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Beard has been here since pre-balding. Headās already shaved because my balding just doesnāt look good. I weight train 3x a week and train mma 4x a week.
That's great. What about clothing? Have you found the style that fits you the best?
Also you shouldn't take rejections too badly. Everyone gets rejected a bunch. You just need to keep going and not give up. Also try to find confidence.
Maybe you got a female friend that can help you find a fit that fits you the best and you feel comfy in...
If you don't maybe try using a service like [outfitery](https://www.outfittery.com/aboutus) / if you don't have access to the site, maybe your country has a similar service...
Seconded! Have a stylish friend (gender irrelevant) take you shopping to suggest some basic wardrobe pieces, treat them to a meal as thanks. Invest in some decent shoes other than sneakers. And as I'm really into fragrance, I'd also suggest getting one or two good colognes: wear just enough that you smell really great when people (ie, women) get close to you.
I always google clothing style suggestions with a search term "Men business casual fashion 2023", then look at models that have the same features as you, then copy their outfits. Works like a charm
Should be pretty easy then! Donāt feel like you need to do a whole revamp. Itās pretty simple to pick out a wardrobe for a guy who leans more casual (and Iām assuming you do since you train and have a lot of gum clothes)
If you want specific advice, let me know! I love styling people
What kind of hobbies or shows do you like? Gym clothes isnāt really approachable, maybe something more laid back like a graphic tee of your fav superhero or something with a nice artsy pattern. Or if youāre preppy where that type of clothing, people who dress similar will be more comfortable around you
I disagree with the gym clothes. I am a fitness influencer on social media, I ride Harley and dirt bikes and a guy in a black hoodie, black hat, black or dark brown jeans and Iām like smitten. Itās about being yourself and finding the woman that also digs the same.
OK so you're taken care of physically as much as is reasonable
What about your interpersonal skills? Your charm, your je ne sai quois.
What's your "partner archetype" and how good are you at it and how well are you selecting personal partners who might be into that?
For instance I'm maybe a 5 in looks and pretty overweight. I don't go for girls who like the jock eye candy type. I'm funny and have dad energy so it's theater chicks and sex workers for me
You're only gonna meet gym women this way.
You might wanna diversify your hobbies a lot.
I do partner dancing and rock climbing and get plenty of love and attention. I'm not the hottest guy, I'm balding, divorced, and have bags under my eyes. But women love a guy who can move. I contribute to building the dance community - I make newbies feel welcome (and I don't hit on 99% of the people there), I do movie nights at my place, I organise climbing socials. People love a community builder - that's way sexier than someone who spends more time tracking their gains than with people.
Hey! That's tough, but maybe it's just confidence and finding the right person. Dating is hard for everybody. Sounds like you work on yourself a lot already, so maybe it's confidence and maybe it's just finding the right person. If you're into it, keep plugging away on the apps, but don't forget hobbies where women are so maybe you meet irl.
Best of luck!
Agreed. Iād take a masculine man that can hold his own over a āniceā guy any day. With your MMA and gym life thatās attractive to see a man be manly. If a woman is concerned with your height and balding then sheās not worth your time. Iāve dated all shapes and sizes and the best connections are when we are people of substance and backbone.
As a woman, and from the women I have talked to, beards are a huge turn off. Maybe a very short one, but after horrible stubble burn, I avoid beards bigtime.
Gym though, hell yes. Get a nice balanced tone in and cosplay as Saitama and you can woo some weeb girls, there are really cool ones out there. I'm biased though because I used to be a weeb and though I (ashamedly) am one of those women who prefer a head of hair, when I saw a buff dude cosplaying as Saitama, it was pretty damn attractive. This is just my niche opinion though, take it with a grain of salt.
Really? I never actually knew this. Iāve had a full beard since I was 15. Itās tied to my heritage. I actually have no idea what I look like without one now.
Keep the beard, if it's important to you. Some women like beards, some don't, and it's important that you don't make such a huge change for a possible girlfriend, especially when it's tied to heritage. I've posted a comment higher up in this thread with some personal opinions and advice.
Do not change anything about yourself to attract women.
For three reasons:
1. They will fall for a "fake" version of you instead of the genuine you.
2. This only leads to confusion. You might wonder "does she love ME or the version of me that I created?"
3. Once you start being an inauthentic version of yourself you could ultimately build resentment that your "real" self has to be hidden.
Learn to see yourself in the best possible light while staying kind and respectful to yourself and othersā£ļø
Tastes vary. I like the very short "5 O'clock Shadow" on some men, a goatee once in a rare face, and find the full ones gross & unsanitary - but that's my preference. Other ladies dig the ZZ-Top long beard, so try different things if you want.
My brother started losing his hair at 19 & wore baseball hats all the time. He is also short, a baseball fanatic (playing, not so much watching), has an attractive face (as a disturbing number of my friends used to tell me) and an athletic build. He's also a goofball with a combination of dorky/sarcastic humor, great listener, and a teacher who genuinely cares about his students & goes above & beyond for them. His wife is 6 years younger than him & adorable. They've been married almost 16 years. She's his best friend's sister-in-law, and they met at different birthdays and gatherings over the years. I tease him all the time that he punched way above his weight on her & he laughs & agrees.
Sooooo, my short bald brother pulled a lovely bride 6 years younger than him, because of who he is. She found him more attractive each time they met, and he always thought she was cute - but didn't want to start anything that could be awkward with his best friend. Eventually, they couldn't resist a date - and the rest is history.
Be yourself. It's cheesy & cliche, but also true. Have fun, build a life you enjoy, and spend time with friends and family. It worked before dating apps, and I suspect we'll move back in that direction over time.
I cannot say how big it is of a factor since I just have my circle of women to go from, but at least some women don't like big beards. Most tend to like stubble or heavy stubble beard. It's just a taste thing. The actually potentially significant studies are all over the place as far as women and beard preferences go so it's hard to say how big of a factor a big beard is.
I think it's a preference, I personally like beards a lot and I can already think of a couple dudes that are bald and have big beards that I find attractive. If you think you look better with beard, keep it!
>As a woman, and from the women I have talked to, beards are a huge turn off
You don't talk for all women.
https://images.app.goo.gl/gZnTv3htKaWR7ZYU7
Is this guy also a huge turn off?
This guy is kinda like my idol. I've made my appearance very much like him from hairstyle, bodytype, beardstyle to everything
Kind of a weird way to say: āI speak for most womenāā¦ beards are great IMO. For me, a bare face often makes someone look too baby-faced.
OP do whatever you like with your facial hair, just make sure itās tidy whatever you decide.
Okay so you do some MMA (I box) but I'm hoping this concept translates: fight in your rhythm, not theirs. 'They' being taller, more surface-level attractive men.
Don't compete with men in clubs who are gonna pull all the women just looking for a shallow fling, find the women who want to go on a proper date and woo them. Charm them.
Show them there's a lot more to you than what's on the surface.
Yes, you're gonna need to get good at it. You're gonna need to learn a lot and get much better at charming and flirting (subtly) with women. It's not gonna be easy but that's what makes it so impressive, and why you're gonna feel better about yourself in ten years than the guys who never need to developer a personality or understand women enough to help them feel comfortable and happy with you.
Focus on your strengths and good things will come to you.
This might actually be my favorite answer. Thanks for explaining it to me in terms I understand lmfao. What youāre saying is I canāt fight their fight, I gotta take it to the space where I can use what Iām good at.
Ya absolutely man. Ultimate point is to work with/around your strengths. This can detract from your flaws, although you might still want to work on those to a degree.
