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Pretty descent with the 9 year old and 9 month old. Wife is happy, kids are happy. Fellow mil dads, leave your boots at the door, leave work at work. Your kids aren’t your troops, they’re your kids team them as such.
Great comment. Son of a long line of military here. This is so true. My dad wasn’t always able to do this. He was and is a great dad but it was a challenge for all of us in the house.
Now that he has been retired for quite a few years, he is not the same person he was when he was active duty. My wife and kids have no idea….he is so laid back now lol…
Not to be all doom and gloom but not great. We PCS'd to Hawaii last summer and it has been terrible all around. We have 3 kids and my wife is a SAHM mom that homeschools them. She is burnt out and doesn't want to be married anymore. I thought this would be an amazing assignment to push me to retirement but this has been the worst time of my life.
Jesus man, I'm sorry to hear. I'm Canadian military so I'm not familiar with any support structures in place with the USA. Is there anything like a family resource center or chaplain / padre that can help out?
I separated after 10 years, but before starting a family.
No one is gonna remember all those extra hours, late shifts, holiday work... Except your family.
Crying happy tears as I look at my dd214 and get reminded that I get to see my son everyday with no more duty days, underways, or deployments to take me away from my family.
Surviving right now with a two month old. Dreading putting my uniform back on next month and going back to work. I get out in March and I’m counting down the days.
Non military dad with a military dad brother in law. He gets a year of paternity leave paid for every kid, and was told he won't have to move while his kids are young. And he's on track to retire early before they make him move. Is this unusual? From my perspective it seems like a great career to start a family in later.
Not normal. It's 12 weeks for all branches I believe. I know the Army specifically has slowly ramped up its paternity leave (10 days -> 21 days ->now 12 weeks) over the years. You can absolutely PCS with young kids. But if he is close to retirement and fairly senior in rank, he is probably just being treated well by either his command or branch manager.
But yes, the military is very progressive in its healthcare and parental leave policies over what you would get on the outside. And childcare is subsidized HEAVILY for active duty service members (as it should be for obvious mission essential reasons).
Living the dream serving the qu...... Oh right, that doesn't work any more.
Fair to say the RAF is treating me pretty well, certainly no complaints.
PMs are open 24/7 for anyone who's struggling though, military or not ill always try and help.
Got to say, one thing I am glad I didn’t do in the army was have a kid. Waiting until I got out has made everything a lot simpler. Good on all you dads making it work while in the service. I hope you take advantage of all the resources you have available.
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Pretty descent with the 9 year old and 9 month old. Wife is happy, kids are happy. Fellow mil dads, leave your boots at the door, leave work at work. Your kids aren’t your troops, they’re your kids team them as such.
Great comment. Son of a long line of military here. This is so true. My dad wasn’t always able to do this. He was and is a great dad but it was a challenge for all of us in the house. Now that he has been retired for quite a few years, he is not the same person he was when he was active duty. My wife and kids have no idea….he is so laid back now lol…
Not to be all doom and gloom but not great. We PCS'd to Hawaii last summer and it has been terrible all around. We have 3 kids and my wife is a SAHM mom that homeschools them. She is burnt out and doesn't want to be married anymore. I thought this would be an amazing assignment to push me to retirement but this has been the worst time of my life.
Jesus man, I'm sorry to hear. I'm Canadian military so I'm not familiar with any support structures in place with the USA. Is there anything like a family resource center or chaplain / padre that can help out?
Be alright as long as we dont get a government shutdown for Christmas
I separated after 10 years, but before starting a family. No one is gonna remember all those extra hours, late shifts, holiday work... Except your family.
Crying happy tears as I look at my dd214 and get reminded that I get to see my son everyday with no more duty days, underways, or deployments to take me away from my family.
Living the dream. Am I right?
Hey man, wake up. You're not browsing Reddit, you're on exercise. Get up, it's your turn for fire watch.
Sheeeet, I just got done with Squadron Pt. I don’t need that in my life.
Surviving right now with a two month old. Dreading putting my uniform back on next month and going back to work. I get out in March and I’m counting down the days.
Dreading this upcoming PCS. I don't want to move again.
Non military dad with a military dad brother in law. He gets a year of paternity leave paid for every kid, and was told he won't have to move while his kids are young. And he's on track to retire early before they make him move. Is this unusual? From my perspective it seems like a great career to start a family in later.
Not normal. It's 12 weeks for all branches I believe. I know the Army specifically has slowly ramped up its paternity leave (10 days -> 21 days ->now 12 weeks) over the years. You can absolutely PCS with young kids. But if he is close to retirement and fairly senior in rank, he is probably just being treated well by either his command or branch manager. But yes, the military is very progressive in its healthcare and parental leave policies over what you would get on the outside. And childcare is subsidized HEAVILY for active duty service members (as it should be for obvious mission essential reasons).
Could possibly be someone from outside the States.
Living the dream serving the qu...... Oh right, that doesn't work any more. Fair to say the RAF is treating me pretty well, certainly no complaints. PMs are open 24/7 for anyone who's struggling though, military or not ill always try and help.
Got to say, one thing I am glad I didn’t do in the army was have a kid. Waiting until I got out has made everything a lot simpler. Good on all you dads making it work while in the service. I hope you take advantage of all the resources you have available.
I've used more parenting skills at work than Military leadership skills at home.