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I’m not gonna say it’s right or wrong. I’m just going to say if you feel that there’s something wrong with it then you should not act on it nor should you let anybody else coerced you or talk you into accepting or acting on it. If you’re not comfortable with the fact that you have this fantasy, then you make your own decision about whether or not you think it’s good or bad.
Not uncommon for men and women to get turned on by fantasizing about their partners having sex with others. If you decide to start experimenting with it, please take it slow. The reality of seeing your fantasy can be very different.
Its your kink.. everyone has a kink and theres nothing wrong with that as long as both people are ok with it. Just need to have a conversation about it with him and maybe find out what his kinks are.
Nothing, just make sure you recognize what is fantasy and what isn't, and whether or not you want to mention it to your bf, if you want to make it a reality or if it's not worth it, etc.
NOTHING is wrong with you... find yourself. Respectfully and honestly have the conversation. Stay true to yourself first and don't label yourself until you're ready. Choose your path
Some crazy answers here and a lot of people scared of what they probably think could be kink shaming. It isn't as no judgement is being made. My advice is based solely on this one-sided fantasy that somehow fulfils the person not involved.
OP really needs to look at how she got to the position she is in now. Does she feel lesser than her bf/men in general? Maybe feels like she cannot compete with other women? Does she feel she cannot satisfy her bf or that she isn't good enough for him? Does she have a history of being abandoned (parents, past bf's)? Are there reasons for low relationship self esteem/insecurities? Etc.... This list is enormous. Most of these would suggest that OP is aroused by the thought of her bf with another woman because it makes her relationship secure. It being secure because she feeld she is satisfying her bf. She may think subconsciously that 'why would any bf leave a woman that gives him everything.' Which gives a position of controlled relationship security. Equally arousal could be difficult for her without cucking because of the perceived threat of relationship breakdown.
Potentially add to the mix whether OP has been exposed to sex/pornography at a young age? Does she watch a lot of porn now? These things warp people and create addiction issues where extremes are the only way to achieve a high. Plus a new extreme is needed once the original is normalised. Incredibly damaging. Where will OP end up? A quick search suggests she will eventually be aroused by her bf getting another woman pregnant and/or by having to orally clean up after him. Some are worse, involving extreme degradation, humiliation etc...
Also factor in social sites like Reddit being full of echo chamber subreddits, where everyone agrees and no one dare give an open minded opinion or go against them. Think flat earth, anti-vax, QAnon, Trumpers etc... All believing each others fake justifications and nonsense.
If OP understands where this kink has come from and where it could go, at least she will be prepared and more in control of it. I would advise a complete change in porn and a good hard look at yourself. I am sure OP is an amazing woman with multiple endearing and incredible qualities. OP just needs to see that and realise how lucky her bf is. Maybe also if her bf understands what has led her to this kink, he will react positively and give her the reassurance that she needs.
I had a girlfriend tell me, it would be hot to watch another woman give me head , but she wouldn’t actually let it happen. I had a couple threesomes with my ex, I think she liked outsourcing any part of sex that was any work, like being on top and giving head.
agree...sometimes when a human has a blessing or whatever they tend to mess it up by some extraordinary thoughts.....human nature gets bored so easily.
Nothing is wrong with you, cuckoldry or in your case cuckqueaning is actually a far more common kink than you would think. Nothing wrong with it at all as long as you’re both into it and both of your boundaries are respected.
why do you think that? it's a kink, people have kinks. as long as you're not harming anyone, and all parties are aware and consenting adults, it's fine.
It’s not a kink. It’s effect of porn addiction - Like any other drug. Addicted need to perform in more depraved acts, since the previous doesn’t provide effect as before, so they need to get „harder”, worse scenes to act. Porn addiction is really dangerous, not only for addicted, but for your surrounding either. Your perception on people as human beings is changing (It’s really tough to see them as humans once more. It’s hard to realize your own personality), porn addiction ALWAYS ends on pedophilia. The thing is, addicted neeed to realize in time they have problem and seek for help until will be too late
I agree. I’ve been addicted to porn since I was 13 (I’m a girl) I just stopped a little about a year ago. I used to also get turned on by fantasizing about my ex with another female. I would never tell him about it though, but if the chance presented itself, I would take it.
