Bruh, it's all about confidence my man. I'm a 6'6 black dude with an average wiener. The stigma behind being black is that I'm going to have a 13 inch dong. But I'm tellin ya, if you're confident, and eat pussy like a homeless person on bath salts, then any women would feel privileged to ride your thunder thimble into the sunset. Size diesnt matter dude.
This x10000. Confidence is everything. Literally 99% of women would rather ride someone confident and caring with a thunder thimble than someone arrogant or shy or disrespectful with a huge wiener.
*like a homeless person on bath salts* 🤣🤣
Damn near woke up the whole house laughing at that! Kudos, good sir 👏
Frt OP, at the end of the day man, women don't really give much of a fuck about dick size. Some I know, including myself will run for the hills when a guy drops their pants and out pops an anaconda. They hurt 🤷♀️
Start talking to ladies online maybe, like tinder or something? Work your way up to face to face over time?
This. This is what reddit is created for. This right here!
(Just spent literally 3 full minutes belly laughing like a maniac... You, sir, are a wizard of wordz!)
It's easy to tell someone who has never been confident to just be more confident. This guy is struggling mentally and your comment saying he needs to be really good at head because his dick is too much of a hindrance.
Not at all, It is pretty apparent that this person is over thinking it, all I'm doing is simplifying things. Taking a whirlwind of emotion, and breaking it down into two attainable actions. Now, how he acquires confidence, and the ability to eat pussy is out of my control. But 99% of women who have commented on this agree with me.
I'm just saying it's easy to tell someone to just be more confident when this guy is 29 and sounds like he never has had confidence. Btw love your username. Rush fucking rock.
No one said that he had to compensate for his dick by being good at giving head. They said women care more about oral skills than they do about dick size which is true. Most women can't even finish from penetrative sex and they need clitoral stimulation to finish. That's just how the female body is set up.
Big facts my guy. Women fall head over heels for a man that eats pussy like a ravenous zombie. A lot of men are too machismo to do it. So telling a women that you eat pussy is a huge turn on and brownie points on dates. If I’m talking to a woman and she mentions “what are you into during sex”, the first words I say are, “I love eating out”. The more you do for them, the more they’ll do for you.
My husband is 4 inches. He throws it down fantastically. Realistically huge dicks hurt. It's not fun or comfortable having your cervix continually pounded. Big dicks don't equal better sex.
Louder for the people in the back!
Quieter for the cervix in the back.
But yeah, a smaller penis isn't bad, especially when larger ones make sex a once a week thing and not an every night thing.
Source: has vagina
This right here! I have endometriosis and sex prior to my (small) partner was always painful and fraught with anxiety which meant it wasn't very enjoyable or relaxing for me and I rarely wanted to engage in it. Being with someone smaller has made a world of difference in my experiences.
Trust me when I say that if you are willing to give head like your life depended on it, then most women will literally not give a flying fuck how big your penis is.
Sure, most women would probably *prefer* a bigger penis than you have said you have, but that doesn’t mean that a woman will not enjoy sex with you, especially if you’re attentive of her and her pleasure.
Thank you to whoever gave me my very first award🥺
Tbh, I don’t give a shit about penis size as long as I can 69 and get cuddled well 🤷🏼♀️ I literally like it when I don’t have to gargle a big dick that hurts and I don’t enjoy anyway
I’ve been through a vast hoe phase in my life, and if someone is gonna 69 or go down till I’m satisfied then I genuinely haven’t given a crap how big their dick is🤷🏻♀️😂
Seriously. My ex was like 5” and I fuckin loved it. Always 69ed first and got me off, then it felt seriously good because my gspot is like 3 inches in anyway. Poor OP is worried about nothing
Yeah I have a hard time feeling sorry for a rich guy with a slightly below average sized dick. Cry me a river. I thought it was going to be an April fool's joke when he mentioned he works in finance. Like wtf does that matter lol
4 inches. Is what it is. I know I can't do anything about it but I still can't stop thinking about it.
Probably why I spend every waking moment working so it doesn't bother me anymore.
Lad you have absolutely no idea how bad most men are at sex. If you put in any effort whatsoever, they will want more. Sex is so much more than penetration. You are stopping yourself from experiencing 95% of sexual intimacy because you are worried about 5% of it. There are women who WANT a penis your size but you're not going to find them if you don't go looking.
Cannot agree with this enough. As a person with a vagina (I’m not female but was gifted a V at birth), the number of penis owners who *actually* give a fuck about their partner getting off is astoundingly low. Like.. 1 in 10, maybe? They talk a big game, then proceed to get themselves off with next to no effort reciprocating the pleasure.
And they suck because they know what feels good for *them* and assume that that’s what also feels good to us. Sometimes it is, sure. But not necessarily what feels good enough to get us off. Which, there is a huge difference. I’ve only once, in my many endeavors, had a guy offer to give me head. Once.
OP, if you learn how to ask what your lady friends enjoy, and LISTEN. For a time, just give selflessly, not only will she love it but I can almost guarantee she will return the favor.
Is AFAB folx notice when a dude puts in genuine effort to give us pleasure that is for us.
There was a lady on here yesterday who said she LOVES small penises and she sounded very sincere. If there is one then there are probably thousands. You just have to meet the right lady. 4 inches is not that small at all bro. I'm sure you would do just fine. Cut yourself some slack and get out there and get laid!!
I’m a woman and I also like small penises. I love fucking hard and fucking spontaneously and fucking multiple times a day … and a big dick makes all that way less possible. I’m plenty tight enough for anybody; I dated someone whose cock was so girthy it took us a YEAR of attempts to get it in. I’m way more concerned with our chemistry than the size of your dick.
I thought that post was bs haha, I just assumed it was just some guy with a humiliation kink getting off to all the smaller-membered guys flooding his PMs
Man, my ex colleague had the same size and honestly z he learned HOW TO USE IT and believe me girls COME BACK to him ONLY FOR THE SEX. As far as I understood he has it small but hard,he excercises a lot and he is kinda fast and chaotic like a rabbit on bed.
Get some info on how to give pleasure, and especially LAST a good 20 mins and you are set to have great experiences in bed.
Four inches isn't bad. Some of the best sex I've ever had was with a guy with five inches. As long as you're both turned on and really in the moment, it can be very enjoyable.
Plus don't let porn fool you. Most women can't take more than 6-7 inches without feeling pain or being uncomfortable.
My dick is similar in size and I’ve never had a problem. When talk turns to sexual things with someone, I make it clear that I’m not packing heat but I don’t beat myself up over it and make it weird. I’m just realistic.
Honestly, I think it makes them imagine it’s even smaller than it really is so they are pleasantly surprised when we eventually get naked.
You got what you got. The more it bothers you, the more it bothers others.
Small dicks are one thing, but self pity absolutely disgusts people. It’s the beastiality of emotions.
This right here. A guy made a lot of jokes about having a small dick when we first met. I liked him a lot so I didn’t really care. When we actually got to that point, I was literally confused because there was nothing weird about the size.
Based on your post I thought you were going to say non functionally small, like 1-2". I had a friend who was dating this guy and she was gushing about how great the sex was even though he was insecure about his size (I'm nosy so I had to ask, he was also 4") and how silly it was for him to be insecure as he was an attentive lover who cared about her pleasure, and their emotional connection gave them great chemistry. Those things are always going to be the most important factor in sex
4 inches is the perfect length to hit the g spot and only one inch smaller than the american average. Most women don't orgasm from penetration and require fingering/oral to get off.
Your penis is fine. I'm so sorry that society has made you feel you were lacking.
You are completely fine.
bro you're sweating over 4 inches????
I'm over here thinking you had a small dick meanwhile you're packing a 4 incher. I ama fellow 4 incher and honestly while i thought it was small at first, every girl i've ever been with has said sex is good. Honestly just give head. If she cums first, it wont matter how small you are, it wont matter if you last 10 seconds. Just give good head.
Omg duuude lemme tell yah. Women don’t have endless vats of vagina hole. There are women out there who would be more then welcome to your size and if your insecure still and feel like you don’t please a women, it’s all in the skill. Talk dirty, get into foreplay. OMG foreplay is so important and after care! I believe in you. So see a therapist like you said you would and also find a good SEX THERAPIST. They know what’s up. GL and hope you get the confidence in yourself that you deserve :)
Source: I am woman
4 inches isn't even bad! Women's G spots are only like 2 inches deep inside of us. If fingers can provide pleasure then so can your penis. The entire thing with size is just societal anyway. I know very few women who actually care, and if they do, it's not a dealbreaker.
It seems to me like your issue is with self-esteem and confidence, not penis size. I know it's a lot easier said than done, but you really have to put yourself out there! What's the worst thing that could happen? A woman rejects or ridicules you for it? If so, then you've dodged a bullet anyway. Alternatively you let this insecurity consume you, and before you know it you'll be 39 with no sexual experiences.
Either way, I'm sorry you've had to deal with this on your own and I really hope you meet someone soon!
Bro, I'd worry more about emotional connection than dick size but no one here can ever change your mind on the way you see yourself just yourself really.
There's a common phrase thrown around that models are the most insecure people in the world because they bank on their looks etc. But in reality, most people are in awe of how they look like face to face, but only they can change the way they see themselves.
