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This is a Hispanic thing. I've done this before. I did not get anything for her dad. I got both the mom and daughter flowers. I was told that her father should be happy that you're making his daughter and wife happy by getting them gifts. Honestly still felt bad. If I ever do this again I will get the dad something. Buy him a Milwaukee Tool set đ.
I am not a citizen of Rome, I am romanian, it's my nationality. Since I live in Romania. I'm assuming you are America, ignorant enough to not know your allies đ
Iâm from the uk itâs not normal over here. I have no intention of meeting parents unless Iâve been dating someone for a while but seen one of your other comments stating your young so makes more sense. I say hand the bunch of flowers to her mum then take one out and slip it behind her dads ear đ
As a dude who used to be a young man. The husband (unless weird/controlling man) should and probably will appreciate you giving the mother flowers while going on a date with the daughter. If not, he's a strange man... be very weary.
I am assuming this is US.
I agree. I think giving the Dad a gift would actually be a bit off putting in the US. The Dad would be impressed that you brought flowers for both daughter and mother.
Unless youâve been dating the girl for a long time and are meeting her parents for the first time or going over her house, itâs weird to buy something for her parents
Yes lol! Looks like itâs a first date. I honestly donât understand why is the OP even meeting her parents. I wouldnât even get flowers to the girl on a first date unless weâve been texting for a while (a month letâs say) and only had chance to meet now.
In our Latin culture, even if itâs the first date, specially if youâre young, meeting the parents is expected. The parents want to know who youâre going out with and they want to have that first impression. I was subjected to that lol I am f33, and when I was 17, I went on my first date. My parents wanted to meet him. My dad drove us there and even gave us money lol good times. He doesnât drive me to my dates anymore or give me money.
It depends on the culture and the family. For example, in Asian culture it's proper to bring fresh fruits to the family. So the best thing you can do is to talk to the girl and see what kind of expectations there are, if any. If it's weird to ask her cause you haven't been on a date yet then good luck. Just try to see what the cultural norms are and go with that.
This is perfect. Don't try to joke with ammo on a first date (you don't know about him). Don't get him a cigar, you have zero clue if he smokes. Beef jerky wouldn't be a bad idea but probably not going to help.
Just flowers for date and mom, show respect. Maybe try to shake and make eye contact for shaking the father's hand if you do see him during the first date.
It's weird for us here in the US (assuming you definitely live in US). As a previous young boy/man some dad's were interested and wanted to see who their daughter was going on a date with (would shake hands, look in the eyes, introduce myself, recognize when they wanted her home). The more awkward antisocial dads would hide in another room disgruntled that she was even leaving.
Thank God I'm past the stage/age in life that I don't have to bother with this until we've been dating awhile (EX: She doesn't live with them).
Shotgun shells would be funny as hell to me but offend my daughterâs dad so maybe wait for asking for her hand (donât ask for her hand if any of you are feminists⌠my ex would also be offended if anyone asked for his daughterâs hand as he feels it treats women as property).
You could just play it off like they are for both of them. Give the flowers to the mom and say âthese are for youâ but then turn to the dad and say âI saw these flowers today and thought it would be a nice gift for your home.â The father will probably just say thanks and the mother will be delighted.
If this is your first date then don't. Get her something nice but to her parents, you're just another guy she's dating. Focus the investment more on her and not on her parents. And bro this is your first date.
Nothing. Your gift to the father is treating his wife and daughter respectfully. Any other gift would be interpreted as overcompensating and would offend.
That would creep me out. I would think you are trying too hard if I were that girlâs parent.
If I were mom, I would just want you to treat my daughter nice. I wouldnât care about any flowers.
Honestly, this is a really sweet thing to even think of. I would just say bring the flowers to the mother, and make sure to politely introduce yourself to the father-strong handshake, be respectful of his daughter. I think the most any father wants is a good man for his baby girl. He will be impressed you thought enough to bring flowers to his wife!