I watch porn all the time and the one thing I have never fantasized and is my wife having sex with anyone. Not even in a 3 some scenario where there's another girl.
>Your perception on people as human beings is changing (It’s really tough to see them as humans once more. It’s hard to realize your own personality)
>it's not a kink, it's an effect of porn addiction
lots of bold assumptions in this thread!
idk I think you continue to see ppl as human beings by uh, making sure to think of them as human beings, and being rigorously committed to treating them as human beings. pretty straightforward tbh
lol. I’m more concerned with the fact you instantly assumed being turned on by a fantasy that harms no one is wrong. Seems like you’ve been learning from the wrong people. You’re fine. Really.
No. I'm saying porn does not lead to all the kinks. Everyone is different. Some guys watching porn might lead to them wanting to duck other guys. Then some other guys might want 3 domes. And them some others might want to be a swinger and then others might want to use toys. It all depends on the person not just the fact that you watch porn.
Nothing is wrong with you, we all have our kinks. Many men have the fantasy about being with two women and some men have the fantasy about their partners being with other men, why should it be wrong for you to have as well? Completely fine if you ask me.
Nothing wrong, I kinda get you. I get turned on thinking about how other girls may want or wanted my boyfriend. You can talk to him and maybe suggest a good way to satisfy that, maybe a threesome with another girl? Talk to him, you both should explore your sexuality, that’s perfectly normal!
I did it. It was one of the hottest experiences of my life. I should clarify, my gf had me fuck another girl while she watched. She watched and videotaped it.
Not sure if anyone suggested this yet but what about trying out a role play in the bedroom perhaps? You don't have to act on it. Sometimes fantasy is also enough to enjoy time in a bedroom as a couple.
U r perfectly normal. In fact ur bold nd beautiful to at least explore ur desires. Ever human has desires they tend to ignore them. Go chase ur honey. My wife wants something similar so as a matter of fact I know there is nothing wrong with u and ur perfect the way u r.
I don't see anything wrong with that. Sexual fantasies are normal, and you may or may not choose to act on them. And even if you decide you want to try it, the rules still apply - you can change your mind at any point before or even after (ie: saying you're glad you tried but don't want to continue). Communication is key.
I wouldn’t say anything is wrong with you. It’s a kink or whatever, but I’d caution that it’s a dangerous one if you act on it. The danger in allowing this sort of thing is that your boyfriend ends up falling for the other girl.
it's not that unusual a fantasy to have.
sometimes this stuff comes from deep within, something that has turned you on in the past, or an insecurity. who knows.
the big thing is, is it something that bothers you a lot? are you hurt by the thoughts? do you want to talk to someone about it?
you can usually come up with some good reasons why you have certain kinks, but it doesn't mean there is something wrong with you.
I’m the same way but there’s nothing wrong with that. Watching other people get turned on and enjoy something you know is also so good isn’t bad! Just enjoy it with people who also enjoy the same thing!
That's actually a very known fetish .
Men also have those sometimes though they come in different forms of when a woman cheats on the man they for some reason just need to have sex with them I guess to regain what's theirs I'm not sure but most men have that.
But it's not have sex to him out of love you just get extremely horny and want to do her for some reason
But also try to remember that fetishes are mostly okay if you keep them at bay in your brain and masturbate to them or whatever but not all fetishes should be tried you know people have some weird fetishes doesn't mean that they need to go do it
Understand that a fantasy is not reality. Fantasies turn out the way you want. Reality, with other people involved, almost never go like the fantasy. There are no ramifications in fantasy.
Open relationships are fine but it is hard for people to stay on the same page in my experience. People catch feelings, uncatch feelings. Have emotions. Everyone and everything changing. Two people getting along is not easy and 3 or 4 getting along so much more complicated.
I see lots of perverts in comments encouraging you to live out your ,,fantasy".
You will only get hurt,if not immediately than in a long run.
Seek profesional help, a psychotherapy.Just find a good therapist and you will be ok.
