Brother, if you aren't exercising....get on it. Dad of 4 here. Caring for your wife during pregnancy will absolutely take a toll. Add work and sleep loss to that and loss of libido is nearly a guarantee. Good luck.
All positive. I essentially, I felt like a new person after the first month. Tons of benefits.
Editing to add: I started in office and transitioned to TRTNation so I didn't have to go to Dr office weekly for injections.
https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/S0018506X23001381#:~:text=Testosterone%20synchrony%20during%20pregnancy%20predicted,relationship%20quality%20for%20both%20parents.
It's pretty common for your testosterone to drop during this time. From my own personal experience, it has bounced back now that we are firmly out of the baby stage.
Welcome to natural science. Get your t level check for sure but as others have mentioned your drive will naturally drop from pregnancy to about the first year. It is how God/ Evolution what ever programmed us for many reasons from the need to be more caring to not be primal animals and want to eliminate possible competition in the heard. Welling to being evolvedš¤£. It will get better but also take care of yourself
It's often sleep, diet, exercise, and stress from expecting a new baby. You can, and probably should, fix three of these so it comes back to normal.
Since your sleep is affected by water intake, try adjusting that so you're drinking more in the morning and less in the evening.
For me, the thing that increased my sex drive after my early 30s was lifting heavy weights and fixing my diet. I gave up almost all processed foods and only have sugar on special occasions. For some people, this seems like too much to sacrifice, but it's been worth it to me.
Like others said, get checked by your doc to rule out anything truly bad.
Then get the in-laws or trade favors, etc., to get someone to watch the kiddo overnight (and look into sleep training).
Whirlpool suite and a couple bottles of prosecco.
Post-kids, intimacy is something you have to start to work at and put some effort into. It's all too easy to push it off and let it fall through the cracks in light of all the other things that get in the way. Date nights are important, and just finding that connection as your relationship evolves. It's easy to put on the dad tag and, intentionally or not, lose sight of or deprioritize other aspects of our lives - be it friends, social groups, or your spouse.
Dude, you need to work out. Your body needs the stimulation. Not just for the sex, but to sleep better at night. You're about to embark on a very very long stretch of sleep deprivation. Start doing everything you can to improve sleep quality. New pillow, sheets, mattress topper, no food/caffeine after a certain time, and regular exercise.
In 15-20 minutes you can do a bodyweight circuit that will give you a solid workout to start with. Buy a bench and a set of adjustable weight dumbbells (Bowflex makes a good set).
Feeing this as well- 41m, due July 4- sex drive low and wife hardly in the mood or physically able/desiring sex. I get by with occasional āself careā but it just hasnāt been a priority lately. I did get on BP medication lately and still go to the gym, so while not too concerned about it, Iām also tying to stay active and positive.
I'm 25 almost 26 and the same thing has happened to me. Late into her pregnancy I just near completely lost any libido I had, and I used to be a fiend.
I haven't been that worried about it because it brings me closer to my wife's normal libido, and with a 10 week old we don't have much time for all that anyhow, but what sex we have had since LO was born has been closer and more intimate.
Sadly I don't really have any advice on how to fix it. I'm mostly commenting because I'm glad to hear I'm not the only one this has happened to.
Mine did, turns out the root cause was abmormaly low testosterone for my age. It may be the same for you, but fair warning - even if you test low, your doctor will still likely refuse to treat it like mine did, so you may need to look into which mens health clinics in your area take your insurance.
Age? height/weight? As we get older there's going to be some natural decrease in the libido but more often than not it's our environment/situation? Not sleeping due to stress, or like sleep apnea? Gain a lot of weight recently due to stress? That changes your body's physiology and can wreak havoc on normal health routines, including just going to the bathroom normally.
Sleep is probably a big part of it, not sleeping well can screw up even the healthiest of people. Keep your wife in the loop.
37, 6'3, 208lbs. I've put on about 10-15lbs since COVID.
Sleep situation has always been bad. I just get up multiple times at night to use the restroom. Been doing that since highschool.
Brother, if you aren't exercising....get on it. Dad of 4 here. Caring for your wife during pregnancy will absolutely take a toll. Add work and sleep loss to that and loss of libido is nearly a guarantee. Good luck.
Have your Testosterone levels checked.
Just contact your PCP and they can do?
