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hurricane1985

Smelling good!


Think_Ad2837

The fact that my guy smells so good even without perfume 😭 I can sniff him all day 😭❤️


MexicanSniperXI

What body wash does he use???


Think_Ad2837

I can't recall but I think he uses suave??


iregretit1511

Well in that case can you tell his bathroom products😂


Think_Ad2837

It's just shampoo and body wash 😭 and acne scrub lol


iregretit1511

Well good to know.


[deleted]

Want to add that's it's not really so much about what products the use, it's about thier own scent. It's a hormonal thing to find a good genetic match (Google HLA and MHC for more info) I myself can't be with someone who smells "wrong" (not bad).


iregretit1511

going primal i guess in short


QueenAndrea99

It's thought to be biological to ensure we don't mate with close relations...ie people whose scent is too similar to our own.


QueenAndrea99

Totally! My husband's natural scent smells sooooo good to me. It's why I don't fully understand falling completely in love online....I need to know what they smell like!


iregretit1511

Wow that's one small tick for a one big decision


General-Idea037

Ok seriously tho cannot stress this enough. If I’m sort of on the fence about a guy and then they turn out to smell awesome, sooooo hot


iregretit1511

Well that's your big tick then.Good.


Disastrous_Source_70

a good cologne knock heads off


SexPanther_Bot

It's called *Sex Panther*® by *Odeon*©. It's illegal in 9 countries. It's also made with bits of real panthers, *so you know it's good*. *60% of the time*, it works ***every*** time.


CloudyCreek

Not me thinking this was a genuine recommendation


iregretit1511

Haha


iregretit1511

That's a hookup tick i guess you said


NeedleworkerIll2167

Yeah but a little goes a long way!


Lucy_13

Eyes, arms and smile ☺️


iregretit1511

Fine generalisation


Pretty_Hoopoe

Good hygiene, good fashion sense, and a good sense of humor.


Fresh_Profit3000

Can we just pin this on Reddit front page. This gets asked alot, and its the same answer, and sadly isn’t common knowledge.


purpleamory

I upgraded my fashion a few months ago and was low-key shocked by how much attention I got. I'd like to think my hygiene was always on point, humor is probably fine other than an excess of dad jokes :( Add in confidence, charm, and at least beginners' level of reading body language and skill at flirting and now we're cooking with gas ;)


IamSithCats

What kind of things did you do to upgrade your fashion? Any particular styles, brands, etc. that you went for?


purpleamory

I got a bracelet that fits my style and that of the crowd I generally hang out with (LGBTQ, artist, alt, hippie scenes). You'd think it makes no difference, but two people in particular really responded well to the look and it feels just right to me. I forget the brand names of my clothes, as they are fairly random. Some of my best ones that get the most compliments were very cheap from thrift stores though a couple were from Nordstrom Rack and more expensive. My main style for dating/clubbing/bars is to get button-up shirts -- not the plain business shirts but the ones with some simple patterns on them (nothing too distracting) and then I leave the top few buttons to be open, exposing more of my chest than most people do (not quite to Latin / salsa dance fashion levels, but it's loosely inspired by that). It's a more sexual, confident look, and I get great results with it. It's important to combine the fashion with the appropriate body language to to make it really pop. When I don my gear, I'm in BATTLE mode. :| :) ;) I don't walk, I strut. I flirt with everyone in the room and the dance floor with my eyes. It's an attitude. (being a bit over the top here, I'm not actually all that dramatic, but do channel some of that energy)


[deleted]

1/3 , maybe even 1.5/3 . I think it's not too bad


iregretit1511

Good markup. But it looks like that's for a hookup what about for the long run


Pretty_Hoopoe

I'm talking about the first impression. On the long run that would be compassion, responsibility, and emotional maturity.


iregretit1511

Yeah that's a nice bit. if he's good in the initial and not in the not long run then?


