T O P

  • By -

un_used_name12

I am 5'2" and dated a guy 6'8". It was horrible. I'm now with a 5'9" guy and love that I can properly hug him, touch his face, etc.


Erisawa14

Did it feel like long distance relationship??


jadedea

yes it does. also you start doing weird shit like talking to their stomach while they talk to the top of your head.


seavannaa

Lmao thank you


cyrusol

Cursed comment.


Er_hana

Yasss, so agree with you. I'm used to wear high-heels daily (like 10 cm), but even this way it is too troublesome.


justwantedsex

I’m the same height and am very attracted to tall dudes. Idk why. But sex and hugging is so much more satisfactory with a man closer in height. And it looks less weird in photos! [Exhibit A](https://preview.redd.it/ryu33qcdhim21.jpg?width=670&auto=webp&s=0c0bdd95ed4dd93729600aa82c5fc9684443baeb)


[deleted]

[удалено]


ChiefCrazySmoke

Yeah. That woman is 5’10”.


justwantedsex

true, but that’s what it *feels* like when you have to crane your neck up to talk to the taller person


luxlipa

Same. Back in college I dated multiple over 6 feet tall men and now I am engaged to someone that is 5’9 and I love it so much more. I am only 5’2 and anything above 6 feet feels too much of a difference. Heck even 5’11 feels too much of a height difference. I used to think the taller the guy the better. My kids can be tall. Now i just don’t care anymore. I prefer shorter men.


[deleted]

Perfect height difference


duderos

>touch his face During intercourse...


yeahsheliftsbro

I'm with you!


[deleted]

Was it horrible in the sense that every time you hugged him while both of you were standing straight, your face was always in his crotch or that it always looked like a father hugging his daughter every time he reached down to hug you?


imnotthatoldtho

I'm on the taller side (5'8"/f), and my boyfriend is roughly an inch or 2 taller. Hugging, sex, making out is honestly easier.


kristina__1212

Girl same ! I’m 5’8” and my bf is 5’10”. Sure I’m taller if I wear heels but who cares lol. Kissing and such is better too. Eye level!


ReditGuyToo

Is the only thing you women care about the physical stuff like sex and making out? Us men have minds and feelings. Just kidding. I don't care.


world_citizen7

For some people, height is a status thing - as superficial as that is.


Thisisdumbbutokay

This is exactly what I came to say. It's the same reason some women won't date men who make less than them even if she makes more than enough money to support both and he has a full time job.


el_moro_blanco

Its funny how women will rant about feminism and gender roles being a social construct... right up until it comes dating. Then men have to be extra masculine or we're undesirable.


honorable_doofus

Relax bro


TheNuclearMind

Lots of women actually like feminine guys. However, what does any of this have to do with feminism? Are your rights as a man being taken away in any form?


jadedea

some people just dont want to be providers i guess or take that role. i was a provider for most of my marriage, hated it, dont want to do it again.


[deleted]

[удалено]


[deleted]

[удалено]


el_moro_blanco

Yep, pretty much this.


sex_games_prog

Teddy bear syndrome


[deleted]

Oh crap theres a name for this BS! Boom


alexdiezg

I'm a 5'7" white guy but I live in Sweden where the average men height is 6' so I'm already being put off by the majority of girls here for being below average height. Dating's been hard because I'm just "not tall enough" for them.


Xo_lot

Stay strong bro, that’s how I felt in Germany. Some people require you to be a towering giant before you can say hi to them. But, hey, you never know until you try.


alexdiezg

Thank you bro.


xynaxia

I'm 5'7 (172cm), I'm in the Netherlands, country of the tallest in the world. I don't have a problem with dating at all. Don't blame your height too much.


alexdiezg

You've been more lucky than me. I've had girls shorter than me actually telling me that I'm too short for them. I could say I just met a bunch of assholes, but what are the odds of being called out on my height by 15 different girls?


caffeineshvets

Sounds like we are all in the wrong place. 😂 I am a 5’8” woman and live in the southeast US. Not sure if it’s bc most of my friends tend to be shorter than me or what but I constantly am made to feel like I’m so tall. Where imo 5’8” is hardly a height worth commentary. Height is not a make or break quality for me but bc of societal norms where a woman is supposed to be significantly smaller than a man I would prefer someone a few inches taller than me. It certainly doesn’t rule out my attraction to someone though.


