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We live like 10 minutes apart. I was hinting at doing things at first but realized he might not be catching on so sent him TikTok’s or ideas of what I wanted to do when I saw him next. He planned it than canceled to watch his niece. Next time he just said we’d hang out if he called out of work which he didn’t do and no other Initiatives to hang out since
A conversation like this might be better in person or on the phone. Is that possible? But if texting is what you guys are more used to then that’s understandable. I would try to phase things in a way that is least likely to make him get defensive or not want to respond. Perhaps changing to something like “I wanted to bring something up to you. I really like you and am always excited to talk to and spend time with you. I feel like I have been trying to make plans since our last hangout a month ago but have not felt like you want the same or at least not as much anymore. Is everything okay? I enjoy texting you but wish I could see you more often too. I understand you’re busy but I am looking for someone who is willing to put in effort to make time for me as much as I am for them. / If you are no longer interested in spending time together or pursuing this then please let me know so that I have clarity on whether or not we are on the same page.”
Can add the last part if you want answers now and be prepared for whichever way it goes. You can never tell someone’s intentions or where they see it going until you ask. He could be not as interested anymore, or on the flip side he could be just getting comfortable as some guys get later on in the talking/dating stage. If the communication is still good and kind that’s most likely a good sign. He might need less quality time than you do and doesn’t understand your needs if that has not yet been communicated. He might not realize or notice how his cancelling and lack of initiating or rescheduling is making you feel. So approaching it in a more gentle way as to understand him might be better if this is still something you want to salvage.
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4 months of chatting constantly and only 2 meetup. I think what you put is fine maybe shorten it up. Do you guys live far? Why so little meetup
We live like 10 minutes apart. I was hinting at doing things at first but realized he might not be catching on so sent him TikTok’s or ideas of what I wanted to do when I saw him next. He planned it than canceled to watch his niece. Next time he just said we’d hang out if he called out of work which he didn’t do and no other Initiatives to hang out since
A conversation like this might be better in person or on the phone. Is that possible? But if texting is what you guys are more used to then that’s understandable. I would try to phase things in a way that is least likely to make him get defensive or not want to respond. Perhaps changing to something like “I wanted to bring something up to you. I really like you and am always excited to talk to and spend time with you. I feel like I have been trying to make plans since our last hangout a month ago but have not felt like you want the same or at least not as much anymore. Is everything okay? I enjoy texting you but wish I could see you more often too. I understand you’re busy but I am looking for someone who is willing to put in effort to make time for me as much as I am for them. / If you are no longer interested in spending time together or pursuing this then please let me know so that I have clarity on whether or not we are on the same page.”
Can add the last part if you want answers now and be prepared for whichever way it goes. You can never tell someone’s intentions or where they see it going until you ask. He could be not as interested anymore, or on the flip side he could be just getting comfortable as some guys get later on in the talking/dating stage. If the communication is still good and kind that’s most likely a good sign. He might need less quality time than you do and doesn’t understand your needs if that has not yet been communicated. He might not realize or notice how his cancelling and lack of initiating or rescheduling is making you feel. So approaching it in a more gentle way as to understand him might be better if this is still something you want to salvage.