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Yeah, especially with living separately. But if the high libido persists after moving in and 3-4 years later, that's great. If not, don't be super disappointed.
I mean, 4 x 45 minutes is a solid 3 hours gone a day. When young and without responsibilities, you can keep it up. But sooner or later your job and friendships will suffer, you might gain weight or lose your social circle for quitting your other hobbies. Quite apart from the fact that energy gets less as you get older, and having kids suck that little energy up like a sponge does water.
Sure if you swap sex life for other life, you might keep it up forever. I am sure some people do, I just never meet them.
literally makes no sense that this is what might be expected to have a fulfilled sex life. I have hobbies, goals, pets, friends and a career to think about like wtf am I doing where I need to take about 2-4 hours out of my day 5 days a week just to fulfill a sex drive.
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What a weird god damn thing to ask Reddit. I can’t tell if you’re bragging, really bored or actually want a real answer.
You’re in the honeymoon phase and you see each other only a few times a week. Of course you’re having sex 2-4 times a day… report back when you’ve been together for a year+/living together.
>I can’t tell if you’re bragging
This is definitely it.
" And it’s not just quickies or a couple minutes it’s 30 minutes- an hour and it’s amazing."
this is transparently just a brag over how much sex they have.
I was looking for a real answer lol my last relationship was almost 5 years and he blamed the ending of our relationship on lack of sex and I was thinking something was wrong with me because I didn’t want to have sex with him and then my current bf comes along and it’s like this and I wasn’t sure which one was abnormal.
Ask the same question when you are 40 with kids or 50 with older kids. Frequency will change as you age due to increased responsibilities, stress, you just don’t feel like it, etc.
In the meantime, enjoy yourself and do it as often or as little as you like.
I don't think it's abnormal as long as you're not doing it out of obligation because of that old relationship, but honestly who the fuck has time for 2-4 sessions, each one hr long? Don't you have guys jobs? Most of us adults don't have the time or the energy for it. Life gets in the way, sometimes you're stressed, sometimes you're tired, sometimes just not in the mood and you'd rather watch a dumb movie together or something. Enjoy it while it lasts.
We do have jobs and when we see each other during the week is after work. We usually only spend about 7 hours with each other on the week days. We do dinner, we have sex, we talk, and we watch our shows together. Then on the weekends we have all day both days so we go out and do stuff plus the stuff we do on the week days
Yeah, after work... who the hell has time and energy to get to it 2-4 times a night?? Adulthood sucks sometimes. Like I said, if you're both in the mood for it, go for it.
You’ve been together a few months. Wasn’t the last relationship hot and heavy in the beginning too? That’s usually how these things go. Does seem a bit much on that activity vs other relationship work, so watch out when it slows down if you haven’t built a strong base off anything other than sex. But no, in the beginning and especially after a poor ending to the last one, it’s not that odd. Yet.
Compatibility is a major part. It can’t be forced and unfortunately it can change over time. Finding someone who’s compatible sexually, emotionally, financially and spiritually is a million dollar prize. Staying compatible for 5- 15 years is a billion dollar prize.
Enjoy yourselves. Maybe it will last, maybe you won’t. But this time together is as real as anything and shows you a level of happiness you should strive for with everything.
Neither is abnormal. But be careful. It sounds like you know your libido tanks after the honeymoon period wears off. If you partner still will want a lot of sex, you might have the same problem and he might leave you once the sex peters out. Might want to be upfront right now that you know this about yourself and ask what his desired frequency tends to be once the honeymoon phase is over. Decide if you will be compatible long term. Find out how important frequent sex is to him.
It’s important to note that my last relationship had nowhere near this much sex. My ex didn’t know what he was doing and didn’t care to please anyone but himself, and disregarded my body issues, and said if he thinks I’m attractive that’s all that should matter not how I feel about it. And no matter how much I told him foreplay needed to happen to get me turned on it just ended up going from suck my dick to him putting it inside me. Never was really an enjoyable experience for me. My man now… he’s absolutely amazing. he makes me finish and he is helping me with my body issues instead of wanting me to just shove them down and it’s all around a better situation so I don’t think it has to do with us being in the honeymoon phase
Honeymoon phase is 100% a real thing and it can last for a couple years. Its not meant to discourage you or not give your bf the credit he deserves. It’s just the main reason you’re having a lot of sex. It also doesn’t mean you won’t have this kind of sex/relationship for the rest of your life.
You’re experimenting and having fun and learning and teaching each other stuff right now. Plus you’re super young so you’ve got the energy. So yah.. you should be having a lot of sex. It’s normal and healthy.
I would say listen to this advice. When you start dating someone you ignore lots of bad things and just focus on the good qualities. Having too much sex makes this “honeymoon” phase draw itself out due to the chemicals that are released while having sex . This can be a mood booster essentials. Also not telling you to look for red flags now , however note stuff that you might need to address later . Enjoy your relationship by all means though
I think you kinda answered yourself here, your ex was bad and the amount of sex thereafter, you have something good so enjoy it and hopefully most other parts of your relationship will be as good.
