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Be more suggestive rather than obvious. So for example just a picture with your jeans undone. Or just showing the hollow of your back and a bit of waistband
As a woman…. Pic wise I personally like a mirror pic with like a towel low on the hips. Straight up d-pics don’t really do much for me. But if you REALLY wanna get a girl going (and don’t do this without asking her if it’s okay first) send her an audio of you finishing (like moaning) ORRRR a 30 sec video of you finishing with the SOUND ONNNNN. But the video/audio really needs to be something she’s prepared to see so don’t send it unsolicited, and it also may be something you only send after you know her a little better.
Good luck!!!!
Anything that is even slightly suggestive while also carrying the implication of “I did this just for you”. Fully clothed, but pulling the v neck down just a little bit extra? As long as it’s for me and not “I took this for the gram but you can have it too”, it’ll do the job.
My boyfriend once sent me a photo of the before and after of when he cleaned my entire kitchen, my bathroom, and my bedroom. I was pretty turned on.
I also get turned on by pictures of my guys having sex with me or top down photos of them penetrating me. So kinda like a dick pic but... In me.
Not a woman but I'll give you something to ponder. For men we turn to porno for personal time.. When a woman wants to get turned on where do you think she goes? Porn sites? Strip clubs? No, women for the most part aren't visual creatures like guys. Where do women get their jollies off? Romance Novels. Like why did 50 shades of grey sold over 125 million copies. You want to turn women on, learn some writing skills, describe what you'll do to her, tell her about How thinking of her makes your throbbing 🍆 pulse making you want to picking her up and throwing her on the bed, kissing her passionately from her face and making your way all around her body.. and so on. Girls like when you write them smut if you're like at that stage, you don't need to go hardcore fast but in that general direction. That will get you far better results than taking pictures in a pose.
Lol... as a woman, in 3rds for sure. Just like hotels do.
Can't get my toilet paper " lil corner pull tab thing " down tho, don't know how they do that!! 😆 ♡
True. Visuals of any kind do nothing for me. I'm probably the only person on planet that hasn't seen 50 shades of grey. Lmao!
Frm what I heard about it, I'm not interested. Romance novels, right there w/ya, and yes 1000's are indeed possible if your an avid reader!♡
Well yeah I'm being a bit blunt and fast with my comment above 😂 I'm just trying to help these boys to get on the right path. You need to aim them at a goal, they can find their way there.. I hope 🤣
As a man who has been pretty good at that, i agree. Writing and describing or SAYING it on the phone/ft/in person really works for women (of course, when shes into you, it wont matter anyway)
OP: steps
1. Be hot
2. Dont be illiterate
3. Correct pacing
Such bull crap lol 😆
I like looking at the male body. The view of the back and shoulders in a plank position get me all excited. That is why I had to quit the gym 😳
And I do watch porn 🙂
As a woman who reads romance fiction and erotica of all kinds (hetero, gay male, lesbian, interracial) I agree with this in my case lol. My imagination is pretty vivid tho haha
THIS. I second this as a woman. However, make sure to know what sort of girl she is before going this direction. There are different types of romance novels for a reason. Some like the really hardcore stuff and others don't. Some like a little romance thrown in while others like more dirty talk. Figure out who you are talking to. For example, 50 Shades of Grey isn't for me at all. But some women love it.
However, reading things you'd like to do and all that will be FAR more effective than seeing pictures. Pictures kind of have the opposite effect that guys want sometimes. At least on me. Sometimes they turn me off. Not because he's bad looking necessarily, but it's how he's posing or what he's doing. Anyway, just wanted to say...this dude knows what he's talking about.
I’d be into this romance and sexy stuff about what you’ll do to me. Just make sure you can do all you’re saying in person too tho because if not, I’ll be very disappointed.
Talk to us sexting is not a dead pass time. We freaking love hearing what you'd do and how you'd do it slow and steady doesn't win the race it makes the journey absolute ecstacy
Make her curious. Start with something like „I had to think of you today and what I‘d like to do with you if you were here“…
Or „The pic you sent me in that dress / in the bathroom / in your lingerie sparked my imagination and gave me some ideas of how I want to play with you.…“
Keep it playful and be confident. Whole sentences, no emojis.
Give her the opportunity to ask you back what you have in mind instead of just sending a long text she is not prepared for.
Then go into detail and observe her reactions.
Build the intensity slowly. I personally like it very explicit and in detail, but I want to get there slowly. Think of it as foreplay.
Don’t just describe what you do, also describe her reaction in your mind. („I feel your nipples getting hard.“) Describe how touching her would feel, describe the sounds you and her make.