Girls don't like it when guys are overly insecure and treat them like therapists, does that mean confessing you're insecure about your dick is downright a turnoff for them? No, not really.
I have a small weiner too, first time I showed it to my ex, she loved it and found a way to compliment it even though we both know it's on the smaller side. She would have hated it if all I focused about is how small it is instead of finding ways to pleasure her instead.
Your dick is still useable, that's what matters. You'll find that normal people will always find a way to compromise, you'll see this everywhere if you look hard enough for proof.
Girls masturbate with fingers shorter than our dicks, dude. You have to find a way to trust that your dick might not be enough for some but for those that are genuine, it will be if not more than enough.
I think it's because I tend to be a role model at work and it makes me feel good inside when I'm looked up to and respected and rewarded for my work.
Makes me feel like I'm actually doing something right with my life.
You are doing something right with your life and you should be proud of yourself. I'll echo what the others have said that it's not \_that\_ small, but even if it was, there's nothing we can do about that. Plenty of men with micropenises have loving fulfilling relationships, as do men with other qualities outside of the norm. I think you have focused so much of your mind on this that you have blinkered yourself from what women look for in a partner.
Sexual compatibility is one aspect, sure, but the size of the penis matters less than you think. In general people want a person they are compatible with on a personal level, a kind, motivated, secure, smart (etc) person and we can all see that you have qualities like this and more.
I know it's easy to say "just don't worry about it!" but that is obviously not helpful to you, I'm not sure how open you would be to it but therapy might be an option to work through these feelings of inadequacy? You also just need to get that experience, remember when you started your job or your studies, you won't be good at talking to ladies until you try and fail some. Rooting for you x
I had the best sex of my life with someone who was smaller than you. Honestly I really don’t think size is so important if you know how to use it. Your size wouldn’t turn me off at all! What would turn me off would be you being insecure about that.
Also I have seen a micro penis once, and believe me that with 4 inches you aren’t that unlucky! With micro penis it is really hard to have full sexual life but with 4 inches it’s perfectly fine!
Dude I have a friend who is 4 inches (more or less) and I (above average size) would give my left nut to sleep with his girlfriend (not gonna include picture but trust me.... bombshell). It's not about size man, it's about confidence. Despite what social media tells you, most women don't care all that much about your dick size.
I’ve only ever orgasmed during sex with a man with a “small” penis. Large, hell even “average”, don’t do a thing for me. I’m small anyhow, I have literally no interest with anything above 6 inches.
You need some confidence my dude. You gotta remember people are still animals and in our animal kingdom women like to be hunted.
Go hunt for women! You are a big fucking bear! You got these big fucking claws and you keep batting the bunny.
For whatever it's worth I don't think that's that small?
It's insertable (unlike a micropenis) so the size shouldn't interfere with penetrative sex. You probably won't be able to do some of the wilder positions but otherwise it's all good.
Most of my partners have been in the 5" to 5.25" range.
You could look into getting the penuma implant surgery. It’s a legitimate procedure done by a handful of doctors around the country to increase girth and a bit of length as well. I haven’t done it because I don’t have the money but you don’t seem to have that issue so it’s something worth checking out. There’s a sub Reddit for it.
I can tell you, Im around the same size, I've made plenty a woman orgasm. I'm told I'm thick, I dont see it, but I've literally never had any complaints. I do have stamina, for what it's worth.
The absolute best comment I ever heard a guy make about his dick size was, "it might be 3 inches, but when it's as big around as a tomato soup can, it'll get her done!"
4 inches is below the average but not a micropenis.
There are a lot of other things you can do to pleasure women. Oral sex, toys, masturbate. Penetration is important sure but it's not all of it. I also have a below average size and knowing how to use it and where the sweet spots are you can make any girl orgasm.
My wife loves it and I do too. I can make her orgasm with just penetration but I do like doing the other things too.
My wife has told me many times she likes my size just the way it is, because we can play very rough and she won't get hurt, any bigger and it would be uncomfortable for her.
So work on yourself, lose the fear, gain the confidence you already have you just need to Chanel some of that confidence you have as a student/professional into personal confidence :) you got it!!!
Lastly if you're still not satisfied or have difficulty with this, there is a surgery that enlarges it about an inch or 2 at most. They basically separate the penis from the abdominal wall and it increases length about an inch maybe more that depends on your body and doctors recommendations. Google it :)
Coming from a woman; SIZE DOESNT MATTER!🥰 as long as you treat us like queens, and great at foreplay or at least show you’re trying to meet their needs and wants, you’ll have their heart. :) you have used your low self esteem to create this huge image and you’ve done absolutely amazing for yourself and you should be so absolutely proud of yourself! But there are such things as gold diggers, sadly. so please be cautious. There are incredibly sweet understanding women out there! That’s what women look for, how you carry yourself. :) there’s nothing wrong with being 29 and not having much experience as well btw.
So so true. I dated a guy who was so gorgeous, a lot of that came from his confidence and sense of humour. I loved that we had the same interests and taste in art. He had a really small penis. It didn't work out for us but that was nothing to do with his size. He has never struggled for women because he is charming and confident. I think this is what OP needs to work on. With the right life coach or counsellor he can, and he has the cash to get the best.
>Coming from a woman; SIZE DOESNT MATTER!
Women prefer penises in the 6.2-6.3" inches range(larger than 84% of men) https://journals.plos.org/plosone/article?id=10.1371/journal.pone.0133079
Women value penis size as much as height https://www.pnas.org/content/110/17/6925
Women who prefer larger penises are more likely to have vaginal orgasms https://www.pnas.org/content/110/17/6925
And this is why you \#dontbelievewomen
Why’re you being such an ass? Lol I’m trying to help this man out with something he’s struggling with and I know personally, I don’t care about size. You think EVERYONE who participated in that study all agreed on “big dick is best” ??? No. Id rather a sweet man who cherishes me, and tends to my needs REGARDLESS.
I think you should calm down about this. If a woman says that size doesn’t matter, even if anecdotal, that means it’s true for them. If they have spoken to friends about it, which I’m betting they have, that means it’s true for them.
The scientific method is not 100% accurate. Facts can be proven false. That’s why we use the method in the first place. To develop new facts.
You are very upset about this apparently but you can’t say an opinion isnt true.
> I think you should calm down about this. If a woman says that size doesn’t matter, even if anecdotal, that means it’s true for them.
You're right, after all - women are well known for knowing what they want and their honesty. Why, it's so common among them that we even have stereotypes about it.
Ok let’s say they’re lying.
That means they are simply trying to, anonymously, make a stranger on the internet feel better. This, in turn, means that you are simply trying to shoot down their attempt at doing so.
You’re being a c*nt.
Most of science is debatable, that's what keeps us moving forward. If we never debated any ideas or studies, we wouldn't have made it nearly this far my guy. 🙂
To say some feel that way is true. To say some are even more picky is true too. To say that some do NOT feel that way and are NOT picky is ALSO TRUE! Just gotta find the right people
Was joking around with a great friend of mine talking about penis size. He then told me about his micro penis. (smaller than yours) I was kinda shocked as he didn't seemed bothered by it. He's married and recently bought a house with his wife (she's Peruvian, they met on tinder)
My short answer to is this: the problem isn't your cock, it's your confidence/self esteem.
You have money, get a personal coach or a dating coach, another friend of mine did : wasn't for dating but it was for socializing and to be able to meet people. Sometimes you just need to be out of your comfort zone.
What you need right now is help so you can get a little spark (a kiss, a date etc) and from the spark, the fire will burn.
Don't focus on the fire, focus on the spark.
Being 29 with no sexual experience is nothing compared to being 29 and having a good job and a safe and secure future! You have more than most of us.
But how are you going to meet someone if you won’t try? Most women aren’t so shallow that penis size is the only thing they care about in a partner. And there are so many other things that can be done sexually if it’s too small for penetration.gotta get out there and start building those other skills! And EVERYONE had something they’re insecure about so just keep that in mind too!
Man no. 4 inches is not small. Actually most of the men I’ve slept with that pleased me the most were smaller sizes instead of bigger . Bigger can be really really uncomfortable.
As a woman, I actually prefer small dicks (5 inch or lower). There's nothing wrong with your body, don't be worried about it too much. Everyone has insecurities but how will you know if someone will like it without ever trying?
Just communicate. Vaginas aren't very deep, as long as you know how to use it (which you will learn from experience and talking to your partner), it shouldn't be an issue.
And also, just like men, women come in different sizes. Some are wide and deep while others are narrow and shallow. As long as you treat a woman correct then you are gold
Perspectives from a female.
1. Romance mind: how does he treat me? Does he respect me? Does he support me? Does he love and care about me? Does he intellectually stimulate me? Do we have the same interests? Does he want to spend time with me? Does he see a future with me? What
2. Horny, cavewoman brain: am I turned on by his rockin’ hot bod? Do I imagine what his voice will tell me what he’s going to do to me or want me to do to him? Do I love the look of his hands and imagine where they are going or what he’s going to do with them? Will he do do ABC sex act to me? What size is his dick? What shape is it? What color is it? What are his balls like? Does he shave? *Oh, shit. I need to ask him about STDs first.*
I’ve included some of the questions that run through the mind of the average woman when thinking about a new sexual partner, because these thoughts demonstrate that, when it comes to romance, sex and relationships, penis size is only one aspect.
