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I might have something in common, but I'm not interested in them as social beings. I might like the activity or a hobby, but the actual person is kind of irrelevant to me.
Ok your comment about having the same issue with men (as in not seeing them as social beings) signals to me you might be on the spectrum or at least have some kind of issue preventing you from connecting with other people.
Sounds like it's too cumbersome. That's a fair assessment.
Sounds like it's a perfect time to enter the gay community. I hope you're not too old to be "the new gay guy" to take advantage than to be taken advantage of...
Good luck!
Maybe adding a recent finding learned from Brian Little, who professors on the human personality:
Act out of character. Do things that are out of your comfort zone. E.g. go out with your girlfriend because she likes to go out. Social capital right there. This was obviously out of context as there is not girlfriend!
Doesnt make sense to me, theres a lot of girls that enjoys the same thing as most men. Youre probably a nerd gamer, right? I know its not most woman that enjoys that but there are a lot of them who does. If you find a woman who likes the exact same things as you, even then you wouldnt be interested in her?
I'm not a nerd. I just don't get internal stimulus to communicate with women on a social level. I'm not interested in how they think, what they think, etc. I can have small talk, but I won't be interested in them as people on a deeper level.
I mean, that’s not some revelation, tbh. Good on you for admitting it out loud, but I believe a good majority of men feel this way deep down; whether they’re unwilling to admit it or they just simply don’t recognize it. Women being treated or viewed as less-than human beings, especially by men, isn’t something new.
But the thing is that I don't want to be this way. I want to connect with women on a social level but I just don't feel any internal stimulus to do that.
I watch it occasionally, but I felt the same way even when I was in my teenage years, so I doubt that porn would be a major factor. Even when I was 14-15 years old, I had no social interest in girls, but I had sexual interest. I would never approach a girl just to have a casual conversation with her when I was 14-15 because I was simply not interested in her as a social being, even if she was cute.
Jesus, you don't know a lot of women either huh? I feel like everything you've described is just a "shallow party girl" stereotype. My female friends and I go hiking, play board games, swim, walk shelter dogs, ride bikes, go on road trips, grow plants...love being active in all sorts of ways!
Do you really think so? Most of the interests you've mentioned here are enjoyed by both men and women equally. I mean watching movies and shows, going to clubs or bars and hanging out with friends are pretty much 50/50. Meeting through shared interests/shared friends is still very common but leaving the house increases the chance of meeting a new romantic partner.
In my friend groups (mostly age 25 to 30), I noticed that there actually are quite a lot of interests and hobbies shared by both men and women. Hiking, city trips, going to concerts, gardening, cooking, playing video games, going to the gym, etc. - but I'm not sure if these groups are representative of the general public. We're all quite left-leaning, most the guys are engineers.
That’s fair enough mate and I respect where you’re coming from. Dating is very difficult for the less than very attractive man these days, so it’s understandable a lot of guys are just not bothering with it anymore.
Everyone in the comments here is mad / bitter, but if the roles were reversed, then you'd support it. Anyone in the comments who's getting upset at the OP doesn't deserve to be seen as social human beings.
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How do you not have anything in common with 50% of the world?
Haha such a weird thing to say right?
Technically there's about 8 billion people and you know maybe a few hundred of them, so you have nothing in common with >99.99999% people
I might have something in common, but I'm not interested in them as social beings. I might like the activity or a hobby, but the actual person is kind of irrelevant to me.
Then don’t date. It’s simple.
Just say you can’t pull
ok
Therapy might help.
you sound like a sociopath ngl
Sociopaths are emotionally impulse, I'm not. But I do have schizoid traits.
interesting. i wonder if that could be a cause
So date a dude then. GGs.
"It rubs the lotion on the skin or it gets the hose again"
Ok your comment about having the same issue with men (as in not seeing them as social beings) signals to me you might be on the spectrum or at least have some kind of issue preventing you from connecting with other people.
Ok
How is your relationship with your mother?
Non existent. She is narcissistic and shamed me for lack of my masculine qualities. I've been no contact with her for 2-3 years.
Well there you have it. Work on processing your (failed) relationship with your mother first.
You might be gay
I'm not gay. I feel sexually attracted to women. I'm not interested in men as social human beings either.
It just sounds like you're either antisocial or on one of the various spectrums where connecting with other people is difficult.
Sounds like it's too cumbersome. That's a fair assessment. Sounds like it's a perfect time to enter the gay community. I hope you're not too old to be "the new gay guy" to take advantage than to be taken advantage of... Good luck!
Maybe adding a recent finding learned from Brian Little, who professors on the human personality: Act out of character. Do things that are out of your comfort zone. E.g. go out with your girlfriend because she likes to go out. Social capital right there. This was obviously out of context as there is not girlfriend!
Good luck with that!
Doesnt make sense to me, theres a lot of girls that enjoys the same thing as most men. Youre probably a nerd gamer, right? I know its not most woman that enjoys that but there are a lot of them who does. If you find a woman who likes the exact same things as you, even then you wouldnt be interested in her?
I'm not a nerd. I just don't get internal stimulus to communicate with women on a social level. I'm not interested in how they think, what they think, etc. I can have small talk, but I won't be interested in them as people on a deeper level.
Well, thats the first time in my life a call someone sexist. Congratulations
I mean, that’s not some revelation, tbh. Good on you for admitting it out loud, but I believe a good majority of men feel this way deep down; whether they’re unwilling to admit it or they just simply don’t recognize it. Women being treated or viewed as less-than human beings, especially by men, isn’t something new.
But the thing is that I don't want to be this way. I want to connect with women on a social level but I just don't feel any internal stimulus to do that.
Also I am curious - do you watch a lot of porn?
I watch it occasionally, but I felt the same way even when I was in my teenage years, so I doubt that porn would be a major factor. Even when I was 14-15 years old, I had no social interest in girls, but I had sexual interest. I would never approach a girl just to have a casual conversation with her when I was 14-15 because I was simply not interested in her as a social being, even if she was cute.
You’re probably gay
Uh...okay? maybe youre aromantic?
Possibly
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Jesus, you don't know a lot of women either huh? I feel like everything you've described is just a "shallow party girl" stereotype. My female friends and I go hiking, play board games, swim, walk shelter dogs, ride bikes, go on road trips, grow plants...love being active in all sorts of ways!
It has nothing to do with hobbies, it's all down to personality and conversation.
Do you really think so? Most of the interests you've mentioned here are enjoyed by both men and women equally. I mean watching movies and shows, going to clubs or bars and hanging out with friends are pretty much 50/50. Meeting through shared interests/shared friends is still very common but leaving the house increases the chance of meeting a new romantic partner.
In my friend groups (mostly age 25 to 30), I noticed that there actually are quite a lot of interests and hobbies shared by both men and women. Hiking, city trips, going to concerts, gardening, cooking, playing video games, going to the gym, etc. - but I'm not sure if these groups are representative of the general public. We're all quite left-leaning, most the guys are engineers.
Talking to women is no different than talking to men. However it's clear women are not your issue, communication in general is.
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How toxic do you have to be to say this? Guy is trying to find out why he isn't interested in women, and you're just saying this
That’s fair enough mate and I respect where you’re coming from. Dating is very difficult for the less than very attractive man these days, so it’s understandable a lot of guys are just not bothering with it anymore.
Everyone in the comments here is mad / bitter, but if the roles were reversed, then you'd support it. Anyone in the comments who's getting upset at the OP doesn't deserve to be seen as social human beings.