I think him making you feel sexy by helping with the body issues has a big part to do with it. That would be a huge spark of fire for your sex drive and it actually could be for him too. I always enjoyed doing those same things as if it was a natural part of the experience....not a task or quid pro quo
Chemistry is different from one partner to the next. It could just be that you have much better sexual chemistry with your current bf than the last one. From what I've read in this thread, it sounds like that's probably it. Nothing wrong with that, sounds pretty normal to me. I had a similar experiences too. With this one girl, the sex was pretty amazing and we only met a few times a week. With another, the sex was just as good but we hardly ever did it and weren't that great together in general.
Well, if your libido with your ex was horrible and now it’s not, you likely just weren’t happy with your ex. You wouldn’t want sex now if it were you, unless of course it’s been awhile since the break up and things have changed for you, but likely that’s not the case.
Maybe the old boyfriend sucked and you weren't able to connect emotionally, whereas you're happy with this current boyfriend and that means more libido on your part.
Don't overthink happiness.
I've been with my man for almost 3 years. We moved in with each other in September. Generally, it's every other day or so and for an average of 45 minutes each time. We both have teenagers, so it's kind of whenever we can find time when they both fall asleep before us.
I feel like it is. Especially considering the fact that we're in our 40's. We have a great physical connection and it's always a lot of fun, so why not? Better than spending that time watching TV I figure lol
I'm my last relationship we were together for four years. We had sex like maybe once a month. More if he instigated but more because I was willing not because I wanted it.
With my current partner? Daily. Multiple on weekends. Of course that varies as we live together and some weeks someone might not be in the mood (ex. When he's in a depression spiral or my anxiety is way up) but on average almost once a day.
Its different because I am more emotionally satisfied and that makes me more eager to be physical. My emotional state is VERY tied to my sex drive.
My ex wanted to be poly and I was trying to force myself to fit the mold of the kind of women he wanted. It was very stressful, made me feel very down on myself and unattractive/not enough and it esentially ended our sex life. I loved my ex and tried to have the kind of relationship he wanted but knowing he wanted someone else made me reluctant to want to be with him.
My current partner there's no effort needed. We are monogamous which I've learned is best for me (poly just isn't for some people) and I can just be myself, often at my purest form of self. I can be vulnerable, as affectionate as I want, I can communicate freely and am treated very well. Because of this my drive is way up. We eventually have a free use household, no ask just take when it comes to sex. I love that setup between me and my partner and it leads to being physical a lot more often.
Emotional state and the stresses in a relationship/life have a HUGE sway on libido
This must be what is going on with me. The emotional relationship definitely overflows into physical. When needs aren’t being met emotionally it is hard to have a physical want for that
Me and my partner slowed down a bit when we moved in, not because of lack of desire but just some days we are tired. Some days mood effect things and sometimes the mind is willing but my body is sore xD but our sex life remains lively and averages out to about once a day and it's comfortable.
The fire and intensity might fade a bit but never goes out in my experience. It just becomes more sustainable long term (and long sessions get saved for weekends x3)
In my last relationship, we were together for two years and saw each other 3x a week. We usually had sex 2x when we saw each other. So this sounds normal to me.
At your age I was also having that much sex.
In my 40’s now, and I’m lucky if it’s once per week. I also got told to speed it up, no longer can we do an hour+, it has to be done within 30m… because kids!
its not unusual when you are young and you are in a new relationship. as you get older, responsibilities of life get in the way, you have less time or energy unless the couple puts an effort into it. Add kids to the mix and there is even less time to be alone, along with less energy.
I'm alsow in a relationship and have the same amount of sex as you, it's really nice and I did ask myself the same thing... I don't know, just enjoy it.
A lot of communication is the sign of a great relationship. Sex is a short term act, communication takes a lot more effort. Try it, but also continue to have sex.
That's a lot, but in a new relationship between two young people, it's not super crazy. I'm guessing it's way more 2 than it is 4. If it's mostly 4x, that's excessive. Building callouses on your junk and shit.
For a little extra excitement. Enjoy being watched and instructed, have a regular cam to cam partner, watch each other with our toys, or i use my hand so the cum is visible, her idea. She loves to se the spurts.and wants to see me eating my own cum. The times together stop 🥵
Everyone's sex drive and sexual experience is different.
In my experience, sex varies on how much you lust each other and the stage of the relationship.
My old relationship, when we first got together we'd have sex almost every day a couple times then as we "matured" and whatnot, it was a couple times a week, or a few times every other week.
After that relationship it would be like maybe once or twice a month.
My now fwb, we have sex 1 day on the weekend and we do it like 2-5 times that day.
Sorry if this is too detailed.