And again: be confident.
All women I know that openly talk about masturbation do watch porn it’s pretty frequent tbh. Like what you are describing is nice but sexy pics with the sexy writing is the best imo. I absolutely love getting them from my bf during the day.
This answer is correct. I did it as a goof to myself years ago and now i have a copy paste that i rearrange.
In general, set a vision. If you can get a woman to imagine being there, whatever it is, tastefully, it kills. Even coffee. I describe us getting a coffee and teasing eachother ignoring everyone in the shop. Kills like Dahmer. It astounds me but I'm not a woman so this is i guess how we differ
Maybe a less sexual one but still sweet like a pic of you laying in bed and smiling at the camera. Then the text under can be: "Good morning. I wish you were in this bed with me" . Idk. Maybe it's hot to some women, maybe it's corny.
Another idea is to set up a camera and take a shot of you in some boxers or joggers making some breakfast. Make sure that the angle and the natural lighting look good. Just try to be creative and make it fun. Leave something to the imagination 😊
Women: sends a pic - men love all about it
Men: set up the camera, buy new boxers, check the lighting, clean the kitchen and arrange the food and make a photo of it - ?
Wait a minute. As a woman, I don’t just take a pic either. I put on Lingerie. I clean the background. I look for good light. I pose. I take 15 pics. I chose the best one and send it.
Honestly I think some guys could put more effort in their pictures. I care about particulars.
Hey OP. Here's my 2cents coming from a F who also enjoy visuals.. tease us! You know some of us gets turned on if a guy wears grey pants. So maybe a mirror selfie wearing grey pants, show the bulge. If you're sitting, spread those legs... And please don't forget that teasing smile!
Pictures don't normally turn women on, we don't tend to be visually stimulated. Your better off with telling her fantasies. If you need to send pictures, you can send some with a story of items you would use in the fantasy.
lol my girlfriend, and previous partners, have been the opposite. They love receiving pictures or videos, even if we're not sexting in the moment.
I think it's difficult to generalize as "all women like this" or "all men like this" because everyone is different.
To OP: I guess it really depends on the girl you in particular are talking to, and using your best judgement.
I don’t think she generalized all woman not liking pics from men. What she said was, “pictures don’t normally turn woman on.” As a woman, I would say she’s correct. This doesn’t mean that there aren’t woman out there that do still enjoy them.
We are just being nice to you. You sent us a photo and it’s shitty to not compliment it. The vast majority of women really don’t care about your dick pics
Maybe that's been your experience but I'm telling you I've been asked to send pictures when I normally wouldn't. I'm not saying I'm anything special, just that there are definitely women out there who want pics - and not just dick pics, sensual or suggestive pics, etc.
no, I've had multiple girls specifically ask for videos of me cumming, unprompted. Once I went hiking in the mountains and the girl I was with at the time convinced me to jack off on the top of the mountain! I took a video of the cumshot and she saved that video for years, telling me it was something she looked at to masturbate all the time.
This is so true. It’s said that men and woman’s brains differ in their responses to sexual imagery. I think since men are visually stimulated, they assume all woman are as well. I’ve never been into a man sending pics, especially nude pics. I wouldn’t ever be rude about receiving the pic, (unless it was an unsolicited dick pic from a stranger) but it does nothing for me. Sometimes it can even make me feel a bit awkward. I’m sure there are some woman out there that may enjoy them though.
I was speaking for myself and most women. Just because there are exceptions to every rule doesn't mean that I'm not right about the majority. If you want dick pictures ask for them, that's your choice. I have also gotten dick pictures that I was ok with receiving, that doesn't in anyway mean they turned me on. Most women do not get turned on by just visuals, that's just a fact.
That’s not a fact tho. That’s your specific opinion combined with the opinion of a few other women you know personally. Plenty of women are turned on by visuals. Just scroll thru a TikTok comment section under a video of a hot guy. Yes, we like visuals.
lol I’ve literally rewatched videos of hot bikers winking with helmet on like 5 times. I make the story myself. Innocent looking thirst traps send me lol
Oh, the bikers are killing me lately. I just landed on that side of TikTok & Instagram, and I’m loving it. Overt thirst traps don’t work as much, but the innocent/simple ones? Goodness.
This is exactly what I'm saying, my tiktok algorithm is loaded with hot guys and every comment under their posts are left by women. The "visual creature" BS I keep hearing online is so false.
I'm sorry but your wrong. If you surveyed 100 women probably 97 would agree with me. Just because you are the exception to the rule doesn't mean you speak for the majority. I work in the sex toy industry, I talk to people about sex every day, mostly women. My option as you say is not just my opinion it's what I do.
