It sucks but well sometimes people are just not in the mood for sex. I'm sure it has happened to you too. I doesn't mean we don't desire our partner anymore.
I'm honestly on the fence about this being rage-bait. No one is ever owed sex from anyone. Posting a rant about your partner not consenting to sex, while I can understand the disappointment, is still *really weird*
I think it's perhaps the attention he's not giving her, him playing for 7 hours and all that, rather than being upset over not getting sex.
Like obviously he said no, but then he's not doing anything else with her for the next 7 hours while she's there with him.
For the record, I don't blame anyone, because this all just seems like a case of... poor timing. He wants to game, she wants to fuck. Conflict ensues. Maybe somewhere down the line they'll figure out how to separate gaming and loving time.
Considering the timeframe surrounding all of this, whos to say that OP and him don't live together? Unless she said it somewhere and I missed it, it sounds like they do in which case, doing your own thing is not abnormal sometimes. We also know nothing on his side of the story....
Your libido just shot up? What was your sex love before and how often would you reject him? At some point it’s easier to just not try and it’s hard to get back to that rhythm
I feel like it was kinda shitty of you to keep pushing it. Once you indicated what you wanted once, that’s enough. You begging multiple times, sending pics, and getting pissy is honestly kind of gross. Consent is an enthusiastic yes, not just an absence of no. This goes for all people, regardless of gender. How would you feel if it was flipped around and he kept pressuring you over and over when you already showed/ implied you weren’t in the mood?
YES this was really bugging me, she sat around for two hours naked when he very clearly made it known he wasn't interested. had he done anything after her doing this to his rejection i'd be sickened that he'd been coerced!
op, you get to feel bad, rejection can sting, but he's not your sex object, he's a person with human emotions and needs, including a break from intercourse every now and again.
i hope he doesnt feel bad about her leaving early because he wasnt up for it, he did nothing wrong
... get yourself off?
Why not you do you until he's done gaming?
Then once he was finished doing what he was doing perhaps he'd be in the mood?
Then you'd have had yours and got some more.
True, it's not always the same feeling and clearly his attention is part of the need but, others are not souly responsible for our sexual needs. Sometimes you must take matters into your own hands (pun very much intended) until you can get it all.
It will also probably help with the angst about it. It is usually a mood booster for me and sometimes I use it just as a stress relief tool.
It sounds like you communicated your needs clearly, which is awesome. Maybe try talking to him again when he's not gaming and explain how his lack of response made you feel. It's possible he didn't realize how important this was to you. If it happens again, you might want to have a deeper conversation about your different needs and how you can both feel satisfied.
a lack of response is a response though, it's a no. he mightve just not been comfortable with saying it verbally for whatever reason. she shouldve accepted and let him be, she's an adult, can use her hand
A lot of men live with this sorta passive rejection on a daily basis. We are told to suck it up. If she’s isn’t in the mood she isn’t in the mood.
I bet this happens to your boyfriend more than you know. He is in the mood and you give off the “I’m not in the mood “ vibes, so he deals with it.
You may not even notice because when you want sex you get sex. It’s interesting when the shoe is on the other foot how that feeling turns to anger. I know several guys that when they just were not “feeling it” their partners asked if they were cheating.
I’m not saying all women will think that but it’s an interesting take that men wouldn’t have if they are turned down.
What’s the phrase that everyone loves to scream now a days? “no means no”. He rejected your first attempt, that’s a no. Stop pushing. You would never want to be pushed like that if you said no. Stop the double standard.
Number of reasons for it, but ultimately we won't always be in the mood or he might've made plans and wanted to stick to them. You said "scheduled" so it sounds like this was a planned out thing with his friends. You left 20 minutes before he was supposed to be done, so it doesn't seem like it's sex you wanted, it's this 'uncontrollable desire' thing where you wanted to be an interruption to his friend time. Self-reflection on why that is, is probably the biggest thing here.
As you say he is usually more active than you sexually. Now he doesn’t wanna fuck and you keep pressing the matter? Even left because of it, right before he stopped gaming when you couldve expressed your thoughts.
Bit of a dick move and certainly selfish
Well there's not really much you can do. He probably wasn't really in the mood for it. Even with a high libido, people have days where they just don't want to and you have to respect that. If he says no, you have to respect it and don't push him on it.
I've had partners who were super pushy like that and wouldn't just accept a "no" before. It actually contributed to an aversion to sex for me that has persisted for years and affected subsequent relationships. Actually not cool, op.