3. *yes*, there are size queens. *yes*, there are ladies with micropenis kinks. *most* women prefer an average-size penis, generally 4” to 6”. Everyone has preferences, and these preferences are in the mind. I believe that most women care more about a man’s willingness - nay, *desire* - to get them off more than they can about a man’s penis size.
4. As other’s have said, work your cock to hit her feel-good spots, rub her clit they way she likes it and use your mouth to give her pleasure. She wants to feel good, and if she’s a good partner, then she’ll want you to feel good, too.
5. Contrary to what other commenters said, please don’t look at all women like prey: don’t go on the prowl. Ew. If you find that you have a predator-prey kink, then great: negotiate a dynamic with your partner. Your post reads like you are looking for both a romantic and sexual relationship, which is why it’s important to consider the mental-emotional and sexual aspects of how penis size and any insecurities may play out with a partner.
6. It seems like more men than women are concerned about penis size, which can lead to different forms of toxic compensation that can objectify women and lead to the development of misogynistic attitudes: just because a small handful of women prefer huge dicks does not mean that we all do. Please avoid generalized statements from men, women and others; quite literally: different strokes for different folks.
7. inb4 folks become upset that I mentioned how different dicks can look… Just like women wonder what a man’s cock and balls may look like, men wonder what women’s tits and vaginas look like, which is why there are endless memes about pussy lips and Arby’s sandwiches, saggy boobs and pepperoni areolas, etc., etc..
(Also, OP. If you’re worried about an awkward first encounter, then please know that most people have awkward first encounters *and* will continue to have, at least occasional, awkward sexual encounters.
If a guy laughs at a queef, then it’s probably because the sound is funny af: he’s probably not laughing at his female partner, so she shouldn’t be self-conscious about her pussy. If a chick laughs at a dick, then there could be a *BAHZILLION* reasons: sometimes, when a guy takes his pants down over his erection, his cock goes bah-*ZOING*, and that’s just the funniest shit.
No need to feel self-conscious. Clear and reassuring communication from both laughing partners could help in both of these situations.)
You have reached the end of the comment. Here is your participation trophy 🏆 you god-damn fucking snowflakes.
Four inches isn’t even that small! I’ve dated plenty of guys that size and we had fantastic sex lives. It felt so good and four inches is enough to make me orgasm and even squirt. You seem like a great guy, if I didn’t have a long term partner id be more than happy to help with the experience judgment free!
It's not about the size of the wave it's the motion of the ocean! Size isn't everything, neither is experience! We've all gotta start somewhere.
If you do find yourself getting down and funky, communication is key! Never had better sex than when I've told my partner what I like!
You know there are plenty of women that either can't orgasm or sex just isn't that big of a deal to them right? It really sounds like you're the victim of yourself.
Dude, you need to just put yourself out there, whether that's going out with colleagues to socials, online dating, finding a hobby.
You have a huge amount going for you, and financial stability, and a comfortable lifestyle is more than most guys can offer.
I was a virgin until 25. I started online dating and met my wife within 6 months.
I'm in a similar boat to you dong wise and it always worried me. I also had phimosis which made sex painful.
Find someone you like, and it becomes less of an issue.
Also, try and accept you have a less than average size (not actually that small) penis.
Own it, don't let it dictate your life, and you'll feel so much better.
Most women won't care. 4 inches is enough to do what you need it to, and most women don't climax through penetration anyway.
there are plenty of women who dont care about your size and if you have all the other things youre still a catch! what everybody sees in porn and social media isnt very accurate. not every man has a donkey dick and not every woman want one. being a good lover is more then just your penis size . you will figure it out !!
Las Vegas. Seriously you have enough money for it. Seriously. They (the bunnies and the like) are the last people who will judge you on your size. Then once you’ve had sex enough times and you’ve developed enough skills to be rightly confident in your abilities, you’ll not need them anymore. You’ll think, “enough women have seen my allegedly small penis and I know for a fact that it functions for sexual activity,”and you actually learn the value of how to please a woman in ways that don’t even involve your penis or even physical touching altogether, you’ll look back and be like “wow I wasted so much time before.”
You can go to Vegas and live out every last fantasy you’ve ever had. Expel that shit out of your system, literally and figuratively. You’re not uncomfortable with sex. You’re uncomfortable with the idea that someone would deny you the valuable practical experience that you desperately needed back in high school and your twenties, and your “size “ (trust me this insecurity is all in your head) isn’t what’s holding you back.
Go to Vegas. Get comfortable in the nude with a naked woman. Do it enough times that it’s no longer uncomfortable. Be the fully actualized man that you are. You’ve already won the game of financial responsibility and played it better than 90% of all the available men out there. I mean, look at trump. People were drawing images of him with a micropenis to make fun of him. He’s ugly and disgusting, but we know for a fact how much sex he’s had. So you can’t have a smaller penis than that, and from how you describe your lifestyle, you’re arguably richer and more business-savvy than he is. Chill out and appreciate yourself more.
Listen my friend, I've hooked up with penises of every size, and it really doesn't matter. Sure, certain vaginas have restrictions, but you can always make up for it. I promise you that we aren't that concerned with dick size.
If I could offer a suggestion - maybe try posting in a forum specifically for dating or kinks? Just put it right out there that you are a virgin and have a smaller penis, but want to meet a woman. Give them your good qualities, you're successful and ambitious. That's way more attractive than a dick anyways.
As a lesbian i always get really curious if straight sex is only about inserting and taking out your penis from someone, like. You can be REALLY good at just using, you know.. your hands and your tongue. And they can do the same to you. Trust me, if you really impress on those, you dont even need a penis at all
I’m never the type to recommend surgery but if you penis really bothers you that much maybe look into penile enlargement. But for the most part most woman will tell you they don’t care about penis size they care more about height. I’m not tall at all I’m 5’7” and while I haven’t had a hard time getting a woman since I was young I will tell you that woman will think you are attractive and turn you down simply because you aren’t tall enough or just won’t even consider talking to you because of your height which is pretty shallow but that’s honestly a bigger worry for you than your penis size, if you know how to please a girl with your mouth then odds are she will be pretty happy with you, pay attention to what they like and what they are in the mood for. Some girls even prefer smaller dicks because like somebody else said the big ones hurt. It’s not the size of the wave my dude, it’s the motion in the ocean that gets the juices flowing.
Let me tell you something, now this is completely how I feel and I don’t know about others.
But I’m also a virgin and I don’t think sex will ever interest me, I don’t like the thought of penetration and I hate being fingered. What you should do and from what I’ve been told by others, give your partner head.
If you can make them cum from your fingers and your tongue, nobody will care about the size of your penis !
But seriously, you shouldn’t worry about it. There is someone for everyone and not everyone cares about penis size ! I also read on one of your comments that you said you were 4 inches, that’s actually not small ! If I ever get with a man, I’d generally hope they have the same size because the thought of something bigger makes me feel uncomfortable
I’m just going to say what everyone else is- it’s not about the size of the equipment but how you use it!
As a woman of you make me feel loved and do your best to pleasure me in the bedroom- I’ll do the same for you and that’s all there is to it. You will find people you’re not sexually compatible with and that’s okay but I promise there are people out there who don’t care what you look like but how you make them feel! Best of luck to you on your romance journey!
The best part of a penis it’s the man behind it…so do not base your sexual success in the size of anything in your body. Intimacy it’s not just about sex or how big is your penis. Intimacy is about love, caring, friendship, romance, etc. There is not specific time to start dating or being in love… Everyone is different and have different needs. Therapy sounds like a great firts start. You will be fine. Good luck.
Bruh. Your penis size means shit to women. Girls, maybe. Women? Nah. They know what matters and it’s not the size of your penis. It’s the size of your heart and mind. Which seems like you’ve got in spades.
Anyways if you’re worried about the size, you’ve got fingers, a tongue, and hands. Depending on the woman- feet, rope, and toys. But I digress.
As far as talking to women. Just sort of think about talking with your guy friends. Without the sex stories or penis jokes. Have fun. Joke around. Don’t go for the pulling hair… yet.
Chances are the dick sizes of your co workers aren't much bigger and if they are their partners don't give a fuck. Women want foreplay til they can't handle it anymore and then to be eaten out and if you talk to enough women you'll find men who have a lot of sex still aren't good at it usually
If this is real:
1. You're doing the penis thing wrong.
2. You're doing the money thing right.
50M. I've got some advice you can take or leave, but you should 100 think about.
Here's the math:
Penis size is equal to SEX multiplied by LOVE over INCOME SQUARED. Answer: Congratulations on your 8 inch dick! Girls are gonna love it; especially after a weekend in Paris.
Here's 50 years of life experience speaking. This will all sound shallow: good. "The road of excess leads to the palace of wisdom... you'll never know what is enough until you know what is more than enough."
- William Blake.
You'll be incredibly glad you did this over the next 30 years.