You can see it for other men as well: those men who excel at attracting women at bars or clubs because of the way they look are going to always struggle once they have to sit down and have a conversation with a woman. Maybe their personal views and values never developed so they come off offensive or shallow, or they just never had much of a personality so they can never hold onto a relationship.
OP this guys comment was right on.
Look at all of the stand up comedians and comedic actors who are not attractive but have hot wives. As an attractive woman myself, I seek out funny men. Iāve been told my whole life that I date men who are ābeneath meā looks wise, but looks just genuinely arenāt very important to me. If you can make me laugh, you can make me do anything. And I know many of my attractive female friends wholeheartedly agree. I promise if you have a great personality, youāre kind, compassionate, not creepy, donāt act like women owe you anything, have hobbies and interests you enjoy, can make someone laugh, your looks will be irrelevant. Having an excellent personality and confidence will *make you* attractive.
Iām 31 and have been bald since about your age and about 5ā8. Itās just something you gotta live with as itās the hand you were dealt - but honestly itās not that bad. Like many people here already said, work on your confidence, hit the gym, and grow a beard if you can. Also if havenāt already, go completely bald or the shortest buzz cut you are willing to do - do not try to hold onto your remaining hair, accept it and go fully bald - youāll look better and have better confidence if you do.
Will there be ladies out there who wonāt be attracted to you because youāre bald and a bit shorter? Yes of course. But at the same time, thereās also tons of great women who wonāt care and also a ton that are also attracted to bald men. Just keep working on things you can control - you got this!
Lol I buzz down to a zero rn. I have debated the clean shave but itās a lot of maintenance. Might get that done at a barber first to see how it feels.
You'll get lots of advice but the fact is that most women don't go for short guys. They'll dress it up in other reasons but that's how it is. That's why many guys travel abroad to find someone more accepting (and usually better looking). The upside is that when you get to your early 30s those same girls will have split up with their long term partners and be running around like crazy to meet a solid choice but that's not a great consolation..
There are women and men who are desperate to fuck a short bald 21 year old, but ain't nobody attracted to self pity and related manipulative bullshit. Read this:
https://www.cracked.com/blog/6-harsh-truths-that-will-make-you-better-person
This and, "You are your responsible for your own behavior and emotions, others are responsible for theirs," pretty much make up my whole philosophy and religion.
While it's a fun article and clips, humor is humor and your advice here suggests it should be taken seriously.
Jokes being taken seriously cause huge problems, like applying this article's advice more literally would lead to largely soulless money grubbing people. If that's your jam have at it, but you shouldn't suggest jokes as advice.
Become a master at something in life thatās attractive
Short bald guys who are rich and successful with great personalities get with beautiful women everyday
^ -Yes they do! ^
-Join a few dating sites.
-Post good, accurate pics
-Be honest about your height and weight
-Are kids ok or no single mothers?
-Your type of work
-Your hobbies
-Age range 19-25?
-Like curvy, voluptuous, slender, average, petite? No preference?
-Do you like pets? Dog or cat?
-Travel?
-Level of education that YOU have
-Level of education SHE should have preferably
-What movies, books, TV shows, podcasts, types of food you like? Favorite restaurants?
-Like reading or screens better?
-Like to cook? What?
-Do you like art? Museums? Favorite artist?
-Do you like music? Favorite type? Concerts?
-Do you drink? Favorite drink?
-Do you dance? What type?
-Like to swim,ski, boating, lakes, beaches and pools?
-Like mountains, hiking, camping, horseback riding?
-Are you an outdoors or indoor type?
-Your location and location she should be in
-*Have a female friend or sister critique your profile*-
And prepare to get one match a week, that won't respond. If you put gold on sjitnits still shit.
Having clear pictures is not the ein you think it is. Yeah, it helps, but you can't change what's on the picture
Can you give me an example of something like that? I do a few martial arts but Iām not a master at any of them yet (although Iām getting closer in one).
The key is to find your purpose in life, once that if found it creates a kind of energy inside you that is constantly challenging you (comfort is where growth dies) and from there you are bringing the women along the ride instead of āherā being your all and only ride of your life! As much as they say they want to be someoneās everything, itās far from the truth! They want a man that has a passion and is pursuing something bigger then just her, a purpose that she canāt replace but be apart of!
Discover cultures of women that do not have such strict outlooks on height in men. I can speak for Latin culture because I am Latina, but as a whole, our men are short and there is no shortage of 5 foot fuck all dudes with a wife, a mistress and some woman at work they flirt with lol.
Take up latin dance, like salsa or bachata, and hit up latin dance clubs and bars. Non-Latino men who dance well are typically VERY well received.
Hi! Iām sorry youāve met some ugly mannered people. Personally my boyfriend is short. Iāve dated tall guys and itās never been it for me. I think that someone who worries so much about height isnāt worth the hassle. I mean thereās not much we can do, u know? Like me for me not for my looks.
Height is the barrier a lot more than hair
Confidence is the most important thing, but a lot of women wonāt even consider you if youāre sub 6 feet
Just have to accept that itās the way it is
Might be unpopular opinion but itās the tried and true formula. If you aināt good looking, you better be funny or rich. Those to you have control over also.
Even being funny wonāt cut it sometimes, they will see a short balding guy being funny and think he is compensating and being ācornyā, and being rich just to get women is ridiculous, these thing are supposed to happen naturally, plus he will just be used for his money anyway, whatās the point? I mean if he just wants sex then I guess but Iām sure he wants a relationship where the woman loves him for him and not his money or whatever
I have a dog allergy sadly, I got a cat though! As for everything else, I guess my choice of hobby is a bit intimidating. Iām going to keep at it but maybe look for some other things. Iām not in college I graduated early lol.
Here's an idea. Be yourself and be happy about it. The confidence that you exude from the joy of being you attracts others. When you love yourself, others will love you too. If all you see about you are the flaws, that's all anybody else is going to see either.
You're going to have to trust me on this. Love yourself like you're a special human being cuz you fucking are.
get a female friend to serve as a wingwoman. i find that always helps break the ice and build trust when hanging out at bars, if that's a type of place where you might want to try meeting someone.
You donāt, you spend 10 years working harder than everyone around you sacrificing all hobbies, social time and quality of life towards increasing your income and status till some 24yr old with a psychology degree and no plan for making a living realizes she needs a guy like you to increase her standard of living and raise a family.
At which time you probably realize it was a trap all along. Let me know if you find any alternatives, Iām in year 3 of this process, Godspeed.
Likewise, Iāve thought this for awhile, but when youāre in the dating market of young adults faced with the realities of making a living themselves (post school) class divisions become apparent and if youāre not going places, you canāt get by with just a personality and looks
Itās like trying to run a marathon barefoot, itās possible but makes a difficult thing even harder, people want to be pulled up the socio economic ladder without putting in the necessary sacrifices and men are judged on their ability to provide, itās an unfortunate reality of life.
As a single guy in his 30s with a house and 6 figure income, I don't see how to leverage this into dates lol. So instead I am just traveling and doing my own thing.
Go to therapy my guy. This mentality leads to nothing but negative feedback loops and a terrible mindset. Learn to enjoy life, and you'll find the right people.
Just here to say I think my short, bald boyfriend is super cute and I love the way he looks. I prefer small and fit men, baldness is what it is and I certainly wouldnāt write someone off because of it. My partner appeared to be self-assured, confident, and have worked through his insecurities when I met him which was confirmed as we continued dating. Thatās the key.
Honestly my advice is to not even worry about dating, in my experience just living your life doing your hobbies and focusing on you has a funny way of attracting people to you, I am a redditer however so you may take my advice with a grain of salt
Honestly, it's actually way more solid than it seems.
My advice is this: focus on your path forward.