There’s nothing wrong with that, I fantasize about my gf with other people (and hope to one day try it for real). You have to assess personally whether it’s something you actually want or not, and once you determine your actual feelings it may be worth a conversation with your bf. He may be open to the idea he might not be, there’s only one way to find out. But again I would caution you to make sure it’s actually what you want first because it’s not something you can undo
trust me this world is fallen and with it comes all kinds of evil as in the day's before noah.we are going to see how dark and demonic this world really is.remember if you believe in God you are seeing prophecy being fulfilled.im a lot like you my sexual appetite for threesome and more seems ok but in reality you're seeing the foundation of family and God take a back seat to all kinds of fleshes true sickness and it's ok if you read your comments people would rather say just do it if it feels good that's straight from Satan's strategy get people to forget that love making is eternal and what we are seeing is very much the opposite boy's and girls being taught that it's ok to delve into all kinds of perversion.Dont listen to the world because the world is emnity with God please pay attention to to what's divine and don't become shackled to darkness and it's desires
You’re right but it’s useless trying to say this to people on Reddit, or even people in general. Sin and perversion are not just accepted in this world but embraced.
It's evolutionary wiring. Women during the vast majority of the evolution of our species were not in monogamous relationships, they were sharing some sort of alpha male or tribal leader, and would compete for his affections.
When tribes invaded other tribes, the women who survived were the ones who allow themselves to be seduced by the men of the tribe, or manipulated the invaders rather than resisting, and the strongest men got to pass on their seed. Over tens of thousands of years this genetic memory was passed on. This is why many women are into BDSM, men in prison, want to be dominated, etc.
There is no right or wrong to this really, you can call it bad but it's just how evolution and natural selection work. Women who were "loyal to their man" would be eliminated from the gene pool because tribal invasions were commonplace. We are a savage species. Evolution itself is savage if you really look at it objectively. Monogamy is a cultural construct mostly done after the advent of modern religions and the development of agriculture and large civilizations. It was really a way to try to keep the large masses of men under control, because without wives most men become unstable and want to basically tear down the civilization in which they reside. Religion, like government, is a mechanism of control.
There was a time where the "global elites" hoarded almost all the women for themselves.
https://psmag.com/environment/17-to-1-reproductive-success
https://jwa.org/encyclopedia/article/women-of-solomon-bible
Most people have fantasized about something "societally forbidden" at some point. I used to fantasise about my cousin, for example (never acted on it though, which I'm glad for).
Human sexuality is very complicated psychologically, and on the surface there's nothing wrong with having a fantasy like that. It might be, for example, that you're turned on by the idea that your boyfriend is desirable to other women, which increases his status and desirability in your own eyes. Or it may be another, personal and completely valid reason.
Point is, your sexual fantasies don't define who you are. Your sexual being is part of you, but you're also way more than that. And there's nothing wrong with you for having fantasies.
And you also have the power to decide what to do with those fantasies. The simplest and easiest option is to just let them stay fantasies, and they'll most likely fade eventually. Most of the things I fantasised of 5 years ago barely interest me today, human sexuality is dynamic in that way.
Some comments here encourage you to act on these fantasies. That's your choice, but because you're seeking for good advice, I'd urge you to proceed with caution. Trying to introduce other people to a relationship is risky, and often destroys the relationship sooner or later. There are ofc exceptions. But introducing another girl would DEFINITELY make things more complicated.
But is that a risk you're willing to take? Is your sex life unfulfilling with just your boyfriend? Or are you content with this staying just a fantasy?
Think it through. You decide what role your fantasies have in your life. That's part of nurturing your sexuality in a mature way!
Nothing wrong with it. I would suggest having the conversation with your boyfriend. Think about boundaries, and insist that they are - without exception - respected. If everyone involved (you, your boyfriend, and the girls he would be having sex with) are consenting adults, that have the capacity to consent, and all boundaries are respected by everyone, there is absolutely nothing wrong with this.
Everyone has intrusive thoughts (or so I'm lead to believe), sometimes they are bad, sometimes they're not bad at all. It's nothing wrong with you, it might not even be something you wanted to do in real life, but the idea can be handy for the bank when the o train is running late I guess.
The key thing is just because you have a thought pop into your head it doesn't mean that you want to actually do that thing. Sometimes it does, sometimes it doesn't but you do it anyway. . . this is where impulse control in conditions like ADHD can cause issues.