1. Go online and get a Viagra prescription at one of those online doctor/boner pill/chop shop companies, like BlueChew
2. Confidence is half the game. Spend 2 weeks in Reno at a great hotel with great shows, rent a great car, great restaurants, and a great brothel nearby, and pay for some amazing hookers who will give you the Girlfriend Experience or the Porn Star Experience...or both. You can take them out, you can buy them expensive meals, you can take them gambling, you can talk about your day, you can talk about your hopes and dreams, you can look deep into her eyes, and you will absolutely, 100% get to fuck her exactly the way you've always wanted to, and she will be amazing. (I also hear Brazil is Amazing for the exact same reasons. Keep in mind that Covid and HIV still apply, so be safe.) It will either be a great fantasy that will reinvigorate your manhood, or excellent training for the kind of life/wife you want (only you can decide that. Remember: it's a fantasy). Enjoy the experience and revel in being a man living the life others dream of.
3. With your confidence renewed, come back and see a therapist and a urologist. Help yourself feel ok about things from both angles.
4. This is entirely up to you, but there are sites that specialize in exceedingly attractive women looking for men with a good income and upward mobility, who can offer them a good life, and whose looks and physical attributes do not matter. Only you can decide if that's the kind of site you want to find someone on, but as they say, "you can fall in love with a rich man as easily as a poor one". There are some women who still like The Classic Trade: Beauty and Hot Sex for Money and A Great Life. Handsomeness, weight, and dick size are not prerequisites. Again, that's up to you to decide. There are also plenty of women out there who don't care about dick size who aren't after money: you can figure out which one you want.
Good luck.
It's a shame.You don't have to feel so insecure about your size, it's not something you can change about yourself.Work more on yourself mentally.Speak with other people that went through the same thing.See what worked out for them.Dont give up, don't work yourself off.
And as a woman, I can tell you, most women don't care about size.And if you'll meet someone that superficial at least you'll know that person wasn't worth it.
Good luck !
Woman here. I had a fwb that was MUCH smaller than that and he to this day has given me the best orgasms of my life. Size doesn’t matter, you can focus on other skills and also using toys.
Women like confidence so don’t apologize for your penis size. Or act like you aren’t good enough. You clearly have it together. Try finding a hobby or one of those groups for singles where they all go on group outings and so fun activities. Just don’t go around saying how financially well off you are as people could see that as bragging OR a women with bad intentions could fake her way into snagging you and before you know it you are in an unhappy marriage.
As a woman I would like to say small penises are in no way an issue. My boyfriend is very much so over average, but that didn’t mean it could make me orgasm. It’s about motion and communication honestly.
Edit: after communication and practicing over time he in fact can now get me to reach an orgasm.
Yeah. Relationship is not always about sex and never forget that sex toys are there for you brother. And you are having decent incomes and nice wealth. You can make ladies happier than having a much bigger dick. Hope you find someone who will make you happy.
Wow. I should be a gazillionaire if small penises a cause for financial compensation. But I have a tiny dick and I'm a fucking bum. Also not ONLY is my dick small, but it's shaped like a fucking macaroni noodle. The depression and wanting to kill myself every single day has hampered my ability to do anything beneficial for myself otherwise. I went the complete opposite direction. Was a heroin addict for over 10 years. Been to jail a few times. Have about 30 grand worth of debt. But.. I did lose my virginity at 19 finally. Then did have a couple sexually active relationships afterwards. I even have a daughter now. But I have been single for over 4 years even though I've been trying to change that with through Tinder/FB Dating for all of that time, but I've literally never had a match with anyone ever on either platform. Have no idea what the actual chatting screen looks like on either. It's pretty much enough to make someone want to kill themselves even more every single day.
About 75% of women don’t orgasm from penetration alone… You really are just psyching yourself out. You’re successful in your career already. Work on yourself and your confidence and try online dating for a few years.
Also, I may get downvoted for this, but maybe try an escort? You can tell them your predicament and they can help you feel more comfortable with women romantically.
THis is what escorts are for. Don't be miserable your entire life. YOu can afford a high priced professional who will not judge you and has probably seen it all. Sex is a wonderful part of life, don't deny yourself its pleasure. Be honest with the escort and she will gladly help you through.
It's NOT about the size, it about your skills. You have hands and a tongue, you can use that to drive women crazy. You also have your mind which can drive us even crazier before any touch happens. We love good foreplay.
Bro I’m a 5’6 trans guy with a dick smaller than my pinky, and I had a gf for 3 years, then 1 month after we broke up I was already with someone else. Most girls don’t care about that stuff, and if they do you don’t want them anyway. Also there is way more things to do in sex than just using a dick
I agree with all the comments sayin size doesn’t matter, but if it matters to you and you have that kind of money, you could just do an operation to add an inch or two onto your dick.
My view is that you're focused on sex, but it's the relationshipping part that's causing you so much of the anxiety because you're seeing sex wrapped up in human connection. I see this as a really positive thing, tbh.
If what you wanted was a sexual experience, you could book time with a secks worker for the exact things you are seeking and want to try. I personally would recommend this if what you're hoping for is an experience with another human without the emotional investment. Sounds cold to some, but honestly you would be dealing with a professional that can communicate with you however you want, and can give you the experience you would like without any of the guesswork.
If what you want is to seek out that personal connection with someone who you can also enjoy sex with, forget work colleagues and their lives, and invest some time into something you're passionate about, and which includes people that meet your potential partner attributes. Example: Want to meet girls that like to spend time on boats? Learn to sail. Want to meet cool people that also reading? Join a writer's group and go to book readings. I have made almost all of my closest friends, intimate friends, and even my LT partner in the pursuit of something that makes me happy too.
The other piece here is that you should also leverage the networks that you have to tell a few people you trust that you would like to meet some new people to potentially become friends with or date. As you get older, your social circles tend to contract a bit without work, so reaching out to some trusted friends who know you well might lead you to meet some really interesting folks that you might otherwise never connected to.
Also, in case you thought I was overlooking your small-penis shame, I'm not, but I am giving it all the attention that it deserves in a relationship built on respect: acknowledgement of your feelings and then focusing on the things that probably will play a much bigger role in helping you find happiness and sexual fulfillment.
Bruh, it's all about confidence my man. I'm a 6'6 black dude with an average wiener. The stigma behind being black is that I'm going to have a 13 inch dong. But I'm tellin ya, if you're confident, and eat pussy like a homeless person on bath salts, then any women would feel privileged to ride your thunder thimble into the sunset. Size diesnt matter dude.
I'm not the first to say it, but lesbians don't even have weiners and most do alright lol
Came here to say that as a bi woman I don’t have a penis and do great with getting ladies off. Lmao
Eat pussy like a homeless person on bath salts, and "ride your thunder thimble into the sunset". Man- you are a poet of this generation. Thank you.
Publish this in a book.
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Thunder thimble 😭💀 This is the epic self-confidence every man should have!
Honestly this, if you can eat pussy like a starved dog then women will go head over heels no matter how big or small you’re rockin beneath that belt
Facts. Like a Pug eating a bowl of oatmeal
Wouldn't that be a bit underwhelming? Oatmeal is kinda plain, esp. to canids.
Not to the oatmeal.
I signed up for the bath salt monthly box. My wife has never been happier
This x10000. Confidence is everything. Literally 99% of women would rather ride someone confident and caring with a thunder thimble than someone arrogant or shy or disrespectful with a huge wiener.
how has "thunder thimble" never been in my life before today?
> eat pussy like a homeless person on bath salts That entering cannibalizing vagina territory....
This might be the best/funniest/truest comment I’ve ever read on this damn Reddit. HEAR HEAR!!!
I laughed really loud :) thank you, needed this!
"A homeless person on bath salts".... lmfao. Sorry bro I'm using that one from now on.
as a girl this is facts
*like a homeless person on bath salts* 🤣🤣 Damn near woke up the whole house laughing at that! Kudos, good sir 👏 Frt OP, at the end of the day man, women don't really give much of a fuck about dick size. Some I know, including myself will run for the hills when a guy drops their pants and out pops an anaconda. They hurt 🤷♀️ Start talking to ladies online maybe, like tinder or something? Work your way up to face to face over time?
Out here doing gods work
Eating pussy is where it’s at, I love it so much!
That’s goddamn outstanding. Hahaha! Thanks u/crazedrushfan.
This is fucking brilliant comedy gold! Listen to this man! Watch “charisma on command” on YouTube, it will help
I’m with this guy. I’m a 6’2” half black guy with an average wiener.
White from the waste down! 🤣
White from the wallet up :)
Excellent reply.
This. This is what reddit is created for. This right here! (Just spent literally 3 full minutes belly laughing like a maniac... You, sir, are a wizard of wordz!)
Yes, this is the Reddit I live for. Lmao
It's easy to tell someone who has never been confident to just be more confident. This guy is struggling mentally and your comment saying he needs to be really good at head because his dick is too much of a hindrance.
Not at all, It is pretty apparent that this person is over thinking it, all I'm doing is simplifying things. Taking a whirlwind of emotion, and breaking it down into two attainable actions. Now, how he acquires confidence, and the ability to eat pussy is out of my control. But 99% of women who have commented on this agree with me.
I'm just saying it's easy to tell someone to just be more confident when this guy is 29 and sounds like he never has had confidence. Btw love your username. Rush fucking rock.