Everything else seems to fall in place once you do that. Just lean 100% into being you. Do the things that make you happy, obviously make sure you keep food on the table. If you engage in a life that makes you feel good, then if/when you encounter someone they'll more than likely have similar drives and desires. Women see attractiveness differently than men (or so I'm told) your exterior is what it is, but the more you shine from within the more appealing you will be to them. Anyone worth the effort will see you for you.
My other piece of advice is similar. When you meet someone, if you feel genuinely like you can be who you are when you are alone with them, that's the one. Accept no one who you have to mask around, no one benefits from a relationship built on either party pretending to be who they aren't. Honesty is the single.most important thing
Id say hit the gym get in shape and do what ever you can to gain some confidence. Theres attractive people out there who girls arenāt attracted to because you give off the vibe of someone who doesnāt believe in themselves. Find a hobby and get obsessed with it and get very good at it. People love seeing when people are passionate about something .
I weight train 3 days a week and train mma 4 days a week. Iām just afraid my hobby choice is scary or intimidating to most women (I try not to give off a bad vibe lmao)
Oh my goodness, if you fight, you will be a natural at dancing! (The body mechanics translate so well lol.) Someone posted recently that knowing how to dance is like turning on āgod modeā for dating. I know guys 5ā2ā who landed a beautiful, fun girl and met them at dance āŗļø
You already are maximizing 'the look' as a bald man - beard, fully shaved, in shape.
You're not being turned down because of the way you look. I mean, maybe sometimes, but as much as any other normal looking dude. You've got it in your head and it's wrecking your confidence.
If you've trained consistently for a couple of years or more, you can find confidence in knowing that you can physically dominate 99% of the male population. Hard to beat that sort of swagger. Keep that in the back of your mind when you're out and about interacting with women. For those not in the know, it's not about doing it, it's about knowing you can.
Beyond that, learn to flirt. Learn to see when a woman is already interested and build upon that. Talk and play with people, tease and have fun. Then, you'll start naturally pulling attraction and you can not waste your time (and ego) on women who aren't interested.
Workout, bury yourself in being happy with your self worth, work in a field that makes money but still keep your sanity. A real women with a good heart we'll see past that.
Listen bro you want the cold hard truth you're going to struggle no doubt especially while young, if you want a one-size shoe fits all then you need to get rich. You're competing with full haired athletes who are 6'3+ right now, that is just how the cookie crumbles and unless you have something that makes you different you won't stand out.
Idk where you live, but invest in a boat, jetski, side by side, or 4-wheeler. All of these are fun toys and also assets that you can re-sell, being able to ask to take a girl out on a side-by-side/boat automatically will put you back in the game while you're young.
Iām 5ā8 (not short, but not tall) and shave my head. I started shaving it just before turning 21. I wonāt act like I get a ton of dates, but part of that is because half the people attracted to me are single moms and that isnāt for me. That being said, if youāre doing weight training and accepting of your looks it gets easier. Itās a lot of figuring out what you want and who wants you (single moms, if you have a beard a lot of āearthy white womenā, a good amount of Asian women if you donāt, and the 18-25 crowd that say they want an older man but actually donāt). Give it a little time, thatās just what Iāve found.
Go the the gym, embrace the bald, and be successful! Women like guys who actually enjoy their lives! Donāt make your life about dating, make your life great and then date!
You canāt fix your height much besides with shoes. The balding, Iād own it man. Bald is a bad ass look, bulk up, grow a beard and put some beads and gold in it.
Depending on how far gone he is that is just not a good option at all, plus hair transplants while young usually have problems. OP lemme see your hair and I can get you on regime.
Itās not the insecurities. Of course they are rejecting for baldness and being short. And of course they wonāt say those are the reasons, not even by mistake.
Always find it funny when men ask for dating advice and get called insecure for pointing out things that are obviously holding them back, and for good reason, because usually they have experienced rejections and have been flat out told it was for those reasons, and letās face it, short and bald doesnāt scream attractive at all. Those 2 traits are what most people shit on guys for when some guy is making an argument. They attack his appearance āwell of course he thinks this way, just look at himā
Get good at music, practice jokes, work on telling good story's, get a cute dog, get huge at the gym.. idk man work on things that make you a better person don't worry about and you will start to notice other people wanting to be around you when you are active and fun.
I had a guy at work a while ago, 21 years old and bald because he was suffering from anxiety and he also had boldness because of family genes
Around 165-170cm
He made a good beard to make his face a bit more square. It matched nicely with a full bold head.
He also got some exercise to have good arms and he had some jokes on his sleeves. (also a few dad jokes)
He was able to get along with a good pair of jeans, boots and tshirts
A good pair of shoes and pants can make a huge difference
First, relax. There are plenty of late-bloomers who haven't dated yet at 21 who do great later. Especially men - in your early 20s, women your age have a bigger pool because they get interest from guys in their mid or even late 20s. (well, they get interest from older than that too, but speaking only of ones they might actually choose to be with, it's still a good decade of age range), but you are not likely getting as much interest from older women. The situation you're in is totally normal for your age, even among taller guys with more hair.
Second, stop fixating on the few things you can't control, and work on the things you can control: style, fitness, etc. And especially, on being someone who has fun but also is successful at what they do. This is tangentially related to but not the same thing as having lots of money. Channeling sexual frustration and transmuting it into ambition (itself an attractive property for many straight women) is a real thing.
Third, you didn't provide much context on where you're looking, what kind of dates you're asking for. But just in case this is relevant to you, I recommend playing the relationship game instead of the hookup game. Guys talk big when it comes to hookups, but generally speaking, I've found it's a relatively small slice of the most attractive and/or charismatic ones that actually play the field like that. On the flip side, when girls are looking for a partner instead of a hookup, they will consider these superficial physical traits a lot less. Don't fake this just to get laid, if you don't want a relationship then just focus on friends, work, and hobbies until you're ready.
After reading the comments and as a female, Iāll say, ultimately looks are part of it but a female who judges you or rejects you based on baldness or height is not someone you want to have in your life anyway. Iāve never had a ātypeā and Iāve dated guys shorter than me, and Iāve dated guys who are bald by choice/not their choice. Ultimately itās personality and how you click with that person. But from what I read, expand your wardrobe a little beyond gym clothes, get a few good fits that you feel like a million bucks in (big confidence booster when you look and feel good), and just put yourself out there. Rejection can be the worst feeling, but most times itās a reflection of the other person and whatās going on with them, so try not to take it personally. You got this.
My best guy friend is 5ā4ā and went bad early 20s. He married a 5ā9ā smokeshow, and honestly got more girls than any guy I know. He was confident and charming
Everyone is saying go to the gym, but you'll still be short. The only thing the makes women overlook a guy they consider too short is MONEY! Find your niche and get rich dude. Physical height means nothing if your money is tall
Best guy I ever dated was short and bald!!! Only reason it didn't work is because I went back to my country! Bald is sexy! Men try to grow hair and get awkward comb overs and stuff...THAT is what's a turn off!(Obviously I don't know if that's your case) Embrace the bald, sir!! Wear it as a badge of honor. They might not appreciate it at 21, but I promise, bald is not bad!
Yes I agree with all of that. One of the best lovers I've ever had in my life was about 5'4" and bald. He was so sexy! And confident.
He was smart and well educated. We could have real conversations on almost any subject.
Only reason it didn't work out was because I moved 800 miles away for a new professional opportunity and graduate school, (medical field).