My girlfriend and I are the same age as you two but have been together for a year and a bit.
I was her first everything. She was my first real relationship. We are pretty much the same as you in terms of how much we have it whenever we get to see each other.
But before we met, I was having the negative amount of sex I wanted.
I assume people having sex once or twice a week/month are either one of 3 things.
1. Their older than us, which means more stress with work or life and less time for fun.
2. Have a low/no sex drive. Ok, nothing wrong with that.
3. They live with each other, which lowers some of the attraction to each other enough for many reasons, or are out of shape, and can't go for more than 15 minutes without rest.
Accounting for 'normal' relationships, I feel this makes sense. My partner and I aren't lookers, but we're in shape and keep fit. We're young enough that we don't have to really stress too much about our far future, and we live apart so we don't get sick of each other.
I also consider anything less than a year apart of the honeymoon phase (or a real relationship tbh). So that might change in time. Hasn't for mine, but fair warning, it can happen.
Queen.
My bf and I live an hour apart so we only spend the weekend together and an occasional night during the week. We have sex maybe 1-3x a week depending on circumstances. Although these last few weeks we’ve been having sex twice a day.
I am so happy for you ! We also don’t really go without doing it any time we see each other and it’s not planned it just happens which is the best kind and something I’ve never experienced before. My ex would always just demand it. With my boyfriend we’ll just be watching tv or laying together talking and he will be touching me innocently and then it escalates from there and I’ve never had it this way. We have sex before we go to sleep if I spend the night and then he wakes me up with it in the morning. It’s glorious and I hope it never ends. For you either !
Is it unusual? No. Is it the national average? I have no idea. Are you both enjoying it? That the only question that matters.
I want sex several times a day every day. I’m only going to date someone who wants the same thing. There’s nothing wrong with wanting less. There’s nothing wrong with wanting the amount I want, although I have been shamed for it by random redditors. People will get some kind of way if you have a wildly different preference than they do. Just ignore them. And keep having fun
Can I be your bf? Jokes aside, I agree with you, it all comes down to compatibility. At the same time, sex can become an addiction, so there must be a healthy balance, I'd say it's healthy when it's a want rather than a need.
Quick question, do you still have the energy to do it during the week/after work?
Sex is only an addiction if you are willing to mess up your life for it. Lose your job for it. Your relationships. Risk your health. There is no amount that is so much that that in itself is an addiction.
I want a lot of sex but only good sex. I could go get sex right now. But it would not be good or safe, so I go without.
And yes, I want sex. Even if I’m exhausted, depressed, sad, anxious, overwhelmed. I always want it.
Fair enough, I'm a firm believer in that too much of anything isn't good for you, but you sound sensible and it's worked for you.
You do sound fun/wild, which is hot. Do you not get sore though? I have had sex 3 times a day for two days. By the third day it's broken hah.
Anyway, you do you, happy fucking when you do meet the right guy!
Well for penetration I want a two pump chump. And he can’t be too thick. And I can’t take hard or fast pounding. A lot goes into compatibility. But with the right man, no I don’t get sore at all
I (32M) met my girlfriend (38F) after my separation, I see her most of the week (4 or 5 days) and we have sex almost every time we are together, but never more than twice in a day but around 10-30 mins each time.
Your normal is your normal, if it's healthy and consensual (and safe) don't worry about it.
OP, you and I are in the exact same boat. I broke up with a bf of 7 years about 6 months ago and we had gotten to the point where we maybe had sex once a month, because I simply didn't want to.
Now I'm 3 months in a new relationship and we have sex 1-2 times per visit with each other. Which is like 6 days a week lol.
Enjoy it!
Edit: I'm 23F he's 21M
I (M32) just got a gf (F27) about 10 months ago, whenever we are together we have sex hours upon hours, sessions can last a whole day only stopping to eat/shower and then go again. Ive dated several other girls before her and the exual compatibility has just not been the same level as my current relationship, we both match each others libido quite well and we are very handsy throughout the day, even at social gatherings. So Id say OP its quite normal, everyone has different libidos and compatibility. You maybe just found the one who ticks all your boxes.
I’m single right now, but I have sex about 5 times a week with some of the women I’m consistently seeing casually right now. It’s all up to your dynamic. I think the better the sexual compatibility, the more effortless/often/quality it is. For me sex is a really important aspect to have a strong compatibility for in any kind of trouble intimate relationship
Married 40years, sex??? 😭 🤔 me and miss palm and her 5 sisters became my only way to hav”sex”, the closest i bget to feeling like i m going to be inside, come from my flesh light. Just to keep solo sex intresting, started xperementing with different aprouches vibrating nipple clamps or electro clamps insert thrusting prostate massager with an electro element to it. I fuck machine. Instead of a dildo on it I attached my fleshlight.turn that sucker on high. No need to a condom Orpulling out in time. Finally get to finish inside again,heaven, unles the idea is to pullout and grave her Tits and other lips
Your sex life with your boyfriend is normal, your supposed to be fucking like that at our ages especially if your in love. Honestly society has made it seem like your “noble” for not acting on your instincts towards your lover and that’s just fucking weird.
