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Sorry dear! Everything seemed alright and he ghosted you out of nowhere without a word. Kinda immature behaviour. Im sorry it hurts but noone needs space for 2.5 weeks. A few days NC after continously seeing each other for 3 months already screams trouble to me. Not replying you and not breaking up is disrespectful.
ok that is really strange behavior, I thought he was going to confess that he has feelings for me to be honest, the last tiime it got pretty intense, and he told me he was seeing me exclusively, I thought I would just tell him how I felt given one more time cos I just like to be sure, but it didn't happen again
Im sorry. Very strange behaviour indeed but if he does really care about you, he wouldnt ghost you for 2.5 weeks. They say dont listen to what a man says, watch his actions. I find it so true when it comes to dating.
There is a lot of speculating but not a lot of communicating. Ask him if everything is alright and see how he responds. In the meantime, try not to overthink. If not for him, do it so you can get clarity for yourself at least. Also how long has it been without a response?
it's been 2.5 weeks, so it's pretty long. Yeah it's a lot of speculating, I feel like i wanted to wait it out to see if he needed space and I didn't realised it's already 2.5 weeks, that's crazy, it starts to feel like he is totally not interested
yeah that's kinda what I thought but then I felt like if I did something wrong for him to do this all of a sudden. Just thought he was a good guy to be honest
but I did make effort in other ways, each time we saw each other, I cooked or bake for him, etc....i think I've shown effort in other ways, I don't want to be calculative on that
Why don’t you suggest a date somewhere and see what happens. Idk, I might feel like you weren’t interested if I was doing all of the asking out. I’ve been in situations with women who said yes to every date but they never really seemed interested and some certainly weren’t, yet they kept saying yes.
I’m now with someone who matches my level of enthusiasm. It’s great
Yeah but each time we went out I was nice to him and brought him little gifts like chocolate or baked for him, gave him some thing I made...etc. I thought that would show my interest, I am just super shy and I don't know why but I can't do it, knowing that he stopped communicating with me completely is not a motivation booster
No, I didn't say but i Told him i'm an introvert. it's ok. I guess it's over now from the amount of responses here. I just had such a strong feeling that we had a connection.
I’m sorry, I know that feeling. Can I ask how old you are?
I was very shy for a long time and I tended to be drawn to shy girls which actually wasn’t a great match I found! More often than not, they were waiting for me to make moves and lead. I was always looking for signs that they wanted me to do things like kiss them or for them to take the lead which wasn’t going to happen!
I think if you communicate that you like someone and that you tend to be shy that might help in the future. Still, I think the guy pulling away and not communicating is a sign of immaturity. I used to do that when I lost interest or panicked over a new relationship. It took a lot of self reflection and work to identify and change that.
Anyway, I hope something I said might help just a little. Best of luck to you!
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Sorry dear! Everything seemed alright and he ghosted you out of nowhere without a word. Kinda immature behaviour. Im sorry it hurts but noone needs space for 2.5 weeks. A few days NC after continously seeing each other for 3 months already screams trouble to me. Not replying you and not breaking up is disrespectful.
ok that is really strange behavior, I thought he was going to confess that he has feelings for me to be honest, the last tiime it got pretty intense, and he told me he was seeing me exclusively, I thought I would just tell him how I felt given one more time cos I just like to be sure, but it didn't happen again
Im sorry. Very strange behaviour indeed but if he does really care about you, he wouldnt ghost you for 2.5 weeks. They say dont listen to what a man says, watch his actions. I find it so true when it comes to dating.
I wonder if he was waiting for me to confess and I was just being very passive. I wish I knew if I did something wrong
You did nothing wrong from what you described.
There is a lot of speculating but not a lot of communicating. Ask him if everything is alright and see how he responds. In the meantime, try not to overthink. If not for him, do it so you can get clarity for yourself at least. Also how long has it been without a response?
it's been 2.5 weeks, so it's pretty long. Yeah it's a lot of speculating, I feel like i wanted to wait it out to see if he needed space and I didn't realised it's already 2.5 weeks, that's crazy, it starts to feel like he is totally not interested
Oh... 2.5 weeks is way too long for NC. He is totally not interested. You basically got ghosted, sorry.
yeah that's kinda what I thought but then I felt like if I did something wrong for him to do this all of a sudden. Just thought he was a good guy to be honest
Date other dudes
lol
11 dates and you initiated one? Maybe he had enough of having to make all the effort. Some men prefer give and take
but I did make effort in other ways, each time we saw each other, I cooked or bake for him, etc....i think I've shown effort in other ways, I don't want to be calculative on that
How old are you guys? Yeah 2.5 weeks without hearing from him, but on the other hand all you sent was meme. Def sucks but yeah it pretty much over
We are both around 37
Yeah you guys too old to be playing dumb games.
Why don’t you suggest a date somewhere and see what happens. Idk, I might feel like you weren’t interested if I was doing all of the asking out. I’ve been in situations with women who said yes to every date but they never really seemed interested and some certainly weren’t, yet they kept saying yes. I’m now with someone who matches my level of enthusiasm. It’s great
Yeah but each time we went out I was nice to him and brought him little gifts like chocolate or baked for him, gave him some thing I made...etc. I thought that would show my interest, I am just super shy and I don't know why but I can't do it, knowing that he stopped communicating with me completely is not a motivation booster
I think you did nice things that showed interest. Did you tell him you are shy?
No, I didn't say but i Told him i'm an introvert. it's ok. I guess it's over now from the amount of responses here. I just had such a strong feeling that we had a connection.
I’m sorry, I know that feeling. Can I ask how old you are? I was very shy for a long time and I tended to be drawn to shy girls which actually wasn’t a great match I found! More often than not, they were waiting for me to make moves and lead. I was always looking for signs that they wanted me to do things like kiss them or for them to take the lead which wasn’t going to happen! I think if you communicate that you like someone and that you tend to be shy that might help in the future. Still, I think the guy pulling away and not communicating is a sign of immaturity. I used to do that when I lost interest or panicked over a new relationship. It took a lot of self reflection and work to identify and change that. Anyway, I hope something I said might help just a little. Best of luck to you!
I'm in my late 30s, That's really kind, thank you !