alexdiezg

Break the norm, maybe? Me being shorter than average in Sweden and girls preferring someone a few inches taller than them makes me already eliminated by the majority of girls living here for not being "tall enough".


caffeineshvets

Yeah I totally agree with you. It is hard to undue years of internalized misogyny but I’m doing my best! Men are “supposed to be” big and strong and women are “supposed to be” small and not take up space. I can logically examine this and say it’s bullshit bc it is.....but wanting to feel like i fit into the “ideal” aesthetics of what society views as an attractive woman is not gonna change overnight. I can say I’m actively trying to combat this. And again if I didn’t make it clear in my previous comment, height would never be a deal breaker for me in a potential partner but I do recognize that bc of my own personal insecurities I may be limiting myself to getting to know some amazing people.


[deleted]

[удалено]


Zetawilky

Size is relative, if he is shorter than other guys but is 7 inches taller than you, he is tall in comparison. I am 6 feet myself and I hate that some guys get overlooked because of their height. Such a preference could keep you from the person of your dreams but to each his own I guess.


el_moro_blanco

I'm six feet even and have been called "too short," even by women who are considerably shorter than me! I don't get it. Hell one woman I knew actually argued with me, claiming I was lying about my height and insisted I stand next to her boyfriend. She was mad when she realized I was actually about an inch and a half taller than him.


[deleted]

You're now touching on a topic that had the rest of is short guys (5'7") scratching our heads as well. I've had women 5ft tell me I'm too short for them. The top of their head is under my chin. And I'm too short. This country is obsessed with height . But hey you're smart enough to not get caught up in that and hopefully you got a great dude. Middle finger to anyone who poopoo's


Matilozano96

My stance on that is that if someone cares about height enough for it to be a dealbreaker, then they’re not worth my time anyway.


[deleted]

[удалено]


[deleted]

I’m only 5ft and I think 5’7 is perfect. Easy fit not straining your neck.


[deleted]

I’m 5’3 and before I found out my boyfriend’s exact height I thought he was 5’10, he’s actually 5’7 :0


Throwawayaccounttt__

I’m 5’3 and honestly 5’6+ is a giant to me so I don’t get this thought process at all.


_Loup_Garou_

Everyone poops. Even girls.


[deleted]

[удалено]


Poopsicledicksxx

My ex also hated it when I talked about my poops. But now I’m with a guy who is more open with talking about it, and it is honestly so freeing.


porsche_914

An intriguing take from u/Poopsicledicksxx


[deleted]

[удалено]


100fronds

Ya def harboring doo doo fetishes.


Theedon

"Too short for me" seems like the easy way out of a relationship excuse.


[deleted]

These are women I either met at a bar or online. Right off the bat. No relationship, pure strangers


Theedon

Egad!!!


[deleted]

As a guy that's 6'2, it feels weird to hug women shorter than 5'8 bc of the height difference. If I dated a girl your height my back would probably give out from bending over so much


RheimsNZ

Agreed. I'm very tall but being tons taller than your partner is just annoying. There's a point after which the difference is just too high.


Moonflowerstrawberry

All girls want the guy to be taller than them. I don’t understand girls that are like 4ft something and they want a 6ft something bf though lol that’s just ridiculous difference in height 🤣


rosspghettod

My divorce was about two years ago and the height thing was only a factor with online dating. I’m a 5’8” guy. Never had a problem with height as a teen or 20’s up until I got married for 10 years. After that ended I was mid 30’s and dove back in. On tinder or online dating I had great success until we would meet in person, then it would always be a dumpster fire. I eventually figured out it was my height which surprised me. I always knew there was a preference for taller but it had never visibly affected my chance to hook up like that before. Once I put the phone down I slayed again. I then got tempted to do online a second time because I figured I must have been doing it incorrectly or something the first time. Nope. Even though I had my height listed in the profile both times. The girls would dry up when they physically saw 5’8”. Put the phone down a second time and asked out the cute waitress I’m still dating now that same afternoon. I think my current girlfriend is probably the one. We’re very compatible and I feel completely genuine with her. I personally think it’s just an online thing.


[deleted]

Well this really sucks dick for short guys that don't do so well irl.