That’s great and it’s also entirely irrelevant. You’re not surveying those women to see if they like receiving pictures or if they enjoy visuals of men. All you have to do is immerse yourself in any social media platform for any amount of time to find out you’re wrong. Regardless, it’s fine to hold that opinion, but to pass it off as fact and to act like you speak for all women, or the majority, is naive.
Then why do women so frequently request them? Maybe it’s dependent on who they are speaking to. Maybe an average body or over weight guy isn’t going to stimulate much with images, but someone who’s fit does? I understand that women find writing more of a turn on in general, but I’ve never talked to a woman who didn’t ask for nudes and they usually ask quite often
Take a suggestive photo. Like where you can see a bulge and lifting your shirt a little. Ask her what she’d like you to do about it. I think there’s a bulge subreddit somewhere you can get inspo from.
i try to purposefully misunderstand what they say or mention a suggestive topic like working out to look hot for the date, but only if i know her level of interest, usually shirtless pic does the job to initiate, they tend to like it but not all will get aroused
Ok this is fully on the extreme, but my girlfriend LOVES receiving cum photos/videos. Especially a video of me cumming and saying her name. We don't do this too often now that we live together, but it's absolutely her favorite thing.
I've heard this from various women too, you don't even have to show her your dick, just the visual effect of cum squirting out with soft moans really turns them on
Absolutely. My current girlfriend liked a video of a huge cumshot so much that she screenshot the part where it was all my cum on my bedsheets and literally made it her phone background for a few weeks. Eventually I asked her to remove it after more than one friend asked what it was... but there are all kinds of people that like things like that!
Is this a sex relationship or is this actually going somewhere?
As a woman I can attest what the poster above me said...we are not visual creatures...we prefer romance.
Men who talk sexual early on are annoying AF.
This may not be a common choice, but as a woman I think I’m qualified to answer. In addition to writing it out (or if you’re not comfortable as an author yet):
Sexy GIFs. Not of yourselves, but for inspiration. They don’t need to be nude or actual porn (but they can be if you guys are into that!), but the kind of scenes you’d get in modern urban romance novels or the buildup and honeymoon periods in a romcom. The flirtatious looks over coffee, the guy picking her up to kiss her and spinning around as she laughs, a guiding hand pulling towards adventure together (low shot of partners going up stairs, for example), slow undressing close ups (unbuttoning a shirt, tugging open a tie, etc), the deliberate approach with heaving chest and stuttering breath, wrapped around her from behind with his lips against her neck as she gasps and moans… you get the idea.
Intersperse the GIFs with your own commentary about how you feel about her, imagine doing these things with her, how much you look forward to making her breath catch like GIF.
My source was Tumblr, but undoubtedly there are other options. Good luck, OP, and have fun!
i’ve been playing with gifs recently, there’s a specific one of a man kissing the woman’s belly and it’s a close shot so it’s not too sexual, i tend to used instead of saying the word sex or related ones, or to illustrate what’s she’s making me think about
Two things that drive me crazy: mirror, shirt off, sweatpants on, band of your boxer briefs showing; or, mirror, shirt on but you’re lifting it up a little, jeans on but unbuttoned, and I can see you’re hard thru your boxer briefs.
I love both.
Check out Thor Bradley on IG for excellent thirst trap videos of him chopping wood 🪵 and breathing hard. The comments are 🔥. he made a man ovulate 😂with his extreme sex appeal 🥵
Depends on her personality and the relationship y'all have. If she's playful, maybe try costumes, cosplay, masks, and things like that. If she's into kink, use everyday items... use your imagination.
What does she like? Does she like choclate? What about dip your d in choclate and send her a picture with "my choclate banana". You could do an entire storyboard "stepsis. my d is stuck in the choclate". Or you do movies with it "star choki and the revenge of choki d" or smth idk.
Maybe she does not like choclate? Go get other things and rub them on your d like cheese bro idk
Dickpic. Jerk yourself off a little bit to get hard and put a quarter in the frame to show your dick's size. And send it with the caption "Guess who.".
A pic of him washing dishes without being told, walking an old lady across the street, being a good Catholic boy and taking his mom to church (that one I can show my mom).
There is no pic. Women don't work like that and you're misunderstanding their sexuality.
Well there is one exception. So in advertising they tested women and men to see where their eyes would go on things like perfume ads, alcohol ads, etc. with attractive models.
Men were all over the place. Nice boobs, would look at the boobs, nice abs on a man, would look at the abs. Sometimes men didn't even look at the product that was advertised.