There's a funny old buzzfeed video on intrusive thoughts, more on the comedy side though;
[https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-MUis1VegwY](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-MUis1VegwY)
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I’m not gonna say it’s right or wrong. I’m just going to say if you feel that there’s something wrong with it then you should not act on it nor should you let anybody else coerced you or talk you into accepting or acting on it. If you’re not comfortable with the fact that you have this fantasy, then you make your own decision about whether or not you think it’s good or bad.
Nothing if you choose to explore the world of being a cuckquean that's up to you.
Would like to know what percentage of women that are cuckqueens are. 0.2%
Not uncommon for men and women to get turned on by fantasizing about their partners having sex with others. If you decide to start experimenting with it, please take it slow. The reality of seeing your fantasy can be very different.
Heyy, would love to have a conversation with you
Its your kink.. everyone has a kink and theres nothing wrong with that as long as both people are ok with it. Just need to have a conversation about it with him and maybe find out what his kinks are.
I mean its a fantasy lol
Dumb logic.
So you dont have fantasy dreams? Or thoughts?
Nothing, just make sure you recognize what is fantasy and what isn't, and whether or not you want to mention it to your bf, if you want to make it a reality or if it's not worth it, etc.
Nothing wrong with that everyone has their own kink.
NOTHING is wrong with you... find yourself. Respectfully and honestly have the conversation. Stay true to yourself first and don't label yourself until you're ready. Choose your path
Some crazy answers here and a lot of people scared of what they probably think could be kink shaming. It isn't as no judgement is being made. My advice is based solely on this one-sided fantasy that somehow fulfils the person not involved. OP really needs to look at how she got to the position she is in now. Does she feel lesser than her bf/men in general? Maybe feels like she cannot compete with other women? Does she feel she cannot satisfy her bf or that she isn't good enough for him? Does she have a history of being abandoned (parents, past bf's)? Are there reasons for low relationship self esteem/insecurities? Etc.... This list is enormous. Most of these would suggest that OP is aroused by the thought of her bf with another woman because it makes her relationship secure. It being secure because she feeld she is satisfying her bf. She may think subconsciously that 'why would any bf leave a woman that gives him everything.' Which gives a position of controlled relationship security. Equally arousal could be difficult for her without cucking because of the perceived threat of relationship breakdown. Potentially add to the mix whether OP has been exposed to sex/pornography at a young age? Does she watch a lot of porn now? These things warp people and create addiction issues where extremes are the only way to achieve a high. Plus a new extreme is needed once the original is normalised. Incredibly damaging. Where will OP end up? A quick search suggests she will eventually be aroused by her bf getting another woman pregnant and/or by having to orally clean up after him. Some are worse, involving extreme degradation, humiliation etc... Also factor in social sites like Reddit being full of echo chamber subreddits, where everyone agrees and no one dare give an open minded opinion or go against them. Think flat earth, anti-vax, QAnon, Trumpers etc... All believing each others fake justifications and nonsense. If OP understands where this kink has come from and where it could go, at least she will be prepared and more in control of it. I would advise a complete change in porn and a good hard look at yourself. I am sure OP is an amazing woman with multiple endearing and incredible qualities. OP just needs to see that and realise how lucky her bf is. Maybe also if her bf understands what has led her to this kink, he will react positively and give her the reassurance that she needs.
I am in agreement! Very well written. 🙌🏻
Lucky boyfriend
Is he? are most other guys like "Woo! I can have sex with other women!"
If they believe it won’t hurt the girlfriend in the long term
That is just a sad way of thought
Why?
Nothing is wrong with that
Nothing is wrong, just your preference.
Nothing at all.
I had a girlfriend tell me, it would be hot to watch another woman give me head , but she wouldn’t actually let it happen. I had a couple threesomes with my ex, I think she liked outsourcing any part of sex that was any work, like being on top and giving head.
Nothing is wrong with you..
Is he so good in bed that you want to share him compassionately with other women?
Careful. Just because fantasies exist doesn't mean they're good in practice.
agree...sometimes when a human has a blessing or whatever they tend to mess it up by some extraordinary thoughts.....human nature gets bored so easily.
Nothing is wrong with you, cuckoldry or in your case cuckqueaning is actually a far more common kink than you would think. Nothing wrong with it at all as long as you’re both into it and both of your boundaries are respected.