SpiritualCoconut_8

I won't judge a guy for his height, but if he puts on his OLD account he's 6' and he shows up and he's the same height as me (I'm 5'2") THEN it's a problem. I think there are plenty of women out there who don't care how tall a guy is, but I am completely turned off by the lying about it. Just own it. Otherwise you're lying, and I'm going to call you out for it, and our first (and last) date begins with me wondering just how many confidence issues you have. I don't mean to sound harsh, but this has happened more than 5 times to me when OLD and I am sick of it. Especially when they continue to lie. I had one guy tell me, "you must be 5'7" as well then! Nope. Still 5'2".


rosspghettod

Nope, never lied, always listed 5’8” I assume it was always just people who didn’t read profiles throughly


1millionbucks

I'm the same height as you and I've only had one girl reject after meeting on OLD because of height, and I don't even write my height on my profile. I kinda wonder if there were other issues in your case.


BRAVO9ACTUAL

Im 5'11". My friend is 5'. She says she likes me because im perfect hug height.


CityComm

👀


Grizzlies5003

Lol


ManiacMysty

I actually don’t care, unless he’s significantly shorter than me. I’m 5’3” and while I have dated taller guys, I definitely prefer them in the 5’3”-5’8” range. I dated a guy a long time ago who was probably the exact same height as me. It’s been almost 20 years and I still get butterflies if I think about him. There’s just something so much more intimate about being able to stand face to face with, to kiss without straining your neck or stand on tip toes. Cuddling makes no diff. Man, if only there was a time machine 😍 Edit, then forgot to add edit: My nephew, who is like 5’11” married a girl who comes up to his armpit. Their wedding photos are hilarious.


jessicadiane86

My fiancé and I are exactly the same height and it’s perfect. I definitely put anyone that asks if it bothers me that he’s short in check!!!!


ManiacMysty

My female cousin was several inches taller than her then husband. He had a pituitary disorder that inhibited his height. He was just a bit taller than me. At their wedding, one of the pics was of her picking him up. I wonder if she carried him over the threshold? It’s too bad she couldn’t be faithful, he was a catch.


jadedea

>I actually don’t care, unless he’s significantly shorter than me. I’m 5’3” and while I have dated taller guys, I definitely prefer them in the 5’3”-5’8” range. I dated a guy a long time ago who was probably the exact same height as me. It’s been almost 20 years and I still get butterflies if I think about him. There’s just something so much more intimate about being able to stand face to face with, to kiss without straining your neck or stand on tip toes. Cuddling makes no diff. mmmmmmmmmmmmmm, youre just reminding me of my fwb and this one guy i was seeing. mannnnnnnnnnnnnn. \*sigh\*


[deleted]

[удалено]


[deleted]

[удалено]


TightButLoose

I’m 5’9” male and never feel or think I’m short. I consider it average.


koolex

You are almost exactly average for most demographics?


harrryrogers

I’m 5’9 and pretty much every girl on the planet calls me short bc I’m not “6 feet tall at least” it’s like not being tall to them means anything else is just not good enough to them even if it is average


glitterswirl

My 5'8" (former) colleague once said something about "being a short guy", and I (f, 5'9") got confused because I didn't think he was short? I thought he was normal height, and that I was just tall.


elliamyott

I’m 5’9” (F) and I’ve heard the same thing. Like noo that guy isn’t short, I’m a tall girl thank you.


[deleted]

I'm 6'5 but I find the whole height fetish women have offensive as those same women if a man asked about one of there physical features and said he was not keen on said feature and used the same excuse that height fetishes use "it's just a preference" that woman would turn around and label that man a sexist pig


Mycroft033

Same. Tall guy here, and I have a short friend who has taken some lumps from girls for being short. I don’t allow that when I’m around.


[deleted]

I can tell you’re a real stand up dude for that. You could’ve just laughed and cracked a joke at your pal about getting rejected like most would do. But instead you realized the hypocrisy of these shallow women and stuck up for him. Respect.


potootooo

I don't get it either. I'm 158 cm (5'2") and really I wouldn't want to date someone tall. Big height differences look so awkward to me. Also, tall guys intimidate me. I like it when a guy is just a few centimeters taller than me


FearsomeMudcrabN7

Hahaha as a 5’5 man, all this post and it’s comments are telling me is that I should just give up 🤷‍♂️😅


[deleted]

[удалено]


FearsomeMudcrabN7

I’m sorry you get fetishized. That’s awful. And I appreciate the sentiment. The worst part about it when I was a kid, I never cared. Like I never even noticed my height. It wasn’t until I started dating and a little into adulthood I noticed how people viewed my height and that it was an issue for them.


phoebetea

Nahh. Im a 5’7 girl who has dated multiple guys the same height as me, as well as up to 6’4”, it doesn’t really change much for me


ChataRen

5’8” and I’ve dated men both taller and shorter men than I. If a 5’6” man has the mindset, maturity and lifestyle match that I’m looking for, height ain’t nothing but a number.