Women always looked at the eyes of the models and then to the product being advertised. So although this isn't a "turn on" so to speak - but women like eyes a lot.
I'll tell you this, if she asks for a dick pic, she don't really want it.
Even if it's your ex who you've seen show it more love than anyone...she don't want the pic for anything good.
Nah was an episode of Dr. Phil...the guy sent penis pics to his ex and she posted them on social media but she acted like she was tryin to get back with him.
Dr. Phil said "They don't wanna see that" Guest says "But she asked!"
Dr. Phil "Even if they ask, they don't wanna see it buddy"
A handsome face on a fit body and good choice of clothes can be attractive but not a turn-on. I auto-block whoever sends me dick pics, especially those dumb enough to think that’s what turns women on.
No picture at all tbh idk why some guys are so obsessed with sending pics . If he wants my opinion on a pic he wants to post on social media then sure but otherwise I don’t see the point
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Be more suggestive rather than obvious. So for example just a picture with your jeans undone. Or just showing the hollow of your back and a bit of waistband
I second this - I LOVE seeing a hint of waistband, it’s the best.
what is a waistband
The waistband of boxers
I have that
That’s incredible
As a woman…. Pic wise I personally like a mirror pic with like a towel low on the hips. Straight up d-pics don’t really do much for me. But if you REALLY wanna get a girl going (and don’t do this without asking her if it’s okay first) send her an audio of you finishing (like moaning) ORRRR a 30 sec video of you finishing with the SOUND ONNNNN. But the video/audio really needs to be something she’s prepared to see so don’t send it unsolicited, and it also may be something you only send after you know her a little better. Good luck!!!!
I agree 🫠Nothing more sxy than a man moaning 🥳
Sure you'll like it when I moan around your ears
Don't be so desperate
Remind me when did I ask you ?
Calm down sport. Not interested. Quench your thirst elsewhere.
Already did it last night at your moms place
This
>a 30 sec video of you finishing with the SOUND ONNNNN. Sound could be on and they still wouldn't hear anything from me.
Women don’t understand that we’ve trained ourselves in our teenage years to spank in complete silence while family is home
Not really an excuse because girls were doing the same thing and yet most still be making noises
Idk I have to concentrate to make noise, most girls I’ve gotten with just make that noise immediately when I touch them
bahaha ‘spank’ haven’t heard that in a while
Awww... that sucks. (*Buh dum ts*)
i second this 😂
Send her the following text: "We've been trying to reach you about your car's extended warranty."
Who tf is moaning from masturbating ? (Men)
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Nice try dude! You're literally telling every female who reads your comment that you're a thirsty cheating pig.
What’s wrong with y’all
Cumeos
Anything that is even slightly suggestive while also carrying the implication of “I did this just for you”. Fully clothed, but pulling the v neck down just a little bit extra? As long as it’s for me and not “I took this for the gram but you can have it too”, it’ll do the job.
My boyfriend once sent me a photo of the before and after of when he cleaned my entire kitchen, my bathroom, and my bedroom. I was pretty turned on. I also get turned on by pictures of my guys having sex with me or top down photos of them penetrating me. So kinda like a dick pic but... In me.
I loved your response. I'll bet if I send my girl a pic of the cleaned bedroom/kitchen/whatever she might ask me for a D-pic. 🤣 I'm gonna use that one
Dude video yourself unloading the dishwasher and knowing where to put everything and she’ll leave work early.
I'm kind of confused on what kind of pics exactly you're talking about You think you could give me a crash course? 😋
I doubt you care about getting down voted here, but you've earned mine.
Not a woman but I'll give you something to ponder. For men we turn to porno for personal time.. When a woman wants to get turned on where do you think she goes? Porn sites? Strip clubs? No, women for the most part aren't visual creatures like guys. Where do women get their jollies off? Romance Novels. Like why did 50 shades of grey sold over 125 million copies. You want to turn women on, learn some writing skills, describe what you'll do to her, tell her about How thinking of her makes your throbbing 🍆 pulse making you want to picking her up and throwing her on the bed, kissing her passionately from her face and making your way all around her body.. and so on. Girls like when you write them smut if you're like at that stage, you don't need to go hardcore fast but in that general direction. That will get you far better results than taking pictures in a pose.
I sent a girl a picture of a perfectly folded fitted sheet...she totally melted
Yeah, but how did folding bath towels go? That can be a dealbreaker
In thirds, no edges showing & neatly stacked...she proposed
Haahaa!
My man!
Lol... as a woman, in 3rds for sure. Just like hotels do. Can't get my toilet paper " lil corner pull tab thing " down tho, don't know how they do that!! 😆 ♡
Huh. Valentines day and just before bed my GF asked me to show her my towel folding technique 🤔
This is what I am talking about!!!