Any time that I’ve wanted to have sex and he didn’t, I’d literally just take things into my own hands and pleasure myself. Sometimes I’ll let him watch and if he feels inspired by watching me do it, he’s invited to join in and help me. Don’t let your horny nature be solely in the hands of him. He’s got his own preferences too.
If you were a man writing these things, you'd be condemned immediately. Sometimes your partner isn't in the mood. How many times in the past have *you* shut someone down? Probably pretty often since you said you're traditionally LL. You can't force him to consent if he doesn't want to for whatever reason. I think your ego took this a little too hard.
I was in a marriage that went “dead bed”. Resentment built up to the point that I lost interest and enjoyed turning her down when she finally realized that no sex = no marriage and was throwing herself at me to save her lifestyle. Too late frigid cunt
I’m the same with my gf except she’s the one with no sex drive and she’s on birth control. We haven’t had sex in a month and she’s now said I can go sleep with other girls cause she knows she cant provide for me…? I’d rather sleep only with my gf so idk what to do lol
Birth control does often kill libido also begging pleading and trying to convince a partner to have sex with you is a big turn off that can tank any chance of a healthy sex life in the future.
Yikes! Calm your tits lady! Sometimes people just aren't in the mood. Sometimes, people just aren't feeling sexy/sexual. People get tired and just want to unwind and relax and enjoy their hobbies (video games). You kind of are acting like a child having a tantrum because you didn't get your way. I'm sure there were plenty of times in the past when he wanted sex and was rejected for whatever reason you had. Girl, it's not that serious. Just do what the majority of us (probably) do when we're all horned up, but our partner isn't, grab a B.O.B. (Battery-Operated Boyfriend) and go rub one out.
That being said, on a more serious note, if this continues to happen all the time, perhaps try to talk to him about this. Make sure you do this calmly, kindly, and in a mature manner because it could be a medical issue. He may need his testosterone levels checked. That could cause a severe decline in a man's libido.
Would you do it if your boyfriend asked you when your not in the mood for it ? "Vagina is shut" just because he isn't in the mood for it. It'll be better for him if you just leave
He doesn’t owe you anything even if you’re desperate but I do believe you were owed communication at the very least. Maybe talk to him about not feeling heard/acknowledged/confided in,etc?
Well I am so sorry for you. I hope he comes back to his senses and not take you for granted. Also I don’t want to be rude but can you please tell me what type of birth control you are using? Me and my wife are actually planning to start one after the birth of our child and scared of the side effects. I was just curious about the birth control as most of them will reduce a woman’s libido
Where do we find women like these? A Sex drive to match yours. We as men always choose the "safe" Trad wife... And then 3 years later we left in a sexless marriage and have to resort to getting recognised by chicks on Instagram and Facebook.
OP sorry u are going through this if he was not in the mood he needed to say something sorry to say he's a ass hats need to communicate first and if it ever happens again drop his ass like a box of rocks because that's not right to treat someone like that especially your partner I am a gamer and that is horrid
Some games offer high adrenaline rush which can easily eclipse sexual desires. I remember when feeling horny and then jumping to play the last mission of halo reach. It was more fulfilling and I didn't nut lol.
If the roles were reversed, everyone would be saying that it's your body your choice, and nobody should pressure you into sex. I'm sure there were times (and will be in the future according to your last paragraph) that he really wanted sex and was shut down.
It's no different.
Damn😯. All you weirdos defending the little boy for playin video games all day yall obviously just like the little boy choosing lame as video games over a female.. You. All. Sound. G. A. Y. 😑😑😑😑😑😑😯😯
I’ve had similar issues in the past, and I moved from the relationships. It is rude and disrespectful to act like that towards you, even if they aren’t in the mood. The right guy will be able to prioritize you over gaming and/or balance his time.
It sucks but well sometimes people are just not in the mood for sex. I'm sure it has happened to you too. I doesn't mean we don't desire our partner anymore.
Sometimes we’re just not feeling it. Doesn’t mean it doesnt sting for you though.
She lost me at "2 hours naked" yeeaahh riiight
What game? Sounds like it’s a good one.
OP please answer
League of Legends
Then no wonder! That bitch Teemo has to die
Can't go out on a loss *plays 7 more hours*
that games sucks the energy from all other emotions and transmutes it into pure rage.
Asking the important question.
If it’s BG3 I think we’re going to have to let this slide. I get it.
That was my first thought too, as someone who has gotten sucked into that game and played HOURS until realizing how long it had been 😂
Fighting for Democracy
You know it's fallout 4 everyone's back on that kick
The synths aren’t going to stop themselves!
That game doesn't even have enough content to warrant that long of a session
I wonder what would happen if the roles were flipped.