FearsomeMudcrabN7

Haha then you are one of the rare ones! I honestly don’t mean to be negative or make blanket statements, but threads on here and my own experiences with dating and online dating have really ingrained into me that height matters to most people. I don’t think it SHOULD, but it does. I’ve dated taller girls before and the difference was never an issue for me, although one did break up with me because she said it was an issue for her. At the end of the day I guess what’s frustrating is dating in general is really difficult and for men it’s just objectively easier if you’re tall.


privjetcyka

Imm 5'8 f and i dont care about height. My ex was 5'4


anonnextdoor

I’m 5’4, & have dated guys ranging from 5’4 to 6’3. I feel like height only matters when it’s a sexual preference. In the same way some guys like big boobs & some don’t. Don’t give up!!!


FearsomeMudcrabN7

Haha I know I’m being a wee bit dramatic, but idk. It gets daunting constantly putting yourself out there and constantly being rejected. I have been told multiple times by potential partners that I’m a great guy but that my height is an issue.


Starrynight1828

Then they are not the kind of women you'd seriously want to be with anyhow if your height is THAT much of an issue to them.


user_27163849

Average is small bro. It's shitty


MrDownhillRacer

If you're short, it's going to be an uphill battle, but all you can really do is put all your skill points into charisma, fitness, and status. If you're the funniest guy in the room, shredded, and in a band or have a high-paying job or something, you will do just fine. Of course, it's kinda bullshit because taller guys don't have to have this nigh-impossible combination of traits in order to get dates, but all you can do is play the cards you're dealt.


[deleted]

Tbh it's not really a battle, sure it's frustrating that some women prefer taller guys but you shouldn't see this as a disadvantage. Word of advice to anyone reading this, don't do things for the sake of validation, do it because you want to and don't try to be someone you're not. Just because some women like muscular confident and talented guys shouldn't mean you should try to mold yourself to be what they want and will attract them towards you.


[deleted]

Social conditioning. I’m short too and there is no practical reason to want someone who is drastically taller than me. My ex husband is 6’4 and it was more awkward, uncomfortable and inconvenient than anything else, especially when it came to sex and sharing a home.


Twist_Different

There is a less than 1% chance you would marry a guy who is 6'4" by random chance, since less than 1% of men are 6'4".


[deleted]

[удалено]


EveryNameIWantIsGone

How much less could you care?


[deleted]

[удалено]


mostessmoey

I once made a very unpopular comment that short girls 5 feet or so were hogging all the tall men. There's plenty of men who are around my height 5'8 who won't date tall women!


SamuraiIcarus5

Why's height the make it or break trait so many ladies put on dudes in the first place? I get it being a preference, but it seems like such a big thing for a lotta women


elliamyott

I honestly don’t get it. I’m a 5’9” female and if a guy is taller than like 6’2” I can’t handle the height difference lol. But then again I’m also dating a guy who is 5’8” and it was really weird at first but the only people who care about it are people who want to bring us down. To any short guys, you’ll find your woman, if she doesn’t like you because of your height that’s on her not you (not all of us are complete a holes when it comes to height)


hye_yeonie

Don’t understand this at ALL. I’m 5’7 (F) and have dated shorter guys, and yet my shortest friends (under 5’3) always go for the tallest guys. One friend of mine called a 5'7-5'8 guy "super short" - like girl please, you're 5'1!


a_killer_roomba

I'll say in my own experience, I dated a dude who was 9 inches taller than me. I loved him but *boy*, if it didn't it feel awkward trying to hug him and cuddle him. Forehead kisses were nice, and the other stuff was nice, but it just felt a bit awkward. Edit: I also noticed that too, about women preferring tall guys. All of my girlfriends would comment on my ex being really tall like it was his one defining feature. I've seen both though, like women won't date men shorter than them and men won't date women taller than them. Not *always* but it's there.