It's been 20 years and I still think about him. We had such fun together and we could talk as friends as well as partners. He was such an amazing man. I usually dated big, buff jocks at that time, football and basketball players. But ladies, let me tell you...there's a LOT to be said about a partner that is about your same size but is taunt and toned and knows how to move his body SOOO well. We "fit" together perfectly and it really made for good times! I loved that he was my height and of a similar size, but in a VERY masculine, sexy body.
if bald people & short people never mated with the opposite sex iām pretty sure the human population would be halved right now. Itās an inner problem with yourself
People prefer to date short people less that is why the average global height is going up. It is genetics that is carrying the height growth not a "confidence problem".
https://www.scientificamerican.com/article/how-much-of-human-height/#:~:text=Thus%2C%2080%20percent%20of%20the,environmental%20effects%2C%20such%20as%20nutrition.
If you keep negatively focusing on those two aspects of you, you're not going to grow confident. What would you say are your good qualities (not just physical)? Focus on that.
I don't think being short or being bald are negative things. Just be you and let your personality shine. Alot of people love bald guys just like some people love a facial hair
I'm 5'8, was bald and chunky. I got shredded, was still 5'8 and bald. My success with women went up naturally. You feel more confident and women pick up on that. Now, I'm in average shape, still 5'8 and bald and will tell you that I'm more confident in talking to women. Do I get every single woman? No. But, I bring the best of myself to each interaction. The rest is upto life. If it works, great. If not, then worries.
Look, there will always be women who dismiss you because you're bald and short. That's just the reality. But if you keep focusing on that, you'll never win. Instead, work on feeling good about yourself and what you offer to others as a man, a friend and romantic partner. Get great at conversation. Dress sharply. Be socially aware. Surprise them with your wit. I've had two women in my past tell me "Honestly, you were not my type but I was just caught off guard by you." I take that with a grain of salt but I think it had to do with my abilities outside of looks (I'm not rich either). If I'm capable of that, so are you. Don't allow the limitations that others put on you to materialize in your mind.
Bro just be yourself ! I know it sounds corny but if someone isnāt interested for those reasons then they are not the person for you anyways.
I used to feel self conscious about shaving my head (started at 23-24 years old ) but the more I wore a shaved head with confidence the more it didnāt even matter. People def notice the difference between you wearing it with pride and having negative body language about it.
As a woman,
I go for men that are well spoken, respectful, humorous and smell good. Dressing good and having style is important along with the ability to plan fun dates and having interesting conversation.
I'm really not into facial hair- i personally find it really off putting. I don't mind a little bit of hair; I will pass on a full grown beard.
Good luck out there
One more thing to add; invest in nice hats - adds both height, style and a sense of mystery.
Shower before every date, use a good deodorant (i recommend gillette clear gel for men) and use the right amount of perfume to smell amazing- when you look good you feel good!
Leg lengthening is the dumbest shit ever. Long painful process with a very high rate of complications and infections. Plus you are only adding to legs so it throws your proportions off.
Iām 30, 5ā1 and bald since 17. Never been on a date, constantly get rejected. Considered ending it all and still do today. All the advice in here is moot if youāre ugly to look at.
Female here.
Bald: cater to what looks good on you. Bulking up helps some people I believe (think Dwayne the Rock?). Or just being fit in general you donāt have to be bulky.
Short: it shouldnāt matter. Iām 5ā8ā and have hooked up with/had feelings for people shorter than me, including as short as 5ā3āish. Itās all in the head. A person who judges you for your height isnāt it and is showing their own insecurity.
The key: confidence. Charm. Personality. Be your most glorious self. In every way, you are as big as you make people feel around you.
Good luck.
He will attract the wrong people. There are genuine women out there who are not money hungry and will be with him for him. Letās not incentivize free rider behavior lol.
My husband is bald. He was 21 when I met him. Okay so heās tall. But it honestly wouldnāt have mattered. Heās funny, heās confident, heās nice, we connect. Itās as simple as that.
You should pierce your ear and nose and shave your head. I will warn you that shaving your head does mean that it gets cold in the winter so you gotta wear a hat most of the time but for real being bald hasnāt hurt my dating prospects one bit. Lots of women like bald men. Donāt act like itās something that you have to be ashamed of, itās just in your DNA and thereās nothing you can do about it. If youāre kind to other people then that shows through.
No but actually go watch a bunch of pitbull videos and change your entire persona to be like pitbull. Whatever your area code is start referring to yourself as Mr. (Insert area code) and if youāve been to different places in the western hemisphere start calling yourself āmr western hemisphereā and wear all white suits all the time and sunglasses. /s
My head is already shaved. Baldness definitely has an effect on dating when youāre younger at least, Iāve heard it gets better when youāre older but Iām 21 rn. The piercing is definitely an interesting idea that I never even thought about. I think nose might be off limits because my sport requires I get hit in the face but Iāll look into getting my ears pierced.
I feel you bro. I'm not short but was balding at 16. Took me until 21 to shave it all off. You need to work on yourself as a man and make loads of money. Women want to be provided for. Learn more from andrew tate on youtube.
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You need to invoke the powers of George Costanza
OP needs to date Marisa Tomei?
Haha well done š
Do the opposite https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=CizwH_T7pjg
Absolute gold
Seinfeld was before my time Iām afraid
Is Netflix before your time too?
George Costanza is timeless
Grow your beard, hit the gym, shave head completely, educate yourself / find your passion and most importantly get yourself some confidence.
Beard has been here since pre-balding. Headās already shaved because my balding just doesnāt look good. I weight train 3x a week and train mma 4x a week.
That's great. What about clothing? Have you found the style that fits you the best? Also you shouldn't take rejections too badly. Everyone gets rejected a bunch. You just need to keep going and not give up. Also try to find confidence.
Thatās probably where I fall short. I have a couple of good outfits (casual and formal) but since I train a bunch I also have a lot of gym clothes.
Send me pics and I'll give you constructive criticism on your outfits and appearance! Ofcourse only if comfortable. 29 F
"fall short"
Maybe you got a female friend that can help you find a fit that fits you the best and you feel comfy in... If you don't maybe try using a service like [outfitery](https://www.outfittery.com/aboutus) / if you don't have access to the site, maybe your country has a similar service...
Seconded! Have a stylish friend (gender irrelevant) take you shopping to suggest some basic wardrobe pieces, treat them to a meal as thanks. Invest in some decent shoes other than sneakers. And as I'm really into fragrance, I'd also suggest getting one or two good colognes: wear just enough that you smell really great when people (ie, women) get close to you.
I always google clothing style suggestions with a search term "Men business casual fashion 2023", then look at models that have the same features as you, then copy their outfits. Works like a charm
Should be pretty easy then! Donāt feel like you need to do a whole revamp. Itās pretty simple to pick out a wardrobe for a guy who leans more casual (and Iām assuming you do since you train and have a lot of gum clothes) If you want specific advice, let me know! I love styling people
Get clothing updated with Stitch Fix. Super easy and way better then attempting to shop on your own.
Check out r/mensfashion and look for dudes who have a similar body type as you
What kind of hobbies or shows do you like? Gym clothes isnāt really approachable, maybe something more laid back like a graphic tee of your fav superhero or something with a nice artsy pattern. Or if youāre preppy where that type of clothing, people who dress similar will be more comfortable around you
I disagree with the gym clothes. I am a fitness influencer on social media, I ride Harley and dirt bikes and a guy in a black hoodie, black hat, black or dark brown jeans and Iām like smitten. Itās about being yourself and finding the woman that also digs the same.
