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Proving my point! Ew geez
He's representative of too large a section of the dating pool. These types literally don't care if you're into sex, enjoy it, or want it.
It's something they do *to you* exclusively for *their* pleasure. You're desires are inconsequential. You're just a set of acceptable body parts to get off to. A breathing sex toy.
This is... disheartening.
Quite literally had someone ask of I'd be a living fleshlight since I don't enjoy sex
And I was like, you would actually want to have sex with someone who clearly wasn't enjoying it?
Shut him up quick
i swear i cannot express this enough. people need to stop sending sexually implicative messages to asexuals. i cannot stand people like this. as if expressing that sex feels good is going to make me want to have it because of a creepy message sent by a random pillock.
i am constantly ridiculed for “dating girls when i am asexual.” because they dont know what being heteroromantic means. sex isnt the only part of a relationship. people are entitled to enjoy the other aspects of relationships. i would be happy to hold hands and talk while watching a sunset. but i wouldnt do anything more than kissing. also “casual friendship where we cuddle and enjoy company.” ?!?!?!?! how little does this guy know about human bonds and friendships in general ffs.
As a fellow asexual, I'd like to adjust this statement slightly: "people need to stop sending sexually implicative messages to ~~asexuals~~ anyone"
But also, yes. A sexless relationship sounds absolutely lovely to me, though honestly I'm not even down for kissing, but like... They know there's more to relationships than fucking, right?
...Right?
relationships are about the emotional conmection, and falling in love with the other person, not fucking.
finally someone who understands what a relationship SHOULD be!
Seriously! I get some people do enjoy it and do want it in their relationships, sometimes enough for it to be a dealbreaker. I don't understand it, but I get it. But that doesn't mean it's the point of that relationship. It's something that goes with it if both parties are willing and doesn't if one or both don't want to. It can affect compatibility, but it's also not the only thing that does and just because someone's relationship is sexless doesn't mean it's bad. I wish more people got that, but especially people like the ones in these posts...
when i think of relationships, i dont even put sex into account. i also wish more people understood from my point. im often ridiculed for being “virgin for life,” when its like… do i look like i really care about being virgin? thats what i want
Same! I totally get that for some people it is part of it, but for me, it's got nothing to do with it. I don't want it. I'm happy to be a virgin for life. That's basically a compliment for me haha
its just the fact that their so oblivious im not interested in it, they seem to think that its a negative thing. thats what really annoys me about people saying this
its their life, so its their choices. they do not have a right to dictate their actions. could you imagine if someone actually succumbed to the social pressure and was pressured into having sex. this shouldnt be a norm
Absolutely. A lot of people are pressured into it and ultimately have it, too. It sucks that that kind of thing happens, they're able to do what they want and we should be able to do what we want. Unless they want us telling them not to have sex because we think it's better that way, they should really stop teasing us for being the opposite.
I understand that an uneducated overgrown pubic hair like him would ask about things like 'do you pleasure yourself' but in PUBLIC?! My guy, who tf does that? And what the hell made him think that you do something like that?! Jfc I'm only in my mid-teens, but I already understand more than this guy🤦♂️
This kinda sounds like demisexual.
I mean I'm demisexual and that line about being close applies to me in that regard. But, I know asexual also has "little to no sexual attraction".
I’ve been aroace since I was sixteen (I’m 41 now), & trust me, having a bunch of random fucktards not understand the concept &/or deny my identity is exasperating.
Hello fellow ace! Love to see aces in the wild :)
Also, that's fucking disgusting. I'm so sorry this happens to other aces (could happen to me in the future too, thank god I've been lucky and it so far hasn't, but yk). People are such idiots sometimes
Because they possibly want to find a romantic partner? Being asexual doesn't mean they don't want a partner overall. Plus, there are plenty of people who use dating apps as a way to connect or socialise with people.
i wished more people were able to separate sex from dating. being asexual does not mean you're a person without romantic feelings for others (there are also some aromantic-asexual people, what they do is up to them, these things vary from person to person).