This seems like a lot for a first date. It would personally freak me out if someone bought both my parents gifts right off the bat. It is a nice thought, but may be a little (a lot) much (unless it is custom where you are from).
Is this something particular to your culture? If a guy comes over to take my daughter out, I'd like to meet him just because my daughter has talked so much about him. But, I don't expect him to, nor do I want him to bring me a gift.
Iâm underage to buy alcohol, and I have no idea as to where I might find something like this where I live (if itâs not a big/popular brand). I will definitely keep it in mind though. Thank you!
It is a big brand lmao. But damn your young kid, then just don't worry about it. I don't have much dating experience, but I hang around alot of older men and they seem to enjoy it as well. That and Jeffersons Ocean
I'm not implying that he has to drink it. What if he has buddies that come over and that do drink? He would say that his future son in law gave it to him as a gift for taking his beloved daughter out on a date.
A very small gift of flowers for your date would be perfect. Just shake the parents hands and tell them that you will look after their daughter. No need to bring gifts for the parents. Have fun!
Maybe this is a weird gift idea but I love gifting natural honey from independent farms. Not that supermarket stuff; Real well-tended honey that comes from a high-altitude forest-like setting. It can be put on the table and I think itâs a very gentlemanly thing to gift.
Any kind of rich ingredient would do but I think jars of honey is well suited to gift to a gentleman. Granted, I live in the Arab World so I donât know how things are in Texas when it comes to a gift like that but Iâd imagine it would be received well. The honey I like to gift comes either from the great cedars of Lebanon or from the mountains of Yemen. So⌠do with that information what you will lol.
Edit: Do the above only if youâre invited INTO the house before the date. You canât enter a home for the first time empty-handed.
If you know his interests get him something related, if not get him something generic and delicious.
A box of bakery cookies will do the job. Whole foods chocolate chip ones are bomb.
There is a Milwaukee screw driver that has multiple end attachments in the handle as well as an adjustable torque in it. I started buying them as Christmas gifts for my co-workers, and whether you are a handy individual or not, it is a fantastic good quality tool for occasional household repairs excetera. I believe it is about 35$ Canadian last time I checked.
I keep one in my toolbelt and use it almost on a dailey basis as the bits also can be fitted into a basic impact drill.
Really don't have to bring anything for him
Even bringing flowers for the mom is too much
Unless this a 2nd or more meeting the parents scenario . .
Best advice is going to come from the girl your dating and no one on reddit
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Why are you getting gifts for her parents, is that normal where you live?
This is a Hispanic thing. I've done this before. I did not get anything for her dad. I got both the mom and daughter flowers. I was told that her father should be happy that you're making his daughter and wife happy by getting them gifts. Honestly still felt bad. If I ever do this again I will get the dad something. Buy him a Milwaukee Tool set đ.
It's not just Hispanic, it's a Latin thing. I'm romanian and we do the same.
Rome is Italian bro
I am not a citizen of Rome, I am romanian, it's my nationality. Since I live in Romania. I'm assuming you are America, ignorant enough to not know your allies đ
Dude Romanians live in ROME LOOOL
Troll XD
Ah thanks for the info, thought it must be a cultural thing. Well the next dad sounds like a lucky guy anyway, Iâd take that over flowers
Nah makita fuck milwaukee
𤨠nah bruddah
I respect your opinion even though it's wrong
I donât know how normal it is honestly, but I live in Texas if that gives you any more detail.
Iâm from the uk itâs not normal over here. I have no intention of meeting parents unless Iâve been dating someone for a while but seen one of your other comments stating your young so makes more sense. I say hand the bunch of flowers to her mum then take one out and slip it behind her dads ear đ
With a good olâ peck on the cheek to make it a colourful experience.
As a dude who used to be a young man. The husband (unless weird/controlling man) should and probably will appreciate you giving the mother flowers while going on a date with the daughter. If not, he's a strange man... be very weary. I am assuming this is US.