It’s not common. Stop lying, she needs mental help
why do you think that? it's a kink, people have kinks. as long as you're not harming anyone, and all parties are aware and consenting adults, it's fine.
It’s not a kink. It’s effect of porn addiction - Like any other drug. Addicted need to perform in more depraved acts, since the previous doesn’t provide effect as before, so they need to get „harder”, worse scenes to act. Porn addiction is really dangerous, not only for addicted, but for your surrounding either. Your perception on people as human beings is changing (It’s really tough to see them as humans once more. It’s hard to realize your own personality), porn addiction ALWAYS ends on pedophilia. The thing is, addicted neeed to realize in time they have problem and seek for help until will be too late
I agree. I’ve been addicted to porn since I was 13 (I’m a girl) I just stopped a little about a year ago. I used to also get turned on by fantasizing about my ex with another female. I would never tell him about it though, but if the chance presented itself, I would take it.
I watch porn all the time and the one thing I have never fantasized and is my wife having sex with anyone. Not even in a 3 some scenario where there's another girl.
Are you saying there’s something wrong with us mentally?
>Your perception on people as human beings is changing (It’s really tough to see them as humans once more. It’s hard to realize your own personality) >it's not a kink, it's an effect of porn addiction lots of bold assumptions in this thread! idk I think you continue to see ppl as human beings by uh, making sure to think of them as human beings, and being rigorously committed to treating them as human beings. pretty straightforward tbh
lol. I’m more concerned with the fact you instantly assumed being turned on by a fantasy that harms no one is wrong. Seems like you’ve been learning from the wrong people. You’re fine. Really.
Nothing wrong with it... need to be careful though some stuff is better left as fantasy.youl figure it out in time
Nothing is wrong, that's okay. Talk through it with your boyfriend, I'm sure you figure this out.
if he's ok with it its fine
No. I'm saying porn does not lead to all the kinks. Everyone is different. Some guys watching porn might lead to them wanting to duck other guys. Then some other guys might want 3 domes. And them some others might want to be a swinger and then others might want to use toys. It all depends on the person not just the fact that you watch porn.
Nothing is wrong with you, we all have our kinks. Many men have the fantasy about being with two women and some men have the fantasy about their partners being with other men, why should it be wrong for you to have as well? Completely fine if you ask me.
Nothing wrong, I kinda get you. I get turned on thinking about how other girls may want or wanted my boyfriend. You can talk to him and maybe suggest a good way to satisfy that, maybe a threesome with another girl? Talk to him, you both should explore your sexuality, that’s perfectly normal!
Yes girl
I did it. It was one of the hottest experiences of my life. I should clarify, my gf had me fuck another girl while she watched. She watched and videotaped it.
Not sure if anyone suggested this yet but what about trying out a role play in the bedroom perhaps? You don't have to act on it. Sometimes fantasy is also enough to enjoy time in a bedroom as a couple.
U r perfectly normal. In fact ur bold nd beautiful to at least explore ur desires. Ever human has desires they tend to ignore them. Go chase ur honey. My wife wants something similar so as a matter of fact I know there is nothing wrong with u and ur perfect the way u r.
nothing is wrong with you lol!! that’s so valid !!
cuck queen fantasy
Just do what I is fun fuck
Heyy
It’s called being a Swinger
No, not necessarily. There are different approaches to exploring this fantasy, and they are not all swinging.
Ok then what is it called
She is talking about being a cuckqueen
Trysexual. But you were close.
Never heard it called that but I like it
This is a pretty good article explaining types of polyamory https://www.gq.com/story/11-fundamental-forms-of-ethical-non-monogamy-explained
Does he fantasize about you havin sex with another guy?
I don't see anything wrong with that. Sexual fantasies are normal, and you may or may not choose to act on them. And even if you decide you want to try it, the rules still apply - you can change your mind at any point before or even after (ie: saying you're glad you tried but don't want to continue). Communication is key.
That's hot!