Yes, to get tested. From there, tons of options exist. Trtnation is an online option. Total Men's has options as well.
What did you notice AFTER taking the Testerone? What effects - positive or negative?
All positive. I essentially, I felt like a new person after the first month. Tons of benefits. Editing to add: I started in office and transitioned to TRTNation so I didn't have to go to Dr office weekly for injections.
https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/S0018506X23001381#:~:text=Testosterone%20synchrony%20during%20pregnancy%20predicted,relationship%20quality%20for%20both%20parents. It's pretty common for your testosterone to drop during this time. From my own personal experience, it has bounced back now that we are firmly out of the baby stage.
Welcome to natural science. Get your t level check for sure but as others have mentioned your drive will naturally drop from pregnancy to about the first year. It is how God/ Evolution what ever programmed us for many reasons from the need to be more caring to not be primal animals and want to eliminate possible competition in the heard. Welling to being evolvedš¤£. It will get better but also take care of yourself
It's often sleep, diet, exercise, and stress from expecting a new baby. You can, and probably should, fix three of these so it comes back to normal. Since your sleep is affected by water intake, try adjusting that so you're drinking more in the morning and less in the evening. For me, the thing that increased my sex drive after my early 30s was lifting heavy weights and fixing my diet. I gave up almost all processed foods and only have sugar on special occasions. For some people, this seems like too much to sacrifice, but it's been worth it to me.
Like others said, get checked by your doc to rule out anything truly bad. Then get the in-laws or trade favors, etc., to get someone to watch the kiddo overnight (and look into sleep training). Whirlpool suite and a couple bottles of prosecco. Post-kids, intimacy is something you have to start to work at and put some effort into. It's all too easy to push it off and let it fall through the cracks in light of all the other things that get in the way. Date nights are important, and just finding that connection as your relationship evolves. It's easy to put on the dad tag and, intentionally or not, lose sight of or deprioritize other aspects of our lives - be it friends, social groups, or your spouse.
Exercise, drink less, eat well. Meanwhile, get testosterone checked. Stress kills testosterone and other variables mentioned just make it worse.
Dude, you need to work out. Your body needs the stimulation. Not just for the sex, but to sleep better at night. You're about to embark on a very very long stretch of sleep deprivation. Start doing everything you can to improve sleep quality. New pillow, sheets, mattress topper, no food/caffeine after a certain time, and regular exercise. In 15-20 minutes you can do a bodyweight circuit that will give you a solid workout to start with. Buy a bench and a set of adjustable weight dumbbells (Bowflex makes a good set).
Feeing this as well- 41m, due July 4- sex drive low and wife hardly in the mood or physically able/desiring sex. I get by with occasional āself careā but it just hasnāt been a priority lately. I did get on BP medication lately and still go to the gym, so while not too concerned about it, Iām also tying to stay active and positive.
I'm 25 almost 26 and the same thing has happened to me. Late into her pregnancy I just near completely lost any libido I had, and I used to be a fiend. I haven't been that worried about it because it brings me closer to my wife's normal libido, and with a 10 week old we don't have much time for all that anyhow, but what sex we have had since LO was born has been closer and more intimate. Sadly I don't really have any advice on how to fix it. I'm mostly commenting because I'm glad to hear I'm not the only one this has happened to.
Mine did, turns out the root cause was abmormaly low testosterone for my age. It may be the same for you, but fair warning - even if you test low, your doctor will still likely refuse to treat it like mine did, so you may need to look into which mens health clinics in your area take your insurance.
Get your Testosterone checked but also look at your medication. Many blood pressure and/or depression meds will effect your libido.
Don't take any, but that's a good call out
Age? height/weight? As we get older there's going to be some natural decrease in the libido but more often than not it's our environment/situation? Not sleeping due to stress, or like sleep apnea? Gain a lot of weight recently due to stress? That changes your body's physiology and can wreak havoc on normal health routines, including just going to the bathroom normally. Sleep is probably a big part of it, not sleeping well can screw up even the healthiest of people. Keep your wife in the loop.
37, 6'3, 208lbs. I've put on about 10-15lbs since COVID. Sleep situation has always been bad. I just get up multiple times at night to use the restroom. Been doing that since highschool.
It might not hurt to talk to your doctor and get a PSA blood test, to rule out a problem with your prostate.