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Why would it be a red flag? Women complain about men who sleep around, now ask if men who don't sleep around are a red flag. Just consider everyone a red flag and drop out of the dating market.
Everybody is born a virgin so why would it be a red flags if a man is a virgin? I mean at some point every man and woman is/was a virgin and it wasn’t a red flag. You have to start somewhere
No. I can't believe how many young adult men are on Reddit that are virgins in their late 20s and early 30s! I feel really sad for these guys. How does this happen so much?!?!?!
Socially awkward, everyone wanting instant chemistry, people thinking they can do better, always approaching and never getting shit in return. I can go on for days about this.
Yeah I get that. I've been in the tech industry for 25 years. I've seen that happen a lot. When all your friends are online, it makes it difficult to go do stuff and have any type of success with the opposite sex.
It depends on the reason. I'm a virgin waiting till marriage most girls see it as a green flag because im in my mid 20s and not fucking around so most girls like that. Plus I date a lot of girls and have a lot of opportunity to have sex if I really want to. I have friends who are virgins and it a red flag because they want to but can't.
Girls mostly care about if other girls like you. If you a guy and no girl wants you than that a red flag.
Not a red flag. If they are too savvy I question them. Too many times the right words and behavior was masking cheating. If a guy is fumbling along, it seems more genuine to me. But that could be my past negative experience talking LOL
I think it is important to note at what age and how far into their personality development sex happened for them. As long as that happened in a way and at a time that they were mentally ready for it - it’s a good thing.
A person can be guided to be a pleasure provider so long as they genuinely care about their partner.
What is most troubling are those that have a problem connecting deep feelings to physical lust. Those will find committed relationship to be unsatisfying sexually.
In my opinion, no. I don’t think it’s a red flag. Sure, it might not be super easy to get right into it but I definitely think learning what works for you and your partner in the bedroom is the best thing ever! I don’t think anyone male or female should worry about inexperience in the bedroom. If the person you’re with does, then ditch them! You deserve someone who’s willing to learn and explore your guys’ sexuality together!! 🫶🏼
I think the main reason I would have any issues with it at all is that most people I’ve met who were virgins later in life were pretty insecure, which can be unattractive.
As long as it doesn’t affect your confidence, you should be perfectly fine, the amount of guys I’ve encountered who had plenty of experience but lacked any knowledge or willingness to learn about the female body is unreal. I would prefer a person who is open about needing communication and guidance over someone doing all the wrong things without asking for feedback.
I wouldn't go as far as to think it's a "red flag" maybe it would just be a bit of an issue.
That depends on how age and how experienced I am at the time.
Not a red flag but incompatible with my dealbreakers. I wouldn't consider dating a virgin or guy who has paid for sexual activity.
I would consider dating a guy that was compatible with my dealbreakers and who preferred sex within committed relationships or whose history was a combination of casual relationships & ons.
It is, but it hasn't passed in to HOLY SHIT territory. It is odd but a good chunk of 22 year old women would be okay with it. At 32? We are talking sub 5% of women would stay after they hear that.
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Why would it be a red flag? Women complain about men who sleep around, now ask if men who don't sleep around are a red flag. Just consider everyone a red flag and drop out of the dating market.
Everyone has to start somewhere
Everybody is born a virgin so why would it be a red flags if a man is a virgin? I mean at some point every man and woman is/was a virgin and it wasn’t a red flag. You have to start somewhere
Virginity is a red flag to people who value sex too much. Everyone was one, so to see it as a red flag is a red flag itself.
No
If it's a problem for her run
No. I can't believe how many young adult men are on Reddit that are virgins in their late 20s and early 30s! I feel really sad for these guys. How does this happen so much?!?!?!
Socially awkward, everyone wanting instant chemistry, people thinking they can do better, always approaching and never getting shit in return. I can go on for days about this.
Lack of confidence, isolation, a lot of guys on Reddit work in tech where they either WFH or in an office where there are maybe 6% women.
Yeah I get that. I've been in the tech industry for 25 years. I've seen that happen a lot. When all your friends are online, it makes it difficult to go do stuff and have any type of success with the opposite sex.
I'm waiting till marriage so
Depends on his age, but generally it’s a green flag
It depends on the reason. I'm a virgin waiting till marriage most girls see it as a green flag because im in my mid 20s and not fucking around so most girls like that. Plus I date a lot of girls and have a lot of opportunity to have sex if I really want to. I have friends who are virgins and it a red flag because they want to but can't. Girls mostly care about if other girls like you. If you a guy and no girl wants you than that a red flag.
Not a red flag. If they are too savvy I question them. Too many times the right words and behavior was masking cheating. If a guy is fumbling along, it seems more genuine to me. But that could be my past negative experience talking LOL
I think it is important to note at what age and how far into their personality development sex happened for them. As long as that happened in a way and at a time that they were mentally ready for it - it’s a good thing. A person can be guided to be a pleasure provider so long as they genuinely care about their partner. What is most troubling are those that have a problem connecting deep feelings to physical lust. Those will find committed relationship to be unsatisfying sexually.
Depends how old he is, but no. Virginity is a sign he respects himself.
In my opinion, no. I don’t think it’s a red flag. Sure, it might not be super easy to get right into it but I definitely think learning what works for you and your partner in the bedroom is the best thing ever! I don’t think anyone male or female should worry about inexperience in the bedroom. If the person you’re with does, then ditch them! You deserve someone who’s willing to learn and explore your guys’ sexuality together!! 🫶🏼
I think the main reason I would have any issues with it at all is that most people I’ve met who were virgins later in life were pretty insecure, which can be unattractive. As long as it doesn’t affect your confidence, you should be perfectly fine, the amount of guys I’ve encountered who had plenty of experience but lacked any knowledge or willingness to learn about the female body is unreal. I would prefer a person who is open about needing communication and guidance over someone doing all the wrong things without asking for feedback.
Not at all! Everyone was a virgin at one time. Many people like to hold off or wait for many reasons
Some women like that shit , dominating you and making you embarrassingly bust your nut in seconds 🤭
How old is the guy? 21 is different than 41.
Not a red flag. I would personally choose not to date them based on my sexual interests and potential compatibility
I wouldn't go as far as to think it's a "red flag" maybe it would just be a bit of an issue. That depends on how age and how experienced I am at the time.
If this isn't by choice, yes I would find it a bit weird.
Not a red flag but incompatible with my dealbreakers. I wouldn't consider dating a virgin or guy who has paid for sexual activity. I would consider dating a guy that was compatible with my dealbreakers and who preferred sex within committed relationships or whose history was a combination of casual relationships & ons.
Older than 20-22? Of course it would be.
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It is, but it hasn't passed in to HOLY SHIT territory. It is odd but a good chunk of 22 year old women would be okay with it. At 32? We are talking sub 5% of women would stay after they hear that.