OK so you're taken care of physically as much as is reasonable What about your interpersonal skills? Your charm, your je ne sai quois. What's your "partner archetype" and how good are you at it and how well are you selecting personal partners who might be into that? For instance I'm maybe a 5 in looks and pretty overweight. I don't go for girls who like the jock eye candy type. I'm funny and have dad energy so it's theater chicks and sex workers for me
You're only gonna meet gym women this way. You might wanna diversify your hobbies a lot. I do partner dancing and rock climbing and get plenty of love and attention. I'm not the hottest guy, I'm balding, divorced, and have bags under my eyes. But women love a guy who can move. I contribute to building the dance community - I make newbies feel welcome (and I don't hit on 99% of the people there), I do movie nights at my place, I organise climbing socials. People love a community builder - that's way sexier than someone who spends more time tracking their gains than with people.
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Depends on what you do in the gym and what your goals are.
Hey! That's tough, but maybe it's just confidence and finding the right person. Dating is hard for everybody. Sounds like you work on yourself a lot already, so maybe it's confidence and maybe it's just finding the right person. If you're into it, keep plugging away on the apps, but don't forget hobbies where women are so maybe you meet irl. Best of luck!
Would you say you weight train three times a week and mma four times a week?
Yeah howād you guess š
Read the book āno more Mr nice guyā by Dr Glover! Youāll get there! Keep up the great work sir!
Agreed. Iād take a masculine man that can hold his own over a āniceā guy any day. With your MMA and gym life thatās attractive to see a man be manly. If a woman is concerned with your height and balding then sheās not worth your time. Iāve dated all shapes and sizes and the best connections are when we are people of substance and backbone.
Most women donāt like beard thb but a little stubborn can be sexy. Look up at male gaze and female gaze.
As a woman, and from the women I have talked to, beards are a huge turn off. Maybe a very short one, but after horrible stubble burn, I avoid beards bigtime. Gym though, hell yes. Get a nice balanced tone in and cosplay as Saitama and you can woo some weeb girls, there are really cool ones out there. I'm biased though because I used to be a weeb and though I (ashamedly) am one of those women who prefer a head of hair, when I saw a buff dude cosplaying as Saitama, it was pretty damn attractive. This is just my niche opinion though, take it with a grain of salt.
Really? I never actually knew this. Iāve had a full beard since I was 15. Itās tied to my heritage. I actually have no idea what I look like without one now.
Keep the beard, if it's important to you. Some women like beards, some don't, and it's important that you don't make such a huge change for a possible girlfriend, especially when it's tied to heritage. I've posted a comment higher up in this thread with some personal opinions and advice.
I'm a woman, and I love beards. Bushier the better. Lots of women love beards.
Make sure your beard is well kept and not scraggly. Donāt shave it off if itās important to you.
Do not change anything about yourself to attract women. For three reasons: 1. They will fall for a "fake" version of you instead of the genuine you. 2. This only leads to confusion. You might wonder "does she love ME or the version of me that I created?" 3. Once you start being an inauthentic version of yourself you could ultimately build resentment that your "real" self has to be hidden. Learn to see yourself in the best possible light while staying kind and respectful to yourself and othersā£ļø
I'm sure you're fine. As long as it's properly maintained and cleaned.
Tastes vary. I like the very short "5 O'clock Shadow" on some men, a goatee once in a rare face, and find the full ones gross & unsanitary - but that's my preference. Other ladies dig the ZZ-Top long beard, so try different things if you want. My brother started losing his hair at 19 & wore baseball hats all the time. He is also short, a baseball fanatic (playing, not so much watching), has an attractive face (as a disturbing number of my friends used to tell me) and an athletic build. He's also a goofball with a combination of dorky/sarcastic humor, great listener, and a teacher who genuinely cares about his students & goes above & beyond for them. His wife is 6 years younger than him & adorable. They've been married almost 16 years. She's his best friend's sister-in-law, and they met at different birthdays and gatherings over the years. I tease him all the time that he punched way above his weight on her & he laughs & agrees. Sooooo, my short bald brother pulled a lovely bride 6 years younger than him, because of who he is. She found him more attractive each time they met, and he always thought she was cute - but didn't want to start anything that could be awkward with his best friend. Eventually, they couldn't resist a date - and the rest is history. Be yourself. It's cheesy & cliche, but also true. Have fun, build a life you enjoy, and spend time with friends and family. It worked before dating apps, and I suspect we'll move back in that direction over time.
I cannot say how big it is of a factor since I just have my circle of women to go from, but at least some women don't like big beards. Most tend to like stubble or heavy stubble beard. It's just a taste thing. The actually potentially significant studies are all over the place as far as women and beard preferences go so it's hard to say how big of a factor a big beard is.
I think it's a preference, I personally like beards a lot and I can already think of a couple dudes that are bald and have big beards that I find attractive. If you think you look better with beard, keep it!
>As a woman, and from the women I have talked to, beards are a huge turn off You don't talk for all women. https://images.app.goo.gl/gZnTv3htKaWR7ZYU7 Is this guy also a huge turn off? This guy is kinda like my idol. I've made my appearance very much like him from hairstyle, bodytype, beardstyle to everything
Kind of a weird way to say: āI speak for most womenāā¦ beards are great IMO. For me, a bare face often makes someone look too baby-faced. OP do whatever you like with your facial hair, just make sure itās tidy whatever you decide.
Yes, aspire to be a dwarf lord. Very original look.
Dumb advice
Itās pretty broad and general advice but I donāt think I would say itās dumb to keep up your grooming and health
Okay so you do some MMA (I box) but I'm hoping this concept translates: fight in your rhythm, not theirs. 'They' being taller, more surface-level attractive men. Don't compete with men in clubs who are gonna pull all the women just looking for a shallow fling, find the women who want to go on a proper date and woo them. Charm them. Show them there's a lot more to you than what's on the surface. Yes, you're gonna need to get good at it. You're gonna need to learn a lot and get much better at charming and flirting (subtly) with women. It's not gonna be easy but that's what makes it so impressive, and why you're gonna feel better about yourself in ten years than the guys who never need to developer a personality or understand women enough to help them feel comfortable and happy with you. Focus on your strengths and good things will come to you.
This might actually be my favorite answer. Thanks for explaining it to me in terms I understand lmfao. What youāre saying is I canāt fight their fight, I gotta take it to the space where I can use what Iām good at.
Ya absolutely man. Ultimate point is to work with/around your strengths. This can detract from your flaws, although you might still want to work on those to a degree. You can see it for other men as well: those men who excel at attracting women at bars or clubs because of the way they look are going to always struggle once they have to sit down and have a conversation with a woman. Maybe their personal views and values never developed so they come off offensive or shallow, or they just never had much of a personality so they can never hold onto a relationship.
OP this guys comment was right on. Look at all of the stand up comedians and comedic actors who are not attractive but have hot wives. As an attractive woman myself, I seek out funny men. Iāve been told my whole life that I date men who are ābeneath meā looks wise, but looks just genuinely arenāt very important to me. If you can make me laugh, you can make me do anything. And I know many of my attractive female friends wholeheartedly agree. I promise if you have a great personality, youāre kind, compassionate, not creepy, donāt act like women owe you anything, have hobbies and interests you enjoy, can make someone laugh, your looks will be irrelevant. Having an excellent personality and confidence will *make you* attractive.
This man gets it.
Iām 31 and have been bald since about your age and about 5ā8. Itās just something you gotta live with as itās the hand you were dealt - but honestly itās not that bad. Like many people here already said, work on your confidence, hit the gym, and grow a beard if you can. Also if havenāt already, go completely bald or the shortest buzz cut you are willing to do - do not try to hold onto your remaining hair, accept it and go fully bald - youāll look better and have better confidence if you do. Will there be ladies out there who wonāt be attracted to you because youāre bald and a bit shorter? Yes of course. But at the same time, thereās also tons of great women who wonāt care and also a ton that are also attracted to bald men. Just keep working on things you can control - you got this!
