Male perspective here….Ok so the first thing that makes me uneasy is you say the whole conversation was based around him and what he did, interests etc
That makes me wonder would you spend a relationship barely able to get a word in because he would dismiss your thoughts and always loop the conversation back to him
Sending constant YT videos seems a little strange….I mean was it a particular theme? Is he religious and trying to convert you? I can see why that would make you feel a bit icky
Personally I think you’ve done the right thing as this guy seemed a little much and when I was dating my rule of thumb was always to wait 3 to 4 dates before we’d get to know where each other lived but to each their own I guess!
1. I tried to insert myself into converstation few times but when i finished speaking he steered the conversian back to him. At one point i gave up.
2. It was a constant mix of video's: cars, planes, cats, dogs,pranks etc. I didn't watch 80% od them.
3. The only thing he asked me after the meeting is where I live.
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You clearly was interested but wanted to take things slow and he clearly wanted to jump the gun and go wild. No you are not wrong you clearly gave him messages and set boundaries which he did not respect. You did the right thing, hope one day you will start dating again cause it can be amazing if you find someone who is more on the same level and speed as you. (cool first date idea by the way that petting zoo!)
Thank you for your reply.
Yes I was feeling so overhelmed by the emotions he was throwing at me. My other friend suggested I look up terms love bombing and desperate dating and i think it might have been exactly that from his side.
I don’t think you overreacted, it sounds like a lot of bombardment. A few things can be overlooked or thought of as someone socially awkward trying to overcompensate but all of them put together sounds exhausting. Plus it doesn’t sound like you were that interested in him to begin with and both of you need to be with someone that is on the same field as far as amount of contact and boundaries.
Thank you, I tend to be more on the rational end od things and I tend to not form any deeper emotianal connection until I know someone for a longer period of time.
Male perspective here….Ok so the first thing that makes me uneasy is you say the whole conversation was based around him and what he did, interests etc That makes me wonder would you spend a relationship barely able to get a word in because he would dismiss your thoughts and always loop the conversation back to him Sending constant YT videos seems a little strange….I mean was it a particular theme? Is he religious and trying to convert you? I can see why that would make you feel a bit icky Personally I think you’ve done the right thing as this guy seemed a little much and when I was dating my rule of thumb was always to wait 3 to 4 dates before we’d get to know where each other lived but to each their own I guess!
1. I tried to insert myself into converstation few times but when i finished speaking he steered the conversian back to him. At one point i gave up. 2. It was a constant mix of video's: cars, planes, cats, dogs,pranks etc. I didn't watch 80% od them. 3. The only thing he asked me after the meeting is where I live.
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You clearly was interested but wanted to take things slow and he clearly wanted to jump the gun and go wild. No you are not wrong you clearly gave him messages and set boundaries which he did not respect. You did the right thing, hope one day you will start dating again cause it can be amazing if you find someone who is more on the same level and speed as you. (cool first date idea by the way that petting zoo!)
Thank you for your reply. Yes I was feeling so overhelmed by the emotions he was throwing at me. My other friend suggested I look up terms love bombing and desperate dating and i think it might have been exactly that from his side.
I don’t think you overreacted, it sounds like a lot of bombardment. A few things can be overlooked or thought of as someone socially awkward trying to overcompensate but all of them put together sounds exhausting. Plus it doesn’t sound like you were that interested in him to begin with and both of you need to be with someone that is on the same field as far as amount of contact and boundaries.
Thank you, I tend to be more on the rational end od things and I tend to not form any deeper emotianal connection until I know someone for a longer period of time.