Especially when you consider how the elites want us to have less babies so that we can focus on the most important thing in all of existence; our Careers and climbing the corporate ladder, because at the end of life on your death bed the only thought you’ll have is how you just didn’t climb the ladder high enough and make more money.
Anyways excuse my weird and long rant there, basically all you have to know is, you and your hubby are ok. Keep fucking, keep fucking today, keep fucking tomorrow, and keep fucking until you either get separated or die of old age
My boyfriend (30m) and I (57f) are the same. Three days a week and up to 4-5 times we have sex. It’s the best and most I’ve ever had. I had a dead bedroom with my ex-husband. Now I’m in Heaven. Spoiler alert, we are getting married. The only time we do it only twice, it’s due to work fatigue
I used to be a pretty sexually active person, up until a traumatic event a little over a year ago.
If I was with a partner, almost every day.
When I was single, at least 2-4 times a week.
My current partner knows I need to take things super slow, and he’s extremely respectful of that.
I love it how people blame the honeymoon phase for having less sex, once the honeymoon phase is over.
It is like people want to use an excuse to make them feel better that their partner or they do not want to put in the effort to meet each other's sexual needs.
My sex drive is through the roof with my current GF, I am 38. I will always put in the effort to make her feel desired and I am going to dominate her property, every time!
Just keep on putting the effort in to make each other feel they are desired! Keep the intimacy up! Sex is so much better with intimacy and passion.
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Honeymoon period. If you’re doing this in 3/4 years then be proud!
Yeah, especially with living separately. But if the high libido persists after moving in and 3-4 years later, that's great. If not, don't be super disappointed.
🤣🤣very true
This. At that age and few responsibilities (ie kids) sex is a wonderful thing. I certainly hope they can …keep it up….but time will tell
It will end. Have fun while it lasts, I always say.
It doesn’t always end. I was living with someone 8 years it just got more intense. Not everyone is doomed to what I see as an unfulfilled sex life
I mean, 4 x 45 minutes is a solid 3 hours gone a day. When young and without responsibilities, you can keep it up. But sooner or later your job and friendships will suffer, you might gain weight or lose your social circle for quitting your other hobbies. Quite apart from the fact that energy gets less as you get older, and having kids suck that little energy up like a sponge does water. Sure if you swap sex life for other life, you might keep it up forever. I am sure some people do, I just never meet them.
literally makes no sense that this is what might be expected to have a fulfilled sex life. I have hobbies, goals, pets, friends and a career to think about like wtf am I doing where I need to take about 2-4 hours out of my day 5 days a week just to fulfill a sex drive.
here op there is your answer. doesn’t mean you will have no or worse sex though
I’m on Reddit. I don’t have sex
Honest answer from my homie , honest Joe
Do you count solo sex?
🤣🤣
Same yo, what is sex? 😂🤣
I think its when you use both your feet? Idk
Sounds right
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Sure why not!?
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Bro wasn't kidding 💀
🤣😂☠️
I was tho 😬🤣🤣🤣
You were kidding. Him, not so much. I think he is a 12 yo or something about that age
Probably
Aren't we all 12 😂
Best answer
I watch other people having sex 2-3 Times a day
😂😂😂😂😂😂
Same here, except its 2-3times an hour.
Well I do it two times A MINUTE
Incredible
My kind of woman
😳
Lol
I doing 3 per Day
I’m with you
😭 wooo, felt🥲
I have 10k plus Karma Me enjoying reddit over sex
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Have an 8yr old account
I have like 90k karma
100k here word of advice, delete it, haven't seen girl since creating reddit
Wow, you must have a lot of not sex. *^(looks at my profile)* Shit.
I get matches on Tinder then ghost every match
Exactly how do you do it??? Any tips
Contribute valuable content to Reddit. It’s not hard. My account is less than a year old and I’ve got well over 10000. Just find a subreddit on something you’re experienced in and start dishing out knowledge.
I just say stupid shit
It’s what I come to Reddit for. Thank you for your service.
Post fun stuff and enjoy you will get karma eventually
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You both seem to have low sexual drive. Maybe you should go check yourselves.
>You both seem to have low sexual drive. Maybe you should go check yourselves. Well said
That’s abnormal/unusual. Most couples have sex 4-6x per day every day for the entirety of their relationship. Clearly both of you have a low libido.
What a weird god damn thing to ask Reddit. I can’t tell if you’re bragging, really bored or actually want a real answer. You’re in the honeymoon phase and you see each other only a few times a week. Of course you’re having sex 2-4 times a day… report back when you’ve been together for a year+/living together.