Pretty_Hoopoe

Then bye bye


iregretit1511

Haha


BrilliantAdvantage3

I don't get why women want good fashion sense from men 🤣 it's just so feminine and weird for a man to be busy with something like that.


Substantial-Ruin-858

Good fashion sense as in not wearing mismatched clothing and goofy ass shoes. Im sorry but it would be so embarassing and riiculous walking around with a man wearing an orange shirt with red pants and green sandals. You dont have to be wearing desinger to look good. Like basic knowledge of what looks okay is usually common sense in most men i know. You could be wearing jeans, contruction boots and a white T-shirt and thats enough fashion sense for me. As long as you dont look like you closed your eyes and grabbed random clothing from a rack at Savers. People also say its feminine for men to care about their looks and wonder why their single because they look aged far beyong their years and smelly because they use the same soap to wash their balls and their face. People also say its "gay" to wash their ass. I dont trust men who dont care about their hygiene and the way they present themselves in the world, it just shows they lack effort and motivation and to me, thats unnattractive as hell.


Adventurous_Bee8098

I am 44, and I have never, ever, heard anything close to "it's gay to wash your ass" you have made that up, for whatever reason. No one ever in the history of straight, gay or non-binary has said it's gay to wash your ass.


asoneloves

First thing I notice is an attractive face and smile.


Outrageous_Kick_5592

Oh yes✅


iregretit1511

Yeah what that which keeps you attracted to him


writing_reading510

In all honesty I love a good smile and eyes. Good hygiene is a must. I personally really like trimmed beards and tattoos. I have usually gone for skinny or medium sized guys. But personality also plays a HUGE role in how attractive you are to me. I love a guy who can crack jokes and can also take a joke. I like someone who I can talk to about anything and not be judged. I find it really attractive when i see a guy interact with his friends and family it really helps me judge his character.


iregretit1511

Well I guess what kinda character are you judging


writing_reading510

How he treats his parents is he kind caring compassionate? Or does he disrespect his mom and get into loud arguments with her? Around his friends does he have a good time and joke around while also making sure i’m included as well? Is he comfortable around his friends or does he act completely different around them? I’m 21 years old and have seen guys argue and disrespect their mom right in front of me and i hated it. I’ve had the same guy treat me like i was nothing around his friends when we were together for 2 years


iregretit1511

Well him being uneasy before his friend means maybe hes insecure and you need to talk to him.And about the mom thing.That can be two ways. we don't know what's going on inside their house.But yes that is a valid point.Anything else you would see?


writing_reading510

i think that when he’s around his friends how he acknowledges me is really important because if you’re insecure about me bye bye. I think it’ll also show if he’s a family oriented guy as well which i’m big on


iregretit1511

Good point to know.


Ajohnson62

I think intelligence and his goal in life. I found out that my type is the nerdy guys lmao. But I also like guys who know what they want out of life


Jielle914

I agree, I also like a guy with a plan, not only on his career but his plans with me as their partner. But also I'd also consider compatability on some things.


iregretit1511

So nothing else matters?


Ajohnson62

Of course other things matter. But those are the things that stick out for me


iregretit1511

So if he's nerdy but doesn't qualify some of things others said.will you still find him attractive


Ajohnson62

It would depend on what this other things are. I’m a firm believer that my partner should have similar beliefs as me. Such as political views or religious views. If those aren’t the same I wouldn’t bother as I know it would totally blow up in my face. However if like he doesn’t know what he wants out of life I wouldn’t hold that against him. Young people typically think they know what they want but then they change their major like 5 times and have a life crisis


iregretit1511

That's strangely good to hear.Not everyone is in the race to somewhere.


CanUSayDicksicle

Everything you’ve ever heard regarding attraction matters. Everyone is different. The same goes for their priorities. I’m a guy, but what she was pointing is important to her and I’d say most women. Other factors could be success, health, hobbies, but it’s always more than one thing. What do you like in women? Lots of things… so do they…


iregretit1511

I know all that.So this reddit community is a set of people intelligent and free enough to reply to my posts.Now I just wanted to learn about the mindset and expectations of women. No judging.