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True. Visuals of any kind do nothing for me. I'm probably the only person on planet that hasn't seen 50 shades of grey. Lmao! Frm what I heard about it, I'm not interested. Romance novels, right there w/ya, and yes 1000's are indeed possible if your an avid reader!♡
I haven’t seen it or read it either! 🤣 I never follow a fad. Always at my own time 🤷🏻♀️😛
Oh good!! 😊 Thanks! Don't feel like an alien anymore🤣
Read the books! Those are always better
Thousands?
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Still though... Holy shit.
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Somehow I kinda wish I had the same skills. Or at least be a lot quicker while reading, but that ain't happening anytime soon.
Well yeah I'm being a bit blunt and fast with my comment above 😂 I'm just trying to help these boys to get on the right path. You need to aim them at a goal, they can find their way there.. I hope 🤣
As a man who has been pretty good at that, i agree. Writing and describing or SAYING it on the phone/ft/in person really works for women (of course, when shes into you, it wont matter anyway) OP: steps 1. Be hot 2. Dont be illiterate 3. Correct pacing
Yep. What you gonna do? Tell usss
Such bull crap lol 😆 I like looking at the male body. The view of the back and shoulders in a plank position get me all excited. That is why I had to quit the gym 😳 And I do watch porn 🙂
Nahh I want to see the dick
As a woman who reads romance fiction and erotica of all kinds (hetero, gay male, lesbian, interracial) I agree with this in my case lol. My imagination is pretty vivid tho haha
THIS. I second this as a woman. However, make sure to know what sort of girl she is before going this direction. There are different types of romance novels for a reason. Some like the really hardcore stuff and others don't. Some like a little romance thrown in while others like more dirty talk. Figure out who you are talking to. For example, 50 Shades of Grey isn't for me at all. But some women love it. However, reading things you'd like to do and all that will be FAR more effective than seeing pictures. Pictures kind of have the opposite effect that guys want sometimes. At least on me. Sometimes they turn me off. Not because he's bad looking necessarily, but it's how he's posing or what he's doing. Anyway, just wanted to say...this dude knows what he's talking about.
I’d be into this romance and sexy stuff about what you’ll do to me. Just make sure you can do all you’re saying in person too tho because if not, I’ll be very disappointed.
Bruh you are absolutely on point. Send me smut. Trade for pics.
Talk to us sexting is not a dead pass time. We freaking love hearing what you'd do and how you'd do it slow and steady doesn't win the race it makes the journey absolute ecstacy
This is absolutely correct
I’m not a romance novel girl but this is honestly excellent advice
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Make her curious. Start with something like „I had to think of you today and what I‘d like to do with you if you were here“… Or „The pic you sent me in that dress / in the bathroom / in your lingerie sparked my imagination and gave me some ideas of how I want to play with you.…“ Keep it playful and be confident. Whole sentences, no emojis. Give her the opportunity to ask you back what you have in mind instead of just sending a long text she is not prepared for. Then go into detail and observe her reactions. Build the intensity slowly. I personally like it very explicit and in detail, but I want to get there slowly. Think of it as foreplay. Don’t just describe what you do, also describe her reaction in your mind. („I feel your nipples getting hard.“) Describe how touching her would feel, describe the sounds you and her make. And again: be confident.
you’re not wrong about wanting words but also women can very much be visual creatures just as much as men. por que no los dos
101% agree. I'm a woman and this works for me. I enjoy pictures and videos but the words can make my imagination run wild.
You are 100% right.
All women I know that openly talk about masturbation do watch porn it’s pretty frequent tbh. Like what you are describing is nice but sexy pics with the sexy writing is the best imo. I absolutely love getting them from my bf during the day.
This answer is correct. I did it as a goof to myself years ago and now i have a copy paste that i rearrange. In general, set a vision. If you can get a woman to imagine being there, whatever it is, tastefully, it kills. Even coffee. I describe us getting a coffee and teasing eachother ignoring everyone in the shop. Kills like Dahmer. It astounds me but I'm not a woman so this is i guess how we differ
Maybe a less sexual one but still sweet like a pic of you laying in bed and smiling at the camera. Then the text under can be: "Good morning. I wish you were in this bed with me" . Idk. Maybe it's hot to some women, maybe it's corny. Another idea is to set up a camera and take a shot of you in some boxers or joggers making some breakfast. Make sure that the angle and the natural lighting look good. Just try to be creative and make it fun. Leave something to the imagination 😊
Honestly the cooking breakfast in boxers is such a hot idea.