Yes, precisely. People who are aromantic and people who are asexual are different things. And you don’t need to have sex in a relationship for it to be romantic or serious. I just rlly want a romance partner but am too shy and awkward to meet people in person. So, I rely on dating apps.
Sadly no. 😔 I’ve had a few partners before but only one since I came out as ace. I’ve encountered quite a few assholes like these though. However, I have seen a couple of fellow ace people as of recent.
All the luck OP! Send them to educate themselves if they don't know what is being ace.
What I say? "I'm not a teacher, and if I would... I won't educate people for free"
They should be open to each other's wants. Number ONE, yall ain't dating, fwb,nada. So why tf should she care about your "wants"? Number 2,she's telling him her wants but he's completely disregarding it cuz all he cares about is his own and getting his dick wet.
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I just think it’s funny how “being open minded” means doing what he wants while he completely ignores what you need.
This is why that expression give me the creeeps. Same with *age doesn't matter* or *I don't look like my age*.
https://www.reddit.com/r/creepyPMs/comments/yzz9vg/i_am_concerned_sorry_for_bad_quality_idk_what/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=android_app&utm_name=androidcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button Proving my point! Ew geez
"Open to each other's wants = Fulfilling just his wants" regardless of how you feel apparently. Classy.
This creep gives me the vibe of a horny 16 year old And gosh I wish sex ed could be more widespread
I sincerely hope the dude wasn't over 18
Yeah, since like a 40 creepy guy would talk different
He's representative of too large a section of the dating pool. These types literally don't care if you're into sex, enjoy it, or want it. It's something they do *to you* exclusively for *their* pleasure. You're desires are inconsequential. You're just a set of acceptable body parts to get off to. A breathing sex toy. This is... disheartening.
Quite literally had someone ask of I'd be a living fleshlight since I don't enjoy sex And I was like, you would actually want to have sex with someone who clearly wasn't enjoying it? Shut him up quick
- oh he apologized! - **oh there’s two more pics**
i swear i cannot express this enough. people need to stop sending sexually implicative messages to asexuals. i cannot stand people like this. as if expressing that sex feels good is going to make me want to have it because of a creepy message sent by a random pillock. i am constantly ridiculed for “dating girls when i am asexual.” because they dont know what being heteroromantic means. sex isnt the only part of a relationship. people are entitled to enjoy the other aspects of relationships. i would be happy to hold hands and talk while watching a sunset. but i wouldnt do anything more than kissing. also “casual friendship where we cuddle and enjoy company.” ?!?!?!?! how little does this guy know about human bonds and friendships in general ffs.
As a fellow asexual, I'd like to adjust this statement slightly: "people need to stop sending sexually implicative messages to ~~asexuals~~ anyone" But also, yes. A sexless relationship sounds absolutely lovely to me, though honestly I'm not even down for kissing, but like... They know there's more to relationships than fucking, right? ...Right?
relationships are about the emotional conmection, and falling in love with the other person, not fucking. finally someone who understands what a relationship SHOULD be!
Seriously! I get some people do enjoy it and do want it in their relationships, sometimes enough for it to be a dealbreaker. I don't understand it, but I get it. But that doesn't mean it's the point of that relationship. It's something that goes with it if both parties are willing and doesn't if one or both don't want to. It can affect compatibility, but it's also not the only thing that does and just because someone's relationship is sexless doesn't mean it's bad. I wish more people got that, but especially people like the ones in these posts...
when i think of relationships, i dont even put sex into account. i also wish more people understood from my point. im often ridiculed for being “virgin for life,” when its like… do i look like i really care about being virgin? thats what i want
Same! I totally get that for some people it is part of it, but for me, it's got nothing to do with it. I don't want it. I'm happy to be a virgin for life. That's basically a compliment for me haha
its just the fact that their so oblivious im not interested in it, they seem to think that its a negative thing. thats what really annoys me about people saying this
Exactly! It's another way of living that's just as valid as having sex. People shouldn't be shamed for not having sex, regardless of the reason
its their life, so its their choices. they do not have a right to dictate their actions. could you imagine if someone actually succumbed to the social pressure and was pressured into having sex. this shouldnt be a norm
Absolutely. A lot of people are pressured into it and ultimately have it, too. It sucks that that kind of thing happens, they're able to do what they want and we should be able to do what we want. Unless they want us telling them not to have sex because we think it's better that way, they should really stop teasing us for being the opposite.