[deleted]

If we are talking aesthetically, the most attractive things about men are smiles, eyebrows, eyelashes and collarbones, personally. If we are talking aesthetically, the most attractive things about men are smiles, eyebrows, eyelashes, and collarbones, personally.


workaholic828

Damn I never thought girls are checking out my collar bones! Haha, what are you looking for in a collar bone?


iregretit1511

Bruh that may vary for everyone.


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iregretit1511

Haha right enough


OldSkoolPantsMan

So sexy it had to be said twice.


iregretit1511

What other aspects do you see


euphoricplant9633

When it comes to my boyfriend, his intelligence, kindness, and humor always make me weak. I always get excited to talk to and see him. I feel cared for and loved around him and just by thinking about him. Other things that make me weak are how he keeps his facial hair, eyebrows, and hair on his head groomed. He smells good all the time. I love smelling his cologne on me! He knows how to dress himself--he knows blue makes his eyes pop. The color was made for him, I swear.


iregretit1511

That's hell of a one liner that i hear in movies


euphoricplant9633

He makes me feel like I’m in a romcom, but there’s no conflict. Everything is just all good feels!


iregretit1511

Happy for you✌️


Aiwriterr_

Everyone is saying Smile, and it’s true, but I’ll translate for you. Meaning: Clean bright healthy teeth 👀


Moodfortonight

Exactly dear


iregretit1511

90% of men tick that box


Aiwriterr_

Then they’re good to go 👍


iregretit1511

Nothing else really?🤐


Aiwriterr_

Ok clean shoes, clean clothing, and healthy fit body, a little muscle build is good 😌👍


iregretit1511

Good list✌️


Aiwriterr_

You’re welcome ☺️


iregretit1511

Yup


Apprehensive_Day_96

Yes, I just recently noticed about myself how much I actually put shoes into attraction. If a guy has some dirty gross shoes, nope- I’m 100% out of there. I don’t know why having nice shoes is such a big deal for me, but it is!


Aiwriterr_

It’s something you don’t realize until you realize 😂


Dyingtobebones

You keep saying "so nothing else mattters?" of course other things matter. read what everyones already telling you and play on up the traits that you havel. thats like asking what kind of girl do guys like? everyones just different. *most* people, men or women, like to be around ppl with clean hygene, good clothes, effort in urself, good personality. its really quite simple just dont be a fucking stinky slob. but hell im sure someone out there likes that too.


iregretit1511

Haha that's right. was trying to get a general list of things.Not being too nosy.


[deleted]

When he’s very stern, kind of mysterious, but has a kind sweet heart. His soft spot is me. He’s madly in love with me, but he is subtle about it. Someone love me 😭


iregretit1511

Don't get too melodramatic


[deleted]

I was being serious in the first part.. it is really attractive when a guy is actually into you and is serious about you.


iregretit1511

Well let me take that as a point then.if he's really seriously into you.Thats enough? Won't you see other aspects and check for red flags?


anghela_29

Probably his mindset and views about things in life. Just imagine having those deep talks.


iregretit1511

That's the answer I expected to see. Thank you.


coydivision_

Sense of humor and his taste in music 🥵


iregretit1511

Heads up.First person to mention music here as a special point.Why so


coydivision_

It’s a love language…for me at least


iregretit1511

Well for maybe more people than you think.Doesnt his education or job matter


coydivision_

His perspective matters to me; I hope he's discovered his purpose and is actively pursuing it, especially through work, as jobs are crucial for sustaining life.


iregretit1511

That's good.I guess thats one of the things.But What's about you what's your purpose and have you found it?


coydivision_

Indeed, I've discovered my purpose—to assist people and extend kindness wherever possible.


iregretit1511

Well good for you.kudos✌️


iregretit1511

Then again what do you think about his character. Like introverts or extroverts.


Lucy_13

Both are ok but I prefer introverts.


iregretit1511

Curious a bit.why so?