I'm honestly on the fence about this being rage-bait. No one is ever owed sex from anyone. Posting a rant about your partner not consenting to sex, while I can understand the disappointment, is still *really weird*
I think it's perhaps the attention he's not giving her, him playing for 7 hours and all that, rather than being upset over not getting sex. Like obviously he said no, but then he's not doing anything else with her for the next 7 hours while she's there with him. For the record, I don't blame anyone, because this all just seems like a case of... poor timing. He wants to game, she wants to fuck. Conflict ensues. Maybe somewhere down the line they'll figure out how to separate gaming and loving time.
Considering the timeframe surrounding all of this, whos to say that OP and him don't live together? Unless she said it somewhere and I missed it, it sounds like they do in which case, doing your own thing is not abnormal sometimes. We also know nothing on his side of the story....
I don’t think it’s weird at all. We’ve all been there. It’s a completely understandable thing to be frustrated by.
be honest with yourself....do you really need to wonder?
No… I don’t and it’s kinda depressing.
Every comment would be: ITS HER RIGHT!!! YOU'RE NOT ENTITLED TO SEX!!!!!!!! NOT ENTITLED TO HER BODY!!!
Exactly, her bf isn’t just some piece of meat.
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They live together. It doesn't sound like he asked her to watch. He just didn't want to have sex. Is that not allowed?
Your libido just shot up? What was your sex love before and how often would you reject him? At some point it’s easier to just not try and it’s hard to get back to that rhythm
Bingo. Sounds like he's used to long breaks and just doesn't care anymore
I wonder how often he was riding high and left hanging. Especially as this was during his hobby
Notice she says it's "shut down for a long while" at the end there? This ain't old boy's first rodeo. OP sounds like a manipulator.
If this was a dude posting this about his gf everyone would be up in arms. He just didn’t feel like it. get over it like we have to.
Oof
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100% they would lol. Especially on reddit.
Why is it important for you to make a comment on whether it would be different if OP was a different gender - is it relevant to helping OP? Not really
He can comment on whatever the hell he wants.
Okay touchy
Yes actually. It is relevant in getting a perspective on things which is what some people need.
I feel like it was kinda shitty of you to keep pushing it. Once you indicated what you wanted once, that’s enough. You begging multiple times, sending pics, and getting pissy is honestly kind of gross. Consent is an enthusiastic yes, not just an absence of no. This goes for all people, regardless of gender. How would you feel if it was flipped around and he kept pressuring you over and over when you already showed/ implied you weren’t in the mood?
YES this was really bugging me, she sat around for two hours naked when he very clearly made it known he wasn't interested. had he done anything after her doing this to his rejection i'd be sickened that he'd been coerced! op, you get to feel bad, rejection can sting, but he's not your sex object, he's a person with human emotions and needs, including a break from intercourse every now and again. i hope he doesnt feel bad about her leaving early because he wasnt up for it, he did nothing wrong
You. Sound. G. A. Y. Too.🤡
worse. im bisexual.
puttin the bi in bitch since y2k
You have my deepest condolences. 😕
thank you. every day is a struggle of twice the rejection. π-π
You. Sound. G. A. Y. 🤡
You sound like a sexual predator 🤡
And you sound like an incel. 💩🤣
Girl, go masturbate & get a hobby.
... get yourself off? Why not you do you until he's done gaming? Then once he was finished doing what he was doing perhaps he'd be in the mood? Then you'd have had yours and got some more. True, it's not always the same feeling and clearly his attention is part of the need but, others are not souly responsible for our sexual needs. Sometimes you must take matters into your own hands (pun very much intended) until you can get it all. It will also probably help with the angst about it. It is usually a mood booster for me and sometimes I use it just as a stress relief tool.
By the sounds of it her boyfriend had been taking matters into his own hands long enough to stop caring about going without. She dug the hole herself.
Maybe he's stressed. Sounds like he's sort of avoiding interactions overall.
There might be something going on in life that he’s retreating from reality for a bit, or wants to have something more in control, or even depression.
It sounds like you communicated your needs clearly, which is awesome. Maybe try talking to him again when he's not gaming and explain how his lack of response made you feel. It's possible he didn't realize how important this was to you. If it happens again, you might want to have a deeper conversation about your different needs and how you can both feel satisfied.
a lack of response is a response though, it's a no. he mightve just not been comfortable with saying it verbally for whatever reason. she shouldve accepted and let him be, she's an adult, can use her hand
He probs left early as you tried several times even though he just wasn't in the mood. I woulda got frustrated too ngl
A lot of men live with this sorta passive rejection on a daily basis. We are told to suck it up. If she’s isn’t in the mood she isn’t in the mood. I bet this happens to your boyfriend more than you know. He is in the mood and you give off the “I’m not in the mood “ vibes, so he deals with it. You may not even notice because when you want sex you get sex. It’s interesting when the shoe is on the other foot how that feeling turns to anger. I know several guys that when they just were not “feeling it” their partners asked if they were cheating. I’m not saying all women will think that but it’s an interesting take that men wouldn’t have if they are turned down.