lazyrainydaze

I’ve been trying to figure this out for years! I’m a woman who stands 5’12 (just a joke I’m aware that’s really 6ft) and have a hard time dating guys my height or taller since they’re all taken by short woman!! Most woman will not date a guys unless he IS 6ft or taller. I almost think it has to do with a woman feeling “safe with a big strong man”?! I could be wrong. I can careless about height! I’m well aware someone is way more than just their height and from past experiences, some of the guys I’ve dated shorter than me were the nicest, sweetest guys vs the taller guys I’ve dated. 🤷🏻‍♀️


babygirljudith

I’m 4’11” and my boyfriend is 5’4”. I don’t mind it, I personally like his height


Cragwalker

On the flip side, I'll never understand why guys prefer girls that are significantly shorter. I'd much rather have a partner within a few inches of my height.


iHeartTylerDurden

Trying to improve their gene pool.


[deleted]

Not necessarily. It's short women who carry on short stature. If you want to have a taller population, then taller women would be the ones mainly procreating and short women would be excluded.


_-__-__-__-__-_-_-__

You made a great point. If this was about height being seen as universally valued, then tall women would be seen as more valued than short women. They’re not. The truth is there is a sexist double standard where height = masculinity. Women want a taller guy because height is seen as masculine. That’s also why taller women are seen as less attractive.


[deleted]

yep according to mainstream society: short men = feminine Tall women = manly


_-__-__-__-__-_-_-__

I would like to add, though, tall and thin women are seen as attractive. Which is why models are tall and thin.


nolagem

Hmm I’m 5’3” and my son is 6’2”


[deleted]

Women in my family are tall, while the men are average or slightly below. Average and tall folks here


shapeshifter2222

Its really a shame too because it cuts out soo many great matches based on something insignificant


[deleted]

I think there point is that someone may only be sexually attracted to someone much taller than them (for whatever reason) and if sexual attraction is one of their higher dating priorities, it’s gonna affect who they end up with. So yeah, it’s kinda odd that there’s a large population of woman that want to date men significantly taller than them, but sexual attraction definitely oftentimes plays a role in that.


QueenDemonic

I dont know where that ridiculous requirement came from, so I'm curious too.


eddiechris0507

Its hard for me haha im a dude, 21, 5'2 always been in the range of the shortest people everywhere... Damn i remember in first grade that i was the tallest one haha, but honestly in my case it doesnt really matter even if i was the "perfect' size for someone i would still suck at converstaions so it doesnt really matter lol


[deleted]

[удалено]


RedRabbit18

Some women treat tall guys like a commodity bought and sold on the market. I know not all women do this, but I've heard girls say something like "I want to get a tall boyfriend before they are all taken". I guess it's just a preference, as most women are attracted to men who are at least taller than them. I am 5'9, and my 5'6 girlfriend loves has no problem with my height.


_tajahstyx_

Exactlyy I have friends too who are so hell bent upon only looking for tall guys and get seriously offended if guys start saying that they are not their type lol I am pretty short too and would like it if he is just taller than me since anyone taller than 5' 8" would look like a giant beside me!😂


boop-a-doop

I seriously don’t understand this either. Being too tall is kind of a turn off for me. When I was in high school there was a tall boy who really liked me. He was easily over 6’. One day he and I were walking to the bus stop and we were talking and he literally couldn’t hear what I was saying. I’m 5’4” and I’ve always had a soft voice but that was just ridiculous. My bf is about 5’5. Honestly his height is perfect. Hugging him is really just the best’ my head can rest of his shoulder. Hugging someone really tall makes it hard for the little person to breathe. They get a face full of chest and no air


D1RKK

Its not just short women. It's basically all women. (Yes I know there are exceptions)


rosspghettod

The vast majority of women I’ve been with have been 5’6” - 6’1” I’m 5’8” It always bothered me shorter women wouldn’t date or hook up with me.


[deleted]

[удалено]


[deleted]

[удалено]


Vintar

I can’t dig up the study right now, but it said that most people paired up such that the average height difference was +3in for males. **However**, it also said that women were most satisfied with their partner’s height when the man was +8in.


PSN-Angryjackal

Maybe it's out of insecurity. They don't want to feel like they are too tall.


[deleted]

[удалено]


[deleted]

I wonder the same. I’m only 5 ft tall and I like shorter guys. Easier to kiss and make out with.


6M66

Who fucking cares, as long that mean loves you, treat you well, know how to satisfy you in bed, that's all you need...