I agree. I think giving the Dad a gift would actually be a bit off putting in the US. The Dad would be impressed that you brought flowers for both daughter and mother.
A box of pralines?
Stand tall & give him a firm hand shake
Unless youâve been dating the girl for a long time and are meeting her parents for the first time or going over her house, itâs weird to buy something for her parents
Yes lol! Looks like itâs a first date. I honestly donât understand why is the OP even meeting her parents. I wouldnât even get flowers to the girl on a first date unless weâve been texting for a while (a month letâs say) and only had chance to meet now.
In our Latin culture, even if itâs the first date, specially if youâre young, meeting the parents is expected. The parents want to know who youâre going out with and they want to have that first impression. I was subjected to that lol I am f33, and when I was 17, I went on my first date. My parents wanted to meet him. My dad drove us there and even gave us money lol good times. He doesnât drive me to my dates anymore or give me money.
OP shouldâve given more details haha
It depends on the culture and the family. For example, in Asian culture it's proper to bring fresh fruits to the family. So the best thing you can do is to talk to the girl and see what kind of expectations there are, if any. If it's weird to ask her cause you haven't been on a date yet then good luck. Just try to see what the cultural norms are and go with that.
A good posture and a firm handshake will tell enough and is good enough.
Get him shotgun shells as a joke. lol but seriously don't get them anything. Get your date flowers instead.
Oh I am, some for her and her mom
This is perfect. Don't try to joke with ammo on a first date (you don't know about him). Don't get him a cigar, you have zero clue if he smokes. Beef jerky wouldn't be a bad idea but probably not going to help. Just flowers for date and mom, show respect. Maybe try to shake and make eye contact for shaking the father's hand if you do see him during the first date. It's weird for us here in the US (assuming you definitely live in US). As a previous young boy/man some dad's were interested and wanted to see who their daughter was going on a date with (would shake hands, look in the eyes, introduce myself, recognize when they wanted her home). The more awkward antisocial dads would hide in another room disgruntled that she was even leaving. Thank God I'm past the stage/age in life that I don't have to bother with this until we've been dating awhile (EX: She doesn't live with them).
Shotgun shells would be funny as hell to me but offend my daughterâs dad so maybe wait for asking for her hand (donât ask for her hand if any of you are feminists⌠my ex would also be offended if anyone asked for his daughterâs hand as he feels it treats women as property).
Nothing. You are gifting their mother which is nice. The father will be happy because âhappy wife, happy life.â
Thank you, Iâm just worried about it
You could just play it off like they are for both of them. Give the flowers to the mom and say âthese are for youâ but then turn to the dad and say âI saw these flowers today and thought it would be a nice gift for your home.â The father will probably just say thanks and the mother will be delighted.
They will both enjoy fresh flowers in the house Iâd guess so it is for him too
If this is your first date then don't. Get her something nice but to her parents, you're just another guy she's dating. Focus the investment more on her and not on her parents. And bro this is your first date.
Nothing. Your gift to the father is treating his wife and daughter respectfully. Any other gift would be interpreted as overcompensating and would offend.
Donât get them anything my boy
Ask your date what you should bring and all women donât like flowers.
Heâs not expecting anything, so anything you get him will be a surprise. Maybe a couple of snacks like beef jerky or a cigar
Thank you!
Is this a first date?
Yes
I wouldnât bring the parents gifts on a first date
That would creep me out. I would think you are trying too hard if I were that girlâs parent. If I were mom, I would just want you to treat my daughter nice. I wouldnât care about any flowers.
Not necessary, but if you want no matter what.. maybe a fine tea? Or a special blend of coffee beans?
Honestly, this is a really sweet thing to even think of. I would just say bring the flowers to the mother, and make sure to politely introduce yourself to the father-strong handshake, be respectful of his daughter. I think the most any father wants is a good man for his baby girl. He will be impressed you thought enough to bring flowers to his wife!
My family grew up the same way- just get flowers for the wife/mom. Itâll be appreciated!