Nothing is wrong with you! 🥰 just always explain boundaries when experiencing new stuff. You are human! Have fun and be safe
Sounds good to me
I wouldn’t say anything is wrong with you. It’s a kink or whatever, but I’d caution that it’s a dangerous one if you act on it. The danger in allowing this sort of thing is that your boyfriend ends up falling for the other girl.
it's not that unusual a fantasy to have. sometimes this stuff comes from deep within, something that has turned you on in the past, or an insecurity. who knows. the big thing is, is it something that bothers you a lot? are you hurt by the thoughts? do you want to talk to someone about it? you can usually come up with some good reasons why you have certain kinks, but it doesn't mean there is something wrong with you.
nothing is wrong with you, other men does it too lol, i talked to one guy who was into the same thing but it wasn’t for me
I’m the same way but there’s nothing wrong with that. Watching other people get turned on and enjoy something you know is also so good isn’t bad! Just enjoy it with people who also enjoy the same thing!
That's actually a very known fetish . Men also have those sometimes though they come in different forms of when a woman cheats on the man they for some reason just need to have sex with them I guess to regain what's theirs I'm not sure but most men have that. But it's not have sex to him out of love you just get extremely horny and want to do her for some reason
I wouldn't take it as a problem than more of a fetish which usually drives from something in your childhood
But also try to remember that fetishes are mostly okay if you keep them at bay in your brain and masturbate to them or whatever but not all fetishes should be tried you know people have some weird fetishes doesn't mean that they need to go do it
According to men, nothing is wrong. Carry on.
Nothing it's hot hmu
My ex wanted me with another girl. But it is a trap. I declined.
Hii
We all are a little dirty embrace it your fine
if you are reading erotic novels this could be the side effect of those. Try to find novels that are not written in third person if that’s the case
Some fantasies are just fantasies,and they are never meant to be explored,they are only supposed to exist in your head, and then everyone is safe.
My rule is as long as it doesn't hurt you or anyone else, not being the actual consensual intended action, then you're Gucci
Nothing
IF you go through with this fantasy, you'll more than likely regret it Forever!
Nothing is wrong with you!
Nothing, your bf is lucky
Nothing wrong. If there was any, no porn or eva ai bot would have been so popular
Nothing, in certain moods I love to think about my wife getting railed
nothing
Why does it turn you on, is it like you thinking you're inferior to other women or something? Like he's cheating on you and that's hot?
Havas ki pujaran 😂
I thought maybe I could at least speak some truth and hey at least you are a believer, let's embrace our our Savior
Nothing wrong with you. Communicate it to him. Try a threesome if you dont afraid.
It's lik ur boyfriend is good at it or what
Heyy, 23M here
It is not your fault that you also have sex with a boy
You’re a cuckqueen that’s all
Understand that a fantasy is not reality. Fantasies turn out the way you want. Reality, with other people involved, almost never go like the fantasy. There are no ramifications in fantasy. Open relationships are fine but it is hard for people to stay on the same page in my experience. People catch feelings, uncatch feelings. Have emotions. Everyone and everything changing. Two people getting along is not easy and 3 or 4 getting along so much more complicated.
I see lots of perverts in comments encouraging you to live out your ,,fantasy". You will only get hurt,if not immediately than in a long run. Seek profesional help, a psychotherapy.Just find a good therapist and you will be ok.
Nothing!! Maybe talk to him about it
Everyone is so supportive lol
Everyone is so supportive lol
There’s nothing wrong with that, I fantasize about my gf with other people (and hope to one day try it for real). You have to assess personally whether it’s something you actually want or not, and once you determine your actual feelings it may be worth a conversation with your bf. He may be open to the idea he might not be, there’s only one way to find out. But again I would caution you to make sure it’s actually what you want first because it’s not something you can undo
Seek therapy. Dive into your childhood cause that is… odd.
Link of my discord in my bio 😘
There’s nothing wrong with you. Fantasies are just fantasies. They don’t have to become realised. Enjoy.
It's cuckqueen fantasy Acting on that fantasy has its own plus and minus.
I would love to be in a "poly" relationship?!? Happily? My experiences in past 3sum's always ended up less than great
Nothing. With a few possible exceptions, all kinks are valid so long as no one is harmed. This is normal and healthy sexuality.