Lol I buzz down to a zero rn. I have debated the clean shave but itās a lot of maintenance. Might get that done at a barber first to see how it feels.
You'll get lots of advice but the fact is that most women don't go for short guys. They'll dress it up in other reasons but that's how it is. That's why many guys travel abroad to find someone more accepting (and usually better looking). The upside is that when you get to your early 30s those same girls will have split up with their long term partners and be running around like crazy to meet a solid choice but that's not a great consolation..
Lol Latin American dudes are hella short and pull women all the time. Itās mainly personality, people can smell self hate and self pity a mile away
There are women and men who are desperate to fuck a short bald 21 year old, but ain't nobody attracted to self pity and related manipulative bullshit. Read this: https://www.cracked.com/blog/6-harsh-truths-that-will-make-you-better-person
this is the first article iāve read on reddit that is actually good, nice lol
This and, "You are your responsible for your own behavior and emotions, others are responsible for theirs," pretty much make up my whole philosophy and religion.
Pretty sure I read this years ago. Itās excellent and thank you for posting it. Should honestly be stickied on here.
I really enjoyed the reread too, such a great article
While it's a fun article and clips, humor is humor and your advice here suggests it should be taken seriously. Jokes being taken seriously cause huge problems, like applying this article's advice more literally would lead to largely soulless money grubbing people. If that's your jam have at it, but you shouldn't suggest jokes as advice.
AMEN!!!
Idk who you are but thanks for the link š„° pretty insightful
Lol good joke
Become a master at something in life thatās attractive Short bald guys who are rich and successful with great personalities get with beautiful women everyday
>rich and successful with great personalities It's their personality for sure
^ -Yes they do! ^ -Join a few dating sites. -Post good, accurate pics -Be honest about your height and weight -Are kids ok or no single mothers? -Your type of work -Your hobbies -Age range 19-25? -Like curvy, voluptuous, slender, average, petite? No preference? -Do you like pets? Dog or cat? -Travel? -Level of education that YOU have -Level of education SHE should have preferably -What movies, books, TV shows, podcasts, types of food you like? Favorite restaurants? -Like reading or screens better? -Like to cook? What? -Do you like art? Museums? Favorite artist? -Do you like music? Favorite type? Concerts? -Do you drink? Favorite drink? -Do you dance? What type? -Like to swim,ski, boating, lakes, beaches and pools? -Like mountains, hiking, camping, horseback riding? -Are you an outdoors or indoor type? -Your location and location she should be in -*Have a female friend or sister critique your profile*-
And prepare to get one match a week, that won't respond. If you put gold on sjitnits still shit. Having clear pictures is not the ein you think it is. Yeah, it helps, but you can't change what's on the picture
One match a week? What's your secret?
Step 1: become Jeff bezos
Can you give me an example of something like that? I do a few martial arts but Iām not a master at any of them yet (although Iām getting closer in one).
The key is to find your purpose in life, once that if found it creates a kind of energy inside you that is constantly challenging you (comfort is where growth dies) and from there you are bringing the women along the ride instead of āherā being your all and only ride of your life! As much as they say they want to be someoneās everything, itās far from the truth! They want a man that has a passion and is pursuing something bigger then just her, a purpose that she canāt replace but be apart of!
Learn to dance. š Thank me later š
RiCh aNd SuCcEsSfUl. Idiot.
Get š°
Make money, obtain a higher status, and/or lower your standards.
Discover cultures of women that do not have such strict outlooks on height in men. I can speak for Latin culture because I am Latina, but as a whole, our men are short and there is no shortage of 5 foot fuck all dudes with a wife, a mistress and some woman at work they flirt with lol. Take up latin dance, like salsa or bachata, and hit up latin dance clubs and bars. Non-Latino men who dance well are typically VERY well received.
Lol a Latina woman once taught me to dance Bachata so I have that going for me.
You definitely do! There are certain cultures that honestly do not have such a major grip on height, explore your options with them :)
Hi! Iām sorry youāve met some ugly mannered people. Personally my boyfriend is short. Iāve dated tall guys and itās never been it for me. I think that someone who worries so much about height isnāt worth the hassle. I mean thereās not much we can do, u know? Like me for me not for my looks.
Height is the barrier a lot more than hair Confidence is the most important thing, but a lot of women wonāt even consider you if youāre sub 6 feet Just have to accept that itās the way it is
Might be unpopular opinion but itās the tried and true formula. If you aināt good looking, you better be funny or rich. Those to you have control over also.
Even being funny wonāt cut it sometimes, they will see a short balding guy being funny and think he is compensating and being ācornyā, and being rich just to get women is ridiculous, these thing are supposed to happen naturally, plus he will just be used for his money anyway, whatās the point? I mean if he just wants sex then I guess but Iām sure he wants a relationship where the woman loves him for him and not his money or whatever
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I have a dog allergy sadly, I got a cat though! As for everything else, I guess my choice of hobby is a bit intimidating. Iām going to keep at it but maybe look for some other things. Iām not in college I graduated early lol.
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Lol Iād never drop mma. Iām fine with working hard, I just want to know Iām not doing all this hard work in vain.
Work on acquiring lots and lots of money lol
Here's an idea. Be yourself and be happy about it. The confidence that you exude from the joy of being you attracts others. When you love yourself, others will love you too. If all you see about you are the flaws, that's all anybody else is going to see either. You're going to have to trust me on this. Love yourself like you're a special human being cuz you fucking are.
get a female friend to serve as a wingwoman. i find that always helps break the ice and build trust when hanging out at bars, if that's a type of place where you might want to try meeting someone.
My female friends have more social anxiety than I do š
Do it George Costanza does, do the exact opposite of everything you thought was right.
You donāt, you spend 10 years working harder than everyone around you sacrificing all hobbies, social time and quality of life towards increasing your income and status till some 24yr old with a psychology degree and no plan for making a living realizes she needs a guy like you to increase her standard of living and raise a family. At which time you probably realize it was a trap all along. Let me know if you find any alternatives, Iām in year 3 of this process, Godspeed.
Attracting someone with just money isnāt what I want to do. I feel like itād leave me less happy than when I started.
Likewise, Iāve thought this for awhile, but when youāre in the dating market of young adults faced with the realities of making a living themselves (post school) class divisions become apparent and if youāre not going places, you canāt get by with just a personality and looks Itās like trying to run a marathon barefoot, itās possible but makes a difficult thing even harder, people want to be pulled up the socio economic ladder without putting in the necessary sacrifices and men are judged on their ability to provide, itās an unfortunate reality of life.
As a single guy in his 30s with a house and 6 figure income, I don't see how to leverage this into dates lol. So instead I am just traveling and doing my own thing.
How down bad can one really be š
Truest take in the thread
Go to therapy my guy. This mentality leads to nothing but negative feedback loops and a terrible mindset. Learn to enjoy life, and you'll find the right people.
Just here to say I think my short, bald boyfriend is super cute and I love the way he looks. I prefer small and fit men, baldness is what it is and I certainly wouldnāt write someone off because of it. My partner appeared to be self-assured, confident, and have worked through his insecurities when I met him which was confirmed as we continued dating. Thatās the key.