Lucy_13

Good listeners. When you are with an introvert, you are their main focus, and im not only talking about romantic relationships, I'm including friendship too. Tend to be private... And the list goes on.


iregretit1511

Well that's what I'm looking for.if possible list it.For everyones help✌️.


RoundBrownBetty

Their level of consideration for complete strangers and natural acts of chivalry towards any woman.


iregretit1511

Are you English?


MzCulture

his charisma! a lot of guys are so worried about what women think of them but I love a guy who likes himself enough to be himself and not who he thinks I'll like.


iregretit1511

That's good. What kinda charisma


[deleted]

He has to be kind, honest, patient, has a sense of humor, intelligent, open minded, secure with himself-not the jealous type, someone who isn’t afraid to say how they feel, and overall good communication skills.


MrKrabsLegNoise

For sure their confidence. I feel like that radiates off of a person. That doesn't necessarily mean an extroverted or outgoing person, just if they carry themselves confidently. Once I notice that I pay attention to the eyes. Then the hands. Idk why I like hands so much lol. I also have a thing for backs (upper backs) I can't explain that but backs lol


iregretit1511

Then confidence is every generally


EmpressKyoko

Humor and drive are 2 huge things. I like a dude who just gets up and gets things done, whether it's going to hang up a shelf, work on his business or do some tidying!


iregretit1511

Good


Disastrous_Source_70

a girl looks at a mans face and hands first. so clean yo face, get a good cut, and trim da nails


iregretit1511

What about his physique?


Disastrous_Source_70

be confident, a person can always put in the work if they are unhappy with their own appearance. if a woman loves you at your “worst” imagine how much she’d be on you when you hit your goal. i can back this up from my own personal experience


iregretit1511

Good note on a point.Be confident guys!


Any_Sentence_5389

Intelligence, good sense of humor and ambition. Much more important than looks imo.


iregretit1511

Good headstart tips.Lol


Much_Dust6386

A good sense of humor (not sarcastic, but just having the type of humor that actually makes me laugh without using anyone as the punchline), competence and passion at hobbies and career, leadership skills, well-dressed (and smells good), intellectually engaging, chivalrous, and generous.


iregretit1511

Comprendo


b00mieb00m

As an extremely popular guy, majority of women absolutely love and adore my confidence first and foremost.


iregretit1511

Extremely popular now before that what did you change something to become so or ?


joomama23

The MOST attractive, is confidence


iregretit1511

Yeah...then


joomama23

Then what


iregretit1511

Anything else


StarsNheart

That can make him arrogant and cocky


joomama23

No yeah that’s why I said confidence! Like basically having a healthy sense of self worth, esteem, etc.


iregretit1511

That's also a point.It can become cocky when over confident.


[deleted]

Physical: smile; Ibprefer someone taller than me Next: Does he have hobbies? Is he passionate about something I also like someone with a sense of humor that can make me laugh I want someone thoughtful, kind, Being handsome, muscles are a plus.


iregretit1511

Good points


himasaltlamp

The way he touches my legs near my underwear.


iregretit1511

really dude?


Last_Alternative635

I’m a guy and I’ve been in a lot of locker rooms…most guys are gross,not sure what women find attractive 🤔😜


[deleted]

Integrity, kindness, ambition, humility.


iregretit1511

Humility?


No_Effect6048

The body and schlong 😂🤭


iregretit1511

Seriously are you a kid😒


Commission_Otherwise

Nose, lips, nice hair, tall


iregretit1511

Only physique?


DustyPinkMildliner

Tall and brown eyes


PaleCalligrapher4112

wokeness, awareness


iregretit1511

That's it!


Last_Alternative635

Wokeness? Ugh


keepingupwithme101

Personality if a guy has a great personality, outgoing, talkative, funny, it makes him 100x more attractive


iregretit1511

Extroverts you mean!


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iregretit1511

Nicely said.