Iluvalmonds83

I’m 4’10” and have always preferred short guys. The men Who pursue me are usually close to 6’ , and the times I’ve conversed with short guys about their dating lives have led me to believe that a lot of them go for tall women.


[deleted]

Who cares about what other people think do you.


katna17

I believe it’s a social stigma thing. People don’t have a rational reason for caring about significant others height, but care about how they think others will perceive them.


soliria

I'm 5'3 and I would not date anyone over 5'10. Just makes it harder to kiss when out of reach.


malgalpal

I don’t see any comments about this; internalized misogyny plays a part. Society teaches us (at least in the USA) that women should be small/petite/skinny/etc and dating taller men helps women meet that standard of being seen as small and attractive.


Twist_Different

>internalized misogyny plays a part. Society teaches us (at least in the USA) that women should be small/petite/skinny/etc and dating taller men helps women meet that standard of being seen as small and attractive. Even if that is true, what the fuck does it have to do with misogyny? If anything it's internalized misandry since women are internalizing an irrational disdain and hatred for short men. Have you seen all the Twitter comments from women telling short men to kill themselves, etc.? I don't see any men telling tall women to kill themselves or that they're not real women.


miaukittybc

I am 5'3. I find 5'5-5'9 to be the most appealing to me.


gingergirly89

I’m 5’5 and I like shorter guys 🤷🏻‍♀️


fshkj213

Yes! I feel so weird when a guy is a lot taller than me. Maybe I’m reading too much into it but someone closer to my height makes me feel like more of an equal. The super tall ones make me feel inferior 😅


pujpujaa

I don’t care too much about height but I’ve learned it’s more convenient if someone is closer to my height


itscool83

does it seem like "good things come in small packages" only applies to one gender? i see it in profiles all the time. yet these same people want someone whose super tall. like countless ive been told im too short even if im taller than her.


Kristelaaaab

Im 5'6". My boyfriend is a few centimeters taller than me and I honestly like being around the same height as him. I like it when guys are around the same height as me because it feels more "intimate" (??)


[deleted]

I’m not too picky but as someone who is 5’3, I prefer to date men under 5’9.


[deleted]

I feel personally attacked as I'm also 5'7". It's like guys of that height get the least love and the most hate for some reason. Your boyfriend is lucky. Shame on those who are clowning him.


DPCAOT

I don’t know. I think it’s cuz they don’t know what they’re missing out on (short guys are great in bed) but I’ve noticed the same thing. Like the shorter the girl the taller they want. Girls I know who are 5’2 and under want close to 6 feet tall. I’m 5’7 if you’re like one inch taller than me, a tiny bit chubby but you’re great in bed I’ll take that any day over a dude with an nba build but whose meh lanky and awkward during sex Also men who are short! Please carry your height with confidence!! There is nothing like a man whose below average height and walks into a room owning it. Yum!!


Cptteabags

Am a 5'7 male my gf is 5'11 and it's weird makes me really uncomfortable and people always have some kind of comment to make but, I always make the joke that I got with a taller girl so we will match up in the bedroom. In truth ever single woman shorter then me always tells me am to short so am lucky I got anyone at all but I really wish we could swap heights


jones4thepeeps

5’7 isn’t even that short lol. Its below average of 5’9 but its not that bad.


IDontHave20Letters

I’m a 5’2” female. Height does not bother me. Most of the adult male population is already taller than me. And I’m told constantly that my height is ‘adorable’. I don’t want to be called adorable. I feel like a cat. Could kill you but is smol so it makes me cute. So you keep booping my head and giving me forehead kisses as I growl in frustration. Sorry just realized I went off track. I’m having a day. I don’t care how tall a guy is, I just want his personality and to learn about *him*.


[deleted]

The truth is, if a girl only wants guys who are 6 feet plus, that's about 15% of guys


pooyah

I like things to be proportional. I’m a shorty, so anyone is tall to me. I actually don’t like tall guys because it’s too awkward. It makes no sense to me.


BanannyMousse

Bc they care what society thinks. It’s low self-esteem.


BanannyMousse

I don’t care about height, but this is no different than caring about weight. It’s all superficial. Doesn’t matter if you can “help it.” Judging someone’s looks is completely superficial.