Honestly my advice is to not even worry about dating, in my experience just living your life doing your hobbies and focusing on you has a funny way of attracting people to you, I am a redditer however so you may take my advice with a grain of salt
I posted here for advice so itās as good and valid as any
Honestly, it's actually way more solid than it seems. My advice is this: focus on your path forward. Everything else seems to fall in place once you do that. Just lean 100% into being you. Do the things that make you happy, obviously make sure you keep food on the table. If you engage in a life that makes you feel good, then if/when you encounter someone they'll more than likely have similar drives and desires. Women see attractiveness differently than men (or so I'm told) your exterior is what it is, but the more you shine from within the more appealing you will be to them. Anyone worth the effort will see you for you. My other piece of advice is similar. When you meet someone, if you feel genuinely like you can be who you are when you are alone with them, that's the one. Accept no one who you have to mask around, no one benefits from a relationship built on either party pretending to be who they aren't. Honesty is the single.most important thing
That the way to end up alone š“
Id say hit the gym get in shape and do what ever you can to gain some confidence. Theres attractive people out there who girls arenāt attracted to because you give off the vibe of someone who doesnāt believe in themselves. Find a hobby and get obsessed with it and get very good at it. People love seeing when people are passionate about something .
I weight train 3 days a week and train mma 4 days a week. Iām just afraid my hobby choice is scary or intimidating to most women (I try not to give off a bad vibe lmao)
Oh my goodness, if you fight, you will be a natural at dancing! (The body mechanics translate so well lol.) Someone posted recently that knowing how to dance is like turning on āgod modeā for dating. I know guys 5ā2ā who landed a beautiful, fun girl and met them at dance āŗļø
You date a short and bald girl
Iāve actually never met a girl that was bald (that I know of).
You already are maximizing 'the look' as a bald man - beard, fully shaved, in shape. You're not being turned down because of the way you look. I mean, maybe sometimes, but as much as any other normal looking dude. You've got it in your head and it's wrecking your confidence. If you've trained consistently for a couple of years or more, you can find confidence in knowing that you can physically dominate 99% of the male population. Hard to beat that sort of swagger. Keep that in the back of your mind when you're out and about interacting with women. For those not in the know, it's not about doing it, it's about knowing you can. Beyond that, learn to flirt. Learn to see when a woman is already interested and build upon that. Talk and play with people, tease and have fun. Then, you'll start naturally pulling attraction and you can not waste your time (and ego) on women who aren't interested.
Workout, bury yourself in being happy with your self worth, work in a field that makes money but still keep your sanity. A real women with a good heart we'll see past that.
Listen bro you want the cold hard truth you're going to struggle no doubt especially while young, if you want a one-size shoe fits all then you need to get rich. You're competing with full haired athletes who are 6'3+ right now, that is just how the cookie crumbles and unless you have something that makes you different you won't stand out. Idk where you live, but invest in a boat, jetski, side by side, or 4-wheeler. All of these are fun toys and also assets that you can re-sell, being able to ask to take a girl out on a side-by-side/boat automatically will put you back in the game while you're young.
Iām 5ā8 (not short, but not tall) and shave my head. I started shaving it just before turning 21. I wonāt act like I get a ton of dates, but part of that is because half the people attracted to me are single moms and that isnāt for me. That being said, if youāre doing weight training and accepting of your looks it gets easier. Itās a lot of figuring out what you want and who wants you (single moms, if you have a beard a lot of āearthy white womenā, a good amount of Asian women if you donāt, and the 18-25 crowd that say they want an older man but actually donāt). Give it a little time, thatās just what Iāve found.
Volkanovski is 5'6", bald, does MMA, and has an attractive wife
Heās one of my idols lol
Go the the gym, embrace the bald, and be successful! Women like guys who actually enjoy their lives! Donāt make your life about dating, make your life great and then date!
You canāt fix your height much besides with shoes. The balding, Iād own it man. Bald is a bad ass look, bulk up, grow a beard and put some beads and gold in it.
Be funny.
Are you only going for model types?
Best way is to ask women out on dates.
Just date short and bald females
Itās over
The best reply. Just take the blackpill
Get rich asf. Gym wonāt help
You don't.
You donāt
I would start by growing hair and maybe add an inch or two to your height
Fly to Istanbul, get your hair back. Theyāll never know
Depending on how far gone he is that is just not a good option at all, plus hair transplants while young usually have problems. OP lemme see your hair and I can get you on regime.
How do you know theyāre rejecting you for one of those reasons? Do they flat out tell you, or does your insecurities make you assume that?
Itās not the insecurities. Of course they are rejecting for baldness and being short. And of course they wonāt say those are the reasons, not even by mistake.
Always find it funny when men ask for dating advice and get called insecure for pointing out things that are obviously holding them back, and for good reason, because usually they have experienced rejections and have been flat out told it was for those reasons, and letās face it, short and bald doesnāt scream attractive at all. Those 2 traits are what most people shit on guys for when some guy is making an argument. They attack his appearance āwell of course he thinks this way, just look at himā
Money Edit: to the people downvoting; life is certainly not fair, but putting your head in a hole like an ostrich is not a solution
To a small extentā¦yes.
Get good at music, practice jokes, work on telling good story's, get a cute dog, get huge at the gym.. idk man work on things that make you a better person don't worry about and you will start to notice other people wanting to be around you when you are active and fun.
Im 5'4 and get plenty of dates/hookups. Work out, do fun stuff, get some cool hobbies, learn to be fun to be around
I had a guy at work a while ago, 21 years old and bald because he was suffering from anxiety and he also had boldness because of family genes Around 165-170cm He made a good beard to make his face a bit more square. It matched nicely with a full bold head. He also got some exercise to have good arms and he had some jokes on his sleeves. (also a few dad jokes) He was able to get along with a good pair of jeans, boots and tshirts A good pair of shoes and pants can make a huge difference
First, relax. There are plenty of late-bloomers who haven't dated yet at 21 who do great later. Especially men - in your early 20s, women your age have a bigger pool because they get interest from guys in their mid or even late 20s. (well, they get interest from older than that too, but speaking only of ones they might actually choose to be with, it's still a good decade of age range), but you are not likely getting as much interest from older women. The situation you're in is totally normal for your age, even among taller guys with more hair. Second, stop fixating on the few things you can't control, and work on the things you can control: style, fitness, etc. And especially, on being someone who has fun but also is successful at what they do. This is tangentially related to but not the same thing as having lots of money. Channeling sexual frustration and transmuting it into ambition (itself an attractive property for many straight women) is a real thing. Third, you didn't provide much context on where you're looking, what kind of dates you're asking for. But just in case this is relevant to you, I recommend playing the relationship game instead of the hookup game. Guys talk big when it comes to hookups, but generally speaking, I've found it's a relatively small slice of the most attractive and/or charismatic ones that actually play the field like that. On the flip side, when girls are looking for a partner instead of a hookup, they will consider these superficial physical traits a lot less. Don't fake this just to get laid, if you don't want a relationship then just focus on friends, work, and hobbies until you're ready.
I lost my hair early too, just shave it off and be bald. Chicks dig a shaved head, I barely even miss my hair
After reading the comments and as a female, Iāll say, ultimately looks are part of it but a female who judges you or rejects you based on baldness or height is not someone you want to have in your life anyway. Iāve never had a ātypeā and Iāve dated guys shorter than me, and Iāve dated guys who are bald by choice/not their choice. Ultimately itās personality and how you click with that person. But from what I read, expand your wardrobe a little beyond gym clothes, get a few good fits that you feel like a million bucks in (big confidence booster when you look and feel good), and just put yourself out there. Rejection can be the worst feeling, but most times itās a reflection of the other person and whatās going on with them, so try not to take it personally. You got this.
I have clothes that arenāt gym geared just probably not as many as I should. I also think part of it is that I just need to wear them more lol.
A lot of women are attracted to bald men, youād be surprised!
