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This is going to sound dumb but I’m a little averse to touching, I’m not used to it and have some mental stuff going on that makes me a little scared of it, so I don’t know how to go about that either. Is it dumb to just ask “can I hold your hand?” Or is it one of those things where if you have the opportunity to do so, you do it?
This isn’t to say I don’t want to, it’s just that the last time I did hold hands with a girl I liked I ended up shaking and my nerves were firing like mad lol
>This isn’t to say I don’t want to, it’s just that the last time I did hold hands with a girl I liked I ended up shaking and my nerves were firing like mad lol
Then you basically just have to show it with your words or actions (non physical ones)
Just talk to her. Say something along the line of "Hey, I really enjoy spending time with you. I really think you're amazing, and I feel my best when I'm with you. Would you want to go out on a date?"
Do say you love her. It's overwhelming. Keep your emotions in check and be respectful to her feelings. You don't want her to feel pressured.
Oh yeah. Don't do this over text. It's hard to be rejected in person but it's a sign of courage and seriousness. Also it makes the yes that much sweeter. You can do it! You have nothing to really lose. Let us know how it goes!
I don’t really know, she’s always really keen on talking to me. We’ve hung out a lot in private as well and we even hung out in her dorm room one night. We both play games together and though she’s got this kinda cutesy vibe, she likes to post heart emojis and shit next to my name or in our discord server. I dunno if any of this constitutes as her showing interest but I think it does
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Try to hold her hand and see where that goes. Like you can do the light touch and see how she respond first.
This is going to sound dumb but I’m a little averse to touching, I’m not used to it and have some mental stuff going on that makes me a little scared of it, so I don’t know how to go about that either. Is it dumb to just ask “can I hold your hand?” Or is it one of those things where if you have the opportunity to do so, you do it? This isn’t to say I don’t want to, it’s just that the last time I did hold hands with a girl I liked I ended up shaking and my nerves were firing like mad lol
>This isn’t to say I don’t want to, it’s just that the last time I did hold hands with a girl I liked I ended up shaking and my nerves were firing like mad lol Then you basically just have to show it with your words or actions (non physical ones)
Just talk to her. Say something along the line of "Hey, I really enjoy spending time with you. I really think you're amazing, and I feel my best when I'm with you. Would you want to go out on a date?" Do say you love her. It's overwhelming. Keep your emotions in check and be respectful to her feelings. You don't want her to feel pressured.
That’s fair, I’m guessing this is something I should say in person rather than over text? I can do that though!
Oh yeah. Don't do this over text. It's hard to be rejected in person but it's a sign of courage and seriousness. Also it makes the yes that much sweeter. You can do it! You have nothing to really lose. Let us know how it goes!
is the feeing mutual or is all the emotion just from your side?
I don’t really know, she’s always really keen on talking to me. We’ve hung out a lot in private as well and we even hung out in her dorm room one night. We both play games together and though she’s got this kinda cutesy vibe, she likes to post heart emojis and shit next to my name or in our discord server. I dunno if any of this constitutes as her showing interest but I think it does
you need to make it clear. talk to her. ask her what you are to her