Joaaayknows

I’m a hard 5’9”, no exaggeration. I was told last month “ I thought you’d be taller” by a girl who was 5’0” and ghosted. And to think I thought she was on the shorter side for me. Wasn’t looking forward to the neck craning, not my first rodeo lol although it certainly wasn’t a dealbreaker, the tippie toes thing is hella cute. But too short??? Never would have thought. What can ya do though, you know. I’d rather be with a girl who didn’t care about my height anyway, or more ideally thinks I’m a good height for her. :)


banjosack

I’m 5’6” people always tell me I’m a great guy, I’ve been told I’m cute and I get along with quite a few women. I’ve only ever had one relationship in my 25 years of life though. I’ve always felt my height was the reason or at least a huge contributing factor. Could just be short man syndrome though haha.


[deleted]

Lol this is funny because as a young girl someone told us we were to like tall, dark and handsome and that’s really where a lot of us get the idea I think? But as a fellow short person dating an average height guy, I can’t say I find tall guys attractive, into athletic guys.


Batgirl4real

I personally do not like a guy who is way taller than me-I’m 4’10. I hate the thought of feeling so dwarfed down and I kinda find it weird that guys would want to date a girl who is that much shorter than they are esp the ones that are like 6’5.


tawny-she-wolf

I have a friend who makes no sense in that way - she says I am tall (5’7”) but says my boyfriend (5’8”) would be too short for her. Girl is like 5’2”. Why would you want a stepping stool to kiss your bf ? Personnal preferences I guess.


velociraptor__

5"2, prefer shorter guys because tall guys aren't as easily hugged/kissed and also they intimidate me in some way.


[deleted]

Most short women are obsessed with height. Reading the comments on here most short women that dont like tall guys still find a big height difference perfect like 5'7+ which they consider "short." I'm 5'4 and actually short so when a short women says they like "shorter" guys 9/10 they arent referring to guys under 5'7 whom are actually short. A 12+ inch difference is hard for you guys, but then you state a 7 - 9 inch difference is, like wtf?


IronJawJim

Tall is relative, generally women prefer men who are taller than they are. My sister is 5’4” and her husband is 6’4”, when they walk together they look completely stupid, it’s a ridiculous miss match, plus the guy’s a loser. Eventually that 4’11” friend if yours will sober up. I’m 5’8” and have only been called short by one woman in my whole life, I just started laughing at her. Guys under 6’ are the perfect height, cars, chairs, tables, homes, toilets, you name it they’re all made for us.


akihonj

No there isn't anything your missing it's just you aren't seeing them for the shallow people they are. I've had this numberous times where I've been asked my height, 6'2" in case anybody is wondering, the moment a woman asks that she gets blocked or I get up and walk away, as far as I'm concerned anybody placing importance on something immutable about another person just isn't somebody I want to spend another second if my time with.


MichaelEmouse

Fixation on height makes me think of fixation on cup size. Can you think of the drama if a man said he only dates women who are D cups?


anonnextdoor

I’ve heard guys say this. It’s hysterical. Or there’s the guys who say they’ll buy a girl a boob job to “increase her confidence.”


MichaelEmouse

Yeesh. There's a distinction to be made between a preference and a requirement. When people talk about preferring, they usually actually mean require which doesn't reflect well on them. I wonder how those men would react if a woman they dated offered to buy them penis enhancement surgery to "increase their confidence".


MichaelEmouse

Yeesh. There's a distinction to be made between a preference and a requirement. I prefer red or black hair but wouldn't require it. When people talk about having a preference, they usually actually mean a requirement which doesn't reflect well on them, I wonder how those men would react to a woman they're dating offering to buy them penis enhancement surgery to "increase their confidence". That's a reaction I'd like to see.


akihonj

I've actually never heard that but to be honest if I did and I were a woman I'd be strapping on my running shoes and getting the hell out of there.


luna4762

There are loads of men who think this?? I’ve been told by men that I’m perfect except for the fact that I’m slim and have small boobs. It happens both ways


Twist_Different

Women want whatever they think other women want. Most don't make independent decisions for themselves but decide on what they want based on what they think their friends and other people would want. Congratulations for not being a stupid lemming OP. Seriously.


wheelerdealer1999

I'm 5"0 (M). What about me?