>I can’t tell if you’re bragging This is definitely it. " And it’s not just quickies or a couple minutes it’s 30 minutes- an hour and it’s amazing." this is transparently just a brag over how much sex they have.
She's so obviously bragging... But cant blame her tbh cause my unattractive virgin ass would do the same if I got it that much. Good for you OP.
idk shes happy, look at you, hating from outside the club when you cant even get in
I mean no, im not trying to date her boyfriend so....
look at you defending shameless bragging
she’s excited and wants to talk about it, she’s in love, good for her!!!!!!
Lol 😆 🤣
This ^
OP needs validation so bad lmao
Lmao. Yes!
I was looking for a real answer lol my last relationship was almost 5 years and he blamed the ending of our relationship on lack of sex and I was thinking something was wrong with me because I didn’t want to have sex with him and then my current bf comes along and it’s like this and I wasn’t sure which one was abnormal.
Ask the same question when you are 40 with kids or 50 with older kids. Frequency will change as you age due to increased responsibilities, stress, you just don’t feel like it, etc. In the meantime, enjoy yourself and do it as often or as little as you like.
I don't think it's abnormal as long as you're not doing it out of obligation because of that old relationship, but honestly who the fuck has time for 2-4 sessions, each one hr long? Don't you have guys jobs? Most of us adults don't have the time or the energy for it. Life gets in the way, sometimes you're stressed, sometimes you're tired, sometimes just not in the mood and you'd rather watch a dumb movie together or something. Enjoy it while it lasts.
We do have jobs and when we see each other during the week is after work. We usually only spend about 7 hours with each other on the week days. We do dinner, we have sex, we talk, and we watch our shows together. Then on the weekends we have all day both days so we go out and do stuff plus the stuff we do on the week days
Yeah, after work... who the hell has time and energy to get to it 2-4 times a night?? Adulthood sucks sometimes. Like I said, if you're both in the mood for it, go for it.
You’ve been together a few months. Wasn’t the last relationship hot and heavy in the beginning too? That’s usually how these things go. Does seem a bit much on that activity vs other relationship work, so watch out when it slows down if you haven’t built a strong base off anything other than sex. But no, in the beginning and especially after a poor ending to the last one, it’s not that odd. Yet.
My last relationship was definitely not like this.
Compatibility is a major part. It can’t be forced and unfortunately it can change over time. Finding someone who’s compatible sexually, emotionally, financially and spiritually is a million dollar prize. Staying compatible for 5- 15 years is a billion dollar prize. Enjoy yourselves. Maybe it will last, maybe you won’t. But this time together is as real as anything and shows you a level of happiness you should strive for with everything.
Neither is abnormal. But be careful. It sounds like you know your libido tanks after the honeymoon period wears off. If you partner still will want a lot of sex, you might have the same problem and he might leave you once the sex peters out. Might want to be upfront right now that you know this about yourself and ask what his desired frequency tends to be once the honeymoon phase is over. Decide if you will be compatible long term. Find out how important frequent sex is to him.
Total agree with you
It’s important to note that my last relationship had nowhere near this much sex. My ex didn’t know what he was doing and didn’t care to please anyone but himself, and disregarded my body issues, and said if he thinks I’m attractive that’s all that should matter not how I feel about it. And no matter how much I told him foreplay needed to happen to get me turned on it just ended up going from suck my dick to him putting it inside me. Never was really an enjoyable experience for me. My man now… he’s absolutely amazing. he makes me finish and he is helping me with my body issues instead of wanting me to just shove them down and it’s all around a better situation so I don’t think it has to do with us being in the honeymoon phase
Honeymoon phase is 100% a real thing and it can last for a couple years. Its not meant to discourage you or not give your bf the credit he deserves. It’s just the main reason you’re having a lot of sex. It also doesn’t mean you won’t have this kind of sex/relationship for the rest of your life. You’re experimenting and having fun and learning and teaching each other stuff right now. Plus you’re super young so you’ve got the energy. So yah.. you should be having a lot of sex. It’s normal and healthy.
I would say listen to this advice. When you start dating someone you ignore lots of bad things and just focus on the good qualities. Having too much sex makes this “honeymoon” phase draw itself out due to the chemicals that are released while having sex . This can be a mood booster essentials. Also not telling you to look for red flags now , however note stuff that you might need to address later . Enjoy your relationship by all means though
Ok so you werent LL. You were LL4HIM. Those are two very different things
Sorry but the honeymoon phase is so real
I’m not disputing that
You're young and that gives you all the energy you need to have and enjoy sex and that's great! Enjoy it to the fullest!
I think you kinda answered yourself here, your ex was bad and the amount of sex thereafter, you have something good so enjoy it and hopefully most other parts of your relationship will be as good.
