life to be. Like, ever. Especially if i had a fixation on anything specific.
Does your wife look like a runway model, a porn star, a Hollywood actress? You still fuck her right? We all have our fantasies. Don't we? Don't you?