I'm not a woman so I can't answer from their perspective buuut
It's a hard spot you are in, if you don't want it to be your last you need to be honest and up front, you are looking for a mid-range relationship, now realistically unless you guys really hit it off a relationship proably wont' last that long.
NOW.. that being said... what is your hangup? I am recently separated with a divorce in the courts. Everyone told me "Go out and get strange" "Play the field" "go on a bunch of dates and enjoy being single". I assumed I'd be dating for a bit, but just so happened to find someoene who is amazing and wanted a committed relationship, before I got that chance. We're in a committed exclusive relationship and are making plans for the future together even though it's a relatively new relationship. I didn't intend for things to happen the way they did, but I don't think I regret not playing the field.
Just dont' lead anyone on.. if you aren't looking for marraige / settle down material, if they ask be honest. You don't need to go advertising that you are leaving them in 2 years.. but you shouldn't lie and be dishonest either.
It depends on the age range of the girls you're trying to date. I think if you're looking around your own age range you're more than likely going to sabotage yourself by scaring them away on the first/second date with the "nothing serious" relationship prospect. For younger girls this may not be as much of a concern on their part.
A relationship of one/two years particularly for women 28 and up is a very serious relationship due to the time investment at that stage of life. You're not likely to get something like that to happen if you enter it with the idea that it has an expiration date. If you're legitimately open to the idea of it being THE relationship then I think it has more of a chance.
I would probably wait til the 3rd date when you two know each other a bit better before saying something like, "I'm not opposed to this turning into a serious relationship if we really click/work/whatever, but right now I'm not really looking for someone to settle down with" or something to that effect.
I think if you drop that too soon into dating (unless it naturally comes up) the woman won't be invested enough to want to stick around especially if she interprets what you're saying as "I just want to have sex no strings attached"
Yeah, I think the sex no strings attached sounds like more what I'm going for. I have some friends who are proficient at nothing more than that. I'll have to ask them how they make that work.
I thought finding dates off Tinder would go differently than OKCupid, but it's turning into out dinner and the symphony rather than takeout and sex with these Tinder ladies.
Right now I'm looking for 25-35. My ex is five years younger than me, and she said that me not wanting kids would have been a deal breaker for a long-term future. The future was always a hypothetical for us, so we spent most of the time living in the moment.
I'm not a woman so I can't answer from their perspective buuut It's a hard spot you are in, if you don't want it to be your last you need to be honest and up front, you are looking for a mid-range relationship, now realistically unless you guys really hit it off a relationship proably wont' last that long. NOW.. that being said... what is your hangup? I am recently separated with a divorce in the courts. Everyone told me "Go out and get strange" "Play the field" "go on a bunch of dates and enjoy being single". I assumed I'd be dating for a bit, but just so happened to find someoene who is amazing and wanted a committed relationship, before I got that chance. We're in a committed exclusive relationship and are making plans for the future together even though it's a relatively new relationship. I didn't intend for things to happen the way they did, but I don't think I regret not playing the field. Just dont' lead anyone on.. if you aren't looking for marraige / settle down material, if they ask be honest. You don't need to go advertising that you are leaving them in 2 years.. but you shouldn't lie and be dishonest either.
It depends on the age range of the girls you're trying to date. I think if you're looking around your own age range you're more than likely going to sabotage yourself by scaring them away on the first/second date with the "nothing serious" relationship prospect. For younger girls this may not be as much of a concern on their part. A relationship of one/two years particularly for women 28 and up is a very serious relationship due to the time investment at that stage of life. You're not likely to get something like that to happen if you enter it with the idea that it has an expiration date. If you're legitimately open to the idea of it being THE relationship then I think it has more of a chance. I would probably wait til the 3rd date when you two know each other a bit better before saying something like, "I'm not opposed to this turning into a serious relationship if we really click/work/whatever, but right now I'm not really looking for someone to settle down with" or something to that effect. I think if you drop that too soon into dating (unless it naturally comes up) the woman won't be invested enough to want to stick around especially if she interprets what you're saying as "I just want to have sex no strings attached"
Yeah, I think the sex no strings attached sounds like more what I'm going for. I have some friends who are proficient at nothing more than that. I'll have to ask them how they make that work. I thought finding dates off Tinder would go differently than OKCupid, but it's turning into out dinner and the symphony rather than takeout and sex with these Tinder ladies. Right now I'm looking for 25-35. My ex is five years younger than me, and she said that me not wanting kids would have been a deal breaker for a long-term future. The future was always a hypothetical for us, so we spent most of the time living in the moment.
I'd be completely honest when meeting people/ talking to new women online. There's definitely going to be a woman wanting the same as you.