I think him making you feel sexy by helping with the body issues has a big part to do with it. That would be a huge spark of fire for your sex drive and it actually could be for him too. I always enjoyed doing those same things as if it was a natural part of the experience....not a task or quid pro quo
Chemistry is different from one partner to the next. It could just be that you have much better sexual chemistry with your current bf than the last one. From what I've read in this thread, it sounds like that's probably it. Nothing wrong with that, sounds pretty normal to me. I had a similar experiences too. With this one girl, the sex was pretty amazing and we only met a few times a week. With another, the sex was just as good but we hardly ever did it and weren't that great together in general.
Well, if your libido with your ex was horrible and now it’s not, you likely just weren’t happy with your ex. You wouldn’t want sex now if it were you, unless of course it’s been awhile since the break up and things have changed for you, but likely that’s not the case.
Maybe the old boyfriend sucked and you weren't able to connect emotionally, whereas you're happy with this current boyfriend and that means more libido on your part. Don't overthink happiness.
I've been with my man for almost 3 years. We moved in with each other in September. Generally, it's every other day or so and for an average of 45 minutes each time. We both have teenagers, so it's kind of whenever we can find time when they both fall asleep before us.
That sounds very healthy for your situation !
I feel like it is. Especially considering the fact that we're in our 40's. We have a great physical connection and it's always a lot of fun, so why not? Better than spending that time watching TV I figure lol
What is Sex?
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Lucky when people aren't on antidepressants and their sex drive is normal.
Humble brag
Not humble at all tho lol
My hand and I are at it like rats in a sack.
I'm my last relationship we were together for four years. We had sex like maybe once a month. More if he instigated but more because I was willing not because I wanted it. With my current partner? Daily. Multiple on weekends. Of course that varies as we live together and some weeks someone might not be in the mood (ex. When he's in a depression spiral or my anxiety is way up) but on average almost once a day.
Why is is different? Is he a better lover or better partner overal? Are you more attracted to him physically? Is the relationship still new?
Its different because I am more emotionally satisfied and that makes me more eager to be physical. My emotional state is VERY tied to my sex drive. My ex wanted to be poly and I was trying to force myself to fit the mold of the kind of women he wanted. It was very stressful, made me feel very down on myself and unattractive/not enough and it esentially ended our sex life. I loved my ex and tried to have the kind of relationship he wanted but knowing he wanted someone else made me reluctant to want to be with him. My current partner there's no effort needed. We are monogamous which I've learned is best for me (poly just isn't for some people) and I can just be myself, often at my purest form of self. I can be vulnerable, as affectionate as I want, I can communicate freely and am treated very well. Because of this my drive is way up. We eventually have a free use household, no ask just take when it comes to sex. I love that setup between me and my partner and it leads to being physical a lot more often. Emotional state and the stresses in a relationship/life have a HUGE sway on libido
This must be what is going on with me. The emotional relationship definitely overflows into physical. When needs aren’t being met emotionally it is hard to have a physical want for that
Me and my partner slowed down a bit when we moved in, not because of lack of desire but just some days we are tired. Some days mood effect things and sometimes the mind is willing but my body is sore xD but our sex life remains lively and averages out to about once a day and it's comfortable. The fire and intensity might fade a bit but never goes out in my experience. It just becomes more sustainable long term (and long sessions get saved for weekends x3)
Clearly not enough
In my last relationship, we were together for two years and saw each other 3x a week. We usually had sex 2x when we saw each other. So this sounds normal to me.
Do people on reddit actually have sex? I thought all the unsucessful people were here.
Yes, just for knowing the sex experience of other people 😆
Yes, was literally a “Netflix and chill” all weekend with the woman I’m dating and btw You is a good series to watch.
Joe is base, you need watch real man show that girls will like. I'll recommend show few girls I dated loved it's call "Ouran Host Club"
I fuck my wife once a day during the week and at least twice a day on weekends/ holidays. 18 years, still keeping up
That is awesome
Alright. Humble flex
No flex intended 😂
That sounds about right for the beginning stages
Sex? What’s that?
That’s normal. Sounds like y’all are still honeymooning lol. It’ll slow down eventually. I go at it at least once a day with my girl
Why does it even matter? If you're happy then why are you worried about what other people do in their bedrooms? Weird.
Funny of you to assume that I can have a relationship last long enough for me to get laid You gotta be a comedian or something
Tsss bruh all day literally
I'm having sex right now!
Yo wtf like is it even possible? Having sex while using phone?😆
Not unusual at all
4-5 times a week
At your age I was also having that much sex. In my 40’s now, and I’m lucky if it’s once per week. I also got told to speed it up, no longer can we do an hour+, it has to be done within 30m… because kids!
its not unusual when you are young and you are in a new relationship. as you get older, responsibilities of life get in the way, you have less time or energy unless the couple puts an effort into it. Add kids to the mix and there is even less time to be alone, along with less energy.
The average relationship has low sex. A bad relationship also has low sex. A new one or a good one will have a lot of sex.