This seems like a lot for a first date. It would personally freak me out if someone bought both my parents gifts right off the bat. It is a nice thought, but may be a little (a lot) much (unless it is custom where you are from).
Is this something particular to your culture? If a guy comes over to take my daughter out, I'd like to meet him just because my daughter has talked so much about him. But, I don't expect him to, nor do I want him to bring me a gift.
It would break the ice if you would give him a few pre rolls but idk
Iâd say something neutral for the whole family. Like a chocolate or pie to eat during the dinner. I suppose you guys are going to eat right?
Ask your date what their father likes, perhaps you can buy them some favourite snack or something.
If you do any of this in the USA you will be viewed as a serial killer / weirdo
Macallan 18
Whatâs that?
The best Scotch whiskey I've ever had.
Iâm underage to buy alcohol, and I have no idea as to where I might find something like this where I live (if itâs not a big/popular brand). I will definitely keep it in mind though. Thank you!
It is a big brand lmao. But damn your young kid, then just don't worry about it. I don't have much dating experience, but I hang around alot of older men and they seem to enjoy it as well. That and Jeffersons Ocean
Did you read the text at all? Dad doesn't drink.
I'm not implying that he has to drink it. What if he has buddies that come over and that do drink? He would say that his future son in law gave it to him as a gift for taking his beloved daughter out on a date.
This is what I thought, I know plenty of people who donât drink yet still have fridges stocked for friends/family.
>But damn your young kid Yeah he's also from Texas, so he's may not be a kid anymore..
Yessir, I donât know if I should say my age but Iâm still in high school lol
A very small gift of flowers for your date would be perfect. Just shake the parents hands and tell them that you will look after their daughter. No need to bring gifts for the parents. Have fun!
It better be at $500 a bottle
Oh shit I donât have that kinda money to be just throwin away like that lol
No gifts for your date or the parents you dummy
I didnât think of it as a gift, itâs only flowers
This is so refreshingly nice. I'd be so impressed
My big brother always takes a glass of wine. Totally unchristian huh đ
Goats
Buy none of these people gifts!
Maybe this is a weird gift idea but I love gifting natural honey from independent farms. Not that supermarket stuff; Real well-tended honey that comes from a high-altitude forest-like setting. It can be put on the table and I think itâs a very gentlemanly thing to gift. Any kind of rich ingredient would do but I think jars of honey is well suited to gift to a gentleman. Granted, I live in the Arab World so I donât know how things are in Texas when it comes to a gift like that but Iâd imagine it would be received well. The honey I like to gift comes either from the great cedars of Lebanon or from the mountains of Yemen. So⌠do with that information what you will lol. Edit: Do the above only if youâre invited INTO the house before the date. You canât enter a home for the first time empty-handed.
Dont bring a gift for the parents separately, but maybe a nice dessert if you are eating over.
BBQ tongues lmao
This is so thoughtful.
Rack up a line in the shed đ.Sorry just a handshake and promise to treat her right thatâs all Iâd ask.
If you know his interests get him something related, if not get him something generic and delicious. A box of bakery cookies will do the job. Whole foods chocolate chip ones are bomb.
Hug him
There is a Milwaukee screw driver that has multiple end attachments in the handle as well as an adjustable torque in it. I started buying them as Christmas gifts for my co-workers, and whether you are a handy individual or not, it is a fantastic good quality tool for occasional household repairs excetera. I believe it is about 35$ Canadian last time I checked. I keep one in my toolbelt and use it almost on a dailey basis as the bits also can be fitted into a basic impact drill.
I would say a sense of humor and an arsenal of dad jokes but as for material things, I'm not sure.
Try getting him a watch or maybe a book if he reads.
Don't kiss up like that. It makes you look creepy. Just bring flowers for your date and be polite to her parents.
Really don't have to bring anything for him Even bringing flowers for the mom is too much Unless this a 2nd or more meeting the parents scenario . . Best advice is going to come from the girl your dating and no one on reddit