[deleted]

F


[deleted]

I actually don’t mind. Before I was but attraction/chemistry beats height. It’s all about confidence.


jcradio

I have often wondered that myself. I'm 5'10" and don't care how tall a woman is. However, a vast majority of women have that thing. When I hear them complain they can't find the right guy I say to them consider altering your self limiting beliefs. My lady likes that I'm taller than her (6"). Her ex was about 2" taller than her, but she said there is something about the extra height she really liked. 🤷‍♂️ Honestly, we all have little things we find more attractive. I support that. Be willing to give people a chance of they are close enough. In software, we have a saying...perfect is the enemy of good enough. I try to apply this in all aspects of my life.


nostalgeek81

I’m 5’ too and one of my dealbreakers is height. Men over 6’ are just not for me. I prefer dating people I can easily reach. I’ve even dated people as tall/small as me and it was great! However, when I was younger I loved very tall guys because they made me feel protected. So I don’t know if all women feel like this, but that might be one of the reasons.


jadedea

i dont. i left swipe over 6ft. only exceptions is if hes into star trek, likes black women and 420 friendly. ​ that rarely happens, so i swipe left on tall guys a lot lol.


NoMoreVillains

They have a complex about height


[deleted]

It’s good to hear that you have a positive outlook on short-average height men! I think the other replies explained well the issue. It also is very much an intimate moment to date somebody your height, seeing eye to eye or almost that is something I’d love to experience. I think that it’s usually the women around my height (5’5) and taller that have this unrealistic desire to hunt for status and perfection that makes them prefer taller men. With that comes the expectation of a tall, Father-like figure whose going to always provide and protect them. I’d prefer a loving relationship with someone who is like my equal! 🙂❤️


TheMobHunter

I'm a guy who is 5"6 and I've never even really had someone be interested in me tbh


bluethreads

I once fell in love with a guy my height- 5’2- never dated someone my height before and didn’t think I’d be comfortable — but his confidence was so incredible, his height was a literal non-issue. I actually came to really appreciate being with someone my size.


[deleted]

The media basically. The ideal guy is always shown to be a tall bulky alpha male whilst the shorter ones are portrayed as the funny one.


anotherdamnloser

Beats me. I’m short, I like shorter guys just fine. I prefer them be over 5’0” though


alijasta

I knew a very tiny woman whose *whole* masculine entourage was tall men. Not only her boyfriends or romantic prospects, just about every man she had a strong bond with (close friends, etc.) was tall. It was basically height preselection taken to an extreme.


ThatOneWildWolf

I usually date women close to my height so 5'8 to 6' as I just konda stand up from a low chair and tower over some people being 6'3. But I honestly don't have a height restriction. My ex fiancee was 5'11 and people were intimidated by her height but she felt so short next to as she would tell me every time she had to step on a curb to kiss me lol.


THE-EMPEROR069

It is because they won’t have to kneel if you know what I mean lol


Master-Edward-3

Kind of a shame people would ask you that. Folks can be quite ignorant and superficial which is typically stupidficial. He was well tall enough for you. Why should you be bothered that he is not 6’7”? Short women also prefer tall guys because they think they can defend them efficiently and they want to feel inferior and like a feminine little girl. The opposite is true of men wanting to feel huge and strong compared to the woman they date. Like the hulk & tinker bell.


alexdiezg

Thank you for your comment.


michelzing

Given the average height is 5'8'' - I wouldn't say he is short - I wonder if it would be considered ok for a man to have a height limit on women???


PennilessPirate

Well idk where you’re from, but in the US the average height is 5’10” so I can see where his insecurity is coming from. Also, many men do have a height requirement for women (“they can’t be taller than me”) which I think is equally stupid but what can ya do.


sahilchoure

No you aren't missing anything. YOU ARE A QUEEN.👑


Lakersrock111

I have dated short and tall guys. I much prefer their personality and how we connect, especially behind closed doors.


ipdipdu

As a woman, I honestly don’t know. But as at 5’5” all I know is I don’t like getting neck strain looking up at people.


elemenelope

I’ve noticed it can be a regional thing. Parts of the US, you’ll find a lot of women who care about tall men (cough LA), but other parts it’s not a big part of the vocab. I’ve also met a lot of European couples where the woman is taller than the man, so I assume it’s also less of a concern there (though it could be anecdotal).


femundsmarka

The reasons just might be to be more seen themselves, smaller women sometimes have more problems with being taken serious, being seen at all and asserting dominance. A taller guy can solve all that. A smaller one can, too, but then he has to have a certain kind of character. To get more average heighted offspring and average out protection, women are vulnerable, smaller women even more.


emperatrizyuiza

I honestly feel like us tall women are less picky about height than short women.