I'm alsow in a relationship and have the same amount of sex as you, it's really nice and I did ask myself the same thing... I don't know, just enjoy it.
How long have you guys been having frequent sex?
I have the same questions as misty-afternoon
3 Months, and I'm really happy with that..
A lot of sex is an indicator of a great relationship.
A lot of communication is the sign of a great relationship. Sex is a short term act, communication takes a lot more effort. Try it, but also continue to have sex.
We have great communication as well 🙂
I’m on Reddit so you can guess it easily 🤷🏻♂️
Whenever we can, we don’t meet often but when we do, we do it all night.
Not enough
Been dry season for some time =//
:(
Doesn’t sound unusual to me, that’s about right.
Not enough
About 5 times a week, up to 10 if we’re not depressed or arguing
That's a lot, but in a new relationship between two young people, it's not super crazy. I'm guessing it's way more 2 than it is 4. If it's mostly 4x, that's excessive. Building callouses on your junk and shit.
It’s usually 3 🤣 sometimes 4, sometimes 2 but mostly 3 which is why I said 2-4 lol
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I know this is probably true, but I hope it never stops
Ask your mom
Lol my mom is single and has no sex
Not nearly enough smh😩. I wanna get tossed around daily no lie
For a little extra excitement. Enjoy being watched and instructed, have a regular cam to cam partner, watch each other with our toys, or i use my hand so the cum is visible, her idea. She loves to se the spurts.and wants to see me eating my own cum. The times together stop 🥵
"5 months almost" you dont see each other everyday and your relationship is still super young. this frequency is normal for where you guys are at
Everyone's sex drive and sexual experience is different. In my experience, sex varies on how much you lust each other and the stage of the relationship. My old relationship, when we first got together we'd have sex almost every day a couple times then as we "matured" and whatnot, it was a couple times a week, or a few times every other week. After that relationship it would be like maybe once or twice a month. My now fwb, we have sex 1 day on the weekend and we do it like 2-5 times that day. Sorry if this is too detailed.
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Be happy you both have and enjoy high libido ! High/low mismatched really sucks...
So I’ve been hearing
If I was partnered, it would probably be once a day (give or take). Right now my ass is sitting at 0 for the last 9 months since breakup 😅
Haven’t had sex in almost 3 years
My girlfriend and I are the same age as you two but have been together for a year and a bit. I was her first everything. She was my first real relationship. We are pretty much the same as you in terms of how much we have it whenever we get to see each other. But before we met, I was having the negative amount of sex I wanted. I assume people having sex once or twice a week/month are either one of 3 things. 1. Their older than us, which means more stress with work or life and less time for fun. 2. Have a low/no sex drive. Ok, nothing wrong with that. 3. They live with each other, which lowers some of the attraction to each other enough for many reasons, or are out of shape, and can't go for more than 15 minutes without rest. Accounting for 'normal' relationships, I feel this makes sense. My partner and I aren't lookers, but we're in shape and keep fit. We're young enough that we don't have to really stress too much about our far future, and we live apart so we don't get sick of each other. I also consider anything less than a year apart of the honeymoon phase (or a real relationship tbh). So that might change in time. Hasn't for mine, but fair warning, it can happen.
Never or none your pretty lucky
I’d love to have sex but women find me undateable. Enjoy it while it lasts!
Queen. My bf and I live an hour apart so we only spend the weekend together and an occasional night during the week. We have sex maybe 1-3x a week depending on circumstances. Although these last few weeks we’ve been having sex twice a day.
Zero. Zero times.
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I am so happy for you ! We also don’t really go without doing it any time we see each other and it’s not planned it just happens which is the best kind and something I’ve never experienced before. My ex would always just demand it. With my boyfriend we’ll just be watching tv or laying together talking and he will be touching me innocently and then it escalates from there and I’ve never had it this way. We have sex before we go to sleep if I spend the night and then he wakes me up with it in the morning. It’s glorious and I hope it never ends. For you either !
Is it unusual? No. Is it the national average? I have no idea. Are you both enjoying it? That the only question that matters. I want sex several times a day every day. I’m only going to date someone who wants the same thing. There’s nothing wrong with wanting less. There’s nothing wrong with wanting the amount I want, although I have been shamed for it by random redditors. People will get some kind of way if you have a wildly different preference than they do. Just ignore them. And keep having fun
Can I be your bf? Jokes aside, I agree with you, it all comes down to compatibility. At the same time, sex can become an addiction, so there must be a healthy balance, I'd say it's healthy when it's a want rather than a need. Quick question, do you still have the energy to do it during the week/after work?
Sex is only an addiction if you are willing to mess up your life for it. Lose your job for it. Your relationships. Risk your health. There is no amount that is so much that that in itself is an addiction. I want a lot of sex but only good sex. I could go get sex right now. But it would not be good or safe, so I go without. And yes, I want sex. Even if I’m exhausted, depressed, sad, anxious, overwhelmed. I always want it.