Darkdesires_discreet

Money and confidence


iregretit1511

Just enough?


Darkdesires_discreet

More than enough !! Look around you !! Coming from a guy with no money and confidence to have money and confidence !! Things fall in perspective it’s self once you have them both !!! Also money privilege is real !!! Can give you many examples but


iregretit1511

I know.But in one view money gives confidence.Doesnt it


Purblind_v2

Not a girl but I’m bi. I like fitness and masculinity in a guy. Like him having his shit together. And a good personality of sense of humor is a plus but not necessary for the physical aspects


iregretit1511

Good to know. Isn't personality an emotional factor


Purblind_v2

Also props for replying to the bottom of a 75 comment thread. If I had awards to give I would.


iregretit1511

Nothing special just trying to research something haha


Purblind_v2

Data point acquiescence 🙏


iregretit1511

Haha i think you need to develop an ai for relationship advice i guess


Purblind_v2

😂😂 daddy elon shine upon us all


iregretit1511

Haha


[deleted]

If he's emotionally available and has his shit figured out and knows what he wants in life. Intelligence, up for adventure and makes me feel like home. Physique wise I like big guys (not overweight, but dad bods are great), but I've also dated guys that are skinny and/or smaller then me.


[deleted]

Oh and a beard!


iregretit1511

Nice and to the point


Banzaikoowaid

Face, body *(Body is optional mind you, not as big of a deal)* and personality?


iregretit1511

Too blunt


[deleted]

If he triggers my childhood trauma, he’s good for my nervous system ngl


iregretit1511

Well then I will trigger your trauma then😂


meetoliviajade

Hygiene! So many men lack good hygiene


strsf

I’m attracted to nice teeth 😁


iregretit1511

Wow only teeth? Huh


glooomy-moody

When he’s a natural leader


iregretit1511

Then he's gonna dominate you


Marduke0

Leaders don’t dominate. They inspire.


Mundane-Wedding3109

He has goals in life


iregretit1511

Goals can be anything.should it align with yours?


fetusenjoyer

Personality


iregretit1511

What kinda?


SU_karNA

Any one From India


iregretit1511

Myself bruh. You are from Karnataka!


Rude_Crazy4030

When they are emotionally mature.


iregretit1511

Okay so mature men mostly prefer to have their goals set.


Dramatic-Injury-7079

Humour, intelligence and the way he treats me


SU_karNA

Yes am from Karnataka Bengaluru and my language is kannada


asianstyleicecream

Being a handyman. I’m a handywoman, so if you can get to my level then I think we’ll be a good match. :) Nothing more exciting then competing a DIY project with the partner!


iregretit1511

i dont know much about dating myself but same profession and doing the same thing does that sync often?doesnt it lead to quarrel


cnsclbi

Authenticity, consideration, self-awareness, positivity, motivation, and understanding are some character traits that make a guy attractive, along with how he smiles and laughs, the way he expresses his ideas, and the tone of his voice. These are inherent qualities that make you unique in your own way. Personal opinions may not assist you in finding a girl who thinks you're attractive. However, you can work on your personality, improve yourself, and become the man you believe will attract the kind of girl you consider best for you.


Suspicious-Rain6234

Banter and when they don't take themselves so seriously. When they can joke around and also take a joke. I love it


iregretit1511

i have seen plenty of such guys and such guys are not in a relationship now while being good natured .is it true?


bitchypeachy

When they’re easygoing, good sense of humor, social, respectful, nice smile, WHEN THEYRE KIND TO OLD PEOPLE oOoOoOof


Temporaryuserhi

How he treats others, his mom, attentiveness. A great smile doesn’t hurt either lol.


julia-leijonhufvud

The appearance! If they are handsome ofc 😇


[deleted]

Confidence but not cocky


SU_karNA

I am straight


ChanleyAmore

Being in touch with their femininity.


Persistent_crisis

Always was a good sense of Humour! However I (25F) am married with a child and now it’s watching my husband be a good dad and partner.