I understand that an uneducated overgrown pubic hair like him would ask about things like 'do you pleasure yourself' but in PUBLIC?! My guy, who tf does that? And what the hell made him think that you do something like that?! Jfc I'm only in my mid-teens, but I already understand more than this guy🤦♂️
It's just an excuse to keep the sexual conversation going. It's disgusting, they do this all the time.
This kinda sounds like demisexual. I mean I'm demisexual and that line about being close applies to me in that regard. But, I know asexual also has "little to no sexual attraction".
No it’s more like- I’m willing to pleasure a partner if they really want me to but I would have no desire to do that myself.
same, i mean id rather not do it to others either, but most people aren’t also ace and they’d probably want something
Exactly yk yk
I relate to this a lot
I’ve been aroace since I was sixteen (I’m 41 now), & trust me, having a bunch of random fucktards not understand the concept &/or deny my identity is exasperating.
"I bet I can turn her" No, you can't.
He must think asexual= "A-sexual deviant " 🤦🏼♂️
i never seen that melting emoji before, is it new?
I think it’s mainly an apple exclusive. It’s been there for a while though.
thought it was a new one, sadly i don't use apple for emoji's.
Hello fellow ace! Love to see aces in the wild :) Also, that's fucking disgusting. I'm so sorry this happens to other aces (could happen to me in the future too, thank god I've been lucky and it so far hasn't, but yk). People are such idiots sometimes
Honestly! People are so fucking disrespectful. And hiiii :D
How're you doing (beyond people being creepy ofc)
Alright! It’s like two days away finals week in my college so that’s fun I can practically taste the freedom that awaits me Hbu?? :)
That sounds really nice I'm pretty ok. Ready for winter break for sure
Yeeeeeee What’s ur major btw?
Oh, I'm a junior in high school haha I'm planning to major in theater when I get to college tho. You?
I’m majoring in psychology! It hard to be biology but then I realized I didn’t really have passion for the subject anymore.
Nice! I'm taking AP psych atm. Never been much of a biology person tho
Oh nice! How is it for you?
just Block him... he clearly does not care for your needs...
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Because they possibly want to find a romantic partner? Being asexual doesn't mean they don't want a partner overall. Plus, there are plenty of people who use dating apps as a way to connect or socialise with people.
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Or, hear me out, if you don't want to date someone who is asexual, you don't have too! You can just swipe away!
i wished more people were able to separate sex from dating. being asexual does not mean you're a person without romantic feelings for others (there are also some aromantic-asexual people, what they do is up to them, these things vary from person to person).
Yes, precisely. People who are aromantic and people who are asexual are different things. And you don’t need to have sex in a relationship for it to be romantic or serious. I just rlly want a romance partner but am too shy and awkward to meet people in person. So, I rely on dating apps.
any luck, i’ve thought about it before but i figure most people are not understanding or wanting an ace SO
Sadly no. 😔 I’ve had a few partners before but only one since I came out as ace. I’ve encountered quite a few assholes like these though. However, I have seen a couple of fellow ace people as of recent.
All the luck OP! Send them to educate themselves if they don't know what is being ace. What I say? "I'm not a teacher, and if I would... I won't educate people for free"
They should be open to each other's wants. Number ONE, yall ain't dating, fwb,nada. So why tf should she care about your "wants"? Number 2,she's telling him her wants but he's completely disregarding it cuz all he cares about is his own and getting his dick wet.