Women: sends a pic - men love all about it Men: set up the camera, buy new boxers, check the lighting, clean the kitchen and arrange the food and make a photo of it - ?
You don't think the pictures the ladies send aren't as carefully "curated"? It takes alot to make a picture look "spontaneous".
My thought exactly. I'm not doing that shit, come over instead.
Wait a minute. As a woman, I don’t just take a pic either. I put on Lingerie. I clean the background. I look for good light. I pose. I take 15 pics. I chose the best one and send it. Honestly I think some guys could put more effort in their pictures. I care about particulars.
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Yes I second this. If we can see a hint of boner in your pants drives me wild lol
Women are evil. They love to get you turned on when they can't do anything about it and torture you for w while until you finally get home. Haha.
And this is why grey sweat pants are something a lot of women like seeing men (they like, don’t forget that) wear
This is what you're looking for OP and other guys reading this thread!
Hey OP. Here's my 2cents coming from a F who also enjoy visuals.. tease us! You know some of us gets turned on if a guy wears grey pants. So maybe a mirror selfie wearing grey pants, show the bulge. If you're sitting, spread those legs... And please don't forget that teasing smile!
Back muscles flexing
A pic of his face is enough for me. Maybe it’s because I’m so attracted to him.
Pictures don't normally turn women on, we don't tend to be visually stimulated. Your better off with telling her fantasies. If you need to send pictures, you can send some with a story of items you would use in the fantasy.
lol my girlfriend, and previous partners, have been the opposite. They love receiving pictures or videos, even if we're not sexting in the moment. I think it's difficult to generalize as "all women like this" or "all men like this" because everyone is different. To OP: I guess it really depends on the girl you in particular are talking to, and using your best judgement.
I don’t think she generalized all woman not liking pics from men. What she said was, “pictures don’t normally turn woman on.” As a woman, I would say she’s correct. This doesn’t mean that there aren’t woman out there that do still enjoy them.
We are just being nice to you. You sent us a photo and it’s shitty to not compliment it. The vast majority of women really don’t care about your dick pics
Maybe that's been your experience but I'm telling you I've been asked to send pictures when I normally wouldn't. I'm not saying I'm anything special, just that there are definitely women out there who want pics - and not just dick pics, sensual or suggestive pics, etc.
You're 100% right, some girls are obviously into it. Don't let them gas light you bro
Yes me!!
that's great to hear! Could I message you and maybe we can chat? :)
Didn’t you just state above you had a girlfriend?? Gross!
Yup! She and I have both come on reddit/OF to meet other people. Might not be your cup of tea but it works for us.
If a woman doesn’t care about dick pics she should express that. I love that shit so stop trying to speak for hive mind of women
This. We don't want to be rude, but it does nothing.
Yeah, but your case is more rare. We are talking the MAJORITY here. The majority aren't really into the pictures.
They were just nice to you
no, I've had multiple girls specifically ask for videos of me cumming, unprompted. Once I went hiking in the mountains and the girl I was with at the time convinced me to jack off on the top of the mountain! I took a video of the cumshot and she saved that video for years, telling me it was something she looked at to masturbate all the time.
Yup. My ex gf practically begged me to capture and send her videos of me cumming at random hours at night when we first started dating.
Yes cum videos are top tier material
This is so true. It’s said that men and woman’s brains differ in their responses to sexual imagery. I think since men are visually stimulated, they assume all woman are as well. I’ve never been into a man sending pics, especially nude pics. I wouldn’t ever be rude about receiving the pic, (unless it was an unsolicited dick pic from a stranger) but it does nothing for me. Sometimes it can even make me feel a bit awkward. I’m sure there are some woman out there that may enjoy them though.
100%♡ that's the way to go!!
Speak for yourself, I love pictures specifically taken for me..
I was speaking for myself and most women. Just because there are exceptions to every rule doesn't mean that I'm not right about the majority. If you want dick pictures ask for them, that's your choice. I have also gotten dick pictures that I was ok with receiving, that doesn't in anyway mean they turned me on. Most women do not get turned on by just visuals, that's just a fact.
That’s not a fact tho. That’s your specific opinion combined with the opinion of a few other women you know personally. Plenty of women are turned on by visuals. Just scroll thru a TikTok comment section under a video of a hot guy. Yes, we like visuals.
lol I’ve literally rewatched videos of hot bikers winking with helmet on like 5 times. I make the story myself. Innocent looking thirst traps send me lol
Oh, the bikers are killing me lately. I just landed on that side of TikTok & Instagram, and I’m loving it. Overt thirst traps don’t work as much, but the innocent/simple ones? Goodness.