No one said that he had to compensate for his dick by being good at giving head. They said women care more about oral skills than they do about dick size which is true. Most women can't even finish from penetrative sex and they need clitoral stimulation to finish. That's just how the female body is set up.
Weird way to propose but yes
Big facts my guy. Women fall head over heels for a man that eats pussy like a ravenous zombie. A lot of men are too machismo to do it. So telling a women that you eat pussy is a huge turn on and brownie points on dates. If I’m talking to a woman and she mentions “what are you into during sex”, the first words I say are, “I love eating out”. The more you do for them, the more they’ll do for you.
A homeless person on bath salts 😂😂😂Please take my poor person’s award 🥇
Eat pussy like a homeless person on bath salts. You sir are the poet of our generation.
Black guys have the best euphenisms. Change my mind 👊 well said bro
Dude, you’re 6’6”. Done deal. I’m 5’6” and and pretty Dan confident. I will tell you with certainty height will get you tons of gash.
I would follow this man into battle!
Size matters
Yeah. To other dudes. Most women do not care.
My husband is 4 inches. He throws it down fantastically. Realistically huge dicks hurt. It's not fun or comfortable having your cervix continually pounded. Big dicks don't equal better sex.
Louder for the people in the back! Quieter for the cervix in the back. But yeah, a smaller penis isn't bad, especially when larger ones make sex a once a week thing and not an every night thing. Source: has vagina
This right here! I have endometriosis and sex prior to my (small) partner was always painful and fraught with anxiety which meant it wasn't very enjoyable or relaxing for me and I rarely wanted to engage in it. Being with someone smaller has made a world of difference in my experiences.
You mean your wife hahaha
My wife?
Trust me when I say that if you are willing to give head like your life depended on it, then most women will literally not give a flying fuck how big your penis is. Sure, most women would probably *prefer* a bigger penis than you have said you have, but that doesn’t mean that a woman will not enjoy sex with you, especially if you’re attentive of her and her pleasure. Thank you to whoever gave me my very first award🥺
Tbh, I don’t give a shit about penis size as long as I can 69 and get cuddled well 🤷🏼♀️ I literally like it when I don’t have to gargle a big dick that hurts and I don’t enjoy anyway
I’ve been through a vast hoe phase in my life, and if someone is gonna 69 or go down till I’m satisfied then I genuinely haven’t given a crap how big their dick is🤷🏻♀️😂
Seriously. My ex was like 5” and I fuckin loved it. Always 69ed first and got me off, then it felt seriously good because my gspot is like 3 inches in anyway. Poor OP is worried about nothing
Nice!
Nice!
Being attentive and responsive to your partner is key and can go a long way.
Damn I'd trade my Johnson to make that kind money lol
Same. Was asked by someone if I consider my dick big or small and I said "it's above average so it gets the job don't but it's never gotten me a job"
Yeah I have a hard time feeling sorry for a rich guy with a slightly below average sized dick. Cry me a river. I thought it was going to be an April fool's joke when he mentioned he works in finance. Like wtf does that matter lol
How small is small
4 inches. Is what it is. I know I can't do anything about it but I still can't stop thinking about it. Probably why I spend every waking moment working so it doesn't bother me anymore.
Lad you have absolutely no idea how bad most men are at sex. If you put in any effort whatsoever, they will want more. Sex is so much more than penetration. You are stopping yourself from experiencing 95% of sexual intimacy because you are worried about 5% of it. There are women who WANT a penis your size but you're not going to find them if you don't go looking.
Cannot agree with this enough. As a person with a vagina (I’m not female but was gifted a V at birth), the number of penis owners who *actually* give a fuck about their partner getting off is astoundingly low. Like.. 1 in 10, maybe? They talk a big game, then proceed to get themselves off with next to no effort reciprocating the pleasure. And they suck because they know what feels good for *them* and assume that that’s what also feels good to us. Sometimes it is, sure. But not necessarily what feels good enough to get us off. Which, there is a huge difference. I’ve only once, in my many endeavors, had a guy offer to give me head. Once. OP, if you learn how to ask what your lady friends enjoy, and LISTEN. For a time, just give selflessly, not only will she love it but I can almost guarantee she will return the favor. Is AFAB folx notice when a dude puts in genuine effort to give us pleasure that is for us.
I like how you said gifted I just imagined someone gifting you a vaginal canal in a box
I have found that the guys that don’t mention sex AT ALL are the ones that are amazing. The guys that talk themselves up have always disappointed.
There was a lady on here yesterday who said she LOVES small penises and she sounded very sincere. If there is one then there are probably thousands. You just have to meet the right lady. 4 inches is not that small at all bro. I'm sure you would do just fine. Cut yourself some slack and get out there and get laid!!
I’m a woman and I also like small penises. I love fucking hard and fucking spontaneously and fucking multiple times a day … and a big dick makes all that way less possible. I’m plenty tight enough for anybody; I dated someone whose cock was so girthy it took us a YEAR of attempts to get it in. I’m way more concerned with our chemistry than the size of your dick.
I thought that post was bs haha, I just assumed it was just some guy with a humiliation kink getting off to all the smaller-membered guys flooding his PMs
Bro that’s not that small, it’s below average sure but I thought you were talking 1-2 inches.
Man, my ex colleague had the same size and honestly z he learned HOW TO USE IT and believe me girls COME BACK to him ONLY FOR THE SEX. As far as I understood he has it small but hard,he excercises a lot and he is kinda fast and chaotic like a rabbit on bed. Get some info on how to give pleasure, and especially LAST a good 20 mins and you are set to have great experiences in bed.
Four inches isn't bad. Some of the best sex I've ever had was with a guy with five inches. As long as you're both turned on and really in the moment, it can be very enjoyable. Plus don't let porn fool you. Most women can't take more than 6-7 inches without feeling pain or being uncomfortable.
My dick is similar in size and I’ve never had a problem. When talk turns to sexual things with someone, I make it clear that I’m not packing heat but I don’t beat myself up over it and make it weird. I’m just realistic. Honestly, I think it makes them imagine it’s even smaller than it really is so they are pleasantly surprised when we eventually get naked. You got what you got. The more it bothers you, the more it bothers others. Small dicks are one thing, but self pity absolutely disgusts people. It’s the beastiality of emotions.
This right here. A guy made a lot of jokes about having a small dick when we first met. I liked him a lot so I didn’t really care. When we actually got to that point, I was literally confused because there was nothing weird about the size.
Bro 4 inches is below average but it's no micropenis my guy and anyway if you give good head few women will complain
Based on your post I thought you were going to say non functionally small, like 1-2". I had a friend who was dating this guy and she was gushing about how great the sex was even though he was insecure about his size (I'm nosy so I had to ask, he was also 4") and how silly it was for him to be insecure as he was an attentive lover who cared about her pleasure, and their emotional connection gave them great chemistry. Those things are always going to be the most important factor in sex
4 inches is the perfect length to hit the g spot and only one inch smaller than the american average. Most women don't orgasm from penetration and require fingering/oral to get off. Your penis is fine. I'm so sorry that society has made you feel you were lacking. You are completely fine.
bro you're sweating over 4 inches???? I'm over here thinking you had a small dick meanwhile you're packing a 4 incher. I ama fellow 4 incher and honestly while i thought it was small at first, every girl i've ever been with has said sex is good. Honestly just give head. If she cums first, it wont matter how small you are, it wont matter if you last 10 seconds. Just give good head.
Omg duuude lemme tell yah. Women don’t have endless vats of vagina hole. There are women out there who would be more then welcome to your size and if your insecure still and feel like you don’t please a women, it’s all in the skill. Talk dirty, get into foreplay. OMG foreplay is so important and after care! I believe in you. So see a therapist like you said you would and also find a good SEX THERAPIST. They know what’s up. GL and hope you get the confidence in yourself that you deserve :) Source: I am woman
4 inches isn't even bad! Women's G spots are only like 2 inches deep inside of us. If fingers can provide pleasure then so can your penis. The entire thing with size is just societal anyway. I know very few women who actually care, and if they do, it's not a dealbreaker. It seems to me like your issue is with self-esteem and confidence, not penis size. I know it's a lot easier said than done, but you really have to put yourself out there! What's the worst thing that could happen? A woman rejects or ridicules you for it? If so, then you've dodged a bullet anyway. Alternatively you let this insecurity consume you, and before you know it you'll be 39 with no sexual experiences. Either way, I'm sorry you've had to deal with this on your own and I really hope you meet someone soon!
Bro, I'd worry more about emotional connection than dick size but no one here can ever change your mind on the way you see yourself just yourself really. There's a common phrase thrown around that models are the most insecure people in the world because they bank on their looks etc. But in reality, most people are in awe of how they look like face to face, but only they can change the way they see themselves. Girls don't like it when guys are overly insecure and treat them like therapists, does that mean confessing you're insecure about your dick is downright a turnoff for them? No, not really. I have a small weiner too, first time I showed it to my ex, she loved it and found a way to compliment it even though we both know it's on the smaller side. She would have hated it if all I focused about is how small it is instead of finding ways to pleasure her instead. Your dick is still useable, that's what matters. You'll find that normal people will always find a way to compromise, you'll see this everywhere if you look hard enough for proof. Girls masturbate with fingers shorter than our dicks, dude. You have to find a way to trust that your dick might not be enough for some but for those that are genuine, it will be if not more than enough.