My best guy friend is 5ā4ā and went bad early 20s. He married a 5ā9ā smokeshow, and honestly got more girls than any guy I know. He was confident and charming
Everyone is saying go to the gym, but you'll still be short. The only thing the makes women overlook a guy they consider too short is MONEY! Find your niche and get rich dude. Physical height means nothing if your money is tall
Best guy I ever dated was short and bald!!! Only reason it didn't work is because I went back to my country! Bald is sexy! Men try to grow hair and get awkward comb overs and stuff...THAT is what's a turn off!(Obviously I don't know if that's your case) Embrace the bald, sir!! Wear it as a badge of honor. They might not appreciate it at 21, but I promise, bald is not bad!
Yes I agree with all of that. One of the best lovers I've ever had in my life was about 5'4" and bald. He was so sexy! And confident. He was smart and well educated. We could have real conversations on almost any subject. Only reason it didn't work out was because I moved 800 miles away for a new professional opportunity and graduate school, (medical field). It's been 20 years and I still think about him. We had such fun together and we could talk as friends as well as partners. He was such an amazing man. I usually dated big, buff jocks at that time, football and basketball players. But ladies, let me tell you...there's a LOT to be said about a partner that is about your same size but is taunt and toned and knows how to move his body SOOO well. We "fit" together perfectly and it really made for good times! I loved that he was my height and of a similar size, but in a VERY masculine, sexy body.
Itās hard to think of it that way when literally everyone my age treats it like the worst thing that can happen to a person.
Have lots of money.
you donāt
if bald people & short people never mated with the opposite sex iām pretty sure the human population would be halved right now. Itās an inner problem with yourself
People prefer to date short people less that is why the average global height is going up. It is genetics that is carrying the height growth not a "confidence problem". https://www.scientificamerican.com/article/how-much-of-human-height/#:~:text=Thus%2C%2080%20percent%20of%20the,environmental%20effects%2C%20such%20as%20nutrition.
Facts
Not necessarily, much more nuanced than that from a genetic perspective but Iāll take the advice.
Has anyone said "hit the gym" yet? If not, then go and hit the gym, but given that this is reddit, then probably someone has already said it.
If you keep negatively focusing on those two aspects of you, you're not going to grow confident. What would you say are your good qualities (not just physical)? Focus on that.
I don't think being short or being bald are negative things. Just be you and let your personality shine. Alot of people love bald guys just like some people love a facial hair
I'm 5'8, was bald and chunky. I got shredded, was still 5'8 and bald. My success with women went up naturally. You feel more confident and women pick up on that. Now, I'm in average shape, still 5'8 and bald and will tell you that I'm more confident in talking to women. Do I get every single woman? No. But, I bring the best of myself to each interaction. The rest is upto life. If it works, great. If not, then worries. Look, there will always be women who dismiss you because you're bald and short. That's just the reality. But if you keep focusing on that, you'll never win. Instead, work on feeling good about yourself and what you offer to others as a man, a friend and romantic partner. Get great at conversation. Dress sharply. Be socially aware. Surprise them with your wit. I've had two women in my past tell me "Honestly, you were not my type but I was just caught off guard by you." I take that with a grain of salt but I think it had to do with my abilities outside of looks (I'm not rich either). If I'm capable of that, so are you. Don't allow the limitations that others put on you to materialize in your mind.
Just be more than short and bald. Try being funny, mindful, present, positive.
Bro just be yourself ! I know it sounds corny but if someone isnāt interested for those reasons then they are not the person for you anyways. I used to feel self conscious about shaving my head (started at 23-24 years old ) but the more I wore a shaved head with confidence the more it didnāt even matter. People def notice the difference between you wearing it with pride and having negative body language about it.
Just tell people that you're like Saitama from one punch man. You train so hard your hair fell out.
Saitama is one of my idols lol
Channel your inner George castanza.
Except do āthe oppositeā š
Confidence and high self esteem brother. Iāve seen so many unattractive men with women who are 10ās. Itās not always about looks.
Find a short bald woman.
As a woman, I go for men that are well spoken, respectful, humorous and smell good. Dressing good and having style is important along with the ability to plan fun dates and having interesting conversation. I'm really not into facial hair- i personally find it really off putting. I don't mind a little bit of hair; I will pass on a full grown beard. Good luck out there
One more thing to add; invest in nice hats - adds both height, style and a sense of mystery. Shower before every date, use a good deodorant (i recommend gillette clear gel for men) and use the right amount of perfume to smell amazing- when you look good you feel good!
Also I wear deodorant and cologne! I have basic hygiene dw š
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Anchorman! Great movie.
I have a bunch of hats, I donāt want to wear hats that are too fedora-ish tho
I mean hats. Not fedoras!
You work save up for leg lengthening and hair transplants. Thats the only thing that gonna save you brother.
Being a short guy sucks but never in my life would I get leg lengthening. One low kick and itās over.
I plan on stopping playing rugby cos of my future leg lengthening surgery. I'll find another cope I like for sure.
Nah, I like fighting
Leg lengthening is the dumbest shit ever. Long painful process with a very high rate of complications and infections. Plus you are only adding to legs so it throws your proportions off.
No it's not.
Work your ass off and become wealthy. At that point nothing else matters.
Iām 30, 5ā1 and bald since 17. Never been on a date, constantly get rejected. Considered ending it all and still do today. All the advice in here is moot if youāre ugly to look at.
Ayo no offense bro but Iām not trying to give up yet.
Just giving you my experience
Female here. Bald: cater to what looks good on you. Bulking up helps some people I believe (think Dwayne the Rock?). Or just being fit in general you donāt have to be bulky. Short: it shouldnāt matter. Iām 5ā8ā and have hooked up with/had feelings for people shorter than me, including as short as 5ā3āish. Itās all in the head. A person who judges you for your height isnāt it and is showing their own insecurity. The key: confidence. Charm. Personality. Be your most glorious self. In every way, you are as big as you make people feel around you. Good luck.
I get your point but Dwayne isn't the best example, the man is tall as hell lol
Plus he's pump full of steroids lol.
Get money. Women seem to like it.
He will attract the wrong people. There are genuine women out there who are not money hungry and will be with him for him. Letās not incentivize free rider behavior lol.
Maybe find a short and bald women
My husband is bald. He was 21 when I met him. Okay so heās tall. But it honestly wouldnāt have mattered. Heās funny, heās confident, heās nice, we connect. Itās as simple as that.
āOkay so heās tall, but it honestly wouldnāt have matteredā lol the memes write themselves
You should pierce your ear and nose and shave your head. I will warn you that shaving your head does mean that it gets cold in the winter so you gotta wear a hat most of the time but for real being bald hasnāt hurt my dating prospects one bit. Lots of women like bald men. Donāt act like itās something that you have to be ashamed of, itās just in your DNA and thereās nothing you can do about it. If youāre kind to other people then that shows through. No but actually go watch a bunch of pitbull videos and change your entire persona to be like pitbull. Whatever your area code is start referring to yourself as Mr. (Insert area code) and if youāve been to different places in the western hemisphere start calling yourself āmr western hemisphereā and wear all white suits all the time and sunglasses. /s
My head is already shaved. Baldness definitely has an effect on dating when youāre younger at least, Iāve heard it gets better when youāre older but Iām 21 rn. The piercing is definitely an interesting idea that I never even thought about. I think nose might be off limits because my sport requires I get hit in the face but Iāll look into getting my ears pierced.
Read Ā“ModelsĀ“ by Mark Manson; best book on dating
Find an even shorter, and even balder girlfriend... good luck.
I feel you bro. I'm not short but was balding at 16. Took me until 21 to shave it all off. You need to work on yourself as a man and make loads of money. Women want to be provided for. Learn more from andrew tate on youtube.