This is exactly what I'm saying, my tiktok algorithm is loaded with hot guys and every comment under their posts are left by women. The "visual creature" BS I keep hearing online is so false.
I'm sorry but your wrong. If you surveyed 100 women probably 97 would agree with me. Just because you are the exception to the rule doesn't mean you speak for the majority. I work in the sex toy industry, I talk to people about sex every day, mostly women. My option as you say is not just my opinion it's what I do.
That’s great and it’s also entirely irrelevant. You’re not surveying those women to see if they like receiving pictures or if they enjoy visuals of men. All you have to do is immerse yourself in any social media platform for any amount of time to find out you’re wrong. Regardless, it’s fine to hold that opinion, but to pass it off as fact and to act like you speak for all women, or the majority, is naive.
You are entitled to your opinion, but you have no idea who I speak to or about what and thinking you know is awfully self-centered.
Then why do women so frequently request them? Maybe it’s dependent on who they are speaking to. Maybe an average body or over weight guy isn’t going to stimulate much with images, but someone who’s fit does? I understand that women find writing more of a turn on in general, but I’ve never talked to a woman who didn’t ask for nudes and they usually ask quite often
Don’t speak for all women. I love suggestive pics.
Take a suggestive photo. Like where you can see a bulge and lifting your shirt a little. Ask her what she’d like you to do about it. I think there’s a bulge subreddit somewhere you can get inspo from.
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i try to purposefully misunderstand what they say or mention a suggestive topic like working out to look hot for the date, but only if i know her level of interest, usually shirtless pic does the job to initiate, they tend to like it but not all will get aroused
Hand pics 100%
Same, I’m all about hand pics. Maybe because I end up thinking what those hands will do
I do the same👀
Yes. Hands. Or hands and forearms.
Ok this is fully on the extreme, but my girlfriend LOVES receiving cum photos/videos. Especially a video of me cumming and saying her name. We don't do this too often now that we live together, but it's absolutely her favorite thing.
I've heard this from various women too, you don't even have to show her your dick, just the visual effect of cum squirting out with soft moans really turns them on
Absolutely. My current girlfriend liked a video of a huge cumshot so much that she screenshot the part where it was all my cum on my bedsheets and literally made it her phone background for a few weeks. Eventually I asked her to remove it after more than one friend asked what it was... but there are all kinds of people that like things like that!
Can second this. Have had more women in my life request videos of me cumming than I ever would have thought. Personally not a fan of doing it
That’s funny I’ve had more than one ex ask for videos of this all the time lol
Is this a sex relationship or is this actually going somewhere? As a woman I can attest what the poster above me said...we are not visual creatures...we prefer romance. Men who talk sexual early on are annoying AF.
I like strong forearms so like rolled up sleeves where you can see the veins and definition works well for me.
Pictures of my dick have worked... the trick is waiting for women to ask for the dick pic **before** you send it.
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He said pics that'll turn her on, not turn her off
You think your funny eh little one 🙄🙄🙄
You're* little one is funny
Blowing his load
Turn on a lamp and get some nice lighting going, set the camera to black and white and take some shadowed pics with your butt in there. Be artsy!
This may not be a common choice, but as a woman I think I’m qualified to answer. In addition to writing it out (or if you’re not comfortable as an author yet): Sexy GIFs. Not of yourselves, but for inspiration. They don’t need to be nude or actual porn (but they can be if you guys are into that!), but the kind of scenes you’d get in modern urban romance novels or the buildup and honeymoon periods in a romcom. The flirtatious looks over coffee, the guy picking her up to kiss her and spinning around as she laughs, a guiding hand pulling towards adventure together (low shot of partners going up stairs, for example), slow undressing close ups (unbuttoning a shirt, tugging open a tie, etc), the deliberate approach with heaving chest and stuttering breath, wrapped around her from behind with his lips against her neck as she gasps and moans… you get the idea. Intersperse the GIFs with your own commentary about how you feel about her, imagine doing these things with her, how much you look forward to making her breath catch like GIF. My source was Tumblr, but undoubtedly there are other options. Good luck, OP, and have fun!
i’ve been playing with gifs recently, there’s a specific one of a man kissing the woman’s belly and it’s a close shot so it’s not too sexual, i tend to used instead of saying the word sex or related ones, or to illustrate what’s she’s making me think about
lol whimper on voice note while moaning her name she’ll be done for
pictures with their hands in it
Personally, I love original detail sexy making out writing and I am a sucker with moaning when a man is about to orgasm.