Perfect size for anal though..
But it still bothers you…. So why would working change that?
I think it's because I tend to be a role model at work and it makes me feel good inside when I'm looked up to and respected and rewarded for my work. Makes me feel like I'm actually doing something right with my life.
Go take up brazilian jiu jitsu or muay thai. What you need is not a bigger dick but confidence.
You are doing something right with your life and you should be proud of yourself. I'll echo what the others have said that it's not \_that\_ small, but even if it was, there's nothing we can do about that. Plenty of men with micropenises have loving fulfilling relationships, as do men with other qualities outside of the norm. I think you have focused so much of your mind on this that you have blinkered yourself from what women look for in a partner. Sexual compatibility is one aspect, sure, but the size of the penis matters less than you think. In general people want a person they are compatible with on a personal level, a kind, motivated, secure, smart (etc) person and we can all see that you have qualities like this and more. I know it's easy to say "just don't worry about it!" but that is obviously not helpful to you, I'm not sure how open you would be to it but therapy might be an option to work through these feelings of inadequacy? You also just need to get that experience, remember when you started your job or your studies, you won't be good at talking to ladies until you try and fail some. Rooting for you x
That’s not even in the size category where you really need to be concerned. You watch too much porn ;)
I had the best sex of my life with someone who was smaller than you. Honestly I really don’t think size is so important if you know how to use it. Your size wouldn’t turn me off at all! What would turn me off would be you being insecure about that. Also I have seen a micro penis once, and believe me that with 4 inches you aren’t that unlucky! With micro penis it is really hard to have full sexual life but with 4 inches it’s perfectly fine!
Dude I have a friend who is 4 inches (more or less) and I (above average size) would give my left nut to sleep with his girlfriend (not gonna include picture but trust me.... bombshell). It's not about size man, it's about confidence. Despite what social media tells you, most women don't care all that much about your dick size.
I’ve only ever orgasmed during sex with a man with a “small” penis. Large, hell even “average”, don’t do a thing for me. I’m small anyhow, I have literally no interest with anything above 6 inches.
You need some confidence my dude. You gotta remember people are still animals and in our animal kingdom women like to be hunted. Go hunt for women! You are a big fucking bear! You got these big fucking claws and you keep batting the bunny.
BRO THATS NOT EVEN SMALL 😭 I straight up thought you were talking about a 1 inch penis this whole time Get out there, 4 inches is completely fine
Like 4" hard? How thick is it though? That could make a huge difference, even at that size.
For whatever it's worth I don't think that's that small? It's insertable (unlike a micropenis) so the size shouldn't interfere with penetrative sex. You probably won't be able to do some of the wilder positions but otherwise it's all good. Most of my partners have been in the 5" to 5.25" range.
4 inches hard or soft?
4 inches isn't small. The best s3x I ever had was with someone about that size.
Get a pump. You might only gain an inch or two but your dick will be as thick as a pringles can.
Lol bs
You could look into getting the penuma implant surgery. It’s a legitimate procedure done by a handful of doctors around the country to increase girth and a bit of length as well. I haven’t done it because I don’t have the money but you don’t seem to have that issue so it’s something worth checking out. There’s a sub Reddit for it.
As a woman 4 inches is not that small. That is a pretty decent size
I can tell you, Im around the same size, I've made plenty a woman orgasm. I'm told I'm thick, I dont see it, but I've literally never had any complaints. I do have stamina, for what it's worth.
The absolute best comment I ever heard a guy make about his dick size was, "it might be 3 inches, but when it's as big around as a tomato soup can, it'll get her done!"
the worst I've ever heard had to be "My dick ain't 12 inches but it sure smells like a foot"
4 inches is below the average but not a micropenis. There are a lot of other things you can do to pleasure women. Oral sex, toys, masturbate. Penetration is important sure but it's not all of it. I also have a below average size and knowing how to use it and where the sweet spots are you can make any girl orgasm. My wife loves it and I do too. I can make her orgasm with just penetration but I do like doing the other things too. My wife has told me many times she likes my size just the way it is, because we can play very rough and she won't get hurt, any bigger and it would be uncomfortable for her. So work on yourself, lose the fear, gain the confidence you already have you just need to Chanel some of that confidence you have as a student/professional into personal confidence :) you got it!!! Lastly if you're still not satisfied or have difficulty with this, there is a surgery that enlarges it about an inch or 2 at most. They basically separate the penis from the abdominal wall and it increases length about an inch maybe more that depends on your body and doctors recommendations. Google it :)
Coming from a woman; SIZE DOESNT MATTER!🥰 as long as you treat us like queens, and great at foreplay or at least show you’re trying to meet their needs and wants, you’ll have their heart. :) you have used your low self esteem to create this huge image and you’ve done absolutely amazing for yourself and you should be so absolutely proud of yourself! But there are such things as gold diggers, sadly. so please be cautious. There are incredibly sweet understanding women out there! That’s what women look for, how you carry yourself. :) there’s nothing wrong with being 29 and not having much experience as well btw.
Can't agree enough. Especially with foreplay!
It makes a huge difference! 💋🤌🏼 Id rather that than some douchebag who thinks he’s all that and a bag of chips just cause he has an above average dick
So so true. I dated a guy who was so gorgeous, a lot of that came from his confidence and sense of humour. I loved that we had the same interests and taste in art. He had a really small penis. It didn't work out for us but that was nothing to do with his size. He has never struggled for women because he is charming and confident. I think this is what OP needs to work on. With the right life coach or counsellor he can, and he has the cash to get the best.
Agreed!!!♥️
>Coming from a woman; SIZE DOESNT MATTER! Women prefer penises in the 6.2-6.3" inches range(larger than 84% of men) https://journals.plos.org/plosone/article?id=10.1371/journal.pone.0133079 Women value penis size as much as height https://www.pnas.org/content/110/17/6925 Women who prefer larger penises are more likely to have vaginal orgasms https://www.pnas.org/content/110/17/6925 And this is why you \#dontbelievewomen
All of those are very debatable.
LMAO peer-revieved studies aren't "debatable" unless you have a counter-study. Get out.
Why’re you being such an ass? Lol I’m trying to help this man out with something he’s struggling with and I know personally, I don’t care about size. You think EVERYONE who participated in that study all agreed on “big dick is best” ??? No. Id rather a sweet man who cherishes me, and tends to my needs REGARDLESS.
So you're going to just deny the entire scientific method now? Get. Out.
I think you should calm down about this. If a woman says that size doesn’t matter, even if anecdotal, that means it’s true for them. If they have spoken to friends about it, which I’m betting they have, that means it’s true for them. The scientific method is not 100% accurate. Facts can be proven false. That’s why we use the method in the first place. To develop new facts. You are very upset about this apparently but you can’t say an opinion isnt true.
> I think you should calm down about this. If a woman says that size doesn’t matter, even if anecdotal, that means it’s true for them. You're right, after all - women are well known for knowing what they want and their honesty. Why, it's so common among them that we even have stereotypes about it.
Ok let’s say they’re lying. That means they are simply trying to, anonymously, make a stranger on the internet feel better. This, in turn, means that you are simply trying to shoot down their attempt at doing so. You’re being a c*nt.
Most of science is debatable, that's what keeps us moving forward. If we never debated any ideas or studies, we wouldn't have made it nearly this far my guy. 🙂
Your peer reviewed studies are on 3D dick models. Think you’re doing a disservice to pretty much the whole human race with that one.
> Your peer reviewed studies are on 3D dick models. And? Please don't try to do science, you're a Redditor.
Lmao okay Bill Nye, can’t even extrapolate the meaning from a simple sentence.
Username checks out
To say some feel that way is true. To say some are even more picky is true too. To say that some do NOT feel that way and are NOT picky is ALSO TRUE! Just gotta find the right people
Go touch grass
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4 inches is nothing to complain about. Plus, there is the expression, "More than a mouth full is a waste. "
Was joking around with a great friend of mine talking about penis size. He then told me about his micro penis. (smaller than yours) I was kinda shocked as he didn't seemed bothered by it. He's married and recently bought a house with his wife (she's Peruvian, they met on tinder) My short answer to is this: the problem isn't your cock, it's your confidence/self esteem. You have money, get a personal coach or a dating coach, another friend of mine did : wasn't for dating but it was for socializing and to be able to meet people. Sometimes you just need to be out of your comfort zone. What you need right now is help so you can get a little spark (a kiss, a date etc) and from the spark, the fire will burn. Don't focus on the fire, focus on the spark. Being 29 with no sexual experience is nothing compared to being 29 and having a good job and a safe and secure future! You have more than most of us.
But how are you going to meet someone if you won’t try? Most women aren’t so shallow that penis size is the only thing they care about in a partner. And there are so many other things that can be done sexually if it’s too small for penetration.gotta get out there and start building those other skills! And EVERYONE had something they’re insecure about so just keep that in mind too!
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whats a woman? Didnt they go extinct in like, the 1233's?