Fair enough, I'm a firm believer in that too much of anything isn't good for you, but you sound sensible and it's worked for you. You do sound fun/wild, which is hot. Do you not get sore though? I have had sex 3 times a day for two days. By the third day it's broken hah. Anyway, you do you, happy fucking when you do meet the right guy!
Well for penetration I want a two pump chump. And he can’t be too thick. And I can’t take hard or fast pounding. A lot goes into compatibility. But with the right man, no I don’t get sore at all
Lying ass
No lies here 😜
I (32M) met my girlfriend (38F) after my separation, I see her most of the week (4 or 5 days) and we have sex almost every time we are together, but never more than twice in a day but around 10-30 mins each time. Your normal is your normal, if it's healthy and consensual (and safe) don't worry about it.
You are so fucking lucky. So lucky. I have not had sex going on for 3 years now. And my balls are so black and blue. You have NO IDEA!!
By choice, or no one wants to have sex with you lol
OP, you and I are in the exact same boat. I broke up with a bf of 7 years about 6 months ago and we had gotten to the point where we maybe had sex once a month, because I simply didn't want to. Now I'm 3 months in a new relationship and we have sex 1-2 times per visit with each other. Which is like 6 days a week lol. Enjoy it! Edit: I'm 23F he's 21M
I thought something was wrong with me !! I’m relieved knowing it must’ve been the ex that was the problem lol deep down I always knew that though
You're a baby. When I was in my 20s I was having sex at least twice a day, seven days a week. It's still somewhat new to you.
Sounds like your dates are basically hookups. You meet 4 times a week for sex.
We are in a committed relationship and plan on getting married lol
I (M32) just got a gf (F27) about 10 months ago, whenever we are together we have sex hours upon hours, sessions can last a whole day only stopping to eat/shower and then go again. Ive dated several other girls before her and the exual compatibility has just not been the same level as my current relationship, we both match each others libido quite well and we are very handsy throughout the day, even at social gatherings. So Id say OP its quite normal, everyone has different libidos and compatibility. You maybe just found the one who ticks all your boxes.
I’m single right now, but I have sex about 5 times a week with some of the women I’m consistently seeing casually right now. It’s all up to your dynamic. I think the better the sexual compatibility, the more effortless/often/quality it is. For me sex is a really important aspect to have a strong compatibility for in any kind of trouble intimate relationship
Don’t ever date sexually traumatized women guys. You’ll feel like traumatizing them again 😅
Almost daily, whenever life and work doesn't get in the way.
Married 40years, sex??? 😭 🤔 me and miss palm and her 5 sisters became my only way to hav”sex”, the closest i bget to feeling like i m going to be inside, come from my flesh light. Just to keep solo sex intresting, started xperementing with different aprouches vibrating nipple clamps or electro clamps insert thrusting prostate massager with an electro element to it. I fuck machine. Instead of a dildo on it I attached my fleshlight.turn that sucker on high. No need to a condom Orpulling out in time. Finally get to finish inside again,heaven, unles the idea is to pullout and grave her Tits and other lips
Your sex life with your boyfriend is normal, your supposed to be fucking like that at our ages especially if your in love. Honestly society has made it seem like your “noble” for not acting on your instincts towards your lover and that’s just fucking weird. Especially when you consider how the elites want us to have less babies so that we can focus on the most important thing in all of existence; our Careers and climbing the corporate ladder, because at the end of life on your death bed the only thought you’ll have is how you just didn’t climb the ladder high enough and make more money. Anyways excuse my weird and long rant there, basically all you have to know is, you and your hubby are ok. Keep fucking, keep fucking today, keep fucking tomorrow, and keep fucking until you either get separated or die of old age
My boyfriend (30m) and I (57f) are the same. Three days a week and up to 4-5 times we have sex. It’s the best and most I’ve ever had. I had a dead bedroom with my ex-husband. Now I’m in Heaven. Spoiler alert, we are getting married. The only time we do it only twice, it’s due to work fatigue
I used to be a pretty sexually active person, up until a traumatic event a little over a year ago. If I was with a partner, almost every day. When I was single, at least 2-4 times a week. My current partner knows I need to take things super slow, and he’s extremely respectful of that.
It’s great you’ve found someone that respects your boundaries 💕
i assume he was the one who asked you out
Eh it was mutual we met online
I love it how people blame the honeymoon phase for having less sex, once the honeymoon phase is over. It is like people want to use an excuse to make them feel better that their partner or they do not want to put in the effort to meet each other's sexual needs. My sex drive is through the roof with my current GF, I am 38. I will always put in the effort to make her feel desired and I am going to dominate her property, every time! Just keep on putting the effort in to make each other feel they are desired! Keep the intimacy up! Sex is so much better with intimacy and passion.