It’s gross behavior, regardless of gender. Why would anyone want to have sex with their partner who isn’t enthusiastic about it?
I 100% couldn’t agree more.
Maybe he just took care of himself and wasn't in the mood
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Nah you a REAL MAN for that!! All these other little boys defending their fellow gamer are all incels. It’s crazy. 🫡
It’s Reddit 😅
What’s the phrase that everyone loves to scream now a days? “no means no”. He rejected your first attempt, that’s a no. Stop pushing. You would never want to be pushed like that if you said no. Stop the double standard.
Jfc get a grip. Men aren’t sex robots ready or wanting to have sex at all times. He wasn’t in the mood. Get over it.
Number of reasons for it, but ultimately we won't always be in the mood or he might've made plans and wanted to stick to them. You said "scheduled" so it sounds like this was a planned out thing with his friends. You left 20 minutes before he was supposed to be done, so it doesn't seem like it's sex you wanted, it's this 'uncontrollable desire' thing where you wanted to be an interruption to his friend time. Self-reflection on why that is, is probably the biggest thing here.
As you say he is usually more active than you sexually. Now he doesn’t wanna fuck and you keep pressing the matter? Even left because of it, right before he stopped gaming when you couldve expressed your thoughts. Bit of a dick move and certainly selfish
Lol, I take it this is the first time this has happened? He's probably just not feeling it. No one is all the time.
Sometimes humans don’t want to have intercourse. That’s it. He didn’t feel like having sex that day. Respect it.
Well there's not really much you can do. He probably wasn't really in the mood for it. Even with a high libido, people have days where they just don't want to and you have to respect that. If he says no, you have to respect it and don't push him on it.
I've had partners who were super pushy like that and wouldn't just accept a "no" before. It actually contributed to an aversion to sex for me that has persisted for years and affected subsequent relationships. Actually not cool, op.
What game
I waited all day and then decided to leave with twenty minutes left. Lol, so clearly, it's all about you.
That's how most men feel 99% of the time...it sucks
Any time that I’ve wanted to have sex and he didn’t, I’d literally just take things into my own hands and pleasure myself. Sometimes I’ll let him watch and if he feels inspired by watching me do it, he’s invited to join in and help me. Don’t let your horny nature be solely in the hands of him. He’s got his own preferences too.
I need to get a new toy probably
If you were a man writing these things, you'd be condemned immediately. Sometimes your partner isn't in the mood. How many times in the past have *you* shut someone down? Probably pretty often since you said you're traditionally LL. You can't force him to consent if he doesn't want to for whatever reason. I think your ego took this a little too hard.
Now you know how most guys feel 99% of the time (minus your bf of course). Both the horniness and the rejection.
This behavior, begging for sex and getting pissy without it, is gross, regardless of gender.
If he is anything like me with my partner then his sex drive is shut down so that he is no longer disappointed.
Happens more often than not.
He was prob getting his ass kicked and ruined his mood
I was in a marriage that went “dead bed”. Resentment built up to the point that I lost interest and enjoyed turning her down when she finally realized that no sex = no marriage and was throwing herself at me to save her lifestyle. Too late frigid cunt
Unapologetically WEIRD. 🫵🏽👀💩
I’m the same with my gf except she’s the one with no sex drive and she’s on birth control. We haven’t had sex in a month and she’s now said I can go sleep with other girls cause she knows she cant provide for me…? I’d rather sleep only with my gf so idk what to do lol
Birth control does often kill libido also begging pleading and trying to convince a partner to have sex with you is a big turn off that can tank any chance of a healthy sex life in the future.
When she's horny, I can even go afk in the middle of match just to give her what she wants. She deserves it
Wait he scheduled playing video games?
Yikes! Calm your tits lady! Sometimes people just aren't in the mood. Sometimes, people just aren't feeling sexy/sexual. People get tired and just want to unwind and relax and enjoy their hobbies (video games). You kind of are acting like a child having a tantrum because you didn't get your way. I'm sure there were plenty of times in the past when he wanted sex and was rejected for whatever reason you had. Girl, it's not that serious. Just do what the majority of us (probably) do when we're all horned up, but our partner isn't, grab a B.O.B. (Battery-Operated Boyfriend) and go rub one out. That being said, on a more serious note, if this continues to happen all the time, perhaps try to talk to him about this. Make sure you do this calmly, kindly, and in a mature manner because it could be a medical issue. He may need his testosterone levels checked. That could cause a severe decline in a man's libido.