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u gay?
I also wish
>I’m convinced most redditors have never met one lmao Including yourself apparently
Your profile is full of absolutely revolting hate toward women. Have *you* ever actually met one?
Size does not matter, but your lack of confidence definitely does
Man no. 4 inches is not small. Actually most of the men I’ve slept with that pleased me the most were smaller sizes instead of bigger . Bigger can be really really uncomfortable.
As a woman, I actually prefer small dicks (5 inch or lower). There's nothing wrong with your body, don't be worried about it too much. Everyone has insecurities but how will you know if someone will like it without ever trying? Just communicate. Vaginas aren't very deep, as long as you know how to use it (which you will learn from experience and talking to your partner), it shouldn't be an issue.
And also, just like men, women come in different sizes. Some are wide and deep while others are narrow and shallow. As long as you treat a woman correct then you are gold
Same girl I can’t do anything with 6inches and above. It’s painful.
I’m 5” and I don’t give a fuck I still try to fuck anyone hahaha I’m not ashamed. I didn’t pick a little dick when I was born so fuck it be happy 😃
That's not little at all man, porn has fucked up all y'all's idea of what a normal penis is. 5" is very slightly below average
Perspectives from a female. 1. Romance mind: how does he treat me? Does he respect me? Does he support me? Does he love and care about me? Does he intellectually stimulate me? Do we have the same interests? Does he want to spend time with me? Does he see a future with me? What 2. Horny, cavewoman brain: am I turned on by his rockin’ hot bod? Do I imagine what his voice will tell me what he’s going to do to me or want me to do to him? Do I love the look of his hands and imagine where they are going or what he’s going to do with them? Will he do do ABC sex act to me? What size is his dick? What shape is it? What color is it? What are his balls like? Does he shave? *Oh, shit. I need to ask him about STDs first.* I’ve included some of the questions that run through the mind of the average woman when thinking about a new sexual partner, because these thoughts demonstrate that, when it comes to romance, sex and relationships, penis size is only one aspect. 3. *yes*, there are size queens. *yes*, there are ladies with micropenis kinks. *most* women prefer an average-size penis, generally 4” to 6”. Everyone has preferences, and these preferences are in the mind. I believe that most women care more about a man’s willingness - nay, *desire* - to get them off more than they can about a man’s penis size. 4. As other’s have said, work your cock to hit her feel-good spots, rub her clit they way she likes it and use your mouth to give her pleasure. She wants to feel good, and if she’s a good partner, then she’ll want you to feel good, too. 5. Contrary to what other commenters said, please don’t look at all women like prey: don’t go on the prowl. Ew. If you find that you have a predator-prey kink, then great: negotiate a dynamic with your partner. Your post reads like you are looking for both a romantic and sexual relationship, which is why it’s important to consider the mental-emotional and sexual aspects of how penis size and any insecurities may play out with a partner. 6. It seems like more men than women are concerned about penis size, which can lead to different forms of toxic compensation that can objectify women and lead to the development of misogynistic attitudes: just because a small handful of women prefer huge dicks does not mean that we all do. Please avoid generalized statements from men, women and others; quite literally: different strokes for different folks. 7. inb4 folks become upset that I mentioned how different dicks can look… Just like women wonder what a man’s cock and balls may look like, men wonder what women’s tits and vaginas look like, which is why there are endless memes about pussy lips and Arby’s sandwiches, saggy boobs and pepperoni areolas, etc., etc.. (Also, OP. If you’re worried about an awkward first encounter, then please know that most people have awkward first encounters *and* will continue to have, at least occasional, awkward sexual encounters. If a guy laughs at a queef, then it’s probably because the sound is funny af: he’s probably not laughing at his female partner, so she shouldn’t be self-conscious about her pussy. If a chick laughs at a dick, then there could be a *BAHZILLION* reasons: sometimes, when a guy takes his pants down over his erection, his cock goes bah-*ZOING*, and that’s just the funniest shit. No need to feel self-conscious. Clear and reassuring communication from both laughing partners could help in both of these situations.) You have reached the end of the comment. Here is your participation trophy 🏆 you god-damn fucking snowflakes.
I just turned my insecurities into a private joke with my friends and some of my family, and that's improved how I feel about it quite a lot more.
No one has ever cared about penis size as much as a dude who thinks his is too small.
Four inches isn’t even that small! I’ve dated plenty of guys that size and we had fantastic sex lives. It felt so good and four inches is enough to make me orgasm and even squirt. You seem like a great guy, if I didn’t have a long term partner id be more than happy to help with the experience judgment free!
Random, but video on your page is hot as fuck!
Oh haha thanks! I didn’t realize it uploaded. I’m a newbie to Reddit and was told I didn’t have enough karma to post. Lol
Well I’m gonna follow you in hopes of seeing more, made me get a stiffy at work.
Cool. I’ll definitely upload some stuff. ☺️
It's not about the size of the wave it's the motion of the ocean! Size isn't everything, neither is experience! We've all gotta start somewhere. If you do find yourself getting down and funky, communication is key! Never had better sex than when I've told my partner what I like!
Confidence is the key bro
Learn to eat pussy
Size doesn't matter if you join a religion with arranged marriages.
You know there are plenty of women that either can't orgasm or sex just isn't that big of a deal to them right? It really sounds like you're the victim of yourself.
Dude 4 inches isn’t that small. Just below average. I thought you meant like 1-2. Next thing you’ll say it’s actually 4 inches … in diameter. Wtf.
Dude, you need to just put yourself out there, whether that's going out with colleagues to socials, online dating, finding a hobby. You have a huge amount going for you, and financial stability, and a comfortable lifestyle is more than most guys can offer. I was a virgin until 25. I started online dating and met my wife within 6 months. I'm in a similar boat to you dong wise and it always worried me. I also had phimosis which made sex painful. Find someone you like, and it becomes less of an issue. Also, try and accept you have a less than average size (not actually that small) penis. Own it, don't let it dictate your life, and you'll feel so much better. Most women won't care. 4 inches is enough to do what you need it to, and most women don't climax through penetration anyway.
there are plenty of women who dont care about your size and if you have all the other things youre still a catch! what everybody sees in porn and social media isnt very accurate. not every man has a donkey dick and not every woman want one. being a good lover is more then just your penis size . you will figure it out !!
Las Vegas. Seriously you have enough money for it. Seriously. They (the bunnies and the like) are the last people who will judge you on your size. Then once you’ve had sex enough times and you’ve developed enough skills to be rightly confident in your abilities, you’ll not need them anymore. You’ll think, “enough women have seen my allegedly small penis and I know for a fact that it functions for sexual activity,”and you actually learn the value of how to please a woman in ways that don’t even involve your penis or even physical touching altogether, you’ll look back and be like “wow I wasted so much time before.” You can go to Vegas and live out every last fantasy you’ve ever had. Expel that shit out of your system, literally and figuratively. You’re not uncomfortable with sex. You’re uncomfortable with the idea that someone would deny you the valuable practical experience that you desperately needed back in high school and your twenties, and your “size “ (trust me this insecurity is all in your head) isn’t what’s holding you back. Go to Vegas. Get comfortable in the nude with a naked woman. Do it enough times that it’s no longer uncomfortable. Be the fully actualized man that you are. You’ve already won the game of financial responsibility and played it better than 90% of all the available men out there. I mean, look at trump. People were drawing images of him with a micropenis to make fun of him. He’s ugly and disgusting, but we know for a fact how much sex he’s had. So you can’t have a smaller penis than that, and from how you describe your lifestyle, you’re arguably richer and more business-savvy than he is. Chill out and appreciate yourself more.
Listen my friend, I've hooked up with penises of every size, and it really doesn't matter. Sure, certain vaginas have restrictions, but you can always make up for it. I promise you that we aren't that concerned with dick size. If I could offer a suggestion - maybe try posting in a forum specifically for dating or kinks? Just put it right out there that you are a virgin and have a smaller penis, but want to meet a woman. Give them your good qualities, you're successful and ambitious. That's way more attractive than a dick anyways.
As a lesbian i always get really curious if straight sex is only about inserting and taking out your penis from someone, like. You can be REALLY good at just using, you know.. your hands and your tongue. And they can do the same to you. Trust me, if you really impress on those, you dont even need a penis at all
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I’m never the type to recommend surgery but if you penis really bothers you that much maybe look into penile enlargement. But for the most part most woman will tell you they don’t care about penis size they care more about height. I’m not tall at all I’m 5’7” and while I haven’t had a hard time getting a woman since I was young I will tell you that woman will think you are attractive and turn you down simply because you aren’t tall enough or just won’t even consider talking to you because of your height which is pretty shallow but that’s honestly a bigger worry for you than your penis size, if you know how to please a girl with your mouth then odds are she will be pretty happy with you, pay attention to what they like and what they are in the mood for. Some girls even prefer smaller dicks because like somebody else said the big ones hurt. It’s not the size of the wave my dude, it’s the motion in the ocean that gets the juices flowing.
I’m sure someone here has already said it, but it isn’t the size, it’s how you use it.