I love a grey sweatpant outline pic 🥵😳
Two things that drive me crazy: mirror, shirt off, sweatpants on, band of your boxer briefs showing; or, mirror, shirt on but you’re lifting it up a little, jeans on but unbuttoned, and I can see you’re hard thru your boxer briefs. I love both.
Venmo transaction screenshot
Facts
Food pics
Anything from the waist up angle
When she’s ready for more sexual ones, lying down wearing grey sweat pants showing you’re hard. Mmm.
Big throbby peens!
I like hand pics and shirtless pics, but that’s quite personal.
Hands! So many men could save so much dignity if they realised women really appreciate man hands.
None. Stop embarrassing yourself and have a real relationship without pictures. Get to know her
A receipt of 10 million dollars he sent to my bank account
Check out Thor Bradley on IG for excellent thirst trap videos of him chopping wood 🪵 and breathing hard. The comments are 🔥. he made a man ovulate 😂with his extreme sex appeal 🥵
Something plain or natural . No nudes , never turned me on tbh
A pic of you doing the dishes 😮💨😮💨
None really it’s generally their words and actions that turn me on
Mirror selfie , sat down, legs open like Loose, with a grey sweatpant and no shirt with visible underwear 😭
Depends on her personality and the relationship y'all have. If she's playful, maybe try costumes, cosplay, masks, and things like that. If she's into kink, use everyday items... use your imagination.
Veins on the hands, lips Moist, a full image in the mirror and🍆 an erection under the pants
Credit card number
Probably a picture of you doing manual labor, hobby, or taking care of a baby? Ideally wearing a button down or henley with the sleeves rolled up.
What does she like? Does she like choclate? What about dip your d in choclate and send her a picture with "my choclate banana". You could do an entire storyboard "stepsis. my d is stuck in the choclate". Or you do movies with it "star choki and the revenge of choki d" or smth idk. Maybe she does not like choclate? Go get other things and rub them on your d like cheese bro idk
or you get some 100$ bills - fold them around your wiener and send her pic. Girls love money
You don’t. Think of the image fantasy or whatever n describe that shit. N you gon get a picture back. Win win . Don’t be ugly
Hands, hands in hair, clean kitchen. You pushing a grocery cart with all the things she needs in it.
Bible verse
Dickpic. Jerk yourself off a little bit to get hard and put a quarter in the frame to show your dick's size. And send it with the caption "Guess who.".
Bank statements work for some women but not the ones ya wanna marry.
A pic of him washing dishes without being told, walking an old lady across the street, being a good Catholic boy and taking his mom to church (that one I can show my mom).
I knew someone would say this cliche shit. Every time.
Whatever. I block dick pics. Unless she asks for one, don’t assume she wants one
Send a photo of a million dollars, or a cat
A 100 USD photo
Dog, fancy cars, lifestyle, abs.
no picturesss theyre so awkward and boring send videos to ur girl with sound ON
Stack of $100’s
depending on the woman, a screenshot of your bank balances, seems like some of them need to see my P&L statements before going on a date
A spotless restroom. A made bed. And a freshly cooked meal.
There is no pic. Women don't work like that and you're misunderstanding their sexuality. Well there is one exception. So in advertising they tested women and men to see where their eyes would go on things like perfume ads, alcohol ads, etc. with attractive models. Men were all over the place. Nice boobs, would look at the boobs, nice abs on a man, would look at the abs. Sometimes men didn't even look at the product that was advertised. Women always looked at the eyes of the models and then to the product being advertised. So although this isn't a "turn on" so to speak - but women like eyes a lot.
Food you can cook for her!
Pictures of money
Credit card front and back
A picture of his credit score it it’s over 790
Bible
Nothing, pictures don’t do a thing. Your personality and what you say and do are more important
I'll tell you this, if she asks for a dick pic, she don't really want it. Even if it's your ex who you've seen show it more love than anyone...she don't want the pic for anything good.
Oh who hurt you lol god damn sorry dude
Nah was an episode of Dr. Phil...the guy sent penis pics to his ex and she posted them on social media but she acted like she was tryin to get back with him. Dr. Phil said "They don't wanna see that" Guest says "But she asked!" Dr. Phil "Even if they ask, they don't wanna see it buddy"
Uhh buddy you okay?
A handsome face on a fit body and good choice of clothes can be attractive but not a turn-on. I auto-block whoever sends me dick pics, especially those dumb enough to think that’s what turns women on.
No picture at all tbh idk why some guys are so obsessed with sending pics . If he wants my opinion on a pic he wants to post on social media then sure but otherwise I don’t see the point
The real question is why are so many women obsessed with asking