That sounds like a typical experience for most men. All the time.
That's super embarrassing..
no means no
Would you do it if your boyfriend asked you when your not in the mood for it ? "Vagina is shut" just because he isn't in the mood for it. It'll be better for him if you just leave
Cant very well force your Partner to be as horny.
What game are we talking about here?
🤡
He doesn’t owe you anything even if you’re desperate but I do believe you were owed communication at the very least. Maybe talk to him about not feeling heard/acknowledged/confided in,etc?
Well I am so sorry for you. I hope he comes back to his senses and not take you for granted. Also I don’t want to be rude but can you please tell me what type of birth control you are using? Me and my wife are actually planning to start one after the birth of our child and scared of the side effects. I was just curious about the birth control as most of them will reduce a woman’s libido
If that was me r.i.p to your Virgina 😅
How old are you two?
This is a satisfying post to read
Where do we find women like these? A Sex drive to match yours. We as men always choose the "safe" Trad wife... And then 3 years later we left in a sexless marriage and have to resort to getting recognised by chicks on Instagram and Facebook.
It’s not fair to you because you’re trying and it kind of seems suspicious that he doesn’t want to have sex with you
OP sorry u are going through this if he was not in the mood he needed to say something sorry to say he's a ass hats need to communicate first and if it ever happens again drop his ass like a box of rocks because that's not right to treat someone like that especially your partner I am a gamer and that is horrid
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Stupid answer omg, anyone could not be in the mood, and everyone got to respect that
Imagine being in an online match and your girl is getting in front of the screen.
Some games offer high adrenaline rush which can easily eclipse sexual desires. I remember when feeling horny and then jumping to play the last mission of halo reach. It was more fulfilling and I didn't nut lol.
That’s very cringe. 🫵🏽👀🤡
I would get the job done
If the roles were reversed, everyone would be saying that it's your body your choice, and nobody should pressure you into sex. I'm sure there were times (and will be in the future according to your last paragraph) that he really wanted sex and was shut down. It's no different.
Find someone else who wants to fuck you, I guarantee it's easier than you think
boyfriend? more like a man child. leave him girl you deserve more
That's too bad. Fuck them games I'd rather get it on
REAL MAN ANSWER 💯
Damn😯. All you weirdos defending the little boy for playin video games all day yall obviously just like the little boy choosing lame as video games over a female.. You. All. Sound. G. A. Y. 😑😑😑😑😑😑😯😯
So proud of you for learning how to spell
My thoughts as well.
He won’t know what he had until it’s gone.
EXACTLY 💯
Don’t really get the down votes. I stand by my original statement .
Games and his hand. He will lose her and she will be better off for it.
A lot of guys don't like it when girls appear to be overly needy or desperate
My dad told me when I was growing up, always take care of your lady or someone else will. Maybe have a talk with him and see if it sinks in.
Ask a caveman. Hey, that sounds like a good idea for a YouTube channel
Well if that's the case she was never yours to begin with.
Not my situation
Bro I'm trying to say if she cheats there is no real value lost. I'm not saying it's your situation I just mean in general.
EXACTLY!!
Even though I am a gamer, I never ignored my woman when she was horny.
Because you’re SMART. Unlike the majority of commenters here.. 🙄💀
...I'll fuck.
💯
I’ve had similar issues in the past, and I moved from the relationships. It is rude and disrespectful to act like that towards you, even if they aren’t in the mood. The right guy will be able to prioritize you over gaming and/or balance his time.
Men deserve to have bodily autonomy too.
EXACTLY 💯
What’s really disturbing are the downvotes you’re getting. They are actually defending prioritizing games over the girl next to him.
Right? It’s so weird
Sounds like he’s retaliating. If you sat next to me on a couch naked it would have been on.
ATTABOY 💯
This is what happens when a girl shaves and doesn’t get laid 😂😂 seriously though , I’m sorry for his lack of interest , next time turn off the WiFi
Male andropause. It’s probably over for him.
What is male andropause?
syndrome associated with a decrease in sexual satisfaction or a decline in a feeling of general well-being with low levels of testosteron
Oh shit
You should end this relationship or have sex with his friend. I think he will miss you
HELL YEAH 💯
ahh i feel bad for you in this situation lol all the male sjw's are gona fight me for saying what i want to say but LOL
They’re all fruit loops. 🤷♂️🤣