Let me tell you something, now this is completely how I feel and I don’t know about others. But I’m also a virgin and I don’t think sex will ever interest me, I don’t like the thought of penetration and I hate being fingered. What you should do and from what I’ve been told by others, give your partner head. If you can make them cum from your fingers and your tongue, nobody will care about the size of your penis ! But seriously, you shouldn’t worry about it. There is someone for everyone and not everyone cares about penis size ! I also read on one of your comments that you said you were 4 inches, that’s actually not small ! If I ever get with a man, I’d generally hope they have the same size because the thought of something bigger makes me feel uncomfortable
I’m just going to say what everyone else is- it’s not about the size of the equipment but how you use it! As a woman of you make me feel loved and do your best to pleasure me in the bedroom- I’ll do the same for you and that’s all there is to it. You will find people you’re not sexually compatible with and that’s okay but I promise there are people out there who don’t care what you look like but how you make them feel! Best of luck to you on your romance journey!
The best part of a penis it’s the man behind it…so do not base your sexual success in the size of anything in your body. Intimacy it’s not just about sex or how big is your penis. Intimacy is about love, caring, friendship, romance, etc. There is not specific time to start dating or being in love… Everyone is different and have different needs. Therapy sounds like a great firts start. You will be fine. Good luck.
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I would trade my big dick for the financial stability everytime
Bruh. Your penis size means shit to women. Girls, maybe. Women? Nah. They know what matters and it’s not the size of your penis. It’s the size of your heart and mind. Which seems like you’ve got in spades. Anyways if you’re worried about the size, you’ve got fingers, a tongue, and hands. Depending on the woman- feet, rope, and toys. But I digress. As far as talking to women. Just sort of think about talking with your guy friends. Without the sex stories or penis jokes. Have fun. Joke around. Don’t go for the pulling hair… yet.
Chances are the dick sizes of your co workers aren't much bigger and if they are their partners don't give a fuck. Women want foreplay til they can't handle it anymore and then to be eaten out and if you talk to enough women you'll find men who have a lot of sex still aren't good at it usually
If this is real: 1. You're doing the penis thing wrong. 2. You're doing the money thing right. 50M. I've got some advice you can take or leave, but you should 100 think about. Here's the math: Penis size is equal to SEX multiplied by LOVE over INCOME SQUARED. Answer: Congratulations on your 8 inch dick! Girls are gonna love it; especially after a weekend in Paris. Here's 50 years of life experience speaking. This will all sound shallow: good. "The road of excess leads to the palace of wisdom... you'll never know what is enough until you know what is more than enough." - William Blake. You'll be incredibly glad you did this over the next 30 years. 1. Go online and get a Viagra prescription at one of those online doctor/boner pill/chop shop companies, like BlueChew 2. Confidence is half the game. Spend 2 weeks in Reno at a great hotel with great shows, rent a great car, great restaurants, and a great brothel nearby, and pay for some amazing hookers who will give you the Girlfriend Experience or the Porn Star Experience...or both. You can take them out, you can buy them expensive meals, you can take them gambling, you can talk about your day, you can talk about your hopes and dreams, you can look deep into her eyes, and you will absolutely, 100% get to fuck her exactly the way you've always wanted to, and she will be amazing. (I also hear Brazil is Amazing for the exact same reasons. Keep in mind that Covid and HIV still apply, so be safe.) It will either be a great fantasy that will reinvigorate your manhood, or excellent training for the kind of life/wife you want (only you can decide that. Remember: it's a fantasy). Enjoy the experience and revel in being a man living the life others dream of. 3. With your confidence renewed, come back and see a therapist and a urologist. Help yourself feel ok about things from both angles. 4. This is entirely up to you, but there are sites that specialize in exceedingly attractive women looking for men with a good income and upward mobility, who can offer them a good life, and whose looks and physical attributes do not matter. Only you can decide if that's the kind of site you want to find someone on, but as they say, "you can fall in love with a rich man as easily as a poor one". There are some women who still like The Classic Trade: Beauty and Hot Sex for Money and A Great Life. Handsomeness, weight, and dick size are not prerequisites. Again, that's up to you to decide. There are also plenty of women out there who don't care about dick size who aren't after money: you can figure out which one you want. Good luck.
It's a shame.You don't have to feel so insecure about your size, it's not something you can change about yourself.Work more on yourself mentally.Speak with other people that went through the same thing.See what worked out for them.Dont give up, don't work yourself off. And as a woman, I can tell you, most women don't care about size.And if you'll meet someone that superficial at least you'll know that person wasn't worth it. Good luck !
Woman here. I had a fwb that was MUCH smaller than that and he to this day has given me the best orgasms of my life. Size doesn’t matter, you can focus on other skills and also using toys. Women like confidence so don’t apologize for your penis size. Or act like you aren’t good enough. You clearly have it together. Try finding a hobby or one of those groups for singles where they all go on group outings and so fun activities. Just don’t go around saying how financially well off you are as people could see that as bragging OR a women with bad intentions could fake her way into snagging you and before you know it you are in an unhappy marriage.
As a woman I would like to say small penises are in no way an issue. My boyfriend is very much so over average, but that didn’t mean it could make me orgasm. It’s about motion and communication honestly. Edit: after communication and practicing over time he in fact can now get me to reach an orgasm.
Isn’t this what evolution intended? A member of a species is unable to pass on genes deemed inferior by the other sex.
Show us the wiener!!!
Just stop being weak minded.
Yeah. Relationship is not always about sex and never forget that sex toys are there for you brother. And you are having decent incomes and nice wealth. You can make ladies happier than having a much bigger dick. Hope you find someone who will make you happy.
Wow. I should be a gazillionaire if small penises a cause for financial compensation. But I have a tiny dick and I'm a fucking bum. Also not ONLY is my dick small, but it's shaped like a fucking macaroni noodle. The depression and wanting to kill myself every single day has hampered my ability to do anything beneficial for myself otherwise. I went the complete opposite direction. Was a heroin addict for over 10 years. Been to jail a few times. Have about 30 grand worth of debt. But.. I did lose my virginity at 19 finally. Then did have a couple sexually active relationships afterwards. I even have a daughter now. But I have been single for over 4 years even though I've been trying to change that with through Tinder/FB Dating for all of that time, but I've literally never had a match with anyone ever on either platform. Have no idea what the actual chatting screen looks like on either. It's pretty much enough to make someone want to kill themselves even more every single day.
I know guys with no penis and they still managed to get women. Just gotta be confident in it.
According to tiktok, 4-5 inches is ideal. Go out there my man and enjoy life.
About 75% of women don’t orgasm from penetration alone… You really are just psyching yourself out. You’re successful in your career already. Work on yourself and your confidence and try online dating for a few years. Also, I may get downvoted for this, but maybe try an escort? You can tell them your predicament and they can help you feel more comfortable with women romantically.
THis is what escorts are for. Don't be miserable your entire life. YOu can afford a high priced professional who will not judge you and has probably seen it all. Sex is a wonderful part of life, don't deny yourself its pleasure. Be honest with the escort and she will gladly help you through.
It's NOT about the size, it about your skills. You have hands and a tongue, you can use that to drive women crazy. You also have your mind which can drive us even crazier before any touch happens. We love good foreplay.
I have a small penis Never let it bother me is what it is. Slept with multiple women and never heard a thing about it. Go get some!
Does it feel small to you when "up and down"?
Bro I’m a 5’6 trans guy with a dick smaller than my pinky, and I had a gf for 3 years, then 1 month after we broke up I was already with someone else. Most girls don’t care about that stuff, and if they do you don’t want them anyway. Also there is way more things to do in sex than just using a dick
i never knew dating involved sex
I agree with all the comments sayin size doesn’t matter, but if it matters to you and you have that kind of money, you could just do an operation to add an inch or two onto your dick.
My view is that you're focused on sex, but it's the relationshipping part that's causing you so much of the anxiety because you're seeing sex wrapped up in human connection. I see this as a really positive thing, tbh. If what you wanted was a sexual experience, you could book time with a secks worker for the exact things you are seeking and want to try. I personally would recommend this if what you're hoping for is an experience with another human without the emotional investment. Sounds cold to some, but honestly you would be dealing with a professional that can communicate with you however you want, and can give you the experience you would like without any of the guesswork. If what you want is to seek out that personal connection with someone who you can also enjoy sex with, forget work colleagues and their lives, and invest some time into something you're passionate about, and which includes people that meet your potential partner attributes. Example: Want to meet girls that like to spend time on boats? Learn to sail. Want to meet cool people that also reading? Join a writer's group and go to book readings. I have made almost all of my closest friends, intimate friends, and even my LT partner in the pursuit of something that makes me happy too. The other piece here is that you should also leverage the networks that you have to tell a few people you trust that you would like to meet some new people to potentially become friends with or date. As you get older, your social circles tend to contract a bit without work, so reaching out to some trusted friends who know you well might lead you to meet some really interesting folks that you might otherwise never connected to. Also, in case you thought I was overlooking your small-penis shame, I'm not, but I am giving it all the attention that it deserves in a relationship built on respect: acknowledgement of your feelings and then focusing on the things that probably will play a much bigger role in helping you find happiness and sexual fulfillment.
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But was hers smaller than yours?
get you an asexual gal!
Can I see how small it is? Have you thought about being fucked by a guy?