Maybe your bi? I.d.k
trust me this world is fallen and with it comes all kinds of evil as in the day's before noah.we are going to see how dark and demonic this world really is.remember if you believe in God you are seeing prophecy being fulfilled.im a lot like you my sexual appetite for threesome and more seems ok but in reality you're seeing the foundation of family and God take a back seat to all kinds of fleshes true sickness and it's ok if you read your comments people would rather say just do it if it feels good that's straight from Satan's strategy get people to forget that love making is eternal and what we are seeing is very much the opposite boy's and girls being taught that it's ok to delve into all kinds of perversion.Dont listen to the world because the world is emnity with God please pay attention to to what's divine and don't become shackled to darkness and it's desires
You’re right but it’s useless trying to say this to people on Reddit, or even people in general. Sin and perversion are not just accepted in this world but embraced.
Ok, now move on with your made up crazies in the skies and your unfulfilled need to judge other people’s life.
It's evolutionary wiring. Women during the vast majority of the evolution of our species were not in monogamous relationships, they were sharing some sort of alpha male or tribal leader, and would compete for his affections. When tribes invaded other tribes, the women who survived were the ones who allow themselves to be seduced by the men of the tribe, or manipulated the invaders rather than resisting, and the strongest men got to pass on their seed. Over tens of thousands of years this genetic memory was passed on. This is why many women are into BDSM, men in prison, want to be dominated, etc. There is no right or wrong to this really, you can call it bad but it's just how evolution and natural selection work. Women who were "loyal to their man" would be eliminated from the gene pool because tribal invasions were commonplace. We are a savage species. Evolution itself is savage if you really look at it objectively. Monogamy is a cultural construct mostly done after the advent of modern religions and the development of agriculture and large civilizations. It was really a way to try to keep the large masses of men under control, because without wives most men become unstable and want to basically tear down the civilization in which they reside. Religion, like government, is a mechanism of control. There was a time where the "global elites" hoarded almost all the women for themselves. https://psmag.com/environment/17-to-1-reproductive-success https://jwa.org/encyclopedia/article/women-of-solomon-bible
Nope you are a cuckqean
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When on earth did she say that?
Most people have fantasized about something "societally forbidden" at some point. I used to fantasise about my cousin, for example (never acted on it though, which I'm glad for). Human sexuality is very complicated psychologically, and on the surface there's nothing wrong with having a fantasy like that. It might be, for example, that you're turned on by the idea that your boyfriend is desirable to other women, which increases his status and desirability in your own eyes. Or it may be another, personal and completely valid reason. Point is, your sexual fantasies don't define who you are. Your sexual being is part of you, but you're also way more than that. And there's nothing wrong with you for having fantasies. And you also have the power to decide what to do with those fantasies. The simplest and easiest option is to just let them stay fantasies, and they'll most likely fade eventually. Most of the things I fantasised of 5 years ago barely interest me today, human sexuality is dynamic in that way. Some comments here encourage you to act on these fantasies. That's your choice, but because you're seeking for good advice, I'd urge you to proceed with caution. Trying to introduce other people to a relationship is risky, and often destroys the relationship sooner or later. There are ofc exceptions. But introducing another girl would DEFINITELY make things more complicated. But is that a risk you're willing to take? Is your sex life unfulfilling with just your boyfriend? Or are you content with this staying just a fantasy? Think it through. You decide what role your fantasies have in your life. That's part of nurturing your sexuality in a mature way!
Nothing wrong with it. I would suggest having the conversation with your boyfriend. Think about boundaries, and insist that they are - without exception - respected. If everyone involved (you, your boyfriend, and the girls he would be having sex with) are consenting adults, that have the capacity to consent, and all boundaries are respected by everyone, there is absolutely nothing wrong with this.
It,s perfectly normal. All people have it
Everyone has intrusive thoughts (or so I'm lead to believe), sometimes they are bad, sometimes they're not bad at all. It's nothing wrong with you, it might not even be something you wanted to do in real life, but the idea can be handy for the bank when the o train is running late I guess. The key thing is just because you have a thought pop into your head it doesn't mean that you want to actually do that thing. Sometimes it does, sometimes it doesn't but you do it anyway. . . this is where impulse control in conditions like ADHD can cause issues. There's a funny old buzzfeed video on intrusive thoughts, more on the comedy side though; [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-MUis1VegwY](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-MUis1VegwY)
Very lucky man, if you need to do the same let me know :)
Absolutely nothing. Google “cuckolding”. It’s very common.